Comments on: The Essence: Female Swagger … How to attract a Man

By: El ya

El ya — Sat, 06 Jun 2009 01:21:38 +0000

I agree with The Come Back Girl. Seems that the more arrogant one is, the more likely they actually have an inferiority complex deep down under all that.

In several people I have come across, the fine line that seems to stand between true essence and arrogance lies in humility – being self assured enough in oneself that there is no need to be overly arrogant about it.

To me it appears the more a man or woman feels the need to show you how good they are, the less likely their substance matches up to the act.

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By: Torrey

Torrey — Sun, 18 Jan 2009 22:48:41 +0000

SO SO true and well stated. True swagger is not arrogance at all. Arrogance is anti-swagg and plain ugly. Great article! Thanks.

By: hizcand3

hizcand3 — Fri, 05 Dec 2008 20:59:00 +0000

Love the article and comments but one tends to forget most of us “women” are simply tired of being approached by the typical “man”. We want a man that will give us a reason to show intrest in him. As a woman with Swagg, I know I attract men on many levels. The question is how does one continue to hold his interest once attention is given? Sex? Too much, too little attention! One in the same. As a New Yorker, everyone pocess some sort of swagg (even our children) but I’d rather know the way to my Nubian King’s heart and soul!

By: Tom

Tom — Mon, 21 Jul 2008 23:55:43 +0000

Wow.. What a great topic!.. i’m definately coming back for more

By: The Come Back Girl

The Come Back Girl — Wed, 19 Dec 2007 16:35:25 +0000

Good Comment Mikki

@ the essence,

I don’t know if I have THE “essence”. But I on the other hand, don’t think I’m arrogant either. I think that behind arrogance is an insecurity that all women have on some level and the more insecure, the more arrogant-the more hurt, the more wounded.

my 2 cents

By: MIKKI

MIKKI — Tue, 18 Dec 2007 22:45:49 +0000

I think there is a fine line between showing an interest and being aggressive, Men like a chase as much as they attempt to push that fact under a rug it will always be the case.Men do like aggressiveness but the question is HOW aggressive. I agree with Lurker about a woman being a challenge, but as the man chases pursues and conquers (depending on how long it takes) he is less likely to leave a woman he has invested so much time and hard work for.

By: SBM

SBM — Tue, 18 Dec 2007 20:15:21 +0000

Lurker, thats not really true about girls showing their interest. A significant turn off for me is someone who won’t show interest. I end up assuming your arrogant and think your the sh*t. When thats the case, time for me to move on.

Most, if not all, of the major players in my life have been willing to call me if they wanted to talk. No need for games.

By: Lurker

Lurker — Tue, 18 Dec 2007 18:59:01 +0000

Lol @ antidater. Yes, most men love a challenge but once you are no longer challenging (i,e a woman shoes her interest) he moves on to bigger challenges.

To me, the most attractive thing about a man is his swagger. This comes even before his looks (Jay Z) and his money (Tyrone from next door who aint got $2 to his name right now). As long as a man has that confidence, he will always get a woman.

As for me, I’ve got essence but still looking for that swagger to match my essence
Good post SBM.