The guy with the hat is the bday boy. He has slept with all these women. His friends are true wing men. Clap for them.
“And promoters trying to get me out to they club, And say I have fun but I can’t imagine how, Cause I just see my ex-girl, Standing with my next girl, Standing with the girl that I’m f*ckin right now, And sh*t could get weird unless they all down, And so I stay clear, We from a small town, And everybody talks and everybody listen, And somehow the truth just always comes up missing.” – A. Graham
In continuing my posts about going out and the things that you will see beginning to pick up as the weather picks up, I wanted to talk about a strategy that is commonly used by men in pursuit of high class, loose h*es. This strategy is uber complex and not many men can implement it within their team, less likely as an individual. But when implemented perfectly greatness ensues, ask Bob Knight and Coach K. And so I present to you the Motion Offense.
The motion offense is best defined as a scheme developed to increase the chances of winning by having past, current and prospective partners in one place at the same time. In order to avoid being found out, you must keep them as separate as the fingers on the hand and constantly moving.
The motion offense can usually be found in play at events such as; Birthday parties, New Year’s parties, Cookouts, and just generally whenever trying to win. The goal is to put a bunch of women that don’t mind having relations with you in the same place and see what happens. There has to be some level of naivety in the other team. Simply put, if one of these chicks says, “How do you know Sean?” The night could go left, quick.
With that said, here are some people you don’t want to invite; potential wifeys should never be invited. You don’t mix wifey material women with jumpoffs. It has and always will be BAD for business. (There’s a read between the lines here for some women who want to be treated like wifeys. Maybe you shouldn’t go places where you might be found in company with jumpoffs.) The other type of women you want to leave at home are the salty ones from your past. They will get drunk and cause a scene. Either that or they actually know the offensive scheme very well and will ruin everything.
Here are some winning strategies or best practices:
Pass and screen away – Asking your boy to talk to a chick, while you talk to another chick. Your boy thinks he can win, but you already know he’ll just talk her ear off, and when you return she’ll still be into you.
Back screen – Your friends who are “in the know” set obstacles for chicks trying to get your attention, enabling you to find more open shots for scoring.
Flare screen – Your boy sees that you are trying to get away from one chick to talk to another chick. However, you have one other chick waiting to get your attention. Your boy alerts another friend that he will run interference on the first chick and he is to run interference on the other undesired chick.
So in closing, some of you men are probably upset that I just spilled the beans on this strategy. If you are, I suggest you step your game up. Bob Knight ran this offense for over 40 years and he’s the most winningest coach in the NCAA history. Some of you women may have just had an epiphany. I hope the real epiphany you just had is knowing what the guy who invited you really thinks about you. Ah what’s new? I hope you enjoy happy hour and have a good weekend. I’m sure there are some cookouts or birthday parties popping off in a city near you.
a round of applause is in order. great post. #thatisall
does this strategy also work at fight parties? lol but who knowingly invites a bunch of women he deals with to the same party. now if it happens to turn out that way that's one thing but why set yourself up for failure? unless you're looking for a challenge.
I was thinking the same thing..who would knowingly invite different women to a party..and what women would agree to attend said party? I know for sure I wouldn't…
You know what would be funny..if all the women invited brought dates…LOL.
that would be hilarious. when pimpin goes wrong.
You would agree to attend b/c you didnt know all of this was going on
Exactly, nobody invites you and says, "I'm inviting you and all my closest h*es, I mean friends, to come." They make you feel like you're the only group of females they invited.
I wouldn't go to any event that an ex would invite me too. I don't really socialize with ex's. So, I am pretty sure I wouldn't show up.
@QueenT
Not an ex but like an almost current
I think there are some people who do actually plan for this. They know who they are and they read SBM regularly. They get to work later though.
i'll log back on later to check for those comments. lol
Man, my curiousity is peaked today with all the shots being fired over the interwebs.
Loving the bball analogy……….fresh back in the telly from floor seats at the Nuggets vs Jazz game. Darren Williams is the best PG in the league, PERIOD………I think I'll try running this offense with his precision and effectiveness. Might even no look pass a win for a homey of mine.
Deron* and the Jazz run the pick and roll. Equally as efficient, but predictable.
Isn't it that much better though when the opposing team knows what coming and yet are still powerless to stop it?
"You don’t mix wifey material women with jumpoffs"
I tell my guy friends this all the time and they never listen.
This post gets a standing ovation.
…Men are always trying to run GAME. SMH.
Carry on.
iCoSign #thatisall
Girl, I guess it's in their DNA. And if they have the ultimate offense, WE have the ultimate defense to shut this ish down. It's called: quit giving women you don't know the side-eye and be a little friendly. This whole scheme depends on women not speaking to each other.
Better yet, like you said before – bring a dayum date. My ace just did this a couple weeks ago and it.was.hilarious.
"This whole scheme depends on women not speaking to each other."
but women aren't going to just up and start speaking. it's in women's nature to be catty to each other. that's why you hear ish like "most of my friends are dudes. i just don't get along with other women." smh
That's that young gal shyt. My generation had a Meeting in the Ladies Room, lol.
And please don't get me started on the "I don't mess with fee-males like dat" crew of cluckers. iCan't with them.
When a girl says i don't really have friends that are girls like that……thats a red flag she wont be that hard to invite over
That would be a post and a great topic at For Sister Only, the Full Court Press. Yo I might do that and post it somewhere else, i'll keep y'all in the loop.
Highlights of the Woman's Full Court Press:
1) Women standing in circles at clubs.
2) Women who refuse to uncross their arms, do not allow men to buy them drinks, do not want to be at your table, does not have any friends they wanna bring to the BBQ.
3) Swarming a guy when they are talking to your friend
4) Communication is key. Talk to your teamates, ask your females: "Where you know him from?" "Where he taking you?"
yess. Also known as bringing evil women to the club. I can only tolerate having one of the Charles Barkley Defense team in my circle when I go out. That miserable heffa can go stand in the corner and mean mug all night and my fun girls and I can hit the dance floor.
what happened to just being upfront?
Why do women think being upfront works?
When you're upfront women think you're an arse. Plain and simple
hey being an a**hole works for many guys. and no one can faulty you for being honest. lol
(There’s a read between the lines here for some women who want to be treated like wifeys. Maybe you shouldn’t go places where you might be found in company with jumpoffs.) <—And…there you have it.
This is…wow. WTH?
Is that really entertaining to have a room filled with women you slept with and hoping that even the "nice" one won't get drunk and go slap off and shut it down? Is it the gamble? Who DOES this?
I can't do this right now. LMAO
It seems like I'm always the one setting picks and throwing lobs in these situations. I think I need to find friends that don't have so many jumpoffs.
These are tried and true methods.
Dont forget the back cut in the motion offense. Where your first options are shut down, your teammates have to know when to make the back cut and be ready for the alley oop. Just b/c I cant score doesnt mean the team shouldnt win.
The key to this working is having women who dont tell their business. So just in case members of the opposing team get together their conversation only includes where they know you from and not the nasty thing you do w/ your tongue.
It is also best to have these types of situations at events that you are hosting so that if a woman realizes that you're all over the place you can just say you're being a good host
shakes tambourine… humming…. waving the church fan frantically!!!
THIS!
"The key to this working is having women who dont tell their business"
This is where it always falls down.
But what do you do at the end of the night, when one of them wants to stay until your guests leave?
Then you leave too. Don't go home.
Always beware of the dudes who go Nut.. Never pass the rock.. stay trying to score for themselves. We call this the Allen Iversonism of trying to win. They always want the alley but will def shoot for self on the fast break!
Me? I create my own shot but let the defense come to me and pass out of the double team early and often.
The triangle offense I run is immaculate. lmao
Kudos Doctor!
Im not surprised how many women on here are in denial. We did this all the time when I was an undergrad. Everybody invite the chicks we all smashed already, its like a pot luck of p*ssy. You might not even smash the same chick you may do a swap you may end up going back to the old sh*t. You may just have a good time. But one thing is clear you get alcohol, drinking games, a bit of pizza, dancehall and hoes and it always ends up a slam dunk.
Its a lot less work when you know all the girls are feelin you and you have a selection. That's why men love the house party way more than the club, you don't have to work as hard and everybody knows you there to potentially get it in.
And for the nice woman that said "…Men are always trying to run GAME. SMH." With all due respect, you can't be serious.
This whole process of Men and Women has always been an episode of Tom and Jerry. And who was the one who prevailed? Jerry. Jerry played the game with something we like to call strategy. (Some of these following words are not mine but they apply to the situation.) When you go to the horse track to bet on a horse you don't just bet on the horse that looks nice, you want to know their track record and what they're made of, their history before you put your bet on that one.
When you go to Las Vegas some people go to the slot machines and win $40. Then there's those who know how to count cards and calculate dice probability. They always leave up on cash and winning. This isn't a game, its chess not checkers. Nobody just goes out there and stumbles upon love and s*x and relationships, this isn't the notebook or lifetime, its Man vs Wild, the Crocodile Hunter, The Great Outdoors, Bass Fishing…..all takes skill and tactic. So be weary before I sit back and have a Corona and reel in the biggest catch because i have the best boat, smoothest wrist action on the reel, and the biggest pole.
Carry On….
Concur
Although I abhor games, I'm inclined to agree with you.
The REAL problem is that a lot of men never seem to realize when they've won the damn game. At some point you need to stop playing and start celebrating the win.
I know how to celebrate…
I step back, I put a hand on my hip, I look at what I just did and I raise my hand, you may think i'm saying, "Hang Ten."
But in reality, i'm saying "Damn, i'm cold."
#seewhatididthere
When you're good at what you do its hard to tell somebody they need to retire. When you get a 10 you want another 10 woman. Just like the champion wants to repeat.
Slow down bredren… remember this post on what happens if you don't retire from the game on time.
http://www.singleblackmale.org/2010/02/04/why-he-…
You can either be Kurt Warner or Brett Favre, it's up to you.
I'm still just smh…this is all hilarious..and extremely entertaining. I think I'm in denial…you're right. I'm in denial because I really really wanted to be the only one in control of situations…the only one possible of plotting to this level. Well not THE only one in the whole wide world like I'm the *bestest* …but you get what I'm saying. This is BULLSH*T GERALDO LMAO
All's us men did was allow women to think we were dumb as rocks while we were actually listening… and smartening up.
Yea I'm not saying you should never retire but at the same time its difficult to get somebody to do it. I was just explaining the sociology of the game.
I love this post if only for the Coach K reference…
GO DUKE!
I'm telling you all now, I'm in the hall of fame for my ability to run the motion offense. I'm about to drop a dissertation – just need to finish up some stuff here at the office first.
This post is Epic. I think you outlined the motion offense perfectly. Only thing, it's not just used for finding h_es. It's a good way to meet potential wifeys, chill partners, good friends, jump offs etc. So long as you are discreet in how you go about your business, and so long as all of the ladies there carry themselves as ladies. If you have a reputation for always having h_e filled events, then women who have wife potential won't show up. If you're just looking for h_es, only invite h_es. It's more fun though to invite a myriad of different type of beautiful people.
Personally, I always found it useful to fill an event with women who I am in varying stages of a relationship with. A few who I've dealt with, a few who I haven't, a few who my friends have dealt with (never friends ex's though – gets ugly). You want some party girls, some corporate girls, some artsy folks… etc.
More important than the women you invite though, is the team of dudes you put together. Not all dudes are capable of running the motion offense. And if you always have a bevy of beautiful women at your events, but you also always have a bunch of lame dudes – the women will stop coming. The whole key to the motion offense is this – Pass – Screen Away – Score. Pass – Screen Away – Score.
The Most important position on the floor, when running the motion offense is the point guard. If it's your event, and you're hosting, then you're the point guard. You know everybody there so it's your job to make sure everyone gets introduced to each other, the drinks need to be flowing non-stop, the music needs to be low enough for people to talk without yelling, but loud enough for people to say "ohhh that's my joint". Most importantly, you need to facilitate the offense. This means, put your guys in positions to score. If you invited a chick who's in Law school, and one of your boys is on partner track at a great firm – make sure he gets introduced – that's an easy bucket… what we call a lay-up. And she gets some career advice – win-win.
If you have a great point guard, all the other positions are interchangeable, so long as you have a solid team of friends. You'll need a 2 guard – somebody who can score, and facilitate the offense when the Point Guard is off in the basement getting more charcoal for the grill or whatever. He's usually the life of the party – he's the PG's right hand man so he usually knows most of the people there, he makes sure everyone's drink is always filled and that everyone's having a good time. Streetz is a great 2 guard.
You'll need an a**whole guy (think Charles Oakley type power forward). He's the guy that fouls a lot and takes out the other teams best player (that girl at the party with the snotty attitude). He's the guy that, early on says the off the wall stuff that slightly offends everyone, but also makes everyone weirdly comfortable and gets the conversation going. By the end of the night, everyone is saying "he's so rude, but I like him though". Dr. J actually plays this role pretty well.
You need a small forward. This is like, the second most important position on the floor. The small forward has to score, and facilitate – think Lebron James. He's the guy that can create his own shot – which, in this case means, entertain 5 or 6 ladies all at once if the male/female ratio is too lopsided, he's the guy that says TheMostInteresting and thought provoking things when the conversation turns deep. He's the guy that makes the joke that breaks an awkward silence in a group of guys and group of girls. He transitions new bench players into the game by introducing them to the ladies he's just met. (he then leaves that group for another group once the bench players are warmed up). This is the perfect role for TheMostInterestingManintheWorld, if I'm not hosting and running the point. And I'm much more of a facilitator at this point – since i'm retired and all Lastly, you need a center. In a motion offense, the center doesn't score much, the center sets picks and back screens for the other players so that they can score. This is where it's great to have a female best friend (and a couple backups in case she meets a guy there and gets taken out the game). Because she's female, and she loves you, and probably loves your friends, she'll be the one setting the back screens that get you easy buckets. This means, when a group of girls says "oh he's cute", she's passing that information along to the right players. When the Power Forward says something off the wall, and one of the ladies makes the "I can't believe he just said that face", she's the one that says, "no, but, if you get to know him, he's really nice, he just comes off harsh." She's the one that speaks proudly about the career achievements you're too humble to boast about (but happy to soak up the attention for)… etc. etc. etc, these are all back screens that lead to baskets. A lot of dudes don't take advantage of incorporating female friends into the motion offense. For me, it's integral.
If everyone plays fair, everyone plays unselfish, there are usually more than enough women for everyone to score. I don't mean score as in just find a new s_x partner, but, I mean score as in, meet new people have fun, and expand all of our circles. With that – usually comes the increased s_x for everybody. Everyone leaves happy and asking when your next event is. In this game, the only losers are the people who don't make new friends.
Stay Thirsty My Friends…
I would like to ammend this statement:
"..slightly offends.."
I motion we remove the word, "slightly".
So, is this blog practice for when y'all do this in real life or something?
I'm an expert at this already – I already put in my 10,000 hours so no practice necessary. Plus, I'm retired from the game – my job now is to play the point guard and school these youngins on how consistency during the regular season (the dating years) leads to a Championship Rings (wedding bands).
you know what? i endorse this comment.
I nominate this comment early for our SBM awards…
Slim you mad I lowkey advocated bitin off 3ways steez? lol
"…potential wifeys should never be invited."
Oohh, I get it now. This is why I'm not being invited to the cookouts. Makes perfect sense. Thanks Dr. J.
^ this lady lol im mad she proclaims herself wifey material….that's not for you to decide but i admire your brash attitude. However that attitude may get you curved from the BBQ cuz it rains on everybody elses good time. Humility is so sexy.
Umm, if a woman can't decide for herself what kind of quality she has, how can she expect someone else to decide for her? It's true that if you want to be a "good girl" you know that you will be excluded from certain activities. You can decide what she is to you – but if it don't line up with how she thinks of herself it ain't gone work.
She can decide it for herself but she can also keep it to herself. "Humility is so sexy." What's not so sexy? tooting your own horn. PLUS actions speak louder than words
I though that the real win was: being able to put these "hoes" in one place and end up sleeping with them at the same time. No? Ok.
Considering that the goal is to put these "hoes" in one place and trick or decieve them until one falls for the bait. And you gotta get them some alcohol, enlist the help of friends, provide music, food and entertainment for them.
Sounds like an awful lot of work. Or like little games for little people.
Some men are very funny – busy calling women jumpoffs and planning silly games and don't realize that women are the masters of this shyt. Sittin' at a party running passes and don't know that at least 2 of the women know each other, know about you and are happily eatin' and drinkin' on your tab before they give their numbers to someone else.
If we're talking about deceit and manipulation: who do you REALLY think has this "game" on lock? This is like the YMCA's county high scorer talkin' smack to Michael Jordan.
You are right. Women are the only people that can be grandmasters of this game. Men can only be good. However, there are always alot more ppl who are good at something than the amount of ppl who are grandmasters
You have a point but maybe you're missing the gist of all this. If you think men only have a good time with BBQ and alcohol to get ass from you then you're a misguided soul. If I'm taking you out on a date, buying you things, buying myself things to get you or using other things of monetary value to sleep with you then yes then you can call me a trick.
But to be honest on friday night me and my friends get drunk and have fun with or without you. If i invite you to come its for your company and sometimes sex, its my house, my tv, my food and my liquor i just offered you some haha don't drink straight from the Exxon pump. You really think i got all my own stuff and you're manipulating me because i had extra? You must be bugging, ya'll bloodsucking vampire women can't be let in unless you're invited.
Women are attracted to dudes because of the life they live, its not work when this is your real life. Only a fool would say that dudes "enlist" friends to come over have drinks and have a good time with women who are feelin me and all of our swag already. If its hard work for you to have people come over to your place i would just say one thing to you "you mad?" haha but i hope this didn't come off condescending i do know that a lot of dudes are tricks. No shots at you in particular.
I sorta agree and disagree with you Anna.
I kinda agree and disagree with you anna. As I said above, this is why I don't really rock with the whole only invite "h_es" thing. H_es were cool in college, but if you're a grown man, and you're working extra hard to win with h_es, you're kinda lame.
I'm all about creating the proper environment for beautiful people to enjoy each other's company. Finding people to have s_x with is easy. Meeting like minded and like achieving people in an environment where you can cut loose and be yourself is not. Winning, for me – as I said above, is not baggin chicks to sleep with. Real dudes can go pull something out of Mansion (before it closed) every friday night. No – true success is exapanding your personal circle of beautiful people. That's the goal.
^^^^^ dude right here is dropping knowledge right now.
"Some men are very funny – busy calling women jumpoffs and planning silly games and don’t realize that women are the masters of this shyt. Sittin’ at a party running passes and don’t know that at least 2 of the women know each other, know about you and are happily eatin’ and drinkin’ on your tab before they give their numbers to someone else. "
Women are the masters, no doubt about it (at least some are), but remember most of the time we’re playing separate games. Women are the gatekeepers to what we want ($ex), all we need to do is jimmy open the gate. We really don’t care what your reasoning was for letting us in. A man that knows how to get in a woman’s draws could care less about what mind games and manipulation a woman is planning.
Besides, if a man is simply reacting to what a woman does, he is already behind the game.
Anna I have to disagree with you 100%, us men have been letting you women get away with thinking that if a woman wants to be a pimp she can do it better there is just nothing to support this claim.
Never in the history of the peen/poon civil war has that been true. You may win the battle, but you cannot win the war. The fact of the matter is that most SBF end up with the baby, the illness, and no ring. Men on the other hand, we keep it pushing round here.
A woman that thinks she's liberated? That's just an old used car lot. A woman that wants a good man? Us men know that if you want a man, we'll smash and two weeks later you'll still want a man after we left. A woman that thinks she can smash the homies and keep it on the low? LISTEN HERE WOMEN, we know, we just don't let you know we know.
me: Yeah, Morris, that's my man 100 grand.
her: me and Morris used to mess, are y'all close?
me: Morris?! Oh nah, I thought you said Maurice. I don't know not one Morris.
Men invented the game. Take a look at anthropology we've even let you get away with empowerment through employment. Thinking that a prostitute or concubine was an occupation. No you just another horse in the stable.
We revolutionized that game. Let her think she's in control, with her name on the assets. No, this way when we leave, we still got good credit.
We futuristic-fied the game. Let her think she's independent. Maybe I ain't gotta pay for all this ish anymore and I can get the white Louie boat shoes.
Come here let me coach you.
This hurt my feelings. Not that I don't 100% agree but ouch!
cold game.
I go away for lunch and this is the best you can come up with? Chile please. Check your history of men who have fallen because of women and get back to me. Start with Adam.
Our skills were honed in the finest craftshop ever – centuries of not legally being able to own shyt, do shyt or say shyt. Sorry, but that's like some white dude telling Harriet Tubman that he does a better rendition of "Swing Low Sweet Chariot" because he just completed the Negro Spiritual course at his music school.
Now, the universal truth that I've learned is: When you try to play people, you ALWAYS play yourself. Always. Even if your tricks "work". And this little messy man-screen sounds like trickery to me. Fun? yes. Works sometimes? yes. Worth a dayum? Umm, not really.
And please miss me with the Plight of the Single Black Woman. Black women are more than ringless fingers, single motherhood and std's.
"And please miss me with the Plight of the Single Black Woman. Black women are more than ringless fingers, single motherhood and std’s."
It's so nice to know that as a whole, that's how we're thought of though. Plus, if I were a black man, I wouldn't go around repeating this nonsense because it sure doesn't shine a pretty light on black men as a whole. Babies don't get made by themselves and STD's don't really come from toilet seats (despite 2-3 people I know who actually believe this nonsense).
Per usual your reply has nothing to do with my point. Had you have been a real O.G. you would have poured out a little liquor and realized that I just dropped some serious information that sometimes in life… women have to stop arguing and chew their food.
Furthermore, "The fact of the matter is that most SBF end up with the baby, the illness, and no ring."
This quote is factually true. Maybe not all of you, but the majority of you are single mothers, the majority of you are not married, and although I won't venture out to say the majority of you have some type of illness even they are saying that 75% of women will have HPV at some point in their life… What I said was true.
@Sane85 – But do not get it twisted, i'm not trying to reduce Black women to three small stats, because that's not all I think of them.
However, like I said before, you find a woman, i.e., @maxfab, who can hear something and recognize it's actually true and chew it and that's when a man sees something attractive.
I don't think anyone wants to be pigeon-holed by statistics and stereotypes. Cuz the stats and types for Black men make the stats and types for black women look positively rosy. Trust me, you do not want to go down that road. Black men – as a demographic – are not the hotness. That's why Mr. College Educated and Moderately Successful thinks he can pull any woman (and usually can) – you're whole TEAM is so messed up that JJ Stokes is your MVP (#seewhatijustdid).
And it's always some bamma slingin' puppy chow who wants women to "chew their food". Miss me with that. I'll gladly chew the food that a MAN presents to me. A man who doesn't call women out of their names willy-nilly. A man who isn't too busy "schemin' on hoes" to notice a quality woman walking right past him. And despite the dreary stats and weekly rants about our "plight" – I managed to find a (good, quality, cute mutha effin') man.
If I had never read this site or any of your comments, I would have thought that was what you were doing. However, I know that is not all you think of black women. This only stuck out with me because I know there are probably a way too large number of men who do only think of black women in this context and it makes me sad. The sadder thing is that I fall into the (now) unmarried category and MOST of the women I know would fall into at least one of them.
I didn't even touch the rest of the post, because I really just didn't have anything to refute it. I would have just reposted Max's response, because it was a knife to the chest.
Wait, I'm only 25 and already been divorced, so I'm not too concerned with falling into that category at the moment. See, I almost got to feeling bad over something based on what society thinks I should be doing without taking my individual situation into account. *This is why I hate general statistics, they don't mean ish*
And that is the swindle: Take a bunch of women who really are doing pretty well for themselves, convince them that something is fundamentally wrong about them, toss in a few hit-or-miss stats and BAM! You've opened her up to the idea of getting with any ole frontin', flamin', busted, bamma-azz ninja. Pay for dates. Open my door. Buy me a plane ticket. Get your Becky game together, but make me believe this is the first wang you ever saw. I know you're making 6 figures – but if you can't make coconut cake from scratch like my mama get to the back of the line.
Guurrrrl – I was a little older than you when (ironically) a man whose opinion I trusted just told me straight out: Ain't nothin' wrong with you. But there's a lot of bammas out here on some little boy bullshyt. Let 'em go and move on.
*sends e-Hugs to Sane :0)
Anna N: "And that is the swindle: Take a bunch of women who really are doing pretty well for themselves, convince them that something is fundamentally wrong about them, toss in a few hit-or-miss stats and BAM! You’ve opened her up to the idea of getting with any ole frontin’, flamin’, busted, bamma-azz ninja. Pay for dates. Open my door. Buy me a plane ticket. Get your Becky game together, but make me believe this is the first wang you ever saw. I know you’re making 6 figures – but if you can’t make coconut cake from scratch like my mama get to the back of the line."
The only difference is you don't have stories/articles/books/talk show segments/plays/movies about well-to-do, successful, career-oriented men having trouble finding a spouse. It's an unfortunate cross successful women have to bear, but you do everyone a disservice to pretend like the problem doesn't exist.
@ Hugh Jazz
cue Public Enemy's "Don't Believe the Hype"
HeadMistress: "cue Public Enemy’s “Don’t Believe the Hype”"
If it's hype, then women started it. I don't read about successful black women not being able to find a man in Maxim or Black Men magazines, haven't seen it on any football or basketball game, and haven't seen it playing Call of Duty 2.
It's women who are complaining women can't find a spouse. Tell your sisters don't believe the hype.
@ Hugh Jazz
stories/articles/books/talk show segments/plays/movies
Those are all media outlets which just amount to media HYPE, are there some women out there like that, of course, I guess, I don't know any personally…but it's not as big a problem as the media and the gullable make it out to be. They found a few thirsty broads to tell their story and now it's the hot topic of the moment.
This too shall pass…
" Those are all media outlets which just amount to media HYPE, are there some women out there like that, of course, I guess, I don’t know any personally…but it’s not as big a problem as the media and the gullable make it out to be. They found a few thirsty broads to tell their story and now it’s the hot topic of the moment.
This too shall pass…"
Hopefully it does pass, because it is an unfortunate occurence, but just because you don't know anyone in that predicament doesn't mean the issue doesn't exist. But since this is off-topic, I'll leave it at that.
Ok, this confuses me…maybe I'm erroneously reading "accomplishment" into this statement
"The fact of the matter is that most SBF end up with the baby, the illness, and no ring. Men on the other hand, we keep it pushing round here."
This being the case don't you (not you-you but general you) have the same baby (even if you don't take care of it) and the same illness? The fact that you didn't put a ring on it just means you pissed in your own pool and invited your friends over to swim, no?
Do women really not know that this goes on?
When I was in my younger days and still thought the game was fun I went to events 1) trying to get "chose" by a specific dude; 2) knowing there'd be competition for said dude's um… affections; and 3) prepared with my own strategy to come out with a "win"…
Since Dr. J share some best practices I'll spill some trade secrets of my own:
Spot the competition… the REAL competition – You don't need to talk to anyone to figure out who all the players are in this game. Just pay attention. You can ignore the chicks that are in dude's face all night… they're too eager and too obvious so dude is not gonna take them home unless he runs out of options. Keep an eye out for a few other players: 1) The hawk – she's off in a corner, alone or maybe with a group of scouts following dude's every move. She's not gonna be a contender for obvious reasons but she'll try all night to block your play if she can. 2) The shiner - this is the chick who's over doing it… she be the one who runs up to give dude the biggest hug and has on the least clothes. She can easily be neutralized by using the Motion Offense to your advantage. Push her in the direction of any of dude's friends and they'll be more than willing to talk to
her cleavageall night. She'll attract too much outside attention and will be out of the running.Have your own fun – Nothing is sexier than a woman who's having a good time. Bring one or two friends along. They'll provide good company so you don't get bored and turn into a hawk. You don't need a large entourage but if you're gonna bring just one friend make sure she has a way home so you don't miss out cause you're her ride and also make sure she knows you have a mission so if you need to make an early exit she doesn't block out of fear of being left at the event alone.
You can go over and engage your target when you arrive. Say hi to his friends but don't linger– make sure he knows you're here for him not the the crew (or the bottle service), then go enjoy your night. Remember the grass is always greener on the other side, so you don't have to be in his face. Separating yourself from the group will actually make you a more tempting choice.
Don't hate the player, hate the game – If you get out maneuvered, if he gets too drunk and doesn't follow through, if you just flat out fail… don't be a sore loser. Don't go Monday morning quarterbacking and calling dude upset or flip out. You win some, you loose some. Phone a friend, review the tape, up your game and live to play another day.
#thatsall
… go play nice ;o)
I fully endorse the above.
braps!
that's all I can say to this.
D@mn, you're good. I especially cosign this:
"Nothing is sexier than a woman who’s having a good time. Bring one or two friends along."
"2) The shiner – this is the chick who’s over doing it… "
no one likes this woman. smh
..I wanna hang with you Ms. Cherry!
Ms. Cherry is actually a very cool person to hang out with.
In other news, Cherry, I searched your blog for an email address. We might need some graphics work at SBM, hit me with an email, or email the SBM main email, so we can get your contact info. Thanks!
Thank you for the endorsement sir! Tried to DM you my info on Twitter but apparently you're not following me (WACK!!! lol) so I'll just send ya'll an email.
Ms Cherry I think I e-Love you! lol
awww… you guys are gonna make me e-blush
"Ms.Cherry says: Do women really not know that this goes on?"
I REALLY didn't know…or perhaps it didn't cross my mind whether or not the men were plotting…and more than likely that's because I was too busy being a predator my damn self.
What Seven wants…Seven gets
This is all still hilarious to me…
See… this is why Seven is one of my favorite posters on here… She has no time to be concerned with our trivial persuits and she has no time to be anyone's prey. Instead, she preys on the predators…
lol…that did sound really awful didn't it? Predator *wince*
*mmuuuaaaahhh* still love ya
Greetings everyone! I enjoy the site! I will be commenting more in the future….
Wow, this post is making it Cold in here!! Maybe it's just me, but I think the motion offense is perfectly ran by a specific group of men…
College Days Swiftly Pass….
Kudos to the Post Dr. J…The motion offense is very risky, but the rewards are GREAT! You kinda gotta pick your poison..9 times out of 10 if you dont meet someone at an event, soon as you leave, you texting someone to hook up…with so why not have all of your options at the same spot? It cuts down on Overhead…(no pun intended) LOL!
Welcome! We (again, I'm just going to speak for everyone here) look forward to your comments.
*remembers agenda* Also, feel free to get a picture up so we can see who's commenting.
Hey, this welcome committee could help further my agenda. Get 'em at the door.
Would you like your new title to be Ambassador of Goodwill for the UWC?
I'm kind of digging it, I've always wanted to be an Ambassador of something. I'd love it even more if it came with a salary, but we can discuss that after a probationary period.
We would be remissed if we didn't keep it real, Sane85, is our pretty girl at the door aka our hostess. Without the pretty girl at the door with the list, just about anybody would be lurking around these threads. We love her.
Clap for her.
*e-blushing over here with Ms. Cherry*
I see what you did there. Flattery will definitely make me forget about the salary thing. For now…
Dr. J – only you would try to big up my girl Sane by demoting her from Ambassador to Hostess and sweeten it by calling her pretty. She is more than a door holder and welcome wagon. She sprinkles good will wherever she goes.
Her title stands. And don't forget her salary
Dang, and I let it ride too. Although, I wasn't planning on giving up the title, just taking the love.
You're good, Dr. J. I can't deny that.
"College Days Swiftly Pass"… hmmm….. who seen't you? You know my Aunt Annie?
Auntie Singleton?? I love that woman…
We should meet at 421 N. Albany St. for some ladyfingers one day!
Ok, how do I put a photo up? I need instructions…LOL
Just go to Gravatar.com. It's okay, a lot of us have needed instructions on how to get the pic up.
Excellent post, wonderful comments (ahem) except @ MadScientist: "but women aren’t going to just up and start speaking. it’s in women’s nature to be catty to each other." Seriously? You think it’s in our NATURE to be catty? Cattiness comes from insecurity and jealously, it is not in our nature. There is nothing stronger than the sisterhood, IMHO.
Welcome?!?
It's the whole chicken or egg thing, I guess. A lot of these insecurities and jealousies come from other women being catty.
I'm with you, I don't think it's in our nature, it does become an acquired personality trait for most though.
Spoken like a Laker GREAT!!! Hilarious and true all in one fell swoop!
Auntie Singleton?? I love that woman…
We should meet at 421 N. Albany St. for some ladyfingers one day!
Ok, how do I put a photo up? I need instructions…LOL
CCJKMOT
Thanks for the welcome my dear (I feel as if I've been here before!) *grin*
See, I knew I'd welcome someone who had already been here before. You know what would solve this problem? Pictures.
When are you going to start your own VH1 Reality Show, "For The Hate of Dr. J"?
You guys are kind of giving me a mommy/daddy vibe today. I even feel a little caught in the middle. LOL
Sheeeeit – as soon as I can get some funding! Don't worry though, I make sure all my stars get paid.
Just throwing my two extra cents into the mix. Men, when you get your "boys" to talk to us as a way to distract us while you're chatting it up with "your homegirl", that still doesn't mean we don't see (or hear) the sexual tension between you too. We see it, and we get it. We're not dumb. So you can run all these plays but really it's nothing we haven't seen before. Depending on how much the girl likes you (or wants it just as bad as you) you still might score that night. Just depends on how the dice rolls.
When a woman sees that there's other chicks trying to get at him too and she SLAPS the hardcourt and says, DEFENSE… it really turns us on. We love to see competitive women.
See, and y'all wonder why women get so catty.
HA! But competitiveness is too often be translated as "pressed". Don't get me wrong, I'll fight for what I want but I won't lose my dignity over it. Where do guys draw the line between girls that are TOO competitive (possibly even a little possessive) and those who don't do shit and just sit on the sidelines?
Competitive is definitely attractive…However, you gotta watch out for the man to man trap that is disguised as a ZONE..definitely gotta watch out for the setups!! LOL
Just read this post…
Wow. That whole scene is like a nuke ready to blow.
Let me get to a monastery, post-haste.
lmao at all the posts…
Welcome! That's all I have at this hour, I'll try to give you a perkier welcome in the morning.
this game is going to be excellent
I found a collection of awesome Halo Reach videos, http://www.complex.com/blogs/2010/09/20/matchmaki…
I only wish that were true.
i know i'm late but listen ladies…don't be pressed. just don't be a h_e. when you're not a h_e, you can sit back, have a good laugh at this (because come on…you know its funny!), and know that this has never and will not happen to you lol. you know you're a quality woman? live like one. men recognize quality. they're not tryna run "game" on YOU and if they are….they're not the kinda guy who is worth your time anyway because he's an idiot if he can't see you're a good woman. i don't have to "hate the player" cause he ain't playin me