Developing a plan to find good girls...
I meet a lot of women, some of them is good girls and some of them females,
we skeet a lot of them, some of them is jump offs, but I mean, we males.
Spent my whole life being broke, but now I’m educated, making bread,
now I spend my whole life, medicated, intoxicated, bad chicks in my bed.
Probably settle down, if it wasn’t for all these scallywags I meet,
don’t trust women, because I ain’t never met one wouldn’t let me beat.
So either they must be dumb, or they must all be hoes, who knows,
Friday night is about freakum dresses, thongs and open toes.
Over football me and the fellas ask ourselves, where are the good girls,
no emo tho, I don’t play no homo no mo, I been all around the world,
but I still haven’t found any good girls, so we live in hell,
gives me good feelings, like I was on the backwards rebel yell.
I’m probably going to keep telling people I’m down on my luck
My ex-girl was the perfect girl but it seem she don’t give a f*ck
Sympathy beats is perfectly fine beats, because beats is beats
Sometimes you gotta take whatever you can get when you in these streets
Men spend a lot time blaming good girls for the things females do, really though?
She had a man, but call me grimy, because I piped the whole damn crew, really though?
She can have multiple partners, but mad dudes at the same time… now that’s a hoe.
Found that out after I took her to Nobu and popped bottles, man.. that’s a lot of dough.
This part of my life is called, The Legend of Zelda, modern day RPG
I’m scared of these other negros trying to take my girl, but I know I’m a G
Telling everyone my sword is bigger than theirs, it’s so hard to be me
My ideal girl is right next to me, fighting with me, but I can’t even see
Can I meet you next week on Tuesday for lunch? Let me think.
Daytime hours? I have a busy schedule if we link, then we link.
Never mind why my pants are purple, why is your hair pink?
Smells like Summer’s eve, but I can’t wash my b*lls in your sink?
Funny how men are so fascinated with women who allegedly fake
Could pick any girl in the hood, shake, bake, and make Kim K.
At least, that way she could hold you down, and fight with ya
Riding out with your homies can get you killed, #IAintMadAtYa
Missed calls, late texts, gchats leads to miscommunication.
The pitfalls of great sex, now that’s complications
Telling all my friends, like nah we don’t talk no more
Just found out shorty used be a Boston College groupie whore
And now these old heads want to talk marriage with our good girls and such
I ain’t ready for kids or marriage, I need a Benz, this sh*t sucks.
She insists she’s not talking to anyone else, she’s like stop playing games,
What games? This is the blame game, do I got to holla his name?
Tired of these girls that I’m meeting, they all are just so wack
Snapping figure eights, throwing rice, don’t know how to act
Since she don’t know how to act, then we don’t know how to act
All I want to know is where are the good girls at?
you're like a hood Dr.seuss with this post! lol! Funny ish but seriously, good girls are out there but probably by time you meet them, they become jaded & lose the "good" title…i'm struggling at this point…smh
"good girls are out there but probably by time you meet them, they become jaded & lose the “good” title"…
Truth! I refuse to be bitter but sometimes it is just hard lol
I loved this post! Comedic yet honest
LMAO! I was thinking the same thing….He definitely was the hood Dr. Seuss via this post. It was really good though! I likes.
Double standards exists. It's all about reputation for women. So, depending upon who you asks, men will lie lie lie just because they didn't get the cookies
. This falls under b1tcha$$ness, but many women also have this story. If you ask many, I'm impeccable. If you ask others, I'm questionable… Keep that in mind Dr. J.
Unfortunately, I'm somewhat jaded too. Unless you keep your heart to yourself, it's bound to happen.
There are good girls, just not perfect ones.
THIS!!
If you ask many, I’m impeccable. If you ask others, I’m questionable…
And to those others: **middle finger**
Actually, I don't think there are many others… but if there are, that (^^^) is for you.
& I don't know if I'm jaded… I don't think so. Discouraged, maybe. Jaded… eh.
"there are good girls, just not perfect ones."
Amen to that! Seems like a lot of men are looking for that do-no-wrong-stepford-wife-perfect-10 chick…..well that doesnt really exist. We're all human.
i try not to be jaded but it happens at times, i'm definitely discouraged as flyy gahl stated.
"If you ask many, I’m impeccable. If you ask others, I’m questionable…"
^^^Truth @ thewhittiest!
Lmao. I was wondering… You're on something.
"…no emo tho, I don’t play no homo no mo, I been all around the world…"
I don't play no homo no mo. Why did I giggle at this? Lol
Nice.
The problem lies in how men AND women define 'good', which is arse-backwards..
We tend to judge a person's character based on the number of sexual partners, which is stupid. Whether someone has 1, 10, 100 partners doesn't say anything about their personality, bank funds, education, religion, hair color, etc. All it tells us is that person likes or really likes sex.
There are MANY good woman out there, just as there is MANY good men out there. The question is, are you willing to overlook their past, if they are willing to overlook yours?
"All it tells us is that person likes or really likes sex."
I agree! Men meet a woman that hasnt had that many partners and think thats a good thing until they find out she does not even like sex that much. Hmmm… I wonder if that contributed to the low number…
This.right.here. Exactly! More often than not, men tend to judge a woman's character based on her amount of sexual partners (if she honestly tells him) or by what he hears from other men. Women don't do this as much, although some women ASSume that if a dude has been with a lot of girls that he's good in bed. Again, not necessarily the case
Even if a girl or guy is a virgin, doesn't mean they don't like sex, it just means they haven't had it yet. It also doesn't mean they are going to remain faithful or 'sprung' in a relationship once they do. Let me tell you the one thing you can ALWAYS count on: Life, like dating, is a crap shoot! People are unpredictable! I feel the frustration of Dr. J's post. Very creative! If only it could all be so simple…..
you can be good in bed and not sleep with >20 different men.
You don't need to have one night stands to be a freak. But you do need them to qualify as a hoe.. and men don't want hoes.
And the fact of the matter is religion and education won't stop the pain you will feel with people are laughing at you for wifey the former college jump off. I would rather wife a girl that worked at Wendy's with low numbers than a CEO who let the Ques run a train.
(not considering personality).
Nice thought but a lot of guys are just going to end up with women who have high numbers but the good sense to not rack them up in the same area. It seems guys dont really care if a woman is a ho just as long as no one knows. This is the main reasons women lie about it.
You have some jaded women because there have been times when the same situation has taken place where the d-bag approach turned nice nasty because they were unavailabe and kindly declined to blatant disrespect and attack on their (women) character and the reason we are only going to be taken on a dry a** ride with whomever it is that currently has our attention (in other words, b- u passing up somethin magnificent, sh-d ya'll damn women rough). o_O psycho. This is only one example of how several women have walked away with a horrible experience. #imjustsayin I agree with the person who mentioned men and women defining "good". You must be what it is you're looking for.
Great post Dr. J!!!
I think it is silly for people to think that all this madness just happened. This is a direct result of double standards. I also say that men are to lead by example, and the example that we have had, well, let's just say that if you can't be 'em join 'em.
The term "hoe' just doesn't have the same effect as it use to have back in the day. IMO, no one cares about that anymore. Today, it is every woman/man for him/herself.
However, there are many good woman…but after this good woman is deceived, played, and hurt, she is still good just experienced and vigilant.
I believe that what you put out in the universe eventually comes back to you: good and bad.
"Smells like Summer’s eve, but I can’t wash my b*lls in your sink?"
I feel like this is dedicated to me. And it tickles me.
Yes! I caught that… Just started reading your blog yesterday. I like!
Thank you!
Didn't even know you had a blog Max until I clicked your name…wow, risque! I've just started reading and have some catching up to do!
Max and her blog is BAWSE! #no.lesbo
Thanks ladies!
I caught that indirect shoutout too. LOL
aw man. Dr J is like the new Lupe Fiasco. Which line was about you?
People are going to start reading his blogs backwards to see secret messages about the anti-christ.
This poem was deep, it was moving at a fast pace, you need to slow down some — missing a good thing because you can't slow down long enough to see that it's right there.
Most addressed the double standard issue on this post and it's been heading in this direction for a long time — it's getting worse. I think some men/women just love sex and some women just need attention and seek it through physical contact — using sex as some type of therapy. I also think that some men are afraid to be alone, and would rather use beats because it helps calm their fragmented sense of misdirection — a moment of contact to calm the storm in their heads.
I've seen some of the biggest whore's settle down when they've finally found "the one" and never look back. Maybe people are just looking for understanding.
"I’ve seen some of the biggest whore’s settle down when they’ve finally found “the one” and never look back. Maybe people are just looking for understanding."
I concur RedLady! I have seen this as well. One of my close "male whore" friends is getting married in less than 6 months. I know for a fact that he WANTS to throw away his "player" card. Also, I too thought this poem was very deep; almost like Dr. J felt like he had to express some of it in jest so it wouldn't be so overwhelming.
I hear you.
I would jut be concerned if the person is really reformed or not. A person’s past is not just in the past and your history carries over into the present. I keep hearing people want to throw the past away as if it does not affect the present, yet it does.
If he or she is so used to being a certain way and getting good results, would a ring a vows do away with the need for instant gratification?
Marriage is not the catalyst to change that people THINK it will be. That stuff has to be figured out and worked on before you take the plunge.
I agree with what you are saying, but I'm not talking about a person that just can't stop.
I'm talking about a person that for whatever reason was out there whoring and the catalyst (desire for attention and contact and to be SEEN) has now been removed because they're in a loving relationship and being understood.
The people that think that saying vows is going to fix what's broken (although sad and another topic for discussion) are not the one's that I'm talking about.
i see where you are going..
but i think this is a different discussion on why whores stop being whores…
from my experience, they usually decide right before its my turn to hit.
*SCREAMING LAUGHING* at Cheekz
*Wicky Wicky Wicky….* (scratch)
Word!
*Clap, clap, clap, clap while nodding head*
As my momma said to my brothers….."So busy looking at the package but when they open the box and they get shit then they mad they chose THAT PARTICULAR BOX. So many to choose from!"
Imagination is a bitch ain't it!
What do you 'imagine' a good girl to be? Seriously, Not just the behaviors, but the voice, the smile, the heart inside, the features? Do men ever take more than a moment besides checking out her T&A, her attitude and her body moves?
When it comes to women, you won't know what's inside until you take more than a minute and imagine what's inside the mind, because once they hit it, its time to quit it if she's not typically exactly what they imagine she would be.
Women look at men in wrong ways also. But the theory I follow and is equally shared with visualization of men is "look at a woman as what she WOULD be with you in her life…."look at a man as what he COULD be with you in his life".
People are themselves; those that are bitter and acting out don't know you or have you to say to them "hey, let's do…..if they have behavior not even open to your ideas or dreams with them, then you never had a chance to dream with them in the first place.
I also find that the candy-image of a cutie/hottie female by the standards of many men is not either unattainable but not worth keeping if its got qualities not worth holding or having.
Try to step outside of your pre-wired imagery and imagine that the good girl you seek doesn't look like what you are expecting (if you imagine she's long haired, then give her a haircut (not necessarily a Halle-cut but shorter or not in the same style as you visualize); give her hips and thighs if she's a lite-weight; give her lean lines if she's a more thick and voluptuous featured woman.
Give her the smile (since that's the key sign of the person you seek…it comes out in the eyes and the smile) but like most men don't even take a moment to go inside the soul,
OH EM GEE, AGREED! I couldn't have said this any better! I think there are PLENTY of good girls out there, but what kind of women are you talking to and are you attracting to yourself? Not to say there aren't some Gabrielle Union-Beyonce-Rihannish-looking good girls, but if you're stepping to the same type of girl that every guy is stepping to because of their looks, you're bound to run into some ladies who are gonna hit you with the <a href="http://ilike.myspacecdn.com/play#Danity+Kane:Sleep+On+It:475910:m8051467" rel="nofollow">I ain't tryna be rude,
But you're the third guy tonight that's come to me like this" stuff. Try the cutie that's maybe not your "stereotypical" beauty but can keep you happier far beyond her looks ever will!
TABERNACLE!!!
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#PoetrySlamfingerclick
I respect the creative hustle of this post.lol.
I'm a good girl
Ironically, the last guy I dated talked about how I was so good and they don't make women like me anymore and then he rolled out for a skoochie (skank+hoochie). What are the good girls to do????
Good girls recognize their value, and let a guy like him go so he can ruin someone else's life! The quality of guys can't stay bad forever….right?!?! lol
Kanye said it best, " I could have me a good girl, and still be addicted to them hoodrats" !
@JazzyLady –
F*ck like a p0rn star.
Thanks for the advice
…tee-hee
Skoochie..
Flatlined…….
I'm stealing this one.
I died.
I think the good girls are too busy doing what they want to do. A lot of these girls you refer to as hoes are good girls gone bad. Taking internet advice without a grain of salt and trying to be everything to a guy only to get the short stick. She finally got fed up and said eff it.
Good girls do exists… they're just not rolling in the bad girl circle.
You know what; men don’t want a good girl. They want the girl of their dreams. That would do, say, be any and all of what they could have ever imaged and more. And when she has flaws, then it’s on to the next. REALLY??? What is the definition of a ‘good girl’? http://www.j-walk.com/other/goodwife/index.htm. This woman does not exist anymore. Nobody’s perfect. And like mentioned earlier, 9 times out of 10, Good Girls went bad cause of some man who treated her wrong. She did everything in her power to please him, and it just wasn’t enough. Because men are never satisfied, constantly searching for perfection. But some of us are still out there. I consider myself a ‘good girl’, but yes, I’m flawed, beyond perfect.
I dare say that there's a difference between a 'Good Girl' and a 'Good Woman.' I personally want a 'Good Woman' that's a 'Bad Girl.'
touche! so true. Let me correct myself. I am a "Good Woman" with "bad girl' qualities…NOT crazy, hood, loud 'bad girl', but that good kind of BAD…. lol
Which brings another point. Men expect a lot out of a woman they just met, I mean sexually. But if you're looking for a real 'good girl' then she would actually be saving herself for someone 'special'. Which is safe to say then, she would be looked over because she's not given it up. And if she is giving it up, then she's tarnished for the next. You just can't win… DOUBLE STANDARD….
You want the 'good woman' with 'bad girl qualities', from the go, men want a p*rno star. But she better not have had that many partners before you…. I mean is that fair?
That's what I WAS looking for. Thank God we found each other! But once again, I personnally think it raises the infamous question, "what kind of man a good girl/woman getting?" Or like I say "running to?" I've dated good women but there was always something not right when it came to being serious. Could it possibly be "drama free'd"? Lol!
I've been here all along… lol Funny. I believe it can be drama free. It’s about the maturity level, feeling secure in yourself, and being motivated and driven in your own life. If the other person is not, then there will be issues in the relationship. It also has to do with communicating and knowing what you want and expect out of relationship before you get it. Sometimes you really don’t know all the little details that may eventually come back to bite you, and/or get on your nerves. But it’s about knowing your limits, what you’re willing to accept, and knowing that in the end it’s all about compromising. No one is perfect. How much you love that person over the fact that they keep the damn toilet seat up or roll the tissue the wrong way(not your way) lol, matters most. BTW not any of my own pet peeves just throwing that out there lol
@southern Poise<chuuch! Lol, a good out look I ain't really thought about.
I'm a GOOD WOMAN. However, I have to say it is by the skin of my teeth that I'm good because many of your homies seem to go out of their way to ruin us. Everyone wants a virgin but no one wants to be told "no for now""wait until marriage" or at least "can we get to know each other better". Maybe you attract who you are. It's what you tell us.
Everyone wants a virgin
NO ONE wants a virgin…
Some guys do. Everybody's different. True story: One guy I knew swore up and down he didn't want one but then ended up dating this girl he SWORE would be his wife. I was like whatever, dude. Well once they dated for awhile she dropped the V-bomb on him. He stayed. She gave it to him. Now they are married and from what I hear, enjoying a great sex life. Be careful of what you say you don't want or what you won't do. Sex ain't calculus, anyone can learn! Life is funny and you never know what package your 'gift' might be wrapped in.