If I had to take a guess at the amount of people who have been in threesomes I’d say, 80% of all men, have never been in a threesome. 70% of all men, have never run triz. (I’ll explain later).
70% of all women, have never been in a threesome. 90% of all women, have never had triz run on them. 90% of the women who said they would participate in a threesome, will only do it with two females and a man.
96% of the men who participate in triz, don’t have a problem with other men seeing their junk, panting in the same room as them, or involuntary contact with another man during sex.
Threesomes are when two women and a man are having sex. Triz is when two men and a woman are having sex, but the two men are not sexually involved with each other. (During the batty man fi dead campaign, there are some men who go both ways and well… dare to be different.) Triz isn’t always a bad thing, no ladies, it’s not. Some of you love two guys and one girl, we call that the Eiffel Tower.
So 80% of the men reading this post probably are wondering well I’d like to try one, but the opportunity has never presented itself. (Might I adjust that number to more like 100% because I’m convinced that the internet and especially blog sites about sex are only frequented by freaks, hoes, and freaky hoes.) Well, I can’t walk you through how to do it, but I can give you some tips.
Discretion is the best way to a great sex life.
Most people are concerned with what people think about them. They also don’t want their business out in the streets. If you can exhibit that you take discretion seriously and rarely spill on your sex life, you’re guaranteed to have a thrilling sex life. Women don’t mind getting freaky and getting out those fantasies if they know that they won’t be on your blog next week, or talked about within their entire network.
An understanding goes a long way.
Threesomes are so much easier, and safer if you can come to an understanding with a lady friend. You know you have one of those friends. Most women ain’t going to have threesomes with guys they really care about, they just aren’t. So if you have a female friend who you know dabbles on the other side, come to an understanding that you guys will go out and tackle drunk b*tches. (It really helps if your “friend” usually has chicks who develop big female crushes on her.)
Everyone has a freaky side, it’s all about that untapped, (no pun intended), potential.
If a chick tells you she’ll never be in a threesome, she’s probably not lying. If a chick tells you she’s thought about it, which is the only foot in the door you need. Now don’t be a child when she tells you this, just archive that knowledge away for a tipsy and horny night. You just need to be worried with providing a way and means. A way would be an undisclosed location that is safe and free from the threat of opportunity. A means would be; I don’t know, some Patron, some weed, ecstasy, oh and your trusty sidekick.
Against my better judgment I’m going to advise you to Think like a Woman, Act like a Man.
Most men who I interact with on a regular basis are always surprised when I give them advice on how to attract women. Most men are stupid. They also are selfish. Stupid and selfish are just no way to have any luck with women. Women need to be turned on, intrigued, put in the mood. Men just want to BANG BANG BANG. If you can mind f**k her first, you will open up the gates. However, as a man you better represent for your country. Ain’t no love in the bedroom for the minutemen, vertically challenged, or just generally wack in the sack men. You better bring it like Alicia would say, Like You’ll Never See Her Again.
Now I have given you 4 tips. That’s more than I should tell you. But the thing is, as I was discussing with a friend over hookah one night, most of you who will read this blog won’t be able to actually accomplish this. Execution is the hardest part. Takes a lot of practice and opportunity. The opportunity doesn’t come up every weekend. If you leave your house saying, “I want to be in a threesome tonight” it’s more than likely not going to happen. If you are the type who notices the writings on the wall and goes with the flow, you’ll see how every night you go out could lead to a threesome.
My question to the readers is; Have you ever thought about it? If so, under what conditions would it have to be? Overall, what are your general thoughts on the topic? (I am carefully asking these question in a way that won’t cause all the women to run and hide like they normally do. We need to hear from you too!)
Dr. J, your friend, your lover and your confidant.
at the point i am in life now, i would have a 3some but only with a guy and/or girl that i wasn't in a relationship…i would also be the "third"–the person completing the menage for 2 other ppl who were involved, if i was that cool with both of them. i'm straight(ish) but there are female friends of mine who i would involve myself with sexually and not feel any qualms about…
triz does not appeal to me nor does multiple penetration (ouch)!
perhaps this is an example of "like attracts like" but almost everybody i know is uh…sexually emancipated ("freak" has a negative connotation)…discretion is SO important. lots of people know i love & actively pursue sex but not many people know who i involve myself with–and often i pass up on dick opportunities just b/c i know that afterwards too many other people will know my business.
as far as your fourth point is concerned…with men pursuing women, yes, if you're wearing that "i'm fucking SOMETHING tonight dammit!" energy, women pick up on it and are turned off.
on the flip side, for women pursuing men…it works just fine to be upfront about what your motivation is, and if you know how to read men it greatly increases the odds that you will find a fellow "freak" who thoroughly enjoys sex just as much as you do–because it's fun, & not just because he didn't want to go home alone.
Never will engage in sexual activities that include more than one man and one woman, but I'll watch "triz" flix all day…in fact my SO finds it hilarious when he's over and he goes thru (read: watches) my stash. He says I have a fetish (one that I won't ever act on, but a fetish nonetheless).
LOL
I can't do a threesome bc i don't share my man. I can't do a "triz" bc i can't share my body with more than 1 man at a time. But that is just me. I had one friend of mine participate in a triz and a threesome…so hey to each his own.
I had the opportunity some time ago. It was an abject failure IMHO because the two girls treated the situation like flying a 747.
It's the ultimate fantasy to have two (maybe 3) women and I think before I even contemplated terminating my great single life , that I would try to get one started or put myself in a position where it would take place naturally. Since all the bi chicks I know are stingy, I'll just have to wait for my turn.
You know, Dr. J, I think this is the first post i've seen by you where I agreed with EVERYTHING you wrote…lol
And no, I havent ever participated in a threesome or triz…I don't like too much physical contact with females besides the occasional hug, and i have yet to meet two dudes that would make me comfortable enough to try a triz with them…oh well
I could ever participate is a 3some or a "triz" (1st time I heard that term). I have said I would in the past, but it was just one of those things you say. However, one of my (ex) best girlfriends tried to "con" me into having one with her and her man. (weird).
I was home from college, she invited me for dinner at her place. I sat down for about and hour with her man staring me down all funny and ish. The vibe was off and totally awkward from the get go. Later on, she pulled me to the side and asked me if I wanted to have a 3some with them two. I was so shocked I choked on the sip of chardonnay I was taking. Her sales pitch was hilarious cause she was telling me all the things he can do and all the skills he has etc…She then said she chose me cause I'm trustworthy and I wont be coming back for more behind her back…(lucky me!) lol.
I kindly declined and bounced!
I feel you…
wrong for her to put you on the spot.
But that is no reason to stop being friends with a ninja. She trusted you. Its kinda sweet.
Lol… Yea, I guess it was "kinda sweet" that she chose me out of all her friends, almost like being selected for maid of honor right?? lol…I would have appreciated a heads up though.
But I did not stop being friends with her for that reason. We just grew into very different people and naturally the friendship disappeared…i.e: she was very loud, ghetto, trouble starter, smoked, dranked (more than social), and totally opposite of me.
threesomes, 2 thumbs up, and stop all this "not with my man" bullox, it's better with him b/c who really wants one (or two?) dudes who know nothing about what you like fooling around while being distracted by another human in the room? most men can't get it right when it's just you, imagine throwing another person into the mix. i say if you're going to bother to do it the ONLY person worth doing it with is your boyfriend/sig. other.
but that's just me.
and no on the "triz" because of similar reasons, most men would be a waste and besides, im not attracted to random penises like that. i'd have to be into the rest of the person attached to the penis… an extra one in the mix wouldnt do anything for me.
I done had to change my name just to comment on this post.
OK…I have had a threesome with two guys and I'll pretty much never do it again. My current love wants to have me, him and another girl. I am like ok that's cool…
I've also had a four some (another girl and two guys)…it's not so bad either
AND…been swinging with my ex after we were exes. In the end it all works out pretty well…you just have to be sensitive to the other person needs and wants and your relationship (if you're in one) has to be completely stable. There's no room for shakiness.
I done had to change my name just to comment on this post.
OK…I have had a threesome with two guys and I’ll pretty much never do it again. My current love wants to have me, him and another girl. I am like ok that’s cool…
I’ve also had a four some (another girl and two guys)…it’s not so bad either
AND…been swinging with my ex after we were exes. In the end it all works out pretty well…you just have to be sensitive to the other person needs and wants and your relationship (if you’re in one) has to be completely stable. There’s no room for shakiness.
*and please use lube if you're going with two guys….if you're wild enough to do such a thing…but I'm telling you no fun*
Without letting on too much info, I'll say this. A lot of girls wanna do a 3way. If a girl lets you know she's down, let her run the show. She can usually either find someone or already knows another woman that's interested as well. And since the fantasy for women usually revolves around another woman, she's in a better position to do the scouting. As dudes, we just come off as being greedy if we ask for it, but if a woman broaches the topic, it's an entirely different story. Women also typically have more game than men, and are better at figuring out if another woman's really down, so if you have an attractive female friend that's down for the tre, you're pretty much good. As for all of that two dick action, save that for horny college freshmen who want to risk jail time. I'll pass.
Happy humping, and drink lots of gatorade.
I was telling my current all he had to do was ask…
I'm comfortable in my sexual ability & my relationship…
I am all like let's go her find her azz hell …
i think I'm in love.
This I know…just gotta find the non-stingy ones. I keep running into the "I don't wanna share" type or "she doesn't want a man in the mix" type. I've known plenty of dudes who have a chick bring a friend in.
Ha at “she doesn’t want a man in the mix.” Me and this one chick were sitting around waiting for the third to get there and she was the most buck about "she better not come up in here talking about she only wants to eat p****! She gon get f**** tonight!" If I ever go to war with the Gaspar Gomez or the Diaz brothers, I'm taking her with me.
What?! That really would piss me off…like you think I'm not gonna watch my man pound that ass….
i will nevr be in a threesome…too dangerous for me.
@Leggy
Why?
I've never had the threesome. I want to do it. The SO might be into it. I'm gonna plant that seed and in a few month it might be sprout. I've run a multitude of trains though. Them jerns are boring now. I think ppl do it just to say that they did
Keeping it real, I would have a 3some and or triz. Im at the point in my life where I am open (smile) to new experiences. 2 men with nothing on their minds but pleasing me and being pleased in the process,yep I can dig it. Another woman in the mix, hum…again if her goal was my pleasure it would be my duty as an American to let her! Now again with the triz Id have to know both dudes this could not be a one nite meet in the club you kinda cute lets get it on type thing.
This is the most motivating post I have read. Thank You Dr J. You are pushing me to reach heights I haven't before. I was really enlighten by your point about a man's ablility to kick teh right game. I think I really need to become worthy of a threesome. Get that six pack, eat out better, take my girl out to that broadway play… maybe my gift when I graduate law school. Its my ultimate fantasy … I should have to earn it. Just because she loves me doesn't mean she should just give in.
I have been dropping hints about it ever since she let me go in the out door (you get one fantasy … you just go after the other). She isn't DOWN down, but she loves a challenge. Since I have been putting it in her ears she has had dreams about it. She insist on a girl she doesn't have to see again, although she got a friend that i LUST for, just the right level of freak and she has great chemistry with my girl. I don't know how much I should share how much I want it and/or how much I want THAT friend. When I push too much I get "you are only asking so you could sleep with another girl" or "I'm not enough for you?" Sometimes she likes how I get turn on when they touch each other.. sometimes she is grossed out.
I have little fear about the actually act hurting our relationship. Been together too long. I really want to marry her. But I don't want to ruin any friendship she has with her friend or make her cry when she sees me pounding someone she cares about.
I'm more scared about my coordination. Backshots, while holding another girl up high enough to your face AND MOVING MY TONGUE. And I like them thick too, so if you sit on my face its hard to breathe for the rico strong stroke. I need to hit the gym…..
I know a lot of people who want one, had one, or wish they could do one. I think you should change your %
I think 75% of guys have been in one, or tried
I think 50% of women have been in one, or tried
75% of guys have been in a triz or 3some… NO WAY! Black men.. maybe. But I know plenty of dudes (mostly 2520s) that think being in a room with another rocket is a no no.
@Cheekz…uh…"Get that six pack"
Is that what you ladies are striving for? Get it flat and all but six pack? I thought dudes were the ones supposed to be sporting that?
I am a dude.
instant pause.
I leave Kerry…
Which movie is that from?
its from Spike Lee's "She hate me" the other chick is Dania Ramirez.
interesting topic. that's all i'll say.
i have had a triz with my ex and his friend. And honestly, it was fantastic. He had asked me when we were in a "relationship" (and i use the quotations b/c we were in college) what i would think if he and his boy pleased me and i was like yeah…but at that time i said no because I was thinking, you must not really care about me if you gonna let your boy hit it. But then i thought, well he must care about me cuz he really wants to fulfill one of my fantasies. we didn't do it but later after we broke up, we were all hanging out and it went down. i enjoyed have a man suckling on my breasts while the other teased me below. Fantasy fulfilled! but of course protection was used and it wasn't random dudes.
I have 1 rule. Dick must never be outnumbered by pussy, lol. No 3somes, but I have done a triz. It wasn't planned and I never really thought about it before it happened. But i can honestly say I've thought about it since then. I loved it. I was not involved with either guy, but did know both of them. It was fantastic, the ultimate in sex for me. 2 men and their main goal was pleasing me(getting their own in the process). I didn;t sit right fr about a week, but all in all it was totally worth it
I have 1 rule. Dick must never be outnumbered by pussy, lol. No 3somes, but I have done a triz. It wasn't planned and I never really thought about it before it happened. But i can honestly say I've thought about it since then. I loved it. I was not involved with either guy, but did know both of them. It was fantastic, the ultimate in sex for me. 2 men and their main goal was pleasing me(getting their own in the process). I didn't sit right for about a week, but all in all it was totally worth it
I know this is a late comment, but better late than never. For about a 2 year stint, I was playing quite a few games of "Deluxe Scrabble". They were almost always with women whom I was good friends with (because 95% of my friends are freaks) so I knew I could trust them not to go running off at the mouth, and guys who had little incentive to go running off at the mouth. I've done threesomes, 4 somes (two couples, and once with 3 women & 1 guy), and a triz once (didn't know that was the name for it). It's a fun extra to throw into you sex life every few months or so, but it doesn't replace or is necessarily better than 1 on 1.
I've placed a moratorium on Deluxe Scrabble because of the ego problems afterwards. If everyone isn't 110% comfortable with what's going down (no pun intended), then I won't touch the situation at all. And it's ALWAYS from the guys, asking me why I responded to her "better" or thinking I was trying to set up side deals with the other person…. just a mess. And I also don't want anyone (again, the guys) doing it just to try and make me happy…. if everyone's not happy, I'm not happy.
I do have to co-sign on the need to be patient and just let the opportunity to present itself…. it's not something that can be planned or forced. I call it "the stars aligning". My ex used to try and force it by basically begging and whining, and it go so bad that it became a complete turn off to everyone. Our friend (the guy in the couple we were dealing with) tried to tell him over and over 1 thing to remember: The women run this show. You just sit back and STFU. But of course he didn't listen, so it was "no soup for you."
It was fun while it lasted, but now it's just too much of a headache to deal with the aftermath.
*Name has been changed to protect the guilty
i guess i'm odd then. for me when i think of a rewarding threesome i nthibnk of 2 guys doing nothn else but pleasuriong me, since its almost always a fantasy,my pleasure has to be the paramount thing on their minds,so i do not expect anal sex since normally i would feel uncomforatable with it, so they cannot both expect to penetrate me at once , i expect one at a time just to get a different feel intermittently, as for 2 girls and one guy it s a no-no for me , i just cant imagine myself doing stuff to a fellow woman.except the woman would not touch me at all and then…where is the pleasure for me?
all in all i dont think i'll ever go though with it but it remains a fantasy.
I was about to participate in a threesome in college. My homegirl and I were drunk and high, and wanted to seduce this dude that we we were both friends with. He had a girlfriend, but we hated her, so we were really just trying to break them up. So, we invited him up to my room and he started to drink with us. Once he started getting relaxed we turned the lights off and got busy kissing on him and rubbing him down. We didn't really touch each other (well, just a little to try and get him into it). I unzipped his pants and pulled them off. After that I started kissing him and she started to give him head, but quickly stopped. I didn't know why, so we traded positions and I was about to be on dick duty. That was a NO-NO…homeboy was NOT packin! His dick was so small! When she realized that I has stopped too, we both started cracking up. We pulled his pants back up, turned on the lights, and told him the party was over! Oh the memories…
I just saw this comment and that's awful what yall did to that guy.lol.
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@LEILA, THT WAS SO UNFAIR AND BAD OF U GIRLS YET U WERE BIFFING SOMOEN THAT WAS QUIETING MANAGING HER SMALL DICK.
Yeah, I'm 6 days late, so what?
The key word is OPPORTUNITY. It's not hard to find one girl that would be down for the cause…but when you find the other girl, the first girl will have gone away. Getting two girls that are down for the cause in the same room is more than half the battle, it's 90% of the work.
I know my comment is SO late but … Ladies try/do anal … if it's done right, it's GREAT!! OMG … it's PHENOMENAL! In my opinion. Thus – making all of those "triz" fantasies more possible.
I haven't had a threesome or triz but I would if the opportunity presented itself with some equally hedonistic people (but the threesome is probably less likely because I'm not down with going down on another female – my loss, no?).
I am a woman and I do Triz. I am looking forward to doing threesomes and I am even good with bi-sexual men. My problem is that I like group sex SOMETIMES and I am not sure if I can get my man to participate without wanting to do just that all the time. My point is I don't want to open up the flood gates … especially since I am open to bi-sexual experiences. I am fearful my man will begin participating in group sex without me. Should I even begin to venture there with him? He has a very freaky side and I am sure he would be open to it but I am hesitant because in the past he has been dishonest with me.
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