Comments on: 10 Questions to Ask Before Proposing http://www.singleblackmale.org/2008/02/13/10-questions-to-ask-before-proposing/ The Source For Black Male Perspective Fri, 10 Feb 2012 05:55:41 +0000 hourly 1 By: NaijaSweetzhttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2008/02/13/10-questions-to-ask-before-proposing/#comment-144281 NaijaSweetz Sat, 13 Nov 2010 01:40:31 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/2008/02/13/10-questions-to-ask-before-proposing/#comment-144281 lol. This is the first time that I'm seeing men who are adamant about knowing that magic number. I've always been of the opinion that full disclosure is important if either partner requires it. To be honest, I think it's fair for the question to be asked even before a serious relationship is established. If x believes that sex is not something that should be engaged in ever so flippantly, then the fact that y has been with 15 people in 2 years is an indication that they do not share the same principles (on that level, at least). If it's something that x considers crucial, then x deserves to know. However, considering the double standards that are consistently at play, I can't blame women for giving men the side-eye when they make a fuss about numbers. Truth be told, a lot of the more judgmental ones are male garden tools. lol. This is the first time that I'm seeing men who are adamant about knowing that magic number. I've always been of the opinion that full disclosure is important if either partner requires it. To be honest, I think it's fair for the question to be asked even before a serious relationship is established. If x believes that sex is not something that should be engaged in ever so flippantly, then the fact that y has been with 15 people in 2 years is an indication that they do not share the same principles (on that level, at least). If it's something that x considers crucial, then x deserves to know. However, considering the double standards that are consistently at play, I can't blame women for giving men the side-eye when they make a fuss about numbers. Truth be told, a lot of the more judgmental ones are male garden tools.

]]> By: The Magic Ratio at Single Black Malehttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2008/02/13/10-questions-to-ask-before-proposing/#comment-21061 The Magic Ratio at Single Black Male Mon, 10 Nov 2008 15:59:21 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/2008/02/13/10-questions-to-ask-before-proposing/#comment-21061 [...] the “ho status” of a woman … I talked about the number.  When it came to what you need to know before proposing … I talked about the [...] [...] the “ho status” of a woman … I talked about the number.  When it came to what you need to know before proposing … I talked about the [...]

]]> By: Single Black Male » Rantings of a Single Black Malehttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2008/02/13/10-questions-to-ask-before-proposing/#comment-1744 Single Black Male » Rantings of a Single Black Male Fri, 02 May 2008 09:31:46 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/2008/02/13/10-questions-to-ask-before-proposing/#comment-1744 [...] Someone mentioned its good I got a bike while I am young, because no woman is going to marry me and let me keep my motorcycle. Hmmmm … let me keep it. At the time I agreed … but really … would I be willing to give up something I love (at least for now) so much in order to appease her? Is this a question I should add to my list of things I need to know before I propose? [...] [...] Someone mentioned its good I got a bike while I am young, because no woman is going to marry me and let me keep my motorcycle. Hmmmm … let me keep it. At the time I agreed … but really … would I be willing to give up something I love (at least for now) so much in order to appease her? Is this a question I should add to my list of things I need to know before I propose? [...]

]]> By: YoungBelizeanLadyhttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2008/02/13/10-questions-to-ask-before-proposing/#comment-361 YoungBelizeanLady Mon, 18 Feb 2008 01:51:07 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/2008/02/13/10-questions-to-ask-before-proposing/#comment-361 I got one more to add, Have you ever been married, if yes, is the divorce finale. My older sister just dealt with this issue...Outcome wasn't pretty. I got one more to add, Have you ever been married, if yes, is the divorce finale.

My older sister just dealt with this issue…Outcome wasn't pretty.

]]> By: Sheliahttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2008/02/13/10-questions-to-ask-before-proposing/#comment-360 Shelia Sat, 16 Feb 2008 23:50:02 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/2008/02/13/10-questions-to-ask-before-proposing/#comment-360 I think this is a topic that clearly men and women differ on. Like I said in an earlier post, I don't want to know how many my man has slept with because I would probably lose respect for him but I do want to know whether or not he's had an STD and is currently disease free. I think this is a topic that clearly men and women differ on. Like I said in an earlier post, I don't want to know how many my man has slept with because I would probably lose respect for him but I do want to know whether or not he's had an STD and is currently disease free.

]]> By: Mikkihttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2008/02/13/10-questions-to-ask-before-proposing/#comment-359 Mikki Sat, 16 Feb 2008 23:44:53 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/2008/02/13/10-questions-to-ask-before-proposing/#comment-359 @ Tiff I am here to support you lol, I really am amazed how they are not understanding here but damn you win some and lose a lot maybe its the age lol. @ Tiff I am here to support you lol, I really am amazed how they are not understanding here but damn you win some and lose a lot maybe its the age lol.

]]> By: antidaterhttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2008/02/13/10-questions-to-ask-before-proposing/#comment-358 antidater Sat, 16 Feb 2008 13:20:07 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/2008/02/13/10-questions-to-ask-before-proposing/#comment-358 There it is. Can't turn a ho into a housewife, 'cause hos don't act right. There it is. Can't turn a ho into a housewife, 'cause hos don't act right.

]]> By: SBMhttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2008/02/13/10-questions-to-ask-before-proposing/#comment-357 SBM Sat, 16 Feb 2008 03:35:59 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/2008/02/13/10-questions-to-ask-before-proposing/#comment-357 @Tiffany: Yes, there is a number that is too high for even me to accept. I met a girl who was currently sleeping with men for money in order to support her boyfriend (she was tricking). Before that she was doing like 70 a year, just for fun. Her number's were too high for me to marry. But honestly, it has to be a strictly hoeish number. I have a problem with someone just feeling I don't deserve to know. If you love me, trust me to be able to handle the answer to the question I asked! @Tiffany: Yes, there is a number that is too high for even me to accept. I met a girl who was currently sleeping with men for money in order to support her boyfriend (she was tricking). Before that she was doing like 70 a year, just for fun.

Her number's were too high for me to marry.

But honestly, it has to be a strictly hoeish number. I have a problem with someone just feeling I don't deserve to know. If you love me, trust me to be able to handle the answer to the question I asked!

]]> By: Tiffany in Houstonhttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2008/02/13/10-questions-to-ask-before-proposing/#comment-356 Tiffany in Houston Sat, 16 Feb 2008 01:55:37 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/2008/02/13/10-questions-to-ask-before-proposing/#comment-356 SBM: And you still didn't answer my question from above: If her magic number was too high (in your viewpoint) would you bounce? SBM: And you still didn't answer my question from above: If her magic number was too high (in your viewpoint) would you bounce?

]]> By: Tiffany in Houstonhttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2008/02/13/10-questions-to-ask-before-proposing/#comment-355 Tiffany in Houston Sat, 16 Feb 2008 01:51:49 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/2008/02/13/10-questions-to-ask-before-proposing/#comment-355 We are going to have to agree to disagree because at this point we are belaboring the issue. My principle is is just that: MY principle. You ask me a question like that and I am not telling. I'm not going to ask a question like that either. Because I don't share, doesn't make me a 'garden tool' either (I know you are wondering...LMAO!!!). I'm shaped by my experiences just like you are shaped by yours. I'm not understanding why you have to put it in quotes. Every individual is guided (I hope) by individual principles and ethics. Because you don't understand or you may disagree doesn't make my stance wrong at all, just different. I don't need to be set free because I'm not in bondage. I just don't agree with ya'll and that's cool with me. It don't seem like it's cool with you and Anti..LOL!! We are going to have to agree to disagree because at this point we are belaboring the issue. My principle is is just that: MY principle. You ask me a question like that and I am not telling. I'm not going to ask a question like that either. Because I don't share, doesn't make me a 'garden tool' either (I know you are wondering…LMAO!!!). I'm shaped by my experiences just like you are shaped by yours.

I'm not understanding why you have to put it in quotes. Every individual is guided (I hope) by individual principles and ethics. Because you don't understand or you may disagree doesn't make my stance wrong at all, just different. I don't need to be set free because I'm not in bondage. I just don't agree with ya'll and that's cool with me. It don't seem like it's cool with you and Anti..LOL!!

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