Sometimes switching it up when your “dating” can be difficult. But if you can be open minded and creative, you may be able to find different ways to have some fun and break the monotony in your dating flow. Since it’s Friday, I’ll give you a couple things you can try this weekend with whomever you desire and see what happens.
The Strip Club
Warning: If your girl is a prude, this will not work and you should break up with her immediately. Otherwise, throw it out there see how she likes it. If you take a few friends, it will make things interesting, but don’t bring the ignorant friend that likes to fight. Preferably some friends that drink, and some other female friends. This other female friends are critical part of this plan. This will give your SO the allies she needs to hate on the strippers by critique them head to toe. If she’s real cool she’ll be intrigued by their “talents” and maybe even cop herself a lap dance. In any event, if done correctly, fun should be had by all and you’ll be nice and revved up to go home and give her a late night delight. Be sure to patronize a worthy strip club, taking her to a seedy strip club may send this south quickly.
Adult Novelty Store
Take her to one of them dirty toy stores. Not like Spencer’s or something, I’m talking about the spot that’s about 30-45 minutes away that has the 24/7 strip club in the back. (Don’t wanna bump into people at the neighborhood spot.) Just let her eyes wander and see what she’s into. If she’s a total prude, this might not work. But if she’s open minded, this could work out to be spectacular now given the opportunity. You have to keep an open mind as well, to certain extent of course. At the very least you’ll leave with some risque drawers, or you could the hit the jackpot and walk away with door jam cuffs, a f*ck swing, a c*ck ring, and handcuffs. Make sure she’s with it, don’t carried away though.
Large gathering with scantily clad people
This could range anywhere from a big beach/beach party/pool party, or going to a West Indian parade in a city near you. There’s just something about half naked people drunkenly grinding and girating in the streets that’s a turn-on. If you’ve ever been to one of these things, you know you don’t need to be West Indian to have grand fun. I was at j’ouvert (pronounced: joo-vay) in BK for Labor Day and saw tons of happy white folks in the streets whinin’ up with mud all over them. Unless you live in the North Pole, there has to be a summer season where you live, so if you don’t live near a body of water, at the very least you know someone with a pool, unless you’re the ignorant friend that doesn’t get invited places. Being surrounded by that level of nudity for an extended period of time + alcohol = fun.times. Once again, know your audience, because this could backfire and she’ll just end up bitchin’ all day about how uncomfortable and bored she is. If this happens it means she’s a prude and you should kick her to the curb.
A Bar
Not some seedy hole in the wall, find a nice spot that has a decent wine selection, because face it, women like wine. Take it a step further and see if they have those bars that are RSVP only and hold a very small amount of people in an intimate setting (not to be confused with a swinger party…). Any place that can give you the combination of liquor and conversation is a good look. I call it booze and schmooze. Don’t make it the entire date though…unless she likes to drink, in which case, you should be all set. Emphasis on the conversation part though. Being listened to makes women very, very, very, horny. So does liquor. You can’t lose.
This would be an excellent weekend to get crackin’ on a few of these venues. It’s starting to get cold and the only thing that can keep you warm is body heat. So try this out and see what happens and see if can keep yourself warm this weekend. Don’t limit yourself, if you know of something else you can do to get it crackin’ then make it happen and stop slacking. Worst case scenario, you’ll end up breaking up with a prude and end up at a bar or a strip club. Either way, have a great weekend.
Still blazin’,
The Award Winning RightCoastLexSteele, Don’t Quote Me on That
I've been to the strip club once…I'd go back…
however, I did notice that the chicks were more concerned with the chicks at our table than the dudes…and some random chick for the outing…no thanks, would rather just go along with the boys, maybe inviting one of my girlfriends.
Oh…and don't try to by me a lap dance…they can look, but I don't want them touching…yes, I said THEY can look,and yes, I'm referring to looking at me…lol
Ha. I think they were into y'all because they knew the men would tip them more if they were into girls OR they were really into girls.
Not sure if they are really into girls or, like Ms. Smart said, its a ploy to get tips, but I have noticed that too. You get so much more attention and love when you bring a woman with you to most clubs (except ATL and Houston where girls are there anyway).
Most dancers are bi or lesbian, so of course they show your girl more love. They'll show you some depending on how much money you're willing to come up off of.
I'd rather go to a strip club/gentleman's club (same difference sometimes lol) with Mr Mister and his friends, it's a better experience that going with my girls. There's a place called the P Spot in DC where you can take exoterobics..so to speak, not as easy as it looks!
My goal is to take Mr Mister to Mash within the net two years. We've been to Caribana but I want to take him home to fete…take sumting an wave take sumting an wave dolla dolla dolla dolla..see now you have me in the mood! LOL
I've given co-ed Toy Parties, mostly couples with few singles thrown in the mix…just make sure you screen your hostess (some can be very dry and boring) and keep the party to about 20 people..not too big, not too small. Your folks have to be open minded though, can't be shy b/c if you get the right hostess she will… challenge you , lol.
I've been to the strip club numerous times with guys. I'm in ATL so yea…Magic City, Strokers, Onyx, Body Tap…i've always had a blast and learned a couple of things
. The first time i went, i was super nervous, but after a while i relaxed. I mean…i'm not the one up there dancing so why am i nervous lol. Adult Novelty stores are also always fun…
Atl is a gift to humanity for its strip clubs.
I heard Onyx's Amateur Night Monday's is a can't miss. You get to see church girls live out their dreams and still see the pros.
Pin-ups is open REAL LATE. So after club night and before the waffle house you could get it in. Only thing is that you can't get caught up into the magic in magic city. You see a guy out there drop $200 a song, enjoy the show. You can't keep up with him. I can only make it drizzle, no thunderstorms.
Down south I think its a requirement that every girl goes to a strip club, they make y'all so thick its like training to learn how to handle your donk.
The bottom line is to stop dating prudes. And if things are allowed to get boring, you don't need to see her face scrunched up at a strip club to find out she's a prude. Having said that, things get boring when you come out the gate having circus sex. You have to sprinkle things in along the way–not the third time you're 'together'
Ha…sound advice, too bad I always get the opposite. People think when you get a "sweet girl" that life is complete when I've found it to be the exact opposite. I've taken chicks to the strip club and had a great time, but then there were the ones that asked "why is she doing that…" to the point where I was like "this chick is so dropped." The key to it is to take someone who might be Bi or that appreciates a woman's body. The after club cut-up is better too!
As someone who has taken a field trip there, I am not fascinated by the moves. What trips me out is the interaction between the women and men. I had one chick tell me, as dudes were walking in the door, which ones had money and which ones didn't, what they needed to hear, etc. Then she told me she was going to go get their money. She did. It was fascinating to watch how she changed who she was fro man to man.
"Emphasis on the conversation part though. Being listened to makes women very, very, very, horny. So does liquor. You can’t lose." – THE REALEST TALK EVER
I'd better be drunk if I have to listen to it….
I kid I kid…
If you get bored dating then I say there is a problem right off the bat. Now if you are in a relationship for a long time then you may need to try some of the things listed above to spice things up a little.
I gone to the strip club before. It was a nice establishment and the girl had some really nice shoes (none of the plastic clear heels). I got some nice drinks and learned a couple of new tricks.
I've always found spontaneous road trips rejuvenating for a relationship. Don't plan it. Just when Friday night comes around, pack up the car for a day or two, and just drive. It's worth it every time!
Never do this when you're just "dating." Kiss of death!
I have a love for skin and curves. So these kinds of clubs work well for me. And I see men their with their S.O., they look like they are having a good time.
Plus I have a philosophy that everygirl is bi-curious atleast!
However, my girl is a bit of a "sensitive type". I wouldn't call her prude b/c she can take it in the backside with the best of them. But anytime me admiring another girl (via her freind, p0rn, random chick down the street, video model, my ex's) comes into play she gets jealous. I don't want her to get tight when she sees me licking my lips when Hennessy bust it open. Plus the best part about black clubs is how close you can get to the girls.. . how am I suppose to balance copping a feel and making her feel special?
The one thing I got going for me is she has some cool freinds from down south who are culturally intune with stripper culture. I should bring them along so they could tell her "just b/c CHeeKZ has another girls nipple in his mouth doesn't mean he is cheating. He is just getting his money worth"
Great suggestions! New dude and I were gonna hit the toy store…maybe we'll have to add the strip joint as well.
The Strip Club is heaven with dollar bills. Chuuch
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Yo. I'm out with the boys RIGHT NOW and this blog popped up in my head. I'm on the perfect date …. With my boys grandma. For her birthday she wanted the team to leave the hip hop alone and support some live Blues at the local social club.
We may be the only people here not collecting social security, but these horny old people with their explicit jazz music makes for interesting conversation. And the music is at the right level so you can talk. Being around this many Viagra users will rub off.
I went to the strip club recently w a guy that
I'm kinda dating. That was actually the first place
he invited me to since we started talking. And bc we have
mutual friends it was easy for me & my homegirls to
come along w his boys. I must say @ first I wondered what he
was thinking inviting me out to the strip club b4 we had
an official date, but then it turned out to b cool. It was
the first time I ever went & I always wanted to go, nevr imagined
I'd go w a guy that I'm dating, always planned on going w my homeboys,
but it turned out to b a funny & entertaining night. And I def agree a
lot of those girls could care less abt any dudes. One of the girls stepped over
my "date" (who had a whole stack in his hand, mind u) to get to me & one of my homegirls
it was the craziest thing. My date's friends were literally drooling over her & she wanted
nothing to do w them lol. When I asked her why she passed them up she showed me
the tat on her pelvis that had "BUTCH" written nice and bold and well…needless to
say she def wasn't worried about 'em. But she gave me my first lap dance and err
pretty much licked my crotch while I had jeans on & idk what kinda tongue power she
has, but I kinda…. ummmm felt it through my jeans. I was amazed lol!
I'd give the strip club a shot… doesn't seem like something I'd enjoy but hey who knows. Deff down for the adult novelty store though. =)
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