The Other Person pt. 1
Depending on where you went to high school, college or where you currently live, you probably tend to see the same people of your ilk very often. This logic would lend itself to the theory that you may have dated or slept with someone that has also dated/slept with someone else you know. Like “they” say, it’s a small world. Personally I attended a PWU (Primarily White University) that claimed to be diverse in their literature, but once I got there, all the blacks kids kept to themselves for the most part, so there was definitely a lot of cross-pollination going on and as an aspiring cocksman, I was a rather busy bee, as most college kids are. At no point as during my delivery of the wang did it cross my mind that one day some poor sap fine gentleman would make this his future ex-wife lady.
In this day and age, a man’s worst nightmare is giving a ring to his bride, only to find out that she was her campus’ favorite past time. Or worse, finding out that she did that trick with her tongue to one of your friends. I’ve never been a woman, but I can imagine no woman wants to find out that her current boo was voted King Ding-a-Ling of the city 3 years in a row. The propensity for this increases when you are swimming in the same dating pool or running in overlapping social circles with your other single friends. I often hear the sentiment from some men that their ideal wifey material should be someone with a “low number” or better yet, a virgin. But let’s be real, virgins are about as common as unicorns and dragons, and no matter how low a woman thinks her number is, most men cringe at the thought of more than 2 other men touring his current girl’s pleasure palace. So imagine the panic when they find out that one of the two is his man-a-hundred grand.
I’m still trying to figure out the reason for this type of panic. I understand where the sentiment comes from, but still, you can’t really hold someone liable for their actions of the past. (Statute of limitations, anyone?) Some people worry that their current boo will bump into their old flame and keep bumping. Some people just can’t handle the thought of “sharing” a common partner, especially if that old flame had a “reputation” (i.e. King Ding-a-Ling of [insert city here]). All in all, no one wants to be a sucker. You don’t want to be standing off to the side by yourself at the 10 year school reunion while your boo catches up with their old starting lineup. Nor do you want the discomfort of hearing a coworker at your water cooler reliving their exploits with your new fiance.
Of course, these scenarios seemed far fetched, but the mind is the devil’s playground and believe it or not, people think this way. Which is fine, and if the fact that you know someone or are cool with someone that used to date/sleep with your current boo and that doesnt make you feel comfortable, run for the hills. That fact will never change, and your mind will probably never be at ease, especially if you see that old flame a lot. But before you pack up your ish and dip, just breathe for a second. If you really like this person and the relationship is worth it to you, their past really should not matter (unless it was completely egregious). If it makes you feel better, definitely talk to your partner and let them know what you feel, because rumor has it, communication makes things better. If you really have a brass set on you, just go talk to the old flame. And most importantly, think about your past. If you were a busy bee yourself, you really shouldn’t be throwing stones. Like I said earlier, it’s a small world, these things are bound to happen. And besides…she had to practice that trick with her tongue somewhere.
Personally, I think the past is the past and that’s where it needs to stay. But what’s good people? How do you feel about pollinating someone else’s flower? And what do you do if you find out someone you know used to suckle your nectar pot? Do tell.
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The past is the past.Unless they’re still participating in hoenastics while in your current relationship, let it go.
I agree…but u still need to be “properly vetted”. immunity is given…but lets get everything on the table.
It’s true. If you’ve been blessed to reach the age of 30 and beyond then you really have no business throwing stones. Period. And if you happen to be a unicorn, then to avoid the mind battle, you will need to find another unicorn……… It really is a mind thing. One should examine him/herself before judging the significant other after discovering details from their past. Your past is just that. And I am certain everyone would like to keep their past in the past. If you cant move forward because of someone’s past, then you definitely shouldnt be dabbling with relationships as there is a chance you couldn’t handle the truth about being human.
I went to an HBCU and, though black folks were abundant, black men were not . . . so there was a lot of cross pollination lol. It didn’t help that my core group of homegirls numbered in the double digits. That’s not even counting the other circles I ran in. Between all of them, they covered a lot of ground. And because I started college in a relationship, I lost first dibs on many a guy. Personally, I’m not that comfortable dating guys that have dated or slept with my friends. Thankfully, I haven’t really fallen any of them (probably b/c I know too much about them and their past interactions with my friends). Depending on how close the friend is, how serious they used to be, and how long it’s been, I might have to pass on him. This would definitely have to be a case by case situation.
I’d like to say “the past is the past” but that wouldn’t be honest. I do care if my new boothang was the King Ding-a-Ling of his city. I’m from that far off land of unicorns and dragons (which made me LOL by the way) so if he’s used to slangin wang all over town, he’s probably not trying to be cooped up with me when the booty isn’t promised. But, this is only a big deal in those extreme circumstances where the guy is known for ho-lacious behavior. I don’t have problem with men who are more experienced than I am. It’s just a reality of life that I’ve accepted. I have yet to meet a guy that’s a virgin (or atleast one that admitted it).
Co-sign!
That really is all I have to add.
This is why I married a unicorn.
#ThatIsAll
Well good for you.
Woop! Woop! for the unicorns! lol
Lol @ ho-lacious behavior & hoenastics. I can’t wait to see what else ya’ll come up with.
Let’s see… I went to a PWU as well, cross-pollination ain’t the WORD for what was going on up in that thang. Add to it the fact that my college was only 3000 persons deep and you got the makings of the Hoe-Lympics. Thankfully, I never dated anyone at my college until my senior year and he was
fresh meati meana unicorni meant a freshman. So, that took care of that. However, I am acquiantances w/ the girl he dates now. Lol. I was first so I don’t care but I wonder how she feels when he sees me & hugs me 1 second too long. #YeezyshrugPersonally, I’d like to consider myself a unicorn w/ a shortened horn. My numbers = low. I laugh at myself sometimes. I really don’t think the future hubbs and I will have an issue w/ that. My girlfriends and I also are very different… i’m talking my core group as 2 latinas, 2 africans & me. Lol. Not to mention personality differences so I don’t think we’ll be *knockin da boots* with anyone in the same social circle.
Now, as far as him being King Ding-a-Ling:
1. I’d have to say that you may be wrong about women not wanting to be w/ the KANG. Lol. I’ve seen women clamour to be w/ that type of dude.
2.Hmm… would I date King Ding-a-Ling of the DMV? Prolly not. Would I know? Prolly not. Unless he was upfront about it… and then I might not even believe him. Lol.
3. With my shortened unicorn horn and all, if he were King D.A.L. I might be self-concious that he’s gotten ‘it’ so many places how can I ever be the best or highly memorable to him?
as a man I always think (in regards to dating women) that there will always be a man with a bigger d**k, a deeper pocket, have hit my girlfriend/wifey off better than I have, etc…and that realization takes me out of the equation of worrying about being her best. caveat: I stay in the gym, I try and knock it out the park everytime we go at it, I try and be fair minded and rational. I call it the “no compete clause”. if you live that way, I think in theory…you’ll never truly be happy, because youll always be comparing yourself to “the ghosts of relationships past”. I know a woman that gives head pretty much better than any woman I’ll ever know…but being that im worried about so many other things in a relationship than just how good her head game is…past flings head game isnt so much a big deal. love is love, taxes, friendship, compatability, compromise and IRA’s and mortgage payments. hopefully you fall in love with someone that is a bedroom bully as well. we hope.
You make a very good point. I agree with it, and generally try to put it into place in my normal relationships. However, if I know I currently dating Southern MD’s King D.A.L… it makes it that much harder I guess. Not that it couldn’t be done/overlooked, because obviously he’s had so much that if he’s willling to be w/ me I must not be half bad, it’s just a mind thing. Especially b/c females can be so smug. If they’ve ‘had’ your man before, some of them will make it a point to get back at him just to prove they ‘can’ do it again. He may not let them… it’s just principle.
I mean I once considered dating a dude who got his body count into the 80s while in the Navy and lost count. I wasn’t worried about that… at really.
but u know how that goes…”never let em see you sweat”. the world is full of trifling ass men and women…at the end of the day, all you can do is be you, and hope that its enough. if a woman is tryin to get at ya man, in theory I think SHE thinks your man is a slave to his d**k… but being concerned about someone’s past exploits just makes you human…cause thats what we are. if you are totally void of that type of thing…then u must be a robot…so kudos to you for being honest about how you feel about a thing. but youre right, its all in your mind…you gotta focus on the reality of the thing. a+b does not always equal C…you know?
*shakes your hand* Amen. Church Tabernacle.
oh… and Synagogue.
As long as I’m not dating a Morehouse cat, or any man who spent time in Atlanta, and thus time with Spelman(because we are pretty effing awesome), then I’m ok. LOL. This is why I wouldn’t live in Atlanta. Too much cross pollination.
Im moving to Atlanta in about 6 months. is it really that bad? Atlanta Metro is a huge cluster of cities…surely everyone isnt connected a la “6 degrees of seperation” per se…please tell me the truth…but dont crush my dreams! Im tryin to get into Emory…lol
I haven’t lived in Atlanta since 2004, but plenty of my friends and a few ex SO/FWB/JO still live there. And friends of exes still live there. And LBs, cousins, uncles, etc. lol.
Atlanta is a lovely city, and depending on the circles you run in, it can be a great city. And Emory is lovely. You’ll be fine.
the same “issue” plauges enviornments like the military just as well. Im in the Navy (active duty) and theres nothing worse than a new guy coming to the ship and falling in love with one of the women that we’ve known to be nothing more than a pit stop for interested men, and in some cases, women. we assume he’s heard the “rumors”, we assume he knows of her conquests, but ultimately we know its none of our bizness. same for when as a woman youre dating a guy thats “dated” 40 of the women on your ship. its a pill you have to swallow I suppose. Id rather be hurt by truth than fooled by lies, so Im the kinda guy that wants to know “what hes getting into” with the woman Im involved with. the older we get, the more women or men we know, the more tricks we know, the more we are aware of the “had to learn it somewhere” motto. you just have to be confident in who you are, and what you two have together. unless you were born in a cave, or from that island in LOST…noone should assume your numbers are low, or that you learned that trick by reading “d**k sucking for dummies”. and as I told a friend who was dating a woman that we all knew had high numbers, as he was concerned with his reputation, as well as hers…I pointed him to the movie “Chasing Amy”, and my favorite quote: “Once you find a good woman, never question how she got there”.
BUT ME PERSONALLY…KARRINE “SUPERHEAD” STEFFANS might be a good woman, but Im cool with staying away from her…your girl/my girl might be local, but SH is WORLDWIDE.
True Dat!!!
I’m Ex- Air Force.
I remember our base having a break out “Uh Da Crabs”!!!
1 Chick & Too Many Guys To Even Count…. led to hundreds needing “MEDICAL ATTENTION”!!
That’s why I never dated military…
…GOOD POINT!!!!
thats just disgusting. damn. but real talk, I’ll never…im 99 percent sure, that I’d never date a woman in the military. if you gettin deployed to ANYWHERE…ive done deployments myself, so I know whats goin down…so Im cool. 6 months away from your spouse/wifey will have bad results for just about anyone. its an accepted fact of life amongst us…I dont see how cats do it, but hey, to each his own.
#Cosign
YOU AIN’T NEVA LIED!! Ex Army Reservist right here and we lived by the code
“What happens in (insert country/state/county/city, etc.) Stays in________.” *lowersheadjustatidbit*
Reason #634 why I need to move. I live in a “navy town” and I have no interest in dating navy men, as I just can’t live with the “What happens while deployed doesn’t count”.
d**k sucking for dummies”.
#fatality# — I’m done…..
Uhm? Lemme think???
Since the average person would never be impolite and talk about their past partners; The question is “Who told me about my boo & what she did on campus years ago??”
Answer: Someone making Hater-Aid, someone sowing seeds of jealousy or someone bragging!
My Position:
The past is the past, but if it’s at a point where it’s serious… Make a DD (Doctor Date -Same Doctor, Same Time, Show Each Other The Results B4 Leaving)!!!
NOTHING GETS RID OF THE PAST LIKE TWO (2) NEGATIVE HIV/STD TESTS!!!
Who someone was with in the past, has no bearing “unless” they present a “health risk NOW” lol lol
Ain’t no virgins out here!!
BaLee That!!!
Get tested & “Let It Go!!”
you sure about that? if me and a woman are serious, and we talkin about the long haul as far as being together…im more than willing to show her my HIV test results, my credit score, how much debt Im in, and if she wants to know how much Ive touched…espically since Im in the Navy…I’ll tell her. you mitigate that by the person you are today. but I dont mind putting myself on the table with a woman, because I want her to make the best educated decision about me/US. if my girlfriend was the campus lush/jump-off/ and that was her “past”…the word “past” is relative…I wanna know what Im getting into. last thing I wanna do is be somewhere wondering “why they all being so nice to you, baby”?..lol
“Ain’t no virgins out here!!”
Do people really believe that?
I really think they do… while I’m only a half breed unicorn, my best friend is full blooded. Lol.
I wanna know your past because I hate the idea of skeletons. we done all done some things that were of questionable chracter. But I look at it as a progression of sorts. Ive been in the Navy for 11 years now…the day Im properly “vetted” by my SO (should that day come) Im a have to say “look…CAVEAT..it was the navy, I was in Austrailia/Thailand/Puerto Rico/Cuba, the game is the game”. Id rather you know of my worst than not know. cause my past doesnt bother me. your past wont bother me. but dont let me find out 10 years later that you was doin bust downs during college. its not the truth that hurts as much as lies and misconception do.
@ Jav
“The past is the past, but if it’s at a point where it’s serious… Make a DD (Doctor Date -Same Doctor, Same Time, Show Each Other The Results B4 Leaving)!!!”
This.is.funny.
And btw, there are still virgins out there and I can tell you exactly how they remained that way.
i say i don’t care but i’ve never been truly tested. I might have wanted to spend a bit more time with a guy I knew was a mega-jumpoff on campus but everyone I’ve seriously dated is either from another state or another country.
I’m beginning to realize though that everybody who is black knows everybody else somehow and errrrm YIKES.
Yea, we definitely did learn this last weekend.
I’ve seriously dated is either from another state or another country.
^^^Co-sign on state but not country, lol
You speak the truth.
I have 3 very simple rules regarding women I deal with and their number. They are as follows:
1) I have to be able to take you out (or go to your college reunion) w/o being snickered at. We all know that we point and laugh at the dude that wifes the jump schmeeze. I remember there was one chick who had multiple trains ran on her by multiple groups of men in like a 2 week span. When 2 months later she came talkin about “this is my bf” and he kissed her all in the mouth, I couldnt do anything but laugh.
2)Neither of us could of have sex w/ anyone that would be in the wedding. I know who my groomsmen are goign to be before I know who my wife is. If you’ve had sex w/ any of them you’re out.
3) Five year rule on anyone attending the wedding. So if I would invite them to my wedding, you could not have had sex within the last 5 years.
I motion that these three suggestions become Man Law.
“I move” homey “I move”.
Someone needs to approve the motion…
I have a question about #2. It doesn’t really happen w/ women b/c we talk to our friends a lot about who we are dating/chexing, etc. BUT is there a statute of limitations on #2?
& 5 years is quite a minute for #3.
So FLYY: “BUT is there a statute of limitations on #2?
No. You boink one of my potential groomsmen, you are disqualified from potential wife status.
CHUUCH!
there will be no man that frequents my home that would have had chex w/ my wife. I think its simple, if you wanna date me dont eff my friends
Lmao. I get that guys… I really do. I guess I was just tryna make a case for the girl that ‘boinks’ your friend before she knows you.
Not havin it huh?
I co-sign all these, and I’m a woman
.
I can support this. I don’t want a woman in my home that’s slept with my husband.
True Story:
A friend of mine went to a bachelorette party a few years back in Texas. The bride to-be had a cake made in the shape of a peenie (lol). Well, one of the attendents at the party previously dated the groom. So when she saw the cake she said, “Hmmmm, that doesn’t look like Joe’s peenie…it curves to the left a little more…”
DEAD!!!
This is why I don’t like to share.
So FLYY: “I guess I was just tryna make a case for the girl that ‘boinks’ your friend before she knows you.
Not havin it huh?”
Nope. If I invite my guy over to watch the Bucks/Pistons game, I may decide at halftime, I’m giving my wife backshots as soon as this negro leaves. Then I look at him and contemplate that THAT negro, sitting in my house, on my couch, watching on my LCD television knows exactly what it’s like to have $ex with my wife, knows her favorite position, knows that she’s a screamer/squirter/whathaveyou.
Sorry, that ain’t happenin’.
Tiff’s story just made my jaw drop…no…effin…words…
5 years is a minute. What if I got married next week- there is no way that some of my college buddies i **may** have smashed won’t be at the wedding.
5 years aint long. Shiiiiiit. The mofo is lucky that I let him eat and drink on my dollar at all. I’m supposed to let your bucket list, spring fling, last week in college dude from 3 years ago come to the wedding? Yea, its a woman’s wedding but its mine too
I think it’s long depending on your age. I made some good friends in college and if I happened to let up and eff one or two- I think they still deserve a place there. I’d compromise with 1 year.
1 year?!?!? I’m not marrying anyone who has been effing someone else in at least the last 2-3 years. I’d hope that we were in a committed relationship during those years. So w/ that in mind, 5 years doesnt seem like a stretch
I mean a year from the time we started dating. So if we started dating in ’08 and I effed him in ’07- it is fine if he’s not invited.
All hypothetical of course
No statute of limitations. Last thing you need at the altar is one person thinking about the loose sex they had w/ someone at the wedding. Eff all that.
for your question about #2: no
for your question about #3, you are still kinda young I think, so it may seem a long time, but 5 years is an appropriate amount.
True dat Reecie. I haven’t eeeeem been knockin the boots for that long so yea… lol.
i can get with those rules!
We are all adults and in this day and age it is easy for people to have many partners before they are even out of college. I can’t understand why anyone would be bothered by this. Now to know that your boo banged your friend is a little bit much and it takes a strong person too look past that one. When I was dating my kids dad he couldn’t stop imagining me losing my virginity to my oldest sons dad and that burdened our relationship for 10 years. I don’t think I ever think about the people that any guy that I have ever slept with has slept with. As long as it was safe and there is a clear bill of health then we are good.
Peace, Love and Chocolate
Tiffany
i can’t judge. i live in a glass house. with that being said i really don’t care who you’ve been with as long as you weren’t kat stackish with yours. i’m grown. i don’t have time to be wasting thinking about who you might have had relations with 2-5 years before i even met you. smh.
Exactly. I think the problem lies in the fact that some of these folks have just been outlandish with their ish. I wouldn’t want a dude who’s banged every third chick I ever see, just like I’m sure no dude wants any woman who’s been with 1 out every 10 men they run into. But everybody has some kind of past. It ain’t that many unicorns out there, folks! Holding this type of nonsense over people’s heads is very reminiscent of high school to me.
I have known dudes that refuse to get serious with a chick unless they have done a background check and talked to at least five classmates from elementary school to college. That ish just always seemed insecure to me.
All I care about is what a woman is doing now. Where her head is right now. People are not the same people they were in college or high school. So I really don’t care about a girls past. To be honest, most girls that are reformed hos, will let you know about their past. Not in graphic detail but they will let you know. To be honest I like my women a little freaky and chances are if you datin a freaky brawd a sketchy past comes wit it.
That’s the price you pay for not havin to spend 5 years teachin her how to f##k.
Now as far as marrying someone from college. Das out. Unless I happen to meet someone I went to school wit and we didn’t run in the same circles. I mean as far as the DMV crew from my school, I could point to every brawd and every dude and tell you at least two people they slept wit. So yeah das out.
So I guess you could say I don’t care about your past but there is such thing as too close to home. So if you did sleep with a close friend it would make a difference.
“To be honest, most girls that are reformed hos, will let you know about their past. Not in graphic detail but they will let you know. To be honest I like my women a little freaky and chances are if you datin a freaky brawd a sketchy past comes wit it. That’s the price you pay for not havin to spend 5 years teachin her how to f##k.”
I hollered. but I give you points for keeping it real. LMAO
I agree the past is the past the only problem i have is when you know the dude this happened to me one time. And it was like the scene from the best man true it was never an issue but i was not a fan of it at all
Nah…the worst is when you know the dude and it’s a ni##a you don’t like.
it was still bad cause the dude was a playa pretty boy type and it was a bar i went to all the time and i was like damn “my gal was another notch on the belt”
and let me be the first to say it here. i don’t want a unicorn. i’m sorry. i just don’t.
really? i think that’s the first time i’ve ever heard this. and it doesn’t surprise me that it’s coming from you Tunde… lol.
lol why doesn’t it surprise you?
It surprises me that a man wouldn’t want to be her first and only… however, it doesn’t surprise me that you said it Tunde b/c you always find a way to throw me a curveball.
I’ve heard this quite a bit from men…but MUCH more from women.
to be honest, guys are the ones who worry about this type of stuff. As long as you’re not dating a “man-ho” most women tend to assume that a guy has pretty decent (whatever that means to each person) numbers.
” …Some people worry that their current boo will bump into their old flame and keep bumping…” <—- Okafor's Law!
Well guys worry about the ho thing. But I think women are just as bad when it comes to messing with someone they know.
I was at a party thrown by an ex a few years ago. Was havin great conversation with this female. And then when I mentioned the host of the party was my ex…..it was “game over.” And I don’t think my ex was that close to this girl. Up until that revelation she was feelin me.
Lol @ Okafor’s Law.
#1 – Cosign Tunde on not wanting a Unicorn
#2 – I wont throw stones about pasts but Peyso’s 3 rules are accurate with my views
#3 – if you are my true FRIENDS, I’m not trying to wife someone you;ve been with,m only because its awkward to me to be around people. IDK. Im just selfish in that manner
I think wifing a “JO” is a mans biggest fear. Trust me when I say the past can come back to haunt you, even if you say “eff your past Im with you”
A ho and a reformed ho are two different things. I think it’s possible for people to change. But I’ve had this discussion in another forum before and some people believe that the past is an indicator of the future.
“never put s**t past anybody”. I dont care who it is. anyone can dissapoint you on any given day. its our nature to eff up. but of course, we on some tender s**t when it comes to our SO. can a woman/man be a “reformed JO”? that question will stand for all time. for every one that can…theres 9 that cant. its purely on a case by case basis, and even then…its truly a balance on wires.
The funny thing is, I’ve always felt like you need to watch the ones that are virgins. Cause they get married not knowin what sex is all about and what they like. Then they get sexually active and realize what they possibly missed out on. I really think the chances of a virgin steppin out on you are about the same as a reformed brawd.
J:
I see where you were going w/ that but I think women are more emotional then you give us credit for. I know many a woman who stayed w/ her first lover faarrr after the relationship was past expiration just b/c he was first. I’m not sure virgins & reformed Ho-fessionals are on the same playing field.
Some of y’all need to put your “unicorn” status in perspective – if you’re under 25 your list shouldn’t be long anyway! (lookin’ at you So FLYY, which yo ground down unicorn horn!) For most women, it’s not trains and trizzles and such that get your numbers up. It’s a decade plus of being single, lol. Not that your numbers will be super high – but you can’t smugly claim that you can count your lovers on one hand with 3 fingers left over.
I remember a scene from Roseanne a few years back. Her sister Jackie calculated that she had been “active” for about 20 years…with an average of about 2 guys a year….did a little math and…..yikes.
Which is why the 30+ crew has a “don’t ask, don’t tell” policy on numbers and past associates. If I don’t know by now, I don’t ever want to. And neither should you.
I remember that episode. Scary stuff.
True. True. I see your Roseanne and raise you a Designing Women. When you put it like that, then I’ve barely lost the tip of my unicorn horn…
thank you for saving me. Lol.
You know I got your back.
Oh –
I see your Designing Women, and raise you a Falcon’s Crest.
I see your Falcon’s Crest and raise you a General Hospital. Wait, what were we talking about again?
So as man thats possibly interested/serious with you, if I volantarily told you my stats, and my numbers were high…like lets say…100+, would that be any kind of a dealbreaker? would you be like “awww daaaaaamn (Martin Lawrenece style), why you have to say that?”.
I’d have to ask you about your current/recent escapades and the frequency and seriousness of them. I’d ask about the time frame when most of the hunnid grand was accumulated. If mean if you went on a spree for a couple years — and that was 4 years ago. I could say that grounds for permissible consideration. However, if you are steady accumulating… 1 broad every other week (26 girls a year) and you’ve been on this same pattern for the last 5 years (130 itchbays) then I’d have to give you a flag on the play.
#14daystilTrainingCamp
@So Flyy…I like where ya head is it. the bottom line is, there are mitigating factors to my sexcapades that might affect your judgement of my past behavior. thats only fair. thats why I wanna know a womans past. like I said earlier…the truth doesnt hurt me. I just wanna know what time it is.
Bruh, as long as none of those 100+ were named Tyrone or my family and you can present doctor’s proof of your good health, I don’t care.
I would care more about the fact that you kept count – that means you’ve been seeking conquests. No bueno.
Another plus of age: (willful) memory loss, lol.
You would feel better if he didn’t keep count?
Picture that…..So how many girls you sleep wit?…….”Oh I don’t know……..50 maybe a 100, I wasn’t counting.
LOL
Nah. Whether its 50 or a 100 I would feel better knowing you had some idea.
I think all men keep count. And if they forget the number chances are they are in Wilt Chamberlin, Magic Johnson territory. (Magic said he slept wit 6 girls at once.)
um, yea, i’d like a rough estimate…i can tell my number (its single digit) with ease…keeping up w/ the number makes sense to me though cause there are a lot of diseases running ramped these days
It surprises me that a man wouldn’t want to be her first and only…
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If you have a Masters Degree…….do you really want to repeat 1st Grade.
If you have a Masters Degree…….do you really want to repeat 1st Grade?
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LOL!!! The doors of the church are open!
RCLS knows this to be fact, but I used to date a porn star, I got her pregnant too, I been looking for her and my baby since… I didn’t mind that she was well known amongst men.
Put it to ya like this, I would wife down and walk around town with Lauren London as my girl and Lil’ Wayne’s baby as my stepchild. I’m still effing the dogsh*t out of Lauren London.
Man Law: Don’t have sex with women, who have sex with men, who have sex with men.
I always like to do a mindmap whenever i’m whipping it out, just so I can see who alls i’m sleeping with.
About that situation in Cornell, I told all 7 of them, I was trying to talk to all 7 of them when we met. It’s no my problem that they thought I was playing. I’m still trying to figure out how I allegedly, “must have had her real f*cked up”… because she found out about the past.
RCLS knows this to be fact, but I used to date a p*rn star, I got her pregnant too, I been looking for her and my baby since… I didn’t mind that she was well known amongst men.
Put it to ya like this, I would wife down and walk around town with Lauren London as my girl and Lil’ Wayne’s baby as my stepchild. I’m still effing the dogsh*t out of Lauren London.
Man Law: Don’t have s*x with women, who have s*x with men, who have s*x with men.
I always like to do a mindmap whenever i’m whipping it out, just so I can see who alls i’m sleeping with.
About that situation in Cornell, I told all 7 of them, I was trying to talk to all 7 of them when we met. It’s no my problem that they thought I was playing. I’m still trying to figure out how I allegedly, “must have had her real f*cked up”… because she found out about the past.
You would mention the one I take exceptions to………Lauren Loundon has been ruined in my eyes. Lost all desire for that brawd. Slept with Lil Wayne with no condom….ew, yuck, gas face
Went from a dime to a junk bond.
And although, I never understand what you’re trying ot say on SBM when you comment, this takes the cake…
You don’t find Lauren London attractive? I bet Weezy piped your girl as a child. Nah, Weezy took your girl to Gucci and actually bought her that bag that you didn’t.
#imjustsaying
Dude you stay on my b$$ls. I hurt your feelings that bad? You want to ban me like your buddy for hurtin your feelins?
But seriously. My girls don’t bone dudes that need surgery on their teeth before they go to jail. I see you on the dude b$$ls….but to me…a crackhead wit money is still a crackhead. And I done bone brawds that bone crackheads.
for some reason, it does kinda bother me if a dude dated someone i knew before me & she knows just how my man works it in bed…its probably why i have the tendency to date dudes outside of where i live (another town or out of the state)…but if the person is worth it to me, i can swallow #pause whatever thoughts i have and continue on w/ them…i’ve done it once and can do it again!
I think it’s completely childish to care about someone’s number. Sex is something I participate in, not give away. There are so many more interesting things to me than how many people I’ve been with. And if anyone asks me that question it seems as if they’re trying to hold me up to some unrealistic and worn out society standard. If your’re worried if I’m clean you should be, as I should you. we should get tested and look towards each other’s character rather than some made up(oh yeah, what number are we trying to get under actually, and who decides?) score system. Plus with divorce rate and ” the single black women” epidimic doesn’t it get harder with age to find someone of either gender who is fresh like snow?
Where the hell was I when this was posted? I agree. Hmm, now this may be all.
I would be kind of wary if the man in my life did NOT have some sort of past….I mean, was there something wrong with him??? College, your 20s, etc. are a time to learn about yourself, learn about others, discover love/lust/like, etc. A man with a past has learned about women, learned from his mistakes and hopefully I will benefit form all that learning. The past is the past, forgetaboutit! Besides having a reformed Casanova makes me pleased as punch….yeah, see that handsome hunk of luv over there, he is coming home with me tonight…and all nights! Happy Monday everyone
What the heck?! I completely missed this post!
i dont fight with my ex-es cos most of the time the relationship ends amicably,so I’m going to invite them to my wedding cos they were friends before they became lovers so my S.O has to try and deal with that or pray they dont honour the invite.I also went for most of my ex-es wedding,cos we still remain friends til date,no hard break-ups et al.