I guess I am simple and don't require alot of extra.

@ SBM: super duper indeed…just kidding I really don't know.

First of all I'm not really the clubby club type, just because there are tons of club stalkers and men with unreasonable (sex) expectations. And it IS their playground which is why I like a restaurant lounge better. But if a 10 dollar watermelon martini (grey goose) at Legal Seafood is gonna set him way back enough to not offer if he is so inclined, do we really need to be talking?

A man that is going to nickel and dime me over a martini will do it in other areas just as well. First of all why would a man just be going up to a bar and buying random women drinks? Thats not how the situation should go down. Its like we're usually sitting he comes over to chat. I feel him. We are chatting, maybe know some people in common, he's told a few good jokes. THEN he might offer. To me its atmopshere too. If we're talking about T-PAIN on the one and twos, and dude comes over sweatin and chillin leanin over the bar. And he's debating on buying drinks then yeah I can see the problem. The scene is set for a slightly different conversation. The rapport is different. Expectations are lowered–nobody should be really surprised that you probably won't find a boy/girlfriend at H20, and 35 minutes before the bar closes.

@Ms. Devereaux: I really like that mentality. Generally, I don't even need a girl to buy men anything or spoil me, but its extremely big for me that she shows some concern about me when I do spend my money. I feel like a woman shouldn't let a guy go broke over her … if she actually likes him.

And I knew this post would get Comeback out of hiding too. I thought I had accidentally run her off or something.

And whats this about paying college tuition … u must have some super duper stuff going on if thats what it takes … lol.

I usually tell men they don't have to buy me a drink we can just chat. Plus I am cheap and I look out for others too. I am that woman in the club that says, 'save your money' or ' we can eat with the drink money'. I know I am little country, but I really don't see the point in spending $8-15 on a drink.

If we are trying to get to know each other we can do it over a nice breakfast after they club and maybe even spend less.

I know this never happens to most men, that is why when I tell men this they always look at me like a 'deer caught in headlights'…lol Now if you want to get more than conversation(like sex) then a drink is not going to get it. Pay some of my tution then we can talk…just kidding:-)

Good Post!

So bitter … I can actually taste it. LOL.

how am I bitter. Normally to be bitter you have to have alot of bad things that happened to you or significant and tramatic experiences. I am emphatic and passionate about my beliefs but never bitter.