Comments on: The Get Over It Series: Men are Judgmental http://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/07/09/the-get-over-it-series-men-are-judgmental/ The Source For Black Male Perspective Wed, 08 Feb 2012 10:03:52 +0000 hourly 1 By: loveufirsthttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/07/09/the-get-over-it-series-men-are-judgmental/#comment-46121 loveufirst Fri, 04 Dec 2009 13:58:25 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=1975#comment-46121 This is the most shallow thing i have ever heard....men are truly a mess. What makes yall think that yall can just down grade a woman like that? Thats why so many men fall flat on their faces because yall look at the wrong thing in a woman. just give me a man who can treat me right, keep a job & f#%k me good when i want & need it....o he has to be attarctive also. Men are very insecure creatures...damn shame. This is the most shallow thing i have ever heard….men are truly a mess. What makes yall think that yall can just down grade a woman like that? Thats why so many men fall flat on their faces because yall look at the wrong thing in a woman. just give me a man who can treat me right, keep a job & f#%k me good when i want & need it….o he has to be attarctive also. Men are very insecure creatures…damn shame.

]]> By: The Get Over It Series: Get Over Yourself – Single Black Malehttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/07/09/the-get-over-it-series-men-are-judgmental/#comment-38944 The Get Over It Series: Get Over Yourself – Single Black Male Thu, 27 Aug 2009 05:06:52 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=1975#comment-38944 [...] inability to see the need to improve and over-confidence has contributed to your loneliness. Men are Judgmental – We talked about how no matter what you would like to think, men will always be judgmental, so [...] [...] inability to see the need to improve and over-confidence has contributed to your loneliness. Men are Judgmental – We talked about how no matter what you would like to think, men will always be judgmental, so [...]

]]> By: Cimonehttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/07/09/the-get-over-it-series-men-are-judgmental/#comment-37721 Cimone Tue, 04 Aug 2009 07:35:06 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=1975#comment-37721 It's true that there are things about men that women will never change and women need to accept those things. Women also have some "get over it!" issues with men. Let me list a few: #1 You got me pregnant. Don't whine and cry about how you didn't wanna be a father! You sure didn't say that when you were all up in that bare backing, did you? So now you are gonna pay child support fool. Get over it! #2 You are controlling and abusive and I'm tired of you talking to me crazy and beating on me. I am leaving you and never coming back. Get over it! #3 You may think you are "a nice guy" that you deserve my love and attention over a thug, but if I don't want you, stop whining about how Sistah's "don't want a nice guy." That's not it at all, I just don't want YOU because you are corny and your game is weak. Get over it! #4 You still live with your mother at 25 and she still does your laundry. You can't be my man if you are still your mama's baby. So when women laugh at you, get over it! I could go on and on, but you get the idea. :) It's true that there are things about men that women will never change and women need to accept those things. Women also have some "get over it!" issues with men. Let me list a few:

#1 You got me pregnant. Don't whine and cry about how you didn't wanna be a father! You sure didn't say that when you were all up in that bare backing, did you? So now you are gonna pay child support fool. Get over it!

#2 You are controlling and abusive and I'm tired of you talking to me crazy and beating on me. I am leaving you and never coming back. Get over it!

#3 You may think you are "a nice guy" that you deserve my love and attention over a thug, but if I don't want you, stop whining about how Sistah's "don't want a nice guy." That's not it at all, I just don't want YOU because you are corny and your game is weak. Get over it!

#4 You still live with your mother at 25 and she still does your laundry. You can't be my man if you are still your mama's baby. So when women laugh at you, get over it!

I could go on and on, but you get the idea. :)

]]> By: Anonymisshttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/07/09/the-get-over-it-series-men-are-judgmental/#comment-37623 Anonymiss Mon, 03 Aug 2009 01:46:44 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=1975#comment-37623 lmao. i dont know why i found this to be funny. lmao. i dont know why i found this to be funny.

]]> By: Anonymisshttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/07/09/the-get-over-it-series-men-are-judgmental/#comment-37622 Anonymiss Mon, 03 Aug 2009 01:39:55 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=1975#comment-37622 Lol so true. Lol so true.

]]> By: Awesome Advice, Way to Go! | Advicehttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/07/09/the-get-over-it-series-men-are-judgmental/#comment-37012 Awesome Advice, Way to Go! | Advice Thu, 23 Jul 2009 04:02:02 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=1975#comment-37012 [...] The Source: Dr. J, “The Get Over It Series”, SingleBlackMale.net [...] [...] The Source: Dr. J, “The Get Over It Series”, SingleBlackMale.net [...]

]]> By: Suki =)http://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/07/09/the-get-over-it-series-men-are-judgmental/#comment-36548 Suki =) Mon, 13 Jul 2009 23:52:16 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=1975#comment-36548 @Remi "I think a lot of women or people in general need to stop wasting their time with people who will never want to be with them seriously, if that is what they are looking for. I think it’ s important to realize that there are certain immutable characteristics that some people can’t get passed and just to leave those people alone. Find someone who actually wants to be with you." THANK YOU FOR THIS!! @Remi
"I think a lot of women or people in general need to stop wasting their time with people who will never want to be with them seriously, if that is what they are looking for. I think it’ s important to realize that there are certain immutable characteristics that some people can’t get passed and just to leave those people alone. Find someone who actually wants to be with you."

THANK YOU FOR THIS!!

]]> By: FeloniousMonkhttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/07/09/the-get-over-it-series-men-are-judgmental/#comment-36420 FeloniousMonk Fri, 10 Jul 2009 16:51:52 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=1975#comment-36420 ok Dr. J. I guess I like you again. :0). But I'm still hating on that V. Bryant pick, lol. ok Dr. J. I guess I like you again. :0). But I'm still hating on that V. Bryant pick, lol.

]]> By: ABhttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/07/09/the-get-over-it-series-men-are-judgmental/#comment-36413 AB Fri, 10 Jul 2009 13:42:44 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=1975#comment-36413 On that note, it is in the interest of the ladies to chill on the 'sexting,' scandalous youtubing and facebooking. It's not hard to find that stuff--much of which can DQ someone from gf/marriage material. I've even seen girls lose jobs and opportunities because they were dumb enough to do their freaky stuff nondiscreetly. I know I'd find it impossible to go thru a marriage if a future wife of mine (if I EVER got married) was on some youtube channel grinding on some d-bag at a frat party. On that note, it is in the interest of the ladies to chill on the 'sexting,' scandalous youtubing and facebooking. It's not hard to find that stuff–much of which can DQ someone from gf/marriage material. I've even seen girls lose jobs and opportunities because they were
dumb enough to do their freaky stuff nondiscreetly.

I know I'd find it impossible to go thru a marriage if a future wife of mine (if I EVER got married) was on some youtube channel grinding on some d-bag at a frat party.

]]> By: ABhttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/07/09/the-get-over-it-series-men-are-judgmental/#comment-36411 AB Fri, 10 Jul 2009 13:39:54 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=1975#comment-36411 Dr. J's post is exactly right. History matters, and in ways more than it used to. Even "nice girls" have their run ins with "trains" 4 somes, horrible romantic choices, etc. The problem comes when dudes find out, or when such ladies bring back results from it (kids, STI's, being tired of having sex bc they got too much while young, etc.) Women think the same way too--anyone remember how many sisters have their own super specific "lists" that black men have to meet to be dateable? The lesson is that if a certain kind of guy/girl is on your radar you have to watch your history, make good choices, and make yourself into someone who would 'fit the profile.' Dr. J's post is exactly right. History matters, and in ways more than it used to. Even "nice girls" have their run ins with "trains" 4 somes, horrible romantic choices, etc. The problem comes when dudes find out, or when such ladies bring back results from it (kids, STI's, being tired of having sex bc they got too much while young, etc.)

Women think the same way too–anyone remember how many sisters have their own super specific "lists" that black men have to meet to be dateable?

The lesson is that if a certain kind of guy/girl is on your radar you have to watch your history, make good choices, and make yourself into someone who would 'fit the profile.'

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