Its Friday … time for my weekly rant.
- I like Three 6 Mafia. I like screw music. So when I got the new Three 6 Mafia album in screwed form … I was in heaven. I listened to that album like 6 times straight in one day. I got so much accomplished … it was nuts.
- So I attempted to listen to nothing but R&B this week … and failed. I started with John Legend, and things were good. He sings about real things (cheating mainly) and it was nice not so see someone not singing that softness. Tried to follow him with Alicia Keys … made it through like 4 songs before I started to get nauseous. Then did Musiq … somehow made it through. Lyfe Jennings was recommended, so did that. Then someone (Ms. D) sent me a playlist online … that was painful and marked the failure (this was around day 3). I made it through about 5 songs before realizing the site had real music. Soon I was listening to “Put On for My City” and forgetting my whole experiment.
- Listening to R&B was putting me in a horrible mood. I realize you just gotta listen to what you like. As a result … Three 6.
- Amorosa went on Wendy William’s show and claimed “I rather be an Angry Black Woman than a bufoon”. Not sure how I feel about that one. Perpetuating this classic Angry Black Women stereotype is not a good thing. When will they learn?!
- I’m a kisser. I love it. Something is really really enjoyable about kissing a woman … and its even better if I actually like her.
That’t it. What are your rants?
RANT
MY FRIDAY RANT(s)…..
1. Why the fudge does one particular white man in this damn office feel like I'm his personal damn assistant!?!?! Mofo…you don't sign my check and I surely dont report to you. Fudge off before I throw my stapler at your head!!! ARGH!
2. Fridays should be considered the weekend and the federal gov't (including gov't contractors) should have this day OFF!
3. I'm so sick & tired of triffling ass women (of all nationalities) disrespecting the fact that some men are in relationships. Now see… I'd be wrong as hell to get "bout it" on a biotch! If a man tells you that he has a woman — RESPECT THAT SHIT or don't be surprised when his women walks up on you and lays your dumb ass out! (sorry, reverted back to my Detroit mentality briefly)
4. Stupid people get on my nerves (especially in the work place). It's too damn early in the A.M. for these stuck on "special" idiots up in here to get on my nerves.
5. SO HAPPY IT'S FRIDAY
6. {thinking} Maybe I should have gotten a quickie in prior to leaving for work this morning and maybe I wouldn't be on b*tch mode right this second.
7. I'm seriously thinking of constructive ways to tame my temper. So far blog-commenting is a great release! Thanks SBM!
8. Feel like I need some shopping in my life. Is it just me… or does Target seem to be getting more expensive? lol
My Friday Rants!
1. most men are idiots
2. i'm at work
3. white people really think they can say anything to you at work and you wont flip because your the amiable black girl that everyone likes.. they are so wrong
4. i need to go to the gym which makes me dread the end of the day
other than that .. I have nothing to rant about …
I count my blessings everyday and just thank the Lord for waking me up every morning ..
SBM.. you should do a post on a friday that is opposite of a rant .. more of a rave of all the things you are greatful for.. but i guess you are greatful for your lips and whoever you kissing .. so i guess that counts.
1. When I get on the elevator and push 4, you get on at the next floor and push 8 I am NOT moving back because you got on AFTER me and I'm getting off BEFORE you. You think just cause my people catered to your people a long time ago I gotta move and hang my head in your presence?!?!
2. And don't look me up and down when I don't move. Yes, I work here. Yes, I'm dressed impeccably. No I am not the janitor or cook. I'm an executive. Deal with it!
3. Did anyone else see the CNN special "Black in America?" I got my hopes up for a true portrayal of our people and once again was let down. On wednesday they portrayed black women as uneducated, impoverished, disease-ridden baby momma's and last night after spending an hour talking about how "all black men are in prision" they has the NERVE to ask "where have all the black men gone?!?!" I mean according to them they're all in prison. Right? So how can they be fathers? And what about this chick that had a 1 year old and was mad that her child's father wasn't active – SHE WAS PREGNANT WITH TWINS BY ANOTHER MAN!!!!!
4. Is it wrong that it bothers me that my boyfriend uses my toothpaste and q tips when he spends the night? I mean does he not pack that ish in the HUGE bag he always brings over?
5. I am no longer allowed to watch "black folk" specials before coming to work. I feel like standing up and raising a fist in the air.
1. A white guy had the nerve to call me bougie, b/c he asked what my favorites restaurants in the DC area were, and I mentioned a few..i.e, Oceanaire, Ruth Chris..etc..ec..then he asked if I liked Fridays and I told him hell no…If I can buy your food from the frozen food aisle, why would I want to eat at the restaurant. So I told him just because certain black women in this area may find him a hot commodity, I don't and if I was to date a white man, the bar is drastically raised in comparison to what I expect out of black men. Needless to say, he couldn't pole vault over the bar if he tried. I rather my white guy to look more Ambercrombie & Fitch, instead of Down Town Locker Room.
2. I completely agree with what Omarosa said to Wendy Williams. She was speaking in regards to negotiations and never accepting the first salary a company offers you b/c they're going to low ball you to begin with. Also, in the corporate environment black women need to speak out more because they're usually the population that's walked over. When a black woman expresses their opinion or displeasure in a corp. environment like Omarosa said, they are typically thought of to be angry…Shit, let me be angry, but still I better have my COLA increase and annual raise.
3. I'm going to the Rock the Bells festival this weekend!!! YAY! Real hip-hop! I can't wait.
4. I'm living the single single single LIFE and it feels GOOD. I think I'm destined to remain single..and I truly have no problems with that. I have my own $$…houses…cars…and 1.5 kids (my son & my nephew who is a permanent fixture at my house)…But then again, maybe I just need a good maintenance man….who knows.
Jolie I totally agree agree abou the gratitude thing. I find that when you find things to be grateful for, more things show up to justify the gratitude. The opposite is also true for rants.
1. Re: Wendy and Omorosa. I believe that Ms Wendy (And I have a soft spot for Ms. Wendy when she was fired in NYC and sent to Philly to blaze the airwaves back in 03') was looking for a fight. And I totally agree with Black Chick re Omorosa's statements, women need to start being about the business of SERIOUS negotiation. Since 25, I never take the first offer. Even if its GREAT and competitive, its about sheer principle to me. A company is going to always come in on the low side. And usually the expectation is that YOU DO NEGOTIATE. I've even heard that hiring mangers respect you and your work more, when you know and are able to articulate your value to the business and their bottom line (put into your salary and rate terms).
2. Caught Black In America. Solidad (sp) deserves an emmy for it. Last night really underscored to me that there are black men who are doing the right thing. I really respect Rev. Dr. Eric Dyson. I've always said that that is the type of man I would want to marry. Intellectual but deeply connected to his community and hella down to earth.
2a. There are also some real black men hom dingers. I thank God that they no longer "see me" nor I "see them". I believe what you see always shows up in your experience.
3. I am happy about being single. I thank God every day that he inspired me to clean my plate…to attract better men. Its funny how better men KNOW when your plate is and isn't clean (ie residual of other not so great men).
4. I get a little sad when I see women being played-but on some level isn't that what both parties are signing up for?
5. There are some fine black men in OK. Where in the hell did they come from.
6. I think some Tulsa real estate is in my near future. I predict a downtown resurgance.
@SBM, I'm sorry about your R&B induced funk. I'm so with you on kissing, it's my favorite thing to do.
@Ms. Freckles, a quickie is a great way to take u off biotch mode, i recommend it daily if u can handle it, lol. and HAHAHAHA @ throwng the stapler at someone's head, that shyt is funny
@Jolie, I watched it last night and have some of the same sentiments. I didn't watch the first one but didn't really appreciate that everytime they talk about "black women problems" it always stems on us not having a man…um, we're more dimensional than that.
@fung-ke I LOOOOOVE THE OCEANIARE! And I'm so with you on that white man stuff. White dudes have to be EXTRA tight to get my attention…and I don't want no white dude that acts black either, I like 'em Abercrombie and Fitch style too…or more lik Smith Jared from Sex and the City (MMMMMM that boy is sex-E)
My rants:
1. I'm over my damn minutes on my calling plan for the first freakin' time thanks to being on "vacation"!
2. My daughter is so damn expensive! I spent $150 just driving to go pick her up from FL. Plus this week, I have to register her for before/after school care, drop-in care, ballet, and spanish. Plus, I have to buy her uniforms and school supplies and I'm considering putting her in swim lessons (her dad went to college on a swim scholarship…and i ain't paying for college dammit). I better see some return on this investment. (*sigh* Zian, mommie loves you)
3. I'm hemmoraghing money this week….court fine for driving with expired tag, cost to get a GA tag, all the items in #2, my mother's birthday, my daughter's birthday, gas, groceries, bills….why can't I win the lottery (oh yeah, i don't play the damn lottery)
4. This sex fast SUCKS!!!! ARGH!!!
other than that, I'm in a great mood…it's wonderful to have my little one home again and we had the best day ever yesterday and looking to top it today. I'm excited about her starting kindergarten on Monday! Oh and I get to be a stay at home mommie for two whole weeks, YAAYYYYY! Happy Friday everyone!
@comeback…hmmm, fine men in OK…perhaps I should come visit…u got an air mattress, heh heh
"u got an air mattress"
YEAH girl…we might be looking at the next black migration west !!!
SBM- I'm a newbie to your blog and absolutely love it! I've been hooked from day one.
Being a kisser is not a rant at all. IMO a man that likes and knows how to kiss is sexy as hell.
My rants
1. I'm so bored at work. It’s been slow and I hate it. I enjoy being busy it makes my day go faster.
2. This dry spell I’m going through has to stop ASAP! I can’t take it anymore. I feel like I’ve been PMSing for weeks now.
3. Gas prices have gone down but I don't see the difference… what the hell is up w/ that?
4. To the asshole ex…Can’t believe you had the nerve to call me and ask me to co-sign a loan for your sorry ass! Are you serious did he really think I’d be stupid enough to do such a thing? Maybe he shouldn't have bought that flat screen TV and other not so necessary bullshit!
Ok I’m done have a great weekend everyone!
1. Wow
2. My stomach is in knots right now, I think I'm about to vommit.
3. It's my sweetie's b-day weekend and although I did everything in my power to get him the bestest bday gift I failed…the item is discontinued…oh well se la vie.
4. I have a new role model and her name is Solidad O' Brian…Black in America was great. I watched it both times it aired. I actually agree with the portrayal…the coverage made me proud, although the dude married to the white chic that was arrested for murder only showed to prove that you are who you are at your core and moving your kids out of the ghetto does nothing if their mind is still there. That baby mama though that was pregnant by another dude was all a bit too real for me…kind of shamed me a bit(for our race).
5. I'm not a huge fan of Friday's but I ain't too proud to enjoy a good rib meal…although I don't really do Friday's actually…but Chili's(molten lava chocolate cake…mmmm) and Ruby Tuesday's yeah that's my spot.
6. I got a new job…I'm going back into property management…yaaaay…no more broke Friday's.
7. Oh looka here, Comeback came back…again…lol.
I really don't have anything to rant about so I'ma flip it.
1) I am grateful that SBM uses his coin and bandwidth to let us rant and rave.
2) I went on a really great date last night and I am sleepy as hell but man was it fabulous. We are doing lunch on Sunday.
3) I am getting my hurr did tomarrow. Come on creamy crack!! LOL!!!
4) My neice is so beautiful and so smart. It is a blessing to watch her grow and change before my very eyes.
5) I have the best family and friends in the world.
6) I co-hosted a bomb ass watch party for the first part of Black In America on Wednesday.
7) God is awesome, good and wonderful.
I was dreading turning 35. but now that it's passed and I'm up in it; it's not really so bad.
@Lydia – the ex must have been reading a past blog about "chicks diggin' flat screens." I would have advised he talk to you before/after that posting.
@Comeback – Where did you get that dishwasher. Mine is out of order and my plates look a mess. *Sigh*
@Ms. Freckles – there is always lunch time!
@Jolie – excellent suggestion about "ranting" what we are grateful for. 1) I think I like my new position. At least now the majority of my day is a little more enjoyable than in the past.
@All – I didn't see the CNN special. This must be the unofficial day for light light skin people to pick on blk folks. They watch something by Tyler Perry and now they can relate every blk person to one of his characters.
RANT –
1) The Macy's Jazz fest will be held this weekend in Cincinnati and it is predicted to rain the day I'm going.
2) I personally feel that I've made life more complicated than what it has to be.
3) I think gay guys get all the good men.
Hey yall I am trying to get in early before I head out.
@ SBM: My playlist was great…but I see you like my hip hop mix!!!
My rants…
-I love the Unity Journalism Conference I have seen some serious heavy hitters in the media. I will see Soledad O' Brien, and Barack Obama this weekend. Roland Martin, Jackie Reid, Gary Fields, and a host of others are there.
- I think I dranked to much last night, but it was great to hang out with my cuz and friends.
- Welcome back 'Comeback Girl'
-God is still blessing me and keeping me on my journey. I am so grateful and love him for it.
-I hate I missed Black in America does anybody know where I see it again?
- I still can't stop talking to him…damn! I think my feelings are waking up which means I really need to stop talking to him. I hate I still love him.
- You all have encourage me to go on sex fast. So far I am 2weeks in the game. Hopefully I can go till who knows when.
- Dating in Chicago offically sucks!!!! The men seem to be really wack but I don't give up I am still open to meeting people. Just hope that someone with some real sense comes along soon.
- I think my circle of friends are about to change, although we have been down for over 15yrs. But life is about changes and I think I am rising to another level. I need a different energy around me. I want positive Godly people in my life. I am learning that I can't tolerate anything else.
Ok I am running late…Have a great weekend folks.
Oh yeah…
-Omarosa and Wendy Williams are both fools in my book. Omarosa did make some valid points about careers but she is still a damn fool.
-Kissing is great. One guy I was recently dating kissed great he had some soft thick lips and he just knewing exactly what he was doing. Damn I miss him!!!
Ms. D: What's happenin miss lady, it comes on again Sat and Sun nights at 9pm…the women on Sat and then men on Sun.
I plan to do away with my sex fast this weekend…I went 7 weeks, but tonight I'm losing my virgini-tay!
Have a great weekend all!!
*takes a deep breath to let it all out*
1. Why the heck can't my plantation announce the merger already, hand out packages and ease everyone's anxiety already? It'd be nice to know if I was still gong to be employed next week or hittin the pavement.
2. If I no longer work for you how in the hell do you think you can dicate my vacation plans for next week? If you knew I was rolling to a new position in early May shouldn't you have hired my replacement sometime before now? I don't care if the person that backs me up in the old function is also out on vacation and has more seniority than me. Should have thought of that months ago playa. And why am I still in dual roles yet only being underpaid for 1? Shouldn't I be expecting bonus in my future soon?
3. Why did CNN find it sufficient to only give 4 hours to Being Black in America? Since I live it every day I KNOW they could have given more air time to our existence. Just when the storylines started getting good they'd cut to commercial and take the momentum out of it. And even worse they had homeboy introing with spoken word like black people can't function without either music or sometype of lyrical cadence. Major BOOOOO to them giving the Michael Eric Dyson story about him and his brother 6 measly mnutes. As the credits rolled my girlfirends and I screamed out, "where the hell is the rest of it?!?!"
4.Why did Pretty Ricky and/or whomever manages/produces them find it acceptable to remake H-Town's Knockin the Boots? Damn these children f*ing up the classics.
5. Thanks plantation for scheduling 4pm meetings on a Friday causing me to come out to the Fairfax office and not being able to go to my Ministers 6pm wedding in PG. Who the heck schedules a 6pm wedding on a Friday in the summer just outside the beltway?!
Its not all bad though—
6. I'm on vacation next week!!! I may go down to the Carolinas and see the family I may not, its my perrogative. I will however be using the time to REST and go speak to a graduate advisor over at UMD. YAY!
7. I'm going to Rock the Bells on Sunday!!! Even better I have covered seats cause it might rain but the show will go on!
8. I just joined a new gym and i'm pysched for my first PT session later this evening.
9. Me, Him, Rosa Mexicano and guacamole! Its going to be a good evening.
LoL… I'm loving everyone's rants today. I missed the CNN special but have heard plenty about it. I'm disappointed in CNN right now…. in fact I'm going to hold a moment of silence for them bastards. *silent*…okay…NEXT!
I'm leaving work at 2:30pm today instead of 3:30….THANK GOODNESS.
@Bree – children in general are expensive.
@Neonnea – the BF is on the other side of town, so there will be no lunchtime nookie today. However, when I get off is another story:-)
@Ms. Devereaux – I concur with you about Omorosa and Wendy both being fools! lol
@Tiffany – Glad you are in great spirits today! Hope it rubs off on me!
@Teacia – I hope your stomach feels better SOON
I am new to this site. I just found it yesterday and I am hooked. Me and my friends share a lot of your opinions. Anyway my rants
1) I am tired of people thinking they can get something for nothing
2) Is Detroit(my hometown) the capital of non-progressive thinking blacks?
3) Why do white people always want to test you? i.e. if I say this joke will he be offended ?,
I'm not sure how I feel about kissing. It's something I enjoy, but cant bring myself to do it all the time, unless it's with someone I'm really digging. It's soooo intimate to me. I hate aggressive kissers(like flavor flav's burnt self) , but I do love when a man hold's my face in his hnads while he's doing it. *sigh*
Um, I'm not sure how many people on here run, but I am training for a half marathon, and subsequently participate in 5k, 10k, and 10 mile events leading up to my end race. But in case anyone is interested, please check out Nike.com for this huge race that Nike is sponsoring in major cities across the globe, 4 of which are in the states (LA, NY, CHI, and Austin). Being from Houston, I live closer to Austin, but will be running in the Chicago race . . . so, if anyone lives in the Chicagoland area and are interested in participating, hit me up. I need a buddy to run with, plus, it's some great exercise!!
I'd be very upset if Soledad O'Brien doesn't win some type of award for this series! She really did a super job, and it's nice to see CNN support it, even though they are happy to be killing in the ratings they are generating from it. I think it's kinda funny when I see the prelude shows with Anderson Cooper or Campbell Brown talking about this stuff with the invited guests.
I don't have a rant, but I'd like to thank the Lord for another beautiful in the city of Houston!!!!
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@Humble_One – First off, WELCOME. Second, no Detroit (also my hometown) is not the capital of non-progressive thinking blacks. Chicago and Brooklyn NYC is (in my own opinion). Detroit is just very depressed and has been for many many years. Doesn't help they still have Kwami.
@SBM – I absolutely LOVE kissing. Especially if I'm in love with the man and his breathe is fresh. Mmmm
Ms. D I was wondering why Soledad and nem were in Chicago.. get some pictures.
Neonnea???? dishwasher??? I have a maytag stainless steel…but I don't use the word dishwasher in ANY sentence…hell..I eat out all the time now and have not pressed start or used a dish in like three weeks now.
7)..I love those grown sexy, fit, chocolate men (35+) on those low riding chromed out harley's where they have to spread their legs) those are some sexy bikes.
@Comeback – ROTFLMAO@your dishwasher comment.
9) When is that Sybil remake coming out?
My rant…
A) Black folk are not a monolithic group. We all have our different political views/religious beliefs/ethics. Shoot, some Black folk (people of color) don't like to be referred as Black or African American- multi-racial; multi-ethnic; mixed; Indian (Native American); and brothers and sisters from the Caribbean Islands come to mind.
B) We (the African American community) have a big issue dealing with skin color within the community. Light skin versus dark skin, "good hair" versus kinky (aka natural) hair, "lighter than a paper bag" versus dark chocolate. Come on people, wake up! Until we get our s… together, there can never be "unity in the community!" I didn't go into the class/economic divide in the community. That is a whole different topic.
C) Bill Cosby is right. We need to start taking responsibility for our situation. Brothers need to support (financially and otherwise) their children they helped create. If you don't want to pay child support, put on a f…ing condom, or two! Or, get a vasectomy. Ladies, stop attempting to trap men into staying with you by having a child (or children). If he does want to stay in a relationship with you without a child, do you really think he will stay with you with a child? Wake the f… up!
D) People, stop buying the latest and greatest gaming console! By the time you have purchased the console, the games, and associated accessories, you could have invested that money in a computer. Yes, both become obsolete as soon as you plug them in, but you will get more for you dollar (educational and financial) with a computer. Invest in a computer and an internet connection- and use the technology for constructive/positive learning, especially for your children. MySpace, Facebook, YouTube, and Porn is not constructive/positive learning. Left + Left, Right + Up, A + B, X + Y, Down + Up will only give you carpal tunnel and weight gain.
E) Get an education! Street knowledge will only take you but so far. By most accounts, it will take you to prison, parole, homelessness, and death. Start by getting you high school diploma/GED. Then, go to college AND finish (graduate)! Or, if college is not for you, go to a trade/technical school and obtain a trade. Whether it is college or trade school, obtain a skill that is in demand and if push comes to shove, you can work for yourself (using that skill you learned) to support you and yours. I should mention that education is continuous and never ending (both formal and informal).
F) We should continue to support Black businesses in and out of the community. Now, just because I am Black and choose to support your business doesn't mean I should receive inferior customer service (compared to a similar non-Black establishment). Don't take me (and my dollar) for granted.
-After Hours
Ms. Freckles its true…I have to be inspired to cook. And there is only one man that has done that lately…and we aint NO where near me with apron in a 3 foot radius of a convection oven or stove top.
@Comeback – LMAO! I have some friends like that too. I always know when they are "feeling" someone more than usual because they actually USE their stove! LOL
Luckily, when I cook…the BF does the dishes. So grateful!
@Ms. Freckles – Thank you for the welcome. Yeah, Kwame and people here with the same type of mentality are a HUGE problem here.
@Humble_One – yeah, I'll be back to visit family next month. It will be the first time the BF comes with me…so I've already tried to prepare him for the economy and some of the people. (But the D will always be home)
@comeback: AGREED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
" God I love grown men makes a 25 year old look AND sound like a toddler. No Samatha Jones for me."
@ After Hours
B) proof of this is in rap videos
C) I agree with Cosby but what I have problems with are people of his type or class saying those things and not getting dirty. If you come from the same problems you are addressing you should be in the thick with the problems trying to solve them. Its easy to say whats wrong whem you are comfortable.
E) I am educated and have street knowledge. If I didnt have my street knowledge I would not know how to operate around these corporate boys. Street smarts have their place in the corporate world. The Street and Corporate world are VERY similar.
@Humble_One – I totally second what you mean about street smarts and educated. The two are very necessary in corporate america.
The angry black woman shit pisses me off to no end.
Seriously, its killin our community and this omoroza shit exempliphies what white peopel think about them and about us as a culture…. fuckin SILLY.
Its amazing you have women who are all proud of themselves for being bitches and overly difficult…. and then want to wonder why there arent more black men for them… LOL. could you imagine if your that difficult over 7 thousand dollars a year how dificult you are wit a lifemate? Amazing how I get lowballed everytime I go to a new job because white people are expecting me to be a problem.
Its bad enough as a black man I have every white person I meet thinking in the back of their mind… "gee I wonder if he knows snoop dogg" and fighting my own stereotypes, I gotta fight THEIRS too.
FFS
if you check out dailytmi today we were talking about how black marriage has gone downhill and it seems marriage is only for whites now. Omorosa is like… WHY we arent getting married anymore. I cant DRAW a more perfect woman physically thats my type. Nice teeth, narrow eyes, Thin dark skinn , pert breasts, good lean muscle tone, and silky hair… and she is just like 50% of the 30something sistas I have dated this year.
That video has me so heated… I need to ran about it!!!
theres a difference between being aggressive and just being the nigga they expect you to be. Baffoon? Ya Im gonna haggle over 20 dollars a week in my paycheck and fuck up my chances of upwardmovement by baing labeled as a cancer. I have never said no to a first offer…. EVER. I am underpaid everywhere… but I always move up in the end because I am never hostile and always nice and put in the work.
Alliances are the key to making your money…. thats why its called the " GOOD ol boys" network.
I could have haggeled for 8 or 10 dollars an hour when I first came in the door at Squibb. But I would prob still be "dat nigga" on the loading docks making that same 10 dollars.
I dont even have an MBA or a PHD and I am prety much a big dumb brute. Its Friday and my bank account just went up by 1600 for working this week and its not because I acted like a stereotypical angry nigga…. I got it because of how good I was to people around me… and under me.
afterhours…
we gonna fight.
while I agree wit the bill cosby thing the gaming concole thing is not gonna fly with me.
I already did an editorial about this. Why sacrifie having the games you want to play NOW to save a few hundred? Im not going to have any fun breaking out my playstation 1 and playing madden 1999 on it, when I could be playing madden 2009 on my playstation 3.
Oh and the whole light skin vs dark skin? ya dat went out with the 90's get real. All of us arent even fully black by blood line OR culture anymore and we all still feel the common bond. cuz we are all still niggas to those who look at us. dat "light skin people must be smarter than the dark skinned ones" is about 2 decades over…. save it.
someone hop on over to http://dailytmi.blogspot.com/
and leave us your opinions on the black in america topic. All our blog friends are white or Desi and they are afraid to comment
The negotiating excercise is really about quanitifying YOUR worth in a meaningful way that impacts THEIR bottom line.
If its common business practice for an employer to offer on the lower part of their range…WHY wouldn't you want to maximize that. If their totally out of my range, I won't even have the conversation. But if we're within 10-20k or 10-12 bucks an hour, then yes I want EVERY SINGLE PENNY THAT acme might leave on the table.
Because at the end of the day, I work VERY hard for the companies I work for. I just found an engineering mistake where my regional department will be able to recover over almost 5 million dollars (over three years) and realize a significant cost savings ON TOP OF THE COST RECOVERY.
And I didn't nickle and dime my efforts to find and FIX cost saving and recovery issues…..
so No…pay me.
"why its called the ” GOOD ol boys” network."
I find that if you can show a good ol boy the money…you become their best damn friend.
@ Humble_One
It is not just the rap videos- It is ingrained into our consciousness via all media.
Cosby may have received a majority of the publicity, but this has been said for years by various intellectuals and grassroots leaders in the community. This is nothing new. Some of us needed to be called out! If a white man said what Cosby stated, he would have been called racist. But since Cosby said it, he is called an elitist.
-After Hours
@ Neonnea…
Don't get me wrong a nice flat screen tv is alright when you got it like that. Save a grip and pay for it w/ some cash. But when you get it from rent-a-center and pay double maybe even triple than the actual tv is worth its not a good look. And me being a good gf that I was I just bit my tongue and let him watch his nice big tv in his lil studio apartment. And soon after that I dumped him.
1.) I'm at work at my firm in a meeting and my coworker, who annoys the shit out of me keeps interrupting everyone with lame ideas and during an outburst of "idea" spits at me on mistake and it lands on my temple and I swear it smells!!
2.) My roommate who is the person described in #1, insists on leaving her jeans with her big draws in them on the shower room floor that we share. In her underwear, there's a makeshift pantyliner she fashioned out of one ply tissue paper. resourceful gal…and I swear it smells!!
3.) I don't know why it's so cold in our firm building!?!?
4.) One of my white co-workers is a cute thick and has an ass for days but a small firm body. No homo, but she talkin' bout "Im so fat" and she is always eating diet food.
5.) CNN's Black in America left me kinda conflicted in terms of portrayal and delivery
6.) These Durhamites (Durham locals) creep me out. One homeless tried to holla and touched my face. I need a tetanus shot.
7.) In the same meeting, my roommate/coworker keeps farting next to me and keeps pretending like she dont know shes messing the air …and I swear it smells!!!
1. Can't remember the last time I've been kissed
2. I can't stand when people take credit for my work or my success.
3. Not sure what I will do with my hair this weekend.
4. Is really surprised by the polarized views of CNN's special – you either hated it or loved it; I didn't find anything about it special.
5. Calypso, dancehall and reggae music is giving me the energy I need to finish the workday.
america hates us or thinks we are a joke… why would any of you be suprised at how CNN is portraying us?
I cant think of another race in this nation with a worse leg to stand on right now than us, we are dead last in everything and still the butt end of every joke, despite being here from the very beginning. The god damn mexicans are below us on the totem pole, but at least they have Family values to fall back on and are twice as hard working as we have been in years…. decades. And at least america just thinks mexicans are not educated yet… they dont actually clutch their purses when mexi's walk past.
I was walking in new brunswick today, just 5 hours ago. They have totally redone new brunswick and zoned out the black "hood" and thrown up expensive condo's and townhouses (which is good) Im out after the gym in a tank top and shorts just grabing a bite to eat. A group of 4 mexican teenagers goes walking down the street. and I am behind them. We come up on a group of white people… do you know the white people walked THROUGH the group of mexicans like they wont even there but parted like the red sea when I came behind them?
Ya society still sees us black men as monsters and black women as evil vile sherry palmers and omorosas and we are a total joke that dosent have any real punch line.
so why be supprised about CNN's take
My rant is strictly directed to myself:
1. Why am I so tolerant of the bullshit.
2. I find that the older I am getting…the more accomodating I am to others. Or is that just me settling, letting shit roll of my back and/or being lazy?
3. I went to Maryland last Friday…was suppose to be there until Monday morning…why did I just get back today…or rather Friday…a full 7 days later. I'mma sucker mutherfucker…I swear on that.
4. I finally found my new place in Ft. Washington…I'll be an official Maryland-ite come Aug. 8th…so why did I get back in to NYC …back on my block…back in my apartment and don't ever want to think about leaving NYC?
5. Why do I think I have a better chance of finding a man and getting married in NYC than I do in the DC metro area? And why does my "man" think I am about to be aggressively approached by black men in the DC metro area… Granted, while he was sitting in the back of the car while I was driving…4 men tried to get at me while I was at a stop light. But…doesn't that happen to all women…everywhere…Maryland ain't special!
6. And why when I tell ppl I have a "man"…I feel like I have to put MY MAN in parathesis? Like he is the I-Can't-Believe-It's-Not-Butter of boyfriends… or he's my man on the half-shell…or like he's a psuedo man…or like I am to commitment shy to actually call him my man without feeling a little bit like…a deer caught in headlights.
6. And now when I have actually been published…I ain't even wanna do the leg work…book signings? Seriously??!! I mean…the only damn reason I write is because I am too lazy to actually get up and do some real work…never thought it was gonna be talking to ppl.
7. Why do I complain about these loud ass ghetto Harlem bastards that sit out on their stoops until 5-fucking-AM…….I love my people!!!!
My Rants….
1. do you actually look at your bill before you call us? Because if you did and you knew how to read you wouldnt have to complain to me about being on hold for 20 minutes so i could make you feel like an idiot when i point out the obvious
2. Why do you keep texting me? You have a wifey. I told you that you made a choice and it was her. You could have chose me you didn't. Move on. Leave me alone. You sayou dont want to lose my friendship so stop asking for me to be a booty call again. we are past that.
3. $250.00 for not changing lanes so i wasnt right next to the officer that had someone pulled over – there were cars next to me i couldn't change lanes. and for the last time I DON'T DRINK NO YOU CAN'T PERFORM A FIELD SOBRIETY TEST.
4. THANK YOU TO ALL THE GHETTO PEOPLE IN MADISON that DID NOT cause drama at the Hip-hop show last night. Ya'll complain they don't bring enough live hip-hop shows to Madison but that's your fault for always shootin someone outside the club when they do. Maybe Madison wouldn't treat hip-hop artists like they are the devil and the enemy if ya'll could do something other than act a fool at the shows.
5. Why do i spend my day answering questions for people who have been here 3xs as long as i have about processes that haven't changed in 10 years?
6. I really wish my dry spell would end.
I think that is all I have for now. I may add more later.
blah blah…
thats cuz dating up around our age is so sketchy.
Its not as serious as far as going out and first dates and talking to people…. dating two and three people at the same time isnt as bad as it would be at any other age. but its also more serious because you have to be more withdrawn and less comitted because your stakes are higher since we are older.
So because everything is so sketchy its like… Umm titles and things like saying my man or my girlfriend are so… like Iffy and feels wrong.
My thing about dating is to make sure you establish that fact that your going out on dates and declare it as dates.. but beyond that. I just dont ask questions, dont make any assumptions. Talking about the direction or rules of a relationship can actually do more damage than good… so I just leave titles and rules out of it.
@HNIC…i'm kinda late but I think I agree with you on #44…just so damn sketchy
well think about how it is for me….
the last time I dated, Bill Clinton was known for blowing his sax and not for getting blown.
I have never picked up a woman in my life last woman I met was in a classroom, and I loved her from the moment I saw her (dont mean to sound corny but dizzam shorty had it goin on) so all these kinds of dates where people KINDA like you or date you because your a great match on paper, are alien to me.
I have been slowly trying out new things and learning the ropes of dating at this age, but the rules and expectancies are ENTIRELY seperate from dating at the "dating" age. Thats why I am puzzeled when Tiffy says Im the "same age" at 30 as SBM is dating at 25…. that dating scene changes drastically in those 5ish years.
I think at 22 if I was dating 2 women I would be a slut. But at 32 If I go out on a 2nd date with a woman and decide to stop calling anyone else and throw my black book away, Id be a fucking fool. Ive been on 47 first dates this year, and I can count on my hand how many 3rd dates if had from a woman who didnt just want sex or someone to take them to a certain occasion.
The problem is, when is the change over from "just going on dates" to "OMG YOUR MY BOO" since people are so busy and the stakes are so high you cant expect everyone to go "all in" with their chips.
Like I have been dating miss ER for 6 months now, and last night her parents threw us a party, introducing us as a couple to their friends. In 2 weeks they want to meet my mother and all of us have brunch together.
while Miss May after 6 months still only wanted to see me once per week and kept reinforcing that we were "just dating."
if only there was a rulebook or something.
@ HNIC: Problem is…I've been "dating" "my man" for 13 months…and he sorta claims me as his lady… Well, you know how men are…lol He claims me as his lady around his guy friends and I am "my friend" when intorduced to his female friends…
Used to bother me…but…fuck it. It's gonna be what it's gonna be…all I can do is to try and be prepared.
It's not like this shit is brand new to me…I've been here before…part of dating.
He's a good guy…just never really gonna be MY guy. Not quite sure I am life-time material at this point anyway. I still godda little asshole-ish ways left in me.
But for now…I'm like whatever…it is what it is and if I were a little more concerned…I'm sure someone would be asked politely to…leave me the fuck alone.
But for now, I am not reaching for anyone else… we'll see how this plays out…seeing as how HE picked out my house…10 minutes away from his house in Maryland
Thanks for the input.
you know how men are????
I know how men are portrayed in movies…. I know how they would have us look in black romance novels…
I know how men were in the 80's and 90's.
But oh contrair mon ami, its actually the sista for the most part thats the commitment phobic "this is my friend"
Hell if I was dating a woman who "kinda liked me"…. and trust me, thats every sista I have dated this year except miss alaska, I would introduce her as "my friend" as well. If I "go all in with my chips" and forsake getting all other pussy …. da fuk am I gonna do when you decide to flake out and "upgrade" to a better option?
Thats why I say just dont talk about rules and stuff, because your 13 months with him sound like my entire 6 months with "miss may". But I would ASSuME if he picked out your house not far from his and you know where he lives that you could perhaps ASSuME your boyfriend and girlfriend?????
ya this shit is new to me. but long as it works for you gurlfriend, "go on head and go on head" I know I am a master of not rockin the boat as long as it floats.
Hey Ya
Remember last week when I mentioned how I refused to go on a second date with a friend. Well I took up Breelicious and Teacia advice and actually was on dat date. If I can rewind a bit……I also mentioned that i was unemployed and desperately seeking one. So my date and I decided to met..on my arrival……..30mins late…… she claimed she was hungry,…..so we went to a nice Thai restaurant for some grub……after which we dashed to the movies to see "HANCOCK"……."so wack". Now pay attention…….. I paid for the food, drinks and the movies,…..Her ice cream desert,…..no flowers,..sorry. and we chilled at the park. Sort of like the same scenario on our first date. {She never volunteered a penny}…..you see….. At this time she was getting me excited, and i wondered if she was aware. So I asked her to go back to my spot with me, she said no that I would want to make a move on her….{urgh}.. SEE…I have told her that I really like, which was really hard for me, because usually females do that……SHe says she likes me too but really not ready for anything serious. Thats fine, but can i get some for now……….LOL…….. I tell her dat all the time…WHy? She has a beautiful body and I am Horny.
But after the second date and more telephone conversations. I now realize more and more how she really is not my type and i don't see the two of us together in the long run. Not dat I just want to hit and run, it's just that we don't have enough in common and she's just not on my level. I find myself cutting her off when she calls and lie about how I have someone else on the other line.
Oh….Two days after the date, which was a Tuesday. She told me she was going to the movies again with some dude{Friend}. Well I thought….Eventhough she tells me everything as she claims…..she shouldn't have told me she was going out to the movies with another guy. She should at least kept that a secret from me. That really turned me off about the girl.
So how do I hit that without dates or commitments or rather loosing our friendship?
Hmm………….Seems like 99 problems!
*Do real marriages exist…….or people just pretend to be together for the childrens sake.
*At what age do females realize they need to settle down and not be a nuisance?
*Do all females cherish designer clothes and the flashy life???…..but cant afford it.
*Are black folks still blinded by material things and the fast lane, murders over a blingout chain, and shootouts by police on negroes?
What do we cherish???????????????? This land….. America..While waiting for Obama…….or blackness?
My thoughts!
happy bday mayne…… Where oh where r u? Did u marry teech? Is a blog name change in order? LOL
Lion…what's up dude…sorry to hear about ole girl…then again not really. Yeah she sounds a mess, knows you're unemployed…and still hit you up for the evening out on your expense…yeah that's just durty. I say play her to the left, she'll get jealous because she's no longer the center of attention…and either do something drastic like throw herself at you to get back on the same level again or move on…but unfortunately there are no other options to this one…then again, remember what goes around comes around…and karma holds no bars. I just say let it ride and put your energy and scheming into something a little more productive…like employment(embellished resume much?)…and maybe even find a decent chic. good luck mister.
Lion… stop speakin realness or you will be new public enemy.
Remember when black folk was known for not having money or education… but being good people who have tight loving families? remember when we took pride in how we looked and were regarded as an athletic race but now we are a race of fat asses and lazy wanna be con artist?
I dont know when women figure out they have to settle down… but I do notice some 35 yo sistas I have dated were still on the "bitch queen" vibe… while I have met some older women who are ,,,,, just happy to have a man around to be nice to them…. I dunno when they crack and get real, but I wish the age was lower. Truth be told, many educated sistas I have run into this year or that are in my family, would rather stay single than to couple and have a man "ruin" their fabulous sex in the city lifestyle.
what do we cherish? ourseelves and our image…. but not image in a goodway of self pride, image as in I want others to envy me.
attack any black person and the first thing they go into is their resume and pedigree… but never what type of person they are or what they do for others.
I take back some of my comments………..it was out of anger HNIC……..
I know better…………
@SBM, if you wanna check out a "screw show" on the radio, check out kbxx.com on sunday night around 8 or 9 (central) I think. You can stream the entire set. Goes Hard!
Lion…. nigga PLEASE!
you on the internet….. no need to appologize about tellin it like it is.
wanna know why your angry? being denied ….. being forsaken. To have your hard earned money wasted for anothers gain with no justification or reason behind it other than that they COULD and DID.
kinda reminds you of being black in america dosent it??
now… real talk. Wanna know what I would do if I were you? GO nail any one of the 2948340 older white women who are dying to be in bed with a young black lion such as yourself. (dont give me that "but I dont know where to find one" line either, we all know how to find the cougars)
Now once you have cougar stank stank on you, ones mind will not be filled with baby batter and you will not make rash and rather impetuous decisions.
remember… women, and especialy certain sistas, want whats not easy. Kinda like the struggle of being black spills over into their need for a love life… its twisted, I know… but its a relativity.
go back and read my stories of me and "miss may" or "miss alaska." I treated miss may like the girl was platnium and at the time I made 30k a year. EVERY night was 40 40 club night with this one.
Miss Alaska? pfft yeah I just left ol girls house. I didnt sleep with my first sista until 3 weeks ago after 11 months of dating around. Miss Alaska wanted NOTHING to do with my happy loveable black ass when she met me (but I still got the number) or on our first date (she told me I wasnt her type) nor after I sent her follow up text msg weeks later and surprised her with a bouquet Orchids delivered to her job(I believe the reply was I was "barking up the wrong tree" and referred to me as creepy)
So I took my creepy ass elsewhere. I kid you not… 3 months later, she spots me at a local spot and walks right past and only says "hi" when I smile at her. The rest of the night was spent with her neck craned lookin at blue 6ft Green eyes w/ Blonde Hair down to her trampstamp AKA "black mans cryptonite" talkin to me.
She got agitated at me for "talkin to the white girl" and cused me out for an hour on the phone… but sent me a text to come over after it was all over….
make a long story short. Miss Alaska currently fuks the hell out of me AND cooks for me every time I go over there now. She even admits I paid "too much" attention to her at first and she missed it when it was gone. and said I seemed less desperate and more "confidant" than I was in the spring.
So now that you know you are angry
and you know you have not been treated like you want
and you have not been awarded the respect you deserve
what do you plan to do about it?
be an ameriCAN or an ameriCANT?
HNIC: Actually…Dude and I know whats what and where we stand…
As I often do…I am over thinking alot of shit that is very very unnecessary.
I could flow with the current… but then I wouldn't be contradictory and hypocritical with some sociopath tendencies..and then I wouldn't be fun to know one at all…
So I allow myself the room to be irrational sometimes…and thank goodness…he does too…just lke I tolerate his double-standard ass ways. We work together for now.
As for… Well, you know how men are…lol…
Notice the LOL at the end… that usually indicates a tongue in cheek comment…not to be taken literally…so don't jump on me about all the good men out there and it's us women that do them wrong song.
As I have stated, 90% of the men I have dated have been very good men.
I'm with you baby, not against you
@Lion…yeah, that chic you dated sounds like a no go, sorry buddy…it's good you're recoginizing that early on and not trying to force it…btw, whose idea was it to go out to eat AND to the movies? You really should have steered that date into a different direction…a free concert in the park, a cup of coffee and some good conversation, grab an ice cream cone and take a walk, an art exhibit, something. It would've saved you money and it wouldn't have been a cliche' date. But I'm with Teacia, she sounds a bit…lame.
I wouldnt date a chick so fat she could eat ice cream… much less dinner AND ice cream LOL.
Blah blah. My antenna must be up, cuz I am feelin everything you sayin girl. Especially on the sociopathic part… I had an illumination the other week and noticed I have somehow gone from a doorstop to a sociopath somehow over the past year. We wouldnt wanna be that way, we want to be good black people and not niggas.
Lion my brotha… Im tellin ya. 38 year old white woman… seriously brotha. Shes at her sexual peak and will prob be over her "I hate all men they must be out to get me" phase and just want a nice man to keep her bed warm SOMETIMES. you wouldnt even have to be around her all the time… just enough to keep you regular and not have to put up with crap from women you are trying to date.