It’s Friday … you know whats good
- Went to the strip club again. It’s not important the exact course of actions that led me there … but I was there with the same people wearing the same thing as last time. It’s funny how some of the girls there have been working there since I first went back in college. This place is not the place to make a career out of … not that you can’t be a career stripper … but not at the whole in the wall I go to. Almost want to save em (and one of em really could come home and get saved too).
- A couple of times me and friends have been at the strip club and seen a girl so fine … so vicious … so gorgeous … you just think … “Why are you stripping?” Someone with money and no motivation in life needs to just take care of her … she is too beautiful to be doing all that for $5.
- Howard’s Homecoming is this weekend. That mean an abundance of females in my city and outrageously overpriced club entry. I’m tempted to just take my bike to the campus, park it, and leave it at that instead of paying $60 to get into a crowded club.
- My “ulcer” hasn’t acted up in weeks. I think I’m finally getting this stress thing under control. And it’s not like there has been an absent of stress inducing situations … guess I’m just getting better at it.
- I really hate dating and all that it encompasses. I don’t think I have said that enough here considering this is a dating site … but the whole “dance” sickens me and overall it’s such a waste of time and effort. I think I’m going to just hurry up and get married and take myself out the pool. Or maybe I should rededicate myself to staying single … hmmmm … decisions.
- I signed up for Rhapsody this week. They have a plethora of chopped & screwed music along with Three 6 Mafia and all my favorite down south artists. On a side note … I finally think the music is starting to incite a deep seeded ignorant part of me that I had long buried.
- I hate it when women tell me I speak proper and are surprised I’m from the county I’m from (Prince George’s) or went to the high school I went too. I swear they look at me like because I can speak well I’m some type of f*cking anomaly.
- Apparently I possess the ability to spit highly believable and convincing spouts of bullsh*t on the fly. I realized it as I was helping someone prepare for an interview and I was asked “How do you just think of that so quick?” I think it comes from years of literally convincing my parents that I didn’t need to do chores … while avoiding an ass whooping … and making them feel good about it all.
Man … that was kinda long
Now your turn … RANT!
Please don't be over there saving skrippers ok? and, all these choices about marriage being single ect I say just chill out big fella!!!
good morning all
@sbm: we all know captain save a hoe never comes out on top!!
my rants:
- the furnace is broken at the church, so its freaking cold they need the money to fix it but they claim they don't have it, but the pastor drives a 745li that the church pays for!! uhh maybe if u send the car back we can fix the furnace!!!
- my ex who happenes to married now (we were teenage lova's..lol) sent me a super expensive gift in the mail no strings attached. my mom tried to tell me I was wrong for keeping it…uhhh yea right!
what do u think?
- I need to finish my book I need inspriration or something.
- sis has been missing 19 days. its beyond crazy now..
ill rant more later gotta get the boys to school
@SBM: So glad to hear you are getting that health thing under control.
"sbm: we all know captain save a hoe never comes out on top!!" LOL
@Akua: Keep the gift… you didn't ask him to send it. Maybe it was for your past troubles. LOL. I certainly wouldn't contact him though. I'm praying for your sis.
Rants:
1. I saw Lyfe Jennings vid this morning (which damn near made me late for work) for "Will I Ever?" Damn near cried cause this is EXACTLY how I've been feeling.
2. I pray that all of this celibacy and whatnots is gonna pay off.
3. Maybe I will try Internet dating. If you don't step out and try something, you'll never know.
4. I'm gaining weight… my butt is getting a little bigger (thank GOD for that! LOL)
5. I need to start on my History Paper on the Harlem Renaissance that I have not even started/nor researched yet.
6. Nobody better ask me about looking for bridal dresses this weekend.
7. HNIC thanks for emailing tips on food and working out. You're nicer than I thought.
Uh oh, SBM..you are sounding like T-pain..trying to save a stripper, possibly send her to a cabin up in Aspen.
RANTS
1) Wish I had time to work another job.
2) My mom's car was broken into on Sunday Afternoon while her car was in the gated parking garage. SMH..Mom had to get the window that was shattered replaced.
3) I miss going for nightly walks, now that I'm back on campus, it's hard to do…especially with reports of a Mountain Lion being in the area.
4) I watched the Presidential Debates…enough said
5) So I represented my college at a college fair located at a high school on Thursday. Felt kind of sad on the inside when I saw only two black students in the crowd. Then felt even worst when I asked a high school senior, "what is your prospective major?" and he said "what's a Major?"
6) I luv how the ex hit me up earlier in the week, in denial. Apparently he "didn't know" I broke up with him. Mind you, I ended things on Oct 1st. Anyway, I went ahead and clarified the fact that we are not in a relationship.
7) This whole dating/relationship thing, isn't working to well with my schedule. Maybe I need to take another break from relationships, possibly til I finish my Bachelors of Science in 2011.
8)Its a shame that I visit this blog more than I visit my own..smh..although I don't post my own comment, i enjoy reading everyone's comments.
9) I like Beyonce's Single Ladies.
Well, that is all.
Akua we are still praying for ya!!
-Man I hate Cincinnati, I can't wait to get back to the Northeast, especially Jersey
-My site is taking off now, should put those annoying ads on it so I can get paid
-My boys back home with to the strip club and I'm here, that sucks
-Steak and eggs would be good right now, my job should serve that
aight cool now
@nicki I tried eharmony I met a really nice guy before and long distance relationships are cool. we went out once that was abt it.
more rants:
- I have to start christmas shopping like YESTERDAY!!
"- I need to finish my book I need inspriration or something"
@ Akua..start a celibacy club..works like a charm
and yes your sister is in our prayers always.
Gratitude cont'd on two sites:
I love starbucks. The end. Thank you Howard Shultz for living and breathing.
@Akua: OKKK… I was in a long distance relationship once… we met in Miami though… long distance is not so bad if you have that trust thang worked out (which I did not.. had cause for that).
But thanks girl… I'mma check it out.
@SBM: I disagree with the "too beautiful to strip" notion. I think those are the types of girls that should be stripping. If God has blessed you with attractiveness, share it with the world.
@comeback: I'm the only member of the club out of my friends… the rest of the heffa's screw on the regular! but I am going to try to start something up maybe like a positive energy crew.
I tried yoga this morning with my on demand. I suck at it!
Humble’s Rants
1) My friend just invited to his wedding next year in Mexico. This made me realize that I am one of three of my friends that doesn’t have kids or a wife.
2) I really don’t want to buy a new car.
3) I need to stop procrastinating and come out the money to make the repairs on my house. I wish I had the time I would do it myself. I really don’t want to spend the money.
4) I need to get back into my frequent trips out of town. I usually meet better women from other cities.
5) I want some new music to listen to. I can’t find any that interest me.
6) Do I want to be a supervisor?
7) With the way the economy is I think I may have to do a job that may not totally fit all of my interest.
I am confused in my career. lol.
@SBM
"A couple of times me and friends have been at the strip club and seen a girl so fine … so vicious … so gorgeous … you just think … “Why are you stripping?” Someone with money and no motivation in life needs to just take care of her … she is too beautiful to be doing all that for $5."
You hurt me with this statement. This is simpish. No woman is too beautiful to earn her keep.
1) I hate Cincinnati too.
2) Does trust exist…ever?
3) I'm gaining weight too..sigh…thank goodness for being tall and curvy.
4) My employer laid off 140 people on Wednesday. Kind of hard to show some company loyalty and accomplish my objectives.
5) Thank goodness for this trip I'm taking this weekend.
6) My ex is getting married in May. I'm not hating on his happiness, but long for happiness of my own.
the last twelve hours of whyso.
- made beautiful music. I am an emcee, full bred blood born hip hop afficionado. i heard beats last night great enough to make stone statues nod their head. Made a great songs to said beats.
- Well, after, I figured I'd go to a "friends"…and do some ummm…"maintenance man" work. **sniff sniff*** what's that I smell?
- burning rubber. My tire was flat, and at this point off the rim. Go to change it (cause real men can change a tire lol) and what's this?
- my new (to me) car has locking lugnuts. And I don't have the key.
- FUCK. So I call a tow truck. I think this guys' name was literally Joe Sixpack. I want him to treat my car like the delicate baby it is…but all he did was get his dirty handprints on my pearly white paint.
- It'll wash off. Went to sleep at 3, got up at 7.
- My cab driver this morning is racist. If he said that about Indians, wonder what he'd say to another [white] person about blacks.
- Saw the story about "Obama Bucks" Please look it up. Got a bit angrier.
- went to sbm.net. And now my day is a bit brighter. Yeahp!
through all of this though, I keep a level head. In fact, I usually get better in times of crises. Wow. Yeah, long post, but going over it is kinda cool. Chea.
@No More Heroes & Humble: Sure … it sounds a little simpish … but you never gone to the hood strip club that is a converted clothes store in a strip mall (yes … I'm talking about where I go) and think "She is actually real life gorgeous … not just stripper sexy. I'm shocked someone hasn't saved her ass yet!"
Lets all be real … if you saw Kerri Washington twirking for $5 (the cost of a lapdance here) you wouldn't try and rescue her?
@Akua: My prayers are still with you and if there is anything else we can do to help get the word out … let us know.
@YBL: Lol @ the ex having amnesia!
Good Morning Folks!
@Akua – you don't need any advice – you're going to keep the gift (lol)
@Nicki – *waves* heeeeyyyyy beautiful.
you too girl! my booty is outta control right now – I think something is in the water. I dunno about the internet dating thing (not opposed just try something else first)- you're friends do not have any recommendations for you? I personally do not know anyone that lives in or around your area or I'd hook you up.
@YoungBel – what's a major? woooooooooowwwwwwww. You shoulda asked for the number to his momma, his daddy and his pastor – someone dropped the ball. oh, and the guidance counselor too.
@SBM – for a cheap @ss you sure like giving ure money away to skrippers – there's no ROI. What's up with that homey? The weather has been great – ride ure bike, eff the parking.
Finally a day on SBM when I can make random comments – the forum is so cold and empty.
1) The BET Awards are here and it's about to be stupid crazy this wknd!! Overpriced club admission, long lines, traffic on Peachtree
2) Why does there seem to be an overabundance of short men in Atlanta?
3) Why does my hair start act a fool when its humid or rainy?
4) Yay for losing the extra weight I gained… all due to getting braces and hating to eat! Bad thing is I am always hungry!!
5) Damn this hangover I have this morning!!
@Neo
"My ex is getting married in May. I’m not hating on his happiness, but long for happiness of my own."
I know what you mean.
@SBM
Kerri Washington is a grown @ss woman (and she has a weird lookin mouth/nose combo) – doesn't strike me as skripper sexy. You're wierd for that one (amongst other things). you coulda said meagan good or lauren london.
So Rants and Raves
- don't feel any type of way that the last debate was at my alma mater (I hated that d@mn school)
- dude I met in Jers 3 weeks ago wants to come to philly next week to spend time with moi buuuuuuuut, doesn't want to drive back to Jers and wants to stay at my apt. so, I tell him, you can't stay with moi, yea we been getting to know ea other via phone convo but I don't KNOW you bruh and proceed to tell him that I don't let just anyone stay at my place. he doesn't get it…says if i don't stay with anyone, what's the problem? continues…i thought we were getting close but I guess not. What's not to understand?
- ^^WHAT DO MY PEOPLE THINK ABOUT THIS?
@Nicki Sunshine
"I’m gaining weight… my butt is getting a little bigger (thank GOD for that! LOL)"
You need to come to Detroit.
@Cuzzo
"you too girl! my booty is outta control right now – I think something is in the water."
You need to come to Detroit too.
@Cuzzo
"dude I met in Jers 3 weeks ago wants to come to philly next week to spend time with moi buuuuuuuut, doesn’t want to drive back to Jers and wants to stay at my apt. so, I tell him, you can’t stay with moi, yea we been getting to know ea other via phone convo but I don’t KNOW you bruh and proceed to tell him that I don’t let just anyone stay at my place. he doesn’t get it…says if i don’t stay with anyone, what’s the problem? continues…i thought we were getting close but I guess not. What’s not to understand"
I think you are doing the right thing. You can't get to know anyone in 3 weeks. Plus n**gas are crazy out here. Maybe the women will feel different but, I wouldn't do it for a female that I have known for 3 weeks.
@Humble
Thank you! I don't think he's crazy but when he asked for my number (after I was backing it up on him all crazy at the club) I dont think he was thinking: "I would really like to be friends with this person…we could totally hang out…she's mad cool." uh no! you're not tryna chill. u either want to date or ure just tryna hit – the latter being the most prominent thought.
re: Detroit – r u sure about that? lol. I'm not in the club and cannot promise to help you stay in it either.
@Cuzzo: "Nicki – *waves* heeeeyyyyy beautiful.
you too girl! my booty is outta control right now – I think something is in the water. I dunno about the internet dating thing (not opposed just try something else first)- you’re friends do not have any recommendations for you? I personally do not know anyone that lives in or around your area or I’d hook you up. "
hey gorgeous! HONEY NO! All of them have hooked me up before with some MONSTERS (hey, I'm a little shallow.. you don't have to look like a CK model but damn???? Gargamel?) so I won't trust them with anymore hook ups.
I think the main problem is I don't go anywhere but there's not a whole lot to do… I refuse to go to the hood clubs.. these negros are ALWAYS shooting. (think Ludacris song: "we got them guns.") It's really ridiculous here…. not scared to come out of your house ridiculous, but scared to go and have a good time with "my people."
LMAO at humble and his invites! But seriously, don't get me wrong, I don't have a nice ole sister girl DAYUM booty (oh I wish!) BUT it's getting a lot better than what it was… I was always the thin girl, no real boobs (34C) and no arse… with the weight gain, now a 36C and just a little poot shoot. LOL.
Cuzzo probably got me beat on that arse tip.
@Cuzzo: "says if i don’t stay with anyone, what’s the problem? continues…i thought we were getting close but I guess not. What’s not to understand? "
Well, I dated this guy that I met in Miami, he lived in Baltimore. When he came to visit, he stayed with me and we had sex. Yep. If you are not trying to knock the kid off, he needs to get a hotel, or tell him you will meet him halfway, you guys can hang out, then go your separate ways home.
@Cuzzo: Sorry … but I don't see eye to eye with Humble. I definitely think if I come from out of town to visit a female I have been talking to … I think its only fair that I stay at her place when I come to visit. If you don't trust him enough for the overnight … thats a different story … and I will admit that having a son definitely changes things … but overall if I'm making the trip I'm not trying to get a hotel.
Also, the forum is probably going to die officially this weekend. I think I'm just going to go to threaded comments and let ya'll have at it.
Also what is the crazy hating on Kerri Washington that your doing. After all the talk about "I think I love my wife" … she def could be a stripper, but would stand out as someone who might not need to be stripping. Funny nose my ass …
@SBM: Kerri is cute, but I can't say sexy like you seem to think she is…. Keri Hilson??? Then, I'd be able to see your point.
@Nicki: This is going to be the topic of a post … because the amount of disagreement between men and women over what women are sexy is mind boggling.
Although I will admit that amongst men there is a lot of argument. I don't care what my friends say … but Keisha Cole just isn't sexy … she is OK at best.
@SBM: I think it should be a topic… I have no problem saying a woman is sexy or whatnots (peep a confident chick at work fellas. j/k)
You are right… I can't see Keisha Cole as a sexy girl…. BUT she does have the whole hood round the way hotness on lock… like she's comfortable.. like she can rock a headscarf like nobody's business.
"…. BUT she does have the whole hood round the way hotness on lock… like she’s comfortable.. like she can rock a headscarf like nobody’s business."
i agree nick..her cuteness to me is different but she's still cute in a thorough ride or die way.
You know I always show up for the rants.
-SBM is now blocked at my job, so I won't be around much
-I took the day off after being in the damn ER for 4 damn hours last night…I'm still sleepy.
-The ex said some things to me a couple of nights ago..makes me wanna leave this celibacy club and never look back. 4 years and he can still make me tremble with words alone.
- I hate my ex for this uncanny skill he possesses.
-My job is killing me. I love what I do, but I desperately need a vacation, a la Jeezy.
@Cuzzo
"re: Detroit – r u sure about that? lol. I’m not in the club and cannot promise to help you stay in it either."
I am positive.
@Nicki Sunshine
"I was always the thin girl, no real boobs (34C) and no arse… with the weight gain, now a 36C and just a little poot shoot. LOL."
34C is nothing to scoff at. Please don't call the booty a poot shoot. lol. Just doesn't sound right.
@SBM – I just don't trust a woman enough after 3 weeks to let her stay at my house. They can keep their disguise on for that amount of time.
" agree nick..her cuteness to me is different but she’s still cute in a thorough ride or die way."
Exactly!
@8th: Don't sell yourself short with the ex.. they are exes for a reason.
@Humble: "34C is nothing to scoff at"
Compared to my friends, I have nothing! LOL. But thanks for that extra boost.
"Please don’t call the booty a poot shoot. lol. Just doesn’t sound right."
LOL.. that is pretty disgusting, ain't it?
@Nicki: Yeah, you ain't never lied, girl…but….damn…
#8th: "Nicki: Yeah, you ain’t never lied, girl…but….damn"
That's how exes get us… they know what we want and what we liked.. Hell I saw my ex a couple of weeks ago and he was talking love and marriage and children, but I have not heard from him seriously since. I think he got disappointed when he found out there would be no sex… In the conversation earlier this week, he spouted some nonsense about "his d not being good enough for me anymore."
That said, I can't tell you what to do, but weigh the opportunity costs here.
I never rant (hell…i barely ever post anything), but today's new day so…why not?
- For only having 3 and 1/2 hours of sleep, im feeling surprisingly energized this morning.
- My relationship of 2 years is in shambles, and i'm caught in between trying to fight for it (I truly do love my girl) and just letting in be. I've been doing the fighting thing for a couple months now, but I'm just….tired. I really do think it just a timing issue. I feel we are right for each other…just not at this point in our lives.
- On that note…seeing the likeliness of an impending break-up, I'm wondering if I should I start preparing myself the single life again (Getting my "game" back…lol j/k). Its been so long since I've "talked" to a female (that wasn't my girl), I don't know if I still "got it"…..LOL. Or am I throwing in the towel too early?
- I'm been so busy lately, I haven't been working out…I'm gonna change that…TODAY!
- It seems that once I fix one thing on my car, another thing fucks up. I'm considering driving it into a lake or setting it on fire and collecting the insurance money (I'm playing…but i'll be lying if i said that I hadn't thought about it for real….LOL)
I'm done.
@ Nicki: Don't worry, I'm not going back there again, the orgasms (oh lord, the orgasms) just aren't worth it. And really, I'd probably end up being the man in that exchange, tappin it, getting up, and bouncing, because lord knows my emotional ties to him are dead.
Now if only my body would get the memo.
"because lord knows my emotional ties to him are dead. "
Well thank GOD for this! Girl, you are strong.
@Cuzzo: Cracking up at you banning me!
Do you object to meeting him halfway and hanging out?
@Blu
"My relationship of 2 years is in shambles, and i’m caught in between trying to fight for it (I truly do love my girl) and just letting in be. I’ve been doing the fighting thing for a couple months now, but I’m just….tired. I really do think it just a timing issue. I feel we are right for each other…just not at this point in our lives."
awwww blu (dabba dee dabba die) have u tried taking "a break"? not to date other ppl but to just live ure lives and see if u truly wanna be together. I never personally did this before (well, knowingly) so I can't attest to it but it makes sense to me in theory.
@My people – does "the break" work?
"does “the break” work"
NOOOOOOO… I'm not an advocate of this… numerous reasons:
1. It's a game, somebody is gonna lose.
2. I couldn't stomach the thought of my S/O to be with someone else.
or other ish that I can't think of right now. LOL… but seriously, during a break, what would happen if your S/O decided they've found someone "better"?
@Nicki
"if your S/O decided they’ve found someone “better”?"
i dunno – catch a case perhaps? lol but that's y i said just to live their lives…not date other ppl. if u jump into something after a month of breakage – u should be questioning youself and how u really felt about the person u were with. did they really hold ure heart or was it just a convenience?
Alright so yeah….no rants this week either and no I'm not hung over.
Nicki, I feels you on the bigger but thing. I swear to you mine got bigger and I just stare @ it in the damned mirror.
Alright BBLs.
hey SBM
would the skrip club you attend be the HOUSE
I kinda like that place…the girls look okay
@Nicki
"I’m thinking homeboy wants some pooh-tang."
of course he does. we're two grown ppl that are attracted to each other. don't gimme the okey doke – u just wanna chill. blah.
@Cuzzo: "don’t gimme the okey doke – u just wanna chill"
Please believe me! Quit the games.. you wanna see what a girl is working with.
*gotta attend my godsisters fiance's very vanilla bday party (no drinks, boardgames) …but im sneaking out afterwards
*I feel you on the not goin out this weekend to the club thing. Im done with it..I never have a good time because well..its just too many people
*I need a cosmo real bad
SMB I used to be called "white girl" for speaking properly as a child. My new thing I hate ….The whole "she act like she from southeast" thing..wtf @ that. I know some highly intelligent and very well spoken people who grew up near or in the hood. Hell im from there and I dont fit the stereotype..I just despise that spit with a passion
UUUGH
I can't wait to get outta here
@Cuzzo
"I’m going to ignore that last statement. you do know you are stan-status on this site, right? lol. you can’t be making those types of arrangements all out in the open or hate will arise and we don’t need a repeat of SBM.net presents “As the Blog Turns”"
I don't think it is that serious. I dont know of any stans. I want no repeats of "As the Blog Turns". I would leave this ish for good if that happens. I guess I need to find more inconspicuous ways of communication.
@Blu Hulk – if you feel you can't save the relationship start prepping now to be back out there. It is easier for women to get back on track after a relationship than men. If things are going bad she already has a few potentials on tap.
"The whole “she act like she from southeast” thing..wtf "
What about some of my girls…. my close girls say stuff like, "you so light skin," "Ashanti got that light skin thing on lock."
Nothing pisses me off like that… I don't do color… What if I was to say something like, "you have that darkie thing on lock!"
I really pisses me off.
@Humble: ". It is easier for women to get back on track after a relationship than men. If things are going bad she already has a few potentials on tap."
Seriously, you think that??? I think women are the ones in the house, crying for a while.. meanwhile men are like "whellp, on to the next and dust off your shoulder and ish."
OOH..I GOT A GOOD TOPIC FOR YOU TOO…I'LL EMAIL YOU
cuzzo: if your single…. invite him over. if he is a whack job. call SBM, SBM will call me and I will beat his azz. its called networking.
you can take a the 1/100 chance that he is a single black male lunatict because you have yo cuzing peoples (me) to protect you should something go sideways. philly is only a 45 min drive for me, u can lock yourself in the bathroom and wait for cavalry.
but If I was a single black female… and a guy said he was going to drive from another state to see me on the WEEKEND and wasnt going to drive back? id say no. any man who is worth his salt that wants to spend an ENTIRE WEEKEND with a woman must not have shit else goin on for him. and to be blunt if no other woman is wanting him…. why would I? fuked up way to think but its true. when a man gives you his fridays AND his Saturdays hes not a valued asset on the dating market.
My scout troop is having a haunted pumpkin patch this weekend. Im not sayin my boys cant act. but they dont have much imagination, or sense of horror. Its almost as if horror died in the 80's and everyone is so afraid we will raise psychopaths they dont expose kids to scary movies.
And black children are the best actors in the world. Anyone with a child on this blog would totally agree with me
Speaking of doing things for money. this is my last week as a rich single black male……. anyone wanna take bets on how my dating life changes.
"but If I was a single black female… and a guy said he was going to drive from another state to see me on the WEEKEND and wasnt going to drive back? id say no. any man who is worth his salt that wants to spend an ENTIRE WEEKEND with a woman must not have shit else goin on for him. and to be blunt if no other woman is wanting him…. why would I? fuked up way to think but its true. when a man gives you his fridays AND his Saturdays hes not a valued asset on the dating market"
This is some great advice from a man…. I'll note this for next time! thanks.
LOL. I don't have kids but my two little cousins are like my kids… and yes, I can vouch for it… There seems to be a video camera following Angel around everywhere (I blame it on corny arse Disney shows)
Cuzzo-where's your fantasy?
@Humble
"I guess I need to find more inconspicuous ways of communication."
yes, please do
I'm not one for censorship but…yea, i'll leave it at that.
C'mon Nick, let's troop to the D and get a hotel cuz Humble ain't fix his house yet, lol. we can go peacoat shopping! and u can put me on to these $300-$400 sneakers.
I got a rant
yesterday was a real good topic..but i guess since it didn't pertain to anyone's life so they could just talk endlessly about themselves or boast..then no one wanted to post..but now today..since you get to talk about yourself ..then all the comments and posters appear
whats up with that
seriously
I find it super funny.
@Cuzzo: "C’mon Nick, let’s troop to the D and get a hotel cuz Humble ain’t fix his house yet, lol. we can go peacoat shopping! and u can put me on to these $300-$400 sneakers."
I'd love too…. BUT right now, all my funds are going to Miami for November 14… but I promise we need to get together and have some fun though… hey, what the use of friends, and yes, I consider you guys friends now, in diff area codes, if you can't utilize em?
@ Nicki: She is a good woman, that why i've been fighting it, but the issue wouldn't be on her waiting on me, but rather vice versa. Both of us are very busy people, but one thing i've always made sure of was that I don't let my grind interfere with our relationship, which she does. We all go thru periods of time where we have to put something on the back-burner to focus on something else, but there's a point where that "period of time" just becomes the normal mode of operation. How long is one suppose to put just wait before you feel like you're wasting your time, cuz right now, its like we're bf/gf in title only. Every effort made on my behalf to bring back what we used to have feels like its wasted.
Nicki…feel free to use me as a friend.
@Blu: sorry I did kinda assume there… I would say the same thing to you that I would say to one of my girlfriends… Communication is key! And weigh the pros and the cons…
Do you think this is something temporary, and it's just a "hard patch?" Also, I'd talk to her and see where her head is at. It's very possibly she's just waiting on you to say something, no one wants to be the "bad guy" in a break up (re: VSB).
As for me, I have to know that I'm appreciated and my efforts or not in vane, I'd probably walk.. A relationship is 50/50…
@BluHulk-If you don't know and it's in name only then gently move on.
"any man who is worth his salt that wants to spend an ENTIRE WEEKEND with a woman must not have shit else goin on for him"
@SBM – ^^copy that?
@HNIC
I'm not worried that he'll turn out to be a lune. And, why can't a dude be just that into you that he wants to spend that amount of time with you and not with other ppl? There are 7 days in the week, he can spare 1.5 on me. Let's say he came saturday night and left sunday morn – he could still spend sat morn/afternoon with someone else and/or sunday night with another person.
*OMG I can't believe I'm making a comment towards HNIC (lol) I hope it doesn't come back to bite me in the @ss*
giving your money to a stripper is far more rewarding than buying some broke ho a drink
lol
least you get to see some tit
@Jac
I don't have one. the only one I did have, done it.
"but i guess since it didn’t pertain to anyone’s life so they could just talk endlessly about themselves or boast..then no one wanted to post"
thank you for your observation comment nazi. why should anyone say something about a post you believe to be sooooo interesting…if they don't have anything to say/know nothing about? o_0 (@ Nicki, i like using these "eyes" now, lol) maybe each commenter/lurker should say things like – good post SBM…my sentiments exactly…very interesting…thanks for enlightening me…
SBM isn't crying (or laughing in this case) or ranting about it "seriously" – I think not.
"thank you for your observation comment nazi. why should anyone say something about a post you believe to be sooooo interesting…if they don’t have anything to say/know nothing about? o_0 (@ Nicki, i like using these “eyes” now, lol) maybe each commenter/lurker should say things like – good post SBM…my sentiments exactly…very interesting…thanks for enlightening me…
SBM isn’t crying (or laughing in this case) or ranting about it “seriously” -"
Very well said Cuzzo. Love you lots!
did anyone go look at kerry's drawers in the movie yet?
Hey Cuzzo, did you write in your fantasy on our blog, ma'am???
Including all lurkers and newbies too… check us out. Stank ya very much.
@Nicki
love you too babes :-*
…the nerve of some ppl…lol
I know it's late for the D trip (not THE D, lol but the place…well, maybe the other thing too) that can be in the future.
OMG Nikki
LIGHT SKINNED THING
WTF
Ashanti aint even Light skinned…and who cares
wtf …
I remember my godsis (in the body dept she got buffie beat, she is dark and pretty) was in school and some ignoramus said "beyonce fine..and she lightskinned too"
wtf..she was like "wtf that mean..u can see the bish better"
people need to get off that …..please….
I know it’s late for the D trip (not THE D, lol but the place…well, maybe the other thing too) that can be in the future." Yes ma'am… Most def.. and thanks for the love sista.
@True: Right I don't get the whole light skin/dark thing and why we still have issues with that in 2008! It's so stupid… there's so many other people hating us without us hating ourselves!
One of my girls is small… really short, gotta be like 4'9… chocolate as chocolate can be, with the longest black hair I've ever seen in my life… shiny and healthy. She's gorgeous but has self esteem issues… she always says things like "you're lucky you are light." WTF? Sweetie you are gorgeous, I wish I was chocolate like you.. smooth skin and whatnots.
@Nicki
"did you write in your fantasy on our blog, ma’am???"
I just commented to Jac about that…I ain't got one homey – so square, I know. Maybe I will meet a man that makes me wanna do crazy things with him – it's gotta be one burried deep down inside somewhere *helllooooo echoooooo*
I've got a comment for the domestic one (thanks for sharing that) once I get my thoughts together. *nom yo ho ren gen kyo*
@Nicki Sunshine
"Seriously, you think that??? I think women are the ones in the house, crying for a while.. meanwhile men are like “whellp, on to the next and dust off your shoulder and ish.”"
Uh no. Women get offered d**k 24/7 365 if they are in a relationship or not. Some women are vulnerable after a break up so they will talk to men they usually don't. Some women will basically deal with any dude that comforts them in that time period. Unless you are an athlete, drug dealer, rapper, or hood celebrity a man does not get back on that quick. Most of the time if a man finds a woman right after a relationship ends he was cheating.
@Cuzzo: "I just commented to Jac about that…I ain’t got one homey – so square, I know. Maybe I will meet a man that makes me wanna do crazy things with him – it’s gotta be one burried deep down inside somewhere *helllooooo echoooooo*"
LOL.. totally understand.. hell I can't even talk sexy on the phone without laughing.
Go'on Tina! LOL
@Nicki
"hell I can’t even talk sexy on the phone without laughing."
I can, if provoked. I can get it poppin' on the sexy/suggestive text. lol
SBM: Lets all be real … if you saw Kerri Washington twirking for $5 (the cost of a lapdance here) you wouldn’t try and rescue her?
No. I’d give her five bucks.
@Cuzzo – I will listen to your advice.
@True & Nicki Sunshine – I still can't believe people are color struck. Our people need serious healing. I cannot stand the self hate some black people have.
@Cuzzo: " can, if provoked. I can get it poppin’ on the sexy/suggestive text"
Oh hells yes.. now I can do a text or an email (I'm one helluva writer)… LOL
@Hugh: "No. I’d give her five bucks."
I'm crackin up!
My rants…
-Its interesting that my ex and I can be friends, despite everything we have been through.
-I don't feel like doing anything today.
-I need to find the rest of my tuition before Dec.
-This girl is so fake and she knows it. I don't do fake people.
- I need to fly home so I can hold my sister, so she can stop crying. School is kicking her ass.
-My class is still stressing me out.
- Why do people I should be able to handle certain things just because of my past? If I say I can't handle it then dammit… I can't ! Don't tell me how I should feel. When you come off as a strong person people think you can handle anything.
@HNIC
"Speaking of doing things for money. this is my last week as a rich single black male……. anyone wanna take bets on how my dating life changes."
I'll hold the money since I really haven't been paying attn.
???
a richer single black man cuz he's gonna stop simping/tricking or dating all together
a poor married black man cuz he had to pay someone hush money to keep the pics of him and the other woman at bay and buy the ring for forgiveness
a rich married black man cuz someone with more wealth asked him to marry her
Hugh: Wow only five to Kerry damned. I'd give her five to just to help get food for the night.
And kind sir, come visit Nicki and I!
Umm…Cuzzo…so tell us about that one. Spice it up a bit thanks ma'am.
@Hugh
"No. I’d give her five bucks."
HA! *deep breath* HA!
@Hugh Jazz
"SBM: Lets all be real … if you saw Kerri Washington twirking for $5 (the cost of a lapdance here) you wouldn’t try and rescue her?
No. I’d give her five bucks."
Word Up. I agree 100%. The only difference is that i won't give her $5.
I haven't been on here in forever, but I need to get this one mini rant out:
– WHY did I see this black dude yelling at this white lady (She was holding her own, too. Threw some f-bombs his way whenever he threw some hers) and thought, "Aw, this is not gonna be good.". I glanced around at the other white dudes around them beefing up as if they were on the verge of interfering. And, well, they did. It was like a pile of dudes running over to him all, "Hey, hey, HEY!!"…it looked like a football game. Though I can't fault them for rescuing her because a big man yelling at a woman like that ain't cool WHOEVER is involved, I couldn't help but cringe at the obvious undertones of the situation. Big black man yelling at little white woman? Not a good look. Oh, my people, my people…
whats amazing is for every white woman and black man I see in a fight at a mall…. I see twenty black women punking a black man in public and making an ass out of us all.
only time I have seen a white chick yell at a man in public this year was the two times one of my white chicks went off on me when I FIRST got back out here.
I see a sista clowning a brotha almost every other day if I go to quakerbridge mall… and thats not even the hood. thats middle class black suburban mall. Id hate to see what the hood chicks r doin to the hood brothas.
cuzzo
I’m not worried that he’ll turn out to be a lune. And, why can’t a dude be just that into you that he wants to spend that amount of time with you and not with other ppl? There are 7 days in the week, he can spare 1.5 on me
not saying theres anything wrong with it. I just said how I would feel if I was a woman, and that 7 days in a week thing is silly. everyone knows the weekend days are highly valuable in single life. and how can dude be that into you if he calls you out of the blue? remember what you told us sista. But ya, lets say you been talkin non stop for 3 weeks and now he wants to come out.
if I was a black woman, i wouldnt want a black man who has a whole friday and a whole saturday to give to me when I first hang with him. because that means no other chicks of value are trying to hollar at him. the ratio of black men to women is absurd at this age (then again I dont know what your age is I am assuming your 30ish like me) so not sayin your not brook shields type good looking, but I cant see myself meeting a female and bring that giving of my dating time.
you know how many dates you can do between friday happy hour and sunday morning as a single black male?!!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!!?!?!?
@HNIC
"and how can dude be that into you if he calls you out of the blue? remember what you told us sista"
uh…what did i say to allude to that? I've been speaking to dude for 3 weeks…it wasn't out of the blue. he's been wanting to come out here but was in the midst of buying a new car – couldn't trust the old car to make it out here. he's got the car situation squared away now.
"if I was a black woman, i wouldnt want a black man who has a whole friday and a whole saturday to give to me when I first hang with him. because that means no other chicks of value are trying to hollar at him.the ratio of black men to women is absurd at this age"
so this only pertains to ppl of ure age group? I'm not 30ish, neither is he. I'm 25 and he's 27. *you're gonna shoot me now aren't you?*
- I can get a good deal on a blackberry but don't wanna pay $30 a month for the blackberry plan with verizon. I just wanna text!
I'm looking in the mirror at my desk (keep one there out of self consciousness!), boobs are looking niiiiicee today. Between the bra and the cami with the built bra (told yaw I got nip issues. LOL)these puppies are sitting up and fluffy like water balloons.
Sorry guys, I have Tourettes and that was so random.
Halloween in two weeks! So excited.
[Tourettes]
*crickets, crickets*
Nicki everytime I have work to do you start talking like that. Whats that about?
@NoMore: I'm sorry… I'm so random today.. and to think, I'm part of the celibates…
LOL. I keep lookin the mirror. Hell, they are distracting me today… I don't wear the lowcuts too often.
TTYL guys, I'm getting off work now. Have a fabulous day.
@Blu: “feel we are right for each other…just not at this point in our lives.”
I need further reasons behind this… if she’s anything like me, she won’t wait for you…. and if she’s a good girl, you’d hate to miss a good thing.
@Nicki
I don’t wanna knock this dude off – already have someone for that itch.
“like she can rock a headscarf like nobody’s business” ha! if we were talkin “hot or not” – keish would get a not from me.
u are banned from using the term “poot shoot” EVER
@SBM
If I’d agreed, my son wouldn’t be home.
didn’t see I think I love… even if I did, she’s still not the sexy
so, if you stay with the chick you’ve been talking to for 3 weeks – do you have intentions to hit? do you think by her agreeing that she wants you to? if it doesn’t go down – is she axed?
@Humble
I’m going to ignore that last statement. you do know you are stan-status on this site, right? lol. you can’t be making those types of arrangements all out in the open or hate will arise and we don’t need a repeat of SBM.net presents “As the Blog Turns”
@Cuzzo: Honestly, I am real forward with women I'm talking to. Usually the sex talk has occurred well before … so either I know if it's gonna happen or not. If I am promised or really expecting and it doesn't … then she might get axed … but otherwise I can't just always assume every girl I am talking to is going to sleep with me the first time I see them.
@Nicki
no, he suggested that also and I said ok. then he came with the BS about what’s the prob with him staying. what’s the prob with you falling back? o_0
I swear I’m meeting men with fem-like tendencies lately. is that the water too? lunar activities maybe?
“@Nicki
what’s the prob with you falling back? o_0″
Girl, you got me over here with tears!!!!! I’m thinking homeboy wants some pooh-tang.
“catch a case perhaps? lol ”
Girl, you ain’t never lied. I agree… let it go and break up.. if it’s meant to be, it will be back.
I know that doesn’t exactly go hand in hand with my exes are exes for a reason schtick… but every sitch is different.
I'm going to ATL for business next week (Sunday).
Whose got some suggestions for what I should be doing while I'm there???
SBM hang out with me I'll take you around to some places….
I am ever so frustrated. Now I have rants.
-I haven't had anything to eat all day, but I have no appetite.
-The bank is getting on my nerves.
-Tomorrow's Sweetest Day.
-I never really make promises I can't keep and I would appreciate it if other's didn't either.
-I am tired.
WHY DON'T THEY CELEBRAT SWEETEST DAY HERE!!!
That's another rant.
Hmmm
- @SBM, I too saw a couple of whor….oops chicks at the strip club that I would save too. Too bad my cape was at the dry cleaners
- Financing sucks
- Im determined to be at Howard Homecoming 2009…never been b4
- I need to hit the gym on the regular. I need some meat on my bones
My rant:
Some guy at the supermarket was making fun of my accent and copying it. Rude bastard.
I spent 8 hours today calculating projections on how much water there will be in developing countries with climate change happening. The results were bloody depressing!
On a positive note I'm going out tonight for the first time since I've been in DC. Now what to wear