Comments on: Your Friend is Cheating? http://www.singleblackmale.org/2010/01/07/your-friend-is-cheating/ Dating, Relationship, Marriage ... and all that other sh* Thu, 09 Sep 2010 12:27:15 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: YB http://www.singleblackmale.org/2010/01/07/your-friend-is-cheating/#comment-49557 YB Fri, 08 Jan 2010 11:20:27 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=3007#comment-49557 Women are better liars and cheaters than men, thats a given. Women are better liars and cheaters than men, thats a given.

]]> By: Ms808nHartbreak http://www.singleblackmale.org/2010/01/07/your-friend-is-cheating/#comment-49533 Ms808nHartbreak Fri, 08 Jan 2010 00:06:35 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=3007#comment-49533 The topic of cheating always sparks a healthy debate. Men condone it and sometimes even encourage it. Women used to look at cheating as being taboo and if they did it then they were considered a slut, hoe, or whore. But it seems in this day and age that cheating is a way of life and dare I say even becoming acceptable. Shaq, Tiger, Eliot Spitzer, A.Rod have all cheated and everytime we hear about it we're not even shocked. It's like society expects it. Overall, I think that when it comes to relationships you just have to stand back in the sidelines and mind your own business. Everyone knows that cheating is wrong therefore I don't have to give advice to a friend who may be cheating. We all know what's at stake when we put ourselves in comprimising situations. Karma is a b*tch and eventually it all comes to you. However, I do believe that when someone cheats and the other person finds out it changes them and often leads that person to mistrust in their next relationship. It leaves me to ask this question when it comes to relationships and cheating what came first the b*tch or the a$$hole? check out my thoughts on this @ http://wp.me/pBFoQ-40 The topic of cheating always sparks a healthy debate. Men condone it and sometimes even encourage it. Women used to look at cheating as being taboo and if they did it then they were considered a slut, hoe, or whore. But it seems in this day and age that cheating is a way of life and dare I say even becoming acceptable. Shaq, Tiger, Eliot Spitzer, A.Rod have all cheated and everytime we hear about it we’re not even shocked. It’s like society expects it. Overall, I think that when it comes to relationships you just have to stand back in the sidelines and mind your own business. Everyone knows that cheating is wrong therefore I don’t have to give advice to a friend who may be cheating. We all know what’s at stake when we put ourselves in comprimising situations. Karma is a b*tch and eventually it all comes to you. However, I do believe that when someone cheats and the other person finds out it changes them and often leads that person to mistrust in their next relationship. It leaves me to ask this question when it comes to relationships and cheating what came first the b*tch or the a$$hole? check out my thoughts on this @ http://wp.me/pBFoQ-40

]]> By: Melissa http://www.singleblackmale.org/2010/01/07/your-friend-is-cheating/#comment-49532 Melissa Thu, 07 Jan 2010 23:31:33 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=3007#comment-49532 I agree you should be careful of the company you keep. "Birds of a feather flock together" I have had to move on from friends for this reason. Also true friends want the best for each other and encourage each to grow and that means telling the truth even when it hurts. I refuse to condone cheating even if it is my best friend regardless whether male or female. I agree you should be careful of the company you keep. “Birds of a feather flock together” I have had to move on from friends for this reason. Also true friends want the best for each other and encourage each to grow and that means telling the truth even when it hurts. I refuse to condone cheating even if it is my best friend regardless whether male or female.

]]> By: juli http://www.singleblackmale.org/2010/01/07/your-friend-is-cheating/#comment-49526 juli Thu, 07 Jan 2010 21:08:29 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=3007#comment-49526 It is SO WRONG to "assume" the wife/girlfriend knows she is being cheated on! What if she is at home with the kids all day/night, and he's at the "gym" or some other nonsense. She doesn't know until she KNOWS. Many women don't KNOW until they are told, or the other woman contacts them. Some women second guess their gut. People should tell more often. I did the dummy before by not knowing, and when I found out, I was shocked and devestated. Later to find out all of his co-workers had met her and they all knew I was pregnant at the time! I did NOT know ANYTHING about it. And yes, I did break up with him the second I saw his face after I found out. It is SO WRONG to “assume” the wife/girlfriend knows she is being cheated on! What if she is at home with the kids all day/night, and he’s at the “gym” or some other nonsense. She doesn’t know until she KNOWS. Many women don’t KNOW until they are told, or the other woman contacts them. Some women second guess their gut. People should tell more often. I did the dummy before by not knowing, and when I found out, I was shocked and devestated. Later to find out all of his co-workers had met her and they all knew I was pregnant at the time! I did NOT know ANYTHING about it. And yes, I did break up with him the second I saw his face after I found out.

]]> By: AJT http://www.singleblackmale.org/2010/01/07/your-friend-is-cheating/#comment-49525 AJT Thu, 07 Jan 2010 20:59:56 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=3007#comment-49525 Folk are grown. If you ask my opinion I am going to give it. But I believe in Karma so...................................................................... Folk are grown. If you ask my opinion I am going to give it. But I believe in Karma so…………………………………………………………….

]]> By: J http://www.singleblackmale.org/2010/01/07/your-friend-is-cheating/#comment-49516 J Thu, 07 Jan 2010 17:14:25 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=3007#comment-49516 With men, we might not condone it, but we don't say anything cause we know who our friends are and what they are like. Most of the time we kind of fault the girl for stayin with a guy that is obviously cheating. See women are sneaky about cheating. And they will swear to Jesus they are not cheating to a man even thought they are. So women tend to feel sorry for a guy if he doesn't know his girl is cheating. Guys on the other hand are very sloppy. Some just really don't give a dam. 9 times out of 10 we figure this women has to know this dude is cheating cause it's obvious to everyone. So guys really don't feel bad for the female. We figure she is getting what she wanted. She knew this dude was a player pimp when she started out. But he makes all their girlfriends jealous and that's what's really important to females. :-) With men, we might not condone it, but we don’t say anything cause we know who our friends are and what they are like. Most of the time we kind of fault the girl for stayin with a guy that is obviously cheating.

See women are sneaky about cheating. And they will swear to Jesus they are not cheating to a man even thought they are. So women tend to feel sorry for a guy if he doesn’t know his girl is cheating.

Guys on the other hand are very sloppy. Some just really don’t give a dam. 9 times out of 10 we figure this women has to know this dude is cheating cause it’s obvious to everyone. So guys really don’t feel bad for the female. We figure she is getting what she wanted. She knew this dude was a player pimp when she started out. But he makes all their girlfriends jealous and that’s what’s really important to females. :-)

]]> By: Hugh Jazz http://www.singleblackmale.org/2010/01/07/your-friend-is-cheating/#comment-49506 Hugh Jazz Thu, 07 Jan 2010 14:41:42 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=3007#comment-49506 Men often don't condone this sort of thing from our friends. We will say something to our friend, but will very rarely say something to the friend's SO because our loyalties aren't to her. Men often don’t condone this sort of thing from our friends. We will say something to our friend, but will very rarely say something to the friend’s SO because our loyalties aren’t to her.

]]> By: YB http://www.singleblackmale.org/2010/01/07/your-friend-is-cheating/#comment-49501 YB Thu, 07 Jan 2010 12:25:37 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=3007#comment-49501 Women can often rationalize what would be deemed wrong behavior if their man did it. Sad to say, their friends often buy in to it as well. Women can often rationalize what would be deemed wrong behavior if their man did it. Sad to say, their friends often buy in to it as well.

]]> By: Jessence http://www.singleblackmale.org/2010/01/07/your-friend-is-cheating/#comment-49500 Jessence Thu, 07 Jan 2010 11:52:38 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=3007#comment-49500 This was such an "oprah" way of explaining what's right...maybe I have been a little more selfish and self-involved with my convo with my girlfriend who is tempting with cheating...goes a little like "How the hell u doing that, wait u my friend and we talk all the time why I'm single and you juggling avaliable quarters around? That's bs! Especially becuz feeling get jumbled so you taking a possible off the market for double ya'll relationship span! You need to make a decision because you are just causing your own headaches and now you stealing what could hae been my pleasure! And the true point is if you can't say your heart and true emotions to your friend then you are only a sounding ear and they don't respect you for the person you are and in essence aint a TRUE friend. (Oh a quarter, some people say men aint worth a quarter--we find one who is he is code name quarter until further review) This was such an “oprah” way of explaining what’s right…maybe I have been a little more selfish and self-involved with my convo with my girlfriend who is tempting with cheating…goes a little like

“How the hell u doing that, wait u my friend and we talk all the time why I’m single and you juggling avaliable quarters around? That’s bs! Especially becuz feeling get jumbled so you taking a possible off the market for double ya’ll relationship span! You need to make a decision because you are just causing your own headaches and now you stealing what could hae been my pleasure!

And the true point is if you can’t say your heart and true emotions to your friend then you are only a sounding ear and they don’t respect you for the person you are and in essence aint a TRUE friend.

(Oh a quarter, some people say men aint worth a quarter–we find one who is he is code name quarter until further review)

]]> By: QueenT http://www.singleblackmale.org/2010/01/07/your-friend-is-cheating/#comment-49487 QueenT Thu, 07 Jan 2010 06:45:56 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=3007#comment-49487 I don't really believe men do this. I don't think ya'll question each other on this at all. You all co-sign on alot of stuff. The unspoken code with Men is based on not confronting them on their ish. I could be wrong on this. I challenge, a man to come forward and say otherwise........ I don’t really believe men do this. I don’t think ya’ll question each other on this at all. You all co-sign on alot of stuff. The unspoken code with Men is based on not confronting them on their ish. I could be wrong on this. I challenge, a man to come forward and say otherwise……..

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