Comments on: How to Make a Long Distance Relationship Work http://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/11/10/how-to-make-a-long-distance-relationship-work/ Dating, Relationship, Marriage ... and all that other sh* Thu, 09 Sep 2010 12:27:15 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Andressa http://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/11/10/how-to-make-a-long-distance-relationship-work/#comment-64125 Andressa Mon, 10 May 2010 21:09:13 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=2734#comment-64125 WOW, bout to step my game up with my SO moving away for school and all WOW, bout to step my game up with my SO moving away for school and all

]]> By: Beauty & Brains http://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/11/10/how-to-make-a-long-distance-relationship-work/#comment-50623 Beauty & Brains Wed, 20 Jan 2010 10:25:42 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=2734#comment-50623 LDRs do require a level of self control and maturity that some people cannot handle. I know that alot of people had negative comments and opinions about my LDR when it first began. "Girl, I can't do that. I need the D every night." Yet, those same people are either not in a relationship, cheating or being cheated on. People told me, it's hard, I will feel wierd when he may not answer sometimes. They questioned if I was certain that I wanted to do it. I am glad my LDR is working out and that we are planning a future together. We regularly express our feelings about each other and our relationship. We actively plan to see each other by visiting. It's easier because he is from my hometown. I figure you truly want to be with someone, with work. faith and fate, it will last. LDRs do require a level of self control and maturity that some people cannot handle. I know that alot of people had negative comments and opinions about my LDR when it first began. “Girl, I can’t do that. I need the D every night.” Yet, those same people are either not in a relationship, cheating or being cheated on. People told me, it’s hard, I will feel wierd when he may not answer sometimes. They questioned if I was certain that I wanted to do it.

I am glad my LDR is working out and that we are planning a future together. We regularly express our feelings about each other and our relationship. We actively plan to see each other by visiting. It’s easier because he is from my hometown. I figure you truly want to be with someone, with work. faith and fate, it will last.

]]> By: What’s Your Love Language? – Single Black Male http://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/11/10/how-to-make-a-long-distance-relationship-work/#comment-44739 What’s Your Love Language? – Single Black Male Tue, 17 Nov 2009 11:22:30 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=2734#comment-44739 [...] Quality Time: This could be quality conversation, a walk in the park, a day of shopping (migraine), a trip to the movies, or a thorough spoon session on the couch with or without forking. It’s time alone together where you’re just focused on each other. How sweet. This is crucial for an LDR! [...] [...] Quality Time: This could be quality conversation, a walk in the park, a day of shopping (migraine), a trip to the movies, or a thorough spoon session on the couch with or without forking. It’s time alone together where you’re just focused on each other. How sweet. This is crucial for an LDR! [...]

]]> By: Ms. Whatever http://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/11/10/how-to-make-a-long-distance-relationship-work/#comment-44459 Ms. Whatever Wed, 11 Nov 2009 23:23:02 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=2734#comment-44459 Thanks for the list! I am currently in an LDR in college and it is hard at times. I enjoyed the suggestions. Thanks for the list! I am currently in an LDR in college and it is hard at times. I enjoyed the suggestions.

]]> By: iloveketa http://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/11/10/how-to-make-a-long-distance-relationship-work/#comment-44336 iloveketa Wed, 11 Nov 2009 16:20:19 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=2734#comment-44336 Well it depends on your flight preferences cause you can fly cheap as hell on spiritair, but you wont get drinks and snacks on the plane (for free, you can purchase them tho) and the seats arent that comfortable, but then again, no plane seat is to me---they be having cheap faires allday everyday... Well it depends on your flight preferences cause you can fly cheap as hell on spiritair, but you wont get drinks and snacks on the plane (for free, you can purchase them tho) and the seats arent that comfortable, but then again, no plane seat is to me—they be having cheap faires allday everyday…

]]> By: Nyela Goodness http://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/11/10/how-to-make-a-long-distance-relationship-work/#comment-44291 Nyela Goodness Wed, 11 Nov 2009 02:06:56 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=2734#comment-44291 Amazing list. Me and the boo will be sure to follow, as we are entering into the world of long distance soon. Thanks, Sir Slimington! Amazing list. Me and the boo will be sure to follow, as we are entering into the world of long distance soon. Thanks, Sir Slimington!

]]> By: TheFutureMrs http://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/11/10/how-to-make-a-long-distance-relationship-work/#comment-44286 TheFutureMrs Tue, 10 Nov 2009 23:27:04 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=2734#comment-44286 This is MY LIFE. I've been in a LDR for a little over two years. Separated by three provinces and two time zones makes if DIF-(FML)I-CULT at times. I met my S/O AFTER I moved across the country (he lives in the same city I used to, but we never met before). Anyway I think the list is FANTASTIC. Some things I've done, others not as yet, but one to add would be to go away somewhere other than where you live together. My bf and I went to Jamaica for 10 days in Feb and it was the BEST trip I've had in FOREVER!! When you go and visit it's hard to get away from your perspective lives and spend enough time together (a la Slim). So to combat that, just go somewhere that neither one of you has to worry about your "regular" lives. You're spending the money on a plane ticket either way. This is MY LIFE. I’ve been in a LDR for a little over two years. Separated by three provinces and two time zones makes if DIF-(FML)I-CULT at times.
I met my S/O AFTER I moved across the country (he lives in the same city I used to, but we never met before). Anyway I think the list is FANTASTIC. Some things I’ve done, others not as yet, but one to add would be to go away somewhere other than where you live together.
My bf and I went to Jamaica for 10 days in Feb and it was the BEST trip I’ve had in FOREVER!! When you go and visit it’s hard to get away from your perspective lives and spend enough time together (a la Slim). So to combat that, just go somewhere that neither one of you has to worry about your “regular” lives. You’re spending the money on a plane ticket either way.

]]> By: MsBRG http://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/11/10/how-to-make-a-long-distance-relationship-work/#comment-44285 MsBRG Tue, 10 Nov 2009 21:51:58 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=2734#comment-44285 Nice post. Good insightful suggestions, especially over-communicating Nice post. Good insightful suggestions, especially over-communicating

]]> By: CHeeKZ http://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/11/10/how-to-make-a-long-distance-relationship-work/#comment-44282 CHeeKZ Tue, 10 Nov 2009 21:28:07 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=2734#comment-44282 How much you get a ticket to Cali for? Real talk..I'm trying to find the basement price for this market, I have been watching for the past nine months. I fear I missed the basement. How much you get a ticket to Cali for?
Real talk..I’m trying to find the basement price for this market, I have been watching for the past nine months. I fear I missed the basement.

]]> By: ladycakes http://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/11/10/how-to-make-a-long-distance-relationship-work/#comment-44279 ladycakes Tue, 10 Nov 2009 19:56:12 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=2734#comment-44279 "If you’re working, put aside a certain amount of money each week for your “See the Boo” fund." Cosign. I have a "going to Cali" budget and I make sure with each pay that I take a little something out of my check and put it aside. My SO and I recently made the decision to split the the airplane tickets so that neither one is completely out of our pockets. “If you’re working, put aside a certain amount of money each week for your “See the Boo” fund.” Cosign. I have a “going to Cali” budget and I make sure with each pay that I take a little something out of my check and put it aside. My SO and I recently made the decision to split the the airplane tickets so that neither one is completely out of our pockets.

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