The Coochie Crook

Come everyone … come close as I recant a tale of randomness from the days of yore.  Maybe you’ll learn something … or just laugh your ass off.

I love Atlanta!

I mean I was so so so close to moving there after graduation (I stayed for money … but think I should have gone at times) that up to a year later people were asking me “So how do you like the ‘A’?” I go when I get a chance and love to spend time down there.

I convinced two of my friends to make a trip down with me to experience the craziness that are the strip clubs, the clubs, and the women in the south.  After months of “I don’t got money (even thought these sorry n***s are just as overpaid as me) we jump into a rented Dodge Magnum and prepare for a 10 hour drive into one of the livest cities of the south.  This is going to be a good weekend.

After visits to Morehouse & Spellman, Magic City, Midtown, Atlanta Underground, and the unforgettable “Club Crunk” … we find ourselves enjoying a night out in a club in the relatively upscale Buckhead.  Its me, Anomaly (yeah … the non-pussy eating mofo), El, and Swole (who’s really not that swole) and we’re enjoying ourselves.

I’m on the dance floor fondling some pretty lil southerner as whatever Lil Jon, David Banner, crunk song plays in the background.  All of a sudden El is tapping me in my side (a cardinal sin while putting it on some chic) and makes it known I need to follow him. El is a genius with no common sense, but always interesting. Without a mere utterance to my partner, I quickly leave thinking “He must have found some chicks ready to go”.

He leads me to the balcony area and I find two women and one guy chilling.  He quickly introduces me to everyone, but it’s only one person I’m interested in.  A relatively cute looking 20 something in what appeared to be white spandex pants, cornrows with red highlights, and a tattoo of a cherry on her chest.  In DC, I would keep it moving … but we’re not in DC.

El is telling me about how this guy is a fellow Alpha, but … I just don’t care at this moment.  I’m focused.  Now the small talk starts.

**Wipe Me Down plays in the background**
“I love this song!” I muttered slurred while starting to move
“You like to dance?” My new target asks.
“That’s why I came down here.  Women in DC don’t really dance.”
“Then lets dance”

For the next 2 hours I spend copious amounts of time with this female.  Learning about where she is from, where she is staying, why she visited Atlanta … all that good stuff.  We laugh.  We dance.  I hustle a free drink and give it to her.  I leave … I come back. We talk more … you know … the usual.  For some odd reason El stays close and I dismiss him multiple times, but I don’t let it phase me.

The night is coming to an end and the club is closing.  I look around to find her and see her against the wall with a rose in her hand.

“Damn” I mutter too myself. “Some motherf***er is trying to undo my work”

But … this is SBM.

I run over and catch the rose guy as he prepares to stop working.  Some swift talking gets me a rose … and a second rose at a 80% off discount.  I run back over to my target for the night.

“I know you got one rose … but I know two is better”

She smiles at her gift.  We exchange numbers and I ask her what she is doing immediately after the club … with a purpose in mind.  I’m laughed for my forwardness and told “I’ll call you”

DAMN!  Awww well … I had fun.

Long story short … in an hour … my phone rings.

Longer story short … I leave my friends with the car keys and GPS and say “I’ll find a way home” (We’re leaving the next morning at 8am BTW).

Even longer story short … I had a good time in the “A” after finding vacancy at the Park Hyatt downtown.  I stumble home minutes before leaving … grinning.

In the car on the way back:
“So what happened?” Swole asks
“I got into to her car, she didn’t want to go back to her friends place.” I reply.
“Man … El was pissed.” Anomaly chimes in.
“Why would he be mad?  I mean … some girl play him?” I chuckle.
“Uhhhhh … no n***a! You took the girl he was trying to talk to.” Anomaly says
“Me?” I respond bewildered.
“Yeah you! Who you think bought her that rose?” Swole informs me

Damn … I didn’t even know.

So I call El (who lived in Atlanta) and apologize.  I had no idea he was trying to talk to the same girl.  Apparently he had bought her like 2 drinks and had been talking to her well before me.  I guess I kinda stole the girl right from under him.

Luckily … we’re guys.  He said he didn’t mind and wasn’t mad.  We still joke about it to this day.

So … moral of the story … call dibs!

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  • http://blackfemmefatale.wordpress.com jolie fatale

    ok. this has happened to me. I say LABEL THEM NAGGAS ( i was actually gonna write a post on this cause it happened to me at a party actually with Mr. Serta as comeback likes to call him) I say everyone go to office depot pick up the colored dots and label your potentials in the room ever so subtley with your DOT. That way my drunk a8s wont accidently talk to the man you have been pining over that I will prolly not give two shats about next month.

    SO as a PSA: LABEL THEM NAGGAS!

    @sbm: your level of cheapness in this post has gone to A WHOLE NOTHA LEVEL! Get it together son. Get it together

  • Akua

    @jolie…i am sooo agreeing with u sbm, what's up boo? a lil stingy? lol…

    Good morning everyone.

    if u don't hear this from anyone else today……love u!

  • Breelicious

    lol, cute story.

    @jolie…HAHAH…LMAO, girl you are so funny

    You folks have a good day!

  • Nicki Sunshine

    Fun times. Have a beautiful day everybody. :)

  • Humble_One

    @SBM

    "I hustle a free drink and give it to her."
    "Some swift talking gets me a rose … and a second rose at a 80% off discount."

    Are you sure you aren't from Detroit? East Side? Linwood? It's crazy how you are on the same s**t me and some of my boys are.

  • Ms. Freckles

    Are you serious? lol. So I mean what… are women pieces of meat that you men call dibs on? Like seriously? lmao.

    *shaking my head*

    tisk tisk tisk. At least you had fun!

  • Teacia

    Lawd Humble please don't claim that level of cheapness.

    Sad so sad, but definitely a cute story.

    Me and my girls usually call dibs, but since we're the woman in the situation if the man shows a interest in one of your friends, you gotta let it go and keep it moving.

    So cheap SBM, and to think not much has changed since then…lol.

  • http://unknowndiva.blogspot.com keish

    @sbm-lmao that was funny but that's his fault for takin u away from the chick u were dancin with in the first place.
    oh yeah n i like how u hustle to make sure chick got a few things 2 make her feel u even though u cheap. lol c if it's like that, i wouldnt mind a dude being cheap cuz that way i don't have to know about it lol

  • http://www.thecomebackgirl.com The Comeback Girl

    @ Jolie "Mr. Serta as comeback likes to call him)"

    I actually think I prefer Mr. Memory Foam. lol either or would work though.

    @ SBM …again my eyes are failing me…is THIS post actually titled Coochie Crook??????????????????

    LOL wow…

  • Humble_One

    @Teacia
    "Lawd Humble please don’t claim that level of cheapness."

    I'm not that bad. I would have paid a little more for the flowers. That aside we need cats like him to battle the simps and tricks because they outnumber us greatly.

  • Jac

    I might be losing respect…

    My friends and I usually do a little telescoping then a little microscoping and then decide. Even if it means switching spots and moving about.

    Comeback, I had to grab my glasses…I thought I might be loooosing it.

    Tisk tisk.

  • http://www.MrSwagger.com Johnny McFly (MrSwag

    @SBM, Your not being cheap you're just trying to get the discount and nothings wrong with that. As long as your not a cheapo with your ladies then it's not a problem but remember simping is forbidden.

    @The Ladies, Do you see a problem with guys calling dibs cause everyone does it to some level, just a simple statement to your people like "Yo, you see her, I'm bout to go in and holla" So he knows to back off unless she plays the hell out of you but thats a different story

    -JM
    MrSwagger.com

  • Humble_One

    @SBM

    Why didnt your homeboy move on to another woman? I am pretty sure there were more to choose from.

  • Jac

    @Humble-Good point.

    Because if he knew you were dancing, macking and buying drinks then he should have moved on? Or is it like let me see who can mack more? Enlighten me please.

  • Antidater

    What happened to homies over hoes? Lol

    Good story. I have copped a cooch or 2 or 3 or more when out and about. I guess it sucks (for my friend) when we are both looking at the same girl but she just wants her some Anti.

    Jolie's DOT system could work…but its actually up to the woman to choose first…so DOTing may be in vain.

  • http://www.thecomebackgirl.com The Comeback Girl

    "Why didnt your homeboy move on to another woman? I am pretty sure there were more to choose from."

    it appears when you spend more than $1.50 on a woman (excluding tap water) she's as good as bought.

    my price…1 cosmo LOL

  • http://www.singleblackmale.org SBM

    I'm cheap because I have the gift of gab and can effectively hustle?

    I went up to buy her a drink and managed to swindle it from the bar after waiting for 5 minutes to pay for the drink. She thought it was cute.

    The roses were way overpriced as usual. I went to buy one, then saw I only had cash for another one at a steep discount. A little of wheeling and dealing helped me achieve my goal.

    Damn ya'll are some hating ass haters!

  • http://www.blackfemmefatale.wordpress.com jolie fatale

    Has no one picked up in this story that the woman was less than UNSAVORY!? I mean the description alone made me question SBM and his taste circa (whatever year this happened) We all know he has stepped his game up since then BUT uh. SBM what were you thinking!?!?!?

    "A relatively cute looking 20 something in what appeared to be white spandex pants, cornrows with red highlights, and a tattoo of a cherry on her chest"

    YUCK!

  • http://www.blackfemmefatale.wordpress.com jolie fatale

    @SBM: we learned to hate FROM YOU :)

  • Jac

    @Comeback "my price….1 Cosmo" Chick you too much…Mine's one French 75…Well no I'm lying…I drink soo…maybe 3 yep 3

    @SBM-Well say that shat then…don't be letting folks hate on you when it ain't true. But I mean you know I gotta say don't ever tell me you stole a drink for me…tell me you left a dollar bill on the counter or something.

  • Jac

    @Jolie-I decided to overlook that…sounds like one of Humble's hoodrats and eyyy they serve a purpose.

    Man…she's definitely not that spottieottiedopalscious angel.

  • http://www.thecomebackgirl.com The Comeback Girl

    Well I be Dam#ned we aint "hatin @zz haters" ? are we LOL

    @ Jolie I agree. her description alone leads me to believe she may have worked at the mall?

  • http://www.singleblackmale.org SBM

    @Jac: She was the one who said (in a country accent) "Well is he aint trying to git his money … lets take our asses on then".

    @Jolie: I might have given you the intro to hating … but you went on for that PhD on your own. And yes, my standards have gone up since then … but I was out of town so it doesn't count!

  • http://www.thecomebackgirl.com The Comeback Girl

    something;s telling me that this cautionary tale is from circa —late spring/this summer. LOL

  • http://www.myspace.com/donteacia Teacia

    @Johnny: "As long as your not a cheapo with your ladies then it’s not a problem…"

    …do you even READ this blog, lol.

    @Jolie: yeah, the description wasn't exactly "you had me at hello" material…but hey he was in the A' for a weekend of unsavory fun and he seemed to find his jumpoff so all's well that ends well.

    @SBM: "I’m cheap because I have the gift of gab and can effectively hustle?"

    …or yo ass is just cheap, don't run from it, embrace your inner cheapdom.

    @Jac: spottieottiedopalicious angel used to be my myspace name last year when I was dating this guy in the A'…ahh the memories.

    @Bree: man now I REALLY want to come this weekend, but it's also my nephew's 1st bday and I just can't miss it. :-(

  • HNIC

    I remember back in the day when we had to ask for a girls number…. ahh memories. and now we have to beat women off with a stick.

    I love how you stole the coochie…. but hold up, buying her two roses after she already has one? thats it, im hittin you with a sipin flag.
    I dont buy anything for a woman I dont know. least you got to hit, and that mark on the bedpost is always the most important thing.

    but if your an evil sum bish like me, the most enjoyable part would have been that you left ol country boy dumbfounded as you poured haterade all on his game and took his skins right out of his arms.
    damn thats classic shiz. so evil, so bold, I give it two thumbs up.

  • Jac

    @Teacia-I don't think Johnny was here until this minute.

    Girl….damn damn damn damn…that song is amaaaazing…..

    I wanna go to the A too!

  • Jac

    Come to think of it did this girl look like she could have been in the so cold out here in the D video?

    Sounds like it.

  • http://www.sheliagoss.com/blog Shelia

    SBM not trying to throw salt into your game but do you guys ever think if you can sleep with a woman you just met at a club, that something might not be right on her end. I know there are condoms, but what if the condom breaks–men don't think that these one nighters can end up being lifers.

    But alls well that ends well since that was a story from sometime ago. :)

  • Jac

    @Shelia-I agree, I feel like if she sleeps with you on the first night she'll probably sleep with someone else on the first night too. And I don't mean six months ago, but like last night. I remember when I first came to college they told us for every one person you sleep with it's not just that one person but 64, because you have to factor who each person's been with and that's at 18 I hate to know the number when you're 25. Sad to say it, but we gotta be careful…

    Okay…back out of serious mode.

  • http://www.blackfemmefatale.wordpress.com jolie fatale

    @shelia: COSIGN! Thats why I brought it up. She sounded skanktankerous! And skanktankerous aint always the cleanest and especially since SBM is a self proclaimed p*ssy monster.

  • http://www.thecomebackgirl.com The Comeback Girl

    Shelia thats apart of the fantansy..its the club. The escape. Whereeverybody is disease free. Has a job. Lives alone. Been single for months (some YEARS). Never married.

    home girl was the cornrow with red highlights mythical unicorn. For a night she was everything and anything he wanted her to be. cause if you stealing coochie, she better be.

  • No More Heroes

    @Sheila: Something may not be right on a womans end whether you sleep with her on day one or day 100.

  • http://www.thecomebackgirl.com The Comeback Girl

    today is going to be a funny day. But i gotta work.

  • Cuzzo

    Good Morning folks!

    You didn't steal anything dude…if Miss Cherry wanted to talk to your homeboy and not you, she could have – no matter what your attempts were. She was just not that into him.

  • http://www.blackfemmefatale.wordpress.com jolie fatale

    @comeback

    "home girl was the cornrow with red highlights mythical unicorn"

    HAAHAHAHAHAHA i might use that phrase.

  • http://www.thecomebackgirl.com The Comeback Girl

    @ No More…but lets keep it really real. Are you more likely to find something "not right" at a club or checking for a fellow volunteer at the "boys and girls" club.

    good people are …where good things are.

  • Cuzzo

    @ SBM – so you love ATL because…

  • No More Heroes

    @comeback: Doesnt matter. People are who they are regardless of their work/hobbies/location/whatever. I know people who first met their husbands/wives at the club. I know women who were raised conservatively, college educated and church going, who will be down for a four-on-one bangout session if you ask. There is no "good woman coffee bar" to my knowledge.

  • Jac

    Comeback, girl you have me rolling over here.

    @NoMore-Hi hun, missed ya…how ya been? And you're sort of right women and men can be shady all along…just think about downlow brothas and such…they're like governors and ish…who probably do good things..there's a flip side to every coin, but this…club thing…too much. But I'm educated and classy and all that jazz…but you know what they say..lady in streets, freak in the bed.

    Mythical unicorn…LMFAO

  • Cuzzo

    Weren't we supposed to be talking about backshots today? Or is it still too early?

    @ Humble – did you send SBM those topic suggestions?

  • http://thereal7.blogspot.com Britt

    LMAO @ dibs.

  • Jac

    @Cuzzo-I was waiting on you girl…backshots I was ready for…I started last night the discussion I mean…maybe we can start in an hour?

  • Cuzzo

    @Jac-y talking like yoda u? lol

    ok. an hour. I think we should begin with a definition.

  • http://www.thecomebackgirl.com The Comeback Girl

    "@comeback: Doesnt matter. People are who they are regardless of their work/hobbies/location/whatever"

    TOTALLY TOTALLY disagree with the few exceptions you mentioned. A person essentially IS the friend(s)/hobby (not the one they got yesterday)/ philanthropic company they keep.

    I;ve ALWAYS heard that if you wanna meet a good man/woman go where people are DOING GOOD THINGS. And for me thats always been true.

  • http://www.thecomebackgirl.com The Comeback Girl

    why is it cold outside.

  • Cuzzo

    @ Comeback – it's Fall.

  • J

    @cuzzo-It means I am scatterbrained and maybe late for work…or I am being a mischief maker..? Can we start without Humble?

  • No More Heroes

    @Jac: Missed you too, im well and how are you?

    @comeback: I guess its all relative to your perception of "good". For example, in this story I wouldnt say the girl who SBM left with isnt a "good" woman just because she gave him some on the first night.

  • Akua

    ok I'm back…i was procrastinating on this research paper…lol

    @ comeback I agree in a way postive begets positive in speaking in the terms of karma. and while I have yet to meet a worthwhile man in the club. I have met some who have turned into kryptonite.

    but on the other hand i've never met a worthwhile man at church either. their mostly hypocrites who are full of shi*…lol.

    now at the gym…i met a wonderful man…if only he was into women!!

  • http://www.sheliagoss.com/blog Shelia

    Jac, exactly. If you look at it like that, it'll make you stop and think before jumping into bed with someone.

    Jolie, she did sound kind of skanktankerous (the unofficial word for today).

    TheComebackGirl – one thing about a fantasy–you have to face reality sooner or later.

    No More Heroes – at least at day 100 you should have a better idea of who you're dealing with. If you don't, then you shouldn't be sleeping with her.

  • http://flawedthoughts.blogspot.com Jac

    @NoMore-I am wonderful…all glowy and relaxed on my end…about to hit this desk :) and work…yep. I do work. Are you an engineer just like all the other ones?

    @Akua-If only he was into women loll…

  • http://www.myspace.com/donteacia Teacia

    So I work at a college and the President sends out quotes everyday via email to faculty and staff, and she calls them 212 degrees.

    The one today:

    As I grow older, I pay less attention to what men say. I just watch what they do.
    – Andrew Carnegie

    …she is obviously a black woman, lol.

  • Akua

    @sheila: skanktankterous!!! LOL… I love it..its like a hooker/dinosaur…lol!!!!

  • Akua

    @ teacia: I read acts of faith daily affirmations everyday…im so suprised how on point they are.

    quote: I must be the change I want to see reflected onto the world – mahatma ghandi

  • http://www.myspace.com/donteacia Teacia

    @Akua: So true, that's why I even put all that energy into BMAD. I figured that the change had to start somewhere and eventually it will catch on and be reciprocated, but as of late I've become a little discouraged by that notion.

  • http://www.thecomebackgirl.com The Comeback Girl

    @ Akua..you noticed I didn't mention the church. I have very strong feelings about some of the player players up in there. As for the kryptonite…maybe other things were clouding the judgement. I don't think "he did a switcher roo" is a fair argument over the age of say 25. Like I've said before. People out the gate don't show their @zz…they've been moonin you..givin you @zz crack that you've refused to see along the way.

  • Alisa

    So it's me y'all..

    Umm..yeah the church is full of predators. You have to be SO careful…

    A smile and a Bible do not constitute goodness.

  • No More Heroes

    @Jac: I previously was an engineer. I now work in information technology, which ironically makes me do more engineering than i did previously.

  • Akua

    @comeback: my meaning of kryptonite is basically saying the loving is soooooooo good…but he's so bad for you!!!! makes u want to be like so what u live with ur momma and have 7 kids…lol. I hate kryptonite!

  • http://www.blackfemmefatale.wordpress.com jolie fatale

    IS this PLACE ..sbm.net full of BLACK ENGINEERS? Is this the mecca? Have a I found the mountain top?

    JK JK JK

    If this place wasnt so annoymous it would be a good networking spot .. Whats next SBM: SBM Networking.net?

  • Nicki Sunshine

    @Teacia: "As I grow older, I pay less attention to what men say. I just watch what they do.
    – Andrew Carnegie"

    Thanks for sharing that quote.. adding to the signatures NOW. LOVES IT

  • Kara

    "As I grow older, I pay less attention to what men say. I just watch what they do.

    – Andrew Carnegie”

    Clearly this needs to be tha daily mantra…..Maybe this equals to a bullshit free life…

  • Humble_One

    @jolie

    "Has no one picked up in this story that the woman was less than UNSAVORY!? I mean the description alone made me question SBM and his taste circa (whatever year this happened) We all know he has stepped his game up since then BUT uh. SBM what were you thinking!?!?!?"

    Hoodrats are very underrated. They do serve a purpose.

  • Teacia

    @Kara: It has been permanently engrained in my mind.

    @Jolie: It seems that way, you'd think he posted an admin link at the top that said only male black engineers could comment…or maybe there's more out there than we realize, or better yet maybe engineers are the only ones who work in front of a computer, with little to do and time on their hands to blog during the day…lol.

    Whereas the fieldhand types(oooh lawd) don't have time or the access to do so little during the day.

  • http://www.thecomebackgirl.com The Comeback Girl

    I mean the description alone made me question SBM and his taste circa (whatever year this happened)

    @ humble..let me help you. circa June or July 08

  • http://www.thecomebackgirl.com The Comeback Girl

    "or better yet maybe engineers are the only ones who work in front of a computer, with little to do and time on their hands to blog during the day…"

    yeah those mntce windows when errybody's @zz is sleep are a doozy.

  • Akua

    @teacia give me a construction worker, a man in uniform, or just anyman who works doing hard physical labor all day…amen!!! lol.

    let me rub ur back daddy…i know your tired…massa had u slaving in the field all day… lol I love it. they don't want to go to the opera or the ballet with me (has been my experience) but they sure are fun to look at!!

  • Humble_One

    "As I grow older, I pay less attention to what men say. I just watch what they do."

    I find this funny. When I was younger I took mad L's keeping it real with some women. It seems like some women get upset and are turned off if you dontr tell them what they want to hear. If I feed you bulls**t all day i'm in like flynn. If I keep it real then you're not feeling me. I've been dissed a few times for a dude that was feeding women B.S.

  • http://bourgieadventures.wordpress.com Bourgie, Esq.

    Um, I have nothing to say about scooping your boy's kill. That happens. He should have been more proactive or at least said "That's me, fam."

    I'm just disgusted you perpetrated the same lame move your boy El did… buying flowers from the Flower Man in the club.
    HAHAHAHA!
    Matter of fact, you were doubly wack for copping two.

  • Jac

    Love it.

    @NoMore-Had to switch up for work…Wow..Engineering is hotness…Do you info-tech more?

    @Tea-I love the quote, but I'm busy with work :(

  • Akua

    @humble: in like flynn? I haven't heard that in ages…lol

    its a double edged swors because u can say women love to be bs'd and I can say men love to be treated like crap it seems like if u cuss em out or ignore them is when they are on u the most.

  • Humble_One

    @Teacia
    "Whereas the fieldhand types(oooh lawd) don’t have time or the access to do so little during the day."

    My background is skilled trades. Depending on the work or job you still find time to B.S. Man I miss technical work.

  • Teacia

    @Akua: "they don’t want to go to the opera or the ballet with me (has been my experience) but they sure are fun to look at!!"

    AMEN gurl!!! I once found this dude who was tasty on the outside and intelligent and cultural on the inside. Too bad it didn't work out, got a kid out of the deal though, lol…i kid, i kid(well kinda). He lacks good common sense though, *sigh*…if only common sense was common.

  • Nicki Sunshine

    @Humble: find this funny. When I was younger I took mad L’s keeping it real with some women. It seems like some women get upset and are turned off if you dontr tell them what they want to hear. If I feed you bulls**t all day i’m in like flynn. If I keep it real then you’re not feeling me. I’ve been dissed a few times for a dude that was feeding women B.S."

    Also, I think the key phrase in your statement is "when I was younger." I think we've all changed from when we were younger… heck, I went for rough necks (wow, that word) in Timbs and pagers and big chains… now I want an educated brother with a real JOB!

    I've honestly gotten taken from both ways, listening to what someone is telling you AND by being excited by a man's actions towards you (thinking he's your man when he has not clearly stated just because he "acts" like it) so you just have to be patient and be quiet. A fool will come out eventually.

  • Akua

    @teacia I had one too beautifully designed highly intelligent good in bed and bi-polar as hell!!!

    I'm feeling u on the common sense thing. it should be given out as a shot when they are children!!!

  • Teacia

    @Humble: "It seems like some women get upset and are turned off if you dontr tell them what they want to hear. If I feed you bulls**t all day i’m in like flynn. If I keep it real then you’re not feeling me. I’ve been dissed a few times for a dude that was feeding women B.S."

    …the key to the quote is "As I get older…" When you're young and not wise to who you are what you need in life, you'll allow yourself to indulge in what others say to you. But as you get older you put away the foolishness and judge by action alone.

    If you say you love me, but treat me like a deep discount chic you just met in the club I'm going to bounce.

    The beauty of life is that we live, we learn, and we grow.

  • http://whatdcpeoplehate.blogspot.com true2me

    some of yall gotta be like 21, 22 and what not

    Im 30..and while I dont know everything….I do agree with no more heros

    you can find great women/men in the club and you can find scandolous men/women in church including the ministers

    I dont consider myself a "slut" or "bad catch" or whatever, and I do go to the club from time to time…so Im not goin to assume that all the guys there are sluts and whores ..even tho their intent (most likely but not always) is to get some a$$, some genuinely want to just chill and enjoy the scene

    You can't limit yourself like that

    u never know

  • Humble_One

    The blue collar love is different. I always thought women didnt care too much for us. Blue collar work isn't glamorous, prestigeous, or high status. Only dudes that have done the work or work with us can appreciate what we do. When you go to work with a tie or dockers people automatically make assumptions about you. I figured women just saw us as grease monkeys. Hell, i've been called a grease monkey a few times.

  • http://www.thecomebackgirl.com The Comeback Girl

    I agree with Humble somewhat here. Relationships are built on LIES and FAIRY DUST, with grown @zz people. So age is only a sticking point to a few of us ladies on this blog.

  • Jac

    I agree with Nicki…I think you have to grow into the person you are. I don't think any of us woke up and were just perfect and grown.

  • http://whatdcpeoplehate.blogspot.com true2me

    post 69 @ humble

    I think you are damned if you do ..and damned if you dont..like myself

    However, you'll feel better being honest. Let the person make the choice

  • No More Heroes

    @Jac: The engineering part of my job comes into play at problem solving. I have to access computer/network issues and figure out how to solve whatever it is that needs solving. At my previous job I was more hands on, designing/building the actual parts and models that we needed to build.

    I dont tell women what they want to hear, I tell them how it is. Im actually entertained at their reaction when I tell them the exact opposite of what they want to hear. But i agree, you do sacrifice some potential booty by being that way smetimes.

  • Teacia

    @Humble: You know what Humble, in my opinion blue collar workers make the BEST mates. These men are the ones who have to find for everything they have every inch of the way and they treat their woman the same. I've noticed that although I enjoy certain comforts my happiest times were with men who work at warehouses 12 hours a day, they did everything in their power to keep me happy for the most part.

    My reasoning for leaving was either the lack of ambition or just bad habits that men pick up in warehouses like smoking and excessive drinking. I swear it's so hard to find a mate with the right balance of what you need and what you want. It seems like something always loses out.

  • http://www.thecomebackgirl.com The Comeback Girl

    humble how many damn@n jobs you got. One day your an engineer at a desk…and the next day your "EVERYMAN" which one are you???

    im not knockin blue collar…skilled labor paid my tuition for 16+ years. just askin.

  • Cuzzo

    @ Humble – but monkey's are cute.

  • http://whatdcpeoplehate.blogspot.com true2me

    post 49@ heros

    I agree..I have given some on the first night to my husband, and another BF of 3 years

    lol..so nah..that dont mean she is "bad"

  • Humble_One

    @true2me
    "you can find great women/men in the club and you can find scandolous men/women in church including the ministers"

    I agree. The problem I see is that a lot of people are one dimensional. So if you all are about volunteering in the communtiy then all you are about is that. Same with museums, going to clubs, church, etc. Some people have different interests while others are basically what you see is what you get.

  • http://whatdcpeoplehate.blogspot.com true2me

    @ humble

    I love the blue collar worker dudes

    They dont have an "image" to maintain, I feel I can be myself, and they dont do a lot of pretending

    Then again..I dont have a preference..Im so past all that…

    Just love and accept me

  • Humble_One

    @Comeback
    I was a millwright/electrician, machinist, and tool maker for 8 years. I've been at a desk for 3 years.

  • http://whatdcpeoplehate.blogspot.com true2me

    jac and nicki

    u are right..none of us are perfect..setting all these "high standards", limiting ourselves with this and that, saying a "good" man/woman dont do this or that

    life is life..people live them, experiment, make mistakes, learn from them etc

    you can't hold that against them

    No one comes into this world "perfect" already no matter how hard they try to portray that image

  • Humble_One

    @Cuzzo
    "but monkey’s are cute"

    I am a grown a*s man. Nothing is cute about me. I am rough and tough.

  • http://whatdcpeoplehate.blogspot.com true2me

    #75 @ nicki

    amen…

    Actions speak much louder….MUCH MUCH louder…U become less tolerable as you get older

  • http://www.thecomebackgirl.com The Comeback Girl

    "@Comeback

    I was a millwright/electrician, machinist, and tool maker for 8 years. I’ve been at a desk for 3 years."

    so you can make cabinants, dressers, restore things etc…***takes humbles hand*** would you like to be Mr. Comeback Boy???

  • Nicki Sunshine

    @true2me: "U become less tolerable as you get older."

    Amen. I am so quick to walk away from MESS.. it is simply not that serious to stick around for drama and not being treated the way you want to.

  • http://www.thecomebackgirl.com The Comeback Girl

    @ true…aint nobody sayin people are perfect. With age you bring "things" to the table some negotiable others not so negotiable…everybody's "well suited" is different. As it should be.

    but the liklihood of meeting your husband at a club while dancin to "pop that coochie" is pretty slim.

    the law of attraction is still in affect here…you attract who you are and what you are ready for.

  • Jac

    @Humble-???? So…yeah.

    @NoMore-Wow…sounds like you're having lots of technical fun over there. I think if I were doing what you're doing I would mess something up for sure. Outside of being a technical engineer (this is what I'm calling it) what do you do for fun?

    @true-Man, I love your theories and philosophies…you're so on point on so many different things.

    Beyond that, I think I am an overall good person. I go to clubs, I go to church, I volunteer, hell I even give money to charities…I'm a good person, now there's someone out there just like me whose probably terrible.

  • http://www.thecomebackgirl.com The Comeback Girl

    …everybody wants to play the victim angel…"how could she/he do that to me"…it was apart of your rite of passage..you either got the lesson or you repeated with someone else until the pain taught the hard @zz and equally hard head.

  • http://www.blackfemmefatale.wordpress.com jolie fatale

    @true2me: her actions werent skanktankerous but her OUTFIT and her CHerry tripping breast tattoo were!

  • Jac

    Comeback-"…everybody wants to play the victim angel…”how could she/he do that to me”…it was apart of your rite of passage..you either got the lesson or you repeated with someone else until the pain taught the hard @zz and equally hard head."

    AMEN

  • HNIC

    so wait, let me get this straight. A successful, good looking black man who has his shit together can scoop up a young black female, and not only get her to have sex with him without spending money on her he also shows superior game in taking her away from another dude….

    and now you wanna throw salt on his game and say "omg there must have been something wrong with that chick"

    he is a twentysomething single black male. I dont think he was out to look for miss perfect. he was getting his fun in. applaud him for being billy dee williams jr that he is.

    its not like we have a blog full of saints, scout leaders, people who have been in committed relationships for the last 10 years, and mothers who stay home and read to their children insted of going out to the club. Im quite sure there are some tattoos and glass high heels in someones closet.

    less h8ters
    more lovers plz

  • Humble_One

    @Comeback

    "it was apart of your rite of passage..you either got the lesson or you repeated with someone else until the pain taught the hard @zz and equally hard head."

    Cosign. I would also like to add that if you keep blaming the teacher for you failing then maybe you need to look at yourself.

  • http://whatdcpeoplehate.blogspot.com true2me

    #96 @ comeback

    Maybe said girl felt like poppin her coochie that night and dude felt like dancing

    I wouldn't say that he/she isn't boyfriend/girlfriend material just because she decided to let loose for one night

    thats just too…well…judgemental and snobby if you ask me

    Geez some of yall are harsh

  • http://flawedthoughts.blogspot.com Jac

    @True-You're right. Every now and again I go out and get loose…but I wouldn't say it makes me a bad person and you know now that I think about it sometimes there's that person in the club who is just there to chill and kick it with friends…nothing more.

    Beyond that, had SBM left off her physical description I don't think any of us would be mad.

  • http://www.thecomebackgirl.com The Comeback Girl

    These are my personal truths and some truths step on people's choos. Its not like, Truth you've ever come on here and dropped knowledge that was a little …well…acerbic. Alot of SBM's posts touch on some parts of me (and others)…that aren't terribly nice.

    But sometimes things resonate. I may check it..or he may be wrong as hel@l. But you're supposed to be examining about your life.

    its not all gonna be one big fyck Stepford (your word) fest

  • http://www.honeydevereaux.blogspot.com Ms. Devereaux

    HA! That is a funny story. I do this with my friends sometimes. Only during those RARE occasions were we are digging the same guy.

  • lenabean

    Damn … it's rough, sometimes, though.

  • http://www.idatewhite.com Eathan

    A rose guy? They still got them in the club? Personally, I'm not the rose type. But if you rolling with ya boyz.. everyone knows who got dibz.

  • HNIC

    if sbm wouldnt have given a description people just would have assumed what she looked like or found something else.
    i mean , seriously.

    if I sleep with a woman who is pedigreed and rich I get called a gigolo. SBM hooks up with a sweet young "tender-roni" hes pickin up "strays" or hoes. We cant win.

    but I seriously endorse single black men under 27 going for quantity and variation… and not quality. lets you focus better when you get older if you can always say been there, done that. And lets not forget…. scoring coochie does wonders for that black male ego, which tends to be our largest weakness other than money.

  • HNIC

    how would "dibs" work?

    when I was single back in the day, the motto was "never cross the streams" (ghostbusters) and no chick I ever dated was allowed to date or mess with any of my boys and vice versa. but now that I am out here in 2008 it seems to have changed. Quite a few of the women I have dated this year also seem attracted to my other friends that have similar stats to me, so how can I tell you that you cant hollar at a woman who could be a good match for you and also be a good match for me?

    when out at the lounges. can you honestly fault a woman for getting BOTH you and your mans card at the 30 somethin dating age? Id call a 20something a scandalous freak but at 30 your lookin harder and the dating pool is thinner so I tend to try and be less needy about my "rites" to a woman until I have "claimed" her.

    we need to write a black male rulebook… forget the calendar.

  • http://www.singleblackmale.org SBM

    In reference to my "choice in women" … It was one time (not that there hasn't been worst). I mean … can a guy get a break!

    Also, who said anything about sex? I will neither confirm nor deny what happened that night, but the story remains valid either way.

    El would have stood a chance if he just had more common sense. There were just key things he messed up on. But he is still my friend nonetheless. He lives in Madison, WI now.

  • http://www.singleblackmale.org SBM

    @Hasani: You should read the black femme fatale's blog and the post on "Man Law". What you are saying has been talked about over there you started out like me … but ended up sounding like her.

    @Jolie: Can we get a link?

  • http://www.singleblackmale.org SBM

    @Comeback: About the name of the post … I was also thinking about the p*ssy pilferer, but it had too many syllables for my taste

  • Humble_One

    @HNIC & SBM

    I have noticed that some women will jump from a dude to one of his boys easily. Thats something dudes wont do. When a dude does it the woman is a jumpoff. Women if you were with a guy and now you are with his friend. It is not a good look.

  • Teacia

    I see things are back to normal around here.

    Happy Belated B-day Sani baby!

  • http://www.singleblackmale.org SBM

    @Humble: I agree. Jumpoff's get passed around without though or discretion … but no one wants to bun up your friends ex. Something about being with her and then seeing his face in your head is very unsettling.

  • http://www.thecomebackgirl.com The Comeback Girl

    "but no one wants to bun up your friends ex. Something about being with her and then seeing his face in your head is very unsettling."

    wang residue perhaps..chapter 12 of man law.

  • http://flawedthoughts.blogspot.com Jac

    Hmmm…I think there's something to be said about men and women and how they do things differently. In a club setting I think men are more apt to spread around while women bunch up more…maybe this is why we see things differently.

  • http://www.thecomebackgirl.com The Comeback Girl

    ok so why am I over here listening to all the variations of "reading rainbow" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ApLTDoJea2Q

    what and the hel@l is wrong with me.

  • Humble_One

    @SBM

    " I agree. Jumpoff’s get passed around without though or discretion … but no one wants to bun up your friends ex. Something about being with her and then seeing his face in your head is very unsettling."

    Word. There is no way I am going to have you as my woman if my man has smutted you out. I am amazed at how women can be a dude's jumpoff and be in a relationship with his friend with no problem. You may not be mad close to a dude but if you are cool with him and kicked it with him a few times his woman is off limits unless she was a jumpoff.

  • http://flawedthoughts.blogspot.com Jac

    "Smutted you out"

    Gawd…I'm just…this is too much for even me.

    Eyyy Cuzzo. Where you at boo?

  • http://www.singleblackmale.org SBM

    @Humble: Yeah … once your smutted out by someone in the group you get that scarlet letter and can never be more than a smut.

    I didn't know they said smutted in the D … thought that was a DC term.

    @Jac: Too much for you … hmmmm … makes me wonder.

  • Cuzzo

    @ Jac – here I am. had a lunch date.

    I wouldn't want to date anyone that any of my friends has slept with – no matter the nature of their relationship (an ex-BF or jumpoff) – bleh! And, I wouldn't hook any of my friends up with anyone that I've slept with.

  • No More Heroes

    I know someone who married a girl that was smutted out by one of his boys. We laugh at him.

  • Cuzzo

    @ folks – Do you ever divulge the bedroom antics of you and your SO with your friends?

    Sometimes you can't help it cuz it's so good you want to shout it from the mountain tops. But I would only tell my BFF cuz some women are trifling and want to test the waters for themselves.

  • http://flawedthoughts.blogspot.com Jac

    @Cuzzo-Hey girl…I'm trying to finish my work and head to class.

    @NoMore-That word again…goodness.

    @SBM-Well darling…for personal reasons and let's leave it that.

  • http://www.thecomebackgirl.com The Comeback Girl

    my eye is on FIRE…

    @ cuzzo..im not sure why maybe im not asking the right questions but the sexau@al details just don't come up in most of my friends conversations. And I;ve never been like "and then he leaned me over and then and then".

  • Cuzzo

    ok Comeback – nothing to the effect of he's packing or has a hurricane tongue?

    how about just someone you are dating and do not know where it's going yet? would u say anything about that situation?

  • http://www.blackfemmefatale.wordpress.com jolie fatale
  • http://www.singleblackmale.org SBM

    @Cuzzo: Generally I share rather intimate and specific details with my close circle of friends. Some things that are done I keep secret and when the person is really important (to the point they might be meeting said friends) I'll say less … but generally all is open for discussion. From the head game, to the perkiness of nipples, down to any arch in the back.

  • Teacia

    Ok so parts of today's conversation even I can't swallow, but let's be real…this whole "man law" thing is just the male ego at work.

    If you're seeing a chic and it doesn't work out, but you have a friend that she will instantly connect with and he with her the only reason to not hook them up would be to preserve your young and fragile ego.

    I've been there done that, and that's why I like the way white people date. You will see them exchange partners like 3 or 4 times until they get the dynamics right and everyone is happy, but not in our community.

    I've dated a dude and there was no real spark, but invited my best friend out with us just to make sure, they hit it off, albeit they were definitely respectful throughout the entire outing I could just tell. They had more in common and seem to have a chemical attraction that we lacked. The next day I gave them both permission to see one another…2 years later they're still together and I'm sure he's a heartbeat away from proposing.

  • http://www.blackfemmefatale.wordpress.com jolie fatale

    @teacia:

    Girl after my own lil heart… see you UNDERSTAND .. you arent all SENSI like men and their damn EGOS

  • http://www.blackfemmefatale.wordpress.com jolie fatale

    @cuzzo 125: I agree you should only tell your BFF because you should NEVER tell another woman what your man has to offer because as soon as you turn your back that batch might be trying to get him to break HERS! Just saying

  • Teacia

    Now flip it:

    I dated a guy a few years back, we were intimate but our friendship grew past a sexual relationship so we stopped sleeping together. Last year in Tally for Homecoming we were all out, his boy was really feeling me, so he introduced us and we hit it off. At frist the notion bothered me a bit, but life is too short to worry about who came first(i draw the line at brothers though). And honestly if it weren't for my stubborness earlier this year we'd probably still be hitting it off.

    But I'm still friends with both of them, and if I put my pride aside could be even better friends with the latter. When you respect someone and their feelings and you want for them to be happy you put your ego and pride aside.

    Never have I been disrespected by either of them, and because my friend is in a happy relationship he encourages me to date his homeboy b/c he really thinks he can make me happy if I had a little patience.

    I guess there just need to be a passage period for some, like a few years or something. Would you really tell your friend that they couldn't date someone b/c you slept with them 6 years ago and it didn't go anywhere, that's a bit much don't you think?

  • HNIC

    My jumpoff is my jumpoff. I dont share but then again nobody else is single so I dont have to really worry about it :)

    some women just seem to be more "competitive" and abbarent than men. Im not gonna hear your jump off has nice boobs and then spend the next 5 months plotting to get her in bed, where as women will do that, and even to friends.

    I think the worst thing I have done this year was have a woman break up with me and I started dating and making public appearances with her "rival" out of spite.

    But in 31 years on the planed I have never dated, hooked up with or had an "accident" with a woman any of my friends were with first or had ever been a jump off with.

  • http://www.blackfemmefatale.wordpress.com jolie fatale

    -@teacia:

    Would you really tell your friend that they couldn’t date someone b/c you slept with them 6 years ago and it didn’t go anywhere, that’s a bit much don’t you think?

    6 years is a long time. I would let my girl have the guy especially if I thought they could be successful where him and I failed.

  • http://www.thecomebackgirl.com The Comeback Girl

    "how about just someone you are dating and do not know where it’s going yet? would u say anything about that situation?"

    If you mean non-sexu@al info..i do this all the time. Still se!x im not mentioning blow by blow details. Im not sure if I've ever really done that. i gotta think. We might casually mention about stuff being good…but im not just gonna break out with specifics.

  • Teacia

    @Jolie: yes mam, I use that example all the time b/c it's perfect. If I had let my ego get in the way she could have missed out on her blessing. It's not that serious, if he isn't mine then he's fair game.

  • Humble_One

    @Cuzzo – If its your woman you dont say much. If it is a jumpoff friend with benefits etc. You will give more info. Any info shared is only with close friends. Only lames, herbs, L7s tell their info to anybody. I hate them dudes cause they mess it up for the next man.

    @Teacia – If you are just talking and it didnt get any further than that cool. But if your boy has beat it from every angle and kicked her out when he was done how can you take her serious? If a dude was in a long term relationship with a woman it is too many emotions involved and he smutted her out. Its awkward and kinda foul. Are you willing to date or be in a committed relationship with one of your female friends ex's or jumpoffs?

  • Teacia

    There are some exceptions, like the ones you still love and haven't completely gotten over…oh and baby mama/daddy. Yeah the kid thing kind of makes it a no go.

    I don't want to be with my daughter's father but I couldn't even imagine explaining to her why her "auntie" Erinn is sleeping in the same room with him.

  • HNIC

    thanks for the birthday shout outs. Was a long weekend. obviously I wanted to take a bunch of kids to hershey park for my birthday right? no moet', no greygoose, no strippers, no steak, no sex…. but a whole lot of carbs and kids!!
    I guess that is what gettin older is about. more duty, less booty.

    oh and I NEVER talk about sex with men.
    I hear my gal pals talk real grimy about what they do in bed with other gals. I think its ok with women, but I cant sit there as a grown ass man and listen to another grown ass man talk about and envision in's and out's of what went on in th bedroom. not only do guys not do it…. its also kina homo.

    Dudes will blabber and boast about everyone they slept with but keep it real basic
    "yeah…. I smashed son"

    Chicks will not tell as many people and will never boast, but will give you a total run down.
    "gurl the thangs he can do to a pussy Ima keep this one around"

    man law and ego are synonymous because we are prideful creatures at our core. especially black men. every man has some type of code and a way he wants to do things. I dont know what the female equivilant of a mans "honor" would be but I am sure theres a thing or two that makes no sense to us thats perfectly logical to them.

  • Teacia

    @Humble: " Are you willing to date or be in a committed relationship with one of your female friends ex’s or jumpoffs?"

    …uh yes, but only if she's okay with it. my aren't you men the attached type. you don't own the p*ssy, let it go.

    And why does it have to be so foul as to him kicking her out. We're all adults, you people don't engage in sex with consenting parties or something. Why can't two adults meet have sex, realize there's nothing there and move on. Besides one man's trash is another man's treasure.

    What if she was a good girl, and your man was doing her wrong and she left. If you saw her out and you guys hit it off you could honestly tell me that you would walk away b/c your friend is an idiot?

  • Teacia

    so i've decided to share this little jewel sent out to the philosophy club memebers:

    http://www.theonion.com/content/video/pre_game_co

    philosophy and football should NEVER mix, especially since i LOVE football, but this was funny as hell…who said that football players were just a bunch of dumb jocks

    NOT IN JACKSONVILLE!! …thank God we recovered though to beat Peyton Manning and them damn Colts this past Sunday!

  • Humble_One

    @Teacia
    "What if she was a good girl, and your man was doing her wrong and she left. If you saw her out and you guys hit it off you could honestly tell me that you would walk away b/c your friend is an idiot?"

    I have been in that situation before. You are right she was mad cool. Honestly I think she would have made a good girlfriend. When they weren't dealing with each other anymore she told him she liked me. He didn't care it was just p**sy to him. I could of been with her but, I couldn't do it. Some things are bigger than your feelings.

  • Teacia

    @Humble: "I have been in that situation before. You are right she was mad cool. Honestly I think she would have made a good girlfriend. When they weren’t dealing with each other anymore she told him she liked me. He didn’t care it was just p**sy to him. I could of been with her but, I couldn’t do it. Some things are bigger than your feelings."

    …yeah like your tiny and fragile male ego. pride is the reason you have so much time to devote to this blog when you could be sharing these moments with the chic who "would" have made a good girlfriend.

    I mean really, very few people get it right the first time around…don't miss out on your blessings over foolishness my dear Humble sir.

  • Cuzzo

    well, DAYUM Tea. pull back the fangs.

  • http://www.thecomebackgirl.com The Comeback Girl

    regarding sharing being "caring" I can't get down with this at all…this is chick's chick law no1. You don't share past SO's/boyfriends…its just something you don't do.

    conversely…i really would "feel some kind of way" (philly style) about being with a man's buddy. First of all im judging dude's loyalty. Im judging his loyalty to me too. if he's cool with jumpin friends…might he also do the same with mine.

    maybe this is judgemental..but i need a man WITH VERY CLEAR BOUNDARIES. or i cant get down

  • Teacia

    @Cuzzo: i was only saying…lol, i didn't realize it sounded harsh.

    @Comeback: to each his own, i felt weird about it at first, but once i put aside my pride everything was cool until it crept back in. besides i had done the same thing prior, so how could i look at it any differently when it came to me.

    …furthermore, these are social stigmas that other races don't deal with, yet they're marriage rates are much higher than ours. i'm just saying maybe our way isn't that great after all…just maybe.

  • Fly JD/MBA Chic

    THANK YOU….I need that laugh !

  • http://www.thecomebackgirl.com The Comeback Girl

    " i’m just saying maybe our way isn’t that great after all…just maybe."

    yeah maybe you're right since loyalty and friendship and being a real chick's chick is rooted in our culture. Perhaps we should try "white man's law"

  • http://flawedthoughts.blogspot.com Jac

    Well…I will say this. I had a friend who was like in love with a guy, my other friend slept with him…she had NO claim but flipped out. I think each situation varies by the people in it. I personally don't want him if you've had him. Now due to my geographic location I have to say I've had a few that I've later found out that my friends had…in that case hell we all keeping shat on the low!

  • Humble_One

    @Teacia – I just can't do it. I know a guy that did this and none of us could look at the dude the same. I mean this women gave head to his boy in the classroom right before class, his friend gave her backshots here and there. And told him how it went down almost everytime they did something. After knowing all this he got in a long term relationship with her. Lived with her and everything. Are you telling me you could do this knowing the details of the previous person they were with?

  • Humble_One

    @Comeback
    "yeah maybe you’re right since loyalty and friendship and being a real chick’s chick is rooted in our culture. Perhaps we should try “white man’s law”"

    lol. Cosign. You're funny. White man's law has proven to be a*s backwards. I've seen white people do things to their friends that would be totally unacceptable in our community.

  • http://flawedthoughts.blogspot.com Jac

    Man, this is disgusting no way, no how can I ever in life be with a negro that one of my girls has been with for real, for real.

    Like I don't ever wanna be with my best friend's man I mean he's cute and all but they don't use condoms and I know where she's been and they mere thought is just eeeew.

  • http://flawedthoughts.blogspot.com Jac

    Duuude…the white people I know all switched around shat was nuts…like seriously wasn't she with your brother last week?

  • Teacia

    @Humble: case in point, kim kardashian, you guys idolize her and you constantly defend reggie bush for dating her, now all of this knowing full well that she f*cked Ray J and the whole world has seen it, so do knowing that she was someone's jumpoff and the details really matter or is it overlooked if the chic is a dime?

    …and you're boy was happy right, what his boys think won't keep him warm at night because this is his life.

    @Comeback: you know that's not what i'm talking about…i clearly stated that everyone consented to the relationships that took place, no loyalty was betrayed.

    but see it as you will, you're entitled and since i'm not in the mood for a full fledged battle today i will graciously bow out.

    good day all.

  • http://www.thecomebackgirl.com The Comeback Girl

    so with "dyck's law" you wait for everyone's consent??? any dycktational exceptions, what if his calls are going to voice mail. What if he's out of town. What if he went to Iraq and yall can't reach him right away.

  • http://www.singleblackmale.org SBM

    @Jac: Thank you for being one of the first females to speak on this with some sense (well … your not the first … but I decided to highlight you!).

  • http://www.singleblackmale.org SBM

    @Comeback: Lol at "dicks law". You made me laugh at work. I knew there was a reason I don't block you.

    Joking …

  • http://www.thecomebackgirl.com The Comeback Girl

    "your not the first … but I decided to highlight you!)."

    …yeah she would be 2nd. I been singing that song since slavery. dam@n.

  • http://flawedthoughts.blogspot.com Jac

    @Comeback-Your usage of the word dyck is exceptional.

    @SBM-Thank you darling. I try.

    @Humble-What happened to our backshots convo? Why don't you write the guest blog for Thursday?

  • http://www.thecomebackgirl.com The Comeback Girl

    i just called momdukes and was like holla holla holla holla holla holla holla holla …she almost cracked a gut.

  • Humble_One

    @Teacia – I do not codone Reggie Bush and Kim Kardashian. Only dudes with kamikaze d**ks cosign that. I dont care if you are a dime plus 10. If I am aware of the details of you being one of my boys jumpoff or a celebrity jumpoff on film I won't be in a relationship with you.

  • http://flawedthoughts.blogspot.com Jac

    Kamikaze d*cks. Fabulous. Just stick it in anything.

    Gosh I really gotta cosign Hummy here. Kim's fine as hell but come on. Then again when you have a s#x tape everyone knows so how would she ever find a man.

  • http://www.thecomebackgirl.com The Comeback Girl

    reggie and ray j were buddies???

  • http://www.thecomebackgirl.com The Comeback Girl

    if this is the case. and I don'tthink so..all 3 of them are out of order

  • http://flawedthoughts.blogspot.com Jac

    @comeback-Exactly girl…tell it.

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    Poor MAMA Comeback!

  • http://flawedthoughts.blogspot.com Jac

    Why is the blog lagging a bit today? Where's Bree? BREEEEEEE!

  • http://www.thecomebackgirl.com The Comeback Girl

    Mama Comeback is actually pretty siked that she can still hold her own with most young 20 somethings…but acutally got good sense like a young 30 something…good nite sleep tight, dont let the bed bugs bite lol :)

  • HNIC

    Humble think about it like this

    if you date someone that used to date anyone you know. There will be a moment of akwardness when you have to be around eachother. if you are really friends, would you ever want your friend to feel uneasy?

    IM 31, and the dating pool is really thin. but the pool is not thin enough for me to make any of my hombres have anxiety for a woman…. theres more than enough women out here for you to date or sleep with that you dont have to share. I know theres more than enough in the 20 year old bracket.

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