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Too Pretty to Go Down: The Correlation Between Good Looks and Bad Brain

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I've been here before

This week we had some great posts from the Jacksons (Slim and Dr J). While Slim spoke on the propensity to forgive, Jay pontificated on the marriage rates of the attractively affluent women in this world. So we get to Wednesday and Young Streetz is up to bat. So much material to build upon, and yet, so little time. As I perused the comment section for the good Doctor’s post, I saw a comment by Il Duce that immediately sparked my interest:

Me personally, I avoid pretty woman. They can’t ufck,”

To tell a quick story: I overheard some lady friends talking about granting knowledge to gentlemen. One, who is a very attractive and facially beautiful woman, spoke as if she was average with her mic skills. She didn’t really do anything “nasty” (swallowing, spitting, etc). I started laughing, and when she asked why I simply replied “I can’t believe it. You’re one of those chicks that’s too pretty to give head!”

As funny as this sounds, there is an unfortunate truth to the above statement. in my worldly travels, I have encountered the s*x of legends and nightmares. I have been shocked, elated, distraught, and disappointed. One of the biggest disappointments has been with women who are otherwise GORGEOUS, who turned out to be lame ducks in the sack.  That’s a major letdown, as your fantasy that you create in your head is immediately destroyed. Men erroneously correlate physical beauty with s*xual acumen. Just because a woman “looks good” doesn’t mean she’ll “fcuk good”! Bad head is even worse. Boring head? I’d rather do the Cat Daddy and Dougie on hot coals and thumb tacks! Me, being me, I need answers! So, I thought it over and tried to make sense of how physically beautiful women could be wack in the sack and brain dead while trying to give head:

They never had to give head because they look good

I know this is especially true with younger people, but I theorize that from teenage years (14-18) is when a woman would learn that if men found them attractive, they can manipulate them to do anything from carry their books, to buying them food, to doing their homework. When they start dating, and start being s*xually active, it’s very conceivable to think that, since they are considered to be aesthetically appealing, that they can get by on saying “I don’t do that” and a dude will just do this before they attempt to crack the code to their lovebox => ¯\(.__.)/¯

Furthermore, if they do look good, they won’t feel inclined to do more than missionary and the occasional doggystyle (for birthdays, bar mitzvah, and crossing days of course), as you should be content with slaying the cooch of a fortunate looking woman. FCUK THAT!! Practice makes perfect, and resting on your laurels will make a dude look to sample from other buffets, or get tired of your cooch QUICK and look for something more exciting.

Pretty Women will give head but only as a chore not for enjoyment

If there’s something worse than boring or bad head, it’s getting head from an unenthusiastic woman. No one is forcing you to do it, so don’t act like we’re your mom at the dinner table forcing you to each that damn spinach that she paid money for, and cooked for the family! Women will constantly talk about men who don’t know how to please them, or don’t know their bodies. Well ladies, we don’t care if you like Halle or Stacey Dash, don’t heavy sigh, roll your eyes, or act like this is the worst thing ever. Give brain with heart and desire or give us FREE!

I know that some in Dr Jay’s post alluded to the fact that a lot of dudes, when choosing mediocre s*x with a dime or mind blowing s*x with a 5, will choose the dime every time. I offer a third option: Go to the ATM and get DOLLARS! I’ll also say that if s*x is the ultimate goal, good s*x at that, then that 5 is gonna get MUCH more action than that dime! Keep it real fellas, keep it funky!

So what do you think? Is there merit to this theory? Ladies do you know women like this? Are men just as bad? Fellas, have you run into this before? Now remember we aren’t talking about relationships, beauty on the inside, or anything like that. This is strictly physical. No swindles!!

Staying ahead of the game,

 

 

 

P.P.S – R.I.P. B.I.G!!!!!

Comment(170)

  1. *sigh* RIP Christopher Wallace…

    Pretty Women can't get a BREAK this week, but I am happy for this truth…

    I like the whores I create, simply put, I want to leave women better than I found them… showing them how to disable their gag reflex, swallow protein, etc…

    (I am reminded of a girl I met in the library late last year, yes she was black, and I found out that she used to be a prostitute [her body count was at least 150+] & she was only 18 WTF… And her head game was wavy)

    It is definitely not a bad thing if I find a pretty girl who has horrible head game, with time, love, & patience that can be corrected….

    I have never given head (yet), but I am enthusiastic when I find the cougar to teach me…

    1. Adonis, while I appreciate your honesty and openess…. I suggest you find a network of older men to mentor you b/c some of the ish you say boggles my mind.

      Granted, we are not that far apart in age, yet it seems there is a lifetime of experience difference b/t us.

      Like Most said #YouNeedMorePpl to help get you to the next level.

      ::exit soapbox left::

    2. You haven't done the do yet? You might still be a virgin. I'm not sure yet. Have to check the man manual.

      But, I'm also excited for you. It's a wonderful thing to experience for the first time.

      Actually, I think you should write a guest post for SBM about the first time you experience it. I can help you write it (pause just in case). Could be epic. Idk.

      In the mean time, I'm tryna figure out how much of what you've said about sex is invalidated by the fact that you've never french kissed a lady's lady parts. I mean do you know what a c*** is or where the g-spot is? Do you know what lips are… can't call it.

      Anyways, your future is bright, if for no other reason than the fact that you still have great things to experience.

      Lastly, is it me, or do Adonis and Suki seem like a match made in heaven? 🙂 Suki's gonna be mad at me for that… but, I think it could work.

        1. *raises hand*

          I'm a pretty chic who can cook… I'm sure his wife is gonna need a moment to grieve. I got the kitchen on lock.

      1. Mr Spradley, I'm so you brought up my virginity loss, it definitely already happened, but would you like me to put it here, or put it in a guest post… Just tell me where to submit it…

  2. "Go to the ATM and get dollars"

    Ha!

    I have a gf who thinks its beneath her to give head. Personally I blame bad past sexual experiences

    I never stood the mentality of "too good to partake in awesome sex".

    I support "give and you shall receive"

    1. WIM-

      I read your post. You didn't really explain what was SOO bad..did she graze the mic with her teeth? Did she try to bite down on it like it was a kielbasa? I mean, what was it…lol.

      1. While I would rather not re-live the entire traumatic experience in full, it was like something out of the X-Files. But I guess the best way to describe it is, "dry."

        Yes, dry head. I know it sounds implausible and if I hadn’t been there to witness it first hand I wouldn’t believe it either. It was the strangest thing I've ever experienced and I wouldn’t wish such a fate on my worst enemy.

        Don't believe me? Well, as Fox Moulder, star of the X-Files would support me in saying. As scary as it may be, "The truth is out there."

        *sips hot tea and stares solemnly out window*

        1. @QueenT: Here's the thing. While this woman was the worst offender BY FAR, I've dealt with at least a handful of woman like this, where basically they dont use enough spit. These are the same type of women, I imagine, that grew up giving no-lube hand jobs back in High School because dudes didnt say anything.

          Getting back to the post, because, like Streetz, I believe pretty girls are the worst offenders, I think some girls, even if willing to give head, are still afraid of going all in. They be down there trying to look pretty. #NoSpit or #TeamNotEnoughSpit. That's just a bad business plan all around.

          If I like a chick, I'll take the time to correct this. Offer tips. Put'm up on the good good. If not, I'll just move on to the next one and the next man can suffer through that madness if he wants to. I mean damn, we all have access to the Internet and pron. Who the hell in their right mind would think dry head is the business?!?

          …..these are truly crazy times.

  3. the 5 best dome recieving sessions Ive ever recieved…4 of them were from women who I would consider "average looking". not a knockout, but nothing spectacular. the remaining woman was a woman who I THINK "used" to be average looking, but ended up(as years went by) being about an 8 on a 1-10 scale…so in theory, she still had the "average chick (looking), I gotta be good at this" mentality…which was completely to her benefit. the woman was articulate…and I dont mean that in a verbal sense.

    its my belief, that "real pretty a$$ women" dont feel the pressure to have to learn certain things because they so.damn.fine….so youre right on the money (IMO) with your post. there will always be exceptions to the rule…but in general…ya right.

    I know a woman that once told me "I dont give brain"…and I asked her "they still make you". #thatswhyyousingle

    and one pretty good looking ex co-worker of mine…light skinned…reindeer butt cheeks, small waist…ended up going into adult film. watching her do her duty on camera was hilariously bad… which I attribute to her never having to really "embrace the #teammouthhugs concept"…but eventually…due to her job…she got better.duh.

    1. Cosign this entire comment. You would be surprised how many gorgeous women you know or see just DON'T know how to open up the skydome like Toronto. Crazy!!

  4. well i don't know about you but some of the best head i've ever gotten was from pretty chicks. maybe i've just been fortunate but there's nothing like a pretty nasty woman. *shrug*

    now i'm not saying i've never got bad head and you're right, bad head is terrible. don't do me any favors. if you're not going to be into it (or do a d*mn good job convincing me) then keep that ish to yourself.

    1. "but there’s nothing like a pretty nasty woman."

      co-GOT DAMN-sign!

      But I will say to Streetz point, in my experience this has been the exception, not the rule BUT when a fine women is pretty AND nasty.

      LAAAWD.

      *cools self with MLK church fan*

        1. I've been on both sides of the coin fam. Like you said, the beautiful/nasty woman is the shan-gri-la (sp) of the females out there.

          In Memory of B.I.G. if you can "Suck a good dyck, and can hook a steak up" and you're single and pretty, there's somethign wrong with this world

  5. lol yea your theory is correct! its no coincidence pretty chicks aren't rumored to give the best head, if you survey men on "who gives the best head" most would say fat/big/ugly(not pretty) chicks give the best head.

    Like you said pretty chicks never had to learn to go that extra mile to get/keep/satisfy their man bc they feel their looks aer enough. whereas a not so pretty chick most times have to do more/extra to get/keep/satisfy their man.

    Women when yall see mismatch couples(ugly/not so pretty woman and good looking dude) and wonder "why is he with her", i bet majority of the time her head game(and s*x game) is A+++

    1. I want to disagree with this statement… I really do, but my experience backs it up.

      The best knowledge sessions I ever had came from chicks I really wouldn't want to be seen in public with, but their skills made me want to put a ring on it.. I mean head so good, it made me kiss her on the mouth and say thank you… #whew #CollegeDaysSwiftlyPass

    2. "Like you said pretty chicks never had to learn to go that extra mile to get/keep/satisfy their man bc they feel their looks aer enough. whereas a not so pretty chick most times have to do more/extra to get/keep/satisfy their man. "

      I am going to have to call BS. You two might need to date a few more women. I know PLENTY of hot girls that don't mind going the extra mile for their man. I am one of them. I am a part of the legion of women that believe: "If I don't another woman will". #ya'llgettingswindled

      1. @ BP

        You killed yourself. Look at what you said: "I am a part of the legion of women that believe: “If I don’t another woman will”.

        You got it all messed up. This rings true to the point in the post that said lots of pretty girls do it as a chore. Your point reinforces this point. If you do it for your man because you dont want him to get it from other women, you are doing it as a chore. There is an undertone of duty and responsibility here and this is NOT what we as men are looking for. Dont do it because you know other women will or would do it with your boo. Do it because it turns you on! Do it because you are a nasty freak jawn and you like getting gagged! Do it because you like the feel of having meat in your mouth! These are the reasons to do it and these basic feelings are the foundation of GOOD head that is not mechanical or obligatory.

        1. @Kautious…. babes you assumed that I don't like putting in work. I NEVER said that. What I did say is that I believe in fulfilling my mans needs is because of I don't another woman will. Who said I don't enjoy it? I didn't. If I could send you references…

          .you'd book a flight to Cali I'm sure. #don'tdoubtme

        1. Def. cosign on the BP comment, perhaps its a regional thing… Cali girls def. take pride in the "arts."

  6. Before I begin: Adonis, HOLD THE FCUK ON!!! You expect someone to go down on you,yet you haven't gone down on anyone….smh. I just can't with you!

    My mother taught me never to half ass anything, to make yourself enjoy even the most mundane tasks, and to expect the same from others. When you finish a job and you do it well there is a great feeling of accomplishment and pride. And if you so choose you can also get a shot of zinc, potassium, calcium and protein when you're done, its like an energy shot to prepare you for the main event.

      1. I am definitely feeling the e-Love…

        You know, pretty people have this thing called SCARCITY working in their favor (not that many pretty people walking around), and pretty people SURE DO LEVERAGE THAT, as any sane person would…

        Now the last time I checked (even though some feminist want you to believe otherwise), men & women are NOT equal… And when it comes to men giving women head, it is SO unnecessary… And if I learned pimping & being a player from my older male counterparts (who are doing very well with women BTW) , they would agree… Anytime I talk about eating p*ssy to my older bro (who does WAY better at attracting females than I do), he cringes at the thought, that is just NOT apart of his repertoire…

        The reason cunnilingus has not been the wave with me, cause I haven't been with a girl I who motivates me enough to want to go down on her… Not because I am not an enthusiastic student willing to master pleasing women with my tongue… It is just in me, to be a fantastic sex partner, and that is a requirement for me…

        If I want to just "win" with most women, eating p*ssy is not part of the things to do…

        I'm interested to know where this discussion is going today…

        1. I actually don't think you should go down or every woman you have s*x with…and the same goes for giving head….and I also think something about the person should motivate you in that directions..so, on that point Adonis..I shall agree with you. lol

        2. "And when it comes to men giving women head, it is SO unnecessary"

          Who told you that Adonis?

        3. "And when it comes to men giving women head, it is SO unnecessary…"

          who lied to you (reads next sentence and understands how your logic got to be so flawed)?

          'And if I learned pimping & being a player from my older male counterparts (who are doing very well with women BTW) , they would agree…"

          i really think you need better role models. yeah you can say eating pu$$y is unnecessary but a woman could also argue that sucking a d*ck is as well. you do it because a) you want to and b) you want to please your partner. your "counterparts" got you messed up in the game.

        4. ‘And if I learned pimping & being a player from my older male counterparts (who are doing very well with women BTW) , they would agree…”

          My husband would NOT agree with you sir Adonis and he is very much wiser and older than you are.

          I got that as an appetizer before any se.x happened months in advance and needless to say it is one of the things about him that keeps me submitting to his every wish.

          You may want to re-evaluate your role models, because they are writing the wrong answers on the mirror for you my dear.

          You can't expect what you aren't willing to give.

        5. "You can’t expect what you aren’t willing to give."

          This piece of fiction works right up there with

          "You Can't Turn A HO into A Housewife"

          Both these saying are proven FALSE EVERYDAY…

          Moving on…

          And my role models are FINE, just because there are not SQUARES, they are invalidated… FOHWTBS

        6. @MadScientist:

          [your “counterparts” got you messed up in the game.]

          *__________ToeTag_________*

          I haven't heard that phrase in a minute. Thanks for the throwback.

          @Adonis:

          Ummm, your brother is either lying to you or he doesn't care because trust me there is a VERY strong possibility that his chick is getting her love button orally soaked by somebody else.

        7. @Girlsixx I doubt it, but y'all female are SO conniving that we don't know where y'all have been…

          Men shit anywhere & everywhere…

          Cats dig a hole first, THEN shit, then bury the evidence…

          Put it this way, women's value system on getting head is very low on average, it is just the women WHO ARE BLOGGERS (meaning that they think more than the average female) that make head a priority…

        8. "Put it this way, women’s value system on getting head is very low on average, it is just the women WHO ARE BLOGGERS (meaning that they think more than the average female) that make head a priority…"

          you sound real foolish right now. quit while you're ahead. the majority of women (read: ALL) place eating the pu$$y a priority and damn near all of them are not on the blog scene.

        9. @MadScientist I believe that… that is not a dealbreaker, especially when a woman is working on a man's commitment (I tried to keep it physical Streetz, BUT)…

          Call me foolish, & quitters are spitters…

          And didn't someone say that many of women leave their relationship & sex DESTINY in a man's hands…

      2. Any dude that has ever licked a pu$$y so a brawd would let him stick it in is a sucka………and not a pretty boy……cause pretty boys don't have to do that ish. LOL

        1. "And when it comes to men giving women head, it is SO unnecessary… And if I learned pimping & being a player from my older male counterparts (who are doing very well with women BTW) , they would agree… "

          I know other brothers commented on this but Adonis…. my dude please have a seat => ______/ right here and let me coach you for a second….

          ANY man who tells you that licking the love box is unnecessary is either a) Selfish b) frontin or c) Sexually limited. Now I WILL cosign that you don't eat every woman. That's a fact. if this is your girl, someone you've messed with for a long time, etc, then your tonguework is the ultimate compliment to any pipework you can lay. Some women can't reach climax off penetration alone. Fingers are cool but the tongue, with its taste buds and nerve endings, is the perfect muscle necessary for that stimulation.

          Don't chalk it to "being a player" if you don't go down on women. Chalk it to you being selfish, scurred, or disgusted. I was like that once when I was a teenager. Now? If she's worth it to me, she gets the Streetz version of the "How many licks" remix

          Change the game or play another sport patna!

        2. @Streetz

          I know other brothers commented on this but Adonis…. my dude please have a seat => ______/ right here and let me coach you for a second….

          *sits down* I appreciate the seat, next time could you warm it up…

          ANY man who tells you that licking the love box is unnecessary is either a) Selfish b) frontin or c) Sexually limited. Now I WILL cosign that you don’t eat every woman. That’s a fact. if this is your girl, someone you’ve messed with for a long time, etc, then your tonguework is the ultimate compliment to any pipework you can lay. Some women can’t reach climax off penetration alone. Fingers are cool but the tongue, with its taste buds and nerve endings, is the perfect muscle necessary for that stimulation.

          A) Nothing wrong with being selfish especially when you have ENABLERS

          B) I don't associate with frontin a** negroes…

          My brother (38 BadBoy) is very smooth with the ladies, he can get away with doing nothing while his women do everything… Now, I am from the cloth that if I meet ANYONE, I add more value to THEIR lives than they do to mine… And in life, the intangibles are FREE & MOST IMPORTANT… HOWEVER, if women allow men like this in their lives, I need to take a page from guys like this… Stop telling about I need role models… I take a page from the men who are #WINNING

          #NoCountryForBeingSexuallyLimited, My bro just doesn't want to eat chicks out… So he deals with chick who don't demand that of him… Pretty Smart if you ask me…

          Don’t chalk it to “being a player” if you don’t go down on women. Chalk it to you being selfish, scurred, or disgusted. I was like that once when I was a teenager. Now? If she’s worth it to me, she gets the Streetz version of the “How many licks” remix

          Change the game or play another sport patna!

          My bad for the miscommunication… Player is a very LOADED word… Nothing wrong with going down on chick… in the same way I don't mind crying, being romantic & going the distance…

          In conclusion… eating p*ssy is NOT a DEALBREAKER for most women… If they say that THEY ARE LYING…

          As far as women not cumming through penetration, that is a NO NO in my house… I have remedies for that…

          7 out of 10 women have not experienced an orgasm through penetration

          The Hite Report: A National Study of Female Sexuality by Shere Hite

  7. Well the prettier/more attractive you are in life the more you're able to get away with things in life. I guess this is one of those things too. I'm not a sexual expert, so I'm not even going to sit here and try to argue against the post or anything b/c it's probably true *I'll ask some of my guy friends tomorrow*

    Of course if men keep going after this type of woman and brushing it off when she says she's too good to perform such an act then whose really to blame? I'm sure these women walk around with the mindset of, "Well if he has a problem with it I'll just find someone else. It's not that hard."

    At least you all have the ugly girls. The majority of men (ugly and attractive) *cough Adonis* will try to sit there and say they do not perform "Australian Kisses" on women. So there's pretty much no option for women if you ask me. If he's ugly there's a high chance it'll be mediocre. If he's attractive there's an even high chance it'll be mediocre.

    Wait, I think this comment might have been pointless. Oh well *walks off with hands in pockets*

  8. if im not dating you, ill wait for u to give head first, if u dont, i don't.maybe adonis has met some women like me and assumed they don't give head cos they think they are too pretty

  9. I used to be this woman…and it's true. I never really gave head until my later years. In my 20's…it was never asked of me. I think I gave of fthat vibe that it wasn'g going to go down so don't even ask….I spent most of my late 20's and early 30's with my ex-husbamd…he never asked..and if he did…I don't remember doing it..if I did, it wasn't very good..because I didn't have the skills and I didn't really like to do it….something happened after we broke up…I became a BEAST….I got all enthusiastic with it…I do it with no shame now….I am just more s*xually adventurous now that I am in my early 40's….I don't talk to alot of women about what we do in the bedroom….but, the few that volunteer information are giving head…..

    I agree, I don't think pretty women are really putting in good f*ck time…In my younger years..I don't think I gave it my true all….and some Men can bring more out of you then others…so, all hope is not lost guys…you just have to know how to finesse the pretty woman in the bedroom…not even just pretty women but women….because I don't even classify myself as pretty..but anywho, that is my two cents….

    If you can wait on the "pretty woman" to hit her s*xual prime then you are in for the time of your life..lol

    Godd post Streetzie!

    1. "I am just more s*xually adventurous now that I am in my early 40′s"

      Say what? Thought you were younger! You and Red Lady need to start giving directions to that fountain of youth.

    2. yeah it has everything to do with the man and what he brings out/encourages you. if these men aren't calling out the pretty women for being lame at giving head, or caring enough about her to encourage her in a supportive way–who is really at fault? she'll just go on to the next being wack with it.

      and they say women peak sexually in their 30s and 40s anyway–we become more comfortable with our bodies and are also more skilled.

      I won't say how long I've been effin, lol. but I know I may have had MORE sex in my youth but I have better sex now.

    3. "something happened after we broke up…I became a BEAST….I got all enthusiastic with it…I do it with no shame now….I am just more s*xually adventurous now that I am in my early 40′s"

      This is the stuff MILFs are made of.

      #salute

    4. #1 "If you can wait on the “pretty woman” to hit her s*xual prime then you are in for the time of your life..lol"

      This comment says it all

      #2 – You're in your early 40s?!! Wow Black doesnt crack!

      #3 – When i see your pic, I lowkey get the "im pretty I aint goin down unless I have to" vibe, lol. Its the eyes yo… I swear!

  10. Bad Head is like the Anti-Christ… it takes your soul and drags it down to the depths of Hell, where it shall remain tortured in the firey pits of warm mouths with no aspirations. As your body suffers with immeasurable agony knowing that the joy you expected shall never light of day, as the vessel is docked in a sea of darkness.

    This is literally what bad head feels like…

  11. lol all of da women i been with gave me head and some of da best head i got was from women who were absolutely gorgeous

  12. I don't really mess with the common woman. I've had some pretty epic women in my life. It might be that people feel motivated because of my large endowment. But in the last 13 years my swallowship fund has been able to send several pretty women to school.

    I'm not hating but yall need to read Streetz post on the beauty complex. It baffled me yesterday how many of you don't consider yourself pretty. Either that or I'm convinced you just like to argue.

    Real talk when is the last time you were at a wedding and said "that's an ugly broad but she's married."

    1. I think maybe yesterday's blog was so widely misunderstood because of our different definitions of pretty. I know my friends are very weary of labeling themselves as beautiful despite other people saying it to them over and over again. Don't know why that is… But regardless, I know two very ugly people (only two, and we're talking butt-ugly, like obese, skin problems, the whole deal) and they are married or engaged. And one of them is even a total bitch so it can't be their winning personalities either. I think they just found the right guy or something.

  13. Pretty women don't feel the need to give head to everyone they sleep with to impress him or keep him around. They wait (as any woman should) for the right guy to "put it on", therefore, not every man that has a chance with her will get to experience her skills. Sometimes we just want to nut too, which by the way….can be achieved without brain. Now, while I'm also not an expert on this….I could see how a woman who is maybe not so blessed in the face would try to work extra hard to keep a very attractive man around and keep him interested.She's first surprised the guy is even interested in her then tries her best to keep him cuase he's the best thing that's tried to holla at her since…..ya know…..the last time somebody told a guy she gave good head.

  14. Sooooo just for clarification sakes, a pretty woman who does do it like Streetz' requests will subsequently have a ring on it like Dr. J posted about yesterday?

    Lol. Got it.

  15. I could repeat the post yesterday about my childhood friend but I won't. I will say that I agree that pretty women are usually spoiled and get things handed to them on a platter so that they don't have to try hard in the bedroom.

    I recently had a conversation with a pretty friend of mine and we were discussing how difficult it is to have sex with your partner when you're really mad at him about something and she somehow misread my conversation and said, "see you're like me, there's certain things you just WON'T do in bed!"

    I was like (pause) because how does not having sex with your man because he totally pissed you off and now you're not in the mood turn into "there's certain things you won't do in bed?".

    If I am angry, I just can't have sex with you at that moment. She turned it into this whole give/take thing with her man. If I'm angry you don't get head, I would never suck his balls or who knows what whole check and balance system she had set up in her household but it totally baffled me to the point where I dropped the subject. I know she's never tried anal sex and we were on different pages, but I did surmise that she sounded wack in bed to me.

    In short – too pretty = wack in bed. I agree Streezie.

      1. RedLady, I do understand where you are coming from. The only time I can have angry se.x is when I have a point to prove, and with that type of se.x he gets the minimum…lol.

        1. Its all good Red! BTW you and QueenT def need to mentor young women on how to keep lookin young over the years. Love my black people!

  16. I guess I must be one of the fortunate ones, but I got some great head from pretty women. One of the wackest head sessions I received was from a woman north of 175 pounds. Then again, that was in my younger days; we were both in college, and maybe she just didn't have enough practice doing it.

    And to any pretty woman reading this: if you don't give great head, learn how to do it, and do it well. There probably isn't a more beautiful sight than for a man to look down at his member and see a gorgeous woman eagerly trying to swallow him whole.

    LoveB Jones: "Of course if men keep going after this type of woman and brushing it off when she says she’s too good to perform such an act then whose really to blame?

    That's the problem right there. Guys need to stop excusing these pedestrian performances by pretty women. Seriously guys, pretty women are really nothing special, stop treating them that way. I have/had no problem telling a woman she gives wack head, no matter how good she looks. Considering I dine on the vagine better than any man on earth, you better not try to come at me with some wack, uninspired head session. I'll send her pretty a$$ packing in a heartbeat!

  17. OK if pretty men / women are only like 10% of the population…….but everybody on this blog claims to be pretty and bang pretty women / men……statistically speaking there is a lot of wellin, exageration and flawed self assessment goin on. ROFL (wellin= DC slang for lieing)

    but anyway…

    Pretty women can't ufck. There just plain lazy. It goes back to the stank attitude and the feeling they have that they can always do better than you. They tend to feel like just posing on the end of my idck is enough. "After all…..look how good I look naked."

    Also there is the dirty little secret that pretty girls are use to dudes bussin early. So they think there ish is magic when its really just the dudes they ufck wit are weak.

    Of course I'm generalizing….but it is true that pretty nasty women are rare. Good sex is all in the mind. It's attitude and personality. Pretty women just don't have the attitude and personality.

  18. So the thread up above is getting a little crowded so I'm going to address this here, dont like it, kiss my…anyway.

    Adonis: "And when it comes to men giving women head, it is SO unnecessary… And if I learned pimping & being a player from my older male counterparts (who are doing very well with women BTW) , they would agree… Anytime I talk about eating p*ssy to my older bro (who does WAY better at attracting females than I do), he cringes at the thought, that is just NOT apart of his repertoire…

    The reason cunnilingus has not been the wave with me, cause I haven’t been with a girl I who motivates me enough to want to go down on her…"

    Adonis, whatever you may think of him, is right in what he said here. WHAT THE [FUDGE] planet are yall on where you expect a (23?) year old male to go down on EVERY woman he dates? I'm 28 and I have NEVER been about that life.

    Nor, as some have indicated, did I ever see Adonis say that he EXPECTS a woman to go down on him. I'm the same way. If a woman goes down on me, it's not like I'm going to stop her but if she thinks that means I'm DEF going down on her, Houston….we have a problem. Because I might or might not.

    If you hook me up, cool. If not, cool. The 'personal service' should be done because you want to not because you expect reciprocation.

    I'm def not giving lip service to every chick I meet. F THAT! And to Adonis point, a LOT more women have served me up than I have served up women sooooooooo "Lucy, somebody got some splanin' to do."

    Basically, I only hook up the girlfriend or a girl I like A LOT with the extraness, e.g. oral. But hey, if yall are traveling downtown in every city, more power to ya.

    ….but yall nasty.

    1. I understood where Adonis was coming from. I use to be just like him but of course of the female variety and I actually EXPECTED a guy to dive without any reciprocity. And you know what? So I expected… So it was done.

      Of course now I have grown up and so has my chex game. I doubt he will be singing the same song in 7 years. So just let him be. Now if he was over 30 with that opinion…. smh

      1. @Kema Let me see if I can explain this right… Men & Women Are Different… I think most people can see that… But the classic mistake women make is figure out men through the PERSPECTIVE & ISSUES of a female…

        Instead of getting into her masculine component & understand men in THAT context…

        And that I where I believe where the disagreement comes in… When I am trying to understand a female… understand it from the lens on how a female operates… Not as a MALE…

        1. Ok… Let me see if I can put this in such a way that you will understand.

          Dude… You are 22! Your opinions are going to go through a lot of changes so its actually funny to hear your 'wisdom' on these subjects. I understand that men and women are different. However some apects are the same. Many people (men AND women) will tell you that there were things they didnt do when younger but now its not such a big deal. Thats called experience.

        2. "That means I should just disqualify your opinion…"

          I was never trying to disqualify your opinion. I was just understanding where you were at. Everyone was coming down on the fact that you still had your cherry. *shrugs*

    2. You know, I’m actually going to have to roll with young Adonis on this one. Now, I won’t cosign to the point of saying that it’s unnecessary, but I will say that it AIN’T necessarily necessary. I’m 27 and my mouth count is still in the mid single digits. Oddly enough, several of the women’s exact words to me were “I didn’t think you did that”. Crazy huh? I’ll go one further and say that I can’t remember the last time I smashed something and didn’t catch the chewing but I CAN tell you the last time I ate something was 2009. Ya'll do the math.

      1. Thanks Corey, I know that my opinion of women will evolve as I get more involved (with more women)… But I am not getting my facts from out of thin air… I have lived a little…

        And although I enjoy the attention of being inflammatory… I do believe in what I write… (forgot to add that to in a response to MOST…)

        It just applies at different times… to different people…

        1. You’re still a young dude so expectations for you shouldn’t be the same as someone older/more experienced. Enjoy life and get to know a variety of women. Be selective but don’t discount any woman based solely on a stereotype (no matter how relevant you may think it is). I saw down thread that you wanted to master the quick pull and beat. Every dude your age wants to learn that one. It’s a double edged sword though. I can tell you from experience that you’ll have fun learning; you’ll have even MORE fun applying it, but BE CAREFUL. Life doesn’t take any prisoners and EVERYTHING you do will eventually come full circle. As long as you’re comfortable with who you are and your personal development, what anybody else thinks really doesn’t matter. Part of growing up is phucking up.

    1. I am VERY interested in the reasons I need a SBM mentor… Cause I know the type of people I like to associate… But I'm interested in someone who have NEVER had a conversation with me, to come to that conclusion…

      I find it interesting that when I am not female friendly, I need mentors… Movin' On… Thanks Reecie

        1. Real Talk, It IS AMAZING how people are so quick to tell how WAAAAAYYYYY offbase I am, but yet don't consider HOW THE HELL I came to these conclusions…

          I guess my saving grace is that call upon one of my role models (Mike Wallace) & that I ask tough & understanding questions…

          Carry On

  19. I don't know how pretty women are in bed because I'm not a man. Overall, I think there's more of an issue of men not performing than women but that's another post for another day. lol I am wondering if when you look at that pretty chick, your expectations rise like 10 fold so if she performs anything less than perfect…it's a problem. After yesterday, it's clear to me that some men put attractive women on a pedestal and expect them to be above and beyond in all areas.

    Here's my 2 cents. Anyone who is good in bed, whether it be a 5 or a 10, will give you signs. Look for the signs. Take her dancing, do the simulation (passionate kissing and dry humping) or just do the deed. Women who are against alot, give alot of signs. Often times they'll even tell you. I can't imagine purposely staying away from a dime piece because you THINK she may be dumb in the brains and bad in bed.

    You know what, how about this? Just don't date dimes at all. Judge everyone on their looks number. You see a girl that looks like Paula, RUN! Stick with "regular" (which isn't bad) looking people. That way, you won't be disappointed…which clearly is the fear, right? 😉

    1. Here’s my 2 cents. Anyone who is good in bed, whether it be a 5 or a 10, will give you signs.

      ________________________

      I make these judgements all the time. I see one woman and think, "I know she can ufck." and I see another and think "I bet that ish is wack."

    2. FYI: Unfortunately, just because a woman can dance definitely does not mean she can ride the meat like she can ride the beat.

      SmartFoxGirl: "I don’t know how pretty women are in bed because I’m not a man."

      I don't know if you realized it but this was one of the GREATEST qualifying statements Ive ever read in the comments on this website. Recognizing the limits of your debate is a very admirable quality (for me anyway).

      It AMAZES ME how women can come here (lurkers too) and with a straight face tell men how men should feel about women when it comes to sex/head. I mean, unless yall have a [Richard] I am unaware of, then I really have no idea what facts you are basing this on? Please respond.

      For example, you can measure the size of a [Richard] with a ruler but as far as I know, aint no rulers available for measuring the potential goodness of a vagina. However, these commenters would have you believing that everyone is pretty, great in bed, gives great dome, swallows, takes in in the unmentionable areas and basically makes pron movies look like Barney musicals. I guess me and the fellas run into the ONLY exceptions in all the known land. *blank stare* …..yeah, ight.

      1. Wait nuh! S'maddy sound di horn…..

        "FYI: Unfortunately, just because a woman can dance definitely does not mean she can ride the meat like she can ride the beat."

        Is wah dee??? You know as a Jamaican I'm going to cry foul here. Maybe I should have specified the type of dancing but you most certainly can tell. If a man can't determine how my girlfriends and I are in bed by watching us dance,…well he's blind. lol Oh and Mavado in di background? Pon di wall? Move and GWEH. 🙂

        Anywho, I cosign everything else you said. I have no wang. I would LOVE to have one for a day. It looks like it feels awesome to ya'll. Also, let the record show that I was referring to my lack of knowledge on how beautiful women are at having s.ex…I aint said nuthing about head. (Don't judge me.) Oh and one more thing, you know you can teach her right? If a woman is feeling you, she'll learn to do it how you like.

        1. I don't care if you eat jerk chicken grilled on the side of the rode with Sorrel. Just because your caribbean and can dance does NOT mean you can FCUK!

        2. For the record, I agree with Streetz! *daps*

          And yeah, having a [Richard] is pretty awesome. ummm *pause and #NoHomo* In fact, let me just damn well rephrase: Being a man is pretty awesome because the only hard part about being a man is dealing with women.

        3. Being a man is pretty awesome because the only hard part about being a man is dealing with women.

          I disagree… I believe dealing with women is easy as long as you have the right information

          In reference to me… I didn't get the whole story on women…

          That being masculine, smooth talk, and having a strong sex game… is the bare minimum you need to make it with a lot of women…

          So now I have some reprogramming to do…

          Good Post

    3. "Overall, I think there’s more of an issue of men not performing than women but that’s another post for another day."

      Excellen deflection, but we talkin bout women luv, lol.

  20. The monster that women created when they encouraged men to publicly admit to going down on women. Everything was perfectly fine and they went and messed it all up. This goes to show you that women need a man to decide what's best for them.

    In this order:

    1) Women complain that men don't open up.

    2) Women complain that men aren't in touch with their feelings, or are afraid to show their sensitive side.

    3) Women complain that men think it makes them soft or less of a man for going down on women.

    4) Men start going down on women.

    Note: But now all the n*ggas are going down on women, so you have to get ahead.

    5) Men start opening up about their feelings to women.

    Note: But now all the n*ggas are doing it, so you have to get ahead.

    6) Men start occassionally crying around women, just to show that they are in fact in touch with their softer side.

    Note: But now all the n*ggas are doing it, so you have to get ahead.

    7) This is called, "Limbo." Men have forgotten how to be men, because they don't even realize if they are being the man that their fathers or male role models taught them to be, ot the man that these women have turned them into. They literally cannot tell the difference anymore.

  21. OK just to give yall the flip side (this could be a whole thread by itself)…….

    Things pretty boys get away with that regular dudes can't:

    1. Not eatin pu$$y

    2. Not wearing a condom

    3. Backdoor sex

    4. First date ufcks

    5. Not bein nice and still gettin broken off

    6. Haven't called in two weeks and still get broken off

    7. Goin on dates and not payin for ish.

    8. Drivin cars you don't own (see Baby Boy)

    9. You give rough chex with women you hit for the first time

    If you can't get away with these things on the regular. Or if none of this sounds familiar. Or girls look at you like you crazy when you do the above things. You are an average dude. ROFL

    1. I've never been a pretty boy and I have/can get away with everything you listed. On some real ish though, pretty women usually can't fcuk for ish. But there is a new epidemic starting up. Nowadays girls with big booties are turning into lazy lays!!! Somebody needs to stop all this madness.

  22. "Give brain with heart and desire or give us FREE!"

    #iDied at this.

    Good post Streetz. I don't really have much to add but I will say that I don't really think the same goes for good looking men. I've found that the more good looking a man is, the more confident he is and therefore he is usually very eager to go down, if only to boost his ego. The so-so guys I've talked to…not so much. They are usually the ones who are like "nah…I don't do that." And that's when I give them one of these o_0 and leave it alone. But I'm also very picky about who I sleep with, which means I usually already know the deal before we get there.

    1. yes! men complain about pretty girls who don't give dome but can we talk about pretty boys who are too good to eat it?

      Also- I don't do either side giving out of obligation. Either give b/c you like it or enjoy pulling up xtube.

  23. "Pretty women"

    Um… I don't think a person's looks mean they get away with relationship essentials. If that woman does, then that makes than man stupid…

    There are pretty-looking women and pretty-mentality women. The latter seems to neglect to practice mutual respect, conflict resolution, bed skills in general and is usually heavily insecure. The former is down to earth and secure with herself to the point she knows how/wants to satisfy her man. That makes her beautiful, not just pretty.

    Eff a pretty chick. I want a beautiful woman.

  24. Yay!!! Finally I'm sorta able to join in on the discussion!!!

    Great post!

    I actually know someone, an old friend, who is indeed gorgeous, who does not "do that". Why? Cuz it's gross. She's married now and I know for a FACT that she doesn't do it at all. Now, this is the same girl who in our days of singledom decided to explore what it was being with a girl was all about with me while driving back to her place (yes, I love the ladies too – BUT – don't dwell on them any more) this girl was all over me, and down on me, take it for her first time I was like *shrugs* eh, I've had better but she was trying to prove a point that I stopped. Fast forward 3 yrs and she's married to our mutual friend. Mutual friend asks me (cuz he knew about us) if she ever talked about giving dome to dudes… poor fella… I told him that she had never given any because she found it gross… he was crushed… but I did tell him that she gave me the lip action that he oh so desired and almost cried. They've been married for a little over 6 yrs now.. how many times has he gotten some lovin' on his 'jose'? 2 times. What did he say? Never again.

    I guess us average girls have it better… I think that if as a female you enjoy giving it your partner will enjoy it the most. Get into it! Gag! Get your eyes all watery and let that nose run! Y'all know what I'm talking about! You know she's doing a great job when that wetness is traveling further south and you start playing footsies with your own feet so that way you don't explode and enjoy it as much as you can!

    And fellas.. it goes the same way! I've known individuals who do an amazing job at it and then I know the ones that just do it to do it. Please stop. I'm making you a favor. I don't want a dude to try and speak tongues to me if he is not enjoying it and still doing it. I can tell you know, excuse me, WE can tell. If you're gonna go and speak to Ms. Sassy please do it because you enjoy it not because you feel obligated or because you know how much I enjoy it. It's a bigger turn off to try and pretend that we're enjoying it when we're not. And trying to teach you or show you how we'd like to be eaten sometimes makes us uncomfortable because we don't want you to think that you're not the best we've had… we want you to be the best we've ever had!

    And on that note… March 14 is almost upon us… *sighs* lets start the jaw exercises…

  25. @Adonis

    I'm going to respond to you down here because the co mment box is getting crazy

    "In conclusion… eating p*ssy is NOT a DEALBREAKER for most women… If they say that THEY ARE LYING…"

    No one said this is a deal breaker, but doing the do make you versatile and more appealing. If you eat steak every day…. eventually you're going to get tired of it and want to try that filet mignon out. If you go to an amusement park and always ride the Batman ride, don't you think that gets old after a while? So will women.

    Im not talkin bout regular beats or FWBs im talkin about women that you have as a S/O, or more.

    "HOWEVER, if women allow men like this in their lives, I need to take a page from guys like this… Stop telling about I need role models… I take a page from the men who are #WINNING"

    I personally have no more fcuks to give about your SBMentorship crusade that people are advocating for you on here. It depends on what you want in life. Right now you probably just trying to beat everything moving, which is cool. I don't advocate deep sea diving in every broad like I said, but you talk like the dudes you emulate have the best thing going. No shots, but the "wmone who allow their men to do this.." if thats the "type" of women you desire then so be it fam!

    In closing, I can only drop knowledge. What you do with it is your business. Once you develop a consistent method of articulation and communication of thoughts, then I'll take what you say seriously, and it's not because you're young, it's because I operate on a multidimensional world. I left 2D in the 80s with Super Mario, champ!

    1. I will put this debate to rest right here…

      Once you develop a consistent method of articulation and communication of thoughts , then I’ll take what you say seriously, and it’s not because you’re young, it’s because I operate on a multidimensional world. I left 2D in the 80s with Super Mario, champ!

      I don't mean to take anymore of your time Streetz, But I would really like for you to break that down (what I put out in italics)…

      I also know that I have some double standards & a few hypocrisies (WAY less than the average human being), but other than that I have been honest & AMAZINGLY consistent… If I am less than that, CALL IT OUT… We're MEN… My posts will be here until Christ comes…

      That whole spiel sounds like a border-line insult… But because it is borderline… I won't perceive it that way…

      Appreciate the discussion Streetz

      1. #1 You failed to answer my other rebuttals, so you're not really putting the debate to rest. You're choosing to not comment and instead concentrate on a perceived insult, in other words you're deflecting.

        #2 You're "double standards" to me are more like flip flopping on a level not seen since John Kerry. I don't get a sense of your points or mindset when you comment, almost liek arguing or going against the grain for the fuk of it. Those type of discussions waste my time and I don't like partaking in them.

        If thats not what you are doing then so be it, but that's what it looks like. Please feel free to answer my rebuttals above and continue to speak your mind, but you dig a virtual grave every time you type something crazy and leave the door open for people to psycho analyze your posts. If that's your intention so be it once again, but either way its AG

      2. Not trying to speak for Streetz, but, I feel like he may be noticing the same certain inconsistencies I've been noticing. Like the one I pointed out yesterday. For me, in my own personal opinion, it seems like you're a kid trying to learn the game of basketball. You see older dudes dunking and doing all sorts of fancy stuff and they're shining, and you wanna shine too. So you try all that, but, you haven't even mastered a lay up yet. It's like your posts are more about garnering a response than they are about what you actually feel or believe. It's like you change up everyday. One day you're a hopeless romantic who can't get none, the next day you're slayin em' left and right. One day you're a gentleman whose only desire in life is to find a good woman to be his queen, and the next day you're encouraging us to stop being nice to pretty chicks.

        Then we find you you ain't even ate the box yet? C'mon son. You can't give advice on sex and relationships till you eat the box… that's a new rule. I'm not advocating excessive carpet munching – by no means. I don't even think dudes should really brag about their skills like that. But, if you ain't done that yet, I mean… you basically still a virgin.

        Also, you can be a little disjointed in your articulation of your thoughts… it's like you have blog responding ADD. You ever see a kid trying to dribble a basketball all through his legs and behind his back and all that, but has no left hand. That's how you are sometimes. You abuse stuff like strikethrough and hashtags excessively and sometimes it's awkward and confusing and a little annoying. It's like dribbling through your legs. Get the basics down first. Subject, predicate. Then start remixing.

        I'm not the type to go at dudes on blogs… so this isn't me trying to debate you or e-son you or anything. As an SBM staffer (however new I might be) I appreciate you coming here and sharing your opinions. I just want you to be great. Work on making that lay up consistently, develop your left hand then you can shine.

        1. You're fine MOST… Keep, Keepin' a 100, And I agree with your comment for the most part…

          If I gave off the impression that I slay chicks left & right, my bad… no, I don't… That will be Adonis 3.0… I think about him alot, and flashes of him come through in my writing

          So, you are saying that you can't be a gentleman, an assh*le, a romantic all in one… That sounds like a human being to me… Like Streetz, I too like in a multi-dimensional universe…

          My writing will get better over time… I'm glad it annoys you… I think I am par for the course

          So, if you want me to go out and eat some p*ssy, just so I can have a little love, sex, relationship credibility, then FINE… That is another GUEST post I can write besides the time when I lost my virginity… (TOTAL FREAKSHOW, in the bad way)

          But I'll still comment, I believe their is some validity & value to what I write…

          And as far as giving advice to other men… Their is two types (or more)…

          Some that want to get LAID, and some that want to get LAID and carry on a HIGH-Quality Long Term Relationship… I speak to both men… I am a long way from being a ROCK-SOLID relationship-guru/personal life coach…

          But I feel like I add value…

          Thanks…

  26. My bad Streetz, I just needed the green light… #NoCountryForDeflecting… Keep calling that out if I do that…

    I’m going to respond to you down here because the co mment box is getting crazy

    Agreed

    “In conclusion… eating p*ssy is NOT a DEALBREAKER for most women… If they say that THEY ARE LYING…”

    That was my comment… & that was a deflection… I was trying to communicate that, a guy can deal with women all his life & rarely/never eat p*ssy… and although it may be a PROBLEM for some of the women he deals with, there are no real consequences behind him not going down on the women he dates… (especially if he putting her through a ROLLERCOASTER) The only hole in that is that he might have to eat the p*ssy to get the p*ssy… but I doubt that…

    I also TRULY believe (with high social status/ very attractive men), that you can get that f*ckery off on most women… I really do… (Pretty, B*tchy, feministic, Supermodel, Intelligent type) & with significant work, any man can become super attractive

    I’ve read, seen, heard, & observed… in my short living

    No one said this is a deal breaker, but doing the do make you versatile and more appealing. If you eat steak every day…. eventually you’re going to get tired of it and want to try that filet mignon out. If you go to an amusement park and always ride the Batman ride, don’t you think that gets old after a while? So will women.

    Agreed… But it takes a while before a woman gets tired of the ROLLERCOASTER she get put through, those emotions are HIGHLY addictive

    Im not talkin bout regular beats or FWBs im talkin about women that you have as a S/O, or more.

    Thanks for the clarification… I agree with the versatile part, BUT even if she is a S/O… If she complains about me not going down… is different from her cheating, breaking up with me… because I won’t go down… That is the TRUE test of what a woman values TO ME… I never believe a woman says (unless she has a proven track record of telling the truth)… BARK, No Bite

    “HOWEVER, if women allow men like this in their lives, I need to take a page from guys like this… Stop telling about I need role models… I take a page from the men who are #WINNING”

    That was my comment again

    I personally have no more fcuks to give about your SBMentorship crusade that people are advocating for you on here. It depends on what you want in life.

    Thank You Streetz. You Get It.

    Right now you probably just trying to beat everything moving, which is cool.

    I am a weird dude, but I can understand how you can come to this conclusion… My mom would co-sign with you…

    I don’t advocate deep sea diving in every broad like I said, but you talk like the dudes you emulate have the best thing going. No shots, but the “wmone who allow their men to do this..” if thats the “type” of women you desire then so be it fam!

    I feel like most women are like this (men lie, women lie, numbers don’t)

    Most women like badboys, and they get laid faster… I have very little problem in the relationship dept., I am working on the getting s*x in 10 minute department… We can breakdown types of women and all that BS… I just know that if you can correctly emulate the masculine badboy or assh*le, you’ll get quick s*x (& the relationship 9/10 times)

    (You can say some women like a*sholes, or a type… but I will go with most women…)

    I do believe the men I like to deal/look up to with have the best thing going…

    But leave it at this… Just like any good human being, I take what I want from people & leave the rest… I am not easily impressed by people… Even if I wanted to be… I tend think about things alot… I operate under a very different value system… So I know what I’m doing… I’ll be fine…

    If I missed anything… Just call it out…

    1. "Thanks for the clarification… I agree with the versatile part, BUT even if she is a S/O… If she complains about me not going down… is different from her cheating, breaking up with me… because I won’t go down… That is the TRUE test of what a woman values TO ME… I never believe a woman says (unless she has a proven track record of telling the truth)… BARK, No Bite"

      I have nothing against you or your comments and I'm glad to see that your spirit isn't brought down by critique :D, but one thing did strike me as odd: if your SO actually COMPLAINS about something in your sex life, wouldn't you want to do everything in your power to make it better for her? If not, why are you with her to begin with…

  27. ROFL This blog is true to a certain degree. I am a pretty girl who admits to be a a lazy fuck at times. When I am lazy it more so has to do with the guy. He sucks, he is wack in bed, I'm not that into him and the list can go on.

    Now when I am REALLY feeling a man I gets to it!

  28. Today's discussion seems to be centered more on the "average" pretty rather than the pretty that falls within the ranks of the top 10% worldwide, as with J's post. Cool. That said, the rating scale changes from person to person. Let's take me, for example. My mom often says some girls/women are pretty, and I usually argue that they are only slightly above par. I don't hesitate to compliment women that I find attractive, but "pretty" is not a term that I toss around in everyday lingo. For some, "pretty" simply means appealing to the eye, whereas I'm not that generous. This is where a lot of arguments stem from. Moreover, people have days when they just shine. I personally endeavour to look good every time I step out of the house, and although I do get the "you look pretty" comments here and the, I'd say I generally look "good/cute/whatever". Of course, I have my vain moments when I see a pretty face staring back at me from the mirror, and I just stand there ogling myself. That, however, is not my default mode.

    Now, if I happen to deal with one of the guys who think that I’m pretty and he doesn’t consider my head game to be on point, it has nothing to do with the way I look. I looked a hot mess throughout my high school career, so I don’t have the pretty girl mentality going. Let me embarrass myself by sharing a personal story. An ex of mine is a rather experienced fellow (9 or so years my senior). By the time we started going out, I’d barely hopped on the head train. I didn’t have sex until I was one week shy of 19, and because of my particular circumstances, I wasn’t quite well-versed in the world that world…oral or otherwise. He basically told me that I sucked at giving head one day as we were driving somewhere. It was a hilarious conversation, and I endeavoured to step my game up. I was elevated to a decent “7” later when I made it do what it do. I’m not one for giving a guy the green light to give me a taste of his unbawn chilluns, but because of the conversation we’d had about how it takes away from the experience if you usher him out of the warm embrace of your oral receptacle just as he’s about to see cloud 9, I decided to finish the job right. He had to ask me twice if I was sure. I had to signal yes, because I was very much occupied. Some will say I still didn’t get the job done because I’m a “quitter” (figure it out), but he was happily satisfied. I broke up with him not too long afterwards (nothing related), so that was the first and last time that such an event has taken place.

    I haven’t been in many relationships, and although I’ve blurred the lines a couple of times with another ex, I’m not currently in the kind of situation that would encourage development of some of these “nasty” skills that people are speaking so fondly of. I wasn’t even cool with the idea of giving head until I was about 20, and that was partly due to the fact that oral sex was not highly regarded where I grew up. Part of it was simply that the thought disgusted me. At some point, I went in the complete opposite direction and couldn’t wait to try it out. I have moments when that’s all I want to do. I’m no angel and I’ve done one or two things that a lot of so-called freaky women haven’t, but there are a lot of others that I haven’t done, and I don’t even like talking dirty. I’m sure I sound like a boring log, but I/we actually do..well, did have fun once upon a time. I do like and aim to please my partner, but there are certain lines and certain factors that come in to play when bedroom gymnastics are in session. My husband will probably get the best of me, but it's also good to keep in mind that, in spite of the prevailing preferences on this blog, not every guy wants the dirtiest dish on the menu.

    Oh, and Adonis was absolutely right when he said that there are a lot of men who get away with expecting head and not doing ish in return. Think about it, there are a lot of girls/women out there who are eager to please men whose feelings towards them are lukewarm at best. As for me, my first was culturally conditioned to be against going downtown. He placed no expectations on me, but did not reciprocate when I finally found my way there. Eventually, he felt an irresistible urge to help himself to more than a taste, and he is still very much eager to do so to this day. During the time he wasn’t doing it, though, I wasn’t looking elsewhere. I was another guy's first as well, and although I didn’t reciprocate, he definitely had other women who’d spoiled him in the past.

    @SmartFoxGirl: I can dance too, and it helps with setting things up in the bedroom and with certain moves, but if there’s one thing I’ve heard a lot of guys say, it’s that mesmerizing waistline movements on the dancefloor =/= great skills in the bedroom. Many of them have been disappointed after taking up with so-called queens of the dancehall.

    End novel.

    1. I want to co-sign pretty much the entire thing! 😀 I was also pretty "old" when my first time came around and even older when I first gave head, to the first guy I ever loved. He didn't ask for it, i think if he had I would've been very uncomfortable. But as the feelings grew, so grew my desire to make him happy and give him as much pleasure as he was giving me (he insisted on going down on me with no other expectation than to make me squirm, and that's how it should be done!) so I read up online and tried it out, asking him if this and that was good. I think that's the best way to learn.

      Once a woman really falls in love, they want to make their SO happy, right? This is universal I hope, and has nothing to do with looks. So yea a beautiful woman might go through random sex and dating without giving proper head or caring about it too much, but once she falls in love it should be a whole different story.

      Pretty doesn't equal selfish.

      1. Hey, twin! lol. And yeah, that's how it plays out for the most part, but there are some things that even a woman in love cannot bring herself to do. Some women will never try anal sex, allow a man to cum on their face, give golden showers, etc, etc, even if it's stuff that would give their partner an insane amount of pleasure. But yeah, the more emotionally invested I am in something, the more effort I'm putting in on all fronts.

  29. I have nothing against you or your comments and I’m glad to see that your spirit isn’t brought down by critique 😀 , but one thing did strike me as odd: if your SO actually COMPLAINS about something in your sex life, wouldn’t you want to do everything in your power to make it better for her? If not, why are you with her to begin with…

    @Vee Thanks Vee… I am human… And I am far from the man I would like to be…

    Hmmm…. Hmmm… This is actually good question… Give me a moment…

    1. @Vee I really wanted to write a long comment… cause I like to talk about other people's experiences

      (other people's successes/failures has a HUGE influence on me…)

      But I am blogged out…

      I know things about how to take women to the mountaintop… in & out of the bedroom… If I put in all that effort and a woman is still complaining about me, I have to cut her loose… I am a bad fit for her… And she would be better served a break-up… so yes Vee… I would not be with her

      Goodnight…

  30. I assumed dinosaurs were extinct…

    "I use to be scare of the dick, now I throw lips to the shit, handle it, like a real bitch…"

  31. I think if the man is at all vested, and takes the time to teach/sweetly suggest to a woman that she can do something better that's a great thing- if that woman really wants to please him she won't be offended. It's easy for someone to talk bad about their partners performance, but if they did nothing about it then they are just as responsible!

    I can personally say that watching videos online and/or taking classes can help but practice is still the best way to improve!

  32. Regardless of how gorgeous someone is I det think sexual prowess (including head game) directly relates to one's confidence in most instances. Females who are cobfident and open with their sexuality will be great. Even if a girl is gorgeous it doesnt mean she is secure with her looks, body and self.

  33. Can't agree. I agree with BP in the sense I know hot girls ( looks/body/cook) that get it cracking in the bedroom. I am one. If you are my dude then it's whatever. I try to "stay – up" on my skills, so you do too. I have a freaky side and it isn't hindered by men telling me I'm beautiful. I like to go the extra mile in everything including, sex!

  34. the worst thing is a chick who grew up pretty then got older and busted. usually they look terrible and have terrible game in bed. this post is true. very pretty women are horrible at sex.

  35. So… I'm chiming in a tad bit late BUT I guess late is better than never… now THIS is why I have had guys give me that Chris Tucker, lean to the side, screaming "DAAAAAAMMMMMMMMNNNNNNNNNNN!" Look… Don't mean to toot my own horn but then again- I will… "Toot, toot!" I'm a very attractive young lady, give GREAT head, and LOVE doing it! Not everyone is privy to it but I sure as hell take care of what's MINE!

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