I’ve been told I can be harsh at times. Apparently there are some people (particularly women) who think that I am hard on the fairer sex.
Well I must say … this is simply not true.
SBM is a true romantic at heart and loves women. And I don’t mean that “I’m a playa so I love a lot of women … every night type of love”. No … I mean that having babies and a house with the picket fence type of love. The love that has you looking into her eyes type of love. You know … the good sh*t.
In order to spread my overly good feelings at the moment and try and educate the guys out here whose idea of treating a woman good is doing it twice and not kicking her out of the bedroom who aren’t true romantics, I have decided to share:
SBM’s List of Romantic Things to do for your Woman/Wifey/Girlfriend/Shawty/Bun
Bring her fresh flowers
I’m not a fan of flowers and rarely do I see the point, but there is nothing better than the surprised look on the face of an unsuspecting wifey as you present her with a fresh bouquet. It’s not romantic if you do it for a holiday, that is just protocol. Also, take the time to know your girl. Activating her allergies to lillies is not hot!
Pleasure just her
This one is probably hard for a lot of guys, and I know it had been for me. Nonetheless, if you bring her body to the peaks of pleasure and ask for nothing in return … she will love you for it. It’s a nice way to appreciate her body and remind her that it isn’t all about knockin boots. If you try this and she demands you finish what you started … well … at least you tried.
Really take the time and kiss her all over
As men, we all have the goal in mind. We know what we are trying to do and we often want to get there as soon as possible. And because she knows this, slowing down and taking the extra time to appreciate her body (remember that phrase) is yet another way to let her know it’s not all about her dirty dug out.
Cook a candle light dinner (or buy it if need be)
Classics are called classics for a reason. They stand the test of time. And sometimes a nice candlelight dinner for two catered to her favorite foods will always say a lot. With women, the devil is always in the details and half-assed attempts will only get a quarter-assed response (I call that missing quarter the “this man doesn’t even know I’m allergic to peanuts” tax). Get that female friend she really hates to help you if need be.
Stare into her deeply, tell her she is beautiful
This one seems simple and easy … but it’s not. Insincerity is the bane of the male existence and can get you caught up. If you do learn to do this with real passion and conviction, and you actually mean it (key!) … then man … you got a powerful romantic sawed off ready to make her tingle.
Confess your love
Pretty simple. If you love her … let her know it. Don’t make it some huge production, but just like the eye stare … it has to make an impact. I mean, if you love her she should know, and I am convinced you really shouldn’t have to say it … but … your trying to be romantic. Something written with details is always good.
BTW, I have done and will continue to do all of these. Just because I’m dark and ice cold at the core doesn’t mean my exterior can’t get a little soft. Don’t worry though … I’ll be sure to continue to dig deep with my posts and find my angry inner self.
Ladies, did I get em right? Fellas, am I missing something, would you or do you do any of these, and don’t yell at me. SBM Fam, lets get romantic today. Suggestions, Stories, or just sweet thoughts … I’m in a good mood (which I will share later on twitter!).
- SBM aka Romeo aka Knows how to treat a woman
*tear*
*sniff*
This is an awesome list of romantic things to do for a woman.
Nothings over the top and each will speak volumes about how one cares.
Shoots! Wish I had a good, romantic man in my life right about now
*pout*
You nailed this one. These are some of the things a man can and should do periodically if he wants to keep his woman. I am not getting any of this and I call myself having a man. I may have to reconsider him and upgrade him. I deserve these things. Ok, now Im mad.
Good one tho.
Don't get mad. Get satisfied.
You should put a big disclaimer on this:
Do this only to women who deserve it AND you mean it.
I've seen many brothas do some/all of the above just to get the goods, sending all sorts of wrong signals to that woman.
This is the truth. I hate them dudes, who do all of this and ruin the game for everyone else. Its like using steroids. I got a dude in my squad who pulls these stunts but he is notorious for doing it too early and he wonders why we clown him. SMH.
Plus, using it wrongly will scar the girl and then make it so when someone who means it says it, it doesnt register.
Yeah, your right.
I might have inadvertently created some simps who do not know how to handle this information.
Don't worry SBM. Simps are born, not made, lol.
Very good tips, SBM.
This one is my fave: "Stare into her deeply, tell her she is beautiful"
Even when I know I'm looking a hot mess, with my headscarf and glasses and big ole tshirt and socks, my beau tells me I'm beautiful and really looks at me like he means it (you know the look). lol. And it makes me melt (just a little bit, on the inside, "don't fall for it- Ice Cooooold.") lol. But it's just the little things, like when you go to the store, you bring me back my favorite candy, or etc. Just to let me know you are listening.
Candle lit or no, a cooked dinner is enough to earn my man major points. And don't let the trash be out and some bills paid – it's time to set it off by the fireplace, lol.
SBM is trying to distract me from my work today. I might have to get off work a bit early.
Oh my. This list really nailed it on the head. Wish I had one of those Romeo type men right about now.
it really is a great list. My favorite one is the Stare Into Her Deeply & tell her she's beautiful and Confess your love. And YES! the guy must mean it AND the gal must deserve it. And when that happens, I think that is so satisfying to the heart, mind, body, and soul. It makes me
and my single ass'd selfsmile and sigh heavily. Oh! Can't wait. Good job on another post.Glad I could help give you a distraction for work.
Figured I needed to make something to make women feel better and reminisce instead of the usual anger inducing that I am known for.
Awww SBM you did it right this time… I see you Casanova. Lol. All of these are awesome… but I think my favorite is "confess your love." Even if a man isn't at the point of head over heels in love… confessing your feelings, is just as good. My last boo hand wrote a letter and mailed it to my house (which added a nice touch) talking about his feelings. The next time we got together of course we talked about it but it was really just a thank you from me… it was so sweet. Oh… and if he cooking dinner — he can get it.
That is all. Lol.
Good post
Add Cuddle to the list and it will be perfect.
Oh, and ladies, we can do some of these too!!
Cuddle is like standard procedure though. It's something you do like once a week. Most of these things (although I bet they are desired everyday) can't be done that often.
I was going for big banger (no pun intended).
Once a week? Cuddling is a daily routing in our house. The alarm is set about 10 minutes fast, and that first snooze round is spent all entangled. Gotta be careful spooning, though – that's how I get got most mornings, lol.
Sigh.
I'm really gonna leave early today.
Aww this was great. I didnt think you had it in you.
I'm telling ya'll … I'm really a nice guy. Really!
Maannn…an indoor picnic on a rainy day..is…the..BEST…EVER!! Will get me every time.
Set up the den with dim lighting, cover the windows if need be, pillows on the floor, music (of course). Get silly and play some board games, play some cards, reminisce, snuggle, talk about everything and nothing. Turn off the phones. Nothing is better than rainy evening snuggling..specially when there's a little lightning and all your hear is the rain, thunder, his breathing and the soft music in the background…lovely
Smiley Face, I couldn't agree MORE… rainy or snowy days, shutting down the shades, pulling out the fav movies, popcorn…hot chocolate with whipped cream if it cold outside (yummy), snuggled up, just enjoying QUIET TIME…(goes both ways i.e. the guy doing this for his boo or the gal doing this for her shnookums LOL…yeah I'm corny like that)…you don't always have to go out and spend alot of money and make a big production to get across a BIG MESSAGE to your significant other that "You are so important to me that I am shutting down the rest of the world just to spend some precious alone time with you" um um um PRICELESS… and looking below this comment at CPT Callamity's post TRUE THAT TRUE TRUE LOL definitely ONLY for the VIP not just anybody gets this treatment whether you are a female or a male who's doing the catering…cater to someone who is most deserving…and only YOU can determine that within yourself–and do it without someone needing to HINT that they'd appreciate some alone time with you it'll make it more special when you just pop up and do it "just because"…ahhhh
I agree with the earlier posts: ONLY DO THIS FOR THOSE WHO DESERVE IT!
Somebody would have to really make the ole Captain mushy in order for this to take place. Although I have had my fair share of women who've wanted this, despite the fact that it was never earned and warranted.
Simpin aint easy huh Herr SBM?
lol
Good shyt
Aww…. well look who gotta heart…. These are good and should be done <del> when you f*ck up </del> in moderation…. cuz after a while it gets into that "Ok dude DAMN!" stage
Phaaaa. I'm glad somebody said it. As nice as all that sounds…….I can just see a lot of ladies sayin, "Look at dis corny as nigga…….."
Phaaaa. You do all that work and then some other dude gets the pussy cause you "too nice."
Just playin Devil's Advocate here.
You get into that "corny ass nigga" stage if you do it too soon.
This post ignited the great "AWWWW" heard 'round the world.
I need all the guys in the DC metro area to read this!! Esp. the PG county dudes! They just dont get it! It's like being affectionate makes you less of a man. smh
Happy Founder's Day SORORS!! Skee Wee!
I ask for one simple thing….. be.honest.
that's the most romantic thing you could ever do but a little head never hurts
Are you real? I mean a man couldnt have written this? Are you psychic? It should be illegal for a SBM to have this kind of insight unless he's a PIMP!
It feels amazing when a man recognizes my worth and shows his appreciation. I can honestly say, that a man who takes the time and effort to express his love for the lady in his life, is a keeper. I appreciate my man for doing just that for me.
MANY MANY PROPS TO SBM for this post *I'm clapping feverishly* KUDOS, SMOOCHEZ, HUGS AND ALL THAT! This was a thought-provoking, and heartfelt, and well-written post and obviously by the responses it was HIGHLY APPRECIATED BY BOTH GENDERS (wink)…thank you for sharing. Good stuff…I think the idea of LET ME CATER TO YOU (yes took it back to Destiny's Child LOL) will never go out of style as long as BOTH parties participate and reciprocate…and not just on the holidays (yes SBM you are so right…that is so protocol and I don't like things that are basically anticipated/expected, and when in a relationship I love to be the one giving the unexpected surprises and catering excursions "just because" but this post is not my sermonette let me get off the altar LOL)…all of us have a deep desire and NEED to feel WANTED, PURSUED, APPRECIATED, NEEDED, ADORED AND LOVED by the "right" person for us…so here's to catering that "right" person who is in your life now or is on the way
. Blessings.
bravo! but lets be honest most guys wont take the time to do these things ..:( to bad….cause little things llike this is what keeps her holdin on during the times when your doing your dirt….treat her like she is your woman and she will stick by you like she is your woman…not to mention the sexual cravings these gestures will create……