“I want to talk to you about morals. The morals of the young people today is going to get them in big trouble. I’m telling you, because they act like they don’t know the difference between right and wrong. And this is the truth. And see, one of the reasons is the parents. The parents are not taking care of their children. They are not telling them the difference between right and wrong. But then… [Aunt May, Aunt April both roll their eyes and turn to leave] Wait, now. No, no, no. No, ma’am. You have to listen. Because part of the responsibility is the children’s, because this is *their* lives. It’s not their mama’s or their papa’s. I’m telling you, they have to think for themselves. Even if their mama and papa didn’t do something about them. Girl, look, the children have to think and try their best to come on up, come on up.” – Aunt June
As we continue our series, I would like to bring attention to the need for us to lead by example and strengthen our future. We’ve got to show our future how to act, and the best way to do that is to show them that we are dedicated to the betterment of ourselves as well. Today’s points are:
4. Monkey see, Monkey do [Pun Intended] – I’m never going to stop saying this, most Black people didn’t even know what Barack Obama stood for even as they were casting their votes for him. They voted for him because they heard all the other Black people they rolled with was voting for him. Somewhere in Black America we’ve lost individuality, we’ve become one of the most homogenous races on the planet because we suffer from groupthink. We are so afraid to say, “That doesn’t make sense to me, and I disagree.” Do you remember back in the day how everyone wore Jordans?! Provided you could afford them, the whole school had Jordans. Fiscally speaking, Jordans and Nintendo video games were the worst invention in the hood. I’ll tell you why, people lived in the projects but managed to have several versions of the same shoe. Myself, (I was middle-class so, lol) I had the white-black, blue-grey, red-black, and then the all black Jordans … and that just didn’t make any sense. And as it pertains to Nintendo games, my best friend bought it, so I went and bought it too. Never mind, that we always played the game together, we needed two copies, and here’s the thing, I didn’t even like the stupid ass game. I hope someone understands this analogy.
5. The Way We Raise Our Children – I almost got my ass killed for having an intellectual conversation with my parents about whippings. I ain’t do nothing that a white kid would do like call the cops or say, “F*ck you dad!” I’m still here ain’t I? But my point was this, “Doesn’t it seem a little odd that white people don’t beat their kids and they grow up to be very successful in life? Black people look down on the way white people raise their kids, but aren’t they yielding results? They are cussing out their parents and getting accepted to Ivy League schools. Meanwhile, whipping Jerome still didn’t help him, and now he’s looking at a G.E.D. and trade school. And don’t you think that slapping your child in the head every time they do something wrong is a little off? That can cause concussions and even Parkinson’s disease over a long period of time. I’m sure you’re not hitting me that hard, but let’s see, you’re not hitting me “that hard” from the time I’m two until I turn seventeen?” My mother waited for a few minutes, then proceeded to beat my ass. The problem was, I dropped some deep sh*t, but I also had one of the most ignorant Progress Reports in the history of DCPS. I had the conversation with my mother later and she agrees … somewhat.
6. Refusing to look in the mirror – I’m not trying to mess with my own promotion, but let me be real with you for a second. The reason why these sex, dating and relationships blogs are so popular is because it’s a writer talking about what’s wrong in the opposite sex and a reader saying, “That isn’t true.” It’s a perfect give and take relationship, and with comment sections, it goes VIRAL. A Black man can tell you why Black women are single, but when asked why he’s single, “I can’t find anyone to date.” But this extends itself across the entire race on many subjects. We are never looking in the mirror at our graduation rates and unemployment rates, we make excuses and blame institutionalized racism to justify our faults. There is a lack of self-examination in the community and it’s killing us. I was telling my younger frat brother the other day, it’s not about screaming at our college chapter when things go wrong, it’s about how have I contributed to this problem, how can I be a better mentor to a younger brother? We’d love to be perfect and thus we strive for it, unfortunately we are not, so self-examination is the only way to get there.