your too smart and too beautiful of a person to use such a cop out. do you really and honestly think I wouldnt make you happy for every day of your life and 5 more in the grave just because I was with someone not of your race? so I am less credible because I had a life with a white woman….. but a 22 year old is more credible who hasnt had a serious relationship at all?! this boggles me.

Why do I get along so well with nice black women?

why do african women and other black women born outside of the united states.. always have good relationships with me? I dont recall them sayin anything about who I slept with before them.

Im out here dating now, its an arduous task but im trying to be part of the solution and not part of the problem/ just another statistic. I felt I could find a way to reach the angry and desolate types but in doing so am just growing more tired and zounds more confused.

When I come out for the race… you'll listen to every word I have to say. wanna know why? cuz ill listen to every word you say. and Ill make sure we have a great time because your a beautiful person and a very fresh breath of air any time you come into this board. therefore you would deserve it right?

so yeah your on my good side… but dont take digs at my ex or try to discredit or demean me again. just so we are clear my dutches

its people who suffer from ABWS that I dont understand why they are the way they are and feel we need to have an intervention to change. theres great and fantastic sistas out there. Ive been on quite a few dates this past 10 months I can attest to that. but theres is a widespreading corruption of descent in our ranks and its pretty much splitting our race apart.

now on to the age thing. its not negative.. its just against you. theres a difference.

but as to why I havbe this opinion? I got it from the women actually. If a white chick comes on your blog and starts to tell you how to take care of and treat black men you guys torch them and boo them off the soapbox. why ? I dont know.. because if you look at the censes numbers they are doing your job twice as well/long as you are so they have a better insight… but you would flame her off because your black women and according to what many black women wrote who are on this blog "they dont understand the situation and how to care for a black man or understand a black man like (a sista) can.

So if a white woman gets flamed off for giving insight about taking care of a black man to black women

how the hell can a 18 year old black girl give advice on what is going on in my mind as a 35 year old black, single , middle class male?

its amazing you prove my point in your own post. your not cumfortable with a single 40 year old man "talking" to you… prob because of the difference in age, status and all… but you want to tell the men 5-9 years younger than him how much you identify with them?!!?!?!?!?!?!?

I mean.. go ahead and post… I think young slender… nubile.. hard bodied firm and viral young gals are SOO hot… but my question is why the hell would you want to? at 18 your not "single". you just havent been drafted into the majors yet. if your a well spoken and passionate young lady like yourself isnt scooped up in 3 years ill be shocked…but give it 6-8 years where you start to look around and go.. hey im not married wtf yo im SINGLE!

AOL and black planet would be more the speed of younger single folk one would think.

I mean… least time I was single you LITTERALLY were on the playground with pigtails, a metal lunch box and a bookbag. Ive lived eith and loved a woman longer than you have owned any article of clothing in your closet. I have a penis, I have hair on my chest, I am viewed as a big scary threat thats going to mug them by 90% of the people I come across in a workday, I have grey hair, Im starting to notice my hair is thinning in the front, I shave my beard with magic shave because its too thick and i wonder how much protien I will need to up my diet to for building optimal muscle mass and how will doing heavy reps in bench change my boxing handspeed as I bulk up further….

do you identify with any of that? most 18 year old women wouldnt.

Have you tried taking yoga to relax? You seem really uptight.

Most of the things you say are not rational to me. It appears that alot of times your perception is very off about black women. It's hard for me to believe you have such a good view on black women when you were with a WHITE woman for 10yrs. and have dated outside of your race since then.

Hasani just relax bro!

Your not a single black male and dont contribute anything credible to the conversation, only much it up with crossed and unverified views of a world you have yet to experience. especially if your a woman err GIRL15-25 your input on what our life is like as unmarried black middle class men is not credible, valued nor necessary.

Seriously… all kids should just run along and go play on AoL or something theres a thousand people in your genre to play with.

hows that for a rant?"

I feel that the negativity in this comment was unnecessary. According to you, as an 18 year old "girl", my opinions on the "unmarried black middle class man is not credible, valued nor necessary", and that I should "go play on AOL". Well its a good thing I do not live my life according to you. Its ironic how you type about black women always bringing the black man down, and how sistas need to be taught to stop having kids so young, but then here you are trying to bring a young sistah down. And I definitely felt like you were attacking me in this statement, however correct me if I'm worng:

"Random poster : Im like 19 and a woman and like.. I totally think like is cool and old black men are creepy.

Me: WTF? why are single kids wanting to read a blog on single black men? you guys should be on AOL or someplace."

I don't need to explain why I am uncomfortable with a man who is 40 or over pulling up beside me and trying to "talk" to me, that should be self-explanatory. But I choose to read SBM's blog, because I enjoy doing so. I enjoy the different perspectives from various individuals. Its is very unfair of you to be so judgmental, especially when you sit there and complain about others judging you. If you find what any young woman, or young adult, has to say as unnecessary, then ignore it and move on. This is not your blog, if SBM had a problem with me, he would say so. If SBM had a problem with women speaking on "men issues" he would say so. However, unlike you, he embraces it. So unfortunately for you, I will continue to give my two cents when I see fit, instead of having a jolly good time on AOL. If what I have to say doesn't matter to you, then ignore it.

…thank god that time has passed. whooo hoo!!!

"my attempts to help only seem to further the divide between our two races and species."

…you think…BRILLIANT…absolutely brilliant indeed!!

"Im not your friend, your not related to me.. hell we aint even of the same genetic background!"

…and let the church say Ameeeen!!

Hasani seriously you're making yourself look stupid…really…do we really need to bring back the transitive axiom of Hasani's mental capacity. Let's just agree that I can't be reached and even if I could, you lack the mental capacity to accomplish such a feat.

I don't need you

I don't love you

I do understand you

but I could care less.

I do love you

I cant understand you

I cant reach you

Do not call me out of my screen name. Im not your friend, your not related to me.. hell we aint even of the same genetic background! so since we are so unfamiliar, please if you are to address me.. use the veil of anonymity I constructed wwith HNIC. that was… before you oh so respectful types plowed and pryed your ways into someone elses personal life and splashed it across the internet……… respect?

I wont talk to you.. .but lord knows Im gonna have to quote and address any post containing ANGRY BLACK WOMAN SYNDROME" (ABWS)

but have no fear.. I have "miss ER" eventhough shes considered a blonde shes very smart…she is hard at work trying to figure out a cure and how to fight the symptoms.. but somehow I think she is going to be blamed for being the problem by your type eh? I dont think she can come up with a cure though, because as a surgeon she has no experience with emotional damage not spiritual corruption.

@Hasani: Please don't refer to me in any more of your posts and I will do the same.

Im not a thug your not a thug and neither of us ever pretend to be… so whats the issue? the issue is I l0ve black women. your trying to do like teacia… take text litteral young blood and hear yo cuzin out for a minute.

I love "WOMEN" but hate shalow and destructive people.

period… do not pass go and sure nuff dont collect a welfare check.

and you know my shit always stays on topic… even if my scatter brained and seemingingly deranged line of thought dosent seem to be there… it always makes sense and goes back in the end!

like my first post said… hows that for a rant.. well I rant.

I mean.. look how many of my post are either

1):reinforcing my view of the moderators stated topic:

or

2) Reinforcing my and my factions beliefs about what and how black america needs to be and where we need to go.

oh so let me throw this at the bottom. I know its cool and easy to claim I dont like black women… but if I didnt like black women why do I go out of my way to date so many?!?!???? Now let me ring my own god damn bell a sec… at 30 do you know how easy it is to hop on eharmony and say Im a 6'2 college educated, "well spoken " with a boxers body and a corporate job… ya know.. the basics.. and go on the endless stream of one and two night stands with the white women out there?????

Im actually putting in EFFORT to date, and going out of my way to date black american born women. So dont you ever get it twisted my peoples.

But dont confuse those who are my peoples with those who have similar skin color to me but have a poisonous spirit and a destructive nature to them. To me… sammy sosa dispite having dark skin and nappy hair is still latino. Because of language and because of the seperate spirit that the latino male has. Well I view negative ass, no good, poisonous contraband as not the same race as me either since their spirit is not the same as mine.

And I hate them for it.