"Look at her lips. All puffy n sh*t."
There are somethings men know … and there are something that women know.
If I want to know how to pick a good romantic comedy … I’ll call a woman
If I want to know what type of defense to run on 4th and 2 … I’ll call a guy
If I need to pick some exclusive floral arrangement for Valentine’s Day … I’ll call a woman
If I need to know the best strip club in all of Boston … I’ll call a guy
You can call it sexist if you want, but there are just somethings that guys know and women don’t. If either side was perfect, we wouldn’t need the other. I know I don’t know how to suck my own dick, and since I can’t do it I can’t exist by myself.
One specific thing that comes up over and over and over again is women’s inability to judge the looks of other women.
Basically … Women playing “Hot or Not” on other women = FAIL
I can hear it now …
“That reggin (read it backwards) SBM doesn’t know what he is talking about! Maybe some woman he knows can’t, but I can!”
“SBM is on some other isht today. Of course a woman can judge another woman.”
“F*ck you SBM! I can do that isht easy!”
Yeah … that’s all bullsh*t. Women just suck at this. And I’ll tell you why:
Women notice stuff we don’t care about
While my shoe and foot fetish will have me looking at the high heels that adorn a woman’s feet and judging the quality of her pedicure, it’s not that serious. I don’t really care if the color of her shoe is out of season, and I’m not willing to let some whack payless flip flops detract from the small midget she is carrying around in her ass.
Butts are always discounted
I don’t know why women think they can’t enjoy something round and plump as much as we do, but sadly women often don’t take as much notice to the butt as it needs. Great ones don’t swing the overall rating like they should, and small ones aren’t listed as a deal breaker, which they should be.
It’s always personal!
If the girl judging has a small butt that she is a little self conscious of, then any nice ass will get hated on. If the judge has a pretty smile, then suddenly the smile of the girl in question gets extra attention when it doesn’t need to be. If her best friend has a gut, then suddenly girls with guts get the same ratings as those who knew when to hit the treadmill. There is no such thing as “unbiased”.
Breasts aren’t worshiped as the grand things that they are
While the boobs vs. ass debate rages on in barbershops, strip clubs, and sport bars around the globe everyday, every guy appreciates great breasts. Sadly, girls too often refuse to admit that they are important, give you something to look at beside a face, and that they make sweater’s sexy. D’s don’t stand for disgusting as in “ewww … they’re so big they’re disgusting” (a comment often uttered by the itty bitty titty committee). No, they stand for delicious, delectable, and desired.
Shoe game judgment is all f*cked up
When I talked about some of the little things that guys noticed, I definitely mentioned heels and the added effect they can have on a girl. Notice that I didn’t say “cute shoes”. I’m not talking about something that is comfortable and “stylish”, I’m talking about something that I imagine you keeping on while I bend you over a counter. There is a big difference and most women just don’t understand it.
Honestly, I couldn’t go on for days listing different things, but this will do for now.
Go ahead and tell me why I’m wrong, but you know I’m not. Also, feel free to add on to the list.
- SBM aka “No … your friend is not cute” aka I don’t know how to judge dudes either, so don’t feel too bad
I totally agree with you. Maybe I am biased because I am bi and love women just as much if not more that the next guy, unless he is gay of course. Good Read. Good Night.
Welcome to commenting! *pops e-confetti*
Thank you! I am usually good at following the blog, but lately I havent had the time.But this one is a good one. Straight women look for other things in women,they dont look at the same things as men. Thats why they never see eye to eye. A woman could careless about the bubble, but will notice if her toes looking crazy out that peep toe.
To each its own, thank God and Baby Jesus that I dont have these issues! KanyeShrugs
this is so weird, i was having the exact same conversation with a female friend.
i saw a PYT yesterday and she had clearly come from the gym or some such physical activity, and she had one of those nike traiining vests on and her back was on show.
anyway, she had those little back dimples all of us guys LOVE, right?
and i said to my female friend, "those dimples are so hot"
cue said friend, saying "i don't know what the fuss is about, i really don't see what you see, she ain't all that"
which is when i turned around and said, without being sexist at all, you're a woman, you wouldn't understand, it's exclusively a guy thing, and who said anything about her as a whole, i just mentioned te dimples" (hater)
To which she wasn't too pleased, but i shall be passing on this post to her, hopefully she'll get my/your point.
UK women are exactly as you mentioned in your post btw…
Oh no, its not just a woman thing. I love a good pair of back/butt dimples (sacral dimples) it's sooo hott (I guess on any gender).
Although, I've heard guys call it thumb rests.
sorry!
read: its not just a man* thing
ahhh yes, the back dimple. i love those. something else for me to run my tongue across/in.
This is hilarious and very true. It wasn't until recently that I figured this out. I realized that men will holla when I don't feel like I'm looking my best or even good at all. Maybe I just woke up and made quick run to the store or just came from the gym. While there are times when I think I look great, but men don't notice b/c it's not a form fitting outfit but all of my female friends told me the outfit was hot. I think it's really funny.
THIS!
Co-sign!
I can't judge other women..and dudes are really bad at judging too….and they're worse. because physical looks isn't all we're considering alot of times…..
Honestly, if a guy tries to talk to you when you are looking to be what you consider "not your best" he's either looking beyond that or just looking at the physical.
Men have this way of pretty much determining how you look when you are at your best when you are looking your worst. It says a lot about you that a guy will approach you when you are in your sweats and what not.
Disclaimer: This is not 100% fool proof. Some men just chase anything until they get one.
There are some womenthat was boren special for special men that knows the value of life.
Some time they find it very hard to speak to woman they like.
Some women are like that too.
As i look a woman that will make me happy always and not only i ,making woman happy ;but helping as well.
henry from Amsterdam HOLLAND.
You are right, dear sir. Especially about the butt. When I'm sizing up another woman, her tatas will always give her extra points. When I see women with a flat chest and a big booty, I always shake my head, and think she would look so much better with a C cup. lol.
Wrong Wrong Wrong….
(but I still love you)
as long as the nipple is right, small itities look great! Not good great. Esp with a big backside that give an athletic shape to the body as a whole.
As a woman, I would just have to take your word for it. lol. I can't believe men don't like brick houses. Some of the best bodies have breasts and boob. I hate to use her as an example, but look at Kim K. As much as I hate her reconstructed face, her body is sick. And it would not be the same with boobs. Boobs give her better proportions.
Yes sir, guilty as charged. There are 3 categories that I can think of:
1. What women find attractive in other women
2. What women think men find attractive in women
3. What men actually find attractive in women *enter the Buttaface*
Like Remi mentioned upthread, sometimes we don't even know how to dress to attract you because we'll think that we're "doing it" and get no love. Then run to the store looking a "busted mess" and have dudes chasing. I think that my les and bi sistren have a one-up though. They see what you see.
Oh well, it's always a nice surprise when a man comes at you on an "off" day. We don't need to get y'all system. But at the same time, don't always accuse us of hating (ok, even though sometimes we are lol). We just don't see what you see.
Why does the butterface have to enter with "what a man finds attractive"?
A man will have a general collection of things that he is attracted to. Slight variations will determine the type of woman he attempts to meet. This is where the woman's presentation comes into play.
Lol – the buttaface comes into play because women tend to put a lot more stock in a woman's face than in her figure. But I've seen guys chase after a chick with a banging body and a rather scary face…and acknowledge that her face is busted. They just imagine that good doggy style lovin' and figure they never really have to see her face.
"the buttaface comes into play because women tend to put a lot more stock in a woman’s face than in her figure."
not this guy over here. i don't care if your body rivals buffy's body, if your face isn't on point you might get a second look (at your body) but that's about it. if i can't look at you without grimacing then we have a problem.
I give credit when credit is due and will deduct points accordingly. I do notice a lot of females that are indeed biased because they are lacking in a certain department. The worse is when they base a woman's hotness on if they have a personal conflict with the chick. Regardless if I like her or not.
I fully admit I have only a semi-grasp of judging another woman for the male audience. Apparently, I got the game all effed up. Case in point (two examples one story), I tried to describe a friend of mine whom I thought was gorgeous to a few guy friends who were at a house party. *Enter gorgeous friend 1* and she gets a menial reaction from the guys. They like… ah, she cool & whatnot. I'm bewildered. So I go on talking about another chick is supposed to be there as well. Now, this friend has been known to pull a reaction so I describe her although I don't think she's as moving as the first chick. *Enter friend 2* And all of a sudden men were clamoring over themselves to help her find a seat, have a drink and take her coat. WHOMPS. Lol.
I do know one thing… I describe a woman to another woman to the TEE and she'll know exactly what kind of woman to expect.
The other day as I were driving down a certain street (where pros hang often) I was like; "ewwww, she look so dirty, how can dudes run up in her and even PAY her."
So yeah, its pretty hard to even imagine WHAT a man would find attractive in a prostitute.
Don’t sleep on women though, I think although we know, we may not want to acknowledge another females ASSETS.
I had a girl I used to hang with tell me she hates going out with me because I get all the attention and another girl that refused to introduce her man to me because she said he like big apple booties—SMDH. Can we say insecure…because I don't want him….
I think I have paid attention to men's reaction over time enough to know a lil something. It makes more sense to pay attention instead of hate……
Good morning folks.
Women will never really understand a man's taste in women. I've long said that I didn't have a "type" the only thing that has been consistent in my long term relationships has been a small frame…and no light skins (coincidence not a conscious choice). Of course my fiance doesn't see what I saw in them but it doesn't matter in the long run. I could care less what she saw in the other guys she dated but women seem to constantly want to outdo other women.
I agree with said post SBM.
Your right we do notice stuff you guys just don't give a damn about. Its happened time and time again with me and my guy friends. But I have learned to support them in whatever the hell they fine attractive, because I give up and don't care…and they usually get over it in about a week and find a new girl to swoon after. I do like observing my guy friends and figuring out what they find attractive and what attributes they value over another. What I hate is when guys can't even let a sista know if another guy is decent or not! I'd do it for you, sheesh.
PS: That d*ck sucking line was so unnecessary, besides
one can argue guys should know how to do that better than women.
I've heard bisexual men say that men give head better than women
I can see the logic in this very easily…. and also I would imagine because men have stronger jawbones which gives them that extraaaaaa….. you know.
Yeah, I admit that I'm bad at knowing what guys like. For instance, I used to ask my guy friends what they thought about so-and-so and they'd be like, she's aiight, while I may have thought she was gorgeous. Or they'd think someone was really pretty, and I'm like, "huh?" So yeah, SBM, you're right on this one.
Lmaooo…I know u didn't say it…but u saying u like a women 2 keep her shoes on while u bend her over the counter and give it to her good has me thinking of a staged sex scene with a girl wearing plastic hooker heels… U're right it's not cute or stylist. At all.
I know I don't get it…don't think I ever will get it even though I'm a shoe wh0re with a preference for rocking to 5 inches [II]…lol… I don't think I'll ever get this when it comes to men
D’s don’t stand for disgusting as in “ewww … they’re so big they’re disgusting” (a comment often uttered by the itty bitty titty committee). No, they stand for delicious, delectable, and desired.
Thank you Kindly…. c/o the single D bitty committee
*e-blushes*
I have always THOUGHT that women are WAY harder on each other than men are.
IMO, some women spend more time "fixing" themselves up to impress other women.
Sometimes I think we feel that what goes on in TV LAND is reality.
Would this have ANYTHING at all to do with why the 'other' woman usually looks 'different'?
Here is where I angrily (but politely) disagree.
Our taste in women do not differ b/c you are some kind of better judge. The difference comes from the fact that women are ignorant to what qualities actually have value to the sexual experience of being with a woman.
Our taste are slowly developed from years of being around aroused naked grown woman. So we become attracted to key components of a woman's anatomy that signal sexy characteristics.
Its not just having a big butt. You have to be able to see how that butt cheekz (pun intended) move to come about with a realistic theory of how her backshots will feel like. Its based on feel of skin, muscle density, cellulite make up, hip size, ect ect.
Gosh Darn it Bacon this is a science!
Ya know…Your actually the reason why I'm understanding more and more about mans fascination with the arse.
Thanks for enlightening me.
I still think women are a better judge of other women compared with men… Definitely more than men…
personally I think I'm fair with my assessment of other women…It only gets personal if she's making moves on a guy I like…even then I take a step back 2 work out if and why she could be competition and look at her objectively…my mouth may stay silent but my mind is gonna give credit where it's due…sadly it's more fuel for my inner green monster that goes hard by attacking whatever weakness in her I can see with exaggerated gusto *shrugs* I've learnt to just keep quiet. despite the hating, we know that other woman is fly…that's why u'll see girls rocking styles that don't suit or getting that extra something something enhanced with surgery; they're trying to emulate… I'm not a breast girl…am I jealous of them? yes but I've got what I've got… thankfully the good lord made me an apple bottom ar$e mama…if a see a bootylicious style on a woman that works imma assess it, and figure out how I can make it work for me
@Shubby
I think we are ok at judging, I think men think we judge the wrong way….
For example:
Girl walks out of the house with tight arse shorts on showing all her dimples, curves, etc….
Women: ewwwwww, look at all her cellulite…thats nasty….
Men: DAMN! I want some of dat…..
Maybe? No?
I wouldn't argue with this. I especially may be unaware with what guys find attractive when it comes to myself. I've learned over the years, but I still may not see it for myself. Also like mentioned upthread, I know I've walked out the house in some old gym shorts and a t-shirt and I'm getting hollared at and I'm wondering why.
+100
Thanks, because someone had to say this aloud.
i agree with you sbm. a lot of women don't know what men actually look for or think is attractive because every man likes different things. sure there is a set guideline (breasts, a$$) but there are great variations. for instance, i'm a stickler for maintained eyebrows. a woman might think she can skip this weeks visit to su-kim and i might not notice but trust me i will. maybe another guy won't but i will. another guy might not be interested in a woman who wears jeans with no pockets on the back. *shrug*
another guy might not be interested in a woman who wears jeans with no pockets on the back. *shrug*
I never knew such a thing existed. Maybe I've seen it and didn't know what I was looking at. Pocket-less monster. lol
well those types of jeans just reek stripper or hood to me.
A lot of the young Mexican women in Raleigh wear pocketless jeans. In my old neighborhood, it was all over the place. It may be a cultural thing, b/c I think the ladies on Univision wear pocketless jeans/shorts darn near all the time.
Remember, men are logical and empirical. This conversation could lead to a disaster for the man:
Guy: What does your girl look like?
Girl: I think she's cute.
"Woman cute" and "man cute" are not the same. This would yield a more accurate gauge of her appearance.
Guy: What does your girl look like?
Girl: 36B-27-41. Here is her Facebook photo.
This way, nothing is lost in translation. And all ladies should know their friends' measurements.
OK, this is somewhat tongue-in-cheek, but not really.
i think it's more like:
Guy: what does your girl look like?
Girl: she has a nice personality.
*red flag* *foul on the play*
Yeah, "nice personality", "nice smile", and a "sweet person" are all euphemisms for butt f*&$ing ugly.
Cosign thsi entire thread. lol
Not necessarily… we could just say something about her one good feature.
Guy: Describe your girl, is she cute?
Girl: She has a big booty, shaped like that girl you said is your fave porn star…
I also think I'm a fair judge, but only based on my scale. Men are attracted to whatever they are attracted to (and this does vary from guy to guy) and I obviously cannot be a fair judge based on their scale. I got hit with this realization just a couple weeks ago. I got a look at someone that an "ex" of mine was putting it to after we split and it weren't pretty. I told him she looked like a wooly-mammoth and he got all quiet. Apparently it wasn't the first time he heard it either, from both men and women.
I do believe that this is a double-sided coin, because men are also terrible at figuring out what we'd be attracted to. Actually, it's more accurate to say that individuals can't judge what other individuals would be attracted to.
Sane: "I do believe that this is a double-sided coin, because men are also terrible at figuring out what we’d be attracted to."
This is true. I first heard of Idris Elba through women saying how good looking he is on the blogs. When I saw him, I said, well, I guess. If a female friend asked me to hook me up with a friend and he looked like Idris, I would have described him as average looking.
#nohomo for this entire comment.
At the risk of incurring Cheekie's side-eye, I don't find Idris to be that much more than average either. Now, I wouldn't kick him out of bed, but the only time he's been above average in my eyes was in his few sex scenes in The Wire. Put it this way, he was probably the 4th sexiest person in Takers to me.
I swear its his accent that gives him that stamp.
I know one person I don't understand is Denzel. He is so unattractive. Not ugly, just not damn I want to rip his clothes off attractive.
Correction:
If a female friend asked me to hook
meher up with a friend and he looked like Idris, I would have described him as average looking.Note to self: proofread, then press "submit comment". At least I put the "#nohomo" qualifier on it.
Sane: "Now, I wouldn’t kick him out of bed, but the only time he’s been above average in my eyes was in his few sex scenes in The Wire."
Thanks, now I'll never watch The Wire.
SBM, you ain't never lied. I used to be like "The hell so great about her" as well, but I realized that men and women just plan view attractiveness in women differently. And it makes sense why they would. I've stopped trying to figure it out and realize that no one is right or wrong, but have different opinions.
Now, if anyone says Flava Flav is hot, they're just plain wrong AND need Jesus.Shoot, folks have different levels of what is attractive in general, so of course men and women's view would be different. Especially since, if the woman is straight, the motives for determining attractiveness just ain't the same.Now, SBM, would you say a lesbian and a straight male's way of viewing what's attractive in a woman is different? Does sexuality play a role in this or is this straight gender-based, regardless of sexual orientation?
I trust a lesbian or bi woman more than I trust some of my own friends, who I know lean more to white girls or skinny things.
Lesbians understand the thrill of seeing an O-face, the beauty of getting some backshots
#straponfun, and how to evaluate a body as a whole.Co-sign to lesbians.
I'll admit it. I have no idea what men fine attractive. Especially when men approach me the most when I think I look like Shanane…clothes not matching, hair a mess and my running shoes. Mostly this happens after I leave the gym and I know that's when I look my worst.
I consistently confuse women with my thoughts on what's hot and what's not.lol. I find different things attractive about different women. Just because I like short hair on one doesn't mean I like it on 'em all. Same with musculature and boooty-butt-boobie ratios.
**rides away on a white horse with white pants and no shirt on…and no shoes or socks**
I feel sorry for that one woman friend in Oluslimye's life that is trying her utmost to be noticed by him. Everytime he says he likes something she's on it… rapido.
Slim: Man, I like that short cut.
Keisha Smashington: *cuts hair into pixie*
Slim: Did you see the abs on that girl??
K.S.: *gets gym membership poppin*
Slim: I mean a lil bit of curves ain't never hurt nuffn. *man chuckle* More cushin… you heard?
K.S.: *eats 5 double cheeseburgers while working out*
Slim: All this pink is so soft & fem for Breast Cancer Awareness month… I'm feeling it.
K.S.: *decked out in all things pink*
Slim: But I'm really feeling #allblackeverything
K.S.: *lookin like catwoman in her black leather*
Slim: When she lets her hair out of a ponytail during coitus… it's a wrap.
K.S.: *set appointment to see weave guru*
LMFAO!
This is by far one of the funniest responses to a comment I've read. *in manly voice* Kudos. hahaha.
Sounds like my marriage…ugh. Glad that's over! lol.
He also likes bunnies so she may get her skin bleached too, lol!
Can't hit the reply button on my droid browser because it doesn't exist, but
as for Idris Alba…
it's not about his looks it's about his sex appeal. Idris alone is average, but all encompassing (trying not to use swag) he is hot. I feel the comment on Denzel too, I personally think he's better looking now than he was in his prime.
Beautiful/Handsome, to me, is very different from sexy. One can be either or both, but they are not mutually exclusive.
I just had a convo with a young co-worker about my taste in women. As we sat at lunch, there was someone that I recognized that walked in…I said hey I think I know her. She sneered her lip of disapprovingly and said "she's tall, she looks like a man." I was like, you don't know her and she looks plenty like a woman to me (she was 6 feet, nice boobs, very nice legs, weave of course). I saw plenty of pictures of her and she always looked nothing less than sexy.
I then pulled her card and said "how are you judging other woman and then commenting on my taste when you are f*cking them?" She said "women can do that…I'd rather hook you up with my cute friend."
Now fellas, anytime a woman says she has a "cute friend" please take whatever number she gives (say a 7) and knock it down 2 points. There is a reason why her cute friend is always in need of a hook up for one. I tried to tell this young twentysomething that I don't look at women the same way she does and that I notice things she doesn't (manner of walk, body language, curves beneath the clothes, etc.). According to her, women have to be within here age range and shouldn't throw shade on her attempts to be sexy. Never listen to another woman tell you who is cute…
Hahaha!!! This is so true! And I'm guilty of it all!!!
But I will say, the dimples in the lower back are uber sexy! Not only on a chick, but on a guy too! Yum!
I don't know Lola…lol.
Yea Lola…you lost me on that one too ;-/
When it comes to appreciating the physical, whether it's looks or style I always give credit where credit is due.
It goes without saying, that where I feel credit is due may obviously differ from someone else who feels xyz about a particular person/body part/accessory.
I'm confident in my assessment of people, but I'd never claim to be able to view a woman as a man does. It dismisses an individual's taste and preferences, not to mention the obvious differences between genders.
If I need to know the best strip club in all of Boston … I’ll call a guy
^^^You can also call a lesbian…#justsayin
I don’t know why women think they can’t enjoy something round and plump as much as we do
^^^LIES & BLASPHEMY! I like my man to have something i can grab on, just as much as i'm sure they like grabbing on to mine!
I judge but i look at everything based on what i know of that guys likes…sometimes i'm wrong & sometimes i'm right…*shrug* lol
LOL @ this post but I agree. But, I must say as a member of the multi-D committee . . . boobs will always matter. Always.
I've seen some unfortunate faced women pull guys and scratched my head . . . yeah she had a nice body but you need a hard hat to view her face . . . I just don't get it. And I'm glad I don't, lol.