Comments on: SBM Answers: The Problem With The Super Black Woman http://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/06/15/problem-with-black-women/ The Source For Black Male Perspective Wed, 08 Feb 2012 10:03:52 +0000 hourly 1 By: Super Black Manhttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/06/15/problem-with-black-women/#comment-342434 Super Black Man Sat, 04 Feb 2012 13:55:20 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=1854#comment-342434 Here is an idea: what if the only one who can teach you how to be a black woman is a black man....scary isn't it? Having to listen to.... him of all people! Here is an idea: what if the only one who can teach you how to be a black woman is a black man….scary isn’t it? Having to listen to…. him of all people!

]]> By: Super Black Manhttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/06/15/problem-with-black-women/#comment-342433 Super Black Man Sat, 04 Feb 2012 13:42:25 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=1854#comment-342433 Very enlightening As a black man coming with all the baggage associated with usually fitting the description..I say your single because dispite what you've learned, true growth is internal won't be found on no page in a book. Know yourself, becaus up until now you have only been taught about the enemy. And you can't serve to masters. Very enlightening As a black man coming with all the baggage associated with usually fitting the description..I say your single because dispite what you’ve learned, true growth is internal won’t be found on no page in a book. Know yourself, becaus up until now you have only been taught about the enemy. And you can’t serve to masters.

]]> By: Adonishttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/06/15/problem-with-black-women/#comment-81549 Adonis Wed, 04 Aug 2010 07:18:54 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=1854#comment-81549 Wow... Some of these women have a better chance hitting the lottery than to end up married... And that is okay... Cause being a feminine being actually scares them... And they are afraid to compete... While Men do need to man up... Black females need to start being more feminine... POINT BLANK... I wish y'all well... P.S. Women are learning (quick, fast, & in a hurry) the hard way that a relationship with two leaders or 50/50 don't work out as successful... But Wow… Some of these women have a better chance hitting the lottery than to end up married… And that is okay… Cause being a feminine being actually scares them… And they are afraid to compete… While Men do need to man up… Black females need to start being more feminine… POINT BLANK… I wish y'all well…

P.S. Women are learning (quick, fast, & in a hurry) the hard way that a relationship with two leaders or 50/50 don't work out as successful… But

]]> By: Anitahttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/06/15/problem-with-black-women/#comment-39230 Anita Wed, 02 Sep 2009 05:18:13 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=1854#comment-39230 A very interesting Post, I thought I was alone. Anyway the insecurity in guys is really frustrating. I have three degrees and....the rest. So there is this guy that was kinda interested in me............until he came to visit me in my apartment. The first thing he asked is How much do you pay for this......so I brushed it off.............any way after that he went silent. It was obvious that the visibility of me having my own turned him off. I was also told by peole before starting on the PhD that no man would ever be interested in me if i went ahead with the Phd. What i figured was that it was better to be rich and well educated and lonely than poor and lonely after all not all uneducated ladies are married. Lastly Ladies there are too many STDs and AIDS going around. Amidst all the "Desperation" some kladies are too scared to ask a guy to either go for an HIV test or use a condom. Your life is worth too much so i suggest that do not compromise your health just to have a man. A very interesting Post, I thought I was alone. Anyway the insecurity in guys is really frustrating. I have three degrees and….the rest. So there is this guy that was kinda interested in me…………until he came to visit me in my apartment. The first thing he asked is How much do you pay for this……so I brushed it off………….any way after that he went silent. It was obvious that the visibility of me having my own turned him off.

I was also told by peole before starting on the PhD that no man would ever be interested in me if i went ahead with the Phd. What i figured was that it was better to be rich and well educated and lonely than poor and lonely after all not all uneducated ladies are married.

Lastly Ladies there are too many STDs and AIDS going around. Amidst all the "Desperation" some kladies are too scared to ask a guy to either go for an HIV test or use a condom. Your life is worth too much so i suggest that do not compromise your health just to have a man.

]]> By: lip-licioushttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/06/15/problem-with-black-women/#comment-38513 lip-licious Tue, 18 Aug 2009 14:27:13 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=1854#comment-38513 PREACH my sista' preach!.... I'm rolling here at work reading the last comment from Cimone- I agree, as a witness, I too testify! How liberating for any one couple/s to celebrate their love with financial freedom and confidence with victory doing the championship dance in the back....( go,go,go- can you feel me!) Are my fellow brother's for real? In most relationships, I believe that people desire to have "the one" who reflects the inner beauty, peace of mind coupled with success and happiness! ( please note: non gender roles : equal accountability + responsiblity = success) Social support checks don't provide that... Waiting for the next pay-date for a romantic evening isn't cutting it either.... To have clean hands- you need one to wash the other. If both parties in a relationship can add to the success and progressive nature of the relationship, all in the name of love..bliss - Ladies, continue to Woman up and men... MAN-UP! PREACH my sista' preach!…. I'm rolling here at work reading the last comment from Cimone- I agree, as a witness, I too testify!

How liberating for any one couple/s to celebrate their love with financial freedom and confidence with victory doing the championship dance in the back….( go,go,go- can you feel me!)

Are my fellow brother's for real? In most relationships, I believe that people desire to have "the one" who reflects the inner beauty, peace of mind coupled with success and happiness! ( please note: non gender roles : equal accountability + responsiblity = success) Social support checks don't provide that… Waiting for the next pay-date for a romantic evening isn't cutting it either….

To have clean hands- you need one to wash the other. If both parties in a relationship can add to the success and progressive nature of the relationship, all in the name of love..bliss – Ladies, continue to Woman up and men… MAN-UP!

]]> By: Cimonehttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/06/15/problem-with-black-women/#comment-37724 Cimone Tue, 04 Aug 2009 07:54:10 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=1854#comment-37724 Ladies, if a Black man ever tells you that your ambition, accomplishment, education or efforts at achieving excellence are a hindrance to a relationship with him, you look that fool in the eye and that is when you tell him "thank you for telling me how insecure and selfish you are before I wasted a second of my time on you." See, a relationship is a partnership, a joining of energy and power. You are not there to GIVE UP yourself, or make yourself appear to be less on any level, so that he will feel good. He needs to feel good by himself and you feel good by yourself, then two people that feel good come together. But if a man expresses a need for you to be less so that he can feel like more, he is an insecure guy socialized to believe women are here solely to serve him and meet his needs. Secondly, young women that have not been married are all glowy eyed and thinking that marriage is the pot at the end of the rainbow. It isn't. If it were, the statistics which show that more than 75% of women in this country file for divorce would not be. Women marry, and their fantasy and expectations are not met, they get sick of being a slave workhorse and taken for granted, then they sky up and leave and get back to the business of self-actualizing. So I suggest that you young women do all you can to enjoy yourself and self-actualize now. Don't you dare get pregnant with no fool's baby and get stretch marks and stuck with a kid. Instead, be free! Do what you want to do with whomever you want to do it. Use discretion and don't put your business on blast. Buy property, travel with your friends, party and have a great, great time. When you have absolutely nothing else to do with your time, THEN you get married. Ladies, if a Black man ever tells you that your ambition, accomplishment, education or efforts at achieving excellence are a hindrance to a relationship with him, you look that fool in the eye and that is when you tell him "thank you for telling me how insecure and selfish you are before I wasted a second of my time on you."

See, a relationship is a partnership, a joining of energy and power. You are not there to GIVE UP yourself, or make yourself appear to be less on any level, so that he will feel good. He needs to feel good by himself and you feel good by yourself, then two people that feel good come together. But if a man expresses a need for you to be less so that he can feel like more, he is an insecure guy socialized to believe women are here solely to serve him and meet his needs.

Secondly, young women that have not been married are all glowy eyed and thinking that marriage is the pot at the end of the rainbow. It isn't. If it were, the statistics which show that more than 75% of women in this country file for divorce would not be. Women marry, and their fantasy and expectations are not met, they get sick of being a slave workhorse and taken for granted, then they sky up and leave and get back to the business of self-actualizing.

So I suggest that you young women do all you can to enjoy yourself and self-actualize now. Don't you dare get pregnant with no fool's baby and get stretch marks and stuck with a kid. Instead, be free! Do what you want to do with whomever you want to do it. Use discretion and don't put your business on blast. Buy property, travel with your friends, party and have a great, great time. When you have absolutely nothing else to do with your time, THEN you get married.

]]> By: phDonteventrythathttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/06/15/problem-with-black-women/#comment-37609 phDonteventrythat Sun, 02 Aug 2009 11:35:41 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=1854#comment-37609 for me its this "the blacker the berry the sweater the juice" and i need a smart girl who did study on a random university so if you are a skinny black girl with a phD - holler at me! btw.: to me the most dark black girls are the most cute for me its this "the blacker the berry the sweater the juice"
and i need a smart girl who did study on a random university
so if you are a skinny black girl with a phD – holler at me!

btw.: to me the most dark black girls are the most cute

]]> By: Evolgirlhttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/06/15/problem-with-black-women/#comment-35412 Evolgirl Wed, 24 Jun 2009 00:34:32 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=1854#comment-35412 Here's the thing...he got tired of me NOT responding back to his messages or texts so he became the mad-rapper...lol...but, is this how black men tend to feel if a black woman does not respond back to him the way he is expecting? i would like to hear from the fellas... Here's the thing…he got tired of me NOT responding back to his messages or texts so he became the mad-rapper…lol…but, is this how black men tend to feel if a black woman does not respond back to him the way he is expecting?

i would like to hear from the fellas…

]]> By: Evolgirlhttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/06/15/problem-with-black-women/#comment-35410 Evolgirl Wed, 24 Jun 2009 00:24:41 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=1854#comment-35410 The note (below) is an example of how some black men really feel about black women. But this kind of feeling (like the one below) is usually because they (some black men) have FAILED at making substantial connections with women period and they usually lack self-esteem, patience, people-skills, originality, and sanity in all they do. Here's a real message that I received from a weirdo last week...lol...enjoy: I sent that last email yesterday afternoon before I had texted u last night. This will be the last message because u a straight buster. U didn't even know who I was last night when I contacted you wich means u had already deleted my number for no good reason. U had no real intention of ever establishing a friendship. U played around in the beginning and when I called u on it, u flip that shit by acting like I was to serious. I backed off u for a couple of months but didn't trip at the blatant sign of disrespect and inconsiderateness on your part. U should have just been a grown woman and said that u didn't have no rap or that u was not interested in getting better acquainted but u had to be an immature coward. If somebody did this to you u, then u would think them corny. News Flash I think your corny and tacky. U would only had to tell me not to contact u once and that would of been cool with me. I only emailed u because I thought u was affiliated with some thoro people that I know. I don't get at women on-line u clown. Fuck u think I am. U might be halfway cute, book smart, and hold down a good job but u don't know shit about me, men, or relationships. Today’s modern black women is snudy, superficial, insecure, low-self esteem and undomesticated. That's why successful brothers marry anything else but a black bitch. U might be something to dudes that don't know any better but to me, U just a prime example of today’s modern black bitch. Your number has been deleted, profile blocked and deleted. Learn to say what u mean and mean what u say. Treat people the way u want to be treated and go see the wizard for a heart u punk azz broad. U caught me on the right day today baby and u think u different or something special. Negro Please! I have no further comments and I won't read or listen to anything that u have to say or write so don't waste your time and grow the fuck up u poor excuse for a strong black woman. That's my mother fucking word Gonzo! U got me fucked up. I'm not no dam toy. Fuck is u supposed to be u bird ass nigga. The note (below) is an example of how some black men really feel about black women. But this kind of feeling (like the one below) is usually because they (some black men) have FAILED at making substantial connections with women period and they usually lack self-esteem, patience, people-skills, originality, and sanity in all they do.

Here's a real message that I received from a weirdo last week…lol…enjoy:

I sent that last email yesterday afternoon before I had texted u last night. This will be the last message because u a straight buster. U didn't even know who I was last night when I contacted you wich means u had already deleted my number for no good reason. U had no real intention of ever establishing a friendship. U played around in the beginning and when I called u on it, u flip that shit by acting like I was to serious. I backed off u for a couple of months but didn't trip at the blatant sign of disrespect and inconsiderateness on your part. U should have just been a grown woman and said that u didn't have no rap or that u was not interested in getting better acquainted but u had to be an immature coward. If somebody did this to you u, then u would think them corny. News Flash I think your corny and tacky. U would only had to tell me not to contact u once and that would of been cool with me. I only emailed u because I thought u was affiliated with some thoro people that I know. I don't get at women on-line u clown. Fuck u think I am. U might be halfway cute, book smart, and hold down a good job but u don't know shit about me, men, or relationships. Today’s modern black women is snudy, superficial, insecure, low-self esteem and undomesticated. That's why successful brothers marry anything else but a black bitch. U might be something to dudes that don't know any better but to me, U just a prime example of today’s modern black bitch. Your number has been deleted, profile blocked and deleted. Learn to say what u mean and mean what u say. Treat people the way u want to be treated and go see the wizard for a heart u punk azz broad. U caught me on the right day today baby and u think u different or something special. Negro Please! I have no further comments and I won't read or listen to anything that u have to say or write so don't waste your time and grow the fuck up u poor excuse for a strong black woman. That's my mother fucking word Gonzo! U got me fucked up. I'm not no dam toy. Fuck is u supposed to be u bird ass nigga.

]]> By: Evolgirlhttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/06/15/problem-with-black-women/#comment-35408 Evolgirl Tue, 23 Jun 2009 23:55:42 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=1854#comment-35408 a male friend of mine once told me that he doesn't want his woman knowing more than him...based on this post, i guess this holds some truth for other men too...lol. a male friend of mine once told me that he doesn't want his woman knowing more than him…based on this post, i guess this holds some truth for other men too…lol.

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