Comments on: Dr. J, How would you classify my friend? http://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/12/10/dr-j-how-would-you-classify-my-friend/ The Source For Black Male Perspective Fri, 10 Feb 2012 05:55:41 +0000 hourly 1 By: DarkPhoenixhttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/12/10/dr-j-how-would-you-classify-my-friend/#comment-47253 DarkPhoenix Mon, 14 Dec 2009 11:30:46 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=2859#comment-47253 GD's simply know how to take advantage of an opportunity when it presents itself. Undoubtedly all women are not the same in their approach to life...sex...love...etc., and said is true for GD's...we're not all the same with our objectives. You can't teach someone to sing, either the talent is there...or it is not. American Idol for example...the untalented are quick to yell and be offended when rejected. You can't teach someone how to GD and if you've tried and you lack the talent and came up with pocket lint...try not to be resentful of those that can...it's so unattractive. Oh...and if a random poll was taken on whether or not GD's were concerned whether or not we were respected by society I'm going to answer with a resounding NO. As far as not respecting ourselves...hmpf...chile' please. GD's simply know how to take advantage of an opportunity when it presents itself. Undoubtedly all women are not the same in their approach to life…sex…love…etc., and said is true for GD's…we're not all the same with our objectives. You can't teach someone to sing, either the talent is there…or it is not. American Idol for example…the untalented are quick to yell and be offended when rejected. You can't teach someone how to GD and if you've tried and you lack the talent and came up with pocket lint…try not to be resentful of those that can…it's so unattractive.

Oh…and if a random poll was taken on whether or not GD's were concerned whether or not we were respected by society I'm going to answer with a resounding NO. As far as not respecting ourselves…hmpf…chile' please.

]]> By: Mz Good Heart(SweetChttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/12/10/dr-j-how-would-you-classify-my-friend/#comment-46968 Mz Good Heart(SweetC Thu, 10 Dec 2009 17:34:15 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=2859#comment-46968 Well i have friends in all the groups and they are well aware.but i love the them just the same and they are cool with who they are....SHOT out to SINGLEBLACKMALE in the Essence Jan 2010 issuse pg 62...Congrats you guys!!! Well i have friends in all the groups and they are well aware.but i love the them just the same and they are cool with who they are….SHOT out to SINGLEBLACKMALE in the Essence Jan 2010 issuse pg 62…Congrats you guys!!!

]]> By: SBMhttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/12/10/dr-j-how-would-you-classify-my-friend/#comment-46966 SBM Thu, 10 Dec 2009 16:57:44 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=2859#comment-46966 @lili The minds of men are often Dark and evil places, one reason I wasn unsure about creating this site in the first place. But ... as long as the mind isn't influencing the hand ... we can be good for ya'll. Think about that sh* ... @lili

The minds of men are often Dark and evil places, one reason I wasn unsure about creating this site in the first place.

But … as long as the mind isn't influencing the hand … we can be good for ya'll.

Think about that sh* …

]]> By: SaneN85http://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/12/10/dr-j-how-would-you-classify-my-friend/#comment-46964 SaneN85 Thu, 10 Dec 2009 16:51:37 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=2859#comment-46964 I personally think it should have a negative connotation. If you're searching for short term security than you should find a job. Playing on a person's emotions in order to be financially secure is selfish, it's just as selfish as playing with a person's emotions for sex. I don't have an inkling of respect for the person who expects someone else to "take care of them", nor do I have respect for the person who is taken in easily by GDs. It seems clear to me that those people don't respect themselves either. Just my opinion. Also, It is hard enough to find a person you are compatible with and doesn't have issues, without people taking advantage of eachother for selfish BS and causing those people to have issues. I personally think it should have a negative connotation. If you're searching for short term security than you should find a job. Playing on a person's emotions in order to be financially secure is selfish, it's just as selfish as playing with a person's emotions for sex. I don't have an inkling of respect for the person who expects someone else to "take care of them", nor do I have respect for the person who is taken in easily by GDs. It seems clear to me that those people don't respect themselves either. Just my opinion.

Also, It is hard enough to find a person you are compatible with and doesn't have issues, without people taking advantage of eachother for selfish BS and causing those people to have issues.

]]> By: Ms. Smarthttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/12/10/dr-j-how-would-you-classify-my-friend/#comment-46959 Ms. Smart Thu, 10 Dec 2009 15:44:45 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=2859#comment-46959 Oh and GD has such a negative connotation. When they are doing what I described above, I just think they are seeking short term security. :-) Oh and when a man is dealing with a real good GD, he (his friends or family) never sees it coming. Oh and GD has such a negative connotation. When they are doing what I described above, I just think they are seeking short term security. :-) Oh and when a man is dealing with a real good GD, he (his friends or family) never sees it coming.

]]> By: Lilihttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/12/10/dr-j-how-would-you-classify-my-friend/#comment-46958 Lili Thu, 10 Dec 2009 15:42:57 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=2859#comment-46958 You know, this reminds me of something one of my older cousins said after he finished grad school. He said: "To be real, I can settle down whenever I want. I'm a young, educated Black man...there are way more Black females out there trying to find someone like me." (Arrogant, right?) I said "Thanks big couz, that's encouraging for a young girl to here." After all that, he proceeded to propose to his long-time girlfriend. lol That was pretty much his sentiment though; when a (Black) man is doing extremely well for himself the ladies start coming harder and you can actually afford to have all the fun you want. Now I hear stories of what goes down with his other married friends. He thinks he's giving me insight into the minds of men so I have a heads up; I think it's a tad unnerving. But I appreciate the honesty. You know, this reminds me of something one of my older cousins said after he finished grad school. He said: "To be real, I can settle down whenever I want. I'm a young, educated Black man…there are way more Black females out there trying to find someone like me." (Arrogant, right?) I said "Thanks big couz, that's encouraging for a young girl to here."

After all that, he proceeded to propose to his long-time girlfriend. lol

That was pretty much his sentiment though; when a (Black) man is doing extremely well for himself the ladies start coming harder and you can actually afford to have all the fun you want.

Now I hear stories of what goes down with his other married friends. He thinks he's giving me insight into the minds of men so I have a heads up; I think it's a tad unnerving. But I appreciate the honesty.

]]> By: Ms. Smarthttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/12/10/dr-j-how-would-you-classify-my-friend/#comment-46956 Ms. Smart Thu, 10 Dec 2009 15:42:41 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=2859#comment-46956 Maybe it's a regional thing but where I was raised, Detroit, GD is way bigger than scoping a guy at a club. A GD wants a house (or at least rent paid for a few months), car/insurance paid for, to be taken care of in every financial way. Those are her goals. The chicks who are at the club trying to come up on a table were looked down on because they were cheap. I think the technical term is: Broke Hoes. A real GD knows that the dude being extra flossy in the club isn't the one to go for. It's the guy hiding out in the cut who 1) probably has more 2) is willing to share. Maybe it's a regional thing but where I was raised, Detroit, GD is way bigger than scoping a guy at a club. A GD wants a house (or at least rent paid for a few months), car/insurance paid for, to be taken care of in every financial way. Those are her goals. The chicks who are at the club trying to come up on a table were looked down on because they were cheap. I think the technical term is: Broke Hoes. A real GD knows that the dude being extra flossy in the club isn't the one to go for. It's the guy hiding out in the cut who 1) probably has more 2) is willing to share.

]]> By: ShowGirlhttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/12/10/dr-j-how-would-you-classify-my-friend/#comment-46953 ShowGirl Thu, 10 Dec 2009 14:53:45 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=2859#comment-46953 And every woman's husband was another woman's candidate for "Don't Date Him Girl.Com" And every woman's husband was another woman's candidate for "Don't Date Him Girl.Com"

]]> By: Sevenhttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/12/10/dr-j-how-would-you-classify-my-friend/#comment-46951 Seven Thu, 10 Dec 2009 14:39:01 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=2859#comment-46951 I never leave home without my shovel...what's mine is mine and what's yours is mine. LMAO! As it was already said...if there wasn't any gold there wouldn't be any diggin'. I never leave home without my shovel…what's mine is mine and what's yours is mine. LMAO! As it was already said…if there wasn't any gold there wouldn't be any diggin'.

]]> By: CPT Callamityhttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/12/10/dr-j-how-would-you-classify-my-friend/#comment-46950 CPT Callamity Thu, 10 Dec 2009 14:28:24 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=2859#comment-46950 This is also where you will see desperation at it's finest. Watch how many booger wolves get approached because that's all there was left. All the decent chicks left about an hour earlier. This is also where you will see desperation at it's finest. Watch how many booger wolves get approached because that's all there was left. All the decent chicks left about an hour earlier.

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