Yeah ... he ain't got nothing on me
Scenario 1
Baby Girl: Baby … I have something to tell you
Tyrone: What’s up love?
BG: Well, I know we have only been together a few weeks, but there is something about the past I wanted to tell you.
Ty: Ok … but you got me a little scared now.
BG: Don’t be scared. It’s nothing that should affect us.
Ty: **thinks of how many negroes have heard this right before catching the “I have herpes” talk** Uh … ok
BG: Basically, a few years ago … I used to date Idris Elba
Ty: Stringer Bell? Is he cool in real life.
BG: You’re not mad?
Ty: What the f*ck for? I got you now and that reggin can’t see me. How you gonna get hustled by a city council member and then shot?!?!
Scenario 2
Baby Girl: Baby … I have something to tell you
Dashawn: What’s up love?
…
BG: Basically, a few years ago … I used to date Flava Flav
Dee: Excuse me?
BG: You know … “Flava Flaaaaaaaavvvvvv!!”
Dee: **throws up in mouth a little** I really really really don’t want to ask this … but I must know. Did you sleep with him?
BG: Do you really want to know?
Dee: **can really taste the throw up now** Yes … Yes I do … nay, must know.
BG: Yes. A lot actually. He’s kind of a freak.
Dee: Goodbye **walks out the door**
In my interesting dating history, on more than one occasion have I dated/courted someone who dated a celebrity in the past. In every single case the person was hesitant to tell me who it was. They were afraid they would get the groupie label, or that I would suddenly find myself trying to meet some imaginary expectations (HA! Like I’m going to buy you something cause of the guy before me or treat you different), or whatever the reason was. In both cases I sat there after hearing the name and responded with the same.
“Oh … OK. Anyways, so we still gonna smash going out tonight?”
As with Tyrone, who cares. If you dated some sports player, movie star, or major music artist … good for him. I got you now and apparently I got something that he doesn’t. Hell … I prefer your ex to be Irdis Alba over that really sweet guy who loves you unconditionally, but just couldn’t grow up. The latter guy … all he has to do is get his act right to come and give me competition. Irdis … that n***a don’t want you no more!
Now … Dashawn … I feel for this guy.
***Life Lesson***
Good choices rarely come back to bite you. People aren’t going to chastise you for sleeping with Halle Berry, making too much money, or working too hard. But f*ck up just once … and that will follow you like a neck tattoo saying “C-town camp posse mob click family for life”
Every time Dashawn tries to pin his girl with the naked reverse half nelson that ends in the patented “yogurt explosion” kiss his woman … all he is going to hear is “Flllaaavvvaaa Fllllaaaaavvvv”. That is a fate that I would wish on no man.
Is this just me? Has anyone else dated someone with a famous ex? How did you react? How would you react?
- SBM aka Denzel ain’t got sh*t on me aka I’m your girl’s famous ex!
I've never dated anyone who dealt with someone famous before me…or at least no one has told me if they have…as long as the chick wasn't Kat stacks or Super Head (no telling what either have), i guess i'm aiight…besides, its the past & we're in the present so that's where we shall live.
Oh boy. I hope by the time I finish and send this comment, Sane would have replied. So have I ever? No. Has he ever? #sukishrug I'll never know. I dunno if I want to know. Like you said, they don't want em back! How would I react? Ehh, I'd ask how it was. *wiggles eyebrows*
Okay. I'm done
Replied to what, this post or something on Twitter?
The post. Staying clearing of your toes. But now it's nothing.
Don't be silly. You can comment on the posts before me, I'm not gonna shank you or anything.
Besides, you'll know if/when you step on toes. LOL
3rd shank related comment thrown my way! Lol I know how to pick em! Woot
Stop being dramatic.
well, i beat both of you to the first post so if someone was to get shanked, it would've been me…but you gotta find me first to do so (#onmySlimJacksonhidingish)! lol
I've also never been with anyone who has been with a celebrity. I'm pretty sure it wouldn't bother me unless it was someone who had been passed around like a hot potato and even then a simple date to get tested could sort that out. I'm secure with me, so I'm not gonna trip. There's a reason why you still aren't dating, and that reason probably hasn't changed.
I'm not sure how I'd feel if it was Susan Boyle or Precious though.
I don't really run in celebrity circles…lol….but if anybody knows Shemar Moore…hook a sista' up! I kid. No, but only if YOU want, too…:-)
In all honesty, if I found out that an SO dated a celebrity or someone infamous I would probably care to a certain degree…but not enough to end the relationship…I would just ask a few question…and once my curiosity was satisfied..I probably wouldn't mention it again unless the SO did….
Lol…but shacking up with flava flav? *shivers*
Nope never had to worry about this…never dated one either…besides we have too many half ar$ed z list wannabes flaunting themselves as celebs here in the uk…
My inner F1 freak wanted lewis hamilton until I met him in a club in london and I realised my legs were longer than his entire frame…dude may be cute but he is short..#cantworkthat…besides nicole scherzinger's pu$$ycat has him on a tight leash
Also I'm not spoiling to be rio ferdinand's 'wag' or any other footballer's for that matter unless I'm getting to bend it with beckham…but after his PA rebecca loos admitted to an supposed affair with david…victoria beckham shipped him out and put him on lockdown…he's still in solitary isolation *sighs*
p.s
Strangely enough I'd do simon cowell… #dontyoudarejudgeme LOL
If I found out that my SO dated someone famous in the past, I'd probably laugh. I'd want to know how serious it was, but that's something I'd want to know anyway about any ex. May also ask how they met or came to date this person, assuming they're not in a career field that exposes them to celebs on the regular.
I'm sure at some point I may get a pang or two of insecurity if they woman is a knockout and I'm exposed to her regularly on TV, movies, or mags but that would pass. If he's with me, then he wants me . . . no need to worry about his famous ex.
Ditto. No need to re-state what's been said.
I used to date a guy who played in the NFL. Not a major name, but somebody a fan of the team would know. My SO is fine with it and actually thought it was pretty cool, but the guy I dated right after Mr. NFL would often make comments suggesting that I was spoiled or that I wouldn't be receptive to his budgeted dates or plans. There was also a guy who seemed interested, but cooled things off after he found out who my ex was.
Funny thing is, he was just a normal guy and we did regular stuff. I mean there were some perks of course, but they were special occasions for the most part.
To be honest, I wouldn't bring him up at all if it weren't for the fact that I have family and friends who still like to talk about him and blow my cover. It just seems to breed a lot of unnecessary insecurity.
Welcome Shauna!
I find that there are just as many insecure men as there are women out there.
Thanks! I'm not new though, just a longtime lurker lol. I only post every now and then.
As previously discussed I've had at least one dalliance with a "famous" person….but we're not going back there today.
Although it's pretty common knowledge in my hometown, here I hold that secret waaaaaay down. I've learned the hard way that having a recognizable name in your past can change a man's impression of you instantly and it's nearly impossible to recover from it.
I've never dated a dude with a famous ex. I don't think I would care….actually I think it would be kind of cool.
Well, I actually have dated a few people who would certainly we recognizable. My current SO only knows of 2, even though there have been more. Usually when a celebrity/major athlete/business tycoon/political figure/etc approches me I'll tell him because I feel like it strokes his ego, especially when it's someone he knows. Whenever I've dated someone with that "celeb status" or whatever, I usually don't disclose it to anyone, for the simple fact that I don't want to subject myself to unwarranted judgment from people. Further, some of them still want to be with me or actively pursue me. I don't want no drama with my man, so I pretty much duck and dodge them, ESPECIALLY because they don't seem to understand the concept of me dating someone other than them. I like to call it the "men with money" or the "brothers with big bread" syndrome.
At the end of the day, dating most of them was fun, but I have a low tolerance for BS and I tire of people very quickly. One thing about these men that I don't like is that they like to shower you with gifts and trips, but when you make it clear that none of that matters and that they have to really put in the work and spend the time if they are really considering courting me, it makes some do an about face.
There are definitely perks that come with each kind of man, and I, like george washington, cannot tell a lie…I LOVED THE PERKS!!
One thing that I have discovered is that rich men/celebrity men can be just as good or bad as a regular dude, so all the extra, in many cases, doesn't really matter…unless that's what you're out for in the first place.
Where do you live? I'm curious as to how you've found yourself in the position to date famous people more than once. I walked by Anthony Anderson once in an airport, and I still tell that story. LOL
i once shared an elevator with donald faison at my hotel in Atlanta.. i still tell that story!!
LOL..
i was in my fuzzy blue slippers.. (i leave that part out)
Now, I've met countless number of celebrities but never dated a one! LOL. ah well…….:-)
Anthony Anderson asked me on a date once. I didn't go though because he was rude. And also married.
No he didn't! Good for you Max!
You said "Irdis, though. Flag on the play? That fine specimen's name is Idris. — Thanks, Management.
LOL just effing with ya, SBM. I've never dated anyone who has dated a celeb that I know of so I can't say I'd be bothered by it. I'd like to think that I wouldn't be. Just as long as he does make
comparisons and ish. That goes for any girl
but it would sting more if I have to see said comparison on TV errday.
Tee hee.
#thatisall
lol, I did crack up at this part though:
"Ty: What the f*ck for? I got you now and that reggin can’t see me. How you gonna get hustled by a city council member and then shot?!?!"
Hey, I know that was a weak moment but lay off my Stringer! lol
Is this just me? Has anyone else dated someone with a famous ex? How did you react? How would you react?
to my knowledge i've never dated anyone who dated someone famous before me. even if she did i doubt i would care regardless of who it is. now if it was someone like flava flav i might be a little offended. like what do you see in him that you might see in me? ewl.
I've never dated anyone who dated someone who was famous while they were famous. I've dated a few chicks who dated such and such person before they were famous. That doesnt bother me. There is a particular video girl that I dated before she was a video girl. She dumped me for a record producer and that's how she got her start. My SO is cool with it
I wouldn't care if the BF dated someone famous, obviously all the glitz and glamour didn't work out for him cuz they're not together…
As far as dating someone famous…. I briedly dated a ball player, he's my very good friends nephew, he wasn't as big as he is now, as far as famous goes, he had just been signed… it was pretty cool I may add, he definitely did the whole "you can have whatever you want" thing but I never abused it, thats not how I rolll. At the end, he didn't want anything serious and neither did I, we ended things amicably and went our own ways. Last time I saw him was at an event, we said hello, caught up with each others life, and that was that… *shrug*
Never dated anyone with a famous former ex. The rule of thumb should pretty much be the same as if the person wasn't famous…..nobody wants to hear about your ex.
I will admit that depending on the celeb….and the frequency with which you date celebs….I will make certain judgements about you. Not sayin every female that dates a celeb is a groupy or gold digger. But in some cases the track record suggest this may be true.
I've dated a b-ball player for a couple of months and it's just something that I never talk about. Mostly because I don't talk about exes w/ an S.O. and also I don't want a guy I'm seeing to think I'm a groupie and what not.
As for a potential S.O.- if you dated Halle or Gabby I'm going to feel hella good about my current position. But if it was Whoopie- well you can keep that to yourself.
Also- need to worry if it was Idris because he would NOT be my ex.
So am I really like the only person who has ever had some girl feel compelled to tell them about their famous ex? How has this happened to me twice, and no one else?
My life …
Well I had a girl that messed with some dude in the Rough Riders camp. They're not famous in my opinion so I didn't mention it. She told me about it in the context of a casual conversation about DMX. I think that is what a lot of females do. Something may come up in casual conversation and they bring it up not realizing that this story about a famous person is also a story about an ex. Everybody likes to share stories about famous encounters but if that famous person is also someone you dated or slept wit you should probably just keep it to yourself. Like you would stories about an unfamous ex.
Ok and I also had an opportunity to date a women that dated the owner of a famous clothing company but didn't cause I considered her out of my league. She was flirting and interested. I did let her ex affiliation influence me. But I would bet it was the right decision. I don't think Friday night dates at Applebees would have kept her happy
Man this post hits close to home! So the chic i'm messing w now is also being 'courted' by this NBA cat. Now she had enough tact not to mention any details but her homegirl 'accidently' let it slip out who she was seeing plus the fact that he took her on a Caribbean trip the week before I was introduced to her. She insists that they haven't slept together (I'm hitting it on the regular btw) but admits that if she hadn't met me she prolly would've given up the drawls by now.
To make matter even more complicated me and shorty have no official commitment. She's only in town for the summer its kind of a fling/fwb situation for now. Now I'm ok w the idea that shes dating a baller, she's a beautiful girl and I realize pretty girls have options. And of course its an ego booster knowing that I've got something that this NBA cat is tryin to pull. But it does give me pause that she'd accept an all expense paid trip from a dude who shes putting in the 'friend zone'…im thinking its a bit golddiggerish
I'm thinkin no way did she not f##k this dude on the trip.
She is having sex with dude..pure and simple.
All Expense paid trip to the Caribbean?
Yea, she fcukin him….no doubt about it.
I would be offended if she WASNT effin him after that Cruise, lololol
but yeah dude, she's smashin. PLease do not fall victim to L'Swindle
I'd welcome you, but I think you've commented before. Also, I'm on board w/ everyone else here, she's let him hit.
Yeah, dude is submerging himself in her hot abyss…or he did before. If they went on a trip, they slept in the same bed. If they slept in the same bed on some exotic island or other locale…
Strokes.
Before I start, let me start off by saying, my boy used to date a girl who's ex-boyfriend was Ron Artest… (STORIES FOR DAYS!)
I mean…
I've dated girls who used to date athletes, celebrities, or well known characters before. If you think her dating a NFL athlete is bad, it's better than her dating a promoter. Point is, if she dated an NFL player, he's been with everyone. If she dated a promoter, he's been with everyone in yo' city. To be honest, I don't really care. I dated one girl who's ex was in a pro-league (she reads this site), and he would always be calling and texting, and giving her money. I didn't mind because she let me know up-front that they had been together for a while, and that he considers her the only real woman he's dated. I also didn't have a problem because I knew I wasn't going to marry this chick.
As it pertains for me, i've dated a few well known chicks before, a short list, like Peyso, I dated a couple chicks who then became models. (In DC, we have so many "recreational picture takers" with dreams of being a video vixen that you are destined to take down a few just by chance.) But as I said on Wisdom's site last week, I keep that on the low.
I can give you guys stories, but i'll save that for SBM After Dark. The newest most exclusive club on the internet.
"I can give you guys stories, but i’ll save that for SBM After Dark. The newest most exclusive club on the internet."
Woot woot!
By the way, i'm not being rude or taking shots at any woman here, but… this was a funny quote from my homegirl from the 305…
"You're not dating a guy who plays for the Jets, you are f*cking a guy who plays for the Jets."
People's definition of dating is always suspect and deserving of a side eye. If he takes you out to dinner every now and then and drops $200 on it, doesn't have anything to do with the fact that he drops $10K later that night at the club. Now if he's dropping $3500 a week in your account, you are dating him…
your girl in the 305.. (my code) is a very smart woman..
and i'm not biased or anything.. lol
I agree Dr J….just because he hit it and dropped a few coins on you..doesn't mean you are dating. sad as that may be……
LOL Ive been on both ends of the spectrum. SBM they have brought it up to me in casual conversation. Its funny though because I never feel threatened or give pause. I think if it was an ugly dude I'd be a little offended because a womans taste I definitely judge!!
I remember one time a woman I dated asked me if I dated this now-famous woman. I said yup and she says "omg I didnt think you'd answer!" Sheeit you go looking for something.. you're gonna find something!
Who would this "now famous woman" be Streetzie? Hmmm?
Streetz, As Lamar Odom once said, "Don't answer that question."
Please! I already knew he wasn't going to answer that question…when I asked it. LOL.
Only reason I wouldn't answer is I don't really pillow talk like that, and we're cool in real life no need to brag.
Good day people! Was grossed out by second scenerio due to me eating lunch right now. I'm with you on not being worried about him dating a celebrity but worried about the chick that he was in love with but dropped her b/c she couldnt get her act 2gether. But now out the blue chick trying to come back around to try take my place. "Nah Girl…you had your turn…let a woman take care of this man". I guess one can win from a fling but can't win if love was involved.
Bunni
Good day!
At the expense of sounding like a sucka for love….I actually believe her yo!
Seriously though shes maintained her integrity, hasn't been dishonest in any other situations, and certain details corroborate her story….plus she could've been honest and it wouldn't have stopped me from perusing….
So for the sake of argument lets say she didn't let him smash…..is it a red flag that a chic would accept such a lavish gift from someone she is merely dating??
I think this scenario is always gonna be a bigger deal to dudes.lol.
I just don't wanna know/consistently see a dude that used to smash down shorty. That "I got her now" is cool and all, but I know what goes through my mind when I see a former bedroom acquaintance with her boo….
"I wonder if she still purrs when she's having an orgasm?"
..or growl.
Not that I have. Growl or purr that is. I'm a mouse 0:-)
So I should call you Suki Squeaks?lol.
Lol. That's actually NOT a bad idea!
iHOLLERED! Not "growl"!
No comment on the squeaks….=0/