My argument is that there is a DIRECT and REAL correlation between language WORDS and how your life DOES OR DOESN’T work. Life hands us social, love, political, financial, and parental lemons. the idea is to not keep suckin on the same bitter citrus day after day after day.

the constant neverending struggle is not honorable..a well oiled and purposeful life is.

It used to be “blue collar” people were laid off now its white collar gigs so it aint about bad habits or personal politics that one drags into the office. Yes there are MBA’s that are unemployed simply becuase the Shareholders want more profits.

There is nothing personally you can do about what the shareholders want.

The biggest outlay of expenses for ALL firms are INCOMES and BENEFITS-so you want to make more money cut some employees sometimes the ones commanding the biggest paychecks.

What you can do is realize you will not retire from a job you got in 20’s or 30’s. You must Continue Education POST GRAD DEGREE if I hear one more MBA mope about what they thought upon getting out…cry me a river. So what, did you really think at 27 you were DONE with all education?

What about the todays 45 yr old techie that got blindsided by the Web’s explosion when he was in his early 30’s?

Acting all aloof cause you got a MBA is straight up dumb, or worst assuming cause you have one you are “jobless proof”

So to me trying to suggest one cannot falter if they just watch themselves is a naive point of view (it also alleviates the responsibility that firms play…such as an Auto Worker-showed up on time for twenty yrs and then poof! job is gone). We are ALL in The Matrix and a degree or personal attitude can change that.

This country has been willing to elect any candidate, regardless of race, ethnicity, gender…for a long time. I think the only real remaining barrier is religion.

I hope Barack’s election doesn’t cause a lot of young black men to go the other way and believe that now they can expect a lot of handouts, because that era is over. They need to reject criminality, and embrace education and hard work and God. Become good father’s when they create a child, and be much more responsible.

Incidentally, I’m a Republican but voted for Bob Barr, the Libertarian candidate. I think Obama is a good guy and the smartest candidate out of the two major parties but he is far too liberal for me and I would find it difficult to vote for any candidate who was not Pro-Life.

I’m glad you all have such a Pollyanna view of life. Everyone can be perfect in cyberspace if they want to, I guess…..

I know you’re not implying that I don’t know how to carry myself…. puh-leeze. I grew up in the suburbs, I know how to code switch with the best of them. If anything I struggled my whole life with the insult that I wasn’t “black enough”.
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ur TOTALLY missing the point. And as an aside I’ve NEVER heard SBM say “life is good” its usually some ongoing complaint even outside of the every day jokey jokey complaints and musings. So Imma just do a back flip on that account.

Personal accountability isn;t really about how you “carry yourself” from the perspective of the outside world. ITS ABOUT HOW YOU ALSO SEE YOURSELF. The reason why Im not here like I was, is because of LANGUAGE. TOTAL tomfoolery aside, because i can shoot the willy bo bo with the rest of them. But when serious discussions happen. The WOE IS ME BULLSHYT is so old and VERY VERY TELLING.

Which is why I usually leave this site laughing (in a bad way)…constant complaints about life, love, health, kids…and IT IS NO WONDER seriously. When are people going to understand that LANGUAGE. WHAT COMES OUT YOUR MOUTH. OFF OF YOUR KEYBOARD. is so spiritual so important.

Please go online or turn on the tv and really focus on Obama. Forget about him being black. Just look at his language. Look at how he stepped out on faith. With right action. Purposeful thought.

im not discounting that the economy is real…but some of yall been bitchyin since way before the technical recession.

get yo mind right..seriously.

my president is black!

I know you’re not implying that I don’t know how to carry myself…. puh-leeze. I grew up in the suburbs, I know how to code switch with the best of them. If anything I struggled my whole life with the insult that I wasn’t “black enough”. Problem is, racism causes people to look at me with my locs (which I keep WELL maintained…. a lot of folks don’t even realize that they are locs) and the fact that I don’t fit the black sorority girl mold (nothing against greeks…. if my situation were different I probably woulda joined, too) and they make assumptions about me that aren’t true, no matter how perfect my diction is, no matter how pleasant I am, no matter how many high distinctions and cum laudes and honors I have on my resume. Racism causes the majority to pigeonhole us…. if you don’t fit within some standard expectation of what “black” is, then they can’t handle you. Never mind that white people come in all different personality types and it’s ok. If I’m quiet, it means I must be angry and stand-offish…. not that I’m just a shy introverted person. If I wear my 3 inch heels (making me 6 feet tall) and carry myself with confidence, I must “think I’m better than someone”, not that I just learned to carry myself with good posture (thanks, marching band).

I’m not totally blaming racism for my not having a (full time) job right now…. the economy sucks and there are a lot of lawyers out of work, period. I’ve NEVER been the type to make excuses and blame THE MAN. I’m talking about that below the surface racism that I got at my last job, the type that kept me doing the menial tasks and minor projects while they at the same time were praising my work product and intellect. The racism that kept them from actually coming INTO my office and sitting down in my chairs instead of addressing me from the doorway. The racism that the firm spent $90K on diversity training to try and get rid of and STILL nothing changed. THAT ISH ISN’T GOING AWAY ANYTIME SOON!

I’m hoping that President Obama (ooh it feels good to say that) helps shatter some of those stereotypical molds that they try and put us in, and help folk realize that there’s more to us than what they see in the media or what they’ve come across in their limited encounters. We are not homogeneous.

(whew, I need a clove now, and I don’t have one. Dammit.)