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What rock are you living under? (Just Joking!) I see it all day everyday. I'm 26 and I used to work at the Department of Human Services, otherwise known as the public aid office, and there were plenty of women in there knocked up or with kids by young black men. I've went to college in 3 different states and there was always plenty of sex going on amongst the undergrads. All these black women under the age of 25 are not knocking themselves up.

"Somehow I don’t recall girls fighting over the niggaz in the high school math club."

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In the high school math club, probably not. But did you chill with any chicks that were cheerleaders or girls who liked getting with guys from other high schools/college dudes cause they were so much cooler and more mature than the guys at their own school? I knew plenty of them. The girls or guysn in the math club are not exactly a good example of your average high schooler.

If you only knew how people look at you if tell em “yeah I live wit moms but I’m savin to by a house.”

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I know how a lot of women would look at you crazy but most of those chicks are shallow as hell anyways. Once on this blog there was a woman guest blogger and she was talking about how she had met the perfect guy who was everything she wanted but he didn't have his own place because he was in med school. She dumped the guy. And my first thought was "great for him, he deserves the kind of woman that will understand he's on his grind and isn't trying to waste money instead of a woman more concerned with keeping up with the Joneses."

There are women out there who judge men as individuals and will look at his potential as long as he's making good on that potential. Sitting up in your mommas house daydreaming about a rap career ain't gonna get it though. I figure as long as one you has an apt/house it should be ok.

Again, you gotta separate the women of substance who are looking for a good man with character as the first and foremost prerequisite from the women who think money/independence = good man.

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Seriously I don't see a whole lot of niggaz wit "potential" gettin the pussy. Especially in the under 25 age group. Somehow I don't recall girls fighting over the niggaz in the high school math club. If you only knew how people look at you if tell em "yeah I live wit moms but I'm savin to by a house." You get what my man calls the Ice Cube face (which means yeah right nigga, kick rocks). I heard a Muslim dude say one time "there wouldn't be a dude sellin drugs in the hood if sister would stop givin the hustlas all the play." And your right, 9 times out of 10 if a sister crosses over the race line the white dude is paid. But thats why they cross over in the first place. Cause the white guy is better educated and more finacially set.

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Forest Whitaker served time for murder and now he is a successful actor married to black women.

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I think you are talking about Charles Dutton. And nobody married dat man till his money got long. Wasn't nobody checkin for Roc the ex con wit potential. :- )

Black women think black men have tons of potential. If anything the average black woman is disappointed in the average black man because she feels he's not living up to his potential, not because she feels he lacks it altogether.

I think you are mistaking white America's feelings on what makes a black man marriageable versus what the average black woman feel makes a black man marriageable. This makes me think of those statistics that calculate the number of "marriageable" black men there are in America and they always exclude the brothas that don't have high school diplomas. Who decided that a high school diploma was a criteria for marriage? Certainly not the many black women who don't have one. And who decided that a man with any sort of criminal conviction was unmarriageable? Forest Whitaker served time for murder and now he is a successful actor married to black women. I don't believe that your average black women would look past a brotha who made some mistakes in his past but by the time she meets him years later he is materially, emotionally, and mentally stable.

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A black man may not feel comfortable marrying a good woman until he feels that he has lived the ultimate bachelor lifestyle that he has always wanted to live or that he should have certain things like a house, car, career before getting married. (And what those certain things are is determined by a multitude of factors.)

Whereas a white man ( or any other man) may have no desire to live the bachelor lifestyle or he may have grown up in a family where family was stressed, therefore he may feel that having a woman by his side would actually INCREASE the likelyhood of achieving his goals.

There was once a point in time where the model was that you married young or when you had nothing and then worked towards individual and group goals TOGETHER. Now the model is that you should both be bringing something substantial to the table to start with, hence part of the reason people are getting married later and later: it times a while to actually build up anything substantial in terms of money and career in today's society.

I look at the issue like its a continuum with "timing" on one end versus "person" on the other end, men are much farther along the continuum in placing importance on time whereas women are bunched together towards the other end looking mainly at "person".

sorry couldnt help it!

Cosign tho…