Comments on: SBM Answers: Should I tell him I’m celibate? http://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/11/09/being-celibate/ The Source For Black Male Perspective Wed, 08 Feb 2012 10:03:52 +0000 hourly 1 By: SimplyNaturellehttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/11/09/being-celibate/#comment-56173 SimplyNaturelle Sat, 13 Mar 2010 04:31:08 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=2738#comment-56173 Amen to that! . I have to agree with this sista, please keep on waiting..you could be setting yourself up for heartbreak. Amen to that! . I have to agree with this sista, please keep on waiting..you could be setting yourself up for heartbreak.

]]> By: qbhttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/11/09/being-celibate/#comment-44321 qb Wed, 11 Nov 2009 11:19:10 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=2738#comment-44321 I know I'm late but I couldn't resist commenting. 13 months? Dang I've had some BAD break ups and tried to join the celibacy club a few times last year but I know I would never make it no 13 months. My vote is you don't tell him. Unless you aren't gonna give it up to him no reason he needs to know u aint been gettin it. I know I'm late but I couldn't resist commenting. 13 months? Dang I've had some BAD break ups and tried to join the celibacy club a few times last year but I know I would never make it no 13 months.

My vote is you don't tell him. Unless you aren't gonna give it up to him no reason he needs to know u aint been gettin it.

]]> By: julihttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/11/09/being-celibate/#comment-44277 juli Tue, 10 Nov 2009 15:46:32 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=2738#comment-44277 its not like she is a virgin. I can not imagine why 14 months would be a big deal to a man. Its a dry spell, but not like 5yrs or something. I file this under "not a big deal". Why don't we all just tell our next partner it's been 14 months and then report back if they actually cared or not? its not like she is a virgin. I can not imagine why 14 months would be a big deal to a man. Its a dry spell, but not like 5yrs or something. I file this under "not a big deal". Why don't we all just tell our next partner it's been 14 months and then report back if they actually cared or not?

]]> By: Celi-brate!!!http://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/11/09/being-celibate/#comment-44226 Celi-brate!!! Mon, 09 Nov 2009 22:35:10 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=2738#comment-44226 O cheekz, Your hypothesis is very insignificant. I do not feel any resentment towards my SO for choosing the lifestyle that he did (and vice versa). I am sorry you had a bad experience but that has not been my experience or the experience of others that I know practice this kind of "lifestyle". It is not the popular way to "date" these days its what me and mine have chosen and it works for us. "If a person doesn’t love you enough to give up the pumps, move on to a more mature partner who can handle the type of relationship you are looking to have"...this statement is............funny and sad at the same time. Anyway, have a good day! O cheekz, Your hypothesis is very insignificant. I do not feel any resentment towards my SO for choosing the lifestyle that he did (and vice versa). I am sorry you had a bad experience but that has not been my experience or the experience of others that I know practice this kind of "lifestyle". It is not the popular way to "date" these days its what me and mine have chosen and it works for us.

"If a person doesn’t love you enough to give up the pumps, move on to a more mature partner who can handle the type of relationship you are looking to have"…this statement is…………funny and sad at the same time. Anyway, have a good day!

]]> By: CHeeKZhttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/11/09/being-celibate/#comment-44218 CHeeKZ Mon, 09 Nov 2009 16:51:20 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=2738#comment-44218 I have been on both sides too. And the biggest mistake I have ever made was not cheating on my prude SO. If a person doesn't love you enough to give up the pumps, move on to a more mature partner who can handle the type of relationship you are looking to have. After professing my love for this particular SO and have her just feed me excuses on why I couldn't get any I became bitter and resented her despite the fact that I was deeply in love. I feel in love with a prude again, almost right after that... but I turned her out and live happily in sin. I would never suggest anyone go long periods of time without getting any. You may not believe it but you become bitter and angry. Its a concept I call the mandingo hypothesis. I have been on both sides too. And the biggest mistake I have ever made was not cheating on my prude SO. If a person doesn't love you enough to give up the pumps, move on to a more mature partner who can handle the type of relationship you are looking to have.

After professing my love for this particular SO and have her just feed me excuses on why I couldn't get any I became bitter and resented her despite the fact that I was deeply in love. I feel in love with a prude again, almost right after that… but I turned her out and live happily in sin. I would never suggest anyone go long periods of time without getting any. You may not believe it but you become bitter and angry. Its a concept I call the mandingo hypothesis.

]]> By: CHeeKZhttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/11/09/being-celibate/#comment-44217 CHeeKZ Mon, 09 Nov 2009 16:38:22 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=2738#comment-44217 LMAO! Classic Cam'ron and Kay Slay... LMAO!

Classic Cam'ron and Kay Slay…

]]> By: Streetztalkhttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/11/09/being-celibate/#comment-44213 Streetztalk Mon, 09 Nov 2009 15:58:13 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=2738#comment-44213 her answer reminds me of that camron skit.... "When you meet a chick... smack her... that way, she'll never say "Cam, you dont treat me like you used to" KILLA! lmao her answer reminds me of that camron skit….

"When you meet a chick… smack her… that way, she'll never say "Cam, you dont treat me like you used to"

KILLA!

lmao

]]> By: CPT Callamityhttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/11/09/being-celibate/#comment-44212 CPT Callamity Mon, 09 Nov 2009 15:47:17 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=2738#comment-44212 I"m just as confused as you bruh. I thought that would mean instant win...guess not... I"m just as confused as you bruh. I thought that would mean instant win…guess not…

]]> By: Streetztalkhttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/11/09/being-celibate/#comment-44211 Streetztalk Mon, 09 Nov 2009 15:44:12 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=2738#comment-44211 son... lol son… lol

]]> By: Slim Jacksonhttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/11/09/being-celibate/#comment-44208 Slim Jackson Mon, 09 Nov 2009 15:12:16 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=2738#comment-44208 "I told this last guy I was seeing and gave me kudos on being celibate and right then and there I knew he wasnt the guy for me.." Am I missing something here? "I told this last guy I was seeing and gave me kudos on being celibate and right then and there I knew he wasnt the guy for me.."

Am I missing something here?

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