This week, we have a classic case of baby mama drama, but not the type you may be used to… Check it out!
The relationship I have with my boyfriend is nothing short of amazing. We’re best friends, lovers, all that good sh__. We’ve been dating for two years now. He just comes with…additives. Unfortunately the unwanted aftertaste may spoil the entire cake.
My boyfriend and I randomly met on our college campus through one of his fraternity brothers. I’d just recently gotten out of a nasty break up and he himself had just had a child so we both knew we were emotionally unavailable. What started off as funbestfriendsexwhenwefeellikeitbutreturntobestfriend thing, turned into a beautiful relationship that neither of us wanted nor expected, but we couldn’t deny. We spend every available second together…and it’s freaking awesome! I’ve never been in love quite like this, and we are both making plans integrating each other in our lives post-graduation in April (sidenote, bragging, *raises the roof*)
Now that I’ve set the scene…for the bullsht… He has a wonderful toddler whom I adore but he comes in a neat little package with a woman who conspicuously DESPISES me. She goes out of her way to make it known that she hates me and would rather die than see our relationship flourish. I’m not exaggerating when I say this woman calls me private daily, stalks me…she’s even went into my car…destroyed shoes that were in it…and put them back. Of course I have no “proof” that she’s the culprit of the egregious acts thrown my way on an awesomely regular basis.
My issue is that when I bring these things to his attention…he does nothing. He acknowledges the fact that his son’s mother goes out of her way to make his life miserable, and he feels that that’s his punishment for being irresponsible and not wrapping it up. However, he doesn’t feel that he can prove beyond reasonable doubt that it’s her that’s doing these horrible things to me. This has been happening for almost a year now. I’m under the impression she felt that I was just a fling, and now that she sees it’s more, she’s on some guerilla warfare type ish. In the end, I’m trying not to feed into the negativity but it’s tearing away at the great relationship we’ve built. I’m not sure that I can turn the other cheek forever, or even for another two years. I’ve tried confronting her myself, but it always ends up in a nasty and unnerving argument. I’m not familiar with the whole baby mama/baby daddy drama, and I don’t know what to do. Should I cut my losses before we take a further step into our relationship or stay with it in hopes she will get sick of being evil to me? I need some serious help with this decision! – Cee R.
Here’s the thing: Anytime you decide to enter a relationship with someone who has a child, there is a possibility that baby mama/daddy drama can ensue. You have to keep that in the back of your head. Now, reading your email, you say that his baby mama is making your life miserable, yet you have no proof. This is bad, only because if you have no proof, only suspicions, then it makes you look crazy/deranged/pressed/paranoid, and you NEVER want to look like that!
Hope this helps!
OK Readers I need your help. Have you dealt with this situation? What would you do? Who’s in the wrong? Is she paranoid? How do you rate my advice? These situations are real, so let’s try to pontificate in peace!
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