Ladies, what’s up? It’s me. So, the fellas have been talking about a touchy subject and everyone is acting shook to discuss it openly. You know I usually don’t get roasted so I can take chances with certain topics have an excellent rapport with you, and we communicate well with one another. Having said that, we have to have a dose of real talk. Men have heard about women “faking it” during sex. Some men think this is myth. Others take it seriously. Some even have it happen to them constantly and front have suspicions that their lady has faked orgasms! So, instead of speculating, I will ask you a few questions that men have about faking the big O:
Why do you fake it, and fake it OFTEN?
I figured I’d start the questioning off with the million dollar question. I never understood why women faked it, and faked it repeatedly? Do you get joy out of it? Do you not know what else to do? Are you waiting for the bus and figured you’d humor the poor fool while killing time? It just seems like a waste of time and energy to me, which leads to the follow-up question:
Why do you go back for seconds, thirds, etc if you have to keep faking it?
I have been to the movie theater to view a movie I think will be off the hook. If after siting there for 20 minutes the movie looks and feels horrible, I’ll walk out. if I’m eating dinner and it tastes bad, I’ll stop eating it. See, this is normal logic to me. Women who will fake orgasms constantly, whether in one session or daily/weekly, baffle me. Why go back? Why prolong the torture for yourself? Once again, seems like a waste of time.
Why don’t you tell him that he’s a lame duck in the sack?
I used to be dead serious joke that I wanted to wear a t-shirt before sex that said “How’s my performance? Please call ______ if you have any complaints or concerns” I’m the type to use empirical data to plot trends, make adjustments, and improve performance. You already know I do this if you follow my workout log. So I don’t understand why you wouldn’t offer a man the same key pieces of information. I’m sure I know the answer, but since this seems like a clear cut response for the educated, bright, and people who get it, let me throw a wrinkle into the equation: What if the sex is good and you still don’t O, do you STILL fake it? Why/Why not?
What do you think about and/or do while faking it?
What helps you pass the time when having to perform in the bedroom theater? Do you think about errands you have to run? Those new pair of shoes you MUST have? That hatin @ss b*tch at work who better not test you again? Or *gasp* another man?!! *insert dramatic chipmunk* I know women will multitask during these situations, so I wanted to get an idea of your mental training techniques to use for good on my own end.
What makes for a believable fake?
Is it the length and duration of the moan? Is it squirming around like you’ve caught 15% of JC’s Ghost? Is it words like “Daddy, Baby, right there, and OMG you are sooo Amazing, that make you convincing? What about facial expressions? scratching and clawing? Women are the best liars, so these swindles are probably mild compared to the true answer.
How do women fake what they never get?
I have to throw a question in from my defiant brethren who lightly brush particles of dust from their shoulders: I hear that some women have never experienced an orgasm. Well #1, I feel for you and #2, how can you fake something you’ve never had? TV? Zane novels? The internets?!
Why do men fall for the swindle so easily?
Maybe you can answer this, because I don’t think it’s that hard to figure out, but apparently men are getting caught left and right. Maybe I’ve gotten caught and have no clue? Eff it I still beat tho…
Do more women fake it than we think?
I guess this would be the equivalent to your “Down Low Brother” epidemic/scare. I want to say that its a “normal” number, but the more conversations I eavesdrop on overhear between women, along with the horror stories and questions from the fellas, I’m starting to think you have a council and seminars across the country where you discuss how to fake the O, techniques, and other items… Wait… so THAT’S why pleasure parties have blown up recently! Wow…
Women, help us out today to learn about this phenomena, and how to correct the situation. Bad sex is like the drunk dude in the club who fights: It messes up everyones fun, ends the party early, and makes you not want to party anymore!
I can HANDLE the TRUTH!!!
P.S. – Men can fake it too…
P.P.S – Please censor yourself voluntarily in the comments. We’re trying not to get on big Brothers radar and be blocked at everyone’s job, because we KNOW you aint workin…
#MeFuiAlCielo!!!!
I think this is the funniest post right now!!! I needed this laugh! Thanx Streetz! Really appreciate it!
Lets see… Have I faked it? Oh yes. More than once? Guilty as charged. Did I return? I did. Why? Cuz I could climax real good while thinking of someone else during said process (climax and 0rgasm is NOT the same) and because they probably gave great face, or gave me all that I wanted, OR I actually had a great time with the individual.
Men fall for the swindle so easily because it's like your kyrptonite! Lol!!! What else?! What man does not like to be told that they are the best they've ever had #Drake and that ain't no other man #Christina like him that can put it down?
We fake it cuz it's easy. I, just think about the last porno I saw or some spanish novela that I caught thru the week and reenact it! Lol
Y'all know my experience with said athlete a few years back.. would you imagine if I would have told him how bad he sucked hairy monkey balls that grown old man would be crushed, stalking me, humiliated, angry, depressed, stalking me, and become completely insure of himself…
But I think what the question here is, why do MEN fake it as much as WE do? Lol
*side note: I probably don't make sense, and that's fine right now… later on today I'll probably be like what in the world! LOL
There were a lot more than 8 questions in the post Streetz! lol!
Um, i don't fake it…if i'm not enjoying it, i won't even try to Meryl Strep it…i'll just be there…and i think about other things & just zone…#SadButTrue
I would answer your questions but too many…good post though Carlito Callez! lol
Even tho I am virgin now, in my past I was fortunate enough to be gifted with the kind of lovin' that didnt require faking at all.
I'm very vocal, so if someone needs help, instruction, guidance, advice, a manual, training, ANYTHING to help them get it right, I'll let them know thats what I'm here for. I wouldn't even know how to fake it and I think it's stupid to do such a thing. How will he know how to improve if he thinks he's pleasing you?
"Even tho I am virgin now, "
^^
Sorry couldn't get past this line. lol
Ummm…me either.
She lost me too :/
http://i602.photobucket.com/albums/tt108/miscbrah…
Ihatechusomuch for that!! But I was thinking the same thing.
LMAO!!!
Those gifs are hilarious!
I. Hate. You.
Your
lipskeystrokes say "I hate you" but I'm feeling the loveWarning: I recently discovered a hotbed of gifs…I will be ODing in the near future…trying to hold back…you've been warned.
LOL! I'm ready! I gotta step my gif game up :p
Lmao leh'go!
@Sukez
Oh my gawd…Starita just turned my party out!
Buuuuurrrrrr!
http://cache.gawker.com/assets/images/jezebel/201…
It's what I do.
@Sukez – iDied @ leh'go!
I can't with you…like seriously!!!!
LMAO!!!!
LMFAO! Burr!
ME TOO… LOL
LOL at this post! I don't fake something I don't feel….liking someone with my mind and heart is the BEST way for me to achieve an O. I decided to throw caution to the winds and had a long fling awhile back….he was sweet, sexy and smart but I guess I just didn't like him thaaaat much between my ears and I guess that translated into whether or not I achieved an O between the sheets. Sex is frankly in between the ears and not in between the legs.
I can only talk about my reason n not in general but im going to assume it's pretty much the same for other ladies out there.I only have sex when I love the person btw (im including this fact because I think the reasons aren't the same if your just sexing someone you don't have real feelings for). The reason i faked it sometimes is because i didnt want my SO to be upset and hurt by it. I did not get any joy out of it. Obviously I tried to tell him what I want n how to do it, direct him to places. If your in a relationship your not going to just break up over bad sex so u carry on hoping he would get better. Would you rather prefer to be in a relationship and have no sex or have sex and ur lady fake it? If you tell him he is shit he will be upset n have no confidence and then u have no sex and ur relationship ends due to him having no confidence in himself and becoming a different person to what you first was with. There has been times when sex has been good but I haven't reached O and that's on me( due to been stressed or depressed or me just hung up on body issues) I won't fake it Coz there is no point. If he is doing the right things that he knows usually make u reach n u dnt then it's not the end of the world. I would be thinking when will he cum already so I can watch some tv or thinking about my day n if there is anything I need to do. You do the sounds and actions u usually do when u cum. Simple. U can't do something different coz then your SO will tell. I have no input with faking what you never have had. I think on some level the guy knows he ain't satisfying you but doesnt care Coz he still got his.
Helpful you made some great points.
"There has been times when sex has been good but I haven’t reached O and that’s on me( due to been stressed or depressed or me just hung up on body issues)"
^^
this is ill. Ive heard this before.
"If your in a relationship your not going to just break up over bad sex so u carry on hoping he would get better. Would you rather prefer to be in a relationship and have no sex or have sex and ur lady fake it?"
^^^
Great question. Readers you want to tackle this? Because I believe bad sex is a dealbreaker for a LOT of people
Honestly, bad sex wouldn't be a deal breaker for me but I never put sex as a priority in a relationship. But think about it for real, more than likely you are having sex with someone BEFORE you get into an "official" relationship so you can't really have a deal breaker before going into negotiations.
I would NOT want my lady to fake it. I'm going to be honest here. Bad sex is a deal-breaker but not off the bat. Why?
My theory is that if you're actually in a relationship and the sex is BAD then 1) someone has some issues and need counseling or 2) you two aren't communicating and working to please each other which would mean you're probably not communicating in other parts of the relationship as well.
If it's #2 then it would be deal-breaker since if we can't communicate it will simply not work. If it's #1 and you CHOOSE not to go to counseling, then deuces.
I dated this lady once that abhorred sex because she was raped by a boyfriend in her early teens. When we dated (~29 y.o.) she absolutely wants to have sex, yet has extra issues due to her past. She went to counseling (very late in the game for her I may add) and it helped. In that case, the sex was either non-existent or BAD (from my point of view), but that wasn't the deal breaker.
On the other hand, if you aren't trying to do your best to please me (your boyfriend) after we've discussed it multiple times and came to various solutions, then I will assume that you do not have the desire or will to please your man. I'll think, "Don't you care that there are literally millions of women that will do what I want NO STRINGS ATTACHED?!?!" Every guy has experienced the phenomenon of hordes of women approaching you and making offers once you're in a relationship. That + your lady not putting in work = swimming against the tides.
"On the other hand, if you aren’t trying to do your best to please me (your boyfriend) after we’ve discussed it multiple times and came to various solutions, then I will assume that you do not have the desire or will to please your man. I’ll think, “Don’t you care that there are literally millions of women that will do what I want NO STRINGS ATTACHED?!?!” Every guy has experienced the phenomenon of hordes of women approaching you and making offers once you’re in a relationship. That + your lady not putting in work = swimming against the tides."
I'm so confused as to how we got to the woman pleasing YOU and trying to keep the hordes of women off your d*ck. LOL
Male defense mechanism: "I still beat tho."
Perfect example of a woman faking it? Go back and watch Richard Pryor Live in Concert.
Best way to fake it as a man? Dirty Houdini.
I think its stupid for women to fake it. Really dumb, like for real. If I catch a girl faking?
"that's real messed up that you would do that. Actually stupid. I hope you didn't do it for my "feelings" because I FEEL great!"
Cue Kanye West – Can't Tell Me Nothing
PS – then she go and tell her friends and they can't believe her, so they wanna find out for themselves.
I think its stupid for women to fake it. Really dumb, like for real. If I catch a girl faking?
Ummm you can't!!!! It's not easy to detect IF we are faking it or NOT. #justsayin
I call bull… If a guy has actually helped (cuz she has to be willing) a girl to reach her climax before, you know what the signs are and I just don't believe you can play it off has the real thing.
What I believe to be more of the case is guys not giving two shizt and chucking the deuces after getting theirs.
Not being cocky, but experience has taught me difference from good chex,bad chex and O-mazing chex.
::Runs to confirm story with exes, side-pieces, one nighters, boos, etc.::
Agreed!
I am actually going to call Bull on your Bull call.
Every women is different, there are no univeral came signs. I make it a habit to watch my partner paint their nails so I can see their true signs, but you can't carry one girls actions on to the next one.
And on top of that you are underestimated how sinister some people are. Everyone say "its stupid to fake it." Well if its part of a greater swindle than it all makes sense.
IE:
You are dating a NFL linebacker. Clearly you want to have his seed. He is not too good in bed, all muscle no touch. He ask you why you aren't getting off. So you tell him you can't get an O with a condom on. #swindle!
This is an extreme example. However honesty doesn't exist in every relationship. And if chex isn't what you really wanted to begin with, than you really don't care if its bad. Many guys are just completely unfixable and leaving just isn't an option.
@Girl6 –
I said, "if I catch a girl faking…" And yes, you can catch a girl faking. Not all of you women are Halle Berry winning an Oscar, some of you women are as fake as Angel Lola Luv in her short film.
Halle isn't a great actor, her Oscar is questionable. As is one's ability to detect faking. SOME women may be bad, while others have MASTERED the technique.
@Tiff
Why would any woman want to master faking? I would rather master bate, and be able to show my partner how to get me off, or at least, give him an idea of the best ways to get me to that special place.
Dr J; I said, “if I catch a girl faking…” And yes, you can catch a girl faking. Not all of you women are Halle Berry winning an Oscar, some of you women are as fake as Angel Lola Luv in her short film.
Okay… I'll give you that.
#WipesDownOscar
If a chick faked it and I didn't know, I seriously don't care. It only matters when you break up and they tell you, "That's why I faked it."
I could write a response to this post called, "I faked like I actually liked you."
"women fake orgasms, men fake relationships" – not me
Darling Nicky –
You know how I know you're a hater, because Halle Berry can act. Come on now, Losing Isiah, Boomerang, Jungle Fever, Swordfish, maaaaaannn BAPS was the funniest movie of all time, Monster's Ball was just misunderstood, but you'd probably look real wack trying to have sex on the floor with some white guy who thought he was a vampire and used to be married to Angelina Jolie too.
This is interesting, because I keep reading and hearing that a BIG percentage (40-50%) of women have never had an O before, so maybe this has something to do with it.
That is a tragedy. Getting one is a tragedy for me so I can't imagine not having ANY. What's the point after a while? This should not be a goal, but come on, if you are batting 0 out 5, just STOP and get some therapy.
Something has to be wrong mentally, because as stated up thread ITS ALL IN YOUR HEAD…..literally.
AND…..there IS a difference is O’s. There are three types of O’s and all three have different feelings and areas involved so the woman would feel different with each type.
THIS is how women are rewarded for all the CRAP we go through I believe….Men get ONE or maybe two if they can hang and We get to experience heaven OVER AND OVER….HA!
Take that MEN…….
Speak on the men you have sex with cause I can get up right after climxing and like the energizer bunny keep going…newsflash ladies if you are with a guy or guys that after one or two nuts are done
jokes. on. you.
better get some kaboom or something:)
I am speaking on men I have sex with.
And good for you!
It's not in the writhing or vocalizations…at all.
How do dudes not notice the telltale contractions of a female part?
And how can they fake shooting stuff out (a prophylactic with something in it/a drainage of stuff out the female part?)
Kind of gross, but it is what it is.
For me I've never faked. I just don't finish. Sadly, in my last relationship, dude didn't seem to notice or care about that over the course of six months despite getting his every time. #redflag
Finally able to get consistent ones now, communication is key.
For real a lot of dudes don't know how to please a chick with their penises something like 50-70% of chicks don't achieve the O with p*nile stimulation.
Better up your foreplay game.
How do dudes not notice the telltale contractions of a female part?
#kegelgameonpoint
Kegels help get you get the Big O if you do them right. So even if a person is doing this to fake wouldn't it eventually make you O?
KaNisa, Please tell me how you got the "i love my hair" girls' picture on your avatar!
Print screen!
*hugz* thanks mama!
The more I think about it, the more I feel like ease of orgasm is an evolutionary thing. If chicks could get them as easily as dudes and without emotions, the world would be super overpopulated!
Good morning everyone!
I can not do the faking thing. I am very orgasmic and even if I was not enjoying it with a person, I can go into my own mind and BAM; there it comes….lol.
I could not be with a person that I did not enjoy making love too. That in itself is fake and it just takes way too much energy to fake an O. After a person has been
with you, they would know a genuin one from a 'fake' one anyone, right?
I enjoy great love too much to fake it. I short myself and him in the long wrong. My face would say it all anyway.
so would you want ur lady to (after several times) off having sex with u without reachin O to just tell u outright
'baby no offence but u are so shit in bed' even saying it nicely 'baby i think u could improve in bed' is still really harsh and u wud get upset abt it
if u catch ur lady faking, what exactly would u do?
so u feel great for what reason?
Neither of those phrases are recommended by the Keep A Ninja's Confidence High Committee.
We endorse a more manipulative approach
"Baby I had a fantasy of being done like this. You think we can try it out?"
YES!!
Why let a dude go on and continue to be bad?! Thats selfish on the womens part. What you dont want him to improve so in the envent that yall break up he can be just as horrible to the next chick? Devious!! lol
@Streetz:
Just because he didnt make you cum, doesnt mean he's bad. it could just mean he isnt in tunes with how you like to be touched, etc. Every woman is different, getting to know a new one can take tiiiiiiiiiime.
So then invest the time and give pointers.
Theres no excuses you people (yes i called yall YOU PEOPLE) can give me to change this fact!
A man's ego/pride is so sensitive, it has never been my intention to ripe a man's pride in pieces by telling him that he's missing the 'spot' all together. You say that it is selfish on the part of a women to not tell him when actually we're trying to help keep his dignity in tact. And once again, men use any opportunity, even the fact that a woman didn't use this sensitive time/topic to crush a man's pride, to throw fault into her lap for not stomping on his pride. It seems to me that woman are damned if they do and damned if they don't in the eyes of men that reason as you do.
FINALLY!!! Sometimes a faking is in order because the moment you men find out we didn't "O" you start looking like you lost your puppy. I don't want to be responsible for that sad face. And its even worse if as a female you do "O" a lot because it becomes something expected every time and sometimes you come close but you dont go all the way, so whats the harm in faking it on those few occasions. OH!!! and sex is not all about crossing the finish line (for me), i enjoy the time and intimacy spent with him even if i don't "O", so it is still a very enjoyable experience because i am with him and he is enjoying me, which is why i believe a lot of women keep going back even if they don't "cross the finish line"
I'll admit that I have faked it quite a few times with the Ex the reason being too keep his ego intact for the most part and then there were times I just wanted him OFF of me so i did what was necessary (the squeeze/release/audiotunes, etc.).
Bwhahahahaha @ "the squeeze/release/audiotunes, etc."
All i can think of is a chick soundin like T_Pain when hittin the O lmao
I find this post interesting especially since a great deal of the time a woman will "fake" an orgasm because of (the old adage) it's her…not you. I'm noticing in this post that there's an automatic assumption that it's because the man is no good in bed. Who says that the man is no good in bed?
We all know that sex is more mental than physical, it's how you feel about a person etc. Ladies ever have a man talk you into an orgasm? Climb all up in your head and next thing you know you're coming and he's just givin' you the plain ole down stroke? It happens.
I think that I've run the gamut — from coming at the drop of a dime to coming at the same time every time to OMG i can't come at all for some damn reason and maybe it's because I have too much on my plate and no time and I'm worried about bills and whether or not my son will get hurt on the football field etc. It could be anything but that doesn't mean that I don't want to have sex, it just means that my head isn't right at the moment and I can't turn off my bullshit long enough to enjoy it the way that I should. I don't want to put that on my man so I will fake it at that time…after all, if he's been making me come for years and then suddenly he can't does that mean the sex has changed? No, it means that I have changed and I don't want to put my "stuff" onto him because it's really not his problem. (I hope that answers the why do women come back if the man hasn't made them come) because after all, the next time will probably be different and she WILL come.
I'm being as honest as possible here and I think that I have been a woman long enough to know that I am speaking the truth. I cannot speak for everyone, but that's how I feel about the situation.
Bingo…you hit ALL the nails on the head Red!
Exaaacltly. Women pretty much know at a certain point whether we're going to come or not…and sooo many times it has little or nothing to do with what is going on in the bed. It's what's going on in our heads.
co-sign… Great points!
I can relate. When I was unemployed I had the same problem.
Embarrassing to admit, but true.
*starting my slow round of applause*
Amen. #andthenyouhityourkegel. Get em.
Ugh.Faking it is a waste of time. I've wasted my time before. Am I about to be in trouble for telling why most of you [cuz I don't anymore] fake it?
Why? High expectations.
What makes for it? Depends on the girl and what kind of sick sh!t is going through her mind.
Why? You're right on the nose, head, face, mouth, body with the Zane comment. I read all the books before I started having orgasms and after having them. Also spoke with my friends who've read her books and they THINK they're having orgasms, but actually been faking it. I mean, her books didn't do sh!t for me though but make me want to write my own *shrug*
The thing about seconds. Um, nahhh. Unless the mouth doesn't work, I'm not coming back for a drilling. So no revisiting.
Pointing out his lame duckiness. Easy.I've done it. Look how simple it was:
Me: "You did bad today. You owe me."
Him:
[fast forward]
Him: Whose yssup is this now?! (as he pounds with a mission)
Me: (thinking) still mine, but NOW we're talking (but says & feels otherwise,even if it's still my jay)
I think guys do AND don't fall for it. The majority are pretty much over our orgasms once they've gotten there's.
"David, how could you come?"
"I was f*cking…..well, I beat ya!"
Some guys get turned on by that Daddy, Papi, Say My Name, Say My Name (no Destiny's Child) mumbo jumbo and feel the jay squeezing and thing itsacoming BUT the vaj does that squeezing stuff naturally (i.e. kegels, I'd know)
All this faking nuts is for the birds, most of yall ain't nothing but some vultures. Stop wasting your time. Up and leave like I have or make him work if you give him a 2nd chance. I've been getting MY nuts lately. SAY IT! *cues Splash Waterfalls*
F*CK MEMake love to me!#andthenihitmykegel
Sukez,
I may have to your use your convo w/ lame duck turned beast as a template to discuss poor performance from now on.
Heyyy, #andthenihitmykegel
#andthenihitmykegel
Broke.Me.Down!
That is all! Word on the post!
Sukez – I gotta say I'm a lil disturbed that you used your brother's name for the example guy…ijs…
“David, how could you come?”
#creepyobservantlikeFavre
No no no!! Dave Chappelle skit! Lmaooo
LOL – my bad! My bad! I'm unfamiliar…
As you were…
Haha @ this whole post! I usually like your posts Streetz! I'll attempt to answer these questions.
Disclaimer: These reasons were for guys I cared about or in relationship with. Any other guy there was faking because it didn't matter and there wouldn't be in and 2nds, 3rds, etc.
Q:Why do you fake it, and fake it OFTEN?
A: I have faked in the past (much younger) and I faked it because I didn't want to hurt his feelings, especially if he seemed like he was trying really hard, LOL. No, I didn't fake it that often; he COULD catch on. #justbeingreal
Q:Why do you go back for seconds, thirds, etc if you have to keep faking it?
A: I kept thinking the next time would be better. Maybe he got some tips/tricks/watched some flicks/talked to someone/read a book, something since the last time. Yes, this was insanity.
Q:Why don’t you tell him that he’s a lame duck in the sack?
A: Didn't think he could handle it OR didn't want to hurt his feelings.
Q:What do you think about and/or do while faking it?
A: LOL…I'm a very cerebral person anyway, so I'd be thinking about my day at work, what I had to do later on, what my friends were doing, what I wanted to eat, when is the next full moon? I mean anything really. But mostly I was wondering when it was going to be over.
Q: What makes for a believable fake?
A: Ummm, any of the above I guess
Q:How do women fake what they never get?
A: I had had them before, so I couldn't answer that question. But I think people are great imitators.
Q:Why do men fall for the swindle so easily?
A: Unless men are really attuned to women and/or women's bodies, a lot of men would find it hard to tell sometimes. Other times, women can just make up something to tell the guy if the guy suspected a "faker". Also, men (and women) want to believe that they did what they came to do (and well) and unless a woman tells them or says nothing at all, I don't think they'd really question it if they got a reasonable response.
Q:Do more women fake it than we think?
A: Yes.
BTW, I am no longer a part of the O Faker's Club. I've since matured and will not hesitate to let a man know (nicely, of course).
Oops, I mean to say in the disclaimer that there was NO faking it. Sorry! Hope it makes sense now.
Thanks for keeping it real!
Oh and FTR women well me personally don't have to have a big O all the time in order for us to enjoy sex but we know it makes you guys feel like a BEAST so in order to avoid the "was it good to you baby/did you cum" questions a fake O is sometimes better than just laying there afterwards looking at him crosseyed while he laid up in the fetal position drooling with a big smile on his face.
^^THIS!
Pretty much. We don't need the O to confirm good sex. It's like a bonus.
Can't say much on this subject, but I know ^^^^ that's right. O is icing on the cake, not necessary, but appreciated.
yep, and men don't seem to get/understand that…but then question why women fake. faking is for people not comfortable enough with their partners to keep it real, pretty much.
grown men shouldn't ask the "did you cum?" question anyway. If I get up, give you a kiss, pass you a warm washcloth and fix you a sandwich–or at least go get you some ice water,all with a smile– it was good. go with that. lol
Hmm Sandwhich.
There is something about bread and coldcuts after a nut that puts a smile on a brother's face. Its probably a nutrient thing. You need the protein after you released so much. Streetz?
Replenishing protein + carbs after every workout is essential for the body.
I approve.
**waits for a hoagie**
Yup!!!
Or
In my case Vice Versa…… Dude bringing ME a beverage & food
'Sup everybody?!
I have been reading this blog for a while and couldn't resist commenting on today's topic (cause hot damn I love me some s(x!). First off, most women DO NOT have an orgasm by s*xual intercourse alone (some may argue but I am standing my ground). Typically there needs to be some external interference to help give her the kind of "O" that let's the neighbours know your name…..! That DOES NOT mean that she did not enjoy the act as well, or can't be satisfied with the beats that her man has thrown down. I think the issue at hand is WHY as a woman you wouldn't tell your man that you didn't cum? I have faked it before because contrary to what you men may think, the truth isn't always "accepted" and s*x becomes jaded after the admission that more needs to be done in order for you to receive the big "O". If you feel that your man won't lose his pride and mind after you tell him that he needs to stimulate your clit WHILE giving you the long stroke then you better tell him the truth, otherwise most women don't want to deal with the "there's something wrong with you" look that he gives her while he winds down from his release. S*x is something that BOTH parties should get release from, so why are you giving yourself the short end of the stick by not telling him what makes your toes curl, back twist, and vejayjay quiver?? Makes no damn sense to me…
Just my 2 cents a different perspective from a woman who can get hers in 2mins everytime…! Sometimes it is all about placing his hand, *mouth, p*nis EXACTLY where you need it, and trust me, faking WILL NOT be necessary.
After I figured out that you aren't the male J that posts here, I figured I should welcome you!
May I suggest a disclaimer on your posts that remind us that you are a different poster than him
Thanks for the welcome Mama! Name has been fixed. You are doing a fabulous job as the "Welcome Committee"!
Thank you, I'm trying to keep up.
SN: I'm not sure how much the "aka Juan" thing is helping to identify you as the female J. LOL
That should fix it! LOL…… too funny
First off, most women DO NOT have an orgasm by s*xual intercourse alone (some may argue but I am standing my ground).
YOU BETTER TESTIFY!!!
You know WAY more stimulation is needed to make that pop off!
I have faked it before because contrary to what you men may think, the truth isn’t always “accepted” and s*x becomes jaded after the admission that more needs to be done in order for you to receive the big “O”.
^^^^^^THIS says everything in a nutshell
Big CO-SIGN
You done know this is the truth!! Sad to say…!
1 – Not every session needs to end with an O. Women's O are different and several things can get in the way
2 – Women fake it a lot more often than you think. There'd be a LOT of bruised egos out there if they didn't.
3 – It just works! They've been doing it since eternity and they're going to be keep doing it when they chose to.
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As a guy I'm all for it. I'm not always going to be bringing bringing my A game on every play when all I need is a couple yards to the touchdown…
*nods head in agreement*
I've given up on the fake and bake… but I used to do it because
a) because sometimes not all chex is about the big O but a lot of men measure their bedroom worth by it… and if it makes you happy- it makes me happy.
b) being with someone is worth more than chex occasionally… and if you have to deal with bad chex and then go grab roger the rabbit… better to get it over with
c) yes men do fake it
d) some men can't be taught
e) when faking it you have to be vocal but not too vocal. use those kegals to simulate an O, and imagine Idris giving you the business….
but like i've said- when my hiatus is done I'm turning over a new leaf.
I think it's worth saying that there are 2 (at my last count) types of O's for a woman. & from a TV special I was watching many haven't gotten to or have a lot of trouble getting to the elusive -vag- O.
Four for me, hoping to discover more as I gain experience, but I think four may be the limit. In order from weakest to most powerful O.
– Mental+Kegel Soccer (no hands) O: perfect for work when I just need a release
or Hugh done worked me too far up to stop– Clitoral O: meh, it's nice, but more of a side dish than a main entree
– Penetrative O: I count myself very lucky, these are the bomb.com
– G-spot O: Discovered these just about a year ago…whoa…clean up in aisle 4.
Have I faked? I did before I ever experienced an orgasm. It felt good, but it wasn't the big one, so I put on a little show to let him know I liked what he was doing, even though I wasn't coming, and wasn't going to.
That was early in my experiences. I haven't faked in 8 years. But I always wanted to ask men something, so brothas, help me if you can.
When I come, obviously there is something that happens physically to my love box, and the good brothas can feel this, so they know if my orgasm is real. Men still ask, but this is mostly for an ego boost, and to hear a woman say "Oh Gawd, YES"!! Question… how can a woman fake it and you not know it? Because, I can't fake that real extra-gushy creamy stuff. So, you should be able to tell. Shouldn't you?
THIS! There is SO much that happens when IT happens…they gotta know if they are paying attention.
How can a man fake it. I can see this is he's wearing a condom, and even than if a woman pays attention: men SWELL and do other things right before they release. You know that GRAND feeling right before he….omg….note to self…go home in between classes for a quickie.
That's what I wanted to know… how is it possible for a man to fake it? o_O
They say that ejaculating and orgasming are two separate entities. That a man can ejaculate and not have felt that tingle that comes with an actual O…I know…it blew my mind too…sorta pissed me off…Jozen told me, iCried.
@Rita
Yeah, that's like a woman being wet, but not reaching her full potential of wetness and not feeling the special feeling that comes with it. I can see it happening, but I probably wouldn't care as long as I got mine. #NIAshrug
I associate being wet with being hard, we're ready to start, not END…I did my own little poll and the men that I spoke to said that they never differentiated between ejaculating and orgasming…so I do sleep at night…
As far as getting faked out – I'd. be. heated. You questioning my abilities? Lay your @ss back down, I'm getting this nut! *mumbling* messing up my batting average and ish… #nosir
I am like that too Starita34…I got ego issues. Is that lady like?
Lady like or not, I'm proud of my record, not one blemish on it…you wanna unleash a beast? Tell me you didn't cum. I can't be held responsible for my actions post challenge. #allIdoiswin
I tried to explain to my fiance the difference between busting a nut and having an orgasm not too long ago…she didn't get it at all. An orgasm has an emotional tie to me. I can bust a nut with anyone.
My body responds differently between the two as well.
Starita: "you wanna unleash a beast? Tell me you didn’t cum."
I didn't cum.
#devilsadvocate
*googling "Midwest's teen pregnancy capitol", mapquesting route, chugging gatorade, doing kegels, doing jaw exercises, fixin to turn this fool out…*
#it'snotagame
"*googling “Midwest’s teen pregnancy capitol”, mapquesting route, chugging gatorade, doing kegels, doing jaw exercises, fixin to turn this fool out…*"
http://www.mapquest.com/maps?city=Milwaukee&s…
You've got 9 hours and 8 minutes. Go ahead and schedule that PTO for tomorrow, get some rest, and drink plenty of fluids. I don't stop at one. #JWall
"You’ve got 9 hours and 8 minutes. Go ahead and schedule that PTO for tomorrow, get some rest, and drink plenty of fluids. I don’t stop at one. #JWall"
If you thought I'd only let you get one, you're crazy.
Hey why don't you two get a room already!?
#greenwithenvy
"Hey why don’t you two get a room already!?"
Who needs a room?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JpHwA8sRY-M
NO.
YOU.
DIDN'T.
I didn't eeem have to click on the link, I saw the pic and knew…Ms Jackson (yes, I'm nassy) speaks my words!
"skirt around my waist, wall against my face" <–hugh jazz fantasy of mine #SWIDT. When I have an idea of something going down, I wear a dress…it's oh so convenient…and I feel so secci in a dress and heels.
*regulating her breathing* You are at WORK girl, calm yourself…
Hugh Jazz is seriously about to be taken advantage of playing that song.
Starita: "I didn’t eeem have to click on the link, I saw the pic and knew…Ms Jackson (yes, I’m nassy) speaks my words!"
LaBakir: "Hugh Jazz is seriously about to be taken advantage of playing that song."
Janet for the win!
I may be the only person that likes the original of that song and hates the R Kelly remix.
I know I'm fixin to shoot myself in the foot, but I didn't know there were two versions *blush*
D: "I may be the only person that likes the original of that song and hates the R Kelly remix."
BLASPHEMY!
Anthis is why I said my comment on how can a women fake it from a dude if you know what happens to a woman's body before she orgams? If you can't tell dude, then you clearly never made a woman cum.
NIA!
I think I can answer. Some men don't know the difference between a shower and a waterfall. They aren't in tune to a woman's body to differentiate so to them wet = O.
also, a lot of times men are concentrating on trying to last, not buss early, and on overall performance that it may distract them from what your body is doing.
men can fake in the same way as women… I've heard dudes who sd they faked it and the stories are hilarious!
Some men don’t know the difference between a shower and a waterfall. They aren’t in tune to a woman’s body to differentiate so to them wet = O.
BOOOO!!!
Yeah, I understand that concentration thing all too well. My ex would try to ignore me and my sounds trying to last. And I would kill it by either 1.) dirty talk, or 2.) change of position. reverse cowgirl FTW!
also, a lot of times men are concentrating on trying to last, not buss early, and on overall performance that it may distract them from what your body is doing.
^This is what prevents me from hitting the Big O….I can be right THERE and he'll do something…and then I'm back at square 1. Guys don't realize how it takes us a little longer to get THERE….smh
"This is what prevents me from hitting the Big O….I can be right THERE and he’ll do something…and then I’m back at square 1. Guys don’t realize how it takes us a little longer to get THERE….smh"
I've heard this MANY a times. Communication before, during, and after is key. But you have to be an unselfish lover.
@TiffNicky
So true…I don't have a problem speaking up!
**Jackie Chan Voice**
Numba one rule: if a woman tells you 'Dont stop right there" STAYRIGHT THERE!!!!!!
@Streetz
EXACTLY!!!
do you understand the words that are coming out of my mouth?!!!
"Because, I can’t fake that real extra-gushy creamy stuff."
Am I the only one whose mouth waters reading this?
Seriously, Am I?
No.
I was thinking of slopping it up with some warm biscuits… #dontjudge
lol. Just make sure you lick up all the crumbs.
Im judgin.. nyastayy @ss lmao
Hmm, I don't think I can recall a time of actually "faking". If you're the type to ask you may get lied to (if I didn't want to talk about it) or possibly "Well, what do you think?" if I felt like playing around.
Women don't have to O every single time for the chex to be good. Sometimes it's a mellow way to unwind and get to sleep, sometimes it's the best way to greet the day. Sometimes it's like an extention of an extra good hug. As long as she's not frowning, silent or angry (and coming back for more) you should be alright.
Bad chex, on the other hand…is horrible. If you've ever been downtown and felt the girl's foot on your forehead or shoulder pushing you away just when you thought you were "hittin' the spot" stop, playa. Just….stop. Bad chex makes me angry – I won't fake it just to get you off me, I'll lay there thinking to myself "Hurry up ninja and get the hell off me." The stankitude starts before the chex is over.
Quick subject change: Can you please correct the:
About Streetz
Carlito Callez has wrote 85 articles on this blog.
To has WRITTEN 85 articles on this blog! You men are too bright for such a grammatical infraction!
Red,
I think the error lies within the plug-in itself. It auto populates that grammatical feaux pa. I agree it makes me look like I be talkin madd stupided. Lemme see if we can modify that ho!
apparently the plugin won't let them change that.
i'm just worried that ish will be on my blog tomorrow and I don't want it.
ladies and Gentlemen,
Just changed that plugin to have it say "Has Written"
Respect my comp sci degree(s)!!
#geekcomment
*applause and much respect to your comp sci degree(s)* I'm glad that you've fixed it.
Oooohh. *gives cookie* lol
I just orgasmed…oooh Streetz…you da best…no for real though…lol
Thanks guys. Just got a lil hyped that i made it work. lol. didnt mean to sound pretentious.
@starita – was it good for you?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-SK6gbhuEXQ
replace "me" with "Streetz" and you feel me
*passed the eff out* (that's how you know it was really good)
http://www.gifsoup.com/view/396726/michael-jackso…
Never had an opportunity to fake, so I'm observing with MJ. But may I say that all the "to get him off of me", "so that he'll stop", and "so he'll just finish" makes me shed a single tear. When I really start having sex, I'll be d@mned if I don't enjoy it! I do know that an O isn't necessary for enjoyment, but faking to get him off of me, doesn't sound like fun was had…
All this talk abt nuts reminds me of my "Story of an Orgasm". Mmm I don't even remember how it feels to fake it. If I don't cu…arrive on time, ehh.
http://drsuki.blogspot.com/2010/06/orgasms-are-fu…
Lets be honest here. A lot of times a woman's orgasm is not dependent on the man at all. A woman can turn to where you hit her spot and then the tingle starts. A woman can think of when she had some bomb biggidy and then the tingle starts. It so much more mental for a woman.
The best way tell if a woman is hitting or has hit that moment is if she's crying lol. Seriously. A woman crying during sex deserves more sex and for you to stand up.
Disclaimer: if a man catches you crying he is going to put in extra work to keep you going. Your best option is to hide the sniffle sound and any tears.
NSFW ALERT! this is an orgasm… I think
http://everybodylovesdrew.tumblr.com/post/1299650…
thank god i listened to that NSFW warning.
thank god.
I take me hat off to that dude.
I've faked it before…simply because I wanted to walk away w/ my v@gina in tact.
Dude asking "did you cum?" means that if I say no he's going to procede to try and beat it up. So I turn up the moans and sheet grabbing in hopes that his ego is stroked so he can end stroke. As the ladies mentioned before, just because the big O isn't experience doesn't mean that I'm not enjoying "it".
For me…it's a surivial tactic. I do not want the ussy beat up, banged or power drilled. No sir'ree. #SnookiMoan
Wait so sheet grabbin = fakin?!
sighhhh
**goes to delete post**
LMAO! No…it doesn't have to be, but it can be apart of the theatrics. REAL sheet grabbing for me is usually accompanied by me trying get away from "you" b/c it's that good. A backward crawl up the bed of sorts.
Ahh, the runner. They can never get away fast enough lol
@Animate
LMAO! Guilty as charged…I stay running. Surprised my foot hasn't been chopped off yet, lol
LABAKIR!! LMAO! LITERALLY LAUGHING OUT LOUD! You so crazy, you so muhuffin crazy. *wiping tears*
LaBakir: "REAL sheet grabbing for me is usually accompanied by me trying get away from “you” b/c it’s that good. A backward crawl up the bed of sorts."
I do love a crawler. Which is usually followed by me scooting up with her. If she continues to "crawl" that is followed by pinning her in place. This is especially fun during 0ral, when you can just grab her by the thighs to hold her to your mouth. You cannot escape.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q0hLGDSldqE
@HughJazz
I'd like for you to refrain from providing me with such wonderful mental images. Please and thank you.
*crosses legs tighs*
*blink* *blink* *blink*
Oh this trip is soooo worth the gas…
#roughstuff gets more O's than the dictionary.
*tight
For the record, if she's scooting away, she's probably not faking.
@Starita
I'm coming too (II)…ain't no fun if the homies can't have none
LaBakir, that sounds like a plan…don't tease a hungry animal…
I gotta stop playing, Southwest has a roundtrip flight for $100 and it's sounding like a good investment right about now…when they added Milwaukee I thought, "what the hell I want in Milwaukee?" And now I know
a good d!ckdown…*spits out water*
I am so done with you today!!! You are on e-punishment,lmao
*checks Southwest Airlines*
Hey! I said stop teasing! I gets down with the "punishment" *bats eyelashes*
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K6HVKXK8G70
"For the record, if she’s scooting away, she’s probably not faking."
Um Yeah, she could really be in pain. lol.
Add animalistic throat growls Lol
Why do yall be runnin away from it though?!
Me…personally…*sighs* on occasion it just feels…sooo good…on some Halle Berry "Monster's Ball" ish…where I'm just feeling like I'm not in control…so I back it up to gather my senses
I scared of finding out about that squirting businesshmm….
sometimes, the feeling can be too intense. 'Like, wait a min, I'm not ready for this shyt what is he doing? wait, wait, wait…"
Embrace the fear, you won't regret it…
To Do in Milwaukee:1. Punish Hugh Jazz, the nerve of him saying he didn't cum…bet he won't doubt that sh!t again…
2. Show LaBakir there's nothing to be afraid of
@Starita
*singing* I think I better let it go…looks like another e-T.K.O.
LMAO….I'm speechless! You're on a effin roll today…I'ma call you Butta
It's like, "Oh lawd pls don't let me die with him between my legs" kinda feeling. Gotta go. lol
Yes we fake.. No I haven't faked one but I lied… Him: did you ? Me: yeah…..I didn't know how to fake one until I had one & I don't see the point in faking. If its not happening w/you, I can have one w/o you.
Any whoo….women (although all are not alike) are emotional. They like you soooooo much that they're willing to stoop to the dastardly slums of faking orgasms to feed that hungry hungry hippo EGO of yours!
Sidebar: Keep in mind, that I am a woman of a certain age & I have no interest in lying to men…I'm no longer embarrassed to admit certain things & wise enough to accept the basic truth. Topping that I'm in my sexual prime & dammit I wish more of you had it right !
Men, admit it – you crave the satisfaction of giving a woman an orgasm. You're lying if you say otherwise.
Unfortunately too many ladies are having sex with their hearts & not their vagina's. If her heart is happy, she may fake it for the sake of the relationship or potential relationship. (Yes, I said potential relationship…any woman that disputes that is just lying to herself..she won't be able to admit this until she gets real w/ self)
How? Sooo, said woman displays all this physical movement during sex that IMPLYS an orgasm. B/c we're smart..you all are watching her face, the way her thigh trembles, her exasperated breathing, etc. … All things we can control.
Why? Several reasons, some are …
1. B/c she likes you a lot. Which is how thy end up back for seconds & thirds & engaged then married.
2. Possibly hasn't had one yet, & doesn't want to admit to possibly being one of the few that doesn't get one b/c then something is wrong with her & she'll have to face that
3. Doesn't want the Judgment that comes with being a woman that's hard to satisfy sexually.
What are we thinking abt ? Maybe another guy. If that doesn't help then whatever her favorite things are (shoes, sports, etc.). If you take way to long & still nothing, we're thinking …please God help him finish or offering whatever our expertise is to get you there & this over with.
How often? Some women fake it through their ENTIRE marriage…
I don't quite understand why women continue to fake. It is my belief that b/c of this there is an army of 30-something year of men whose performance is lackluster.
"Men, admit it – you crave the satisfaction of giving a woman an orgasm. You’re lying if you say otherwise.
Unfortunately too many ladies are having sex with their hearts & not their vagina’s. If her heart is happy, she may fake it for the sake of the relationship or potential relationship. (Yes, I said potential relationship…any woman that disputes that is just lying to herself..she won’t be able to admit this until she gets real w/ self) "
^^
You betta PREACH!!
This entire post right here!
Some of you have already explained there are varying types of O's. Are there also varying levels as well?
Reason I'm asking is in certain "adult" films I've seen you can easily tell when a woman is faking. When there's too many fake sounding "Oh yeahs" and "Oh my Gods" just randomly thrown out there. And then I've seen others where it literally looks like they're possessed and speaking in tongues, and writhing around like a crazy person.
Plus on certain skin complexions you blush when you orgasm and I don't care how good of an actress you claim to be, you can't fake blushing.
I would think that unless she should be winning the Oscar, the one speaking tounges may be the legit O. But woman are so different it would be hard to tell.
I tend to think you look and sound out if control when it does happen.
Not being able to control your bodyand what comes out of your mouth, maybe this is how some people are called OTHER peoples name….lol.
That's gotta hurt….
If you look up kink.com, you can see alot of what I mentioned.
I don't think I'm a good enough actress to fake one. If dude thinks all moaning = an orgasm, then his issue is bigger than his boo faking it.
And I dunno about all these women saying they fake it. That sounds like way too much work. There's a difference between pretending you are having an orgasm, expressing satisfaction, and acting like you enjoyed the D more than you did. Why fake it at all?
i never understood why women fake it. i would hope be a fool if i said that no woman i've ever been with has faked it with me but i can hope. *shrug*
i'm a big boy. i won't get mad if you tell me that you didn't get yours. we can have an adult conversation about what needs to be done so/if you can next time.
as far as women faking it, all the screaming and hooting and hollering in the world ain't gonna convince me. is your heart rate elevated? if not then i doubt you climaxed.
on a final note, women, food for thought. men fake it too. yep i said it.
How do men fake it? No, really I want to know.
Also, I heard that sometimes Men can have chex and enjoy it without EVER ejaculating? What is that about?
ejaculating does not equal orgasm. there have been times where i've sort of forces myself to cum and it really didn't feel that great. i just wanted to be done. *shrug*
You really want to know???!!
If I can't bust (which is a clear sign something is REALLY WRONG) I can fake it. I just use my pre-cum and pretend its new. Than you smear it on her back so she doesn't notice its a lighter color. Just gotta make sure you are getting soft quickly, like you would after you pump.
And as for the peen flexing before climax. You can flex that muscule out just like a kegel to make it seem like you are pulsating.
Sorry if that was TMI.
If I can’t bust (which is a clear sign something is REALLY WRONG) I can fake it. I just use my pre-cum and pretend its new. Than you smear it on her back so she doesn’t notice its a lighter color. Just gotta make sure you are getting soft quickly, like you would after you pump.
Wait a minute.. *lmao*
"I just use my pre-cum and pretend its new."
ummm how is that possible when CLEARLY that sticky goo isn't enough we can TELL/FEEL the difference in the amount of the funky spunk.
Ha! Pure hilarity…why you know this in detail like you've done it often??
No shyt! LOL!
What do you want me to tell you, I am a magician.
I tend to have alot of pre.
And really not that much post (compared to other people. No homo).
A lot of pre.
You pretend you have bad aim:
"O baby I missed you. It mostly got on the sheets".
Or you say you are empty. Might be just me, but my *ahem* load lightens up the more I *ahem* unload.
"O Baby, I didn't know you were coming over. I jerked off right before you got here. Thinking of you of course.
We aren't exactly numb while stroking. It's so programmed in our minds to anticipate the bust as a terminating event. One must clear his mind to experience more… Some real Yoda type ish. lol
*lol*
It's called D Management
I think the problem these fake Os is our own ego as men. I know I put way to much stock in the issue. It becomes part of how we define ourselves.
"Hi my name is CHeeKZ and I make 88% of women I sleep with nut"
Its really sickening to see every guy fight over Alpha Dog status. Is my patner's pleasure important to me YES. But being lied is a real punch to the gut. Now its not even like I am not good… its I'm not good and I'm a self absorb hard-headed narciss. Its really our fault for putting our priorities in the wrong place and treating women like badges or conquest. You are never going to be the best if you are trying to be the best, should just try being the best you can be. I'm too old to be competing against every dude who you layed with, which is really what asking comes down to.
And this is why you're my futon partner
Good points, CHeeKZ!
Yep!!!!!
THIS!!!
I think the "why" part of the equation can be found in the comments. It's been said repeatedly in this comment section (and several other posts' comments sections) that women can still thoroughly enjoy sex without an orgasm,. However, it's still being referred to as BAD sex if she doesn't. If people could grasp onto the fact that to women good sex doesn't automatically equal orgasm, then women probably wouldn't feel pressure to fake it. I'm sure that most do it so that the man doesn't feel like the problem is with them.
This sums up my thoughts on this entire post…thanks, Sane! LOL!
Well its bad sex for men bec their egos wont allow them to think that they cant make a women come!
But here's the thing though: Say you was feeling the girl and she was feeling you and if she told you she didn't have an O how would feel about that? Your ego would have taken a gut punch which could result in YOU kicking her to the dumpster.
Gee-6,
you're thought is based off assumption. i think that women assume that every male ego is fragile, and invoke the '"save a hoe" method of pleasing him by faking. I want to know how to get better in anything I do 9just check my personal blog) so for me personally, I would want to know so I could have her experience a total all emcompassing sxual experience. Im not selfish, so women being pleased is as important or more than me. Liek I said above I can still say i beat though, and men getting pleasure is easier, so I'ma be skraight!
Are women referring to the same guys who had to learn to deal with rejection our entire lives? We are not going to jump off a bridge because you didn't peak. I'd be lying if I say that every girl I've been with has orgasmed, even ladies I've been with more than a few times.
Guys aren't that fragile as women make us seem and I think alot of us would rather like to know so we can try harder or something different than before. It keeps us on our "D" game.
I feel like what I'm reading from the comments of the guys is this…
"We are confident/strong/manly/(insert other adjective here) enough that we don't need you to placate our egos by faking it and wish you would just let us know that you aren't getting off. However, we will assume the sex was bad for you despite you repeatedly telling us that women can enjoy sex w/o getting off and it is not always a matter of what the man is/isn't doing right or wrong."
Well… that sure makes it simple for us to figure out.
This right here sums up why women fake it.
Sane, the problem is the last part of your quote, no one is saying anything is wrong if she doesnt have an orgasm during sex each and everytime. Guys who pipe regularly already know this fact. So what's the point in lying?
Oh, I didn't realize we were only talking about faking it all the time with a regular partner. So all the references to bad sex were just referring to 'ol girl regularly not getting off, not to the few times she faked it? Ok… got it.
Honestly, I think many more women lie about getting an O (or how many) than actually going through the motions of faking it. But that's me being logical and not a woman…
I don't buy this "for the sake of a man's ego" foolishness. I think that's immature thinking on the woman's part whenever this is used a reason for dishonesty. If you feel like you can't be real with your lover, then someone needs to go.
I never heard of a real life story of a guy faking it. Those guys should play in traffic while holding hands with the women who fake it. What is IT? I mean orgasm not ejaculation. And yes, they are two disjoint entities that may happen simultaneously at times. #testimony
Is she lying or faking? Who knows… You know some women like to believe the lies they tell. After a job well done, a woman will undoubtedly say, "Thank you." So count your blessings and your Thank yous. lol
Honestly, I think many more women lie about getting an O "(or how many) than actually going through the motions of faking it. But that’s me being logical and not a woman…"
I think this is probably very true. I've taken a "don't ask, I won't tell" stance on this. It's not always a matter of communicating what I want/need either. I've never been shy in that regard. Sometimes it is just me, and nothing he does is going to get me there.
I'm not saying that the "faking it" for the man's ego is necessary, but I am sure that most women believe it is and that is the primary reason they do it. Like I said right up there (yes, there ^), good sex doesn't always equal orgasm, and not everybody seems to get this.
Men faking is wayyyyyyy more lame than women faking. I cant say that i've absolutely never faked it, but its on rare occasion. The more turned on i am, the easier it is for me.
An easy way to get yours is to concentrate on the pounding and start describing things out loud or in your head. Now if HE's talking to you-OooooooooooWeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!!! That'll get a woman's mind right quick. Guys have to remember that you HAVE to keep her mind going, you have to mind-eff her if you want her body open.
Now men faking it is foolish. If you cant get yours, let me know and we'll step the nasty level a bit. We're already here anyway. Lmao.
Alot of times, when a woman cant come its not your fault. She may be stressed or not feeling confident,
ADVICE 2 GUYS: A woman's body is like an iron. You have to let it slowly warm up, so it can work best;-)
When you touch her have it in mind that you are warming her up… The more turned on, the easier you'll get the fireworks.
Just because I don't care, i'm going to tell you times when I fake it:
(1) Every dude can go one of two ways when he's had too much Henny, for me, i'm the type who has been like in it for like an hour and with no sign of busting in sight, I just fake it.
(2) I'm a big smell person, and if something smell off like wrank. I just can't do it, and so i'll try, but then eventually i'll just fake it because I feel like that smell is going to rub off on me and I can't wash it off.
(3) Sympathy sex, man back in college, there was a lot of sympathy sex. I mean, I could only take so much before I would just have to give in. I realized that rather than have this girl strung out and posting notes on facebook about why the man she loves doesn't know her worth, it'd be a lot easier to just beat and get it over with.
(4) To piggyback off RedLady point, yo sometimes I just lose track of what i'm doing; i'm like;
"Damn I hope my phone don't ring in the next 5 minutes… that's always awkward… "who calling you at 3AM?" I got to remember to take my phone with me when I get in the shower because she'll see that I sent that, "Tryna chill?" text to like 24 people. For the life of me, I can not spell this girl's name like is it Cristina or Christina or Kristina like Yamaguchi. YO speaking of that I think I left my giga pet over here last time. She probably keeping that joint. Snap I got an 830 tomorrow! OK, fourth song in the playlist, i'm in the clear now. I mean, wait, now was that four slow jams or … daggit, I can never remember if In Da Club is 3 minutes or 4. Man I don't care, i'm still upset at her line sister for not letting me smash, I spec'ed her and that's my number, and she's supposed to be my sandz."
Shortly thereafter, I realize that my heart's not in it. I just clinch up a lot, say, "Oh god" like four times, and fake like i'm having a seizure. Then I perform what I like to call a stop, drop and roll. Stop pumping, drop the condom in the trash can, and roll out.
Seriously, ihatechu for this whole post. LMAO
OMG! hahahahahahahaha! Hilarious but brutally honest… dayum! What is the chick doing this whole time? Doesnt she notice youre distracted? Isnt she trying to get you to be engaged?
#Flatlined…………………………….
Stop, drop, and roll >>>>>
Ah hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahhhahhahahahaha ahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha hahahahahahahahahahahahaha ah hahahahahahahahahahahahaha!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Standing ovay!
#InHeaven
Dr. J I always knew you were a hot mess, but now? It's official. This post had me laughing at my desk so loudly that people were looking at me all crazy in the office….iCan't!
"I mean, wait, now was that four slow jams or … daggit, I can never remember if In Da Club is 3 minutes or 4. Man I don’t care, i’m still upset at her line sister for not letting me smash, I spec’ed her and that’s my number, and she’s supposed to be my sandz.”
MUERTE
Yo I swear if I get fired for spitting tea on this damn payment breakdown…..
Then I perform what I like to call a stop, drop and roll. Stop pumping, drop the condom in the trash can, and roll out.
^^^^THIS!!!!
I am still at work dying over here, Dr J, you are a fool! LOL!
Funny topic. In slight defense of the women here…a lot of women don't know how to have a organism so they might not be necessarily faking it…by rather…just being naive on how to achieve an orgasm in the first place. I once told an ex-girlfriend that I knew her body better than she did. She laughed repeatedly. I proceeded to tell her what spots set her off…what spots don't…when I've caught her not concentrating…what time of day/evening/night she performed better etc….she was impressed that I took such attention to detail. Sex is 70 percent mental…and you have to put yourself in a position to get the O…clear your mind of nonsense and focus on the task at hand. The other 30 percent is technique/physical stuff you do.
*chuckling at spellcheck's effin autocorrect*
"a lot of women don’t know how to have a organism so they might not be necessarily faking it…"
I agree with them not knowing how to have an orgasm, simply because I've met women who didn't even know their way around their own vagina and had no clue how to click their own mouse. Thus, they depend upon external forces to show them their own pleasure centers. Welp…years down the line they've done a lot of f@ckin without one O. That's too damn bad too…
So…please…continue to fake it ladies. I don't think that's ever been much of an issue for us anyways unless dude you're seeing is having pillow talk asking you if you did. Muhahahahaahahahaha!
Squirters don't fake it
Let me tell you something
As much as I would love to say this is true and is probably the real reason why I love your kind so much, I can not co-sign.
Unfortunately,
mythis fetish has become so popular that pornye directors have figured out that if they can get a girl to kegel enough and feed her enough water that her urine becomes clear they can fool the audience into thinking a p!ss is a squirt.Believe me, I love what these women do naturally. Love with a passion. If you ever have gchat chex with me you know bodily fluids are my trademark, however everything can be faked for the right price.
Let me tell you something
As much as I would love to say this is true and is probably the real reason why I love your kind so much, I can not co-sign.
Unfortunately,
mythis fetish has become so popular that certain directors have figured out that if they can get a girl to kegel enough and feed her enough water that her kidney juice becomes clear they can fool the audience into thinking a bathroom release is a squirt.Believe me, I love what these women do naturally. Love with a passion. If you ever have gchat chex with me you know bodily fluids are my trademark, however everything can be faked for the right price
Gchat chex? LOL and Smh…
Cheekz…sak passe cuzin
"If you ever have gchat chex with me you know bodily fluids are my trademark" o___O
*smhl*
youNeedJesus
Jeez Lex and G6 i thought this was a judgement free zone.
Making me feel dirty.
Chuch.
False.
Well done. I wish I could give you an answer for this, but I have never faked it. I swear, never once. I'm glad you asked these questions though b/c I've never understood the point either. My response to women who fake it "If you keep doin what you've been doing, you'll keep getting what you've been getting." Women who fake it are doomed for a less-than-satisfactory lifetime of sexual experiences. SMH. Must not be a scorpio!
Must not be a scorpio!
BITE YOUR TONGUE!!!!
I am a Scorpio and I have faked it..
Are you sure you're a true Scorpio and not one of those 1/2 breeds born on the cusp of our sign? You might be a Libra or Sagittarius? #themsignsbefakin'
*LOL*
Easy now my brethern and sistren of the claw and stinger…
Scorpios are devious enough to fake it and sexual enough to be convincing…
No cuspers over here. BUUUT
October Scorpios >>>>.
You Ain't Neva Lied!!!!
Eddie acting like he don't know..
*hmph*
All I saw was Scorpio. Are Libras done now? Can the real beasts come…out?
October Scorpios stand up!! Bonus points for me cuz my birthday is on Halloween. #2for1special
How can men not know shyt is fake? A woman can come but that doesnt mean she had an orgasm. I dont fake it because is pointless. The first time I had one I was determined to learn how to do that by myself. *Thank you baby jesus for masturbation* If dude is wack is over for that, Fck me bad once shame on you, fck me bad twice shame on me. Dont know why women do it, dont condone it, I tell dudes when they wack, I am all down for constructive criticism, you not bout to use me as a reference if you suck at the job.
My .02 cents! Deuces
Certain times I've faked it, when there was a time restraint like when he wants to bust it up and down left and right for 2 hours? I have to make sure I still have a vagina by the time he's done, I'd llike my shit to last till I cant use it anymore…….or- when the sex started out BOMB and I got distracted, and the o i was working hard on got lost…and it was clear it wasn't coming back, so I just followed through with how i usually cum. I've had enough real ones to know how to fabricate…
ROTFLMAO "when there was a time restraint like when he wants to bust it up and down left and right for 2 hours? I have to make sure I still have a vagina by the time he’s done, I’d llike my shit to last till I cant use it anymore"
Yes, there is nothing worst then losing it(O), and then you can't get it back, and time is just going on and on and on, and he's blowing
'his own back out'steam…..Cause at this point, you've kinda given up… lol. So you boost him up, so he can'get it over with'…get his, so he can stop talking in his head…”damn, is she ever going to cum?”… loloh and – when I tried to coach an ex in the art of pleasing me- he just refused to take any advice or even inwardly acknowledged that he could stand to improve his d game and head game sooooooo.. the last wack sex session I faked it because there is nothing more awkward than an awkward wack sex story with no happy ending. especially when he thought he wasdoing so welll..
I am one of those hard to come by Os gal so faking is not an option. If he asks how it was then I tell them…it was blah blah blah. This one dude was so bad he wanted to try again. I was like no thank you. He had been asking for over a year and talked so much ish! O___o To this day he is still asking 2 years later. And it is still Hell 2 the nah!!!!
My New Years was ruined as I was not able to bring it in with a bag. Pun intended. He was whack boots, he still asking when he can go again I told him never!!!! He still asking! He is super small too so it is definitely a no go!!
I'm not wasting my time or yours so, there is no faking it, you have porn and you don't need me for that! Guys know, when their performance is below par. When the sex its all kinds of awesome and I don't O its cool cuz I know its most likely on my end. Sometimes that's just how it is, it takes a certain someone to bring it out.
I used tho think if a guy could kiss it would be an indication to WOW things to follow….meh not so much…..#swindle
TMI for this post!! Dang!
I'm late to replying so forgive me if I've missed some things that have already been said due to skimming…
The fact of the matter, for me personally, is that I've always achieved the best orgasms alone. These two warm hands, closed eyes and imagination could rival Whirlpool in a soak the bed challenge. That said, if I am engaging in the grownup with a young man in my life, we're in a committed relationship, and I strong like or love him…so I'm not really super concerned with climax every time we do it.
I've been with men who prefer that I do have one every time and know how to give me one, so that's great. I've also been with men who prefer I had one every time and didn't, so I faked it. There's no deep psychology behind it. It didn't pain me to do so, because it boosted his ego, and usually his stroke. I still had fun. We're all good.
Its clear from responses you know there are several types of the big O to be had, so pressure, penetration, and the ever mysterious g spot are all places that can be stimulated, so just because you didn't see any swelling and shaking, doesn't necessarily mean she faked it. Its also been made clear women don't have to climax to enjoy the sex. Some of my best friends are white. And by friends I mean sex and by are white I mean has been without climax. Its just not that big of a deal.
I think its only seriously problematic for those young ladies who've never actually had one AT ALL. That needs discussion, some astroglide, Jesus, Brian Pumper and maybe a 5th of Ketel 1 to get worked out. Otherwise men, do the Maxwell. Don't ever wonder. Just enjoy the ride.
Great points but I still feel like if the O is O-mazing, why not try to work at it with your partner?
I didn't read anything here that said there was anything that needed to be to work out…
Reecie you're taking my words literally.
I'm saying If i knew that I could get a better nights sleep by sleeping on my right side as opposed to my left, i would. Not to say that sleeping on my back isnt just as good, but I would want the BEST sleeping experience, and if i didn't have to settle, I wouldn't.
I get that you women say that its just as good, but then you have the women that'll throw that in a dudes face. i don't know, when it comes to ess ee ex I want to enjoy it to the fullest. *shruglife*
but you don't really "get it" then. and thats okay. I don't think most men ever will… its not a rating of good, better, best…
"Its also been made clear women don’t have to climax to enjoy the sex. "
a quote taken from above.
The way i read that is that yall will enjoy if if yall dont climax. So you're saying you wouldnt enjoy it MORE? Making it a > situation?
Is there a way to O and enjoy it less than a non O?
yeah but that requires way more details than I'm willing to share on this here website. check this out though–rape victims sometime have Os during said act. #truestory
and I shouldn't have said good, better, best because that may vary from person to person–but the point being your quote: "and if i didn’t have to settle, I wouldn’t."
its not settling. but again I chalk this up to a "things men don't get about women" but yall are seriously stressing yourselves out about ish that you really shouldnt…
"Is there a way to O and enjoy it less than a non O?"
Absolutely
even our bodies are illogicalNah no need to overshare. Im def not stressing I just like being educated on male/female topics. I aint never scurred to ask a question!
Pretty Interesting @ the rape victim thing though. Crazy perspective.
To answer your questions correctly. It would be giving away the secret of a womans players card. That's like asking men why do you cheat?You will never be happy with the answer. But, i will tell you something that will help my brothers out. Its a test to see, how well you know your mate. When you fail the test, she just keeps playing you. But, if you want to Pass the TEST. Open your eyes and look at her in the moment, the body will react on its own.ignore the sounds.The sounds are a cover for control. I hope this helps the brothers who are really in love with their mate. All the players won't get it anyway!!Good Luck!
love the explanation. Very true. If you know the person you're with, then there should be no doubt in your mind. Cause there are tell tell signs, that it's real… if you don't know, not only do not know your mate, but maybe you don't know women…… just sayin'
all I have to say is that I have yet to meet a man that can make me c*m as quickly and intensely as myself (or another woman) can. smh. as far as faking it goes… i wouldnt call what i do faking. sometimes the moans help you reach the O sooner…
I’ve faked it. Why? Well, in the case where the sex may have been good, but maybe I was having an off night, not him. I realize an orgasm is not always about a man, and what he’s doing or NOT doing. Orgasming is about not just sexual arousal, it could be emotional connection. If you’re stressed and you’re not in a state of mind where you are able to enjoy the sexual experience, then it may take you longer to get there or not at all. So I might not necessarily blame it on him. So in turn, I'll fake it…
Now on the other hand, if I am in my right mind, and in a heightened state, and although might enjoy the sexual experience, after it’s over, if asked, cause you know they do…. I will let you know I didn’t get mine. So then on the “second wind” he got to bring it lol.
I faked it for the first time ever in life. I dont know if it was a good fake or a bad one, all I know is he believed it lol. I just moaned like it felt good and let him finish.
OK, so here's my truth that may disappoint some men–my cumming has little or nothing to do with the guy. The Big O is 90% MY mental, and the rest is you lol there are things i love about men that just help enhance the experience..that's where the other 10% comes in (his voice, his smell, his touch, etc).
If i fake–it's because im just not there mentally..it could be Idris Alba in my stuff but if im thinking about how paying my student loans suck..then it doesn't matter. Now don't get me wrong..I'll fake it if the guy is totally wack–like if he starts drooling on my face or something lol
This is my first time ever responding to anything, so please bear with me. I cannot speak for most women, or maybe even a few women, I can only speak for myself and my experiences. In my personal experience, possibly like a few women out there, I have faked it actually EVERY time. I have never had the sacred "O", and i have come to the realization that I may never have one. Even though most will consider me young at the age of 24, I believe actually having the experience of having an orgasm is close to non existent for me. I have been with a few people, but i am a person that believes when your with one person you are with just that person,and cant just jump from bed to bed, and i refuse to sleep with a bunch of men to have a slight possibility of having an "O". But all of the men I have been with i have loved and/or cared for them so I would lie and fake an "O" because i have cared for them and wanted to make them feel good about themselves. even though I am not able to actually have an "O" doesnt mean that I dont enjoy sex, pleasing the man that I am with is what excites me. So by lying I please him and thus please myself. When I am faking it, depending on the person and how bad it maybe I may think of anything from setting formulas or SOPs being changed in the lab at work to, if he is actually believing this but for the most part i always give my all because whats the point if we cant at least try to both get something out of it. Thats why treasure kissing and the fore play part of sex.
lol ok , its not necessarily because the sex is torture , but sometimes its because of the female . in my case ive never really had an orgasm because i stay thinkin like for some reason i cant clear my mind lyk im worried . . ya kno ? its because of me and i go back for secs thirds etc in hopes that the next time ( im with the guy i care about ) i can do a better job of clearing my mind and achieve an orgasm. sht then some women are just desperate * shrugs * it sucks but thats why some women fake it