Romantic Comedies … That bullsh*t

I hate romantic comedies.

I mean I really really hate these movies … and I’ve seen enough of them to justify my hatred.

Now … they aren’t bad to watch.  Sometimes you have good actors in funny situations that are actually humorous.  In terms of pure entertainment … while a lot of them are sappy chic flicks … there are some that were actually worth watching.  Obviously I find the African-American ones more interesting … but there is something inherently flawed with the entire genre.

Romantic Comedies perpetuate and encourage a false reality that doesn’t exist in this universe!

Basically … the sh*t is fake!

Where in the world besides these stupid a$$ movies does the guy always get the girl no matter how nerdy, dumb, broke, idiotic, or after giving up chance after chance at said prized girl.  In these movies there is usually some “problem” keeping the two people who want to be together from being with each other.  Through some laughs, and a few emotional moments … love always finds a way … and the movie ends with a shot of these two people kissing in each others embrace.

But there are a couple of things that are just never addressed:

We never see what happens after …

So we are to believe that although you stole this girl from your best friend … or that you broke up her 15 year marriage because you “realized” that you loved her … everything just ends happily ever after?  In a good amount of these movies … you have two people who honestly have no business being together.  They literally take a Sarah Palin supporter and Barack’s campaign manager … throw in some cancer and a cure … and suddenly they are in love.  Are we supposed to believe that these differences never come up again?  Are we gonna believe that when he comes home from the strip club smelling like “Chardonnay” … she is still so in love?

The guy always gets the girl

If this sh*t didn’t f*ck up my dating expectations for several years of my life … I don’t know what did.  You would have the shyest … nerdiest … “I nut my pants when she gets close” type of guy who manages to woo and win the star cheerleader.  In real life … you know that happens … the guy is a loser … and he doesn’t get Brenda the head cheerleader.  He gets Bertha … the chick from Band class who wheezes … while Brenda goes home with Bret … the wide receiver.

Love conquers all and no one needs to work

This is the single worst result of romantic comedies, fairy tales, romance novels, and Tyler Perry movies.  You know have all these people thinking “love will just find me and sweep me off my feet.  All I gotta do is pray and be there.”  There is rarely, if any, acknowledgment that it takes hard work and dedication to keep a relationship going.  This has made a large population of people incredibly lazy when it comes to love and relationships.  So sad …

There is only one benefit of one of the most asinine genre of movies (besides Kevin Smith’s gem that was Chasing Amy … although he didn’t get the girl) … and that is hope.  Yes … these stupid movies have been there to comfort after loses and help give hope to couples who will obviously break-up … they will have another 2 hours of happiness before the fight in the car ride home.

When I’m president … that’s gonna be the third thing to go (right after women who don’t give head and Soulja Boy Tell Em’).

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Comments

  1. V Renee says:

    The nerdy guy usually gets (or she wants him) Brenda the head cheerleader about 15 years after high school. When he's more "established", traded in the the Steve Urkel glasses for Prada glasses, hit the gym on the regular and has lined his pockets. So hope is still alive.

    I like romantic comedies though. They are as feasible as Will Smith saving the world by himself or Harry Potter finding the Sorcer's Stone or Rick Ross moving kilos on the regular (instead of being say a corrections officer). It's just entertainment.

  2. Everybody has their something. Romantic Comedies to women are what sports are to men. Most men are drawn to sports either because of a gradeschool/highschool/college past that will NEVER be revisted except through those Sunday-Monday interludes. Its HIS personal form of escape.

    Romantic comedies do something similiar with women. It allows us to dream about the possibilities. The serendipity of it all.

    I personally believe that romance COULD be more like romantic comedies–if people just got out of their own way. If they followed their intuition and their heart–and not the other anatomical stuff. We might all find out that there truly is a lid for every pot….it doesn't get any more "unrealistic" than that in my estimation.

    Additionally I'm encouraged how most romantic comedies really explore the natural order of courtship. USUALLY the man is the suitor. Not the woman. She isn't playing herself out, constant calls, texts and emails-particularly with the "right one". More women ought to pay attention to the natural rythm of alot of these movies. There "realer" at times than not.

  3. cont….I read alot on blogs how love is HARD WORK, ITS A STRUGGLE, ITS THE CONSTANT TOIL….that really is bull shyt to me. There are times where things are smooth…but not every piece of jewelry needs to be tried by the fire. Sometimes the constant toil exist with people who are not well suited for us.

    I'll take more of the smooth sailing myself.

  4. mikki AKA AnitraClar says:

    Its my birthday!! woooooooooooo

    ok bbl

  5. happy happy BDAY MIK. i was TRYNA edit my comment. And you boggarded…but its your bday..and you can do and say anything you want.

    within reason…lol

  6. Humble_One says:

    @Mikki – Happy Birthday!!!!

  7. @Mik: Happy Birthday girlie!

    I like some romantic comedies…. I can't stand the ones with Gabrielle Union in them, especially Daddys' Little Girls… I have not even watched it all the way through… that part in the car, where she's practicing and like, "take me home brother," gives me the chills!

    I'm more of a horror film girl.

  8. Humble_One says:

    "The guy always gets the girl"

    I agree. This has to be the one of the biggest farces. In these movies a dude never has to stay in his lane. If he simps and plays himself enough he will win.

    "Love conquers all and no one needs to work"

    I agree again. You can love someone and not like them. Love is the foundation but if you cant live with them than it won't work.

  9. Mikki aka Anitraclar says:

    Thank you guys!!

  10. I must admit my guilty pleasure is white teen comedy especially the romtantic bs ones. No they are not realistic at all but they do provide entertainment. And seeing silly BS for an hour and a half isn't so bad.

    -JM

  11. SBM says:

    @Mikki: Happy Birthday

    @Comeback: *sigh* … your one of them!!!

    And romantic comedies being compared to football … WTF.

    But you need to stop buying into the dream. Love is work … period.

  12. "Love is work … period."

    let me guess…its an "all and all out war out there".

    yes Romantic comedies are like football generally as it relates to the escape. I can't get into any more of the details than that cause I don't know shyt about football, other than it is NOT for women like me with A.D.D-too many stops and starts.

    And when I start to look at what kinna jewelery the women are wearing in the audience…its a wrap.

  13. SBM says:

    @Johnny: Say it aint so Phrat … say it aint so …

  14. yeah say it aint so cause white TEEN romantic comedies..thats a boarderline "how you doin" waitin to happen. Im sorry.

  15. Eathan says:

    @ Mikki Happy Birthday! Libras rule!

  16. @Mr. Swagger: what do you classify as a white teen romantic comedy? "Ten Things I Hate About You?"

  17. Mikki aka Anitraclar says:

    Ethan you know it!!!

  18. Cuzzo says:

    Good Morning Folks.

    Happy Birthday Mikki! I do not like romantic comedies either but, you are looking too deeply into what they portray. It's only a movie.

    Right On to getting rid of Soulja Boy – how about you just banish him from the world of music, I'm sure he'd make an entertaining clown at some kids party. So, don't throw him away all together.

  19. CPTCallamity says:

    I hate romantic comedies as well. There are a few that I find interesting but SBM is right…they always have happy endings, which I know damn well doesn't happen in real life.

    One of the more interesting ones I saw was "Love, Sex and Eating the Bones." It was shot in Canada and starred Hill Harper. He was a security guard who had dreams of being a photographer but he had one vice: He's addicted to porn. So of course he meets a beautiful woman and (you guessed it) porn eventually becomes their barrier.

    Although sappy, I found it entertaining. The only accurate thing I can say is there is always that one *sshole friend that tries to undo the love affair between the two protagonists.

  20. i just wanna say..before i get any hate posts …i was j/k with McFlyster and all their Fly compadres and Mc-phrats.

  21. Cuzzo says:

    @CPT

    I saw that movie with Hill Harper too! It was entertaining because it was different. I guess I would not consider it a romantic comedy because there wasn't a lot of spoof-type comedy in it. You get a lot of that over the top spoofy stuff in the white movies (or maybe i'm just thinking of Ben Stiller movies)

  22. qbcowgirl says:

    I think I agree with Comeback here that love shouldnt be work. And to me thats not to say that you are never going to have to put in effort or that you are never going to have to go through some rough patches… but if it is really love then it's not going to feel like work. if its really love and your heart is really in it… even if it is work you are gonna want to do it… so maybe we just feel that way because we havent found anyone worth puttin in the work for?

    and as far as romantic comedies go… yeah i would much rather watch a straight comedy…or football. lol.

  23. CPTCallamity says:

    Would Booty Call be considered a romantic comedy?

  24. "And to me thats not to say that you are never going to have to put in effort or that you are never going to have to go through some rough patches… but if it is really love then it’s not going to feel like work."

    ***AMEN*** and PTL (Praise the Lord) with popcorn watching the 700 club. When my man starts describing what we have as a J.O.B…..not a good look…but like everything else its perception. People's lives are created and destroyed by simple outlook and the application.

  25. V Renee says:

    I think Love, well really it's marriage that I think is work. It's work to keep from smacking the shyt out of your significant other, it's work to keep from walking out when things get bad, it's just work in general. Work at being true to yourself, while at the same time sometimes having to compromise. My parents have been married for 27 years. They love each other to death, but at the same time, it was work on both their parts to remain committed throughout the years. Just because one may love their job and feel passionate about it, at the same time it's still work.

  26. Mikki aka Anitraclar says:

    I am going to agree, with comeback and QB in that if you love that person it doesn't feel so much like work.

    I mean most of us have jobs and not careers am I right. I can for sure say if i was doing something I loved it would be work but i would get up everyday with a smile on my face loving what i do every hour, its the same thing in relationships

  27. I would like to think i have a career. And i labor over it sometimes. I play alot with yall too. but sometimes im up trying figure stuff out when most people counting sheep and lama.

    Maybe 27 years changes the game a little..but most romantic comedies aren't about 30 year relationships ("old people" aint sexy says hollywood)..so I can only go with the 20/30 something stuff i see and what this post is about.

    And i find it delightful. Alot of it is a little far fetched..it ties up all the pretty little bows neatly in under 240 minutes.

    but still the truth remains THAT there is a natural order to relationships. A man SHOULD show you his HAND and steer the ship. A woman SHOULDNT be confessing and professing via calls/texts/morse code etc how much she needs and wants him. Again in life as in tv (cause art imitiates life) it should be a measured dance.

    Not a full out tango with the woman runnin the whole show leadin him across the ballroom.

    And sometimes things do have a happy ending when people aren't trying to manipulate the situation with people they KNOW they aint gotta a bit of business to even be messin with, much less commencing a relationship.

  28. sometimes the contant toil/struggle/stress and strife is relationship karma for that hard headed @zz. tryna make it work in the name of ego and obligation.

  29. SBM says:

    What I am starting to see is a difference between it being work and it feeling like work. A good relationship will have you not caring about the effort you put forth to keep the other person happy … but your still working to keep the other person happy.

  30. "I mean most of us have jobs and not careers am I right. I can for sure say if i was doing something I loved it would be work but i would get up everyday with a smile on my face loving what i do every hour, its the same thing in relationships"

    And amen to that. Can't wait to find a career! And not drag arse to work.

  31. Tiara says:

    My favorite line from a romantic comedy, "I'm just a girl, standing in front of a guy, asking him to love me." And not surprisingly I have used it and delivered it with everything in me, but I'm extra so it's to be expected, lol.

    But Romantic Comedies give me hope…and not to find the perfect guy, or that everything will fall into place in the end, but it renews my faith in people and the ability to overcome insurmountable odds for the things that are really important to us. And love is important to me, so I'll gladly just hang on to that hope thank you very much.

    Great topic btw SBM.

  32. true says:

    I like romantic comedies…it give me hope that someone may actually love me THAT MUCH. I would love for some guy to just show up at my job or just I dont know, do some romantic guesture and profess his love for me.

    I really crave that…I mean…I dont feel "needed" or desired as it is (I have abandonment issues and crap like that)

    I know they take work..im not naive…I mean..but the basis that you just love someone so much you hang up your player card

    how are these movies different from the love songs we hear on the radio ?

  33. Tiara says:

    My favorite line from a romantic comedy, "I'm just a girl, standing in front of a guy, asking him to love me." And not surprisingly I have used it and delivered it with ever fiber in my being, but I'm extra so it's to be expected, lol.

    But romantic comedies give me hope…and not to find the perfect guy, or that everything will fall into place in the end, but it renews my faith in people and the ability to overcome insurmountable odds for the things that are really important to us. And love is important to me, so I'll gladly just hang on to that hope thank you very much.

    Great topic btw SBM.

  34. true says:

    I think I love my wife is a good one. It starts with a marraige that is boring and predictable, and it shows how married men are tempted..but in the end ..its not worth it

    I like the accurate description…

    and its a true story..I have seen that exact thing happen a few times

  35. Mikki aka Anitraclar says:

    My fav is sweet november, thats such a sad but sweet movie

  36. true says:

    what about these novels ( I read alot of urban drama books) that have the same time of vibe

    dude cheats on girl or is hustling too much..but he finally finds a woman he wants to fall for..and he lives happily every after

    same thing

    the thing is..this crap sells…and well, we still hope it will happen to us

  37. CPTCallamity says:

    If love and relationships are work then I'm sort of happy being unemployed right now. The way most people make it sound, love is painful either in the middle or the end.

  38. true says:

    YUP @ cpt

    All those cliche's

    love kills slowly

    love is never painless

    whats love got to do with it

    love don't love nobody

    they are all true

  39. true says:

    i can stop at pure infatuation…

    once you get to love..stuff gets hard

    but i still think there is some truth to the movies, books, and songs

    some truth

    and most of that truth is that people still hope..hope that true love in the highest form can exist

    and for some it has

  40. Jac says:

    I like them. I also like action.

    I'll watch almost anything.

    I need a drink.

    Let me go get me a cup and mix up this rum.

  41. true i love your cynical @zz..LOL.

    jac..please dont drink its barely noon.

  42. Jac says:

    Ok Comeback I won't

  43. true says:

    JAC

    I want a drank

    shoot

    I want some vodka tho

    I had some rum this weekend, mixed it with some sour mix

    and got really tipsy..lol..

    but I want some vodka..im sooo drinkin some this weekend

    Comeback..thanks I guess..if u mean it ;)

  44. Humble_One says:

    @Cuzzo
    "Right On to getting rid of Soulja Boy – how about you just banish him from the world of music, I’m sure he’d make an entertaining clown at some kids party. So, don’t throw him away all together."

    Dont front. I saw you doing the superman to young berg last week. lol

  45. true says:

    and men

    here is a clue

    u want some azz

    take ur girl to see a chick flick..she'll feel all lovey dovey and prolly sex ur azz crazy…lol

    these movies were never intended for men to really watch them and analyze anyway (no offense SBM) they are made so women get all sugary in the drawers and give up the goods

    lol

  46. true says:

    by the way..i would NEVER EVER subject my man to one of these movies

    i always watch them alone at home when i'm bored

    I would NEVER EVER make or even suggest we watch one of these movies together

    SBM..like..wtf..why u even have a clue about these types of movies anyway…who simped u into watching one?.(joking but im serious)

  47. "SBM..like..wtf..why u even have a clue about these types of movies anyway…who simped u into watching one"

    i think he be on the hush…goin an watchin by himself..posted up on the bed with some tissues catchin the vintage "when harry met sally", "you'ge got mail"..shyt like that.

    he aint foolin nobody.

  48. Humble_One says:

    @true
    "what about these novels ( I read alot of urban drama books) that have the same time of vibe

    dude cheats on girl or is hustling too much..but he finally finds a woman he wants to fall for..and he lives happily every after

    same thing

    the thing is..this crap sells…and well, we still hope it will happen to us"

    It seems like these are the only books that I see black women read. I call them "black woman cry" or "hood love fantasy" books. Sometimes I feel like finding a black woman that reads non-fiction is like finding a needle in a haystack.

  49. Shelia says:

    I love romantic comedies so much that I write them.

    The movies/stories offer a glimpse of hope and are meant to inspire and make you think of the possibilities. There are lessons to be learned. Unlike life, they have happy endings because otherwise who would want to go see them–they are entertaining. There are instances however where reality is stranger than fiction–you would be surprised.

    Mikki – Happy Birthday to you and many more!!!

  50. "It seems like these are the only books that I see black women read. I call them “black woman cry” or “hood love fantasy” books"

    LOL… I call them Hood Love too! I can't stand those books… I'm not hating but the grammatical mistakes drive me beserk… Now I do love some Coldest Winter Ever, but Sister Souldja is educated….

    I can't say I read non fiction… I have Barack's book and only made it to page 20…. I've got to do better. Heck if I want to learn something, I'll go read my school books. LOL.

    I'm using books to escape into something.

  51. why so serious? says:

    yo, i like the on topic talks hahahha

    i gotta chime in on this one If I was in "i think i love my wife" I woulda did keri washington. I'm sorry.

  52. Mikki aka Anitraclar says:

    Thank you Shelia!!!!

    I read a lot of non fictional books, about finance, any anything pertaining to bettering myself. The last book i had was "the art of war" for women, it talks about how to deal with people in the work place, n lawd knows i need help with that cuz i been wanting to smack some folks!

  53. true says:

    i read allt types of books…and am not ashamed that i read "hood books" cause, well, thats where I am from.

    they are entertaining

    point blank

    they don't say anything about how educated I am lol

  54. Hugh Jazz says:

    SBM: "When I’m president … that’s gonna be the third thing to go (right after women who don’t give head and Soulja Boy Tell Em’)."

    Eff Obama! SBM as a write-in on the ballot!

    Soulja Boy sounds like a retarded kid that stumbled upon his father's production equipment while he was at work.

    And while some romantic comedies are at least humorous, for the most part they are nothing but emotional porn for women. No matter how much we may not like it, love doesn't just show up. It is work, because love isn't a feeling that comes and goes. It's a decision. He may make you see sunshine and rainbows now, but what happens after the infatuation period is over?

  55. Hugh Jazz says:

    Why So: "i gotta chime in on this one If I was in “i think i love my wife” I woulda did keri washington. I’m sorry."

    If that isn't the Trench Coat test, I don't know what is. And the way Kerri Washington looked, I have to admit I would have failed the test. Horribly.

  56. Keri Washington was gorgeous but she is currently suffering from bobble head syndrome.

  57. Humble_One says:

    @true
    "i read allt types of books…and am not ashamed that i read “hood books” cause, well, thats where I am from.

    they are entertaining

    point blank

    they don’t say anything about how educated I am lol"

    I am from the hood too. But it seems that a lot of people are not diverse. I can watch Half Baked and C-Span. From what I see most people are not like that. Most women I see that read Zane are not going to read Sun Tzu or Howard Zinn.

  58. Mikki aka Anitraclar says:

    lmao Nicki how do you know she got bobble head? she been hanging with gabby?

  59. Mikki aka Anitraclar says:

    "From what I see most people are not like that. Most women I see that read Zane are not going to read Sun Tzu or Howard Zinn"

    Humble check #51 son!!!

  60. "lmao Nicki how do you know she got bobble head? she been hanging with gabby?"

    LOL. I meant that look these Hollywood girls are getting because they've gotten all skinny and frail but their head is the same size.

  61. "I am from the hood too. But it seems that a lot of people are not diverse. I can watch Half Baked and C-Span. From what I see most people are not like that. Most women I see that read Zane are not going to read Sun Tzu or Howard Zinn."

    Hum…you been drinkin on some Anti spirits..leapin and boundin all over the place. I think you are totally wrong. Alot of people I personally know are very diverse. LEt's face it life is not all Zane and its NOT all CSPAN either. You need some tom fu$$kery to make life sweet.

  62. KevinD says:

    I think i love my wife was right on. Sometimes marriage is hard but true love will win (most of the time), but time will test that love. I would have failed the Keri test for sure with a quickness.

  63. Mikki aka Anitraclar says:

    amen comeback and well i cant help that i like the family guy and south park thats all the diversity i need right there!!!

    lol

    well Nicki im not sure which bobble head is worse lol

  64. SBM says:

    @True: Thanks for being another love cynic who I can identify with. I generally hate love and all it stands for … but that's a topic for another day.

    And while romantic comedies are supposed to get your woman in the mood and ready to go home and put it on you … all it really does is have her thinking "Why aint this sorry ass n***a like Omar Epps! He don't look as good and he aint doing stuff like him." Now I got dry balls and a mad gf/cut buddy/FwB.

    And the books are probably even worst.

    @Comeback: I have been forced to watch a lot of these movies … what can I say. If I invite someone over to "watch a movie" … I don't care what we watch. Hell … a movie I hate is better because then I really won't care when I only see the first 15 minutes of it.

  65. "a movie I hate is better because then I really won’t care when I only see the first 15 minutes of it"

    SIR, what are you doing for the other hour and 45 minutes??? LOL. Are you one of those stop.no.don't guys… gotta keep slapping hands away!

  66. Humble_One says:

    @Mikki – you get mad point for reading Sun Tzu. And I LOVE the family guy.

    @Comeback

    "I think you are totally wrong. Alot of people I personally know are very diverse. LEt’s face it life is not all Zane and its NOT all CSPAN either. You need some tom fu$$kery to make life sweet."

    I agree. Nothing wrong with Party & Bulls**t. I wish I could say that I have met a lot of people that read Zane, watch reality tv, 106 and Park, and can discuss the affects of colonialism. I'm not saying there aren't people like that. It's just that I haven't met them.

  67. Mik I need you to tell me what that other bobblehead means in our off topics spot.

  68. Mikki aka Anitraclar says:

    "I'm not saying there aren't people like that. It's just that I haven't met them"

    and humble thats why you have us!!!

    *Smiles*

  69. SBM says:

    @Hugh Jazz & Kevin D: Yeah … I hate to admit it but I was actually yelling at the screen "Do it … motherf****r Do It!" … and then proceeded to scoff rather loudly when he ran out.

    Pretty much in addition to the extreme fineness of Kerry … the wife became enemy #1 after he admitted to not having sex in like a year (or however long).

  70. SBM says:

    I feel Humble … I don't feel like you find that mix of smart and stupid that makes life grand.

  71. KevinD says:

    OK ladies, y a brotha gotta do the Omar crap and don't get the Keri in return. WTH

  72. Shelia says:

    "i still think there is some truth to the movies, books, and songs

    some truth

    and most of that truth is that people still hope..hope that true love in the highest form can exist

    and for some it has"

    So true – TRUE. There's hardly a story told that doesn't have some truth in it somewhere for somebody—it might not be your truth, but it's somebody's.

    It seems like these are the only books that I see black women read. I call them “black woman cry” or “hood love fantasy” books

    Although I don't write what some consider "hood books," I do like to read across genres—whether its a book by a black author or white author.

    Since we're talking about books (sorry for the shameless plug SBM), but my main characters mostly are average women working in corporate America and they deal with the same issues most middle income folks have to deal with—whether it's business or personal. I think that's the appeal to my core audience because most of the people I know aren't living the "hood" life but the middle class life (which if we don't get some tax relief, we're going to all be in the poor house…but that's another topic.) I also portray three dimensional characters and I don't male bash. The guys who have read my books are very surprised how the male leads are portrayed because they are so used to seeing themselves in a negative light.

  73. SBM says:

    @Kevin D: You got a good point. In hindsight, "Why did I get Married?"

    was really a crippling blow to men and being happily married. He ended up doing all this extra crap to keep his wife happy, ended the movie with still dry balls, and left Keri Washington laying by herself in that sexy ass corset.

    Naw man … now I'm mad

  74. true says:

    who doesn't like family guy

    thats the best show

    south park as well

    however i haven't been watching much tv since I borrowed my bf's cousin's Assassin Creed :-[

    I can't wait to get home and play it as we speak

  75. Help me out Kevin: "OK ladies, y a brotha gotta do the Omar crap and don’t get the Keri in return. "

    I haven't seen the movie. Please explain!

  76. true says:

    oh…and for the record

    I hate love…I HATE IT

    I dont fully know if I believe in it..but the idea of it is real nice

    yeah…the idea

  77. @True: The Family guy is the BESSST!

  78. true says:

    should I print a walkthrough for The Assassin game?

    oh..and regarding "I think I love my wife"

    Did anyone see Kerry's Vaginal Fluids on her drawers when they were takin them off?

    was I the only one????

    O GAWD..:(

  79. "I hate love…I HATE IT"

    @ true ..so how is Mr. bartender working out? just curious.

  80. No More Heroes says:

    @True: What!?!? I've been avoiding watching that movie, but now..

  81. true says:

    yeah NO MORE HEROS…it was some vaginal secretions..nothing abnormal looking..just wow..i thought they would edit it out. I even paused the movie and blankstared it :|

    Comeback….Same ole Same ole with him….

    Nicki- I stay up late during the week just to watch the repeats…it makes me miss married with children..lol

  82. "I stay up late during the week just to watch the repeats"

    LOL. I dvr it which is just as bad…. :)

  83. true says:

    i dont know if its love moreso addiction, dependence or just super infatuation

    but most "love" we have for people isn't really love at all..what most people love is the idea or some surface shit like buying me a purse..lol

    I mean tho

    the thing about love is that people expect love to be perfect

    when you have kids..they dont turn out perfect, but you love them anyway

    they talk back, sometimes say hateful things, disobey you, break the rules…

    same thing happens in romantic love

    yet…we are supposed to "walk away" from someone we are "in love" with when they make a mistake …..but we can't from our kids (I mean we can..my mom did, but thats another story)

    okay..so..yeah…stop lookin for perfection when it comes to love (even parental child love)

    there is a diff between loving someone for who they are vs what they can do for you…

    You love your kids..well..cause they are your kids…you love your mom cause she is your mom (I always loved mine no matter what)

    sorry I compared the two..but true love to me..is like not being able to live without them…and there is no greater love than someone for their mom, dad, children, family, best friend..etc..why can't the say apply to love

    why can't we forgive romantic love's mistakes as much as we can a family member

    just a thought

    I dunno

    sorry for carrying on

    but yeah..I hate love..LOVE HURTS and SCARS and make you WEAK and DUMB

    thats all

    lol

  84. true says:

    beyonce's new song makes me want to jump double dutch..i dont like it …….yet…i guess if they play it enough..i'll make myself like it while super drunk

  85. true says:

    SBM

    Oh well he made his life choice and he should live with them

    People should get like 5 years of counseling before they decide to permanently attach themselves to one another

    I'll never be going that route again

    nope..not I

  86. Humble_One says:

    @true

    "Did anyone see Kerry’s Vaginal Fluids on her drawers when they were takin them off?"

    Why are you going to make me check the next time this is on HBO? I didnt notice it when I saw the movie.

    After reading your post #82 and reading about you playing video games and being from the hood and educated you have earned mad points in my book. Depending on your taste in music and sports I might have to clone you.

  87. true says:

    humble

    stop sweating me

    ;) :-P

  88. Humble_One says:

    @Mikki
    "and humble thats why you have us!!!"

    Thats why I luh yall. lol

  89. Humble_One says:

    @true – Aw man I f**ked up. Dont tell me you're gassed. My fault. lol

  90. true says:

    lol..Humble humble

    Gassed, me naw..I personally think im "wack"

    Im a nerd, skinny, I know too much, I am goofy, Have a super sense of humor and like to make fun of everything.

    the sweating me thing was u know…a JOKEY JOKE

    Thanks for the clone compliment. Im actually blushing..I was so "gassed" that*DELETED IN AN ATTEMPT TO MAINTAIN SOME DIGNITY*

    Im such a cornball :(

  91. KevinD says:

    @ SBM I feel ya on the 5 years, but even after that people change.

  92. "Im such a cornball"

    True do you know Hasani??

  93. Hugh Jazz says:

    True: "Did anyone see Kerry’s Vaginal Fluids on her drawers when they were takin them off? was I the only one????"

    I didn't, but I'll be popping that DVD in when I get home.

    SBM: "the wife became enemy #1 after he admitted to not having sex in like a year (or however long)."

    That is ridiculous. And women ask why men are scared of marriage. That's one very good reason right there.

  94. true says:

    Comeback

    bwahahahaha

    Naw ion know him

    lol…why :-?

  95. Humble_One says:

    @SBM & Hugh Jazz – What's crazy about that movie is that his wife was attractive. His wife does not approve of his porn and his wife has the libido of a corpse. I don't know how married men deal with that. And it wasnt like they were 60yrs old.

    @true – I was just joking. You play PS3 or Xbox 360?

  96. sike @ true…He;s good people. Most days

  97. true says:

    xbox 360

    and yes I know you were joking Humble..do we even have to say that

    I was playing mercenaries, but we traded it for assasins

    Mercenaries was cool too, it was harder and had lots more killing and action

    any recommendations?

    I want to try the new fallout 3 coming out oct 28

  98. Jac says:

    Wow…Humble's right about the libido.

    VAGINAL SECRETIONS?

    Wow….just wow.

    Sorry I've been absent fam, worky and wedding plannin

  99. Humble_One says:

    @true – I just picked up NBA 2K9. Have you played Soul Caliber 4 or Call of Duty 4? I have both and they are good. I am still not good at them. I need to dedicate more time to them. I heard Star Wars the force unleashed was good too. I am looking forward to DC vs. Mortal Kombat.

  100. Ms. Devereaux says:

    HA! SBM you are so crazy! Yeah I am not to big on these romantic comedies. I did like the Breakup, that was funny as hell. I don't really like soft love movies. Chris Rock movie 'Why did I get married' was pretty good.

    Movies/ TV love is all bullish. You have to experience love yourself and not go off what they show you on the tube.

    I think I am ready to fall in love again.

    cue the music…* Natalie Cole 'I want to love again'*

  101. Jac says:

    Adopts Mikki's blank stare

  102. arent action movies fake too? (shrugs soldiers)

  103. SBM says:

    Not sure too many people are watching action movies and then trying to live their real life in the same way …

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