On the other side of the street, however, is letting your man get away with stupid stuff. Men will try to get away with ANYTHING if you let them. Women, please don't feel like you have to constantly foam at the mouth, always checking phone numbers, playing all these reindeer games, wearing a permanent WTF face because your man doesn't respect you.

Instead, stop being a punk ass, drop the infatuation and L E A V E! If it takes you having to play yourself at every turn, just for him to respect and be considerate of you the way you are (or should be) considerate of him, he really isn't worth your time.

No guy has EVER caught me tripping over e-mails or Facebook stalking him– not because I didn't care, but because I love myself AND life too much to ruin it by having to stress myself out everyday over silly mess.

Methinks people have been in fucked up, drama filled relationships for so long that we think that's the way it's supposed to be.

in theory it may sound good, but in practice, i'm pretty sure it's not going to work (maybe on some chicks who can't do any better).

as much as i want the man to be tough and in control, there's no way in hell that i would allow him to degrade me in the way you suggest. first off, i only date men who i wouldn't intentionally try to piss them off just to "test" them… i'd be scared to go there. however, if i do get brave one day, he SHOULD put me in my place when i get reckless… meaning, in the most calm and rational way say, "V, let's think about this for a second…" and explain why my behavior is irrational and out of line. that alone would make me be like, "yeah boo, you're right" or "let's just agree to disagree on this one" and stfu.

As always, I appreciate the love and the comments. Thanks.

I agree 100000% with the "let her know you are a man, not a boy" statement. If you let some females (I am one myself) have you out here like stepping fetchit giving you orders and talking at you and not to you like a child, they will. A lot of women are into scheming, plotting and planning to change and mold a man into what they want them to be; that they completely ignore the fact that they are dealing with a grown man…well until, they get left or cheated on or verbally assaulted. Not to say that a woman brings this on themselves but it can be a factor in things like this happening. Ultimately, this is why like he said, you got to let them know who they are dealing with. This goes for men and women in my opinion.

As far as being who you are in the bedroom…too many woman keep quiet about their dissatisfaction in the bedroom. At the end of the day, closed mouths do not get fed. The more woman stay reluctant to tell a man about the sorry dick he is slinging, the more this epidemic will continue to spread like wildfire. Therefore, you deserve a "O"-less sex life.

As for the last one regarding cheating and giving up all your privacy…under no circumstances should one be forced to give up passwords, locker combinations and an all access pass to their lives because they cheated. If you forgive a person, act like it! If you can't get over it or you are going to hold a grudge, move on.

I don't think a guy has to be a jerk but the underlying message I got from this post is not to lose yourself in a relationship because you are boo-ed up. If you let someone run over you, talk to you like a child and make you pay for a mistake forever, then you have definitely lost yourself.

In essence, I have no problem with my man putting his foot down and me being submissive to him. I absolutely LOVE it, but it is a way it should go about being done. Telling me to "shut-up" would probably get you a cussing or two, and def. a no-no is putting your hands upon me. Dr.J your post is absolutely hilarious, but I would hope this is not how you deem to keep a respectable woman around, one who holds high esteem for herself. In ending before I get back to class ; ), I totally agree about not bringing someone else’s relationship into yours, hell… sometimes you never know what’s really going on. I like to play by the rule of not allowing disagreements the mister and I have, be seen in public. I could be MAD as hell at that mofo, but nobody would know. In public he will be treated as if he is the greatest, and his sh!t don't stink at no time, but once home it may be a different story.

hope everyone is having a good day!

even though the post is extreme i do agree with the overall point of it. *shrugs*