Comments on: Black Male Bloggers: Our Words Are Gospel

By: YB

YB — Sat, 06 Feb 2010 12:13:33 +0000

I read that book a few years ago Ric. Very good read. There is actually a book for women very similar, but using their pocketbook as “their tacklebox”.

By: Ric D. Harris

Ric D. Harris — Mon, 18 Jan 2010 04:03:06 +0000

Read the book called The Fisherman and the Catch: Catching the Right Woman. The book is about men catching thier soulmate. The book talks about men getting thier “tackle box” together in order to catch the right fish for them. The book uses fishing analogies relating to tools men need for that catch, while describing women with the same similarities as fish. As an example the book talks about Panfish, Trout, Catfish and Bass using the behaviors of those fish and relating them to types of women. The book is so true and very hilarious. It’s the playbook on ensuring that men, who is the Fisherman catch the right women, who is the fish, for them. The book is a keeper! and you can get it on Amazon.com and Barnesandnoble.com

By: Slim Jackson

Slim Jackson — Wed, 13 Jan 2010 12:16:46 +0000

Appreciate the in-depth comment!

By: YB

YB — Wed, 13 Jan 2010 12:07:17 +0000

That is the “Usher effect”

By: Peter Parker

Peter Parker — Wed, 13 Jan 2010 04:54:15 +0000

“But the true answers to the problems in all of our lives will TYPICALLY NOT be found on blogs written by people like me.”

Great Point, (not trying to take sublimiinal shots) but a lot of times, women do seek to find advice from every single avenue that they can…and while a lot of times, advice may be relevant, the greatest teacher is Life itself, not necessarily going with the flow, per se, but using common sense, and the Golden Rule

By: Bklyngal

Bklyngal — Wed, 13 Jan 2010 04:13:36 +0000

Slim, In my case I’m recently getting back in the dating game after 5 years single and find myself at the age of 30 repeating mistakes I made when I was 22. I’m a kind, witty, ambitious, and sincere person. I put up a wall for years after having a little girl with a “boy” that treated me like crap. It’s taken some time but I’m allowing myself to be vulnerable and open to the possibility of true Love. With that said, I was seeing a man who I thought had qualities worthy of my time however in the end I turned into that psycho chick that all men & women detest! Well, I came across your site and found it entertaining, enlightening, and to a certain extent empowering. It’s allowed me a male perspective and not having too many male friends, it’s much needed because having a young girl I want to lead by example and teach her that a man should enhance her life not be her life. I caught myself slipping but I’m aware of my behaviors partially because of your site. I realize that the only person able to create positive change is oneself. I’m optimistic about finding that special man and will certainly check myself and not allow any man to get the best of me. Props to you and your team for a fresh perspective on men, sex, and relationships.

By: Slim Jackson

Slim Jackson — Tue, 12 Jan 2010 22:19:09 +0000

I think the generalizations you’ve made have a lot of truth in them. You certainly made some points I hadn’t thought off. I learned a good amount today from all the responses.

By: Melanie Richardson

Melanie Richardson — Tue, 12 Jan 2010 22:12:53 +0000

I’ve notice this phenomenon if want to call it that, as well. It’s been my assumption for the most part men aren’t interested in expanding their relationship understanding. Until the man decides to “seek a wife”, he pretty much goes with the flow. So, you don’t have a bunch of men trying to figure out the inner workings of a woman’s mind when it comes to dating, hence no big push from the men to support the female relationship blogging population. Well, unless of course she is pumping hard-core sex topics or has plenty of T&A pics up to bring in the traffic. Women in contrast can easily put their feet in another woman’s shoes, so reading relationship blogs from a woman’s perspective isn’t all that exciting, especially if there are no men commenting. No matter how informational or introspective the blog, the dialogue is flat and one-dimensional. I made some broad generalizations here, but just my thoughts on the subject.

By: Streetztalk

Streetztalk — Tue, 12 Jan 2010 21:16:57 +0000

-_- lol

By: Shawn Smith

Shawn Smith — Tue, 12 Jan 2010 21:10:42 +0000

Being one of the “online diary” dating bloggers, I hear from women who say that they like when men write their real thoughts and perspectives on how women act. They say it gives them a window as to what men are really thinking, or as a view from the other side, which I find funny.

Nine times out of ten we (men) would tell you what we are really thinking but we don’t because; either women may not believe us, it’s not what they want to hear, it’s not what they are expecting, it may shock and appall them, we know you really may not care or listen, or we may just not be thinking anything.