From Elegant to Elephant: When Your Woman Gains Weight

I mean...don't over do it, either.

I thought the time was right To ask her for a dance – she said, “Naw, that’s alright” I played it off, walked back across the flo’ F**k that ho! Didn’t wanna see her no mo’ But about 150 pounds and 10 years later Seen her at the grocery store She tryin’ to holla at [...]

The Cost Benefit Analysis – How to properly rate the physical attractiveness of women

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So if you were black watching tv last night, you were most likely tuned into the BET awards. This award show is the most polarizing awards show ever. People continuously complain about he quality of BETs programming and how they abhor it, yet will turn in to watch faithfully. The best part about that awards [...]

That Kid Ain’t Mine: Why Men Deny Fatherhood

"That baby ain't mine." - Eddie Murphy (Yes, he really said that.)

There are a few sounds in a Black man’s life that he will always know without having to be taught or experiencing them. I remember the first time that I heard gunshots ring out on the basketball court, I didn’t need someone to tell me what it was or how to react, it was instinct. [...]

It’s Okay to Feel What You Feel.

I thought this was cool. Oh yeah, feel what you feel.

  So last week on my personal blog, I wrote about a guy that I went to school with who recently took his girlfriend’s life before taking his own. Since writing that post, there hasn’t been a day that’s went by where I haven’t thought about how the news unfolded, the range of emotions I’ve [...]

Deep into the heart of the strip club

Myth #1: They don't all wear glass heels

SBM: Man I love Atlanta! Ms. Hater: Why is that? I know you are going to say something ingnorant. SBM: Ignorance? From me? Miss … I think you have me confused. MsH: Then do tell … why do you love the A? SBM: All these strip clubs! Last night, I threw so much money in [...]

Celibacy and the Single Woman

*Cover Art By Michael K. Wilson*

  Well folks, it’s finally here. As many of you already know, my e-book, my digital novella, my really long, short-story drops today. It’s called Secrets Discovered In Memoriam, and it explores the mind of a man trying to come to terms with his past and his emotional relation to it in the wake of  [...]

[SINGLE BLACK MAIL] Fear of children hinders orgasms in men?!

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What’s going on everyone! I had a post all lined up, but this email came across my desk (you’ll see what I did there soon), and I had to respond! SBM reader community, meet Confused: I have been dating this guy since last November, things are great, the only thing is when we are having [...]

So Your Girl Said My Name While Ya Was Sexin

I know one thing, her man's name isn't Devon.

“There are three things you need to know about me, One, I believe in God. Two, I ain’t shit without you. And three, most importantly …  I ain’t shit without you.” – Lil’ Wayne.  And every time, I start writing I think of all y’all who continue to support me and my projects on the [...]

3 Increasingly Lame Blog Rebuttals

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The best thing about the sex & relationship blog niche is the discussion. It’s the only niche that brings out men and women in such great numbers to share their thoughts in the same place. Regardless of if you’ve never had a boo or an earth shattering orgasm, sex and relationship talk is universally relatable. [...]

Who’s Responsible For Bad S*x?

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So who’s fault is it when there’s bad sex? Every woman reading this post just said, “The guy!” And in some cases, that is true. But ladies, it can be your fault too. It takes two to tango, but when the tango isn’t any good, someone has to take the blame. A lot of what [...]