I love children.
Ok … I don’t walk around saying “awww” and “she’s so cute”, but I am very good with children and do look forward to having my own little SBM running, macking all the girls in Kindergarten with his mixture of wit and genius (lets be real … girls don’t start finding that attractive till their early 20′s).
There are countless differences between children and adults. Besides the fact that I could crush a 5 year old in a race, and I’m 3 times his size, there are countless differences between an adult as myself and any pre pubescent individual.
But sometimes … you come across someone who skipped the puberty process, someone whose mental/emotional capacity just isn’t up to par with their age group. I’m not talking about those clinically defined with a mental disability, I am talking about those chics/guys who are acting their shoe size and not their age. Yes … those immature motherf****ers that just make life for us grown folks hard.
The one thing that truly defines a man from a boy, a woman from a girl, and an adult from a child is … their ability to handle “issues”.
Yeah … issues.
Kids cry, they yell, they throw things, they refuse to accept the truth, they stick their fingers in their ears, they run away, and the list goes on. Sadly, these childish “grown ups” are no better. They hear something they don’t like and they just loss their mind.
If you need to see this in person to get a handle of it, no problem. Drive on down to your local hood, don’t worry … it’s never more than 45 minutes away, hell, it might be right outside your stoop. Next, find you a hood rat. They can usually be found walking around with curlers in the hair, walking multiple children that doin’t look related, and usually has a “Don’t f**k wit me” look on her face. Approach said hood rat, and tap her on the shoulder and say something slightly upsetting. “Your hair is mess” or “You should have a hat on your kids head”, etc. She will promptly blow up, threaten your life, and maybe try and stab you. A grown up kid. I’m not saying you weren’t in the wrong … but I mean damn … can’t just be going off on everybody cause they think your 3 year old son should have a hat on in 20 degree weather.
Adults handle discomfort and problems in a mature way. They attempt to address, fix, or avoid the problem. Their actions are usually aimed at actually getting something accomplished and the biggest thing … they don’t overreact. Just to drive this home … lets see some examples of Adults and “Big Kids” getting delivered bad news.
Agitator: Sorry, we are out of hot wings
Adult: Damn. I’ll have a hamburger instead.
“Big Kid”: Uh uh … that’s some bullsh*t. How you not gonna have hot wings in this b*. I think your just racist and don’t want to give no n***a some chicken. F**k ya’ll (*at this point a chair is thrown*)!
Agitator: “The test came back positive … we’re gonna have a child and I’m keeping it”
Adult: “Oh man. Well, I’m gonna support my seed and make sure everything is good for both of you.”
“Big Kid”: *silence … because he’s already in the car trying to start the engine and calling his cell phone company to give him a new number that this chic will never know*
Agitator: “Sorry baby, I’m going to be 20 minutes late because of work.”
Adult: “It’s Ok honey. I need to go to the convenience store around the corner.”
“Big Kid”: “WTF! Can’t you leave the office on time. You know what, go by yourself. I’m calling up my friends and we’re going out to the club.”
Agitator: “I’m not sure if I want a girlfriend right now. There is a lot going on in my life.”
Adult: “I understand … but I need more right now. We can’t keep seeing each other anymore.”
“Big Kid”: “You b****h a** N***A!!! I knew I shouldn’t have wasted any of my time with your punk a** in the first place. Your d*ck’s small, you smell like dirt, and your momma’s a whore.”
Yes … these big kids just can’t handle disappointment or not getting their way. They pout, complain, through tantrums and resort to whatever means necessary to get their way. Their like a disease, plagueing us level headed individuals who have some semblance of sense to themselves.
Have you come across one of these Big Kids? Are you a reformed “Big Kid”? Are you currently one and willing to admit and seek assistance?
I know I’m not the only one whose seen em …
"and I still won't grow up/ I'm a grown ass kid.."
-KanYe West
I'm a big kid in a few ways, and I don't see anything wrong with it. I think a healthy balance of being a "grown up" mixed with child-like zest is an awesome thing.
I do agree, however, that it's important to handle said situations is a graceful manner. There's a time and a place for everything, ya know?
“Big Kid”: *silence … because he’s already in the car trying to start the engine and calling his cell phone company to give him a new number that this chic will never know*
LMAO! This was so funny, but so true. I haven't met an outright BigKid but I did know one in disguise. Had me tricked until I caught him acting out one day. I was shocked because he seemed so together. I guess Tricks are for kids
this is a very good post. i must admit that i have my "big kid" moments, but it is def. a time a place for them. as Miss A. states t is a "healthy balance of being a grown up mixed with child-like zest". your 4th scenerio literally had me laughing out loud. stay blessed!
"your momma's a whore"
A statement like that would result in some very childish behavior on my part.
Co-Signs on this entire entry. I can't stand when people act they shoe size and not there age. Its ridiculous to watch them carry-on. I definitely agree that everyone needs to have a child-like zest. Your inner child should get a chance to come out and play but please Please PLEASE people… know when to look him/her in the house.
I concur with this post. I just dont get why ppl think sh*t like that is appropriate, even remotely
I dated a big kid briefly for about a week… negro got upset because I wouldn't send him nekked pictures. WTF?! Yea we had known each other for years but hell to the no. He's 2 years younger than me. Said I needed to send them to keep his interest while he was playing ball over seas… whateva n***a. And when I wouldn't he started cursing, calling me out the wrong name and makin threats. He's the main reason I don't date guys my age or younger. I have a 5yr old son, don't need another one.
I think everyone should have some child-like qualities but I'm thinking more like watching cartoons and being goofy. I'd be da*ned if a dude had a tantrum over some issues, no matter how big or small. MAN UP!!!
Lol, this was hilarious SBM! I'm a mixture of both, I tend to pout when I don't get my way and I will throw out some serious lashes with my tongue if felt disrespected, but I have to be livid to be pushed to that point…BUT I don't sweat the small stuff either.
It is what it is.
I have to admit though…I've been changing alot lately, trying to avoid situations altogether that push my buttons…so far, so good.
Good post SBM.
I just so happen to experience this situation over the weekend at a "birthday party" for a family member of mine (my relation to will remain undisclosed due to gross level of embarrassment experienced at said event). We're a very nice, upscale restaurant in the city that was packed on what was a very busy night for them given the parade and everything. As we are quietly singing happy birthday to this person she feels as though we weren't loud enough and makes a ruckus, and starts singing it over again but just louder and yells for at other patrons of the restaurant "Everyone sing". That to me was the essence of the behavior you're describing, and trust me when I tell you that I can't stand nor can I tolerate this behavior from any adult. Period.
Was i acting like a big kid after i threw a tantrum cause my then boyfriend didn't show up till 1 am when we were supposed to meet no later than like 11 pm?
We broke up off that incident (the last of many MANY)
To add, i went out for drinks after he further stood me up by saying i was tripping and at 1 am…he was going to the club alone
Random Comment:
Hey SBM, did you hear King magazine is shutting down?
Funny, I blogged about a similar topic today. I think we are cultivating a culture that has serious Peter Pan syndrome. There is nothing more unattractive than a fully grown (physically) man or woman acting like a toddler. GTFOH.
nooooo @ king mag
“Big Kid”: “You b****h a** N***A!!! I knew I shouldn’t have wasted any of my time with your punk a** in the first place. Your d*ck’s small, you smell like dirt, and your momma’s a whore.”
LMAO!
I think its painfully obvious in relationships when big kid tendencies develop. Acting immature, resorting to petty bytch moves, and the list goes on. I feel young at heart and have a youthful soul, but some situations you must act your age, especially when dealing with grown up issues
@CPT: say it ain't so!!!
I am completely dead at this post…lol! You do it again SBM! Those examples were killers and I know someone that fits into every example. *SMH* I used to act a fool in public or in traffic if someone looked at me the wrong way. I have since grew up, matured and with the calm and peace of my sweet Jesus I know that all those n*gga antics are not necessary.
LOL!
I used to have a website that I used to cover this, but it got spammed to death. You seem to be better at weeding out the spam than I did! Dont give up!