Get it girl!
The club is a harsh environment. It’s hot, it’s loud, it’s crowded … and on top of all that you’re trying to get some one night love make a lasting connection with someone.
Enter the mind of … a guy
In most cases you are bombarded with gorgeous women. Girls who would be a 4 or maybe a solid 6 on the outside world, suddenly look like they came out of KING magazine. The low light covers up that snaggle tooth, that dress is turning that peach shaped behind into a full fledged donkey, and that push-up is working wonders for her. Not to mention the Goose, Yac, and Patron is giving everyone an undeserved +2 for the night. Everywhere you go you spot a Beyonce … but you have to focus … your on a mission.
Every guys single focus in the club is to get girls! This means something different to every guy. Some are out there looking for their next wifey, some are our looking for good conversation (no pun intended), while some are looking to get touched in the dark corner of the dance floor take someone home for some a temporary situation.
But there are many pitfalls to be avoided. Ms. “Buy me a drink, and then I’ll walk away to talk to my friends”, Ms. “I will embarrass the sh*t out of you in front of your boys”, but there is one beast to truly be avoided … Ms. “I am here to look good and be stared at … I will waste your time”. What is a guy to do?
And … what is Ms. “Cute, Single, and open to any respectable and handsome guy” going to do, to make sure she is not mislabeled as one of these heifers women?
I cannot give you the 100% fool-proof way to be “Her” in the club … but I can give you one $1,000,000 tip:
Have some motherf***ing fun!
One thing I personally look for (I mean I got this down to a science) is a girl enjoying herself. It makes her more approachable, a better investment of time, and literally makes her look better than if she was standing around a group of friends with arms folded and the “Don’t try” look on their face. Who wants to get head in the hummer from date someone who can’t even enjoy themselves at a club?
“But SBM … I crushed a bottle of Patron, blacked out, and forgot everything I did … but was told I had a bunch of fun before I threw up on the guy who was trying to get my number, yet I didn’t get any numbers. What happened?”
Well dummy, as with most things in life, there is a balancing act. You can’t go too crazy. Just to make sure you, my lovely readers, don’t embarrass yourselves the same way as this chic … here is a list of ways to have fun in the club:
Dance
The most important thing you can do is dance. Dancing means you like the music. You liking the music means you are having fun. Get it?
Smile
Can you have fun with the mean mug on your face? I don’t think so.
Hit the “that’s my song” move
You know something on the radio now is “your song”. When it comes on, throw your hands in the air, yell something, and party! Go head … it’s your song.
Get yourself a personality
While talking doesn’t actually happen at every club, it happens at most. People with something interesting to say are fun … period!
And lastly, remember that this doesn’t just apply to the club. Men like women who enjoy life! If I like to have fun, then I want to be with a fun person. If I don’t have have a lot of fun, then I need pills & weed someone who will help them have fun.
I would say that this applies to men too, but outside of the personality comment … it doesn’t. While women don’t want a lame and boring guy who can’t enjoy life, the cool and “mysterious” (I still don’t know what the appeal of a mysterious guy is … don’t that just mean a bunch of secrets) guy has been pulling women since back in Billy Dee’s time. He knows how to have fun … but truly not the same.
So go forth, live a little … and watch yourself become sexier by the shot.
I completely agree having fun is a must. Who wants to walk up to someone that looks pissed off they gotta be in the club/bar/whereever.if u really that angry to be out then why you out?
Good post! Miss having time to comment!
Such a timely post…I went out Friday for the first time in a while. I have been stressed with school and wanted to have fun. I really enjoyed myself and acted as if i was the only one in the room lol…I got approached by three men that night. within one hour…It was so interesting.
do people really go to clubs looking for a wifey/hubby? I reckon u go clubbing to have fun- if something comes out it- then its all good- an added bonus?
I agree. I would actually add that you shouldnt go anywhere lookin for a wifey/hubby. Potential wifey/hubbies should bonuses on top of whatever purpose you went to the event for.
Another tip: Be social.
I agree. My girls constantly ask me how I meet so many people? My answer is to tell them to be social and just talk to people! Have fun!
It doesn't matter if the person is your type of not, everyone is not your next potential mate.
Oh, and another thing…talk to your bartender (talk, not flirt). Most of them are very friendly and will draw other people in the conversation. Before you know it, you've talked with everyone at the bar!!!
that picture is hilarious to me.
word. She could get it.
Pull on that afro puff all night long.
A big plus when messing with a chick with natural hair.
She sure can get it…
Yay!! I get to comment!!!
I completely agree with this post. When I go out, I go out to have fun. I'm not looking to meet anyone, though I have gotten a few numbers lately. I should probably call those guy….
Anyway, I can't stand seeing a gang of girls just standing around looking like they are too cute to be approached. And guess what, they aren't being approached. Another thing I would suggest women do is go out by yourself sometime, or only go out with one friend. I've started hitting some spots(lounges, happy hours, sports bars) by myself, and the men are much more approachable when I'm alone than they are when I'm with my coven.
I don't go out to the club to meet a boo..seeing as I have one but I will dance into and out of the club. I never understood why females get dressed and all made up to get sit down and let thier foundation seep into thier permanent frowns. Then they're like I didn't meet anyone. You never got up and I'm your friend and I would pay for those drinks you were sucking down. My LS and I get a couple of shots in us and we're smiling, dancing and enjoying our night on the town.
I am first time poster but long time reader.
Its all in where you go. If you go to the club then you should dance. if you don't want to dance but just want to be seen out….go to the opera or somewhere equally as boring….stand down opera lovers. I come in peace. You get my drift tho.
Great post… Having good club etiquette is a must! I don't go out to meet dudes. Miami dudes are douchebags anyways…lol. So, I always have a good time with my girls. I leave my stuck up friends at home…lol..Those chicks always ruin my high…lol
And for the fellas, you should and should not do the following
1. Don't touch me inappropriately while I walk by
2. Don't try to holla at my girl after hollering at me a few minutes ago
3. If we are suppose to be dancing, MOVE something. Don't stand there and let me dance on you…I am not giving out lap dances…
4. Don't get too drunk..Nothing worst than a wasted dude acting up…
5. And lastly, don't wait till the last 30mins to try to talk to a girl you've been eying all night, cause you just realized that you might not get a girl to take home if you don't act now…
Thanks
@JuicyJen
I co-sign and fist bump that.
Your rules take all the fun out of the club experiece…smh ur such a prude.
haha…I stick by my rules..lol
Sometimes I might make an exception on the touching if you don't look like Quasimodo and its a delicate touch…lol
LMAO @ Delicate!!
hmm… you just sparked another Blog post. SBM only lets me out the sweat shop to use the bathroom for 5 minutes, so Im going INNN!!!
This is a hot post. Im the type of dude to approach shorty who's mean muggin just to mess with her. I'll go up and say "that grill u makin suppose to make me not talk to you huh?" and if I dont get cussed out, I have a great laugh, lol
"Have some motherf***ing fun!"
YES. I got to the club to
sweat out my hairdoDANCE. Not stand around and look cute. There are lounges for that mess. And yes, I DO give less than stellar lookin' niccas that boost of confidence to dance with me. And sure, I dance with 'em. Even that nerdy 2520 who had 2 drinks in his hand and kept spilling them on me. See? I'm charitable…and fun. lol"Hit the “that’s my song” move"
Bel Biv Devoe's "Poison" brings this outta me instinctually.
yes, Poison is a good dance track. I'm also partial to any MJ. I'm good for sitting down chillin then hit the "heeeeyyyyy! thats.my.song!" I usually drag a friend along to go with, but if they are reluctant, I'll dance by my damn self. LOL
During my last year of law school, Poison was our(me and my girls) song. And it seemed that no matter where we were, the DJ always played it. I still get hype whenever I hear it. Even in the car…..
@N.I.A.
HAHA…same here re: getting hyped in the car. And yeah, come to think of it, every club type setting I've been to has played it…no doubt. And the entire place gets too hyped. It brings folks together.
Great post. I have had to learn about the whole smiling thing… I default to the mean mug in the club, especially if I'm sober. Once I have a drank or two, I still peep the lames and the snaggle toothed dudes, but have fun whilst I do.
SMB LOVE LOVE LOVE this blog…Been on it for a few weeks. Keep doing the dam thing!Well what about the girl who has fun and still leaves without even one approach? I totally agree @ Juicy Jen's list….
This girl either:
1) Isnt attractive but knows how to have a good time
2) Is intimidatingly attractive and dudesis shook
3) Hangs with a bunch of birds who hate on her and dudes who want to approach
4) Is pretty but doesn't stand out or
5) Dudes are lame where she parties
wow all that? there are plenty times I don't get approached and it definitely doesn't offend me. and I never go out looking a mess. LOL I get approached more in the grocery store or gas station than I do in the club these days!
Thats because when you're cute and you can cook, you think about that Biggie line…
lolol
Its just a hypothesis
Ok I can digg!
Had to fix (SBM) LOVE LOVE LOVE this blog…Been on it for a few weeks. Keep doing the dam thing!Well what about the girl who has fun and still leaves without even one approach? I totally agree @ Juicy Jen's list….
"makes her look better than if she was standing around a group of friends with arms folded and the “Don’t try” look on their face. "
these girls in the club really bother me. like why even come out? i just smh at them and keep it moving. i don't need your negative energy raining on my parade.
Here's the thing that has prompted me to say Eff the club in recent years, mind you, I had been hitting the club hard since getting back from the war.
1. Who wants to approach someone who is sitting by themselves and disconnected (i.e. punching the keys texting instead of looking around?)
2. Even 4-5s are coping attitude now as if they are the best thing since the pooper scooper. Not only do we have inflated housing prices, but artificially inflated egos too.
3. What fun is it if we try to dance with someone and they are then surrounded by their girls in sort of a "sisterhood protection circle" when you weren't even up on the booty?
I dunno…I leave it to my younger cousins and just do the in-house party thing. Some of these stinky assed ladies need to stay home.
You summed up my thoughts exactly.
Let me add, a lot of you dudes are out here giving girls 93-grade in the club when they need to just get 87-grade. Please read your gasing instructions before purchasing fuel. Let me explain, that 4-5 in the club still has some dude who is thinking with his Johnson instead of his brain. That only encourages them to get that female version of liquid courage.