Comments on: Slim Answers: Sacrifice for Love?

By: smoove gp

smoove gp — Thu, 09 Jul 2009 11:20:15 +0000

And if I can't f*ck then what's the point?

By: smoove gp

smoove gp — Thu, 09 Jul 2009 11:13:55 +0000

@ Peyso

Even though I just said do the school thing, I was thinkin the same thing lol. They always complaining they can't find a "good black man" yet they have one and still look for reasons to drop his ass. Smh. Women gotta be the most confused group ever man. Like slim or j or sbm said, "one thing women don't know: women".

By: smoove gp

smoove gp — Thu, 09 Jul 2009 10:58:04 +0000

There's plenty of time for finding a husband later. There's only one shot (relatively speaking) to get the education that'll put you where you wanna be for at least the next 30 years. The less distractions the better. Do the school, THEN find the guy. Peace and best wishes.

-Smoove

By: K.

K. — Thu, 18 Jun 2009 10:37:41 +0000

If he's talking marriage (soon) then stay. I don't understand him talking about wanting to live together if you stay. If he's serious why not make it official and give you a reason to stay?

How would feel if you stayed in ATL and yall broke up? Would you regret it? If so don't consider him in your decision – that's stuff you do for husbands.

By: VeronicaO

VeronicaO — Wed, 17 Jun 2009 07:47:31 +0000

I'm late to respond. I think she should do what's best for her. If it is meant to be, it'll all work out in the end.

By: Brittany

Brittany — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 20:00:44 +0000

erin: "Her bf sounds good on paper so she better think long and hard before she does anything rash…"

I mean really…. did she not read yesterday's post/comments? A good black man is as mythical and elusive as a unicorn, or the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. The tooth fairy. Easter bunny. She better hold on to him! Or, take the hoodrat approach and get knocked up. That'll keep him!

By: erin

erin — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 19:46:50 +0000

The fact that she's having doubts show that their relationship probably isn't meant to be because if it were meant to be, having a LDR wouldn't be an issue. After all "love conquers all".

That being said. I think yesterdays post teaches us that unicorns and the elusive 3-5% of dateable men are hard to come by. Her bf sounds good on paper so she better think long and hard before she does anything rash…

By: Tiffany Nicole

Tiffany Nicole — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 15:55:38 +0000

I'm currently in a long distant relationship and it just so happens to be with my high school love. We have reconnected after about seven years. Despite the challenges we have been working out very well. But it all deals with OPEN communication. I love my job and right now I don't plan on moving and he is loving where he is. We have talked about relocating together when the time is right. I think it is important to make decisions based on what is best for you, not because of a man or a woman. And if he loves you he will help you make the best decision not based on emotions or personal interest. I can say this all now because I'm 29 and gotta a little experience. I'm not career focus but more about living a good life and having no regrets about the choices I make. Live your life.

By: New Girl on the Bloc

New Girl on the Bloc — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 15:29:03 +0000

If he's a keeper trust me, it'll work out in the end. "If you love something you let it go if it comes back to you, it's yours.If it doesn't you'll never know…" Wise words from DMX. HaHa.

You have only one life, play smart. If he's the one for you, only time will tell!

@ Slim – Awww man that "S" word. Good ol' sacrifice. Granted, there are sacrifices to be made in any serious relationship. I'm all for a sacrifice when it's a smart decision to make and beneficial. Don't wanna do anything too drastic and kick myself in the ass in the long run. With long distance relationships…it'll work out in the end if it's meant to be.

By: Somethin' Speci

Somethin' Speci — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 14:21:22 +0000

Afternoon all.. Don't know if anyone wrote anything similar to what i'm about to post but I've been in long distance relationships before and I would give it a thumbs up if both parties are willing to put in WORK.. SERIOUS work. But either way you should base your educational/career choices on YOU not ur man not ur family or ur friends. There will be times later in life where they won't be around you for a significant amount of time. I'd apply to the school near you and see how it goes. But if the school out of state works best for you by all means go for it and if the relationship really is for you God will make sure u have it. If it is truly love then it will be able to stand the distance.. and thats not to say something may not happen BUT if its REALLY love.. then it won't be anything that you guys couldnt work together to get over.