Comments on: Friendship is Essential…or Is It?

By: Anonymiss

Anonymiss — Mon, 03 Aug 2009 01:54:41 +0000

I think its ideal to date someone whom you could also see yourself being friends with or already were friends with to begin with. If you wouldn't like a guy as a friend then what makes you think you're going to enjoy spending the rest of your life with him? I guess if you aren't really looking for a marriage partner and just "having fun" then it doesn't matter if you're friends or not but I think if you can't be friends the relationship is doomed.

By: smoove gp

smoove gp — Thu, 09 Jul 2009 10:29:23 +0000

@ Slim

That'd definitely should spark some good debate/convo no doubt.

@ redlady

In a perfect world, yeah, who wouldn't wanna marry their best friend…*crickets*

I couldn't do it, but I know I'm not the only one…

By: Mz Good Heart

Mz Good Heart — Wed, 08 Jul 2009 02:46:06 +0000

I so have been in this. i had a friend and it turned lover and when we tried to turn it back it was hard. many of te reasons it didnt work was cuz we knew to much about each other pasted… but i still love him and he is apart of my life and we are both in realtionships now but it is no dening the the spark betweeb us!!!

By: Nicole

Nicole — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 15:33:38 +0000

I believe friends going from the relation phase back to friendship is the hard thing. It like starting a friendship from ground zero all over again. Plus, it also depends on how the breakup happened. If the breakup was mutual, then everything is all good. However, if the breakup was pretty ugly, that's another story altogether. There probably won't be a chance of starting over, no matter how long you were friends before.

Personally, I'd rather not date friends. I tried it once and it ended pretty ugly. Friends should just stay in the friend zone.

By: Mikki

Mikki — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 12:19:04 +0000

Lol ummm well yea i knew that was a joke (blank stare)

By: Hugh Jazz

Hugh Jazz — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 12:10:45 +0000

Mikki: "HJ i read that and all i saw was ” she is just not that into you” im sorry but it should take 6 years to figure out she doesnt like u that way and never will."

Mikki, you do realize that was a joke article from The Onion, right? It was satirical, but truth is said in jest.

By: CPT Callamity

CPT Callamity — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 12:05:35 +0000

Me and my friends usually stay just friends. They know too much about me and from what I've found…if there is no mystery, then there is no attraction. Plus…my platonic friends are that way for a reason. F*ck a friendzone!

By: Mikki

Mikki — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 11:57:10 +0000

HJ i read that and all i saw was " she is just not that into you" im sorry but it should take 6 years to figure out she doesnt like u that way and never will. Its like get a clue lol.

Slim i dont even think it has to be 2-3 years it can be 6 months, just some point where u spent time and got to know them before u got into a relationship romantically

By: Slim Jackson

Slim Jackson — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 11:45:57 +0000

I think I may need to clarify a bit. I'm not saying that a folks should be like "Oh, that person is cute and has a good personality. I need to befriend them for a year and then holler". A lot of time stuff just happens. When people have that relationship story where they say they were friends for 2-3 years first and then got together, some would say that's ideal. Nonetheless, let's keep the dialogue going. This is a good one today!

By: Hugh Jazz

Hugh Jazz — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 11:34:41 +0000

I would never befriend a woman that I just met if I was interested in her. I'm not trying to be "friend zoned", so why would I start off the relationship with only that in mind? I think it goes without saying that if you are romantically involved with someone, you should be friends; if not, that relationship is doomed to failure. After all, what is the purpose of dating if it isn't to get to know the person?

This is what I think of when a guy tries to befriend a woman he is interested in:
http://www.theonion.com/content/opinion/but_if_we…