This Saturday … after spending the day riding to Baltimore and back … I came back to my house and prepared myself to play video games and fall asleep (no late night booty calls this time … a day of motorcycle riding left me sore). I recall my friend DH calling me earlier. He has a girlfriend and is only allowed out on certain nights … I found out he had the night off … but he wasn’t trying to go out. Aww well … I’m gonna get some good time with Halo.
Ring … Ring … DH Calls
“So … What we doing tonight”
“Nothing … unless you really want to do something”
“I do”
A little negotiating and a call to one of my few platonic female friends, DB and I now have plans to hang out in Adam’s Morgan (A DC hotspot) and chill at an overly popular lounge there. It works, I don’t need to pretty myself and maybe I’ll find Mrs. SBM. I definitely wasn’t expecting to witness what I would see later that night.
Now we’re at the lounge. DH sees two of his friends, two I have met. He goes over to chat for a lil and then comes over. As we sit down on the oddly colored couch and I sip on my chai, a group of 5 girls walk in … all of them from my alma mater (my friend DH and my female friend DB all went there with me). One girl, cute but a bit overweight, goes over to one of DH’s friends and gives him a long hug.
So my friend informs me he was there when he met her 2 nights ago and his friend was there to meet her. Well … she wastes no time “reconnecting”.
She talks with him. Sits on his leg … gets close … and finds a nice resting place between his legs.
He buys her a drink, she giggles at his jokes … its obvious things are going good and she is feeling him.
But wait … suddenly she backs up off him and puts some distance between herself and her “friend”. What happened? Did he say something stupid … did he get “fresh” … did she spill a drink on his lap?
Wait … who is this new guy? Why is she introducing him to her love interest of 5 minutes ago? Why is she leaving with her arm in his? Man … my friend’s friend must have had that weak game.
So … me … the nosy person I am … go approach this guy to see what happened. I’ve gone out with him before … I’ve met him before … I feel I can get in his business a little.
I approach him and after two seconds of reintrocudtions … I ask ”so … what happened … how come your friend left?”
“That was her boyfriend … she had to leave”
“WOW!!!! These b*tches … thats f*cked up”
“Naw man … I’m not even mad … she is supposed to be calling me in an hour”
WTF!!!!
And I’m supposed to trust women …
Umm that is a hott mess i tell you!
women dont care nowadays and men foul too
@RawDawg: But how do you go meet up with a new guy with your boyfriend enroute? I thought it was called creeping …
Wow….It's funny because I know who you are talking about, and that situation is really messed up for so many different reasons.
Did "DH" give the stamp of approval for the release of this story?
SBM, I don't condone what she did, but that's ol' boy's fault for accepting the behaviour. If it was flipped and the other way aroud, I would say it was the woman's fault.
If you're willing to be the "other" man, then you'll be treated just like that–a trick. Don't accept the behaviour and you won't have to worry about being the jump-off guy.
P.S. – Women can be trusted, you all just seem to pick the wrong ones to trust. I could say all men are dogs, but I know that's not a true statement; although some of you provide enough good examples for me to conclude that.
So in defense of my sisters, just say some women can't be trusted.
@Shelia: He does seem to always find that particular type of female doesn't he?
@BPrice: Right after it happened he sat back on the counch and said "You've got to blog about this! This is so messed up the world must know!". Certain details were ommitted, but had to protect him.
@Sheila: I didn't actually say that no woman could be trusted … but it does put me on guard slightly more. Also, I'm not mad at him for being the jump-off guy. As a guy, its not that bad. Really, very little fault on his part … I just feel bad for the bf. Also, I forgot to mention that when he met her … she told him to take her number and insisted.
@BPrice(2): You act like I was talking to her! Thats never happened to me … so you can't say I always find these type of women!
SBM, we all have to be on guard. Trust is something earned, but folks like to automatically give it to people they haven't taken the time to know (but that's another post…smile). I feel bad for the guy too. I feel bad for any person who doesn't know they are being made a fool of.
If one guy is a dog then all men are dogs. If one woman is a dirty, grimy, smut-bucket…
she didn't seem to mind and neither did he so whats the big fuss about geezzz, as for bf he probably creeks two big phat deal!!!
creeps
this story is what I have been telling people for the past 9 months…
80's men cheated and were dogs
90's men cheated and were dogs
early 2000 men and women were equal
but now? ask a man does he want to go out and chase random tail or sit home and fuk up some people with the needler and energy sword combo… guess what he is going to choose? hell SBM tells you in the BEGINNING OF THE STORY he wasnt even going to go with consistant booty because it was more pleasureable to just sit home and ride xbox. so i say all this to say, its WOMEN who are doin more dirty now than men. they have that samantha sex in the city mentality, and they make more money now and they ALL want "more" so they are always looking for what they can get next. its their nature… they always want nice things and they always want to build a better nest. that chicks man was prob home playing Shipment on call of duty, came out to be social for a bit but like a good by is going to go back home and toss frags and C4 packs around for the rest of the night insted of trickin in the street. whats wifey gonna do? shit we ALL know what wifey is gonna do.
I know every sista on this board is gonna cry foul, but I see this ALOT up here in Jersey city/NYC life. im not saying men are innocent…. but its mostly young bucks lookin for a quick hit, it still happens… but the woman thing is off the chain.
i tell my moma what its like and she still insists all men go to the bowling alley and chase the secretary around the office and women sit home knit and cook……… yeah my moms a little off it what can i say. times have changed and as run DMC said… its like that…. and thats the way it is
Awww poor Men…Get over yourselves!
80's, 90's 2000 and beyond – Men sling d*ck like cotton candy and they're macho playas, big dawgs.
Some devious trixs decide to get scandalous and here comes the tears and the whining.
By no means am I saying these women are not..slack, I'm just finding it amusing that men are now getting a dose of what they've been dishing out all along and can't take it. Not a good feeling, huh.
not trying to slam you, but your very poorly written and your point contradicts itself. you come on a mens message board and whine about men complaining (contradiction) and then say men are dogs past and ppresant but then say "NOW" men are getting a taste of their own medicine…..
like seriously, if men are ALL out dishing SO MUCH dik… would we/they care if a woman was throwing the coochie around? i mean.. that means more for us right.
no, see thats what happens when you cougars go after 18 year olds.. they are horny all the time. Us grown up 30 men in out late 20's and especially us grown and sexy types in our 30's dont all jumpy over a piece of tail…. we are just as satisfied over playing COD4 and throwing on the headset…. especially once we settle down/ stop the hunt. todays woman is never satisfied and always wants the better nest and wants to be out there being wild. yes todays woman is like yesterdays man but still wants the primary thing they always wanted…. to nest. Back in the day woman didnt make $ so they needed to make a happy home and put up with a mans crap just to have a home and a white picket fence and all the other stuff that went with nesting.
now? a woman dosent NEED a man to nest… they need more $. a corporate sista who makes 85k is not trying to be with a nice guy who is bringing home 30k she dosent "NEED" his money or anything he offers for her to nest. (this is also why you never hear a woman…. especially the ones on this board talk about how they want a man with a "good job" (we all know that dosent mean coach or file clerk) his own place (capital) and no kids (financial deviation).
but even when a woman gets the target….. by nature they have to look for a better nest. more more more… nothing is ever enough. men compare video game scores and porn collections.. women compare who has the better house and the better Fendi shoes or Gucchi glasses and bags. its become such a materialistic drive for todays woman it sickens me.. but I guess us men have to take our lumps for the pleasures dad and grandpa took.. right?
rant over
@Sheila: I'm not trying to say all women can't be trusted … but … I just don't see that situation working out as well for a guy (someone would have snitched).
@Mikki: Wow … lost another 50 points. Damn …
@Hasani: Yeah … things have changed up a bit. Its funny how quick somone says "SBM is always finding these bucket heads" … but I just wanted to go out and chill with friends. Also … you can't use a needler and an energy sword. If u play online, I'm gonna need ur gamertag
@FallenStar: Come on now … she was in there with another guy knowing her bf was about to show up. We aren't even that brazen … or stupid.
huh? Huh? r u serious ?! r u sure u went dreaming?? she will call after an hour?? just thinking of it I don't blame her but DANG!
hahahaha
im thinkin ur using the term woman very loosely here
there are definitely women out there who aint tryna play that double agent game
Halo was only good for the 2 weeks I played it to do co-op with the fellas the player vs player didnt appeal to me.Im actually suprised you havent moved on to COD4 with the rest of the world. less teenagers, less cussin and less yelling… and more tactical/team based. Its not game of the year for nothing. sure I miss jumping off a 3 story and comming down on my cuzing head with a grav hamma but sneaking up behind him and placing C4 on his back and walking away with my finger on the trigger is just as rewarding.
The reason this wouldnt happen with the normal single black male… because we wouldnt want the extra drama for a fat pice of ass when we could be doing just what we are tal;king about right now… playing Xbox. the CARE has left men these days that our older cuzins and fathers had so much of. theres a certain amount of BS that goes into getting ANY piece of ass and there are just better options that willl provide much more simplistic entertainment and gratification.
Im actually dateless for the first weekend in 8 months! I dont know what Im gonna do with myself, I think I may put on my headset and stay connected the whole weekend but may wonder out and see whats going on with the lounge scene. god I hope I run into some cool story to report to everyone on monday!
wow! Very interesting!
I bet her bf was so easy with the situation because he is used to her doing that type of thing. Or younever know maybe they are swingers and she was recruiting
@Haddassah: Yeah man … serious. I want to follow up with the guy and see if she called. And what you mean you don't blame her!?!?!
@Dejanae411: I could have said "ho", "scuttle-but", "no good soundrel", or a "scip scop scallywag" … but I figured I would be nice
Hasani, once again I think you've just been dealing with the wrong women.
HA!!!!! This story is so funny to me. I think its all in the 'game'.
Two things could be happening in that relationship; her man could be creeping/or doing something to trigger her to act that way. Or she could just be trifling.
Some women/men are just trifling. Does that mean you aren't suppose to trust women? No you don't have to trust anyone but whoever you decide to be with you should have a some type of trust towards them. You can't generalize women( which you may not be necessarily doing) but you just have to learn the indiviual you are dealing with.
I know some stories about things women do that might would blow you mind and they are married/ relationships. Sometimes though its a reaction to an action done to them. Maybe I will post them on my site or get your advice. I think I have one situation I want to see your response to.
This dating thing is not always fair but, hey its all in the 'game' play or get played. ( Only use when neccessary)
@Hasani What happen to you? Why are you so mad at women? Did I miss some of story?
@ Everyone dont generalize people. We are all indiviuals!!!
@Ms. Devereaux: A mentor once told me to trust a person to do what is in their best interest. I trust that every woman will do whatever the hell she wants to do.
Hasani, you're a pip.
As for poorly written, if you say so. I can find a few mistakes in your little soliliquy, but i'll leave that alone.
As for me, I'm not whining… No sir. It was a simple statement sans any emotional attachment; mere observation. You're the bitter one.
Contradiction? Really? One can say anything in an OPEN forum (male site or not).
And who are you calling a cougar? Not me I hope. Sheesh! I've barely been 26 for the 72 good hours,bub. As for money, I make 52K and am about to hit five yrs on this job with full pension. I've dated the "normal balck man" (not a file clerk – Lab Tech) and yes, i've wanted more. However, more for THIS FEMALE was never about finances because I've always had my own; yet he still couldn't pull his thumb out his ass. But that's just life.
Ms.Devereaux, you didn't miss anything, this man just has unresolved issues – clearly.
Why the hostility towards womankind?
@Hasani: I'm not gonna lie … but you are going to have to take some responsibility for simping yourself out. Your love life will have a permanent curse while you are a simp … its just how the universe works. Outside of that though … preach on.
@Sheila: Yeah … after the last simping story I might have to agree with Sheila on this one. Its hard … but you gotta filter through the "junk".
@Ms. Devereaux: I mean … come on. I play games too … I am not innocent … but damned if that aint some super grimy sh*t. The man walked in the spot … and we're sure she told him to meet her there.
@FallenStar: WTF is a pip? And who says you can't be a 26 year old cougar getting them 18 year olds. Lol. And you gonna put your salary and everything out there though. Happy Bday too.
@Mikki: I might be able to give u like 5 for that one … but it sounded forced!
lol SBM thats funny you could tell, damn!! back to the drawing board, I am keepin my 5 though!
HAPPY BIRTHDAY FALLENSTAR!!!!
Its ok Hasani just got simped he will bounce back soon enough, everyone just keep him in your prayers.
SBM did that help me gain any points back? I have officially fallen off the wagon.
women are all crazy
- http://www.anythingblack.net
Im auto programed to be a simp. I cant help it. Im "trying" to evolve into a normal balsy type guy but honestly its not who I am. I only know how to be nice and then grumble behind the scenes to myself when things arent going as I planed. and when whatever woman I am around comes back.. I am all smiles and just try to please her.
its amazing that so many of you claim NOT to do the same thing…. I would think more f you brothas are like me since thats kinda what its like being black… when the white man comes arund you act "in line" and put on your suburban voice.. but as soon as he leaves you throw the black switch back on and grumble under your breath about how whitey this and that. perhaps some of you are internet superman and have to do the whole bravado thing.. you know making things seem cooler on the net than in real life.
As for me hating women… ummm your TOTALLLY talking to the wrong person. have you read ANYTHING about me? just because I am talking aboout what REALLY goes on and it dosent match your perception or what you will admit… dosent man I am a hater. Im a seasoned vet and can call a spade a spade and a hoe a hoe.
I fully admit men took lilberties in the 90's but you gotta respect that the whole movie and 90's shit is not true anymore….. saying men are doin most of the devious thins out there is like saying all black people rob kill steal and know how to do the electric slide…..ok lets forgeet abut that last one….. but seriously.
And saying i date the wrong women is a laugher. Its not like I have been out on a date or two. I have almost fourty dates this year. If this was a courtroom I would be an expert witness. and its not liek I am going to the same club and same bar to pick up women, I am meeting them all over the place… from different states industries religions. th only thing thats the same about the women I have dated is I have not yet been out with a woman who wasnt successful and have some type of career other than the two women who I dates who are finishing up PHD's at princeton but I think its safe to give them a pass for not having a career.
so unless I am going to start dating hood rats and nuns…. im dating who I am supposed to date.
but cry me a river about there not being enough good black men when w see what happens to those of us out here who are decent. speaking of decent brothas… I will be sitting home this weekend playing video games iif any of you single sistas are visiting the ny area ook me up (ducks for cover)
nice we cant state our opinion that goes contrary to theirs without having "issues"
yes I have unresolvd issues….. its because tha partnrs that od creatd for my to be with have a socilogiacal and biological flaw in them that prevents them from being ideal. your spending more time on the offensive after s evil men.. insted of using the message board what it is for….. relating to US…. not relating to YORUSELLVES.
we address the issues we see, we tell the tales and we point out what we see as flaws…. whats the retort? actin HOOD!! aww great…. that always solved everything! why dont we use this time we have here on the forums… talking about dating and everything to actually address and solve the problems that plague our dating lifestyle as young men and women. (other than money)
I mean seriously….help me help you
clearly you missed something
I really want to hear about each of the 40 dates im off work today and i need entertainment!!
Hasani, I don't care if you've dated 1000 women it still doesn't make you an expert. You can only speak about "those" women and make a general comment….your comments don't hold true for the "majority" of women out there (which I'm not a census taker, but I'm sure it's more than a 1000 and I don't think you've dated any of the women on the board).
I enjoy learning how you guys think. But I have to keep in mind, for specifics, I still have to get to know the man that I'm dealing with because his view may be different. I can't assume he thinks like you or some guy that I may have dated in the past.
Mikki…. you can call me ill keep you busy
Shelia.. obviously you DONT CARE about my opinion. you care about yours. you made that painfuly clear.
but honestly… if someone dates 1000 people and you dont consiter their opinion valid , you may have a problem.
there is no absolute. all black people have dark skin. yes… we do know there are abino neros out there and even mixed race negros who have yellow skin and green eyes… but for the most part the generalization is accurate.
so if your brothers are out here telling you what its like, listen to us insted of trying to fight us on it. its AMAZING. your not disproving my poin for fortifying it!!!
Me: ya women could give a sheet about men these days.. I dunoo wha happening!!
you: NO, the problem lies int he MEN!? havent you seen waiting to exhale!?
Me: actually all my male friends have had their women leave them for somehing "better" and all the guys wanted to do was settle down and be happy, its like nobody values someone who is nice to them anymore
you: STFU I dont care about your opinion
Me: but…but… I thought youu wanted to talk?
:you: no I just want you to listen. I obviously know more than y ou about how to date women because…. well… BECAUSE!!
Me: you DO?
you: Yes I DO! now fall back
Me: (Puts simp hat on) … OK, I guess ill o to Macys and buy you some Gucci
You wonder why I am a simp? is bcause women blast you when you address a problem or have a compaint in your own words and from your own heart, thru your own eyes. I dont want to fight… I want to eat cheeseburgers , tap dance and fly kites and all that other fun stuff in life. why must the women make EVERYTHIN so hard? I know you guys had it hard in the world for the first few thousand years but but egads must it be THIS BAD in retalliation now?
oh and a side comment…. how many women do I need to date to actually have a valid opinion? My father and your father combined prob nver had as many dates in their lives as I have had this year……
Hasani, don't know who the last coment was for, but for the record, my dad's dead. Reference your other comments that was directed at me–I don't have to agree with everything that you say. You're wrong on some points and you're right on others. I don't mind hearing about various opinions on this subject. That's one of the reasons why I blog and read blogs like this because of the various opinions. You seem to have an issue when someone disagrees with what you have to say. I'm not going out of my way to disprove anything. I say what I have to say.
Mikki & SBM: thanks for the Bday wishes.
SBM: I used "Pip" as a verb in this context which would mean: to defeat (an opponent).
Its the english major in me.
Hasani: Your view points are vaild in regards to YOU and those "1000" women. If someone counters you and suggests an alternative agrument from THEIR vantage point, why are you so quick to attack and throw such melodramatic tantrums? Your own contentiousness could be the cause of why you feel people aren't taking what you say as valid.
Meer observation.
I'm bored so I am going to play facilitator today eh hem if SBM don't mind, Everybody rub your ears and say wooosahhhhh
think happy thoughts!! its friday!!!! whooopeeeeeeeeeeeee
Mikki, happy friday to you too!!! I'm celebrating because I finished another manuscript –so its time to party!!!
Good Lord what did I miss???? Congrats on your manuscript Shelia.
yayyyyyyyyyy Sheliaaaaaaaa its a celebrate! shun
You have it reversed. i dont care if you disagree with me. its your own opinion. i point out my male opinion of a single black male 30's living in the metro area.
YOU are the one that gets defensive, hyper and manic when I am suggesting an alternative view to yours….. which I like to call "mine"
go back to post history its all above us in black and white (with some pretty red bold test thrown in too)
recap…
SBM post story (main topic)
Varius flames and attacks…
Hasani "I have been telling people this happens alot …" (bolster main topic)
shiela : "you pick the wrong women" many of you provide me with e(attack/slander not on main topic)
Fallenstar : "aww poor men stop crying" (attack) big deal if men get a taste of their own medicine"
Hasani: in my opinion women have dont need a man anymore so they are less ikly to care about their actions because they can survive on their own since they make so much $$ now (bolstering main topic)
SBM: "Hasani you may be on to something" (agreement with assesment of a problem from the main topic)
fallenstar "Hasani your a pip" (slander ) "Ms.Devereaux, you didn’t miss anything, this man just has unresolved issues – clearly."
shiela:"Hasani your picking the wrong women" (<—calling me stupid pretty much)
Hasani: I dont hate women, I love them" I am just telling the tale of what I have seen on the 40 dates I have been on this year. (bolstering opinion on main topic and giving references to how I came by my theory)
Shiela: "I DONT CARE" about your opinion Hasani. 40 women is cleary not enough dating for you to make any assumption or have any opinion about llife..
Miki: I want to hear about these 40 dates I have the day off (statement and inquisition)
Hasani: Miki you can call me if you have the day off (flirtation)
Shiela: :my father is dead" (didnt ask … but sory for your loss my grandmother is dead too. Ill hold you if you hold me back and we can commiserate together)
"your wrong on some points and right on others" (Im wrong about my personal opinion…. )
Hasani: "I want to state my opinion and work on a solution in an open forum
fallenstar: " Your view points are vaild in regards to YOU and those “1000″ women. If someone counters you and suggests an alternative agrument from THEIR vantage point, why are you so quick to attack…" (I still see no attacks about others opinions.. just stating mine. Im the one saying we should be here working towards a resolution and you should be here to help us so in turn we can help you…. or shal we continue the downward spiral of you telling me i aint worth shit and we are all dogs so we can turn out hateful and resentful so relationships wont work out… so you will be single…. so you will be more bitter… so you will say mean things… which makes men resentfull….
its sad when you take a step back and look at it… this message board is pretty much a microcosm of what goes down in real life between us.
I swear … I go away to a conference and don't get to throw in my two cents … and the brawl occurs.
@Sheila: Congrats on the manuscript. I almost want to see how you "celebrate" … I could only imagine.
@Mikki: Can you please take care of this for me for the next few hours. Thanks sweetheart.
Hasani, I do love a good debate–goes back to my high school days from being on the debate team; however I don't see what there is to debate about. Sorry you feel offended because folks(in this case "ME") were responding to YOUR comments. You sir are the one on the defensive. Nobody has called you stupid. If I felt you were stupid, I never would have commented, because I don't knowingly talk to stupid folks. Anyway, the only drama I like is the drama between the sheets (i.e., pages of book). I'm enjoying the beginning of my weekend and I suggest you do the same. SMOOCHES
The Comeback Girl/Mikki/SBM – Thanks. I'm meeting some friends later to celebrate.
I think that was an appology……… nah couldnt have been. guess its as cose as we gonna get eh?
I dont have to say who atacked who and who is defensive…. the post order is right above me.
Ok SMB I got you (puts on wonderwoman outfit)
eh heh hem (cough cough)
Hasani for the record I read everything, and you my friend are right, you are not the hostile one of the bunch HOWEVER its not in your best interest to boast that fact to a room basically full of females who will eventually as Shelia has done let you talk yourself into an oblivion. I agree this is a male forum but the women are the majority.
I pretty much had to agree with all that you said but at the same time I can't see how you get into these massive debates to prove a point yet yo claim your a simp and simps aren't suppose to be argumentative. Anyways I figured that this is more of your outlet to express what you feel you arent able to with them women you go on 40 + dates with. I say tell talk to them women you go on dates with just like you do in this forum and they might look at you differently. I am a Libra I consider myself a very very passive/conforming type of person but even I like a bit of toughness in my man I mean nothing over the top and dramatic just express yourself.
@ Shelia don't drink to much or do nothing I wouldn't do
@Fallenstar so how does 26 feel? I will be there in a few months I need a heads up
SBM how did I do???
Whew! I just had to pick myself up off the floor from laughing so hard!
Mikki: Is it ME? am I the hostile and bitter single gal? As for being 26, feels the same as 25 to me, SSDD. You can sleep and wake up and still be the sexy b*t*h you were the night before. Or that could just be me.lool
Hasani: on any given minute you could really send my pressure threw the roof. lmao. I never implied you weren't about ISH, yada yada yada… I was simply asking you questions based on the TONE of your rants. Nothing more.lol Boy you something else you know sir. whoi. As for the attack/slander/ name calling…are you for real?
Now I'm single and MORE bitter… Well shite, I guess I should go buy two cats right now! l
!! White Flag!! White Flag!! I'm too weak from laughing to continue this madness. !!White Flag!!
SBM : can we get a new topic please.
<<<fell on the floor laughin!! from the white flag
hahahahahaaa
Fallen You can just have my cat!!!!
<<<dyin laughin
I find it doubly amazing that the same people who can be so critical and hostile towards us single black men who work and have no children and arent sluts…. are the same people who on their own blogs say they are in search of single black men who have no children and arent sluts…..
shouldnt we be sweet talkin insted of you tryin to put a razor to my juggular!??
sheesh
DAMN. *smh*
That's straight up slimy, fam.
Makes you question ever placing trust in people sometimes.
I couldn't even keep no shit like that to myself, real talk.
Cornball or not, I'd have to tell that Black man that his jawn was living foul.
could someone translate that into Suburban negro format please?
@Hasani: I'll send you a book. If you can't translate, that may be further making your simping problem worst.
PRICELESS…now that's some pimp shit right there…lol. I have nothing bad to say about this chic, it's the same analogy that we use for women in this situation…if your boy is accepting of her behavior then who's really to blame, she or him?
Yeah well I say play on playa…lol…again this move was priceless.
*sighing* Man…my golden years are almost over.
WOW! Grimy!
Wow, this list is great! There are so much things that I really need to learn how to do, but just not doing them. It is time for me to stop procrastinating and give the list a try.