Comments on: The “Performance” http://www.singleblackmale.org/2008/12/22/the-performance/ The Source For Black Male Perspective Thu, 09 Feb 2012 18:00:54 +0000 hourly 1 By: 100%Redbonehttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2008/12/22/the-performance/#comment-23494 100%Redbone Mon, 29 Dec 2008 18:57:34 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=886#comment-23494 This is very cliche'; however, I am SO myself. Be it the 1st date or 2nd date because in the end if it does go further, you're going to find out who I am 4 real anyway. So if a guy does something on the 1st date that makes me decide at THAT moment there will absolutely not be a second one, I let them know, "this ain't hitting so let's not waste each other's time." That's why I like to drive and meet up on the 1st date. There is no "performance" This is very cliche'; however, I am SO myself. Be it the 1st date or 2nd date because in the end if it does go further, you're going to find out who I am 4 real anyway. So if a guy does something on the 1st date that makes me decide at THAT moment there will absolutely not be a second one, I let them know, "this ain't hitting so let's not waste each other's time." That's why I like to drive and meet up on the 1st date. There is no "performance"

]]> By: Southern Bellehttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2008/12/22/the-performance/#comment-23361 Southern Belle Thu, 25 Dec 2008 13:52:36 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=886#comment-23361 I always pull my phone out of my bag, front like I got an urgent message, step outside to vent for 30 seconds to one of my friends, come back in and say I suddenly have to leave. Offer to pay for dinner as compensation for being unable to tolerate the boredom and peace the f*ck out! Then he's stuck wondering what he did wrong or if I really had to leave, while I'm out living my life able to smile and say, "hey!" if I ever run in to him on the street. No one has time to waste, if I have to go, I have to go, doesn't matter what the reason is. I HAVE TO GO. oh and LOL @DCDATINGADVENTURES. I feel guilty when I fake, but it's not working so I HAVE TO GO. I always pull my phone out of my bag, front like I got an urgent message, step outside to vent for 30 seconds to one of my friends, come back in and say I suddenly have to leave. Offer to pay for dinner as compensation for being unable to tolerate the boredom and peace the f*ck out! Then he's stuck wondering what he did wrong or if I really had to leave, while I'm out living my life able to smile and say, "hey!" if I ever run in to him on the street. No one has time to waste, if I have to go, I have to go, doesn't matter what the reason is. I HAVE TO GO.

oh and LOL @DCDATINGADVENTURES. I feel guilty when I fake, but it's not working so I HAVE TO GO.

]]> By: SexyCoolhttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2008/12/22/the-performance/#comment-23341 SexyCool Wed, 24 Dec 2008 22:51:05 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=886#comment-23341 the way that i save myself from resisting the gas face during a first date encounter...is to make the date something short and sweet...meet for drinks or for desserts...there are a lot of cool places in atlanta to do just that... besides...most often during the first 13 minutes of conversation, i can determine if a man has moved from my fuckable category to my dateable category...(because we all know that there are those that you can bump with that you don't want to spend any other kind of time with...) the way that i save myself from resisting the gas face during a first date encounter…is to make the date something short and sweet…meet for drinks or for desserts…there are a lot of cool places in atlanta to do just that…

besides…most often during the first 13 minutes of conversation, i can determine if a man has moved from my fuckable category to my dateable category…(because we all know that there are those that you can bump with that you don't want to spend any other kind of time with…)

]]> By: DCDATINGADVENTUREShttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2008/12/22/the-performance/#comment-23234 DCDATINGADVENTURES Tue, 23 Dec 2008 01:36:12 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=886#comment-23234 I fake it just like a fake Orgasams...I've become a pro...then I blog about their wack-ness the next day!!! On a serious note, why is it so hard for us to just say to the person...."you know what, you're really (NOT) cute, (in dark clubs)but, I don't think we are compatible...it was nice meeting you though... I fake it just like a fake Orgasams…I've become a pro…then I blog about their wack-ness the next day!!!

On a serious note, why is it so hard for us to just say to the person…."you know what, you're really (NOT) cute, (in dark clubs)but, I don't think we are compatible…it was nice meeting you though…

]]> By: Angelhttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2008/12/22/the-performance/#comment-23229 Angel Mon, 22 Dec 2008 23:36:29 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=886#comment-23229 Act Like A Lady Think Like A Man, is a must read e-book for all women. If you're trying to get over the hurt of a broken heart, trying to get out of a bad relationship or hoping not to get into one, this is the book for you. If you are lonely and haven't been able to find Mr. Right, wouldn't know him if you met him or if you've found him and are worried about keeping him, folks this is the book! If you are unhappy, suffer from low self esteem, are over weight and don't feel good about yourself or just feel like your life is going no where, this book can help put your life on the right track. It's a life changer for both single and married women. Do yourself a favor and preview the e-book at; actlikealadythinklikeaman.com Act Like A Lady Think Like A Man, is a must read e-book for all women. If you're trying to get over the hurt of a broken heart, trying to get out of a bad relationship or hoping not to get into one, this is the book for you. If you are lonely and haven't been able to find Mr. Right, wouldn't know him if you met him or if you've found him and are worried about keeping him, folks this is the book! If you are unhappy, suffer from low self esteem, are over weight and don't feel good about yourself or just feel like your life is going no where, this book can help put your life on the right track. It's a life changer for both single and married women. Do yourself a favor and preview the e-book at; actlikealadythinklikeaman.com

]]> By: Princess B.http://www.singleblackmale.org/2008/12/22/the-performance/#comment-23228 Princess B. Mon, 22 Dec 2008 23:17:04 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=886#comment-23228 Honesty is always the best policy. Especially for women because men misconstrue any little nicety as a sign of interest. But you also have to take into consideration people's feelings/ego/mental state. If it's clear that the person might end it all if you don't express interest then be really nice about it, or blame it on something else like not having enough time, or not being ready for a relationship. But under no circumstances should you pretend, that's just asking for trouble down the line. Honesty is always the best policy. Especially for women because men misconstrue any little nicety as a sign of interest. But you also have to take into consideration people's feelings/ego/mental state. If it's clear that the person might end it all if you don't express interest then be really nice about it, or blame it on something else like not having enough time, or not being ready for a relationship. But under no circumstances should you pretend, that's just asking for trouble down the line.

]]> By: Cheekiehttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2008/12/22/the-performance/#comment-23215 Cheekie Mon, 22 Dec 2008 16:42:56 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=886#comment-23215 Yeah, I can't really play off being uncomfortable. When I don't wanna be somewhere, people can TELL. But, I do make sure that I make a balance between showing that I'm not interested but at the same time not being rude about it, which is difficult.And if they don't sense this during the date, they should know by the end of the date when they get the dreaded "chuuch hug". Okay, so I don't really do this unless it's an extreme case. I love hugs, so if the date is just okay, he still gets a regular hug. Yeah, I can’t really play off being uncomfortable. When I don’t wanna be somewhere, people can TELL. But, I do make sure that I make a balance between showing that I’m not interested but at the same time not being rude about it, which is difficult.

And if they don’t sense this during the date, they should know by the end of the date when they get the dreaded “chuuch hug”. Okay, so I don’t really do this unless it’s an extreme case. I love hugs, so if the date is just okay, he still gets a regular hug.

]]> By: Anesidorahttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2008/12/22/the-performance/#comment-23221 Anesidora Mon, 22 Dec 2008 14:59:30 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=886#comment-23221 Maybe we do this sort of thing to make it absolutely clear to the person that "It's not me...it's you." They can't later badmouth you about how bad of a date you were and that's why it didn't go anywhere. Maybe we do this sort of thing to make it absolutely clear to the person that "It's not me…it's you." They can't later badmouth you about how bad of a date you were and that's why it didn't go anywhere.

]]> By: Fly...http://www.singleblackmale.org/2008/12/22/the-performance/#comment-23218 Fly... Mon, 22 Dec 2008 12:53:11 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=886#comment-23218 Nyela Goodness: "Or maybe I’ll start going through my digital camera, reflecting on happier, more entertaining times." Hilarious, lol Nyela Goodness: "Or maybe I’ll start going through my digital camera, reflecting on happier, more entertaining times."

Hilarious, lol

]]> By: CPT Callamityhttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2008/12/22/the-performance/#comment-23217 CPT Callamity Mon, 22 Dec 2008 12:52:47 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=886#comment-23217 As much as I despise dating, I just remain myself and let her feel me out. I don't have very bad dates, which is the irony of things. I usually know a date is going good because the women will INSIST on paying the check and following my lead at whatever is after dinner/drinks. This doesn't always mean sex but they will want more time with the Captain... As much as I despise dating, I just remain myself and let her feel me out.

I don't have very bad dates, which is the irony of things. I usually know a date is going good because the women will INSIST on paying the check and following my lead at whatever is after dinner/drinks. This doesn't always mean sex but they will want more time with the Captain…

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