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A lot of women like to say “I’m a player” or “I’m treating these guys just like they treat us”. They come to this conclusion because they sleep with a bunch of guys and feel like they don’t get emotionally attached and are just using these people for d*ck. They claim they “control their sexuality” and identify with Samantha of “Sex and The City” (yes … I do like and I watched the show) … but sadly … 95% of them are mistaken. To that mistaken majority … listen to me now:
YOU ARE A HO!
I’m just tired of these girls who are really promiscuous and loose thinking they are doing something special. Your not! Just because your capable of sleeping with a lot guys does not make you special. Some call it a double standard (because a guy who can sleep with a lot of women may very well be a player) … and it may be … but then again life is filled with double standards. Fresh manicures are necessary for men. Short hair looks better on guys. Paying on the first date is almost a requirement for males. Accept them.
To be a female player, there are certain requirements to be called a female player. Here is a small list of criteria defining the “Female Player”:
You have a solid “team” of highly desirable men
You can’t be a player if you only have one guy. And you can’t be a player if your guys are all the people nobody wants. Any women who considers herself a player, needs to have at her disposal a group of men that genuinely want her, show it, and she is not just sleeping with. You can sleep with people on the team … I’m not saying that … but if they’re staying around because of sex (as a woman … its almost impossible for you to know this) … then your not a player (and you might be a hoe in his eyes) … but if its not the case … you might be a player.
You don’t have to sleep with a guy to get dinner, dates, and attention
Its easy to get sex from a guy. Often times we’ll sleep with anyone as long as their willing. Having money spent on you is significantly harder, but still not that hard. A lot of guys, especially simps, are quick to spend money. When you get a combination of time & money, thats significant. Time being the key thing … as guys, we’re stingy with it … so to get a lot of time without giving sex for a prolonged period of time (2+ months) from several people … you might just be a player.
Your guys stay “in the game” for long periods of time (3+ months)
I personally suffer from Relationship ADD and am quick to lose interest. I know this happens with plenty of other males … so if you find that the people you are “entertaining” stay around for extended periods of time (without sex … cause sex will keep me around for ages) … then you might be a player.
Your guys say they love you and show it
“We don’t love them hoes” … a famous quote by Snoop Doggy Dogg and a general law of the land for men. If your a hoe or thought of as a hoe … then he should not and probably will not show you real love. If your people truly love you … you might be a player.
Your guys get mad and upset at you
Hoes and jumpoffs are not worth getting upset over. We might be mad that the “free p*ssy” is over, but general we’re not going to expend that type of energy over a “second class citizen”. If the people on your team express hurt, caring, anger, disappointment, and other emotions his friend will clown him for … you might be a player.
I hope this was useful to the women out there … because this one is to you. I’m just tired of hos thinking their special (and not all women are hoes … I’m specifically talking to the hos) because the title of player is not easily earned.
Just to argue the other point … there are plenty of guys thinking they are players (many of them simps in reality) … and I will touch on that subject shortly.
I look forward to reading the comments from this post…lol
I don't believe in double standards–if the man is sleeping around with anything that opens her legs–he's a ho.
I agree with this statement- You don’t have to sleep with a guy to get dinner, dates, and attention.
I'd like to know who all these women are: "A lot of women like to say “I’m a player” or “I’m treating these guys just like they treat us”." PARTICULARLY those who are sleeping with their gentlemen callers. I think the above can ONLY be perfected when you have REMOVED sex (as you describe above).
It really takes a hoe to know one (piggy backing off of Shelia's sentiment). Are you suggesting that a man can't be a hoe when he sleeps with multiple women for free azz? What does that say about him ALONG with the women he sleeps with?
To me a woman at some point in her life (SHOULD DATE LIKE A MAN) minus the sex. Since sex clouds judgement. To me being well mated is a numbers game. And you can only win if you "play".
Men aren't hos, we "sow our wild oats".
Please respect my double standards and I will respect yours.
@Sheila: I foresee a lot of "I'm a player" or "I'm not a hoe" or "I'm like Lil Kim" comments … but what do I know. Yes, a man can who sleeps around is a ho also, its just that ho for a man means a completely different thing and just isn't as much as a negative.
@Comeback: You would be surprised. Its not a majority, but there are a lot of girls thinking their "mastering their sexuality". I'm glad that we have managed to agree on something else (sex must be removed for the title). I will say that this dedicationg to "playing the game" and the importance you place on numbers is a bit disheartening. Hopefully it'll work out for you.
The Comeback Girl, I agree. A woman should be able to date as much as she wants (SBM…that does not mean she is sleeping with all the men she dates.)
Antidater it's kind of hard to respect a ho whether it be a male or female.
SBM, I disagree. In my opinion a male ho is just as bad as a female ho. Of course you being male you're going to think differently on that.
Shameless plug here, but the way SOME men think on the issue of multiple dating is the main reason why I wrote my book Paige's Web. To show that a woman can date multiple men without having sex and she is not a HO. She has options until she decides to make a committment.
no they are not but to some males they are
@Antidater: Naw man … your still a ho. Its just not as bad.
@ Sheila: I don't think a woman who dates like a man and doesn't sleep with people is a ho. You have to be sleeping around to be a ho … end of story. But I do think just the fact that for most men to be a ho, they actually have to work for it. A woman gets offered d*ck 50-60 times a day everytime a guy says hi to her … for a man … if you get 2 offers in a day … thats impressive! That extra effort is one (but not the only) of the key differing factors in a man ho and a ho.
@RawDawg: Yeah … the simps.
"Play to Win" is a part of the lottery's slogan. Its a law of averages it works for investing, looking for and buying a house, finding the cutest pair of shoes, etc, so why wouldn't it work with finding someone to settle down with. It makes perfect sense to me, if not more for dating.
@CBG: The "law of averages" is a psuedo-law (I prefer the term: mean reversion). The House always wins.
@Comeback: Play to win. Lottery and Dating. Sad to say … but thats a very warped outlook on love & dating … and this is coming from a guy.
@Anti: You can beat the system. But I agree … you can't just hedge all your bets and expect to win.
@Comeback: Play to win. Lottery and Dating. Sad to say … but thats a very warped outlook on love & dating … and this is coming from a guy.
What the hell are you talking about. You have over simplified ONCE AGAIN. The point is similiar to dollar cost averaging. MEANING (read very carefully) its all a numbers game. Sometimes you win BIG and other times you lose BIG, but your gains OVER time should make up for your losses. If out of all I said, the lottery point bugs you, then lets just look at it from an investment standpoint. DAMN. Same general rule applies.
@SBM: Right…sometimes you just have to go "all in".
are we talking about money, investing, lottery or hoes???? Im confused….
Seriously I think men are starting to get there feelings hurt when they realize two can play at that game. Sure it doesn't sound as liberating as it would coming from a males perspective but in a womans world its the new in thing to do, Now I dunno about "sleeping around" so much being a hoe but I mean sex without feelings is whats hot right nah u can have 5 dudes on roll call sleep with 1 maybe 2 and let the rest simp you is she then still a hoe??? or a player?
did someone call for a simp?! Im here!
lol hasani are you a real life simp? or was that a joke, cuz i could use an extra simp on my team for back-up then my fav five will be complete!! muwahahaaaaaa
Im actually a real life simp this is why I need to converse with my brothers in arms on this message board! workin my way past it. the girl I am a simp for dumped me this weekend by the way SBM. you told me to dump her, I said NO, and she gave me the "its not you… its me" line then asked could I still be her strong shoulder. Now 6 months, I havent gotten past 1st base I pay for EVERY dinner , lounge and club we go to…. yeah SHES a player. cuz i am very interested.. yes still….. shes high quality sista.
@ SBM I love this post!! I preach the same thing to women I know that say this bullish! You are NEVER a player if you are giving up the goods. As for men being players, if they are tricking(spending money) on these women then they aren't players either.
Recently, I had a guy who fell along these lines. 'Your guys get mad and upset at you.' Another guy explained to me that since he had been around for 5+ months, that he had to right to be upset. However this guy always was crying about me coming to his house to hang out, especially after 10pm during the week.( As though I am not busy). So he snapped, I deleted his number and so ends the story. I might post the actual story on your 'need advice' section and see what your response is. That will be a great read!
Anyway I like this post and I think you are accurate. Women don't give up the 'cookie' and men don't spend cash and you might fall in the player group, if you have a winning team.
wait.. shouldnt we be telling everyone to eb nice to eachother insted of heartless and self centered? why are all of you sounding like your from NYC/North jerz insted of me?
We should all be NICE to eachother….. but burst the bubble of chicks who want to THINK they are playettes.
Ms Dev. post the story post the story. that way we have proof of how sinister the black woman is now-a-days and its no longer us men… add logs to my pyre please oh please
Hasani, sorry you got dumped first, but move on…find someone else…she's not the one…don't allow her to continue to "simp" you.
@Comeback: Investment, lottery, whatever … still seems warped to me. Generally when people talk about love being a numbers game they refer to hitting on everything that breathes, and assuming that at some point something will work out. In your case, it seems like it would manifest itself in a lack of managomy and always having "options".
@Anti: Its funny that we as the guys are saying this … at least it is to me.
@Mikki: Almost no guy is really catching feelings when you "f*ck him and leave him". Even if he really liked you, he'll probably say to his friends "at least I got the p*ssy" and shrug his shoulders. Its damn near impossible ot hurt us by giving us sex … but keep trying … maybe you'll be the one.
@Hasani: You have got to stop being happy to be a simp. Its like being a crack addict and being proud of it … actually … I think the crack addict might have it better off.
@Ms. Devereaux: Thank you for understanding the game. Its sounds like you have validly earned the title in your own right, but I could gather that from a couple of your posts. The simp who thinks he is a playa is a whole nother beast in of itself.
@Sheila: I completely agree. No one should be anyone's simp … there is someone out there who will actually like you and want to be with you.
Im not happy bein a simp…. dont get it twisted little brotha. Im just a realist and have just realized what i am and the situation i was in and usually am in. But like i said before in the "say goodbye to mr nice guy" post, I am slowly being corrupted and turning to the dark side. the longer i am out here the more and more I see bein a bad guy is more effective and the more I am seeing… hey wait, I can date you not call you and also go out and date and sleep with these two other chicks …… because I CAN. one extreme to the next, simp to pimp. my arch enemy will and is the female playette. (which are rare in the 30's anyway)
Where the hell was I when this post hit the presses…would have saved a lot of arguments from happening.
So get this! Im thot of as a player n there r gurls on my team that show me lots of attentin in public if i want them too. However, gurl i rilly like is also a player with a bunch of simps on her team. Wen she acts like a player I tell her 2 eff off n then I party the shit outta lots of gurls in the club makin sure i get more attention than her. Problem is i wanna get with this gurl n she seams 2 like me or she wuldnt be poppin bak in muh life regularly. I aint gunna b a boi on her team n i make the bois on her team look like bitches. is there like a hadbook 2 help 2 playrs get 2gethr?
what about those female players who don't realize they're "playing" but have a pattern of dumping guys (that she hasn't slept with) because they cease to amuse her? Is being a player a conscious decision or do some females just have IT?
My random thoughts…
Personally everyone is entitled to their own opinion. But if you're doing your thing as a female and at the end you don't feel ashame or remorseful. Then all power to you. It's when you do it for the wrong reasons, like trying to get back at the dude that hurt you previously so you want to make all the men you meat pay for it. But to be young, hot, and have going on. Why not have a little fun? The most important thing in all of this is to completely honest and if they're still there after you done told what's up, you're a female player. As for me. My main rule is never let a man know that you will always be there or that he's the only one for you. They'll take it and run with it.
I never considered that to be a double standard, if a guy sleeps around with a lot of women it doesn't mean he's not a ho. We may not call him a ho, but we don't give him praise either. For instance, guys also have to sleep with desirable women to be considered a player. If a guy sleeps around with a lot of "tore-up" looking girls other guys would just laugh at him. I'm sure if you knew a guy that sleeps with a lot a fat girls you wouldn't dubb him a player. Also most guys will not brag or mention a "tore-up" looking girl they have slept with to their friends out of shame or fear of ridicule. So the standard applies to guys too…. keep up the the good work SBM
hahah you have defined me. congratulations!
ive been in like 4528572 relationships, none longer than 4 months. and im a virgin!!! even i couldnt say what it was about me…
but you just did! ha !!
Lisa,
Dont delude yourself into believing that youre a playa (or a playette from the female perspective). There are a lot of virgins hoes out there because even though they arent spreading their legs, virgins are WIDELY known to give the most head without actual vaginal penetration.
Furthermore, youre probably looking for a simp who you can call at your beckon and will string along for months without ever giving up the goods. The simp will also never challenge your authority which is why you will NEVER find a real man.
Kenni: "female players who don’t realize they’re “playing” but have a pattern of dumping guys (that she hasn’t slept with) because they cease to amuse her? Is being a player a conscious decision or do some females just have IT?"
I never ever considered myself a player. A girl easily bored and with commitment issues maybe. ha ha. But never a player until someone brought it to my attention that I am. And even then I always denied it til recently.
So to answer that question. It goes both ways. A female can pursue that title if she wants….but to some it just comes naturally.
I always have about 4 guys that I talk to at a time. Not have sex. Talk to. When I get tired of one. I drop him. And I find another that peaks my interest. I was never really conscious of what I was doing til my friend pointed it out to me.
I'm NOT CLAIMING that I've NEVER had sex with any of the men that I talk/ed to. But putting together the statistics of those I talked to without having sex and those that I have. I've ONLY talked to the majority.
Would I consider myself a ho? No. I'm not having sex with multiple guys per month. That to me is just a no no for both sexes. I'm not just giving myself up like that.
I do, however, consider myself a player. After stepping back and evaluating myself. Am I proud of that title? No. Am I trying to change? Yes. Its very stressful dealing with men's emotional attachments. But to tell you the truth its pretty damn hard to stop. I'm so use to getting the guys I want and seeing a guy and getting him hooked so easily. Its fun. Not an innocent, good fun I'll admit. But its a little addicting.
I have gotten better at controlling myself around men when it comes to flirting…numbers…etc. I've knocked 4 at a time to 2-3. I'm going to get it to 1 eventually. lol. It'll take time.
Okay so I had 7 men at one time. I only slept with one of them though it was toward the end of it all. I have been called a player and a ho before. I dated them all for about 5 months. I like the distinction but here is my question. if two of them knew about the others and were okay with it (not upset) and the other 5 didn't know about the rest. Does that mean I was a hoe to two and a player to the other five or how does that work? and is seven attractive qualify as a team of highly desirable men? in case it matters the one I slept with did not know about the others until the end then he was quite hurt. honestly I have thought about it before but (maybe its the blonde in me) I have never really figured if I was a player though I know I'm not a hoe since I don't sleep around. if somebody could clarify that it would be great.
@another sicilian chick
When you said you had 7 men at one time, I thought you meant you were engaged in s*xual activity with 7 men at one time. I had to read the comment a couple times to get the context.lol. I guess whether you were a player depends on what selfish benefits you received from these men despite the fact 6 of them were not hittin that thang. I just don't understand why you would want to juggle that many men at one time.
Well I have a taste for variety. I simply love men. I love the thrill and the chase. I rarely find the total package. In the mean time,I see nothing wrong with fun. I generally date men in a series of two's or threes. I can even go for just being single and content. I see nothing wrong with casual dating multiple partners. Women are just late bloomers in the playing field. Multiple dates forces the strongest man to step up to the plate.
I'm uber late, but this is a great list. I agree, to be a female player, sex needn't be in the equation…not with every dude at least. Cuz then you just look a bit loosey goosey. But then again, to each her own.
MEN WHO SLEEP AROUND ARE WHORES TOO. THIS DOUBLE STANDARD IS NOT TO BE ACCEPTED EITHER. THE WRITER OF THE COLUMN IS AN IDIOT!
I was a player. I'd string along men that were interested in me, but most never made it past getting me to bed. I'd make sure it never happen if I couldn't see myself with them like that. Besides, sometimes it's not because I'm trying to "play", they just won't leave me alone!
Times are changing. Men who are players want to sleep or win as many women as possible, but they are enjoying it because they think women would get attached, they enjoy that feeling they are in control. When there are women who can have sex with them and no emotions, they do not like it anymore, it is not fun anymore. Women who sleep with men with no emotions are whores, and men are studs.
Down with the double standards.
If someone does not need someone to provide for them, and be dependent on them, that someone can decide what to do by themselves, be it a man, or a woman. The rest are moral norms that change with time.
haha , playettes are cruel ssometimes arent they?
playette vs hoe….there was this topic that was also good , seen from the female point of view.
http://stopbuggingme.wordpress.com/2009/12/17/bei…
LOL @ you can't be a player if all the men are throw-aways….men nobody else wants. I feel you on this. When you have several highly desirable men after you, spending on you, wanting to always be around you and you're not sleeping with them then you have it going on.
Double Standards are NEVER acceptable under any circumstance. It's NOT OK for a Man or a Woman to be a so called "player". The writer of this article makes a few good points, but also needs to hold men ACCOUNTABLE for their actions as well. Do us a favor and address this article to ALL people and not just women. Men need to get themselves together and stop being the worlds dumbest WHORES.
well imma player!!! and im prooooooud of it
So what if we want guys for just sex lol? Why should we be sluts and whores? If a woman admits to being a little 'friendly', enjoys it, and finds absolutely no shame in finding ways to fulfill her needs, then whats wrong with it? Personally, that kind of honesty and self acceptance from anyone will always be far more 'classy' in my eyes than anything else.
I hate female players. They cheat and act like such sluts. I went out with one in high school. She was a virgin and I believe it. Why would she do something a guy wanted to do. She dervied her pleasure from making lots of men want her and do things for her, she put on a facade of niceness and warmness and constant flirtiness but was cold and cruel on the inside. A lot more of a ho than many of the girls who were already having sex Yeah obviously a lot of men treat women like crap but I'm not one of them. Men have feelings too and are human. Often someday the female player finds themselves alone and wishing they had treated one of those "simps" whos finally over her crap better
I'm an independent person, but there are 4 guys that say they love me and I guess think we have something. They do get upset. I don't have sex with them. They always want to hang out, always calling me and they're always buying stuff for me. Does that mean I'm a player ? -_-
You're fifteen, aren't you.
Seems like whom ever is the founder of this blog has been hurt quite a few times. LOL
you're a dick, you sexist dick
double standards are shit
fuck off
yeah thats basically true. I kno alot of females who say they playing niggaz, but all they doing is playing ball tag with nutsacks. my thing is if a female is official she dosent have to give up no sex, the dude will stick around just to be in her prescence if she is really worth it.
HMMMM… Well I guess I am a true FEMALE PLAYER.. I have both MEN and WOMEN who have expressed their undying LOVE for me all at the same time. I'm talking from 8 months of knowing me to 6 years now and they are ALL (but ONE) still in my life.
I mean I got love for them all and most of them know they ain't my only one! Yeah I'm bisexual, and yeah I call them up when I get horny or want to SPEND some quality time. BUT most of them (men and woman) want me to settle down and marry them! But my view of life and love is like LAYs potatoe CHIPS, too good to have just ONE..LOL. So from browsing this site, YEAH I consider myself a TRUE FEMALE PLAYER…and it's by nature or shall I say MY natural personality. Most of the time I don't even work hard at it but I love a challenge. Pimping comes easy…LOL I see someone that I want, male or female and within in weeks, I got them wrapped around my pinky!
But hell, even a female player like myself wishes she COULD settle down SOME FREAKIN DAY… MY Father says that I'm just too damn independent because I got and hold down my OWN.. So comments please…???
I understand, maybe you haven't found the right person yet that you want to settle down with. That person probably won't let you have them so easily either
Maybe they'll be bi-sexual too! ha! You'll settle down at the right time.
"Men are keys, Girls are doors
A door that is opened by many keys is useless, but a key that opens many doors is very nice."
-Joe Schlek
I am definately a female player. I am always dating at least 2 – 4 guys at once, usually last a long time and then have the guys incessantly texting me and not giving up I guess who I am not even dating. I don't have sex with the…some of them I don't even kiss. I am just very confident, very picky, fun, caring and intelligent. I don't want to be a player anymore. I would love to have a serious relationship again, but it's been 5 years. And I guess I stopped believing in love when my last ex-boyfriend and I broke up. We were so deeply into each other and we ended mutually because of distance (I transferred to a different school). And he slept with someone from my high school who I knew within a month of us breaking up. All the romance, all the love we had for the year and a half seemed like a complete waste and phony because he tried to do that with her and another girl he dated for awhile. We ended up getting back together 2 years later and he told me he thought about me when he was with them, but I was still so hurt by his actions. Sorry to write a novel but I feel like getting this out. And yes, I am the true definition of a player, but it is ultimately not as fulfilling as a serious relationship. Sometimes it's a lot of fun, but gets old. I wish everyone lots of love and success, hope someday I will have a great relationship again.
Interesting post. My understanding is that players are either narcissists, deeply insecure, or have been heartbroken by the love of their life. I've fallen in love 3 times and all 3 were player girls. Now all I care about is having a fling with no emotional attachment. I long to meet a soul mate to fall in love with for real.
There is no double standard. The average women can have sex far easier than the average man. A man has to be more than good looking to get sex. He has to be confident, make a good living, have a car, and a place of his own just to name a few basics. A women can be broke, living with her parents, have no car, and can still get a man. A women doesn't have to achieve any of these things on her own in order to be considered desirable. If a man is shy, doesn't have a place of his own, a car, and a good job, he's just not attractive. Numerous studies show that women are attracted to status. One study showed that a man who made 60,000 per year who women rated an 8, was rated a 4 when his income was dropped to 25,000 and placed in a subservient position. When this same study was done on men rating women, there was no effect on attraction in regards to income and status. Historically on average, women marry men of the same income or greater than them; men on the other hand marry women of the same income or less.
Another way of looking at it is, a man has to work hard to get sex, a women has to work hard to abstain from it. Both men and women enjoy sex equally, but the rules for the dating game apply to each gender differently. That's just the way it is, nature trumps politics no matter how much you twist it. Men and women both have different challenges in the dating world.
WOW. I have learned soo much from this post. Althought I am young, I have definately had my heart broken and been played TOO many times. So i decided, it's time to switch up the game. I am so sick of falling for everything they tell me, knowing it's just what I wanna hear.. falling in love, then they start acting funny.. and eventually I find out what's been going on the whole time.
I may not know exactly who I am yet but I DO know that my value and worth is WAY too high to be treated that way. Not to sound conceited, but I do consider myself to be very attractive. I know that I can play the game if I want, I just have to learn how to be good at it. One of my male friends, who is a TRUE PLAYER told me lastnight, that us females have a gift. It's called pussy. As long as we have that between our legs we run the whole damn world. It's just how we use it that matters. NOTTT saying to just give it out to everyone, but in the end.. we all know that's the whole point of the chase. I have slept with some of the guys i've talked to.. but that was only because I wanted to and I knew I could. NOT because I thought it would benefit my situation.
And althought I really want to become a player I guess i'm still one of the females with a heart that feels if, a guy had done the same thing to me (WHICH THEY HAVE) that it would absolutely break my heart. My conscience eats away at me when I feel i've done something wrong. Maybe that's just something I need to work on??? A little feedback would be nice. Thanks.
WOW. I have learned soo much from this post. Althought I am young, I have definately had my heart broken and been played TOO many times. So i decided, it's time to switch up the game. I am so sick of falling for everything they tell me, knowing it's just what I wanna hear.. falling in love, then they start acting funny.. and eventually I find out what's been going on the whole time.
I may not know exactly who I am yet but I DO know that my value and worth is WAY too high to be treated that way. Not to sound conceited, but I do consider myself to be very attractive. I know that I can play the game if I want, I just have to learn how to be good at it. One of my male friends, who is a TRUE PLAYER told me lastnight, that us females have a gift. It's called pussy. As long as we have that between our legs we run the whole damn world. It's just how we use it that matters. NOTTT saying to just give it out to everyone, but in the end.. we all know that's the whole point of the chase. I have slept with some of the guys i've talked to.. but that was only because I wanted to and I knew I could. NOT because I thought it would benefit my situation.
And althought I really want to become a player I guess i'm still one of the females with a heart that feels if, a guy had done the same thing to me (WHICH THEY HAVE) that it would absolutely break my heart. My conscience eats away at me when I feel i've done something wrong. Maybe that's just something I need to work on??? A little feedback would be nice. Thanks
Just because idiots have hurt you does not mean u should do that with the next guy. Just pay attention to his actions and what he says. Ask questions pertaining to his lifestyle. I've been played and have done the playing and actually at the end of the day there was no meaning. I believe in karma hopefully you do too. Be careful!
You're* as in you are.
So true! A woman DOES NOT need to have sex with a man in order to get gifts. It's happened to me many times and it's my choice if I decide to have sex with that man or not.
A player is a woman with HighStandarts…I worth IT! your time, your attention, your money for nothing in return!!
I work with this girl, she's beautiful and a massive player, gets loads of attention and will be very friendly towards guys if she knows they have feelings for her. I don't know if she puts it about, I don't think so. But it's sad because I genuinely like her personality, she makes me laugh, I fell for her a bit but was always very reluctant because I suspected she was a player. I can see now clear as day that she is and it breaks my heart a bit. The thing that I don't understand is that she gets really nervous around me, and despite spending hours talking to her getting to know her she sometimes just ignores me and gets all awkward around me. I hate that she does this because it makes me think she has genuine feelings for me. I've seen her spending time with 2 other guys that she knows have feelings for her and she isn't nervous around them at all. I think she has no idea that I like her that way and maybe that makes her nervous, because she can't control me. Either way I find her irritating because I genuinely enjoy her company, which I can't say for many women. I wish she would just grow up and stop playing games, I hate fake people like that. I would just bed her and walk away if I didn't have strong feelings for her, but I do so I guess all I can do is just walk away and find someone else.
I do not agree with this article…For one thing, a man was labeled a 'Player' because he slept with a lot of women. Yet, if a woman does the exact same thing, she's not a player???….She's a HOE??….Are you F'in serious???…..That's BS!…And this article sucks!
I’m a hot chick…I have multiple guys at all times…they all love me..I treat them harsh n NEVER give sex…what am I?