Comments on: Don’t judge me! http://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/10/21/dont-judge-me/ The Source For Black Male Perspective Tue, 07 Feb 2012 17:58:42 +0000 hourly 1 By: Yonnie3khttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/10/21/dont-judge-me/#comment-42600 Yonnie3k Wed, 21 Oct 2009 23:18:44 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=2632#comment-42600 lol @ "Punch me in the face Streetz" I STAY judging people on their cleanliness, however if somebody makes a surprise visit to my crib, they gotta stand outside for 5 minutes while I shove stuff under my bed. smdh But sadly we all do it, and it is usually harmless if you keep it in check. lol @ "Punch me in the face Streetz"

I STAY judging people on their cleanliness, however if somebody makes a surprise visit to my crib, they gotta stand outside for 5 minutes while I shove stuff under my bed. smdh

But sadly we all do it, and it is usually harmless if you keep it in check.

]]> By: streetztalkhttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/10/21/dont-judge-me/#comment-42590 streetztalk Wed, 21 Oct 2009 15:47:26 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=2632#comment-42590 This is how I feel to a T. Sometimes judging is warranted. When people OD that's MY issue! This is how I feel to a T. Sometimes judging is warranted. When people OD that's MY issue!

]]> By: streetztalkhttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/10/21/dont-judge-me/#comment-42589 streetztalk Wed, 21 Oct 2009 15:46:33 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=2632#comment-42589 A lot of people use God as a basis for escaping warranted criticism. I see right through yall Judas's though! A lot of people use God as a basis for escaping warranted criticism. I see right through yall Judas's though!

]]> By: streetztalkhttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/10/21/dont-judge-me/#comment-42588 streetztalk Wed, 21 Oct 2009 15:45:39 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=2632#comment-42588 LMAOOO #LETMEBEGREAT COLEMANS!! LMAOOO #LETMEBEGREAT COLEMANS!!

]]> By: Southern Buku to Youhttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/10/21/dont-judge-me/#comment-42587 Southern Buku to You Wed, 21 Oct 2009 15:44:34 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=2632#comment-42587 Now, I have definitely been in this situation many a time. I agree with the words that you have written. I have been knonw as a patient and understanding person. However, smack once its on you, smack twice its on me, the third time aint happening homie. I have many scars from those in my past that have proceeded to my present, do I treat them harshly for it no, but they don't get the same trust as before. Preach on Streetz Now, I have definitely been in this situation many a time. I agree with the words that you have written. I have been knonw as a patient and understanding person. However, smack once its on you, smack twice its on me, the third time aint happening homie. I have many scars from those in my past that have proceeded to my present, do I treat them harshly for it no, but they don't get the same trust as before. Preach on Streetz

]]> By: L Hookhttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/10/21/dont-judge-me/#comment-42586 L Hook Wed, 21 Oct 2009 15:34:15 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=2632#comment-42586 I forgive, for everything, no matter what, but I don't forget. I will definitely keep track of what went down so that the same mistakes won't be repeated. That's just how I am. Judging is definitely human nature, anything that deals with feelings/emotions/opinions can be attributed to human nature. I try not to judge but end up doing it from time to time although I keep the majority of those opinions to myself. Even if you do drop your opinion on someone with good intentions, you'll be dubbed a hater anyway. I forgive, for everything, no matter what, but I don't forget. I will definitely keep track of what went down so that the same mistakes won't be repeated. That's just how I am.

Judging is definitely human nature, anything that deals with feelings/emotions/opinions can be attributed to human nature. I try not to judge but end up doing it from time to time although I keep the majority of those opinions to myself. Even if you do drop your opinion on someone with good intentions, you'll be dubbed a hater anyway.

]]> By: streetztalkhttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/10/21/dont-judge-me/#comment-42580 streetztalk Wed, 21 Oct 2009 14:47:37 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=2632#comment-42580 So u feel judging is inherent. I cosign. Its a natural reaction to what we see. So u feel judging is inherent. I cosign. Its a natural reaction to what we see.

]]> By: William H. Strafehttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/10/21/dont-judge-me/#comment-42579 William H. Strafe Wed, 21 Oct 2009 14:43:27 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=2632#comment-42579 But if we don't expect others to take note of our judgment, then why do we judge? Are we just talking just to hear ourselves speak? I would certainly hope not. IMHO, we judge because... a) we see behavior in others we do not approve of b) we want those to follow a better example (which is ours, more often than not) Judging becomes a problem when you don't practice what you preach. Those that don't follow this age-old mantra, thought, manage to keep their glass houses shatter-free by usually say something along the lines of, "Who am I to _ _ _ _ _?" I'll let you fill in the blanks. But if we don't expect others to take note of our judgment, then why do we judge? Are we just talking just to hear ourselves speak? I would certainly hope not.

IMHO, we judge because…

a) we see behavior in others we do not approve of

b) we want those to follow a better example (which is ours, more often than not)

Judging becomes a problem when you don't practice what you preach. Those that don't follow this age-old mantra, thought, manage to keep their glass houses shatter-free by usually say something along the lines of, "Who am I to _ _ _ _ _?"

I'll let you fill in the blanks.

]]> By: Cheekiehttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/10/21/dont-judge-me/#comment-42573 Cheekie Wed, 21 Oct 2009 13:08:00 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=2632#comment-42573 "So what’s the verdict? Is it human nature to judge? Can we control it? Is it valid?" I think it is definitely human nature to judge. I think what irks me the most are folks that claim to be holier-than-thou and chastize people for judging. Um, you do know you're judging someone else for judging, right? It's the circle of life. lol That said, though the phrase, "Only God can judge me" can be annoying at times (I guess it depends on the intent of the person saying it), I do understand the message. It's not necessarily taking away anyone's "right" to judge, it's just saying that only God's judgement will be the one that matters. So, I say, judge all you want. It's not like you have any bearing on my life and how it turns out. I also don't believe in a "judging God" either (more of a "gave us free will and every action has a consequence" God), but that's a whole 'nother topic... "So what’s the verdict? Is it human nature to judge? Can we control it? Is it valid?"

I think it is definitely human nature to judge. I think what irks me the most are folks that claim to be holier-than-thou and chastize people for judging. Um, you do know you're judging someone else for judging, right? It's the circle of life. lol

That said, though the phrase, "Only God can judge me" can be annoying at times (I guess it depends on the intent of the person saying it), I do understand the message. It's not necessarily taking away anyone's "right" to judge, it's just saying that only God's judgement will be the one that matters. So, I say, judge all you want. It's not like you have any bearing on my life and how it turns out. I also don't believe in a "judging God" either (more of a "gave us free will and every action has a consequence" God), but that's a whole 'nother topic…

]]> By: minahttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/10/21/dont-judge-me/#comment-42572 mina Wed, 21 Oct 2009 12:49:16 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=2632#comment-42572 I would say in the perfect society maybe a tad bit of judgment is necessary to uphold right from wrong; but who has the right to differentiate right from wrong? I don't think the average person is challenged enough day to day on passing judgment, consequently leaving them with no motive to think about it. Everyone seems to use subjective standards when condemning others, I think that is why we easily forget that wrongdoing is wrongdoing. It's imprudent to allow yourself to declare another person's mistakes worse than yours. Again, I think that is courtesy of not being challenged. You're right, it is unfair and a safe haven for people who do not wish to relate with and/or pardon others. I would say in the perfect society maybe a tad bit of judgment is necessary to uphold right from wrong; but who has the right to differentiate right from wrong? I don't think the average person is challenged enough day to day on passing judgment, consequently leaving them with no motive to think about it. Everyone seems to use subjective standards when condemning others, I think that is why we easily forget that wrongdoing is wrongdoing. It's imprudent to allow yourself to declare another person's mistakes worse than yours. Again, I think that is courtesy of not being challenged. You're right, it is unfair and a safe haven for people who do not wish to relate with and/or pardon others.

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