This is a Three Way’s Throwback … so enjoy and have a good weekend!
-RCLS
I don’t think I need to romanticize this first paragraph to paint an image in your head to get this cracking. You’ve heard these words before. You remember exactly when you heard them, you remember where you were, you remember what you were or weren’t wearing at the time. And you just lay there picturing yourself 15 years older standing around your kitchen table in a Brooks Brother’s/Donna Karan suit penciling in sex with your significant other between a dentist appointment and your cycling class.
Between traveling and having my laptop go on the fritz, your boy has been away for a while. Upon my return, I read a curious quote from Ms. Jenkins…something about turning down a sex request being the cause of an argument. I don’t understand why there is an argument. If you are just messing around with someone sans commitment, I guess you could have a few nights off here or there. (Not really though) But if we are together, or even worse, shacking up, I’m sorry but the store has to stay open 24/7. (Yes, even on Christmas…sh*t, especially on Christmas) Only God knows when I might feel like eating something. (Tons of pun intended.)
I think everyone here has had their battles trying to find their ideal significant other, so why in the world when you finally find this person, do you shoot yourself in the foot by denying sex? And if we do have sex, and I’m up for another round, dont tap out. Being hard enough to kill 10,000 Phillistines with your joint while your girl snores her life away is very frustrating, but being denied a 2nd round is probably worse, because now you got the taste on your mind. (How ’bout that Biblical reference during the sex talk…) The last thing you want to hear is “Baby, I’m tired” or “It’s a little sore”.
As a man, I have no earthly justification for a man saying this to my woman. I’d come out of a coma for some cut. (A coma…really? C’mon son! FOH!!) If you start dating a young lady that has a rather healthy sexual appetite and you discover you cant keep up, it’s best that you bow out the game early. It’s only so long you can go subbin’ the lick for the stick. It’s going to hurt your pride, but your pride will be hurt even more when you find she’s cheating on you with “that guy?!”.
Ladies, just assume that your man wants to have sex every single waking hour of the day. I’m sure there are some times during the day where sex isn’t at the front of our minds, but get naked and see what happens. I don’t care if you are tired. Don’t tell me that. Fake it as long as you can. After all, you just end up laying there, how much energy could that possibly take? Like Katt Williams said before he got smacked up at his own show “If you cant do it, we know the raggedy b*tch that will…and we DO have her number!” And she’s very energetic. (I don’t really have her number. Baby…baby, put the knife down…)
Let’s be real. Yea, you’d want to think that your lover is into you because they love looking deep into your eyes, or the way you purse your lips, or your cynical sense of humor, or your excellent companionship but face it, if you didn’t make the cut in the sack, you’d be right back on match.com giving it another shot. Granted, just having more sex may not be a cure-all, but it sure can’t hurt to try. Hell, I’ll probably appreciate the effort more than the sex itself. Is it a coincidence that the end of the “peachy phase” is usually marked by less sex? Probably not. You can’t possibly expect someone to make a serious commitment to give you their all if you can’t give them your all…all the time. That’s the way the cookie crumbles…so come up off that cookie!
Supposedly women like sex just as much if not more than men. But for some odd reason, every now and then women decide to tap out or not even get in the game to begin with. I’ve entertained the thought of “maybe I’m the problem.” But that was just a phase…I have superior genetic make-up. It can’t possibly be me. And I know I’m not the only nympho out there. Anybody else get shutdown mid-launch sequence? Now that you’ve read the post are you realizing that you tap out on your gf/bf a lot? Or maybe you get tapped out on? Whatever the case, let’s get nasty…
Go 15 rounds like an old school prize fighter,
The Award Winning RightCoastLexSteele, Wide Awake
Man … this post just cheered me up! I woke up and immediately some shit went horribly awry and now at least I can put a little smile on my face
Back to the subject at hand: I am a female (23 y/o) and I find myself get tapped out on quite a bit … I guess I just have a voracious appetite! Most men cannot keep up with me! I'm always down for round #2 (and a 3rd or 4th on a good night). The only time I turn down a reasonable request is if Aunt Flo is visiting, I'm secretly mad about something ol' dude said/did and am withholding accordingly or said request came at a REALLY inopportune time (i.e. it's the wee hours of the morning and I don't feel like traveling, I have some other mandatory obligation, etc …)
The "baby I'm tired" or "we don't have time right now" is why I am wary of marriage/settling down. For me, the only advantage of a relationship over being single is being able to have copious amounts of guilt-free sex with one partner you know and trust. If that's being taken away, then what's the point? I would rather be single and take care of myself if my guy is just going to giveth the "D", then taketh away. lol.
Rhoda, I am so with you. I am 30 and have come across a few brothas that have not been able to keep up. Well It is not so much keeping up as it is in it to win. Sex is not a chore and hell I sincerely enjoy it. All aspects of it and like to keep it interesting. I dont want to argue, I dont want confrontation and hell if we are together we should be having a plethora of sex on an absolute constant basis and some of it should be spontaneous. The only time I really say no is when its broken – I will leave that at that.
They are always tapping out on me. I am on a lifelong search for a matching libido in my life. The last booty call I had she tapped out at the beginning of round two. I would've gotten pissed but instead she got dismissed.
This is why I look at marriage and LTR with the sideeye because if I find that dreamgirl that can't keep my belly full and sack empty…we gon' have problems!
Great Friday Post…
I'm not like you guys or my GF. I really am not THAT into multiple rounds. Only if I have a bad first round do I want a second. I am usually good for half a day after I bust one. Only if I purposely haven't been self piloting daily do I need more.
Wifey seems to prefer a nice 15 or less mins session. One O for her and one for me. Than a re-up in 15 mins
I much rather like a 45 mins session. One for Me.. 5 for her.
But after the third one she starts complaining about how sore she is. It gets dry. Than I start getting pleas to bust as I get the good stroke going.
SMH but you can't dump somebody who is good at the act just b/c you disagree on length. The person you cheat with probably won't be as good at it as your SO.
So compromise. Instead of a 2nd act I tend to just ask her to start without me than hop in and end it quickly with a finger.
I think the length/time/ frequency in one night are not deal breaker for couples. Chances are you'll see her tomorrow lol. You can collect later if need be.
When you're on an audition though… man oh man… you better perform like you're on stage at the Apollo. It might be your only shot.
ANYWAYS,
As long as both parties have a vested interest in having GOOD sex whenever possible, I would think its alll good.
I hear these relationship things are about work, compromise, and commitment to making each other happy. Standing up, and ESPECIALLY laying down.
I've never heard "Baby, I'm Tired" BUT I have heard "That's enough." That was the first and only time I wanted to keep going. Maybe dude was tired or had something else on the brain.
The peachy phase is not good. Me and my fwb used to have sex 3-4 times a week. Then it went to one time per month. I like it one time per month. It feels better and it's more passionate because we haven't had it in a while. When we had sex every other day, dude wore me out. When you have stupendous D like that, it does something to the body. I felt hyper and jittery all the time (something I'm not used to). I lost a lot of weight as well. I tap out sometimes. It'll be different if we were in a relationship. If he was my boyfriend, I would do it even if I didn't want to and I'd give it 110%.
i guess the grass is always greener…I'm not in a relationship, so I always give an eyeroll to my friends who complain about their man always wanting sex or talk about it like its a chore..I'm sure that there ARE times when you just don't feel like it. But as an inactive nymph, I can't sympathize. I think about sex all the time and would like to have it EVERY DAY , multiple times a day if I could.
Guys tap out too… My last candidate certainly did. And when he inquired about my MIA status, I told him that first impressions count. I take my sex verrry seriously.
I'll take a determined/ energetic/ average D over a lazy/ stingy big D.
Unlimited sex would probably improve my GMAT score, keep me focused at work, and make me less bitchy all around.
One of the reasons I work out is to keep my stamina up. So when I DO get my hands on some good D I'll be ready to make up for lost time…..SMH…I almost feel sorry for whoever is attached to that D….
"One of the reasons I work out is to keep my stamina up."
FINE! You're on top than….
right on for taking your sex very seriously – as do I and FIRST IMPRESSIONS…
Great minds do think alikt. I have been in the gym too and boy boy boy…. SMH!
HIGH FIVE!!!
slightly inactive nymph also. the thing that gets me is girls really think they got dudes on lock like that.. im fulla focus at the moment. well, for the last while. half-average chicks think that they got that murder p*****. sometimes i find it difficult to go rounds, multiple, with a partner who really just isnt all that. btw, i do it to em. im on that trey songz modern man. my whole goal is to make my partner feel like i invented sex. not that im the best, but i want her to feel exponential pleasure. and that pleases all parties involved. nonsensical, run-on, truth.
In short: she got what she want…the relationship.
Do not believe those argument that they enjoy sex ass much as we do, fallacy. More often than not, women are in love with the thought of love and everything that comes with it; sex, not so much. At some point they begin to view it as a necessary evil.
I have had actual girlfriends tell me that that 'should be enough' or 'we've done it 3 times this week, GOD!'. I give them the pink slip.
I think for relationship compatibility there must be: (1) mental connection, (2) personal synergy (heart/personality), and (3) physical attraction (sexual). All 3 must work in unison, otherwise in the long-term it will not work.
Bond. BlkBond.
Good comment BlkBond. You made some interesting points there. I think I'ma have to throw a partial co-sign on this. Only partial cuz of the nymphos I know.lol.
lol. "should be enough"? …….I didn't know they made girls like that…I hope I never find out what its like to even THINK that.
Wear. Me. Out.
I have to say I would love to have a relationship and yes I am one of those women that is in love with love BUT sex is very important. VERY!!!! I like to have it more often than not and I would hope that it would not be same kind everytime. For me the relationship is more so exciting that once we are mentally connecting and such we can be freaking on a very very regular basis.
My last "relationship' broke off with me due to he "not having to have it like that and there are other things that we could be doing' – dude WTF!
Sex = "a necessary evil"?!
Where they do that at? lol.
For me sex is MANDATORY and very much enjoyed. You need to f$%& with some new women …
i am (22 y/o) and have found myself gettin tapped out on… he cant go a second round im thinkin were young lets go but not him ill be happy if he makes the first…lol
im a male & ben taped out on a few times & i dont even eat oochie achie (jus thank if i did). is it me or is getin taped out on a terrible feelin, i mean ul be in super overdrive & you feel a big one coming (eventually atleast) but then you get the towel thrown in on u…so i ask my fellow nigs how the hell that made yall feel because that gave me a feelin like "WTF, wat im posed to do jack off?"
& to my females who had the tapd out mofos, hola at me & u might jus get tko'ed