Light-Skinned Girls: The Black Man’s Kryptonite

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A swindle is worth a thousand words

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- Streetz

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“You see that sheet of paper over there? Lighter than that… but Black.” – Anonymous

Every black man (and when I say every Black man, I use that term as loosely as a Hunts Point hooker) would love to have a little light-skinneded thing on their arm. Long hair? That’s a bonus.

Look at some of the more prominent male celebrities of color and their significant others. Jay-Z has Beyonce, Nick Cannon has Mariah Carey, The-Dream has Christina Mil…er…uh…well, you get the idea.

Unfortunately, this thought process has led some of our brothers to commit some phuckery of the highest order. In the quest to conquer a fair-skinned woman (like being dark is unfair-skinned, lol), some of you fools end up with broads that may pass the paper bag test, but probably should be wearing paper bags over their heads in public.

Dawg…she’s not cute…she’s just light-skinned.

There are many ways that you can end up bamboozled by an unattractive yellow bone, but today we’ll concentrate on the three most common reasons why this has happened (and will happen) to you.

1.  Justification (commonly known as, “But she got [insert large, estrogen-induced body part here]!”)

Someone I knew was taking down this caramel-colored broad. Tall, even skin tone and a video hoe-level donk. Nice girl, she was. Her face, though…not so much. Once, she came up in conversation among the fellas, with the topic being would they smash. Since this was a #nowifing situation, all commentary was fair game. One dude was all for it, while another was dead set against it.

Dude A: I’d definitely smash.
Dude B: Nah son, that chick is wackjuice.
Dude A: Shut your ass up, you’d smash too.
Dude B: You’re buggin.
Dude A: No one would be mad if you smashed.
Dude B: I’d be mad at myself.
Dude A: But she has a table ass!
Dude B: She also got a table face.

Ouch.

2. The Strobelight Honey

Years ago I was at a club near West 4th Street in NYC. I really wanted to go home, but my people were having fun, so I manned up and stuck around. As I sat on a speaker calculating my hearing loss rate per minute, I turned to my right and saw this tall, light-skinned, large-breasted woman sitting next to me. She was in the same predicament as I (wanted to go home, friends didn’t). With the icebreaker out of the way, I managed to strike up a conversation and soon after, we exchanged numbers. As I left, I remarked to a friend of mine that I really didn’t get a good look at her because it was dark (MESSAGE!). My friend, who loves the light-skinnededs, assured me that she looked good.

One week later, we met up for drinks and… let’s just say that never have I so blatantly looked at a woman’s D-cups for so long during a first date trying to justify her “beauty.”

Didn’t work.

3. Every Light-Skinned Girl Looks Good at 3 AM

Two dudes went to a party, met two girls, and they seemed to hit it off. When the party ended, the girls told the dudes they’d see them at the after party. The girls were late (of course), so the guys went to find other forms of entertainment at the party. Sure enough, the girls showed up, ready to get it in. Dude A tossed aside whatever broad he was chatting with to the side.

HOWEVAH…Dude B was completely enamored with some light-skinned jawn he’d met while waiting and was slow-grinding her in the corner. One good look at this girl and Dude B (and most of the free world) could tell this broad wasn’t cutting it. Dude B desperately tried to convince his friend that the original girl (who had that “Take me home and f–k me” look on her face) was the move. Unfortunately, Dude A would have none of it. The original girls ended up leaving. To make matters worse, Dude B didn’t even close the deal with the new chick.

The next day, over breakfast, Dude B came to his senses.

“Yeah, I was wildin’,” he realized. She wasn’t even cute.”

She was just light-skinned.

If you’re my age, which is 21+(insert prime number here), you’ve probably fallen victim to at least one of those okeydokes. If you’re one of those dudes who still think 90% of hip-hop videos are great because, “There’s maaaaad b!tches in that video, son!” then you’ve probably been hoodwinked more than a few times. C’mon, son. Stop doing it to yourself. Now, I’m not saying to completely leave light-skinned girls alone. However, next time you find yourself interested in a girl of said complexion, just ask yourself, “Is she cute…or is she Kryptonite?”

As Real As It Gets,

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  • Better known as Trin

    Well said!!
    Sometimes just get off the redbone jaw already….geesh

    • SaneN85

      Welcome and all that good stuff!

  • Lola

    This is a good post! Lol.. welcome…

    I think this can be attributed to Latinas/Hispanics… I've seen some gorgeous brothers, I mean, drop dead gorgeous with the most ugliest girls ever!!! I asked someone what they saw in them and all he was able to say was because she spoke Spanish…. #Fail.

  • QueenBinthestreets..

    Well I'm blessed to be light-skinned(not that it is in any way superior/prettier) AND Good-Looking!! HEYYYYY!!! YAYYY for ME ****brushes off shoulder and does her fanciest dance**** SHOUTOUT TO ALL THE PRETTY fair-skinned Classy girls House-nuccas!!! House-nuccas!!! LMAO Im just kidding…noone get all RAlphy T in here please

  • http://drsuki.blogspot.com S dot Something

    Nice post and all. Just can't believe we're on this LSDS stuff. Everyone knows DS wins, no hands.

    Lmao but I couldn't get past #2. "I gotta go, I gotta go, I gotta go!" Strobelite shorties. I'm so sick. LMAO

    Everyone looks good in strobelights and at 3am too. It's the Swindle. >_< I gotta go.

  • Hebrew Princess

    I used to think people were past that "@ least she's light-skinned" phase (since it is 2010 & all that…lol). But alas, I move to Atl & every song that mentions a females attributes has a "light-skinned/long hair" reference. All I can do is smh &/or laugh. Obviously light skin doesn't automatically pretty nor does it automatically mean you'll have long hair. But hey I don't take offense because everyone is allowed to have their preference & I personally have guy friends who say they'll only date a light-skinned girl but are still trying to get at me to this day & I am nowhere near being light-skinned. All I have to say is that I've been a witness to some females (born & bred in the South) who have self esteem issues because of this backwards (lighter is better) way of thinking. I had one lady at my current job who absolutely hated my lighter co-worker because "she thinks she's cute because she's light-skinned" but yet obsessed over her "pretty skin & hair"…*bbm confused face*. So yeah not only guys od just because a chick is light-skinned. Sad situation because pretty is pretty no matter what complexion (in my opinion) *shrug*

    • BP

      "Sad situation because pretty is pretty no matter what complexion (in my opinion) *shrug*"

      In my opinion as well.

    • guest

      Your co worker is jealous. She thinks the other girl's light skin is pretty. Hair is pretty. But she thinks she's cute because she's light skinned. Jealous. This is one reason lights get a bad rap. For jealous darks lying on them. But of course, there are lights who are mean to the darks. Either way in this case, girl is jealous.

  • http://www.nicklodeon.wordpress.com Nick@Nite

    "somethin ain't right, it's the strobelight"

    Love that song!

    well, I don't benefit from any of this.. I'm somewhere in the middle. Which works out for me just fine.

    I have a friend, dark as the day is long and he won't look at a dark-skinned woman. "I gotta look out for the kids." YEAH!? well, who looked out for YOU!

    Like it or not, it's like the lighter someone is, the uglier they can be. Like light skin gets them a pass. I don't spend much time thinking about it, but it's not the most attractive mindset..

    • Camille

      Good point!

    • passion4lawatl

      It is unfair to assume just because a person is light skinned they have a bad attitude. That is just as bad a saying a dark skin person is unattractive. Get real my sista….we need to quit it

    • hallie

      So dude wont date a dark sista because he's so dark and don't want dark kids? What if the opp sex feels the same way as he doesn't want dark kids and therefore stays away from dark guys like he avoids dark girls. But he's running in their face, like me? Then how does he feel? I don't think a pot should call a kettle black.

  • QueenT

    Welcome!

    This post is very true. It irritates me to no end. I have always received alot of attention from the brothas because I am light-skinned. That's the first thing outta their mouths…some reference to my skin tone. I had one man say to me "he always wanted to have s*x with a light-skinned woman to see her skintone up against his in bed"…he sounds like an idiot! Some dudes get a brain aneurism when they see a light-skinned girl…case in point, Kat Stacks..who is not that cute..but light-skinned (Brazilian)..and men are running thru her(Black Men)..if she was dark-skinned would that be the case? I doubt it

    • http://twitter.com/S0_FLYY So Flyy

      Some dudes get a brain aneurism when they see a light-skinned girl…case in point, Kat Stacks…

      Church. Tabernacle. Mosque. Temple. Chapel. Worship Center. Kingdom Hall.

      There is nothing remotely cute about Kat Stacks. NOTHING. She looks like Swizzy. Now, if you think Swizzy is cute then aiight, I guess. #AllHomoEverything

      • QueenT

        She has the facial features of a roach to me…..and please don't get me started on that voice!

        • redlady821

          who or what is a kat stacks? please tell me…because i saw a video on you tube and saw a girl with fake boobs and a filthy mouth talking about how she just f*d a coke head…who is this person?

        • http://twitter.com/S0_FLYY So Flyy

          Red she's a ho-fessional. Kat Stacks is to Superhead as Chris Brown is to Michael Jackson.

          This article shall explain it all w/ humor: http://www.awesomelyluvvie.com/2010/07/dear-kat-s

      • http://earsandlps.blogspot.com LaBakir

        Her face is ridiculously strong.

        On some Terry Crews sh*t.

      • redlady821

        @ So Flyy, thank you, I've been appropriately brought up to speed.

    • http://thebookofjackson.blogspot.com Dr.J

      Kat Stacks is Venezuelan and a genius.

      • http://twitter.com/S0_FLYY So Flyy

        Genius J? Do tell.

        & no, having the twitter world buzzing about your #hoshit does not a genius make. Twitter talks about EVERYTHING & receiving 'twel hunnid muhfuggin dollas' w/ a side of 3 beat downs has me wondering about her not only her business acumen but her mental capacity to understand #hoshit.

        • http://earsandlps.blogspot.com LaBakir

          I think he was referring to her brain giving capabilities

    • http://twitter.com/streetztalk Streetz

      "I had one man say to me “he always wanted to have s*x with a light-skinned woman to see her skintone up against his in bed”

      Im sorry I couldn't get past this line…lol

      And anyone who would hitoff Kat Stacks, I question your taste.

    • Starita34

      Kat Stacks gets ran through cause she likes getting run through! (Lots of) Men love them an easy meal…

      • http://nianaturally.blogspot.com N.I.A. naturally

        Right. I don't think men like her b/c she's light. They like her because she's easy.

        • Starita34

          You know?!? on that "Who am I to keep this good d!ck from her if she wants it dawg?"

    • http://sleep-is-the-cousin-of-death.blogspot.com/ MadScientist7

      a lot of women that clown kat stacks facial features have no room to talk. #justsaying

      • BP

        #shots!

        • http://nianaturally.blogspot.com N.I.A. naturally

          He's absolutely right, though. Especially some of the women on twitter.

        • http://sleep-is-the-cousin-of-death.blogspot.com/ MadScientist7

          on twitter or dare is say on this very site. *shrug*

        • Starita34

          D@MN!! Shots fired! Shots Fired!!

      • QueenT

        If that shot was fired at me…you are more than entitled to your opinion..and what I said about Kat Stacks..still stands.

        #thatisall.

    • SweetKiwi

      Honestly I think Kat Stacks was a dude….???? her features are a lil too strong… and not in a good way!!!LOL!!!

  • redlady821

    I guess this post is true but I haven't had my coffee yet and it's early and it's Friday.

    I have a light complexion and I don't remember many men making a big deal about it. When I blow my hair out and it goes all down my back they act pretty retarded, but I always thought it was a hair thing moreso than a light skinned thing.

    I've seen plenty of light skinned women with short, dry, broken off busted hair…light skinned doesn't automatically equate good hair…and light doesn't automatically mean pretty either, but that's with any woman of any complexion, ever hear "oh you're really pretty to be so dark" men say dumb ish like that too…

  • Mari

    It's still the hot topic around. I heard a co-worker say it like it was fda approved. He sounded like an azz.

  • http://thebookofjackson.blogspot.com Dr.J

    A few of you, also have … wait i'm trying to quote someone here, "huge breasts". I think that a light skin woman with huge breasts is what us men like to call, "a GAME CHANGING PERFORMANCE."

    So a lot of you are like, yeah no one ever brings up my complexion, and that's probably why. And if they do, it's because they didn't want to say, "Damn look at them t*tties!"

    • redlady821

      OK Dr. J…..

    • Misty

      lol. Maybe so

  • http://twitter.com/mrspradley TheMostInterestingMa

    Shout out to Strafe on the check-in. The Mafia runs SBM today.

    Pardon me for that folks – I had to.

    That said – I think I invented the quote "She ain't cute, she's just light skinned" in my circle. Alot of times you have to tell your boy… "look man, if she had dark skin but the same everything else… body, facial structure, all that… would you still think she's "bad"? Some dudes are really brainwashed. What's funny to me is that if black women were as picky about black men, as black men are about black women, our race would die out because nobody would sleep with nobody. When Weezy said "I like a long haired thick red-bone" I laughed out loud… n*gga, have you looked in the mirror lately? C'mon son. Also – Beyonce in real life, is not light skinned. She's very much brown.

    I do think there's some truth to the idea that black men like features that seemingly oppose one another. Some-what darker skin with straighter, wavy hair (I'm looking at you HebrewPricess). Light skin (or White) with a big butt (read – latina).

    Also, hair cannot be, intrinsically "good" or "bad". It can be done good or bad but in my book, all hair is good hair as long as you make it look good.

    Me personally, I really do love em' all. I just love women… black women I mean. All shapes, sizes, complexions. (well almost all sizes… I have my limits).

    Also, I was busy yesterday – shout out to the Latinas… my wife's mom was born and raised in Costa Rica – so I gotta show them love. But I think alot of times what happens with black men and latinas (this is relevant to today's topic) is that black men want latinas because they can get all the things they love in a black women, and all the things they love in a white woman in one package deal. Big Butt, big hips, long straight hair, motherly-TakeCareOfYour man tendancies. And – on top of it all, most times, latinas will let you smash pretty quickly (that's the perception). And, they don't have to deal with the stigma of "oh you made it and went and married a white girl".

    • http://twitter.com/lhautevie Little Miss Sunshine

      latinas will let you smash pretty quickly o.0

      no apoyarlo.

      • http://twitter.com/mrspradley TheMostInterestingMa

        Me neither sushine… but that's definitely the perception amongst many a crew of black men.

      • Lola

        No co-sign. Latinas do not let you smash quicker or easier, if they do they're garden utensils simple as that.

        • http://blackbrucewayne718.tumblr.com/ BLaCk Bruce WaYnE

          I'll beg to differ. It depends on the brand of Latin woman.

          No disrespect and excuse me for the generalization to my PR people out there but PR women tend not to be as much of an obstacle as compared to DR women….

          No offense #imjustsayin

    • http://nianaturally.blogspot.com N.I.A. naturally

      co-sign.

      Is it me, or has Bey gotten lighter every year since her first solo album? Everytime I look up, she seems to be darn near white, and I know she's not that light. Especially when she's in those make-up and hair color ads. smh…

      • GirlSixx

        I said this years ago!! But she isn't the only one that seem to have gotten more on the lighter/brighter shade of the brown spectrum since reaching stardom.

        Kerry Washington, Gabrielle Union, Vivica A Fox, just to name a few..

    • Hebrew Princess

      I think you're on to something there Most…("black men like features that seemingly oppose one another"). I know this because (ignorant) people have told me that I get a pass (for being dark-skinned) because I have "good/long" hair. :( My father always told me: "Everyone's hair is good because God gave it to you & its on your head." I agree!

    • http://thebookofjackson.blogspot.com Dr.J

      I'm quite upset at this "latinas will let you smash quicker" or whatever you said. But if that's how your crew rolls…

      Maybe it's the flipside, black women put the p*ssy on a pedestal. I've been since documented that I get worried because i'll try and have relations with a black woman and get hit with this, 120-credit curriculum to get in them jeans. AND it's a "working" document, meaning based on a reaction to a bunch of ish that some other dude did.

      • http://seveneighteen.wordpress.com William H. Strafe

        Church.

      • http://blackbrucewayne718.tumblr.com/ BLaCk Bruce WaYnE

        Well noted!

      • CHeeKZ Money

        its a pedestal.

        I think Latinas have more of a since of "one of many"

        While here we are raising them to think "they are worth so much"

        IMHO

    • Thomas

      Beyonce brown? Say WHAT? She's not even light. She's PALE. Get a pic of her without her tan. She stays tanning all the time in the sun, on the beach, and she's still light skinned. Without that tan she's just as light as her Creole mother, grandmother, etc.

      Creole = 1/4 French (not white american but the original europeans french), 1/4 Spanish, 1/4 Native American, 1/4 Black.

      They are usually VERY, VERY, VERY pale people, because they are only 1/4th Black and the Caucasian blood they have comes from unmixed european blood, French that invaded Louisiana. Not the (mostly mixed) Causasians that most White Americans are now days.

  • J

    I have to question the motivations of people that constantly feel the need to point out how unattractive a light skinned person is. I think there motivations are pretty much that same as dudes that only date light skinned girls. It's an obsession with light skinned manifesting itself in different ways.

    Like really, if your man likes a girl and you don't think she is attractive, why are you breaking your neck to point out that he is being bambozzled by her light skin? I mean that's pretty much an admission that you think her light skinned is speacial and makes her attractive regardless of her other physical features.

    If you light big butts is that wrong? If you like breast is that wrong? So why can't a dude like light skin? We all have certain traits we find attractive and light skinned just happens to one of them. If you obssess over one trait that's your issue to deal with.

    I'm just sayin I get a little tired of these post and comments that I see where some dude or female feels like they need to point out how unattractive some light skinned people are.

    For the record I am light skinned and it's always been funny to me that the dudes that swear they only date light skinned girls are always dark skinned. Most light skinned dudes date anybody and more than likely they date dark skinned girls.

    Isn't this website full of Greeks…..I thought yall loved light skinned people…:-) ROFL

    • http://earsandlps.blogspot.com LaBakir

      I don't think the motive of the post was to point out how unattractive light skin people can be…but the notion that light is right. That some people truly feel (or convince themselves) that individuals are attractive just b/c they have light-skinned complexion #Fab

      • J

        But it's almost like yall are sayin a dude can't date a light skinned chick unless she is 10 in every category. And if she is not he is just with her because she is light skinned.

        Just sounds like even the people who claim they aren't obsessed with light skin are obsessed with it in other ways.

        • http://earsandlps.blogspot.com LaBakir

          I didn't take that from the post or most of the comments at all.

          I just took it as a dude admitting he's hollered at chicks SIMPLY b/c they are lightskin.

          No different than my homie only dating guys who are 6'5 and up. What they look like in the face is an after thought. Being tall get them "in" with her.

        • http://sleep-is-the-cousin-of-death.blogspot.com/ MadScientist7

          the problem is that people add points for being light skinned. me, you get points for looking good period.

        • Misty

          No it's not. It's about addressing the hierarchy that was created in the mindset of some folks that goes back all the way to slavery where light skinned were in the house and dark skinned were in the field, and in that throughout history encouraged low self esteem among those who were dark-skinned or brown skinned. It's about addressing the fact that all complexions are equally beautiful, but are not equally recognized as such.

    • Eddie Brock

      LOL @ the "greeks" comment. Two of my old co-workers [both greek, both very dark-skinned] had this same obsession with light-skinned women. I always found it kind of odd that you join an organization that supposedly promotes Black solidarity and purposely cut yourself off from one section of your own kind because they're "too Black".

      #doublefacepalm

  • BP

    Welcome! Good post.

    So I fit the mold of the" light skin, long hair, pretty girl." For a long time I felt like it was a disadvantage because I often doubted why some men were really trying to talk to me. I don't want to be anyone's "trophy piece" because the color of my skin or the length of my hair. I have a friend who is very beautiful (with a perfect body) and I think she doesn't get as much attention because she is mocha chocolate with short hair. This is 2010 and that baffles me.

    • Chocolate Drop

      I don't understand how you equate what you look like to being a "trophy wife".

      • BP

        I almost feel like you are trying to call me out but this is the internet so let me just answer your question. In the past the men I have dated were known for dating a certain caliber of woman with a a certain look. A woman of any hue can have a beautiful exterior but be a chicken head, chicken fed, with a d*ck in her mouth. So I wasn't implying that only light skin are "trophies".

        However, if you look at 9 out 10 famous black actors, atheletes or musicians their wives/women are of a lighter hue. Case in point:

        Chris Rock

        Martin Lawrence

        Kobe Bryant

        Reggie Bush

        Jay Z

        Kevin Garnett

        Do I agree with this? NO.

      • truth

        I do. Because she's light skin. Long hair. In most instances that equals trophy. Pretty. In my world it does. In her world it does. It's sad that people treat lighter women like this then get mad when it is talked about. Men flock to this type of girl. I've seen you. And YOU'VE SEEN IT, don't act brand new! Then want to be mean to the girl when she mentions it. It's the world we live in.

  • GirlSixx

    I can't believe in this day and age "The Plantation Syndrome" (what i like to call it) is still plaguing society, they still haven't found a vaccine for this yet?

    *bbm eye roll*

    Scenario 1 and 2 was funny though! *lol*

  • http://twitter.com/lhautevie Little Miss Sunshine

    yay halfways (aka the brown skins)

    I will agree that the obsession w/ light skin will often lead individuals (men and women) to date people who wouldn't be attractive in any other skin tone. I say bring on the chocolate- yum Idris. :)

  • http://nianaturally.blogspot.com N.I.A. naturally

    I've seen this same phenomenon with men who date Asians, Latinas, Indians, etc. I understand having a preference, but dang, why can't your preference be pretty? I knew a dude who only dated Chinese women, but he never dated pretty Chinese women. Instead, he would date "Westernized" blond hair, blue eyed, heavy make-up wearing, pancake ass mud duck chicks. WTF? People should start with having a preference for pretty or handsome, and then work from there. That way, you will never fall into the trap.

    • Seven

      *pancake ass* Haaaaaaaaaaaaaa

    • Miss Martinique

      LOL @ pancake a$$.

      Ugly needs love too…;)

  • http://sleep-is-the-cousin-of-death.blogspot.com/ MadScientist7

    i've always gone by the mantra that "busted comes in all complexions".

    one word: tiny. if anyone thinks she looks good then they need their head examined. and guess what? she's light skinned.

    i hold a pretty face above all else. above double d's. above a phat a$$. in the end beauty wins and beauty has nothing to do with complexion. i'm dark skinned myself but i have no preference when it comes to hue. *shrug* now some of my friends on the other hand i just shake my head at. especially a lot of my friends from new orleans. i swear i think that creole >>> nonsense is taught to them in elementary school.

    • Misty

      Hopefully not above personality, because beauty doesn't last. It's okay if she has a pretty face, but if she's a jerk and eventually (even if she stays in shape and all) you guys get older, her body and face will change. And if she's a jerk, it makes her look even uglier.

  • Chocolate Goddess

    I think my name warrants no co-sign; however…..

    I've always thought the comparison of complexion was wiggedy wack. Call me sheltered, but I didn't encounter the whole LS vs DS thing until my late teens and that's ONLY because one of my bff's (chocolate girl) pointed out to me that she had gotten teased during her youth. Then my eyes opened up…

    I never used to think twice of people complimenting me on my beautiful even toned chocolate complexion or saying "you're pretty for a darkskinned girl" until I got older. I then came to the realization that people saw my looks as "different" from other darkskinned girls (1st problem is we don't all look alike) because of the texture of my skin, my nose isn't wide, my lips are pink and not full. That's when I started to give people a piece of my mind…

    I had a full blown argument with a good friend because he blatantly told me that "LS women are naturally more attractive that DS women, but I can get a pass". The worst part is that he was dead azz serious and saw nothing wrong with his comment. smh.

    *fastforwarding the argument*

    Needlesstosay, I still don't see what the big deal. It doesn't matter what complexion a women is because I don't see anyone as competition. I just keep on doing me…

  • http://earsandlps.blogspot.com LaBakir

    If you're attractive, your attractive…regardless of your skin color.

    Not sure how people are that caught up in skin complexion. Growing up, my mother didn't play those games. We weren't allowed to use the terms "light skin, dark skin" or "good hair, bad hair" growing up.

    • Chocolate Goddess

      Amen to that!

      We didn't have that language in my house either. Mainly bc all of my mother's children and most of my family vary in complexions/hair textures/hair lengths and we loved each other all the same.

      The bad thing is many people grow up in that environment. How many ignorant people have children and raise them with values like their own?…

      • http://earsandlps.blogspot.com LaBakir

        Exactly!

        My siblings and I are different complexions. Growing up, my grandmother used to pull the lightskin swindle w/ my mother and her siblings, hence the reason why Mama LaBakir don't play those games.

        • http://seveneighteen.wordpress.com William H. Strafe

          Those are great points.

          My father is, like me, a dark-skinned person. Meanwhile, his sister (my aunt) was the epitome of, "Lighter than that!" Yet I never looked at her as "light-skinned" or saw any issue with the difference in our skin tones. She was just my aunt.

          I guess we all get corrupted at some point. Damn you, BET.

  • http://twitter.com/streetztalk Streetz

    In my younger days (teens) I used to fall for the "light skinned swindle", but as I got older, and smartened up, I saw women for being beautiful period. No reason to not like what you like, but limiting yourself is idiotic. Hey, yalll simple dudes do that, more for me :D

    • Chocolate Goddess

      Ignorance is a curable disease. I'm glad you got past it…

      • Chocolate Drop

        AMEN!!!!! Whoever said ignorance is bliss is full of shit.

  • http://codecipher.blogspot.com MeteorMan

    This fascination with light-skinned women for the sake of them being light-skinned is something I never understood. I always seen it as a mentality due to brainwashing. To me it basically says, "She's nice because she looks white. I almost get to be with a white woman!" Said in the most coonish, reconstructionary tone possible. Yeah…

  • Starita34

    "Dawg…she’s not cute…she’s just light-skinned." #Tiny

    • http://earsandlps.blogspot.com LaBakir

      LMAO!!!

      *in Tiny's voice* Hey baaaaaaby!

  • new2natural

    "But I think alot of times what happens with black men and latinas (this is relevant to today’s topic) is that black men want latinas because they can get all the things they love in a black women, and all the things they love in a white woman in one package deal. Big Butt, big hips, long straight hair, motherly-TakeCareOfYour man tendancies. And – on top of it all, most times, latinas will let you smash pretty quickly (that’s the perception). And, they don’t have to deal with the stigma of “oh you made it and went and married a white girl”.

    @Most- you hit the nail on the head—

    I'm dark-skinned and I grew up in NC and I'm in ATL now. I have a cousin who is mixed and she used to get ALL the attention…and I do mean ALL—she was 2 of the 3L's as I've heard it mentioned–light skin, long hair. I used to feel some kind of way about it because I didn't get NO love.

    Moved to ATL and it actually evened out here (when I first came), and I really didn't notice as much difference in attention between me and my light-skinned friends. It's funny because I've always had light (very light) skinned friends and YES the bruhs would always look at them first, but it was cool. I actually have one friend with the 3L's- Light skin, long hair, light eyes. That was an interesting dynamic because when we went out there was no "competition" so to speak, because the guys who were looking for her type weren't checking for me and vice versa. But in the past, yeah, the bruhs generally AT LEAST looked if not said something to my light-skinned friends first.

    It is what it is. I stopped letting that bother me a long time ago, but I do recognize it.

    Good post!

  • http://thebookofjackson.blogspot.com Dr.J

    I think that Light-Skin girls stick out because they have a tendency glow in the dark. In a crowded, pitch black club, I just don't see brown to dark skinned girls that well.

    #thatwasracistashell

    And why do people always cosign on the dark skin girl like she's charity? "Kelly Rowland is prettier than Beyonce." People like that should have their speaking rights revoked. If you truly believe that, you're just dumb.

    I will admit, light skin girls ride that ish until the wheels fall off. Ain't nothing like a ugly girl regardless of her complexion, hair length, or eye color. Wait… stop.. I take that back about the eyes. Hazel eyes are BAWSE.

    I just started writing a remake to School Daze and the Gamma Rays are being played Elecktrik Red and they got their solo singing the lead….

    "I whip my hair back and forth, I whip my hair back and forth…." #gogirlitsyourbday

    (On the low, I can tell all the redbone jawns in the club saying that to themselves as they take a lap around the club. Meanwhile, i'm trying to upgrade her, mumbling, "bad yellow b*tch keep my passenger seat warm…)

    • Chocolate Goddess

      huh? lol.

      WAYYY over my head.

    • SaneN85

      "I think that Light-Skin girls stick out because they have a tendency glow in the dark."

      BWAHAHA!

    • http://sleep-is-the-cousin-of-death.blogspot.com/ MadScientist7

      "People like that should have their speaking rights revoked. If you truly believe that, you’re just dumb."

      based just on facial features, i think it's a toss up and i'm far from dumb. *shrug*

    • WAChick

      I strongly believe Kelly Rowland is prettier than Beyonce and I, too, am far from dumb. And, I know several straight men who would co-sign.

      People put Beyonce on such a high pedestal, like she's THE standard of beauty or something. She's definitely pretty, but um, yeah, my opinion ^^ stands.

      • http://sleep-is-the-cousin-of-death.blogspot.com/ MadScientist7

        exactly. beyonce is pretty but she's just not my cup of tea.

      • tgtaggie

        Back when DC first came out Bey was prettier than Kelly. Now I would say they are about even with Kelly getting the edge.

        • CHeeKZ Money

          Letoya Luckett for the win…..

    • Seven

      You are such a sick sick man… Haaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa I love your random thoughts…you remind me of a very close friend of mine. Hysterical. If you haven't already…you should write a book…call it Random Sh*t. I'd buy it. Haaaaaaaaaaaa

    • redlady821

      Wow you are one sick puppy but I am laughing at what you wrote.

    • Nina

      "And why do people always cosign on the dark skin girl like she's charity? "Kelly Rowland is prettier than Beyonce." People like that should have their speaking rights revoked. If you truly believe that, you're just dumb."

      BEST POST I'VE READ ALL YEAR! REAL TALK!

      You know I've often said that. They are some that are CLEARLY…CLEAR-LY…not as pretty. Or some that are down right ugly. And people run to say "She's pretty" when in your mind you and the rest are thinking that chic knows she is ugly why are you patronizing?

      Or the charity case of ok looking but placing her above another girl who everyone KNOWS is the ish like Bey and Kelly Rowland, "Kelly always was prettier than Beyonce" lol who are you fooling? Trying to give Kelly points and put down the Beyonce's BECAUSE YOU KNOW that Beyonce is prettier? That is so transperant, it simply doesn't work and it makes Kelly look as you said, like a charity case.

    • Tell It

      THANK YOU! THANK YOU! AND THANK YOU~!

      @

      "And why do people always cosign on the dark skin girl like she's charity? "Kelly Rowland is prettier than Beyonce." People like that should have their speaking rights revoked. If you truly believe that, you're just dumb."

      THEY KNOW DARN WELL THAT CRAP ISN'T TRUE~!

      And like you I also feel it's the sympathy hand when the dark girl is given all this praise when you KNOW she's not cute!
      Or not THAT cute!

  • SaneN85

    I'd like to say the whole light-skinned points thing is a myth, but I believe it. On more than one occasion, I've had "redbone" (or something similar) yelled at me from across a room, store, or club. This is long before they've even seen my face. When my hair is straight (and you can tell how long it is), I get 2x as much attention. When people find out I have Mexican in me, it's over. However, this doesn't mean squat because the men that focus on that tend to have some undesirable qualities (ex-con, 4 baby mamas, etc.).

    The decent men who seem to pay more attention to me don't seem to be doing it intentionally (seems to be a subconscious thing), so I don't hold it against them. *shrugs*

    In the end, if I had darker skin (and even now), I wouldn't be worried about these type of men anyhow. They aren't for me if that's what they focus on.

    SN: Sorry if I missed any newcomers yesterday, these bastids are actually expecting me to work this week.

    • DeKeLa

      oh you are part Mexican… ven aqui mami

      • SaneN85

        Ahhh, it's the Mexican that tips me over the edge, huh? LOL

        • DeKeLa

          Now if you can make a slamming mexican omelette in the morning and Meatloaf/mash potatotes in the evening. Im yours!

    • Trina

      Yeap i'm with you on t hat. I have a native american background on both sides and because of my skin and hair guys will ask. And even when i deny it, they keep pondering. "see i knew you had something else in you" lol men.

    • Nicie

      Nope. Girl I'm the same way and even the educated me act this way. Then even more so than the broke ones. Go into a neighborhood of upwardly mobile educated black men and see what their women look like. Trust me, they higher the income the lighter the female.

  • Tha Bo$s

    Hilarious bro, but very true #ShitHappens

  • http://twitter.com/bitchujusmad YoungestMILF

    Ok…now every "progressive" black man who authored a reply (or the post itself) post up pictures of the last five women you seriously dated. I'm going to have my paper bag out ready to judge you.

    My beef with this piece is that anyone can walk the walk, but also still show up with Light Bright Barbie to Mom's house for Christmas.

    Forgive me for being cynical, but…I'm on that Sunshine Anderson. I've heard it all before.

    • http://sleep-is-the-cousin-of-death.blogspot.com/ MadScientist7

      "Ok…now every “progressive” black man who authored a reply (or the post itself) post up pictures of the last five women you seriously dated. I’m going to have my paper bag out ready to judge you."

      not that i have anything to prove and i don't have pics but:

      dark skinned (darker than me), light bright damn near white, caramel, dark skinned (bout my complexion) and caramel.

    • http://twitter.com/mrspradley TheMostInterestingMa

      Yo, I appreciate the card pull you just did. Not mad at it. Those of you who follow me on twitter or know me in real life have seen my wife. She's about my complexion maybe darker, maybe lighter, depending on which one of us have been in the sun longer. We're both smack dab in the middle – brown people.

      But prior to her I would say I've only had 2 other serious relationships. The first was Puerto Rican – a very fair skinned Puerto Rican. The next was a very dark skinned Jamaican. Now – besides them, I've been with other women who are at those ends of the spectrum and everywhere in between…

    • http://www.twitter.com/Stank_0 Stank_0

      Hmmm….

      reverse order: S/O lighter than me

      #2. slightly less dark than me

      #3 nice shade of brown

      #4 Iranian, lighter than me

      #5 Uzbek, lighter than me

  • roger dean de gyal d

    Well done bliggity dear boy! Good read and true as well.

  • http://www.pinchmycheekie.wordpress.com Cheekie

    "Every black man (and when I say every Black man, I use that term as loosely as a Hunts Point hooker) would love to have a little light-skinneded thing on their arm."

    Wait, don't the light-bright niccas usually for more darker chicks? I always notice both genders do this, go for the opposite skin tone.

    Also, I'm *DEAD* @ "table face."

    • J

      It's true. Light skinned chicks usually date dark skinned dudes and light skinned dudes usually date dark skinned chicks.

      As a light skinned dude I can tell you I date all skin tones and can care less about it. But I find more often than not a dark skinned chick can be a dime but dark skinned dudes are so busy chasin light skinned girls they don't approach. Fine with me…..I'll take all the dark skinned dimes for myself. :-)

      And then part of it is my skin tone. I have no doubt that some dark skinned girls are in love with my skin tone. Fine wit me …….LOL. It's just a part of who you are like anything else.

      Then some girls only like dark skinned dudes. No problem for me. Like who you like.

    • Eddie Brock

      #offtopic

      I read something you wrote on VSB about someone with a "Zach Morris cellphone" that almost got me fired for laughing so loud the other day.

      Kudos for your mutant abstract references abilities

      8)

  • J

    Ok so if 90% of people think straight teeth are attractive have they been brainwashed? Or do we just all agree that straight teeth are attractive.

    Devil's Advocate over here…

    • DeKeLa

      The same can be said of any distinct characteristic.

      Like women liking Tall dudes, cuz they are tall.. same issue, but no one complains about it.

      • J

        (Jewish Eddie Murphy Voice) A-Ha!

        Exactly

    • Anike Love

      Late…as…hell…BUT!

      C'mon, we can't really be trying to compare having straight teeth and dating tall guys to complexion!! We are only so caught up in this whole conversation because this issue is so deeply rooted. Furthermore, it's not an issue that's unique to ppl in the US, you can find examples of it all around the world.

      I've been to the UK, and those bammas don't care about straight teeth! Dentist anyone?!

    • Darin

      J I agree with you.

      Just because White people have always placed themselves in advertisements as we as Blacks would do the same, and just because most famous models are light skinned like Tyra Banks and Halle Berry, doesn't mean that most women do not look attractive in that skin tone.

      Honestly, I believe that women are more attractive in a Tyra Banks, Kerry Washington, Jada Pinkett, Beyonce, Sanaa Lathan, Jill Scott skin tones rather than Gabrielle Union, India Arie, Kelly Rowland skin tones. Women are thought of as feminine and whether we like it or not, darker skin tones take away from the softness and feminine look of a female. Darken the skin tone the harder or less feminine the female looks.

      Some may call this racist. I call it, truth.

      • Chanelle

        so lighter skin equals more feminine features? That sounds ridiculous

  • J

    My last five….let's see if I can even remember since I haven't been dating but:

    1. Dark Skinned

    2. Light Skinned

    3. Brown Skinned

    4. Dark Skinned

    5. Light Skinned

    • http://thebookofjackson.blogspot.com Dr.J

      If folks start posting their last 5, this post would get HILARIOUS…

      1. FiF.

      2. FiF.

      3. FiF.

      4. FiF.

      5. FiF.

    • http://twitter.com/streetztalk Streetz

      LAMO @ your standard deviation bell curve of dating!

      • J

        Told you I don't discriminate. But it's really not a bell curve. If I looked at all the girls I've dated…dark skinned girls are the majority.

    • Hugh Jazz

      Last five (from current to least current):

      Bi-racial (white and black)

      Light-skinned

      Light-skinned

      Brown-skinned

      Dark-skinned

      Wait…I think I just made YoungestMILF's point…and it looks like I'm eventually drifting to white girl!

      This is just a coincidence!

      • http://twitter.com/S0_FLYY So Flyy

        Lmfao. Hugh you get some comeback points for being my e-luvah. As Dr. J & Streetz can attest to, I'm very much so brown.

        • Hugh Jazz

          Brown skin…up against my high yellow skin! LOL

        • http://twitter.com/S0_FLYY So Flyy

          Bwhahahaha… I'd like to thank Queen for that line that I will now had to my e-textual relationship w/ Hugh. We'll make a pretty jpeg baby apparently.

  • http://twitter.com/streetztalk Streetz

    Shout to J

    You are carrying the cross for all fairer skin blacks right now.

    Damn you got "Lightson" across your belly or sumfin?

    LMAOO

    • J

      Yeah I forgot yall homey name….he hasn't been on in a minute. He was like the only other light skinned dude on here.

  • http://thewhittiest.wordpress.com TheWhittiest

    So…this post definitely hits home with me, especially since I grew up in South Louisiana. I may have told this story before, but hey, it's a good, but tragic story.

    Girl and guy are great friends. They do everything together. Eat after church, shop, watch the game, play COD, go on cultural events, cooking together, etc. They're basically dating. They ultimately become intimate, and everything remains all fine and dandy until one day, they have a couple drinks together, as they've done before. They're talking about the future and everything–Tipsy, yet quite a deep conversation. All of sudden, guy tells girl, "If you were light-skinned, we'd be married by now." Girl pauses, and ultimately, sobers up quickly.

    I have had a couple encounters in which men just wished I was lighter. It's only a grace of God that I love the skin I am in–truly it is. It saddens me that many black men just don't want a dark-skinned woman. #truth

    • http://earsandlps.blogspot.com LaBakir

      *jaw drops*

      WOW

      • http://www.twitter.com/shubby_doo shubby doo

        Mine too. That's some twisted $hit. He's more than just a little confused.com

    • http://twitter.com/streetztalk Streetz

      What an idiot!

    • new2natural

      #nobueno

    • GirlSixx

      #wipesscreenwithwindex

      Ummm… hmmm… #confused

    • Hugh Jazz

      "I have had a couple encounters in which men just wished I was lighter."

      Looks at picture.

      Gets slighty irritated, wondering what is wrong with dude.

      Stops to reflect the average IQ is 100.

      Irritability subsides.

      And people doubt the light-skinned swindle is real?

    • http://seveneighteen.wordpress.com William H. Strafe

      And THAT is the reason for today's post.

    • http://nianaturally.blogspot.com N.I.A. naturally

      My jaw hit my desk! I can't believe that. Actually, I can. South Carolina isn't any better. smh…

      Did I tell you all about the guy who told me I looked like I used to be light-skin, said with this sad, longing look in his eye? smh… It's a shame.

      • http://thewhittiest.wordpress.com TheWhittiest

        I know right. When guys all light-skinned warped, there is nothing you can do.

        But don't let us flip the script. If I end up with a non-brotha, everybody going to have something to say. My Indian-male friend and I went to Fox Sports Grill (black bar in Atl after 8pm). We had some of the craziest/side-comments. The black men were looking at me like I sold out or something. It wasn't even like that; we were just on the same tennis team and he was in town.

        Smh…sometimes I wonder.

        • http://earsandlps.blogspot.com LaBakir

          Seriously! In high school I dated a Filipino and caught hell for it.

          I've also received snide comments about a picture of me and my Colombian friend (on Facebook)…smh

        • http://twitter.com/S0_FLYY So Flyy

          Been there… went on a few dates w/ this Indian guy and I have never been looked at so much in my life. Black dudes were jah disrespectful to him too until he cuffed me kinda tight like, "Nah son. I got this."

        • SaneN85

          This right here is why I very rarely mention that my ex-husband was a white boy through and through.

        • http://twitter.com/S0_FLYY So Flyy

          Really Sane? I never would've guessed. Hmph.

        • SaneN85

          @SoFlyy, I'm not sure how I should take that "hmph". LOL

          I've mentioned it here before, but it's not something I talk about all the time or anything. No shame here though, my white boy was great… until he wasn't.

        • http://twitter.com/S0_FLYY So Flyy

          Take the 'hmph' as my 'hmph… that's interesting.' I guess I skipped that part of the commentary. And LMAO @ white boy was great til he wasn't. LOL. Ain't that always the case? I try to remind myself that even if I date a white boy I will still have – or could have – the same #hosh!t problems I have w/ ninjas.

      • J

        Yall crazy……9 times out of 10 if you see, and maybe I'm talkin about older black women not in their 20s, but if you see a good lookin black women with a white man, the white man is ballin. I don't really get mad cause I think the older you get the harder it is to find a good black man, escpecially if you in your 40s or 50s.

        • http://thewhittiest.wordpress.com TheWhittiest

          I mean…You're right, but what's your point?

          And another thing, why is it when white men/any other race cross over to black women, she is BAD.

          You're just not going to find a white man with a black women that has nothing going for herself.

          Examples:

          George Lucas and Mellody Hobson

          Robin Thicke and Paula Patton

          Naomi Campbell and Vladislav Doronin

          Bad example, but you see my point.

        • IIII

          Paula Patton is white herself.

          She wants to be Black so badly and I like her I truly do. But she's just as much white as black technically and literally more white because her genes just didn't express the black part.

          Either way she's an insanely gorgeous woman

        • bruthaman

          Yeah I do agree Paula is white. She just has some black in her but for all physical purposes she has the features of a white woman. White skin. White lips. White nose. White profile. White mouth. And the proverbial good hair. So I wouldn't count Paula because although I'll play along and call her black, when someone is looking for a lady who looks black she wouldn't be the pick. she looks white. Very white.

        • J

          The Whittiest:

          My point was that we all have our reasons. Black men date beastly lookin white women because they are obsessed with that white skin. Sisters date white men…I won't say just for the money…but you aint never seen no beautiful black women with a broke white man.

        • http://thewhittiest.wordpress.com TheWhittiest

          O. lol…yea, you right. Lol

        • http://codecipher.blogspot.com MeteorMan

          @J, I've seen many beautiful women with broke white men. In Nashville, they're called "musicians."

    • http://sleep-is-the-cousin-of-death.blogspot.com/ MadScientist7

      what the hell? mentalities like this i just don't get.

    • http://codecipher.blogspot.com MeteorMan

      D*mn! That's just mean.

    • Niecie

      Honestly I don't think he was wrong for feeling that way. He had a preference. And you don't fit it. Just like I'm sure you have preferences. And there are some men who simply don't fit it.

      What I _do_ feel was sad and wrong however was him telling you that. Ignoring your feelings. And just saying what he wanted to for the sake of letting it all out without regards to your being hurt.

      Now _that_ was where he was a jerk and really told you that he wasn't worth your time. His disrespect for your feelings. Not his preference.

      There are some people who do like thick women and not rail thin ones, some who like light women and not dark ones, some who like tall model women and not short petite ones, but then there are guys who like the opposite of all I just said. You can't fault a person for what they like. You have to seek what you like and those who like what you have to offer. A guy can't fault you for not selecting him because of your preference in the process, see?

      Oh and I'm a girl.

  • Hugh Jazz

    Don’t forget the light-skinned swindle’s cousin, interracial dating. I’ve seen brothers with the most cosmetically abhorrent and metabolically disadvantaged white, Asian, and Hispanic women I’ve ever seen, justified by skin color. If you are going to go through the hassle of dating a white girl, get the baddest white girl you can find. Interracial dating doesn’t excuse interfacial dating.

    • http://seveneighteen.wordpress.com William H. Strafe

      Preach.

      Although I'll never say your name out loud.

      • SaneN85

        Hey there, you're new and already got a picture. *claps*

        Welcome!

      • SaneN85

        Wait… maybe it's just the picture that is new. I'm vaguely familiar with the name.

        See… I remember faces better. Put up your pictures people.

        • Starita34

          *whispers* he's today's guest writer…

        • Starita34

          Can you remind us how to put up a picture?

          *slinks away* I KNOW you've said it a million times, but I used to be a lurker through and through…never took note…

        • SaneN85

          *facepalm*

          I knew I recognized the name… from this morning when I read it at the top of the article.

          Just go to http://www.gravatar.com and link the picture to the email you use when commenting here.

    • http://earsandlps.blogspot.com LaBakir

      c/s the hell out of this comment!

      I always say "If I go white, I'm gonna do it right!'

      Dude is gonna be all types of Chad Michael Murray and Brad Pitt.

      What I look like getting w/ Dwight from The Office?

      • http://twitter.com/S0_FLYY So Flyy

        M. M. M…. not to mention Paul Walker. *le sigh*

        #Jesustakethewheel

        • http://earsandlps.blogspot.com LaBakir

          *breaks out church fans and starts humming*

        • GirlSixx

          #Swoon…..

          And Bradley Cooper *WipesDroolOffKeyboad**

        • http://earsandlps.blogspot.com LaBakir

          @GirlSixx

          Just had to Google Bradley Cooper

          Two snaps in a Z formation! He's hot,lol

        • SaneN85

          Speaking of sexy… Bradley Cooper and Ryan Reynolds are making a movie together.

        • http://earsandlps.blogspot.com LaBakir

          @Sane

          *gasp and swoon*

        • http://twitter.com/S0_FLYY So Flyy

          Amen to that movie. I'm in there already… all they need to do now is give Paul Walker a cameo.

      • J

        Usually when a sister get's with a white dude it's the money.

        • http://earsandlps.blogspot.com LaBakir

          o_O

          Im gonna pretend I didn't read this.

        • new2natural

          #nocosign

        • http://twitter.com/S0_FLYY So Flyy

          Bwhahahahaha… you too LaBakir?

          I was like e_O really?

          I'm pretty sure I opened myself to them b/c if the bruhs are dating black, white & everything in between… somebody is gon be left single & I'm praying it ain't me.

        • http://twitter.com/streetztalk Streetz

          @new2natural

          the opposite of cosign, is nosign.

          Here to help home!

        • http://earsandlps.blogspot.com LaBakir

          @SoFlyy

          LMAO!!!

          It's like getting picked for kick ball in 4th grade. No one wants to be the last to be chosen…or not chosen at all

          Le sigh

        • http://seveneighteen.wordpress.com William H. Strafe

          J knows how to throw a chair with the best of 'em.

        • Miss Martinique

          Usually when a sister get’s with a white dude it’s the money.

          Can we replace:

          ''sister'' by ''white woman''

          ''white'' by ''black'' ???

          Or you can try it with chinese-indian-PR etc…

      • http://thewhittiest.wordpress.com TheWhittiest

        I know right! Especially if I go outside my race; he'll have to be so fine, all you going to say is, "I understand."

        • http://twitter.com/S0_FLYY So Flyy

          LMAO! I hear that. I date cute all around so I'm not cut points on a dude b/c he's of a different pigmentation. You must meet all of So Flyy's facial requirements. Please and thank you.

        • tgtaggie

          Totally agree (not with the men part though. lol) I love black women (I don't discrimate on the complexion). And I'm 99.9% sure my future wife will be a black woman. But if I would get a white girl she would have to be bad like Emmy Rossum. lol.

    • http://nianaturally.blogspot.com N.I.A. naturally

      co-sign.

      I mentioned this in my comment. If you really prefer Asian women, why not date attractive Asian women?

    • GirlSixx

      Ch Ch CHUUCH!!!!

      Chick be like 300lbs, or just looking hella crazy and ole boy be walking around with that PROUD like he bagged something GREAT.

      • Fancy

        The only conclusion I can come to when I see that is… She must give good He@d. I'm just saying.

        • http://sleep-is-the-cousin-of-death.blogspot.com/ MadScientist7

          whenever i see a really big girl i think that she automatically gives good head because she stays hungry. doesn't make any sense and i know it's wrong but that's the first thing that comes to mind when i hear of a big girl getting it in. *shrug*

        • GirlSixx

          That!!!

          And she is his Sponsor. *shrugs*

        • Briiz

          WOW!!! That kinda stung a little!

          So big girls having nothing to offer but good h3@d and possibly money?

          Hmmm I mean really?

          Even with all this talk about dark skinned women being treated unfairly? It's ok to do the fat woman like that?

        • http://sleep-is-the-cousin-of-death.blogspot.com/ MadScientist7

          never said this is what i actually believe. obviously all big girls don't give head. it's the first fleeting thought that comes to my mind. i don't prefer big girls so truthfully i could care less.

        • Fancy

          It's attractive men/women with an OBVIOUSLY unattractive man/woman. Regardless of weight or skin tone, an ugly face is an ugly face.

    • http://www.pinchmycheekie.wordpress.com Cheekie

      "Interracial dating doesn’t excuse interfacial dating."

      SNAP! Excuse me while I chuuch scoot all up and through these internets.

    • Starita34

      "Interracial dating doesn’t excuse interfacial dating."

      Memorial services will be held for Starita at noon on Saturday 9/25/10. In lieu of flowers, please send monetary donations to the SBM website as it brought her much joy both during her life and at the moment of her death.

      • SaneN85

        Maybe with those donations they will start paying the welcoming committee. Just thinking outloud here, throwing out some ideas.

      • http://earsandlps.blogspot.com LaBakir

        Somebody get a pic of Starita so I can get those R.I.P T-shirts made!

        • Starita34

          done and done! :-)

        • Starita34

          Uhhh, I did the gravatar thing…where's my face?

        • SaneN85

          There it is!!!

    • Miss Martinique

      “Interracial dating doesn’t excuse interfacial dating.” *dead* lol

      If I have to lower my standards, I have to do it right.

  • new2natural

    @Streetz- THANKS!

  • http://www.twitter.com/Justadonis20 Adonis

    I did not read the article yet OR the comments… #SoShootMe

    While Light-Skinned Girls Look Good… I always love my Dark Skin Girls More… Two Thoughts

    Black Women… Let go of the colors… If you are born on this planet, that means some guy was attracted to your mother, and you will have a market of guys coming after you…

    Love the controversial topics… #KeepEmComin

  • D$

    Don't know if this article is all that credible. Then again it is based on opinion. But the writer fails to mention that his current chick on his arms is a said, "light skinned girl."

    • Starita34

      Probably cause it's irrelevant…he's not saying that light skinned girls are the debil, just that light skinned = instantly pretty…

      • http://earsandlps.blogspot.com LaBakir

        Exactly, Booby Booshae

  • http://twitter.com/mrspradley TheMostInterestingMa

    A couple things before we wall part ways for the weekend:

    1. Eff SBM for putting that girl as the pic. Everytime I navigate to this page I have to scroll down dumb fast lest someone in my office happen to happen by and see me staring at the love child Jay-Z and Faith Evans had before she married BIG.

    2. For the SBM Regulars – raise your hand if you had a totally different mental image of Starita and are now having trouble adjusting to the real thing? (My hand is raised).

    • http://twitter.com/S0_FLYY So Flyy

      *raises hand*

      We love Starita… just adjusting. I did the same thing when Most put his pic up for the 1st time.

    • SaneN85

      *raises hand*

      I like having a face to put to the name. If there isn't one, my lack of imagination only allows me to picture some vague white shape with a realllly round head in front of a gray background.

      • Hugh Jazz

        "I like having a face to put to the name. If there isn’t one, my lack of imagination only allows me to picture some vague white shape with a realllly round head in front of a gray background."

        Great. Sane thinks I look like Sho' Nuff.

        • SaneN85

          Actually… I think you look exactly like your avatar, which amuses me greatly (especially when I imagine the outfit).

    • Hugh Jazz

      "the love child Jay-Z and Faith Evans"

      I took all of my power to keep from spiting water over my keyboard and screen after reading that. All she needs is a Yankees cap.

    • BP

      Am I considered a regular yet? IDk, but I will raise my hand.

    • GirlSixx

      *raises hand*

      *ThinkingAboutStarita34CommentsFromPastBlogs*

      #LooksAtAvatarPicAgain

      *RaisesBOTHhands*

      Nice to finally put a face to the responses.

      Have A Good Weekend Yall….

    • Seven

      *raising hand* Haaaaaaaaaa it's hilarious to me Starita because my sister is white…and so when out in a crowd and people that haven't met her go "where is your sister?" and I say "right over there"…they're looking around like…"where?!!!" LMAO I forget that she's white… So I get it when you say you forget that you are too Star. LOL

    • http://www.twitter.com/shubby_doo shubby doo

      *raises hands* sarita… cos of the name I always had u pegged as indian (as in hindustani)…this just proves I've watched way 2 many bollywood films!

      Most, that said u're original avatar had me hella confused.

  • Starita34

    .:. wondering if I need to post a different pic or if it was just the *record scratch* "she's white??" reaction… .:. New pic, every day next week that I comment to test it out…

    Most have seen my pic already on their personal blogs or FB…

    • SaneN85

      "it was just the *record scratch* “she’s white??” reaction… .:."

      I'm glad you said it so nobody else had to. LOL It just breaks the norm of who posts on here, so it's a surprise. I wouldn't even go so far as the record scratch. Maybe just a quick CD skip.

      • Starita34

        LMAO @ "I’m glad you said it so nobody else had to"…yeah I've been dealing with "it" for about 30 years now…I'm slowly getting used to the idea that I'm white ;-)

        Good, so it's not "daaaaaaamn she's ugly"…I can handle being the "white girl" I'm used to that one :-)

        • SaneN85

          Maybe Tunde… but I'm convinced he hates 63.5% of us anyway and he's never been to shy about taking shots when he feels like it. It's his honesty and bluntness that we love though. :)

          Edit: And his Colgate teeth.

        • Seven

          LMAO Sane…you said 63.5% HAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA I think you're right though. Love ya Tunde

        • QueenT

          @Sane…I think the percentage is a little higher.LOL!

        • http://sleep-is-the-cousin-of-death.blogspot.com/ MadScientist7

          wait a minute, i don't hate anyone on this site. now i do disagree with a lot of opinions on here (men and women). as far as avatars i do agree that i wish some people would keep theirs to themselves. if you feel this applies to you are offended then continue to be offended.

          (side note: i do realize that i'm not the best looking guy ever but i do have my opinion)

        • SaneN85

          I was just kidding Tunde, I don't think you hate anyone. That said, I DO feel that some of the comments regarding folks' avatars are unnecessary. Aside from them being in direct conflict with my pro-avatar stance, they serve no purpose other than having people feel self-conscious about themselves. Also, I don't think a single person on here (judging on their avatar) is unnattractive* (of course, based on personal opinions). Well… except for Hugh. LOL

          I say this all with love, so don't you go blocking me on Twitter or nothing.

          *I could very well be the person you're referring to, but luckily I'm not stressing that because the 60 and older crowd still loves me. Oh, and the Mexicans outside the Home Depot.

        • http://sleep-is-the-cousin-of-death.blogspot.com/ MadScientist7

          perhaps i took on the anti-avatar because you took on the pro-avatar stance. *shrug* i do agree that the comments are unnecessary but so are a lot of other comments.

          i'm not gonna block you on twitter. lol i would be affected if i did. lol

    • Hugh Jazz

      I don't think it's so much that it's "she's white??" You wouldn't be the first semi-regular white girl poster here(what happened to qb?).

      For me, it's more "her name is Starita, and she's white??" It's like last week at my part-time job, I saw a new girl on the schedule named Becca, just assuming she was white. Not only was she black, but African. I guess that's why they say don't make assumptions.

      • Starita34

        Ja ja ja, me gusto los Latinos tambien Hugh :-) my nombre verdad es Scarlett si ques esta mas mejor…

        • Hugh Jazz

          I can't picture you as a Scarlett either.

        • Starita34

          You're gonna have to take that one up with the parents Hugh! I got a birth certificate proving that fact #Obama

  • http://twitter.com/streetztalk Streetz

    We actually have a lot of Caucasian readers, and some might post under anonymous.

    Either way, the site isn't "Blacks Only" or "Black issues only" So I love seeing all our people of all shades and backgrounds posting here!

    Salute!!

    /kumbayacomment

  • http://www.twitter.com/michaboa michaboa

    I'm just getting round to reading this. I agree with most of the commenters thatbeing 'light skinned' is held in high regard in this society, particularly for women . However, in my experience the distribution of 'light skint' points has not gender specific. I remeber when I was In secondary school when this mixed race boy proudly stated ' im every girl's dream because i'm light skinned ', as me and my friend gave e_O at him and those bugs bunny teeth. Slightly off topic though, I've never had a skin colour complex. Even though I know my mother used to bleach ( and I think still does, but not as much anymore) I've never bought into 'the lighter is better motto' * pats self on the back*. I've noticed though this veneration for a lighter hue runs rampant in the asian (mostly southern) community.

  • http://rawemag.org Erin

    This post has to be one of the funniest but true post I've read in a long time.

    The table ass/table face comment was priceless.

    I think that's pretty sad. I see some men with some butterface girls, that obviously they are like.. Guy #A.

    • Kim

      This complex over skin tone is really sad.

      All light/dark skin girls are not cute.

      Beauty is Beauty……

      However, I could live with out the "Your pretty for a dark skin girl comments" SMH

  • Kim

    This complex over skin tone is really sad.

    All light/dark skin girls are not cute.

    Beauty is Beauty……

    However, I could live with out the “Your pretty for a dark skin girl comments” SMH

  • CHeeKZ Money

    I woke up this morning and I kept thinking about this topic.

    I kept about how men had kept saying:

    'if you took those same features and made her dark skinned she would be a dime'.

    You can't do that. You are De-valuing what makes a women sexy. Its how everything looks together after completion.

    For instance, despite what that idiot in Louisiana said, I don't think The Whitiest would look as great lite skin. Her features go great with that nice brown glow. If you pale her out, there is no guarantee her features translate. Its like a painter, you can't change the canvas and get the same results.

    2)If we are talking about ugly girls, I prefer ugly lite skinned to ugly dark skinned. Whoopi Goldberg = the worst.At the same token nothing and I mean nothing stands out like that dark skinned beauty. Gabrielle Union = the baddest in Hollywood. You can blame society for putting LS on a pedestal therefore making it easy for Bria Myles to kill the game.

    3)Back to point one. Speaking of things that look right together. If you take a shaved chocolate girl and lay her down, move a labia lip just enough to get a peak of pink… now you can't tell me that the contrast of those opposing colors doesn't make for better looking genitalia

    • MzHillz

      Wooow!!! ↲

      *speechless*

    • Tim

      I don't know I never thought Gabrielle Union was bad or all of that. She looks…ok, nice for Hollywood…but remove the weave, just the weave alone and she's now the average lookin chic. I've seen her with short hair AND all the hollywood makeup and ole girl looked very, VERY average.

      Beauty is when you remove the extra's and they are still pretty. Take Halle Berry. No weave. And very, very, VERY little makeup. Still beautiful.

      • Suzanne

        I agree with Tim. This is why I believe Robinne Lee is gorgeous.

    • Misty

      Personally, I think Whoopi Goldberg is awesome, and I wish ppl would stop being so superficial and focusing on her looks.

  • http://www.twitter.com/divakattgoddess Veranda

    My coloring can sometimes be light and I hate it. Come summer I am doing everything in my power to get darker. I have a thing for chocolate and don't want to be light skinned… been called all of kinds of light skinned, red bone and I am like Ewwh no way… went to DR this summer and got as dark as I could! Hmmpf… and it is true certain features don't play well with certain colors it depends and we can't blanket judge beauty off color alone because I have seen some beautiful shades of women and along with their features are show stoppers.

    Now don't let a dark skin brother walk in the room I am drooling…love me a dark skin brother whooooot whooot

    Off topic that picture of that girl you are using for your post is a no sir… o___O

    I just know if you took all the fake off and cleaned her up she still won't be cute….

  • Berriblk

    Lil Dwayne new song just brought me back to this pots. Am I the only one who caught the line about him seeing a beautiful black b*tch but if she was "red" she'd be fine?!

    It really is starting to become a cliche in the hip hop world to throw in a red bone line. Not helping us any as a people I might add.

    As for my thoughts. I've heard it all being a dark-skinned girl myself "but pretty for"… like The Whittiest its by the grace of God that I love the skin I'm in.

    I must say J brings up good points as well with the other side of the light complexion obsession.

    • Lili

      YEEEEES! I won't lie, that beat goes so I didn't really pay attention to Wayne's verses initially (I mean, 3/4 of the time it's jibberish, or at least sounds like it). But one day that line stuck out. "Beautiful black woman" — and I smiled– "I bet that b!*^h look better red". <– I damn near screamed. That has to be one of the most damaging and irresponsible rap lines I've heard in a LONG time.

      SN: Annnnnd THIS is why I stopped commenting…I always miss the lively posts/discussions until days later… :-X

  • Cairo

    Im late… Been Enjoying this Atlanta Classic too much. But….

    What you have is alot of self hatred among our race. I watch the T.O. show and he was crying (which he does more than any man should) because of the names he was called during his childhood to teen years by his classmates. He said he was called every black name in the book from tar baby to jigga boo. He gets some money and access to a wider variety of women and now he wont be seen with anyone with a hint of a tan.

    Basically these dudes have all this aggression towards the black women who teased them when they were younger and now they wont touch them with a ten foot pole.

    • Denise

      LOL say what? He's mad because some Black girls and boys said he was ugly (of which he is lol) and SUPER black (of which he is lol) and he wants to date White women who thinks he should be whipped rapped and killed because he is ugly (of which he is lol) and SUPER black (of which he is lol)?

      LOLOLOL OMG I just can't!!!!!

  • Rachael

    Hilarious and true … Spoken out of the mouth of anlight skin girl(good looking thank god)

    • Dee

      LOL you to??? I am literally LMAO at that post up there about T.O. LOL! For his grown azz to be crying is sad for it to be crying about people teasing his ugly behind about being ugly and super black lol really??? LMBO! He'd better be glad I didn't see that episode LOL! Because the bottom line is T.O. IS SUPER UGLY AND SUPER BLACK lol!

      Him marrying dating or locking lips with any woman of any race or even a monkey with a kickstand is not going to change that LOL!

      LOLOLOL The whole story is freakin hilarious!!!!

      • THANKFUL

        OMG LAUGHING MY BUTT OFFFFF! THIS POST MADE MY DAY!!! I NEVER KNEW HE WAS CRYING OVER THAT! AND YES HE IS UGLY ON A STIIIIIIIICK – KA ! ON A STICK! AND NO DATING WHITE CHICS IS GONNA ERASE ANY AMOUNT OF THAT UGLY DAM!

        AND I'M GONNA FINE HIS UGLY ARSE IF HE EVER, EEEEVER, CRY AND MAKE THAT FACE AGAIN LOL!

  • Cindy

    I think that the whole issue about light-skinned women being picked by black men more than dark-skinned women is no longer a big issue, because, now more and more black men are picking white women, chinese women, indian women instead of light or dark skinned black women. I think our men have left our race. Take a look at who alot of the MBA, and other successful black men are dating and marrying. Even in my own family none of my brothers are with black women period. So we should be glad if it is light-skinned women they are dating because, at least they are black. Our race has alot of issues and they begin with self-image. Alot of our men don't love themselves and therefore, they can't imbrace a black woman, regardless of skin tone because she represents who they are, but obviously who they don't want to be.

  • YCW

    No offense but it's always the dark brothers who have something to say about my skin. I would be like yes i'm dark and so are you… what is your point? One even denied that he was darker than me. I used to like dark skin brothers but I got bored of them. Their mentality is just not sexy at all.

    • Casey

      Ha ha very true. It's the dark brotha's who have problems with light skinned women mostly. But get angry when a White or Asian man is selected over them for a job or promotion that they deserved.

      Dark Black men who try to be color struck in your mate selection, you need to get it together.

  • JTB

    Although I agree with most of what youve written.(case in point: Tiny, TIPs wife) However, I am so tired of hearing about this color issue!

    • SaneN85

      I've never heard ANYONE say Tiny is even remotely cute (regardless of skin color), and I bet T.I. wouldn't even be able to say it with a straight face.

  • jjj

    Hi,

    At first I have to apologize for my baaaad English and even worse grammar(I’m not American). I hope you still understand me, but I had to write my opinion on this topic.

    Oh my god. What is going on with you? This whole debate is so crazy. I’m light skinned, I’m dark skinned, I’m between Alicia Keys and Beyonce, I’m between Kelly Rowland and Erykah Badu, who the fuck cares???

    In some way I understand your way of thinking, or problem, or complex…

    Its may be right that light people especially women have some advantages especially if it comes around dating, but that’s live. So got funny, intelligent, charismatic, pretty, breasted, skinny, rich, etc people advantages. It is like that! That’s how we are, how society is. And it doesn’t make sense to complain about, or to debate about it. It’s not gonna change our beauty ideals or our preferences. And that is absolutely okay!

    How often does it happen to me that a guy is not interested in me, because I’m just not his Type or whatever. I don’t know what is the problem, maybe he prefer big, tall, dark or girls with big breasts. That’s okay. He got his preferences like I got mine.

    So stop thinking about stuff you can’t change just be happy with what you are and with the person who loves what you are…

  • Beautiful One

    Sane, I have to agree with you about your comment about Tiny. She is not good looking eventhough she is light-skinned. What makes her appealing is her personality. I think that what people need to realize is that it is people's features and not skin colour that make them attractive to most people and less attractive to others. Also, a person's grooming regardless of skin color, and taking care of your body overall. If you have beautiful eyes, hair, teeth, and lips and a well shaped nose. I guarantee you people will find you attractive regardless of what skin colour you are. Also if you have nice skin, a well proportioned face, and a well sculptured nose. People will find you attractive regardless of skin tone. Not to mention having a body to die for. These physical characteristics makes people beautiful on the outside no matter their skin color shade.

    • Chocolate Goddess

      *blank stare* @ "a well shaped nose & a well sculptured nose".

      I thought the point of this post and these responses was to enlighten us all that the "European Standard of Beauty" isn't the absolute Beauty Standard.

  • Jay Brizzle

    I’m not black and I've had the same issue having a "preference" for light-skinned women. I’m half Filipino and half Jewish. It began in childhood with me liking white girls and being rejected by them. I had mostly Black friends and was introduced to the idea that Black people are more accepting of other ethnicities than whites (not always true, I still experienced racism from Blacks and many times from dark skinned Black men, being looked down upon as a "white" man, though I am not white). I believe that my initial attraction to black girls came because of those friendships. I just want all of you to know, however, that the media has hyped up the idea that lighter skin is superior and we, the idiots, have all bought into the lie. Brainwashed and conditioned we believe these kinds of ideas. It comes from the WHITE MEDIA. We’ve all been conditioned to believe that we’re inferior unless we can prove that we’re not. So in an attempt to prove our worth to WHITES, we assimilate into their culture. We’re making attempts to be accepted by them. We’ve been brainwashed to believe that lighter is better. God made all shapes and sizes beautiful, but most of us can’t see it that way because from the time we’re little, we’re being programmed by the TV. Then we wonder why everyone has these issues and so-called “preferences”. They’re actually biases. If people would be willing to be real with themselves and their self-deluded ideas about preferences, they’d realize that they’re dealing with a type of prejudice and racism more than a preference.

    It’s not a preference it’s an obsession and a fetish (definition: A an object of irrational reverence or obsessive devotion , an object or bodily part whose real or fantasied presence is psychologically necessary for sexual gratification and that is an object of fixation to the extent that it may interfere with complete sexual expression , B a form of sexual desire in which gratification depends to an abnormal degree on some object or item of clothing or part of the body; “common male fetishes are breasts, legs, hair, shoes, and underwear, C a charm (substitute light skin here) superstitiously (or falsely) believed to embody magical powers (substitute special quality/ superior). I have dated only Black women and did not know I had a problem until recently. It comes from White controlled media,OUR ethnically owned media and OUR own communities that REINFORCE these ideas. We have been conditioned through the media overtly and subtly to believe that women who are bi-racial (mixed with Black and white)high yellow, light skinned , with Euro-centric features and long hair are prettier and more sexually appealing (though these ideas pre-date modern media even going back to days of the African slave trade). We as men are competitive and want to have “the best” and lust after and pursue these Black women and women of other races and ethnicities that are light skinned. The white dominated media’s agenda is to make us believe that they are superior and we (non-whites) are inferior (which is the furthest thing from the truth). So we as non-white people try to prove that we are not inferior by compensating for our inferiority complexes and trying to become more like them. If we can remove our “white” conditioning we will begin to see people through a different perspective. I am a believer in the Lord Jesus Christ but I am not going to be ignorant any longer about what is going on in our society. We are conditioned and brainwashed to believe that everything is just a matter of choice and preference and everyone should just do what we want, but our so-called preferences are being influenced by ideas that are not always our own. A mostly white-controlled media controls what we see on television and movies and what we hear on the radio and many of us have bought into the stereo-types, biases and racism that it perpetuates and even our own communities that perpetuate the same stupidity.

  • Blackisbeautiful

    For those who are still stuck with this " light is right thing" ideology. I believe it came from the craziness of racial discrimination and bigotry against black people and some felt the lighter the person the closer to white they are which in my opinion was ridiculous ..If you really examine it, its not light is right its really white is right—and the closer to the white you are the better…Since black people went through hell back then the thought was the lighter you are the better chances you have at a better life-soo sad but thank God for change and the civil rights movement.

    God created all of us and there is beauty in every shade. I do not agree with the bashing of a person because of thier complexion as I have all shades of brown and black and white in my family so to me bashing one is bashing me…

    We need to appreciate the beauty God gave all us. In the end of the day, we all want the same thing …to be loved, valued and cherished-regardless of how we look.

    To one dude, one may look ugly and to another she is fine who are we to judge…I just hate this she is light skin let's bash, she is dark skin lets bash…I don't see sisters bashing brothers because of thier complexion. My question to those doings this what complexion is the woman that carried you for nine months, put her life on the line and pushed you into this world, sacrificed to take care of you and prayed that you would survive in a world hostile to you..

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    MeteorMan: This fascination with light-skinned women for the sake of them being light-skinned is something I never understood. I always seen it as a mentality due to brainwashing. To me it basically says, “She’s nice because she looks white. I almost get to be with a white woman!” Said in the most coonish, reconstructionary tone possible. Yeah…

  • kta

    Okay I'm gonna be real. Yes most men like light skinned women. Most men like long haired women. Put light skin and long hair together and you have a Black man's weakness. I know because I am that. I'm not a pale person like Beyonce or Essence Atkins, I'm more of a Zoe Saldana meats Lauren London depending on the lighting. And it runs in my family, I have a curly grade of mid back length hair, all mines. When I blow it out and the wind hits, you better believe men,especially Black men, their necks and heads move. Not bragging. Just talking about what I've witnessed and seen. And yes, they will get bold because I was dating a guy who said he only dated light skinned women. Then his friend wanted me to intro him to some of my friends. I said I thought you were dating someone. He said yeah but I want one that looks like you…Wow. So darker skinned girls are not tripping. It's really out there and that's how alot of guys feel.

    Idk what to say other than you have to gravitate to the men who like you for you and are not as color struck. They are out there.

  • Tim

    I don't know I never thought Gabrielle Union was bad or all of that. None of my boys do either. She looks…ok…remove the weave, just the weave alone, and she's now the average lookin chic. I've seen her with short hair AND all the hollywood makeup and ole girl looked very, VERY average.

    Beauty is when you remove the extra's and they are still pretty. Take Halle Berry. No weave. And very, very, VERY little makeup. Still beautiful.

  • Darin

    Just because White people have always placed themselves in advertisements as we as Blacks would do the same, and just because most famous models are light skinned like Tyra Banks and Halle Berry, doesn't mean that most women do not look attractive in that skin tone.

    Honestly, I believe that women are more attractive in a Tyra Banks, Kerry Washington, Jada Pinkett, Beyonce, Sanaa Lathan, Jill Scott skin tones rather than Gabrielle Union, India Arie, Kelly Rowland skin tones. Women are thought of as feminine and whether we like it or not, darker skin tones take away from the softness and feminine look of a female. Darken the skin tone the harder or less feminine the female looks.

    People may not break it down to this level but this is what it amounts to. Lighter generally looks prettier because that skin tone lends to softness feminine pretty features. The same with darker skin tones lending to strength, toughness, masculinity.

    Some may call this racist. I call it, truth.
    This has also been documented in psychology literature.

  • Jeanne

    I think a lot men and women marry lightskin because they are thinking of how their children will look. They want lightskin children with good hair

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  • http://[email protected] hi yella’ miss rae

    Sad that this is even an issue.As “black men”you can revel in the ignorance, or denounce it. Sadly , black people DO have an image issue, and it is peculiar to our existence in america. The majority of us have at least 10% european ancestry and genetics( even the DARKEST of us). Our black women are literall going bald, while tying,gluing, twisting synthetic ordead harvested human hair to their scalps to look

    like “Beyonce” or just to consider themselves “beautiful”(black women, men dont give a shit about your weave, they think its nasty and other races see black women wearing that fake, smelly crap and make fun of us!) But to the writer of tnis article, preference for lighter complexion women is not the foolishness of black men alone- Asian men, middle eastern and hispanic men , of course WHITE males consider women with fair cpmplexions more attractive in their own cultures(bit if they were to date black women,they themselves tend to prefer dark complexioned females, ditto the women of other races when dating black men, strange and contradictory as that sounds….

  • hi yella’ miss rae

    Sad that this is even an issue.As “black men”you can revel in the ignorance, or denounce it. Sadly , black people DO have an image issue, and it is peculiar to our existence in america. The majority of us have at least 10% european ancestry and genetics( even the DARKEST of us). Our black women are literall going bald, while tying,gluing, twisting synthetic ordead harvested human hair to their scalps to look

    like “Beyonce” or just to consider themselves “beautiful”(black women, men dont give a shit about your weave, they think its nasty and other races see black women wearing that fake, smelly crap and make fun of us!) But to the writer of tnis article, preference for lighter complexion women is not the foolishness of black men alone- Asian men, middle eastern and hispanic men , of course WHITE males consider women with fair cpmplexions more attractive in their own cultures(bit if they were to date black women,they themselves tend to prefer dark complexioned females, ditto the women of other races when dating black men, strange and contradictory as that sounds….

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    Attention Black men, this brown skinned Black woman is not interested in you anyway. You may chase, date, and marry all of the light skinned women you want. Less losers to deal with. Face, no matter how much money you get or how non-dark woman would "elevate" you, you are still a nigger in the eyes of the man. Have at it with the skin tone foolishness!