Only a Type-A gets paid!
I don’t think there is anything I can say about loose women that hasn’t already been covered by us and many more.
We told you how to tell if she was a garden variety tool, broke down the difference between a female player and a ho, Dr. J shocked ya’ll by telling you the truth of the ho label, and Slim and I broke down this “Doing me” nonsense.
And tha’s just the tip of it. As guys … we have a lot to say about the topic.
But here at SBM.org, I strive to hit both sides of any topic. I can’t just talk about ying without covering the yang.
So here we are …
While it is impossible for a man to be a hoe … he can be a whore. And not the same type of dirty and disease ridden variety that some females strive for … but a slightly different breed that recognizes the differences between the sexes, but still chastises the reckless behavior. Yes … I am talking about the Man-Whore.
First and Foremost … every promiscuous man is a qualified man-whore. I don’t know the magical number that officially gains a male entry into the club, but at some point your not just “sowing your oats” and you have officially reached whoredom. Unlike with a regular whore/hoe/slut … there are two distinctive types of man-whore. The good kind and the bad kind.
Type A – The Player
This man-whore simply likes to fornicate. He loves women, loves the chase, and just isn’t a fan of commitment. He’s not about to just sleep with anyone as he has standards and isn’t about to let a lowly 3 get in his bed just so he can bust one. He’s not paying for it, he’s not begging, and he doesn’t need crazy lies to “win”. The women he usually seduces want something more and might be mad they can’t have him. And rarely will he put himself in danger just from some beats … always strapped. Basically … your typical ladies man. Think Bill Bellamy in “How to be a Player”.
Type B – The Bottom Feeder
This sad man-whore gets in where he can. He will smash whoever and whatever that has a va-jay-jay and will let him. Fat ones, ugly ones, well known hoes and sluts, and you might catch him rolling around the high school or the freshman dorm, even though he is 2 months away from 30. He might just be suffering from low self-esteem and has spent his life trying to compensate for the time the girls table laughed at him in high school. His treatment of women is deplorable, and rarely is a woman coming back for seconds. As a fellow man, I cannot condemn his actions … but brotha needs to get his life together. There is a good chance he will catch one or more STDs and get some really ugly chick pregnant that he can’t take out in public.
Now .. these two individuals are man-whores just the same and are committed to a life of promiscuity. But we see that one is the type of guy 50% of the male populace tries to be … while the other is what 75% of those trying to be a player end up achieving (for you non math folks that leaves about 12.5% of real players).
It’s a well known fact that society is a lot less likely to shun a man for racking up McDonald’s numbers. I’m not going to say whether it’s right or wrong because we all know that it’s OK because that is a choice only to be made by the girlfriend. And if she doesn’t care … then no other hating (I want to retire the word … I really do … but I need a substitute) a$$ female individual should either.
Man-whores can be reformed. At some point … it just gets old (for most). Most men realize that there is more to life than just beating random box. When that epiphany comes, a man can return his man-whore membership and settle down.
To the women, are you OK with a Type-A man-whore? Have you fell victim to a Type-B that you want to forget? What do you think about man-whores period? To the men … feel me?
- SBM aka Never has never wanted to join the club aka One or two “incidents” doesn’t give you the label
1. Are you OK with a Type-A man-whore?
I'm not OK with it, but I have fallen for this type. With this type I run!
2. Have you fell victim to a Type-B that you want to forget?
Nope..If your not selective, thats just straightup nasty. If you have to sample the entire Tri-State area before you make your selection, then your wee-wee will be in excruciating pain..(bad taste in my mouth…GRRR!) With this type, I run FAST!
3. What do you think about man-whores period?
If you've lost count of the amount of females that you are currently dippin' into/ or have dipped into…thats a problem…
Is it really possible to run fast enough from a player who is determined?
Hell yeah!
Determination is sexy…but when I've already made up my mind not to mess with someone,…its just irritating…
Im glad u finally did this post…cuz there are a lot of man whores
Now to answer your questions
Are you OK with a Type-A man-whore?: I can never be ok with one but i have been with some man whores and never want to meet another…..
2. Have you fell victim to a Type-B that you want to forget?
No, but i know a few of them and its so disgusting…..
There are a lot of man-whores, but it's just a part of life. I think they are a needed part of nature's ecosystem … just like sunlight.
I think depending on the dude when you're young, the ideal is to be a TypeA. Then once they slow down they shut it down.
i could never understand dudes who would bone any woman. makes no sense. Unless p*ssy is curing cancer, im not trying to have anyones box in abundance!
You always got a few Type-A's you just can't give up the game. Like that old Uncle who is 47 with two kids and a 25 year old girlfriend.
Hehe man whore. Hmm to answer these questions:
1. Okay with Type A? Uhh no! Not okay with them at all but (jogging memory) I don't remember falling for one. I know one tried to smizash but I'm getting better at saying "HELL no!"
2. Type B?? hell no! Should I say any more? Lol
Man whores are funny creatures, just like these hoes. There are a lot of guys who I've noticed DO take pride in being so promiscuous and it's so sad.. They're going in their damn late twenties and "monogamy" is a one way street they're not trying to drive down.
Losing count is straight nasty. Ugh. "I lost count…" Just saying the words out loud makes me wanna gag #NoReflex. Well that's all Sue has. ^_^
This hits the nail on the head!! I think you should add that in addition to Type B smashing anything, that he will use some of the most disgusting tactics to get to said beats. You honestly will think that he is going to wife. He's feeding you everything that you want to hear. There's a difference between game and straight up lies.
My friends like to call this a blitzer. Blitzing on every down regardless of the situation.
That's the worse kind of man whore. One who lies and fakes to be one thing when the whole time they are playing games and being deceitful.
I was trying to touch on that with my description of the Bottom Feeder. These reggins will tell a girl his mama died if it'll get him some beats.
They also usually treat their women horribly like throw aways. The player usually realizes the benefit of having a solid stable that actually likes him.
"This sad man-whore gets in where he can. He will smash whoever and whatever that has a va-jay-jay and will let him."
I never understood this. I firmly believe in quality over quantity.
While I can't defend a bottom feeder … sometimes a busted chick with mental issues might prove more enticing than your left hand … I'm just sayin
Thank you!
Sooooo, Hugh Jazz,
Would you mind explaining what quality over quantity means for a man? This ought to be enlightening.
I think there should be a type "C"man- whore…One who thinks he is neither A nor B. The "in denial" man-whore. He is in denial…like an addict. He smashes all the time but only "quality women". He is probably in a relationship or married. He is not turning down the box of a "quality" woman so if you are offering he's accepting. He's not really lying to the women he smashes. They know he has a girlfriend/wife. He's charming, articulate and smart. His friends don't even know how much box he's getting because he's real private with his business….This man-whore is clever but since he doesn't even consider himself a man-whore he's dangerous……
oh em eff gee!! Queen T… will you marry me? I swear you took the words right out of my mouth! I've never fallen for a Type A although I'm friends w/ a few & the Type B's make me laugh out loud… but that Type C… oh that Type C. Get me once, shame on you… get me twice… just kill me already.
I have an ex-lover-friend-enemy who is this Type C. I couldnt label him for a looooong time, but this is him. You hit it so directly. He's SUPER private w/ all his business so if he's telling you he's monogamous (or only w/ you & his current gf/wife/lover) you just might believe him… I don't even think his best friend knows how much of a man whore he is.
sh!T how can they see me? I thought I was invisible in this suit!
ducks and hides in shame. **
In my past, and almost all of my freinds could all fit into C. The way we figure it, we aren't hurting anybody. I really don't even feel bad about it. It was college, I'm a better husband now b/c of it. I always say people make too big of a deal about judging sex. Effing WASP and Catholic Guilt. Who cares.
I concur
Two [more] words Queen T: Oh my.
That type C is a good one. I know a few like that. Funny thing they always claim "I can stop cheating if I really wanted to and when we get married I will".
Always makes me chuckle.
Stop giving my shit away. Let me be a man-whore in private!
oh… & bravo to the post. I see you taking one for the team SBM, make us proud!!
Wouldn't say I "took one for the team" … but I can't badmouth ya'll 24/7 without exposing our weaknesses every once in awhile.
Well let's look at this from their perspective. I was never a Player, I just thought I was one. I mistook geniune female interest for me having "game." When you have two friends both hint that things could get poppin between everyone, I'm not sure how much of that is game and how much is the women hatching the plan and executing it. Of course, I missed the subtle and not-so-subtle hints. Why is a whole 'nother story.
Now I have a feeling most Type B's come along b/c they got no interest from girls in MS or HS. First, you try to emulate the Type A's but it's innate. Either you have it in you to be a Type A or you don't. If this hypothetical person didn't have A in him, then he tries to be a facsimile. If that doesn't work then you go for whatever loving you can get. Your hand can only work for so long. Voila! Bottom feeder.
Lol … sounds like the birth of a bottom feeder if I every heard it.
running through any chick that will open her legs for you will bring you more trouble in the end than it's worth. i promise that it will eventually catch up to you. also, eventually all promiscuous men (players) will eventually settle down. no man wants to be the old guy in the club hitting on the young women and it out of touch with the times.
i gonna make an assumption (really…my bad if i'm wrong to do so) bcos of your name and then make this comment…dude you need to come to the clubs in lagos…old sad rich married men with young single beautiful girls…im talking a different one everytime…15 year age gap seems to be the min requirement…
that's a standard way of life on the island. it's how they roll
it' cool. i am nigerian but i was born and live in america. last time i was in lagos was summer of 2008. i believe you though.
A few quotes…
"I don't have sex anymore because I want to sleep with a lot of women, i've done that already. I do it for the story." – Men
"You can be skinny or fat, white or black, p*ssy is p*ssy so, yeah, I'll hit that." – Tony Yayo
"Listen to me; don't make the same mistakes I made when I was young. F*ck a lotta women Dwayne, not just one woman, a lotta women." – Grandpa from Little Miss Sunshine
I can go all day with quotes.
If a man wants to be a man-whore let him be a man-whore. Same for a chick. The only thing I get mad at is when people are denying it.
@SBM – Men can be hoes and jumpoffs too.
IDK … I think a man can be a jumpoff easy. But I don't know about a hoe. Something about a Hoe and the nature of hoedom doesn't work because most guys actually have to work for their beats.
I have no problem with a man who is upfront about not wanting a commitment. If I want a commitment, I know not to deal with him and if I do deal with him, then it's at my own emotional expense after he's clearly stated he's just in it for the booty and nothing more.
A man who lies and pretends–no respect and no love for them at all.
I'm not okay with either type of man whore.
It's really not necessary to spread your seed every where you can just because you can.. it's too dangerous out there for alladat…
Plus by the time type A finds someone he really wants and type B finds someone who will tolerate them it's gonna be too late…
Their d*cks will have fallen off.
Unfortunately, I've fallen victim to Type-B in high school. I was on my "I'm 17 and I'm grown as hell" type ish and he was on his "Imma take my best friends car (Miami style decked out dunk type ish), drive it around the local high school and see whats poppin" type ish. I see now that he so desperately tried to fall into the Type-A category. Too bad he fell a few inches too short. #punintended
He is a situation that I want to forget. I wish it was all a dream. Matter of fact, I'm convinced that it was a dream…a bad one…
Well, it happens to the best of ya'll.
Mad he really came through to the high school though … even when I was writing that I was thinking how unbelievable it was.
im not a fan of double standards…so those types of men are simply whores in my opinion…not "man whores". a whore is a whore, period. but then again, i hate labels as well.
but either way, i dont care what lifestyle anybody chooses to live, unless it affects me in any way…whether directly or indirectly. if you want to fuck around, fuck around….its your life. as long as you're safe about it, then who should care.
maybe if everyone lived their lives the way they wanted to, things would be alot better and people wouldnt feel the need to lie and decieve….just maybe…
but maybe im just saying this because ive never been "played". i always thought the "game" was common sense.
good luck ladies……
If you had everyone living exactly however they felt like … every one would be out running a muck. If someone wasn't out there saying "that is f*d up" … then there would be no accountability.
Maybe it's just me … but "being safe" aint enough.
And a man-whore is different … well type a is. A non-man whore doesn't have to put any work in to reach that level … just an aversion to saying no.
Whats the difference between a Type A and a dude who smashes on occasion? About 30-40 chicks cocksucka beat it.
Seriously though, its peopels lives to live. The shyt is judgemental plain and simple. I think Type A is being judged because the women who want to be made gfs arent because hes playing the field. #youmad?
Type B theres no saving for. lol. Quality > Quantity.
I mean seriously, Derek jeter would be a man whore type A by this definition and he actually date all those BADD chicks, hes just switches his women like the # on the range
i still feel as though people should live their lives the way they want….so long as it doesnt harm anybody. as long as they are upfront about not wanting committment and only wanting sex, then i see nothing wrong with that.
you said: If someone wasn’t out there saying “that is f*d up” … then there would be no accountability. well in my opinion, nobody should be the judge of whats fucked up or not. nobody is perfect. so again, if thats how they want to live their lives, then i see no problem with that as long as it doesnt harm anybody. maybe the fact that people do judge is the reason some people feel the need to deceive.
even if you (used in general) feel that the behavior is wrong….they still have a right to behave that way. there are way more important things to be judgemental about then what consenting adults choose to do.
just my opinion, but i know i tend to think differently than most people.
but at least yall are not talking about woman-whores for once….
If you had everyone living exactly however they felt like … every one would be out running a muck. If someone wasn’t out there saying “that is f*d up” … then there would be no accountability.
Ummm. People are running a muck… B*tcha*sness and dumbh*eness is running rampant.
There's no ultimate accountability for playing the field or whoring around. I don't know one adulterer that walks around with a red 'A.'
And if you weren't around to call out the B*tcheda*ness … it would just keep going on because wouldn't no one be "judging" anyone else on it.
juniebug says: March 1, 2010 at 12:27 pmim not a fan of double standards…so those types of men are simply whores in my opinion…not “man whores”. a whore is a whore, period.
Exactly. This is my exact stance. I'm also not sure why a man can't be a "hoe" other than semantics (which are the same that can be applied to "whore"), but #idigress. Two reasons why I don't put the whimpy "man-" qualifier-prefix are as follows:
1. If a woman you know is a whore, then she's been around, right? She has probably been around the block, aka your friends AND you. I mean, if these chicks are whores, how do you think she racks up the numbers? By the (male) whores that sleep with her as well as the other whores. Bottom line: It takes two (or more) to whore.
2. Whores can be more susceptible to STDs/STIs. It's not like the Herpes Monster looks at a dude and is like, "Oh, yeah, Webster said that a whore is a woman. I grant you the herpe-free card". Chile, bye. Diseases don't discriminate, so why should our lexicon?
I don't know homie… I'm not so quick to call anyone who sexes a whore, a whore. If dude just does a smash and grab, why does that make the woman a hoe? Maybe she thought he wanted something more? This happens both ways…
"I don’t know homie… I’m not so quick to call anyone who sexes a whore, a whore."
Neither am I. I didn't say that. Maybe I'm not explaining myself clearly. I gave the examples in number 1 assuming that the chick is already assumed to be a "whore", not necessarily because she had sex. I'm saying, if the chick who is assumed to be a whore slept with a lot of dudes, then chances are the dude slept with her AND any other chick that is assumed to be a whore that he knows as well. I mean, how else is he racking the numbers? He's sleeping with at least SOME "looser" chicks, right? The point I'm trying to make is that if you answer is "No, he's not a whore because he has a lot of numbers but she is", then my answer is "horsesh*t" because like I said, in order for her to be classified as a whore to some, she would've had to sleep with a lot of dudes. Each of those dudes probably slept with her AND other looser chicks because it's more acceptable for them to do it. Doesn't mean they're not on some hosh*t, because they have a wee-wee though.
lol @ Cheekie
exactly……
i could write a book solely on the double standards behind the term "man-whore" and then turn around and write another book on the double standards behind the actual behavior…..
but Cheekie, i had put "woman-whore" in my 2nd comment just to even it out…….
Dear Wifey,
I gotta give you a No-sign.
Certain STDs are easier for woman to catch than a man. And they manifest themselves different with the genders…..
Plus y'all can have alot more overall complications in that bloody cave you call a womb. Therefore you have more to lose with who you let bea, not alot more, but more non the less. .
^^This is not an endorsement for men to go raw!!!
But I do encourage all men to go raw…
*waves to CHeeKZ* Hey, honey!
"Certain STDs are easier for woman to catch than a man. "
Yup, I read this. But keyword (no AOL) is "certain". Sure, some are deadlier than others, but an STI/STD is just that. And just as folks are quick to a chick a "whore" because of it, the same should be applied to a dude. Oh, "But, what if they were innocent and caught it from someone else's whoredom", you say? Yep, valid reason. But that reasoning should be applied to BOTH genders, not just men.
I know this is gonna get me "yelled" at … but its the end of the day so maybe I can get away with it.
The reason there is a double standard when it comes to promiscuity is because of the stark difference between how men get it and how women do.
For any man and man-whore (even most bottom feeders) the p***y is earned. He has to say something, do something, or look a certain way. And in most cases he has to do the approaching … he has to go out and get it.
For a female hoe/whore/slore … all she has to do is not say no. Guys will approach her, guys will try and beat … and all she has to do to keep her numbers climbing is simple not say no.
And that is why man-whore and whore are two different beasts.
LOL….
seriously, thats all i can do after reading that SBM…
but i get the point you were trying to make…..
"For any man and man-whore (even most bottom feeders) the p***y is earned."
LOL, I like this distinction and it is a valid distinction. But true whores (in the dictionary sense) work as well. For money. lol So, while the distinction itself is true, I don't think it means that men can't be whores instead of man-whores.
Well for me it is all about quantity and control. The dudes I consider man whores are dudes that are like in triple digits by the age 21. But it is also about control. Which is where I take excpetion with the Type A, B & C stuff. A man whore is man whore. He lacks self control. The only real difference is that some dudes hide their activities very well and while others could care less. This so called "Type A" yall talkin bout does the same shit so called "Type B & C" does. He just hides it better.
We brings me to point number 2. It's funny as hell to me that no female believes she has ever been smashed by a man whore. Or certainly not a so called Type B bottom feeder. Negress please. You thought your so called Type B was a so called Type A. But like I said, they are all the same thing.
Now ladies please understand some of this is cultural. Depends on where you are from and how you are raised. In some sub cultures, you are a gay if you turn down sex.
So a man whore in some sub cultures is just a regular straight dude in others. I'm applying this to street hood culture versus suburban middle class kid culture. Hood culture is more macho. Turning down sex is deemed gay. (P.S. Hard to keep it real in here without cursing but trying to respect the culture of this blog.)
I think the worst type of man whore is homie who will throw others under the bus to get bunz. One of the former fellas used to pillow talk to chicks about each of us in the group saying they shouldn't mess with us but that they should mess with him because he'll treat them better. Put all our business out there to make himself look better. Puurrreee Fooolishness.
Frat reggins are NOTORIOUS for that!
Co-sign
LMAO….
ive had guys do that with me. try to talk mess about the other friend. i went with the other friend instead cuz i dont mess with snitches lol.
Another incident of when keeping it real goes wrong.lol
EXACTLY! While he trying to pour salt on the homie, I'm looking at him like he b*tch-made. I want no parts. Instant turn-off.
LMAOOO wow..
Yo..there is alot of hate going on in this blog. Y'all acting like its cool to have a low number or only sleep with steady gfs.
Where they do that @?!?!!?
At some point and time, a man should have been either one two or three.
I'll flat out say it: If your man doesn't have the macho to sleep around women, YOU DON'T WANT HIM! Let's not overstate the importance of experience.
Damn son … damn
i agree….but why shouldnt that logic also apply to women?
becuz i hear alot of men complain about their girlfriends/fiances/wives not sexing enough or not being super freaky. and they say they want a freak but dont take into account the experience part of that….
I'd love to reply to this with my honest thoughts, but it won't go anywhere.lol.
damn thats a shame, cuz i thought it was a good observation on my part lol….
I was expecting more categories…but maybe they fit into the two broad ones above
1. Man who has the power to f*ck anything. He does simply cos he has everything and he can. It’s alleviates boredom
2. Man who loves to fornicate. He’s love the game. He has standards
3. Man who loves to fornicate. It’s an itch he has to scratch
4. Man who fornicates to prosper. Rich ladies only need be worried of this boy toy.
5. Man who fornicates for self worth. On mission impossible to concur self esteem issues.
6. Ménage à trois Man – he likes to gangbang with his friend in the room…
7. Madonna Man whore – F*cking weirdo
I could go on but I wont…I’ve known all these types of men…mostly as passing friends and luckily not intimate ones…one sees all kinds grwing up when u only have brothers.
Only Number 2 of the above would I class as a player. Been with one of those and the sex was a-ma-zing. Would I want to marry him…only if I wanted to kiss goodbye to my piece of mind. I’m wishing his wife (of two months) the best of luck cos he’s still whoring around now.
oh yeah…number 4 is my definition of a hoe…it applies to guys too
I think #1 is the player type too as long as he has some standards. Given he has the power to smash anything, I assume he can afford to be choosy then.
it's not about standards for number 1. it's about power. that's his game
I'm saying … he's still a player though ain't he, regardless of his motivations.
I don't think he smashes anything walking because he has to beat, he does it because he wants to and is good at getting it. I.e. … a player
i always thought a playa had to use some kinda game to woo women. but in #1 he doesnt need to spit game simply cuz he has power already. i always thought a playa didnt have to use money and such to persuade. dont you call them types simps? think thats what i remember……