Comments on: What’s Your Love Language? http://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/11/17/love-languages/ The Source For Black Male Perspective Wed, 08 Feb 2012 10:03:52 +0000 hourly 1 By: NaijaSweetzhttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/11/17/love-languages/#comment-158618 NaijaSweetz Tue, 30 Nov 2010 00:32:55 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=2777#comment-158618 I want <strike>the money; money and the cars, cars and the clothes..f* the hoes</strike> it ALL. That is all. Ok, ok, fine. Truthfully, I'm multi-lingual, and can appreciate a man who is as well. My most fluent languages are Quality Time and Physical Touch. I mean..they kinda go hand in hand. His Español to my Français..oohwee! Thing is, I was a hermit up until very recently, and I still very much value my personal time & space. When there's someone on my mind, however, I just look forward to those moments together, preferably all cuddled up and playing friendly games of Lip Locking/Suckling & [soft] Tongue Wrestling. I kinda love it when, throughout the night, one partner turns to face the opposite side, and the other automatically re-adjusts to assume spooning position. It's the little things that make me go "Mmmm...." [insert contented sigh of reminiscence here] Gifts have played the least important role in any of my dealings, although I certainly have no qualms with either giving or receiving <strike>getchya mind out the gutter!</strike>. I major in Words of Affirmation. I love to support my babe and remind him that he's some kinda special, especially when he seems to be in doubt. Sadly, I can't say that I've truly received that treatment in kind. Lastly, I was born with Acts of Service on the tip of the tongue <strike>yeah, I know..I keep walking right into it</strike>. I can't say that I've ever done anything big though; it's just things to help out where I can, which is my way of showing that I care. [goes back to cuddling/spooning revisitation] Mmmmmm... I want the money; money and the cars, cars and the clothes..f* the hoes it ALL. That is all.

Ok, ok, fine. Truthfully, I'm multi-lingual, and can appreciate a man who is as well. My most fluent languages are Quality Time and Physical Touch. I mean..they kinda go hand in hand. His Español to my Français..oohwee! Thing is, I was a hermit up until very recently, and I still very much value my personal time & space. When there's someone on my mind, however, I just look forward to those moments together, preferably all cuddled up and playing friendly games of Lip Locking/Suckling & [soft] Tongue Wrestling. I kinda love it when, throughout the night, one partner turns to face the opposite side, and the other automatically re-adjusts to assume spooning position. It's the little things that make me go "Mmmm…." [insert contented sigh of reminiscence here]

Gifts have played the least important role in any of my dealings, although I certainly have no qualms with either giving or receiving getchya mind out the gutter!. I major in Words of Affirmation. I love to support my babe and remind him that he's some kinda special, especially when he seems to be in doubt. Sadly, I can't say that I've truly received that treatment in kind.

Lastly, I was born with Acts of Service on the tip of the tongue yeah, I know..I keep walking right into it. I can't say that I've ever done anything big though; it's just things to help out where I can, which is my way of showing that I care.

[goes back to cuddling/spooning revisitation] Mmmmmm…

]]> By: Don H4http://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/11/17/love-languages/#comment-87583 Don H4 Thu, 19 Aug 2010 20:54:54 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=2777#comment-87583 This is one of the most important issues in any marriage relationship. I was happy to read these messages. Learning and using the LANGUAGE of LOVE of your loved one(s) will aid you both in communication for many many years. I talk from 30 years of marriage. We have walked with the Lord and seen many challenges. However the importance of living a real life a loving people around us and relating to the men and women where we live let's us help them and met their needs. Our life is for our Father's use and we all know that is real fun and rewarding. Thanks everyone. DonH4 of the OC. PS Thank you for this site. This is one of the most important issues in any marriage relationship. I was happy to read these messages. Learning and using the LANGUAGE of LOVE of your loved one(s) will aid you both in communication for many many years. I talk from 30 years of marriage. We have walked with the Lord and seen many challenges. However the importance of living a real life a loving people around us and relating to the men and women where we live let's us help them and met their needs. Our life is for our Father's use and we all know that is real fun and rewarding. Thanks everyone. DonH4 of the OC.

PS Thank you for this site.

]]> By: Myne Whitmanhttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/11/17/love-languages/#comment-44813 Myne Whitman Wed, 18 Nov 2009 14:12:58 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=2777#comment-44813 Nice summation, I have the book and discussing it with my SO earlier on in our relationship really helped us come to a mutually satisfying place. Nice summation, I have the book and discussing it with my SO earlier on in our relationship really helped us come to a mutually satisfying place.

]]> By: C(squared)http://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/11/17/love-languages/#comment-44788 C(squared) Wed, 18 Nov 2009 00:07:32 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=2777#comment-44788 Virgin poster...Yayy! Cosign on all those points... I like my head rubbed...LOL...that is all... Virgin poster…Yayy!

Cosign on all those points…

I like my head rubbed…LOL…that is all…

]]> By: Buttaflyhttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/11/17/love-languages/#comment-44787 Buttafly Tue, 17 Nov 2009 23:40:34 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=2777#comment-44787 I'm in the middle of reading this book myself! Love it so far! I found out that my primary love language is Quality Time, followed by Words of Affirmation & Physical Touch tying for 2nd place. Can't wait to use this info in my next relationship. Oh, and I'm jelly of Smiley Face and her Mr. Mister too! Go girl :) I'm in the middle of reading this book myself! Love it so far! I found out that my primary love language is Quality Time, followed by Words of Affirmation & Physical Touch tying for 2nd place. Can't wait to use this info in my next relationship.

Oh, and I'm jelly of Smiley Face and her Mr. Mister too! Go girl :)

]]> By: DcBuppiehttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/11/17/love-languages/#comment-44782 DcBuppie Tue, 17 Nov 2009 20:15:35 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=2777#comment-44782 This is interesting. This is a very good book, and I also took part in the quiz. It was shocking to see how heavily I lean towards a language. I am heavily a Words of Affirmation chick and unfortunately I rate low on the Physical part. But knowing this about myself, makes me work harder and consciously towards it in a relationship. This is interesting. This is a very good book, and I also took part in the quiz. It was shocking to see how heavily I lean towards a language. I am heavily a Words of Affirmation chick and unfortunately I rate low on the Physical part. But knowing this about myself, makes me work harder and consciously towards it in a relationship.

]]> By: Unheeded Prophetesshttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/11/17/love-languages/#comment-44780 Unheeded Prophetess Tue, 17 Nov 2009 19:56:37 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=2777#comment-44780 I haven't read the book (putting it on my "to read" list now) but I've done the online quizzes, and had my boo-thang do it as well, and it was one of the best things I've ever done. He is a "words of affirmation" person and I'm a "physical touch/gifts" gal, and it knowing that just made things make a lot more sense. He would get upset when I didn't say anything about the previous night's festivities, when in my mind I was thinking "Um, you were there.... couldn't you tell how much I enjoyed it??" when in reality, according to his love language, he needed to hear the words. I was kind of surprised by the "gifts" results for me, though, because I am NOT a materialistic person. But thinking it back it made sense because it used to make me so upset when my ex-husband either got me nothing for birthdays/holidays OR got me something that was not "me". I don't need expensive things tho..... I've cherished handmade earrings that were my style more than a $400 bracelet made of gold hearts (bleh!!). I like receiving little thoughtful things that show that the giver knows me and thought about me (I was once ecstatic when my friend sent me a box full of Chick-fil-A sauce to cheer me up). I haven't read the book (putting it on my "to read" list now) but I've done the online quizzes, and had my boo-thang do it as well, and it was one of the best things I've ever done. He is a "words of affirmation" person and I'm a "physical touch/gifts" gal, and it knowing that just made things make a lot more sense. He would get upset when I didn't say anything about the previous night's festivities, when in my mind I was thinking "Um, you were there…. couldn't you tell how much I enjoyed it??" when in reality, according to his love language, he needed to hear the words.

I was kind of surprised by the "gifts" results for me, though, because I am NOT a materialistic person. But thinking it back it made sense because it used to make me so upset when my ex-husband either got me nothing for birthdays/holidays OR got me something that was not "me". I don't need expensive things tho….. I've cherished handmade earrings that were my style more than a $400 bracelet made of gold hearts (bleh!!). I like receiving little thoughtful things that show that the giver knows me and thought about me (I was once ecstatic when my friend sent me a box full of Chick-fil-A sauce to cheer me up).

]]> By: Blue Skyezhttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/11/17/love-languages/#comment-44777 Blue Skyez Tue, 17 Nov 2009 17:41:14 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=2777#comment-44777 Not too much of a gift acceptor if from anyone other than my parents. I feel slightly uneasy and guilty when people other than my parents give me gifts. However I love love love giving gifts. I also will jump for acts of service I love to help folks out if and when I can within reason. Not too much of a gift acceptor if from anyone other than my parents. I feel slightly uneasy and guilty when people other than my parents give me gifts. However I love love love giving gifts. I also will jump for acts of service I love to help folks out if and when I can within reason.

]]> By: Blue Skyezhttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/11/17/love-languages/#comment-44776 Blue Skyez Tue, 17 Nov 2009 17:34:36 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=2777#comment-44776 To clarify I have yet to met someone who turns on my mind so much that I'm actually physically turned in their presence. I may have fantasties but once I'm on the presence of the person I fantasized about I'm completely physically turned off. Lol I find it strange too. To clarify I have yet to met someone who turns on my mind so much that I'm actually physically turned in their presence. I may have fantasties but once I'm on the presence of the person I fantasized about I'm completely physically turned off. Lol I find it strange too.

]]> By: Blue Skyezhttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/11/17/love-languages/#comment-44774 Blue Skyez Tue, 17 Nov 2009 17:28:27 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=2777#comment-44774 Sorry for grammar typing from an arkward touch screen keyboard. I just cut off a 7 month dilemma because we weren't communicating well enough. I mean we would talk on the phone everyday and see each other about once or twice a month. Kinda LDR except we live about an hour away from each other. I jist didn't care to see him all that much because he bore me to death and he hardly ever complimented me. I absolutely need words of affirmation and acts of affirmation. I absolutely need quality time in that we could hang out and communicate as very good or best friends. I have never been into physical touch unless I super turned on and I have yet to experience anyone who could do that for me. Sorry for grammar typing from an arkward touch screen keyboard. I just cut off a 7 month dilemma because we weren't communicating well enough. I mean we would talk on the phone everyday and see each other about once or twice a month. Kinda LDR except we live about an hour away from each other. I jist didn't care to see him all that much because he bore me to death and he hardly ever complimented me.

I absolutely need words of affirmation and acts of affirmation. I absolutely need quality time in that we could hang out and communicate as very good or best friends. I have never been into physical touch unless I super turned on and I have yet to experience anyone who could do that for me.

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