Comments on: If at First You Don’t Succeed… http://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/06/09/break-up-make-up/ The Source For Black Male Perspective Wed, 08 Feb 2012 10:03:52 +0000 hourly 1 By: Ms. Rosehttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/06/09/break-up-make-up/#comment-34592 Ms. Rose Tue, 09 Jun 2009 22:02:42 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=1797#comment-34592 For some people, hindsight is 20/20. For others, good sex prevents them from seeing things clearly. Don't get in your own way and don't let someone else prevent you from getting what you deserve. Sometimes people go back into situations because they think that their partner has changed in some way. People don't change, they just become better at hiding their flaws. Mom was right when she said that some things are better left alone. For some people, hindsight is 20/20. For others, good sex prevents them from seeing things clearly. Don't get in your own way and don't let someone else prevent you from getting what you deserve.

Sometimes people go back into situations because they think that their partner has changed in some way. People don't change, they just become better at hiding their flaws.

Mom was right when she said that some things are better left alone.

]]> By: streetztalkhttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/06/09/break-up-make-up/#comment-34580 streetztalk Tue, 09 Jun 2009 14:52:22 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=1797#comment-34580 @ Strafe thats why I switched to Mac OS, lol @ Strafe

thats why I switched to Mac OS, lol

]]> By: Terrihttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/06/09/break-up-make-up/#comment-34579 Terri Tue, 09 Jun 2009 14:51:11 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=1797#comment-34579 I was married for 10 years, together a total of 17 years. Of those 10 years, 5 was him living elsewhere. We always tried to make the marriage work becaue we have kids together. Damn that....the kids will eventually get over it and the funny part is, my ex thinks that there will always be a chance with us again. I don't go backwards in relationships especially if there was any kind of disrespect, cheating, lying...etc. Once you instill in me that you just aint that one, you will never be that one. You can say that I have a hard heart or whatever. Once you break it, you will never get the chance to do it agian. So no...I am not the kind of woman that will continuously try to make a relationship work. I was married for 10 years, together a total of 17 years. Of those 10 years, 5 was him living elsewhere. We always tried to make the marriage work becaue we have kids together. Damn that….the kids will eventually get over it and the funny part is, my ex thinks that there will always be a chance with us again.
I don't go backwards in relationships especially if there was any kind of disrespect, cheating, lying…etc. Once you instill in me that you just aint that one, you will never be that one. You can say that I have a hard heart or whatever. Once you break it, you will never get the chance to do it agian. So no…I am not the kind of woman that will continuously try to make a relationship work.

]]> By: streetztalkhttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/06/09/break-up-make-up/#comment-34578 streetztalk Tue, 09 Jun 2009 14:44:25 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=1797#comment-34578 Fam, I respect the SBM readers for brigning this up. I have too been very guilty of this (as Reecie can attest to from my gchat confessions, lol) but I woke up one day and realized that it was all bs. Next week I'm going to drop my "Why exes should remain exes" blog for the people. Digital Ether at its finest and answers ur question perfectly. Fam,

I respect the SBM readers for brigning this up. I have too been very guilty of this (as Reecie can attest to from my gchat confessions, lol) but I woke up one day and realized that it was all bs.

Next week I'm going to drop my "Why exes should remain exes" blog for the people. Digital Ether at its finest and answers ur question perfectly.

]]> By: William H. Strafehttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/06/09/break-up-make-up/#comment-34577 William H. Strafe Tue, 09 Jun 2009 14:10:23 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=1797#comment-34577 You guys are lucky you stopped at 3.0, for real. With more than one girl, I've reached versions 3.0, 4.0, XP & Vista. And why? The power of the p-u-s-s-y. One of these aforementioned women...she was bad for me and I was not good for her. She knew it. I knew. I told her this. Repeatedly. She wouldn't listen. Then, when she started to heed my advice, I couldn't take it. Not because I suddenly had this deep emotional attachment for her that I had for no one else. No, I couldn't fathom the thought of not being able to open those legs and filet mignon that... Lather. Rinse. Repeat. Needless to say, I learned after Vista. There will be no Windows 7. You guys are lucky you stopped at 3.0, for real. With more than one girl, I've reached versions 3.0, 4.0, XP & Vista.

And why?

The power of the p-u-s-s-y.

One of these aforementioned women…she was bad for me and I was not good for her. She knew it. I knew. I told her this. Repeatedly. She wouldn't listen. Then, when she started to heed my advice, I couldn't take it. Not because I suddenly had this deep emotional attachment for her that I had for no one else.

No, I couldn't fathom the thought of not being able to open those legs and filet mignon that…

Lather. Rinse. Repeat.

Needless to say, I learned after Vista. There will be no Windows 7.

]]> By: Tundehttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/06/09/break-up-make-up/#comment-34574 Tunde Tue, 09 Jun 2009 11:49:39 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=1797#comment-34574 i've never been one to backtrack and try a relationship again. lol. i believe that people break up for a reason and you should leave the past in the past. and with that said.... i really agree with your second point. sometimes when the sex is good and you know what you are going to get its easy to backtrack in that department. i know i have but you always end up regretting it, so that's not my thing anymore. i've never been one to backtrack and try a relationship again. lol. i believe that people break up for a reason and you should leave the past in the past. and with that said…. i really agree with your second point. sometimes when the sex is good and you know what you are going to get its easy to backtrack in that department. i know i have but you always end up regretting it, so that's not my thing anymore.

]]> By: Somethin' Specihttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/06/09/break-up-make-up/#comment-34573 Somethin' Speci Tue, 09 Jun 2009 11:33:42 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=1797#comment-34573 Yo-yo relationships always make me smh.. I've never been in one though I have a lot of friends who have surpassed the 4.0 version several times over. Honestly speaking I remind myself whenever I even entertain the idea that we broke up for a reason. I'd consider dating the person NOT EXCLUSIVELY to see if they have changed. If they haven't they are never offered their full time position back. Yo-yo relationships always make me smh.. I've never been in one though I have a lot of friends who have surpassed the 4.0 version several times over. Honestly speaking I remind myself whenever I even entertain the idea that we broke up for a reason. I'd consider dating the person NOT EXCLUSIVELY to see if they have changed. If they haven't they are never offered their full time position back.

]]> By: Remihttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/06/09/break-up-make-up/#comment-34569 Remi Tue, 09 Jun 2009 10:13:58 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=1797#comment-34569 @Slim - No, I am usually the person who ends it for good cause, but I just don't have the heart to stick with it after hearing "I'm sorry." Deep down I know things will not be different, but fear that I may be letting things go prematurely, so I go back. I know foolishness at its best. :( @ DrJ - you are exactly right. It always gets worse each time afterwards. @Slim – No, I am usually the person who ends it for good cause, but I just don't have the heart to stick with it after hearing "I'm sorry." Deep down I know things will not be different, but fear that I may be letting things go prematurely, so I go back. I know foolishness at its best. :(

@ DrJ – you are exactly right. It always gets worse each time afterwards.

]]> By: chiricityhttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/06/09/break-up-make-up/#comment-34568 chiricity Tue, 09 Jun 2009 10:09:37 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=1797#comment-34568 @ Reecie: I to suffer from the recycler syndrome. I'm going through it right now. I love him and it's the only reason I have the patience to stay. I truly believe that we should be together even though I've compromised everything and he has compromised nothing...(holds my head down in shame). He's perfect except for the 50 million flaws he has... lol I'm on my last straw though so if 2.0 doesn't work, I'm bouncing. I would call ours relationship The Titantic... It's great while we're sailing the seas, but eventually we're going to hit that rock and sink... damn! @ Reecie: I to suffer from the recycler syndrome. I'm going through it right now. I love him and it's the only reason I have the patience to stay.

I truly believe that we should be together even though I've compromised everything and he has compromised nothing…(holds my head down in shame). He's perfect except for the 50 million flaws he has… lol

I'm on my last straw though so if 2.0 doesn't work, I'm bouncing.

I would call ours relationship The Titantic… It's great while we're sailing the seas, but eventually we're going to hit that rock and sink… damn!

]]> By: Reeciehttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/06/09/break-up-make-up/#comment-34567 Reecie Tue, 09 Jun 2009 09:34:10 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=1797#comment-34567 My name is Reecie, and I am a recovered relationship recycler. I've done it too many times to share. It was really bad in the college years, getting back with old HS joint; after college years, getting back with old college joint. *sigh* I really try to give people the benefit of the doubt, hoping that growth and "maturity" will let the 2.0 prosper where 1.0 didn't....but a lot of it is about knowing the person (good and bad) and not really being ready to go through the motions of meeting new people. the comfort level is crazy! and because I remained friends with my exes it didn't help the ability to move on. but I'm over it! never, ever again. My name is Reecie, and I am a recovered relationship recycler. I've done it too many times to share. It was really bad in the college years, getting back with old HS joint; after college years, getting back with old college joint. *sigh* I really try to give people the benefit of the doubt, hoping that growth and "maturity" will let the 2.0 prosper where 1.0 didn't….but a lot of it is about knowing the person (good and bad) and not really being ready to go through the motions of meeting new people. the comfort level is crazy! and because I remained friends with my exes it didn't help the ability to move on. but I'm over it! never, ever again.

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