Comments on: Do I Know God? How About Do You Know Me? http://www.singleblackmale.org/2010/02/23/interfaith-couples/ The Source For Black Male Perspective Thu, 09 Feb 2012 18:41:08 +0000 hourly 1 By: Ms.Understoodhttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2010/02/23/interfaith-couples/#comment-54710 Ms.Understood Sat, 27 Feb 2010 10:09:49 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=3319#comment-54710 I am involved in a serious, committed relationship with a man whose faith differs from mine. It has not been easy, and given the choice- I wouldn't have chosen to fall in love with someone whose belief system differs from mine. Although some people believe you control who you fall in love with- I wasn't able to. That said, we have an amazing relationship and a very deep respect for one another. He is spiritually questioning all of the things he's been raised to believe. (Read: brainwashed.) I have a strong faith- that I've proven to myself through studying and reading God's Word. That's one of the things he loves about me- and he's happy to discuss the Bible and his faith with me on a regular basis. We're committed to settling our religious differences before having children in order to present a unified front. That being said--- it's not easy; but it's also not impossible. Christians should remember not to judge-and that no sin is worse than any other. How is the man that leaves the club at 4am and goes straight to church from Waffle House better than the man who prefers to spend his Saturday night relaxing with you and his Sunday morning with his family? Be more concerned with "the secret person of the heart" than whether everyone sees your S/O worshiping with you. Fronting happens in public, but divorces happen at home. I am involved in a serious, committed relationship with a man whose faith differs from mine. It has not been easy, and given the choice- I wouldn't have chosen to fall in love with someone whose belief system differs from mine. Although some people believe you control who you fall in love with- I wasn't able to.

That said, we have an amazing relationship and a very deep respect for one another. He is spiritually questioning all of the things he's been raised to believe. (Read: brainwashed.) I have a strong faith- that I've proven to myself through studying and reading God's Word. That's one of the things he loves about me- and he's happy to discuss the Bible and his faith with me on a regular basis.

We're committed to settling our religious differences before having children in order to present a unified front.

That being said— it's not easy; but it's also not impossible. Christians should remember not to judge-and that no sin is worse than any other.

How is the man that leaves the club at 4am and goes straight to church from Waffle House better than the man who prefers to spend his Saturday night relaxing with you and his Sunday morning with his family?

Be more concerned with "the secret person of the heart" than whether everyone sees your S/O worshiping with you.

Fronting happens in public, but divorces happen at home.

]]> By: Macksnesshttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2010/02/23/interfaith-couples/#comment-54700 Macksness Sat, 27 Feb 2010 05:28:14 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=3319#comment-54700 Peyso, having spoken to my Educational Pastor about Biblical interpretation, I can understand why you think its a book of fables. Its not. Men wrote the Bible but it was divinely inspired. To truly understand a good deal of what is in the Bible, one needs to study it. Many people agree that if you spend less than 10,000 hours studying/practicing something you haven't mastered it. Same with the Bible, the more you put in, the more you get out of it. Read it as a story book first, get confused, re-read it again and then maybe tackle the Hebrew language to get the original meaning, I promise you'll be blown away. Peyso, having spoken to my Educational Pastor about Biblical interpretation, I can understand why you think its a book of fables. Its not. Men wrote the Bible but it was divinely inspired. To truly understand a good deal of what is in the Bible, one needs to study it. Many people agree that if you spend less than 10,000 hours studying/practicing something you haven't mastered it. Same with the Bible, the more you put in, the more you get out of it. Read it as a story book first, get confused, re-read it again and then maybe tackle the Hebrew language to get the original meaning, I promise you'll be blown away.

]]> By: CHeeKZhttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2010/02/23/interfaith-couples/#comment-54538 CHeeKZ Thu, 25 Feb 2010 17:44:47 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=3319#comment-54538 I'm late but let me kick some good old atheist knowledge. <i>"It’s also no accident that Christians are far more likely to donate to charity (outside the church) than non-believers."<i> You also have lower IQ scores, less likely to graduate college, more likely experience teenage pregnancy, and the <b>kicker</b> YOU ARE MORE LIKELY TO GET A DIVORCE BELIEVING IN GOD! MORE LIKELY! <i>"The Bible tells us the world is ruled by a malevolent spirit seeking to steal, kill and destroy."</i> Wait.. so the 2520 wuth the beard isn't almighty? I thought he ruled everything except our free will? Which bring us to a major athiest point, that ninja needs to stop taking credit for everything good and step up and take some responsibility for the bad. But i don't think he exist, so.... <i>we screwed up the one He gave to us initially.</i> We?! I wasn't born yet. Why am I taking blame for another soul? If suffer is passed on through species association shouldn't salvation? Why can't I keep sinning and just get into the pearly gates on Slim's VIP pass? <i>You have two choices, the law of God or the law of the jungle.</i> Laws of Man anybody? Any room for the law of man? Don't forget people like me and Supreme are running off the assumption that the laws that you claim are the laws of 'god' are <i>actually</i> the laws of man poising as god. <i>Not sure how this is an argument against God</i> Word, I would just say: We atheist can't be swayed into believing in a god based off of logic that has a basis of a god existing. That isn't logical.</i></i> I'm late but let me kick some good old atheist knowledge.

"It’s also no accident that Christians are far more likely to donate to charity (outside the church) than non-believers."

You also have lower IQ scores, less likely to graduate college, more likely experience teenage pregnancy, and the kicker YOU ARE MORE LIKELY TO GET A DIVORCE BELIEVING IN GOD! MORE LIKELY!

"The Bible tells us the world is ruled by a malevolent spirit seeking to steal, kill and destroy."

Wait.. so the 2520 wuth the beard isn't almighty? I thought he ruled everything except our free will? Which bring us to a major athiest point, that ninja needs to stop taking credit for everything good and step up and take some responsibility for the bad. But i don't think he exist, so….

we screwed up the one He gave to us initially. We?! I wasn't born yet. Why am I taking blame for another soul? If suffer is passed on through species association shouldn't salvation? Why can't I keep sinning and just get into the pearly gates on Slim's VIP pass?

You have two choices, the law of God or the law of the jungle.

Laws of Man anybody? Any room for the law of man? Don't forget people like me and Supreme are running off the assumption that the laws that you claim are the laws of 'god' are actually the laws of man poising as god.

Not sure how this is an argument against God Word, I would just say: We atheist can't be swayed into believing in a god based off of logic that has a basis of a god existing. That isn't logical.

]]> By: CHeeKZhttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2010/02/23/interfaith-couples/#comment-54508 CHeeKZ Thu, 25 Feb 2010 13:50:45 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=3319#comment-54508 I Co-sign everything you said. I have little to no respect for any divine power. Its all based on silly primative concepts and tradition for people who can't think for themselves. People in a cult are going to marry others of the same cult and belief b/c the reason why the joined the first place was their insecurity. Are all Christian cult members insecure? Nope obviously Slim and my are aren't. But the rest of you who make biggoted comments about non believers.... you obviously aren't so strong in your faith if you can't deal with one of us. #pimpsmackingpastor'swivessince'83 I Co-sign everything you said. I have little to no respect for any divine power. Its all based on silly primative concepts and tradition for people who can't think for themselves.

People in a cult are going to marry others of the same cult and belief b/c the reason why the joined the first place was their insecurity. Are all Christian cult members insecure? Nope obviously Slim and my are aren't.

But the rest of you who make biggoted comments about non believers…. you obviously aren't so strong in your faith if you can't deal with one of us.

#pimpsmackingpastor'swivessince'83

]]> By: Do I Know God? How About Do You Know Me? — theFreshXpress.com — The PULSE of Young Black Americahttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2010/02/23/interfaith-couples/#comment-54240 Do I Know God? How About Do You Know Me? — theFreshXpress.com — The PULSE of Young Black America Wed, 24 Feb 2010 12:01:40 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=3319#comment-54240 [...] [ORIGINALLY POSTED HERE] [...] [...] [ORIGINALLY POSTED HERE] [...]

]]> By: StayDreaminghttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2010/02/23/interfaith-couples/#comment-54230 StayDreaming Wed, 24 Feb 2010 03:40:40 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=3319#comment-54230 This post was just...perfect. I've been lurking for a bit and this post is one of the reasons I'm not leaving haha. Well, I'm a believer of some sort. I don't think I count as christian even though my image of God is based on my Christian upbringing. I'm probably closer to buddhist if you want to get fundamental. I'm definitely open to dating/marrying a person of ANY religious background (atheist) included as long as we have similar moral ground. There are tenets of every faith that I cannot reconcile with my personal world view so I doubt I will get serious with anyone who is devout about anything other than using their d$@m brain lol. Basically, Christians, Jews, Muslims etc who's view of things like gender relations, child rearing, race relations and other stuff that's important to me will get the boot if we are not compatible. For example I would be cutting off any potential boos who would cosign the statement "some rape victims were asking for it". But I guess it just boils down to what's important to different people. Before you get in a relationship with anyone organize your priorities. And don't move them for any one person!! If God is number one on your list, pick some one who has God at the top of their list too. Don't think you're gonna be the one to change their priorities. That's just a divorce/ breakup waiting to happen .... This post was just…perfect. I've been lurking for a bit and this post is one of the reasons I'm not leaving haha. Well, I'm a believer of some sort. I don't think I count as christian even though my image of God is based on my Christian upbringing. I'm probably closer to buddhist if you want to get fundamental. I'm definitely open to dating/marrying a person of ANY religious background (atheist) included as long as we have similar moral ground. There are tenets of every faith that I cannot reconcile with my personal world view so I doubt I will get serious with anyone who is devout about anything other than using their d$@m brain lol. Basically, Christians, Jews, Muslims etc who's view of things like gender relations, child rearing, race relations and other stuff that's important to me will get the boot if we are not compatible. For example I would be cutting off any potential boos who would cosign the statement "some rape victims were asking for it". But I guess it just boils down to what's important to different people. Before you get in a relationship with anyone organize your priorities. And don't move them for any one person!! If God is number one on your list, pick some one who has God at the top of their list too. Don't think you're gonna be the one to change their priorities. That's just a divorce/ breakup waiting to happen ….

]]> By: Jamaicahttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2010/02/23/interfaith-couples/#comment-54213 Jamaica Tue, 23 Feb 2010 23:44:49 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=3319#comment-54213 This chick's logic is a good example of why so many people are turned off by the major religions. How in the heck are you ok with casual sex, but you dismiss a man simply because he doesn't attend church? What "good book" is she reading from? If God won't bless your relationship with a "non-Christian", He sure as heck won't turn the other cheek at your fornicating ways. Get yourself in order before you pass judgement. GTHOH. This chick's logic is a good example of why so many people are turned off by the major religions. How in the heck are you ok with casual sex, but you dismiss a man simply because he doesn't attend church? What "good book" is she reading from? If God won't bless your relationship with a "non-Christian", He sure as heck won't turn the other cheek at your fornicating ways. Get yourself in order before you pass judgement. GTHOH.

]]> By: Kandiahttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2010/02/23/interfaith-couples/#comment-54207 Kandia Tue, 23 Feb 2010 21:40:42 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=3319#comment-54207 Wow....so she can have pre-marital sex **aka** fornicate (biblical word) with him and then it's a deal breaker because he's not in church on Sunday??? Sounds a little hypocritical to me.....just sayin. Wow….so she can have pre-marital sex **aka** fornicate (biblical word) with him and then it's a deal breaker because he's not in church on Sunday??? Sounds a little hypocritical to me…..just sayin.

]]> By: booboonotthefoolhttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2010/02/23/interfaith-couples/#comment-54205 booboonotthefool Tue, 23 Feb 2010 21:30:48 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=3319#comment-54205 I really respect your POV Slim, and I love the way you explain things. I do agree that you should be tolerant of folk who might not have the same belief as you. Hell, just because someone is willing to go to church with you now don't mean that they will be later. Many a husband sits at home while the wife totes the kids to church. At the same time, not being on the usher board/at church every Sunday doesn't mean you have any less faith in God. I do think it is important to explore the faith that someone has. Just because it is different does not mean it isn't real. I think the difficulty can come when you are going the distance with someone and are trying to decide how to raise the child... I really respect your POV Slim, and I love the way you explain things. I do agree that you should be tolerant of folk who might not have the same belief as you. Hell, just because someone is willing to go to church with you now don't mean that they will be later. Many a husband sits at home while the wife totes the kids to church. At the same time, not being on the usher board/at church every Sunday doesn't mean you have any less faith in God. I do think it is important to explore the faith that someone has. Just because it is different does not mean it isn't real.

I think the difficulty can come when you are going the distance with someone and are trying to decide how to raise the child…

]]> By: Satyahttp://www.singleblackmale.org/2010/02/23/interfaith-couples/#comment-54202 Satya Tue, 23 Feb 2010 20:55:34 +0000 http://www.singleblackmale.org/?p=3319#comment-54202 o ok. Where do you hail form? o ok. Where do you hail form?

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