You know what I'm talking about?
I was sitting one night on my balcony enjoying the lake and sipping on a night cap. The exact thought process leading me to my next though is irrelevant … but I soon found myself reliving a memorable scene from college …
SBM: “You don’t do what?”
Anomaly: “I don’t give head”
SBM: “You don’t do it anymore you mean? What happened?”
Anomaly: “I’ve never done it. It’s disgusting. It’s slimy down there and there are all kinds of juices … yuck”
SBM: “WTF man. Hey … Fiend (another roommate) come out here”
Fiend: “What’s up?”
SBM: “You eat p*ssy, right?”
Fiend: “Like a champ” (Fiend is a stone cold freak BTW)
SBM: “Me too. How is it Anomaly never has and says he never will”
Fiend (Looks at Anomaly): “N***a … what! You are 23 and it’s the 21st century … What do you mean you don’t eat pussy???”
Anomaly: “Its nasty”
Fiend: “Man up n***a!”
SBM (Shaking head): “Anomaly … your a grown ass man dawg. I bet you expect to get head though.”
Anomaly: “Yeah!”
SBM: “My brother … that’s just selfish. How can you ask for what you won’t give?”
Anomaly: “Been working for me so far”
Fiend: “This is a sad day … I’m going back to my room”
SBM: “Damn Shame! They still make people like you?”
Yeah … do they still make people like this?
Now, I understand that not every male is going to be utterly obsessed with performing this act like me, but how can anyone male or female just refuse to do it? I mean … there was a whole sexual revolution in the 70′s (so I heard). The stuff people consider normal nowadays would make even the most liberal 60′s parent cringe in horror … and your telling me you won’t lick a clit or hum on some balls?
Well … this is Social Darwinism at its finest. These sick individuals will eventually be eliminated from the gene pool as no one will produce offspring with them. Who would want to raise their children in a world without head? I can bring no child into a world like that! But at the core of the issue … a person’s refusal to give head boils down to one thing …
Its f*cking selfish!
If you can’t endure 10-30 minutes of something you don’t enjoy for the happiness of someone else … why should I do anything for you?
Have I pleasured some women who didn’t deserve it … yes. Have I given more than I received … probably so. But I know at the end of the day that I brought joy to someone else (well … I like doing it too … but that’s irrelevant) … and someone screamed, shook all over, yelled “Jesus” smiled as a result of my actions.
So … I say to you .. the SBM family … my brothers … my sisters … go home tonight and show that special someone how much you appreciate them. Lick that love button until she quakes throughout her body. Deep throat until he gets light-headed and needs to sit down. You are personally making this world a better place and I thank you on behalf of all humanity!
Feel me?
LOL @ lick that love button! I think too many guys expect head like they expect kisses. If I'm just dating someone, no head for u!(And I don't expect it either) If there's no commitment, there's no head! Period! I refuse to lick what the last chick left behind. Only my man will feel the best treatment. #thatisall
I can't agree with this statement. If you're sleeping with someone, you should be slobing them down. Head is severely less intimate than sex.
"Head is severely less intimate than sex."
What??… NEGATIVE!!!!
I can not Cosign this statement IMO this is one of the most intimate acts 2 people can share.
Yeah, I agree with this.
c/o
Head is very intimate. IDK, maybe some people just stick any ol' thing in their mouth. I am not one of them.
While I enjoy giving and receiving orally, I have to disagree with you on this one. Perhaps I'm being prudish, but I find it way more intimate to take someone into my mouth and taste them and have my face *rightthere* than to have intercourse. I was always perplexed by my white female friends who were like, "All I did was give him a blow job!" Say what? Perhaps it doesn't add to "your number" but it does seem far more intimate.
And on another note, many guys claim to give head, but are so bad at it, you have to wonder if their M.O. is to just be so terrible that you'll say "never mind!" Or even worse are the guys who stop after a few minutes and are like "are you ready? are you wet enough". For real?
And on another note, many guys claim to give head, but are so bad at it, you have to wonder if their M.O. is to just be so terrible that you’ll say “never mind!” Or even worse are the guys who stop after a few minutes and are like “are you ready? are you wet enough”. For real?
#lightswitchON
You just might be on to something with this one…
I agree. Way more dudes out there who aren't good at.
Don't be scared of the ussy. Liking it like it's gonna bite back. Devour that ish.
That's why up until recently…I was not a fan of oral.
Yeah, I said it.
I co-sign your thought process here. But I totally expect females to feel totally different. Head is just head, especially when women give it.
But when a women lets herself get penetrated by a guy (lets not forget that babies come out of there and it is arguably one of the more special places on earth–and also one of the dirtiest) its totally different.
Anyone over the legal age limit for your respective state, who does not partake in oral fixations, needs to take a long walk off a short pier….
Being a cunning Linguist myself, it is not only my duty but my pleasure to dwell into the 'Love Below'. Maybe its the thrill of feeling her body convulse at the slightest touch, or the speaking in tounges rythm at her (multiple) highest peaks.
Besides, a woman that is thoroughly satisfied is more open-minded to trying new things
Another cunning linguist. We should make t-shirts n sh*.
Co-sign! What else is there left to say?!
First time delurker but I just needed to say
Thank You.
Though honestly speaking I know more girls who are unwilling to get on their knees than guys.
But I still feel bad that there are girls who allow Anamoly to keep doing what he's doing. He (and others like him) needs to have their asses beaten for even entertaining such thoughts.
You're right. There are more of these antiquated models in the female form than the male, but I figured I get on women enough and my friend in college was a guy … so …
Welcome! *throws e-confetti*
I don't know any dudes who refuse to nyam. I wish I did, but I don't.
Tru Dat!!!!
There is nothing special/sacred anymore with dudes willingness to deep sea dive in the 21st century WITHOUT asking first. It's part of their foreplay tactic to get to the Grand Prize…
Now I don't mind… #Hardwink
But I'm with Lori on this one: "If I’m just dating someone, no head for u!(And I don’t expect it either)"
Yea… they most definitely still make these ninjas. The last one I ran into was actually an 'older model' who had never received the upgrades. Smh.
I'm shocked it was an older guy. Older guys are usually the dirtiest of all freaks in existence.
Not participating in giving the buisness#wheredeydodatat If you don't feel comfortable enough to do it then you probably shouldn't be having sex with that person in the first place. If we are going to do the do then we need to go all the way because if your not willing to I'll be #thebestyouneverhad
I would like to personally congratulate and commend all of you women who have decided to make oral satisfaction an art form, something that I have to watch with the lights on, that I marvel at, that I feel as if I'm on celebrity status for recieving. Thank you to my one friend in particular who will surely read this, who I was convinced was giving me an effort worthy of "Im trying to find the cure for cancer". Thank you for allowing me to hold your hair back, whisper positive direction, while watching you paint a proverbial masterpiece. To all of you sista's that take cue's from Adina Jewel, Lethal Lipps, and Skyy Black….BRAVO.GREAT JOB.KUDOS.LOVE TO YOU ALL.
"…who I was convinced was giving me an effort worthy of 'I'm trying to find the cure for cancer'"
#iDied
Me too! Lol.
But I appreciate the passion behind the statement.
When I was in my mid 20's I ran into this rather often. I am now 34 and have not had this issue in many years. But about 10 yrs ago? oh yeah.
Been a little scarce on here the last couple of weeks, but if this is your first comment, welcome!
Hahahahaha!!! This post was so funny!
Personally I love doing it. It actually turns me on even more to hear him moan or see him tense up and get chills. The fact that I'm causing this kind of pleasure to him is so exciting! And when the favor is returned and the same emphasis goes in, lol TWSS, it makes it all the better and wetter for whats coming next.
My name is LaBakir and I approve this comment
I am theINTELLECT and I second that approval!!
There is nothing better than knowing you can make a grown man weak in the knees.
ps. I like being out of lurk land
Unfortunately, they still make some of them……….
Once had a guy who refused to go down there but expected me to go down on my knees and work like there's no tomorrow……..
when i find out by chance that a dude doesn't dwell in the lap of luxury i just shake my head. i mean what better feeling is there than going down, coming up with a mouth (and chin) full of wetness and a satisfied look on her face. that's like trying to cook a turkey without preheating the oven. i mean you can do it but for optimal results you gotta heat it up.
i mean sometimes you just wanna go straight for the gusto but to never do it? naw son. o_0
My friend loves that it's the Jamaican men that love to say dem nuh nyam..
He says, "there's an american ready to pick up that slack.."
there's nothing more to say..
I think I need to forward this…
haha! I remember the first time I read this, one of the first SBM articles I came across (pause) [<--hehe, my first pause]
I immediately sent it to my male bff who has the same sentiments as Anomaly. He hasn't truly changed, but I do believe he's lightening up to the idea, SMDH!
There are men who think that, "Just pull your d*ck out" is an acceptable form of behavior. It just goes to show you that some men are not smart when it comes to dealing with women they plan to have s*x with.
There are women who refuse to get on top and think the guy should always be the one to make the move. It just goes to show you that some women are not smart when it comes to dealing with men they plan to have s*x with.
The moral of the story: I don't have these problems.
I feel what you saying and all, but, when I was in college "J.P.Y.D.O." worked like almost every time. I'd say – at least 85% success rate. I could see it not working if you JPYDO and you don't really have alot going for you… but, I mean.. like I said – it worked most of the time back in college.
Sometimes, you just gotta make shorty make a decision.
JPYDO works only if she wanted to smash anyway. That just means you weren't good enough at using your words and actions to get her to spread without reducing your game to JPYDO.
Neverthless, if you are over the age of 21 and JPYDO'ing, you need help. Please see medical attention.
Agreed.
#mentalblockagetoday
What does JPYDO mean???
J.P.Y.D.O. ? ?
just pull your d*ck out
I give head. I do. But never the first time we're intimate. Or the second. It's less about a comfort level and more about the surprise factor. After the first two or three times of receiving but never giving, guys begin to think I don't do it. They've told me. And then when I do. Like in the morning before work, I go down under the sheets, and swallow his dick whole, it's a whole new level of excitment. For him, and me.
Plus when i think about it, what do men think about women who give head right away? It goes back to this idea of men loving women who can do all kinds of sexual tricks but hate a woman who's had many sexual partners. Kinda contradictory since experience is what breeds expertise. Usually.
If I'm quick to give you oral sex, won't you think I do it to everyone, all the time? And isn't that kinda…nasty? I don't know. I could be completely wrong. #understandingthemindofaman.
If I’m quick to give you oral chex, won’t you think I do it to everyone
I don't understand how this is any different than chex. I mean, if you've already gotten over this concern/let an acceptable amount of time pass so that you're comfortable having chex, how is oral any different? I mean, do you think dude is thinking, "Well…. she made me wait 90 days so I know she's not a ho, but if she fellates me well… that changes EVERYTHING."
I like to get low and eat when I have an empty stomach. Besides, coochie is virtually #nocarbs, and high protein, so you can eat at much of it as you want. Put a bib on and eat it like you have something to prove, eat it to the degree that the next time she sees you licking an ice cream cone her knees are gonna get a lil weak…go so hard on her that you create a double entendre for the phrase "hes very slick talking, and articulate". #imjustsayin
men lick ice cream cones? o_0
*giggling*
Im man enough to say that I lick ice cream cones…in theory. I can legally only speak for myself, and myself only…
What else would a man do with an ice cream cone?
IM SAYIN. it gave me a good laugh though. maybe some cats scared to admit they lick ice cream cones…I dunno. lol.
if y'all don't see anything wrong with a grown ass man sitting around licking an ice cream cone then nothing i say is going to make a difference.
BWAHAHAHAHA!!!
You have a Baskin Robbins 31 flavors near you?
#chistoso
"Deep throat until he gets light-headed and needs to sit down. "
What if he's already sitting down?
Still can't believe these issues exist. Just put your mouth on it.
I'm with Dr. J. I don't have these issues.
I've voiced my opinion on this before and was in the minority, but I totally agree with SBM…head is less intimate. I will give head before I let a guy stick it in me. To me, its backwards if you do it….backwards.
maybe its my naive way of thinking, but there's a lot less risk with giving head than there is with intercourse. If you're not close or committed enough to put him in your mouth, why the hell would you let him stick it in you and risk getting pregnant. Like I said, it might my naive way of thinking but to me, that just makes sense.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Condom
Wow.. all this talk about fellatio and cunnilingus and no mention of dicks or pussies.. It's so PG-13 here sometimes.
I think it should be OK to not want to give head.. Though I do certainly agree that it's selfish to expect it and not give it.. In fact, it's down right rude.
I'm what you call the reverse model.. I'm not a big a fan of feeding sausage to ladies, but I'll tear some sushi up.. But you gotta bring the wasabi and soy sauce
i think they are trying not to get their site flagged or blocked from people's jobs and schools.
Aha.. Then I'll stick to saying bojingles and cooty cat..
I like to use chopsticks.
Yeah, you lost me half way through this metaphor.
http://remthemulatto.wordpress.com/
That cat's going to have a super difficult time convincing a woman to switch her car insurance to Geico, let alone having sex with him. I was blown when homeboy said "There's all kinda juices down there." HELL YES! *John Witherspoon voice* That's the beauty of it!
I can only speak for myself, but looking up through to the tops of your eyes to see a woman absolutely losing her shit because of what you're doing with your mouth is one of life's greatest pleasures.
THis post was hilarious then and now, lolol.
If you will put a p*nis in your vagina before you will put it in your mouth, you're just dumb. But that's okay, there's several things that women do that men have concluded are just dumb.
You cannot get HIV from giving head.
You cannot get pregnant from giving head.
I know you said condoms, but even with condoms you run the risk of transmitting or receiving an STD and pregnancy.
Put it to you like this sample CARFAX report:
Becky: Gave 14 dudes head, slept with 4 guys.
Lakisha: Gave 4 dudes head, slept with 14 guys.
Can Miss Becky please raise her hand?
I'm taking her off the lot and leaving Lakisha there for those of you with bad credit.
Why they gotta be Becky and Lakisha though? Your conditioning has been conditioned.
Just trife.
"I'm a victim".
I love it! LOL…. Interesting piece:-)
Well said… Yes, Beckey sucks but it may also be true that she was told that in a fortune cookie, and we all know what to add the the end of a fortune cookie… "in bed"
You can't get HIV from head…but there are plenty of other skin to skin contact STI's out there
No such thing as safe sex…just SAFER sex
Everything I've read says it's less likely to get HIV from oral but it CAN happen.
As you said…no such thing as safe sex…just Safer. And that means educating yourself about the risks associated with whatever you decide to do.
Gonorea in the throat is real….saw it on documentary about gay people.
Maybe you can't get HIV or a baby from oral sex, but you can get gonorrhea/chlamydia or HPV in your throat. Both have happened to friend's of mine, and while the first one simply required undergoing some embarrassment and antibiotics, the second required major surgery to remove the cancerous growth. So, there are risks to both, though putting your mouth where someone pees, well, I guess its up to the individual to decide how intimate that is.
I don't see how people can't make the connection but thanks for educating the galactically stupid
(Always wanted to use that line from A Few Good Men.)
Well… the thing about all those STD/STIs that people have named that you can obtain from giving orally… you can also get them in your vagina too.
I wish Black women would listen for a moment, just please stop arguing with us and listen. It's better to give head than to have vaginal s*x.
Geez, sometimes it's hard to be in an argument with Black women about sex, especially when not even the CDC will cosign on your sex life and the decisions you make involving it.
Um… No. You need to do your research before you make such statements.
Did my research and the only thing you guys are doing is taking an unsafe example for oral sex and giving a safe example for vaginal sex. That makes no sense.
Would you rather have HPV in your mouth or private area? There are over 30 different strands of HPV, most cannot be transferred to the mouth. Even still, warts on your vag or your inner lip. Wanna be real, let's be real.
Would you rather have cold sores on your lip or on your vag? Just about all of you's have cold sores on your lip. Wanna be real, let's be real.
Would you rather have gonorhea in your mouth or on your vag?
Which do you think you will notice earlier and be able to get treatment for? When you said do your research, i'm confused as to which research I was supposed to do…
No one took an unsafe example for oral sex and giving a safe example for vaginal sex. I'm not 100% what you're reading.
The overall consenus was that both methods of having sex may result in STI's…and 1 shouldn't think that one is necessarily "safer" over the other.
Thank you, LaBakir.
No one is saying you should have unprotected intercourse over giving head. Not sure what's he's reading.
@Dr.J.
The quip you made about the CDC. I assumed you meant that erroneous report that came out a few months back. However, I could be wrong. I doubt I am, but if so, please forgive the assumption.
I’m not aruging with anyone Black man. I never stated my opinion in which sexual act was “safer” b/c there are risks with boths. And you highlighted my point again, yes those STI’s can be transmitted on the vag or peen…because its skin to skin contact. Hell you can catch it on your thigh doesn’t matter. But to suggest one act is safer over another…needs a bit more support than your Becky/LaKisha scenario.
@Nia
Perhaps if my avi was that of a white woman, my words wouldn't have been misconstrued and implied that I was being argumentative and not listening
Let me just say that as of right now (to my knowledge), Men can not be tested for HPV unless they go to a urologist & have a legion that they can test from…other than that (depending on the strand), they wouldn't be able to know of tell if they have it. It does show up in a papsmear so one would know that they have it & act accordingly.
Any other way, it's a scary thing as it is becoming more and more common.
@L.Dejean
Yeah, there's no test to detect HPV in men unless a lesion appears. Also, HPV typically clears up on it's on…so many people don't know they've come in contact with it.
I work very closely w/ Planned Parenthood, I hear this kind of talk every week when the rep speaks to the students I work with.
And yes, it's very scary. This world is crazy.
@LaBakir
Exactly! (and pardon my typo, lol) I think that it is underestimated…just as quick as you can mention it, be sure to know about it like how it is tested/found/etc and I've been told there are more than 30 strands and that happy little vaccine only protects you from 4 of them…(i got that vaccine, it hurts like hell).
When i was going through sex ed, there was no knowledge about HPV but now, it is getting more attention & more research is being done.
The more i think of these issues, the more celibacy looks good to me! (I'm still a loyal member of L.I.P.S.S., lol)
@L.Djean
Yeah, it's crazy. It's the most common STI, yet it can't be detected in men? o_O
And like you said, the vaccine can only help againsts 4 of the strands AND if you're over a certain age…I think like 24…they won't get it to you o_O
That's when my conspiracy theory thoughts start forming,lol
And yes…I'm still on my L.I.P.S.S. sh*t
@LaBakir
I didn't even know there were age restrictions…that's ridiculous! If they want it & have the money or coverage, give it to them!
I need them to find a way to detect it in men so that more people can be aware & cautious!
L.I.P.S.S…respect our gangsta (celibacy increases aggression, lol)
Real talk…
Lakisha is more likely to have used condoms with her 14 dudes, while their is a great chance Becky would not have used protection(some of the SBM can probably attest to this), and there's a high probablity that Beck-Beck has syphallis, the herp, or big G. So, yeah… go ahead and take Becky off the lot. Good luck with that…
Yes….If I knew a brawd sucked 14 dudes with no condom I wouldn't touch her with my 10 foot pole
Now if a girl slept with 14 dudes and wore a condom every time there is a good chance she is disease free.
"If you will put a p*nis in your vagina before you will put it in your mouth, you’re just dumb."
I disagree, but of course I do. lol
I think its just how you view each act, nothing makes it dumb–I personally think being able to TASTE something makes it extremely different. but thats just me… everyone has their quirks.
and I see the ladies have already broken down the STI discussion…
This was actually the chuckle I needed today. Thank you.
Head is reserved for potential wives. All that lick it before you stick it….talk to them young dudes wit all that. Plenty of suckaz out here that think head is just harmless fourplay. Excuse my old school rules but the tongue play is very intimate and not to be wasted on random brawds. Messin wit me you gonna have a 6 month to a year wait on that buisness…and then still maybe not.
So are you waiting 6-12 months to receive?
Well I don't stop them if they want to do it. But I can live with or without so no big deal. Wasn't always that way but being older and more sexually mature….it's just not the end all and be all. Last three girlfriends I had took care of me all the time and I never had to do it in return. In a way I think a lot of girls respect the fact that I don't do it because at least they know I'm not the type that goes around licking every girl I'm with.
and your telling me you won’t lick a clit or hum on some balls?
^^^That was hilarious!
I knew a dude like that…he got the wicked o_0 from me! He also had nerve to ask me for head after telling me that…yeaaaaa, no, that definitely didn't happen, nor did whatever we had go on last. While i don't need it, it would be nice for it to be reciprocated if i do it…there have also been times where i've received but haven't given back, not for lack of want but it just didn't happen (time constraints or what have you).
Great post!
You can’t get HIV from head…but there are plenty of other skin to skin contact STI’s out there
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Like really I will never understand this younger, post Monica Lewinsky generation. Sex without a condom is nasty. Something they would never do….but oral is OK. Cover it in plastic before it goes in my juicebox….but by all means stick in naked in my mouth. Shakespeare could write volumes about this delusional contradication.
I'm not aruging with anyone Black man. I never stated my opinion in which sexual act was "safer" b/c there are risks with boths. And you highlighted my point again, yes those STI's can be transmitted on the v*gina or p*nis…because its skin to skin contact. Hell you can catch it on your thigh doesn't matter. But to suggest one act is safer over another…needs a bit more support than your Becky/LaKisha scenario.
Did my research and the only thing you guys are doing is taking an unsafe example for oral sex and giving a safe example for vaginal sex. That makes no sense.
Would you rather have HPV in your mouth or private area? There are over 30 different strands of HPV, most cannot be transferred to the mouth. Even still, warts on your vag or your inner lip. Wanna be real, let’s be real.
Would you rather have cold sores on your lip or on your vag? Just about all of you’s have cold sores on your lip. Wanna be real, let’s be real.
Would you rather have gonorhea in your mouth or on your vag?
Which do you think you will notice earlier and be able to get treatment for? When you said do your research, i’m confused as to which research I was supposed to do…
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ROFL……Young, please give up.
Your cause is noble…..your defense….epic fail.
@J –
You're right, i'm going to let it go…
You guys feel free to give up the cooch before the smooch. And enjoy your Monday evenings.
Lacking enough time to read all the comments today.. I will just make the first point that comes to my head around this topic..
Lately, I have not come across too many women, if any, who I 'expected' head from and did not get it.. #LetMeFinish
When I say expected I don't mean 'I am man..hear me roar!' or in this case 'I am man..put it in ya mouth!' .. what I mean is that we know we don't 'expect' oral from every sexual partner we are involved with since we certainly wouldn't want to find ourselves playing in that arena with every one of your sexual partners..
But of the ones that are expected to (and they normally know who they are)… PLEASE, LADIES, I BEG YOU.. do it properly..
Don't just give your man/FWB/CuttyBuddy head because it's the right thing to do.. Spike Lee ain't standing behind a camera in the bedroom..SUCK ON THE D*CK…
There are numerous websites you can visit that have hours of video samples that can be used as tutorials. Next Step: Google Search Porno or SUCK ON THE D*CK…
The second worse thing behind not getting head is getting bad head.. Yes there is such a thing.. You may think we men are being ungrateful because every girl is not Karrine Steffans, but that's absolutely not true. I, along with most men, can appreciate a woman who's not the best at what she does..but she gives it her all!!
However, I, along with most men, HATE IT when you show a lack of interest. This is especially worse if the man let's you cash in on your favor first.."I just cleaned the inside of your Vag like a bowl of ice cream..and your telling me you won’t…hum on some balls?"
SUCK THE D*CK LADIES…and suck it well!
I love to give and receive but I cannot co-sign on singing on just any dude's microphone.#maybethatsjustme#
I believe in and practice safe sex. I like to get to know a guy quite well before I invite him to experience Paradise.
Before I give him the royal oral, I have to be quite certain that we are exclusive. Generally, I can't sing on the mike the first or second time that we get down to the getdown. The first time with a new partner is usually quite awkward without the oral experience. I like to be more comfortable with him and he be more comfortable with me. By the same token, I don't expect him to taste Paradise. If he does and does it right, I'll savor the experience…please trust ;+) Once I'm comfortable…nom nom nom until he cums!
Real talk, one may know their wifey/man all day long and still get burned. STD's and STI's are very real.
Taking the time to know a person is imperative; nevertheless, understand each and every time one emerges himself in such situations, their life is on the line in some fashion or form.
If one practices safe indulges, of course that will be the best alternative. There's no debate about such things one bit. I just don't believe this is the point.
The fact of the matter is once one is sexually active, one should look at such activities as an art form; not solely a reason to take-up yoga and jogging. Just as one takes pride in anything else, one should take great pride in that too. If you're risking so much, why not fully know the basics. Why not fully enjoy? Basically, perfecting the basics lead to creating beautiful art….and guess what one of the basics are????
I'm just saying…be safe, be smart
I'm on the other end of the spectrum. I teach lesbians. Just kidding, but not really.
A debate I've had is whether or not oral sex is considered foreplay. I say it's another form of sex, like coitus.
Any thoughts?
I remember this post. I feel the same way now as I did then. If we have not had the let's be exclusive talk, I am not putting my mouth on you! If you are my man then there's little i'll say no to chexually. If we're still deciding whether or not we're chexually compatible or are going to be exclusive why would I put my mouth on you? Let's be real most of us don't do oral loving w/ a condom so it's definitely more intimate than penetration.