Somehow, We Always Come Out Of the Woodwork
We’ve all been there. We’ve all had relationships that felt great, that met our needs at the time, that made us feel fulfilled and happy, but also ended so horribly that the idea of post-breakup communication was out of the question. Then, months, or years later, something happens. It’s almost inevitable. Because we men are creatures of habit and because we can’t let you women just move on, there’s a good chance that at some point we pop up and try to reinsert ourselves into your lives. We do damage, leave … and then we reappear.
Any good detective will tell you that criminals who are guilty can’t help but return to the scene of the crime; neither can we. When we know we’ve done wrong it’s in our nature to reappear for a number of reasons.
*cues up Ne-Yo – Do You*
That song seems to lyrically prove most of what you wrote.
Fellas, have you ever popped back into the life of a woman you’d been with previously?
Haven't we all? Every story needs a villain. Some time ago, I had no problem making it my lot in life to live out that part in a few happily never afters. Hell, forget Money, Power, and Respect. Control and Convenience are two of the most addicting drugs ever known to man.
How do you approach rekindling old flames?"
Easiest 6 word text message ever: "Something just reminded me of you…"
Oooh, I hate you TWisM..lol….text messaging is straight from Hell…..I am the person that will write back "really"….."who is this"..and you would probably write back "TWisM"…and I would not reply back EVERRR…..lol.
LOL! I'm just making people aware of the warning signs. Don't fall for the traps.
Shhhhhhhhh *texts i think u were in my dream last night*
I've been known to text "word?" and leave it at that. lol. If he replies, I ignore. But the one word reply says a lot. Really, Oh, ok, word. And of those are appropriate in that situation.
this.
See Nia, that is why you and I are here *waves 2 fingers in front of my eyes". I just texted someone "word" yesterday. iCan't.
or the one I got yesterday " Do you miss me" naaaaaaaaaaaw n*cca nawwww I don't! Get off my phone!
"Control and Convenience are two of the most addicting drugs ever known to man."
This is so true.
Control and Convenience are two of the most addicting drugs ever known to man.
Lawdddd Yes!!! Can I say "Arrogance" as well. Just the thought/feeling of knowing you can get that person back after all the BS you put them through can be a llittle Euphoric – - I'm not saying it's right but it's real.
Control and Convenience, wow, not because you couldn't live without me… The truth really hurts and once you figure out that's what going on its too late because you've already emotionally given yourself to this man… Sometimes so of us don't really want to face the truth in relationships we should no longer continue or go back to…. Changing is difficult to do especially as an adult…. Thanks for the realness TWIsM
Appreciate the honesty, I cant get upset at that it teaches me&shows me the warning signs to the tricks of the trade THANX!!!! KEEP EM COMIN NO MATTER WAT FEED BACK U GET som get angry at the truth. But i appreciate it &we need2learn from it
via text, fb, twitter, email, in person – when an ex checks in, response is always… "I am not your answer"
I love that scene from "Boomerang" when they reunite…Eddie (Marcus) said "I can't breathe without you"….lol. Love it….
Well, MOST, alot of them wanted to come back..but nine times out of 10…I was either with someone else…or simply uninterested…so, I never really got a chance to see how things would've turned out the second time around…but, my theory is…if it didn't work the first time..it's probably not going to work out the second time either….I know there are exceptions but that is just my opinion….I generally, don't like to go back…it makes me feel like I am not moving forward and it feels like a complete waste of time….I was even tempted to with one guy, he was my first boyfriend….we dated for 4 years…we were extremely close….we ended on good terms….we were just growing in different directions…then when we broke up he got into some trouble and got sent up for ten years….he came back…and I was married. He came back again and I was divorced, he was married…he came back again and he was separated and I was divorced but I was seeing someone….it's just the timing wasn't right but he is the only one I would even consider getting back with one day…IF the timing was ever right…
"I was even tempted to with one guy, he was my first boyfriend….we dated for 4 years…we were extremely close….we ended on good terms"
I think depending on how the relationship came to its demise sometimes people may allow or entertain the thought of a reappearing act. You and your ex ended on good terms – - no harm/no foul
Sadly, My girlfriend and me broke up a month ago. yeah.. i'm young ,handsome,lonely and still hurting.i may be in need of someone to love..still..My friends told me about cougarkissing_ C0M and i got curious about it.. they met their girlfriends there.,It's the best place to meet a older girlfriend . i cant risk myself..So i got a usename(Qcdude) there in order to find a new girlfriend .Is it wrong?Jessica Simpson is fighting the battle of the post-baby bulge, a process she says is slower than she expected.
Some guys make it pretty obvious that they want their ex back. That's the wrong approach even girls make the same mistake too.
If you still love your ex THERE IS A METHOD THAT CAN BE USED TO WIN THEM BACK without making it so obvious.
Yeah, my Ex- is back. Now, he oscillates between guilty apologetic submissive and selfish domineering dweeb. I want to love him because we had so many good times back then before he started drinking and got physically abusive. But, well, it's hard because he really hasn't improved himself all that much in 15 years, beyond realizing that, truly, he fucked up. So here I've been super active and learning and growing and improving myself as best I can. And he, now he always speaks with a slur, even though he doesn't really drink anymore (or so he says). The 6 years of alcoholism took its toll. And now, he's spent so much time in isolation that he doesn't know how to hold a conversation anymore. He just monologues, or otherwise inserts himself. He doesn't know how to listen anymore. Probably related to low self-esteem? but it's really annoying. Why oh why couldn't he be the amazing man he was to me now? Do I just see him as a therapy project and try to be his friend?
Ladies, have you experienced any of the above scenarios, or maybe one I’ve missed?
i've experienced the 3rd one, the last guy i was dating was just being manipulative. the wound was still fresh and i fell for it. lol long story short it ended with him saying "i don't want to mess up what you have going for yourself" -__- loser. but i've grown from it since, baby steps. lol
Damn TWIsM w his perfectly cold truth lol Control and Convienience indeed. You and Most have enlightened me early on this rainy morning!
What yall expressed is what I've pretty much always felt about these Boomerangs out here. I don't breakup to makeup and I have never been able to "get that old thing back" just can't reach that level again once we fall off. I've had fellas get downright disgruntled because I didn't "act the same" or treat them like I used to…and when I ask "why wld I??" I believe they are genuinely offended!!
If you get another chance its because I'm not doing anything else and I'm COMFORTABLE w you. Damn these C words go hard huh? Lol
@ monalisa81 I would never use those two "c" words control or convienience on you,but I am thinking of another "c" word…..oh yeah, how are you love? Lol I loved your comment
my life!
that is all. lol.
currently have about six text messages over the course of the summer from a ghost from relationships past. haven't responded. won't respond. i don't even know why my phone number made the transfer to this new number i've received texts from.
almost my entire dating life has been a series of serious relationships so they've always, always tried to come back (probably in all those categories. lol). nah negro. i have a strong inability to hold a grudge for a long time. two weeks to a month after any relationship, no matter how many years, i'm completely over it and wish them the best. no hard feelings at all. thing about that is, it erases any desire to date them ever again as well. i'm just indifferent. ice, ice, baby… lol.
i think my personality is an asset in that case where exes try to come back. i don't hear them. if i've given you years of my life and you didn't appreciate it… well… your bad. lol. i don't respond to begging texts, don't answer calls, shrug at tears, give the roses to one of the old ladies i know, give your candy to my siblings… just doesn't move me. so i tend to avoid all that after drama that often comes with the case of the ex. tis a decidedly good thing.
amicable breakups can be different i suppose. but if there was any beef or riff or animosity involved on either end … it's really best to just leave that alone.
"my life!
that is all. lol.
currently have about six text messages over the course of the summer from a ghost from relationships past"
CO-SIGN! I tweeted if yesterday was "call you ex day" My phone went absolutely NUTS!
"i think my personality is an asset in that case where exes try to come back. i don’t hear them. if i’ve given you years of my life and you didn’t appreciate it… well… your bad. lol. i don’t respond to begging texts, don’t answer calls, shrug at tears, give the roses to one of the old ladies i know, give your candy to my siblings… just doesn’t move me. so i tend to avoid all that after drama that often comes with the case of the ex. tis a decidedly good thing."
Yeeeeeeeees! I am a pro at severing ties and burning bridges. I blame it on "only child syndrome", lol. Once I decide you don't matter, I treat you as such. And this is not limited to exes, lol.
I've been told I can be cold…but that's usually cause that individual did something dumb to make me turn off the hot water…
I never had anyone break up with me, but if it did happen, I'd be on this page. I'm all about writing people off. No backward steps, if it's over then that's that.
My Sentiments Exactly, "I DON'T MAKE U TURNS" Been there done that! I already know what he's about. We tried it did'nt work. It's time for something "NEW" , let's just keep it moving
Also "Sir TWIs" if I may do so, I wld like to quote you as my new fb status. I like to spread good truth.(and my "granma taught me to never use ppls stuff w/o permission" lol)
I promise yall gon make me get twitter just to follow/ tweet w yall lol
Feel free. I haven't copyrighted any of my thoughts or sayings… yet. lol
I really appreciate this(and all of your) post(s) MOST!! U are correct they ALWAYS come back. Whenever I go through a break up I always try to tell myself this. What’s the point of sitting around crying and being unhappy when you know it maybe weeks, months or even years but he will ALWAYS come back. I strive to stay strong during break ups and keep this in mind.
I have an ex who continues to attempt to come back into my life on a regular basis. He was supposed to be “the one” but he completely screwed up his chances. But yet in still, every 3 months or so he reappears and contacts a friend or family member of mine in hopes to “reconnect” smdh. Notice how I didn’t say he contacts “me directly”; I changed my phone number, moved, got a new job and basically fell completely off the face of the earth! Yet in still, he tries. Sir, you had your chance..
Son might be bordering on stalker status. If you've done all of that, and he's still finding a way to get at you… he might be Obsessed. But I mean, you gotta respect the persistence though… lol
Same thing happened to me. We used to work together part-time on the weekends. Kept it very professional and never personal for 8 months after we broke up. He never said anything else but "hi" and that's how I wanted it to be. Then I quit, got a new job, moved to a new town and now it's 1 year, and Im hearing that he's making "confessions" to one of our friends about how good I was to him bla bla..I guess it's some way to stay connected. Mind you, he had a girlfriend. SMH
Ladies, have you experienced any of the above scenarios, or maybe one I’ve missed?
Yes going through it right now, don’t know if he's trying get that old thing back because he truly changed and cares about me or for convenience/control. He called me and said I don’t want to lose out on what we have. It’s like WTF I was just getting myself back together and here you come. First are hard to get over and he knows that I think that’s the card he's trying to pull he even hit me with the “You can’t help how you feel about someone" and "I care about you and I know you still care about me too".
The thing about the boomerang effect is that someone can throw it to you and you catch it in your hand and everything is all good or someone can throw it to you and it hit you in the forehead
Exes have a sixth sense, it’s like right when you’re picking up the pieces here they come like a gust of wind knocking them all out of place.
"The thing about the boomerang effect is that someone can throw it to you and you catch it in your hand and everything is all good or someone can throw it to you and it hit you in the forehead"
Riiiighttt…..
Women are boomerangs too tho *looks at 6 different "hey stranger" texts* like it was said before its just convenient, its alot easier to patch a hole than replace a whole wall
"Never let a man have full control over you unless that man has married you."
I disagree with this part. Even your husband should not have FULL control. SOME is necessary and expected but not full.
I side-eyed that part as well.
There's a difference between a mere mortal (to be human is to err) having full control over moi and submitting to my husband.
Only God has full control over me.
However, because I respect my husband, and I respect his judgement, and WHO he submits to (God), I shall submit.
Thank you. I thought I was bring nit-picky because the post isn't about that but I felt it had to be said.
A little nit-picky but I'll take it
But that said, when you're married, it's almost impossible not to relinquish a certain measure of control over yourself to your spouse. It just comes with the territory and it's actually pretty healthy. A marriage is at it's best when both partners have totally a completely forsaken their own happiness in favor of pleasing their spouse. I don't have to be concerned about me being happy because my happiness is all my wife ever thinks about, and she doesn't have to worry about her desires because it's all I ever think about. That's what I was getting at in that one lil bit of the post.
Krystllyght – You said exactly what I was thinking. Yes, I am submissive, but to a point.
Totally agree….
Women
on this blogare too hard on men form their past. Unless a dude cheated, and sometimes even that isn't his fault, I don't see why you have to be so against re-visits. People do improve. You are not always right in your decision to cut people off. Its almost narcissistic the approach you all take. You are not omnipresent, you could be wrong. You change every second on earth, why is it so hard to believe that you and another are not a better match at this time than you may have been in the past?"Unless a dude cheated, and sometimes even that isn’t his fault"
* record scratch *
HOW is that not the cheaters fault???????????????????????????????????????????????
CO – I e-love you so much for this. I was thinking the EXACT same thing. lol!!
Cheekzie is still on my Haitian Hottie team though.
LOL…Tef, that is some stir fried BS right there!
Where they think like that at?! o_O
I mean, I can feel the brotha's heart with the rest of it (though it doesn't soften my stoney heart on the matter at all, lol), but that part????!!! #shenanigans
LMAO…
Cheekz my haitian bro, idk if I can save you!
I feel him tho..
shout to Teflon Mom!
Not all male cheaters are bad men. They are just guys too nice to break up with you or who still see redeeming qualities in the relationship.
Male cheaters get a bad rap.
yeah I said it!
@Cheekz
"Not all male cheaters are bad men."
Maybe not. But, they've def proven themselves to be disrespectful, deceptive, lying, cowards.
"They are just guys too nice to break up with you…"
Right…Cowards.
Look. Whatever way you slice it, the man I want is not the man who would do any of that to me. I'm not doing it to him. I expect that in return. If you've shown me previously that you WILL do that to me given the right circumstances, you won't get a chance to show me what I already know again.
That's not bitter. That's common sense.
Now…the ONLY way I'd pause before walking away from this cheating prick is if we have a great relationship and he confesses. I think that confession shows true bravery and remorse. That would make me weigh the pro's and con's of letting the relationship go. I'd prob still leave…but, I'd be strolling away instead of running. And, if after a period of separation, this brave guy returns…kinda like scenario #4 from today's post, I may…MAY at least consider listening. All of that is out the window if you're caught or forced into confession…or tried to lie your way out of it first once confronted.
Again the avi is wavy but I don't believe a word coming out of @CynicalOptimist's mouth…
But I will tak your word for it…
The only defense I can offer is that there is no incentive for men to be honest to women…
And for alot of men that is enough to do their dirt…
LOL @ Adonis. Thanks so much for the avi shout-out…took that pic this Sunday.
I believe I've read that you don't trust women…and that's understandable depending on your experiences with them. However, your choice not to believe me doesn't make what I'm saying untrue, lol. What part don't you believe??
@CO81
"People SAY what they THINK, People DO what they FEEL" <DEL> This is doubly true for women </DEL>
As long as you know that about human beings, you will never be surprised…
Women always talk about what they will & won't do for men… And put the right man in front of them… And they are puppets…
A woman's word is almost totally unreliable in esp. In the dating realm…
She is most honest… after I give her an or.gasm
But her actions tell me everything…
And just because you are smarter & analytical than the average woman doesn't change a thing… You are still a woman…
@Adonis
I feel you…I do. I won't totally poo-poo your point (even though the last 3 lines are a bit of a stretch), lol.
However, one of the things that my bf always compliments me on is my logic…and my ability to see, analyze, and do regardless of my emotions. The only emotion I haven't tamed is my anger…so I try very hard not to allow myself to go there. It actually got so bad that I went too far left with it…I had to realize that you can't just ignore your emotions. I have a better balance in that area now…
If it were appropriate, I'd give you the #'s of my ex-men/current bf…just so they can confirm what I've said about myself. They'd tell you how "no nonsense" I am. I've been accused of having unrealistic expectations…wanting too much…being unforgiving…being judgmental. In the words of my ex-husband, "'insert my gov't name' will be your biggest supporter or your worst enemy", lol. I'm on or I'm off…and one dumb move will make me flip the switch, lol. Think before you act and we're good. Don't, and you get cut (depending on how deeply involved we are, I may fire a warning shot first). It's really that simple with me.
I ain't playin, lol…
Now, have I ever made a silly chick move in one way or another? Of course. I'm not perfect, lol. But my "wth are you doing" alarm is sensitive…it doesn't take me long to snap out of it and get back on track.
You got me at ex-husband…
Any woman who can convnce a man to marry is a winner in my book…
You are an exception…
And would make great practice
(At some point in my life I will have to learn how to manage super b1itchy women… #RenaissanceTraining)
I love this woman's avi…
….because what if we're wrong and that a**hole shows his a** AGAIN?! We can't even blame him the second time around, we can only blame ourselves for letting him do it to us again. Life is hard enough without the unnecessary pain, drama, and embarrassment that we bring on ourselves by letting that dude make a fool of us.
We are not trying to be hard on you we just don’t want to look like fool again. A lot of times men act right to get back in their spot and start slacking off all over again. When you give somebody so much of you and they take it for grant nit you have to reconsider if they were worth it in the first place. We don’t want t to let the same non-sense in that we just kicked out come back in and mess us up. We just want to know that you really care and this is where you want to be not because it convenient, not because we are moving on, not because the sex is good, or to control us, but because you care and you want to make us happy.
And yes people do change but who knows if those changes will improve our situation or make it worst then what it already was.
exactly!! You’ve already stated that most guys are after convienience & control. And most women are in the dark about that. So, what happens? She opens the door to him. That hapnd in my past relationship. Seemed as if he did the most work trying to get me to give in. And believing him I did. Once in, he basically put his feet up. Some women have low tolerance for tha crap. So when you trynna play games and she doesn’t wanna paarticipate, she is not bitter,she’s guarding her heart. But I noticed guys give only one chance too. When yall have been wronged, it’s over!!!
Cheekz, if you haven't noticed, I have been saying for a long time that the way women on this blog treat their exes is troubling. But then again, exes are exes for a reason. And sometimes, maybe they not talking about the guy they are dating, maybe it was them. I don't agree with that cheating thing you said, but I will say it's not all that bad when someone from your past pops up.
Doc, Man. I feel like the way they feel about their ex says alot more about them than it does say about their exes or the relationship they had.
Bitter B!tches.
i don't think it makes you bitter to not want to get back with an ex.
i don't have a bunch of exes that did me wrong per se, but i just wish them the best and keep it moving. a lot of women have been severely hurt by these men and don't want to take the risk again.
why is a woman a bitter b*tch but a man can be hurt by one woman and will not only hate her for the rest of life but treat the next five women after her like crap to get back at that woman?
that's not right. if they're saying they wish ill will on the man, yes. if you just go on about life, then i don't think that makes you bitter.
I don't understand, are we expected to roll out the red carpet when Mr. Wrong shows his face again? What makes men think they deserve to be treated a certain way after we've broken up when they don't treat us worth a flip when we were together?
I went through this recently so I can say that for me personally, I didnt "not" give him a second chance because I didnt believe him when he said he changed. I believed he might have because,I always saw potential in him. The reason I didnt give him a second chance is because I realized that his aspirations in life didnt link up with how I imagined a future "us" living.
I personally struggled because after all that history and pain, I think he realized what I would have been for him. But by the time he realized it and came back around, I was able to take my emotions out of the situation and realize that we both had different plans for our future after undergrad. I saw myself settling down WITHIN the next 5 years and he saw himself taking the next 5-10 years building the type of business in which he really wouldnt even have time for a family. So really by the time he came back I knew that even if he was all I wanted him to be for me as far as what "I" needed, he would have changed who he was. I couldnt logically ask him to do that, even though he seemed like he was willing to…
No offense Che, but seriously a man who cheats remains what he is a cheater! One of my ex keeps pop-up like popcorn every now and then for the last 3 fu**ing years! And I always said NO! But he still doesn't get it…he tried every possible way to get back. Call me a b*tch, but once is over it stays that way! No matter how much I would love a man, I rather crush my heart under my own feet then let him rip it again! You had your chance , you messed up it's time to wave bye bye! Depending on the level of messing up I might just turn my back and walk away without even hearing your plea to explain! Facts speaks not words! Women have become stronger, and men should give up at the old tactics because they're not working anymore. Some of us are that way. It's a hard battle, but at least if you try hard enough , you at least will know who the heck you are with. I've always been direct , sometimes I crush ego's sometimes I crush hearts but at least you are hearing exactly what I believe and think.
Boy shut up with that. If you can't get right the first time, then the second time will be worst. Men just want women to be available aka convenient to get more cooch. That is the name of the game. You guys are not coming back to do right, you're coming back to get some get right. cause your thinking is, well she was pretty good, i know she loved me, she'll be down to give me another hit and then you're off. you guys do it cause you're thinking about your sexual needs and you can never go wrong with an ex you "had" something with. Women are smarter and YOU guys dont like it, and you don"t like it because YOU my friend is a classic case of being a narcissist. PLEASE go on with that.
Please tell me how someone can cheat and it is not his/her fault?
In addendum to all that's said, a sub-bullet, to the first scenario where he comes back to say he's a better man… He wants you to know how he's moved on to something better.
Maybe it's a spite thing, maybe it's control, maybe it's curiosity, maybe it's a hidden insecurity where he needs to validate his (prior) position in your life… whatever it is that moment that your ex comes back in the picture to say:
(8mos-15 mos later) "What up, JL, man I just have to tell you I met this girl and she is amazing! I mean A-Maz-Ing! She just gets me you know? I think she may be the one! Man… So how are you? How's your love life?"
And we chat on the pretense that we ended as friends. We lightly reminisce on funny moments, inside jokes; all the while tip-toeing around the intimacy that was once shared. Thankfully, for a bruised ego and a fragile heart, he slips back into the Ol'Him that you used to know with enough ease that you realize that you can forgive him but you can't be with him. You end the conversation lightheartedly, with enough intonation belying the fact that this will be the only trip down memory lane. You hang up, stare at the phone, shake your head, and go back to reality.
Side Note: I have to thank the prior posts by WIM, Slim, and others that help me understand why I wasn't the one, why it didn't work out, where I fall in the "there's only two women" category, and how I can check off the 5 things that Most wrote about which made him decide that the Mrs. was the One. Good job guys!
I think this is true… sometimes, when a person re-enters your life, it's great at first, because the first thing you guys fall back into is the stuff that made you fall for them. But, after awhile, they eventually start doing 'that thing you hate' again and you begin to remember why it didn't work out.
Thanks for reading the site though, I'm glad our posts have resonated and are helping you figure out the things you need to figure out.
I'm fairly new to this site but I was reading the comments on this particular post. is there a link to the "there's only two women" post? Is there such a post b/c it sounds interesting.
thanks!
http://www.wisdomismisery.com/2011/05/20/love-rel…
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Another reason is just the sense of entitlement…from the first conversation, men are in pursuit of something, a number, a date, meeting in they bedroom etc and after all that work u alone feeling some type of way thus the Marvins Room call…
THIS!
Hahaaaa..
"I'm Just Sayin U Can Do Betta….."
This works, but only if the man isn't the primary source of the break up lol.
I have to say I'm guilty of reappearing…My girl and I broke up on some bullshit, basically I messed with some girl before I ever met my girl and I didn't tell her about it and one day she was at my girl's house..turned out they were cousins, we broke up and didn't speak for months…I eventually broke the silence cuz I couldn't stop thinking about this girl and I thought what she did was unfair. But in all honesty, I thought she was the one, I fell in love with her and when she left I felt this emptiness, I didn't even wanna holla at any other girls…after a while we started hangin out more and then we started having sex again, but she hit me with the " I don't think we should do this anymore" I guess she knew where it would lead us and didn't wanna go back down that road…should I keep trying?
Aww I feel bad for you hun.. ;-( How long ago was this? Did you explain yourself fully to her? If she will listen, I think you should explain yourself so that she truly knows whats going on in your head. If you really love her, leave sex out. Just let her know how you feel.
I think you should start moving on, she hasn’t gotten over the fact that you slept with her new found cousin and I don’t think she's trying to go back down that path with you. For what reason IDK but if you've tried talking to her and explaining your side of the story and she still not ready, then it’s time to move on, heal and keep it moving.
Am I having deja vu or have you shared this on SBM before????
Either way, fall back. I'm sure you've explained everything. She needs to come to terms with everything on her own. And if she can't, you need to accept it.
Just be mo' careful about you randomly deal with in the future…cause you don't know who they are related to…
"Am I having deja vu or have you shared this on SBM before????"
LOL
I was thinking the same thing. I believe it was one of them Dear Streetz……..(Strawberry Letters)
LOL @ Strawbetty Letters!!!!!
I'm glad I'm not alone…
I thought the same. I tried hard to remember where I read or saw this b/f…youtube? no. Then what?
I remember we agreed that the girl was being unreasonable, but that he shouldn't have lied about messing with the cuz. Wasn't the cuz flirting hard when he came to the house? So she was suspect as well.
It was a messed up situ.
Exactly. All. Of. This.
*smhl*
That's tough!!!!!!!!! Seems like you need to have a heart to heart convo and if she sticks to her guns then yea bruh you need to let it go before you come out with a Drake song.
Lol I love reappearing. I'm always getting better, looking better, doing better and dating someone better (seriously, I upgrade each time I date someone new and my standards only get higher.) so while I don't have problem checking back in to see how an ex is doing, I don't mind when they check back in me, as I'm probably doing better than they are. I do take a certain amount of pleasure telling them just how great my life is since they left (it's sick, I know.) I'm happy if they're doing well too… If they're not or if they're trying to get back with me them that's just awkward……
Coming off too desperate and eager to rub ish in is unbecoming. I hope you're not one of those women that asks an ex if he regrets whatever was done way after the fact. Don't be surprised if one of them eventually says No.
"How do you approach rekindling old flames?”
Some of the approaches used……….
"Did I just see you at (insert a place I frequent)?" NO! BUT WHY ARE YOU THERE??? UGH!
"My mom asked about you and wanted to know how you were doing?" Did she? give her my #!
" (Mutual Friend) is having a gathering – I know you're going to be there so I just want you if its cool with you that I'm there" DUDE you were coming anyway!
I remember telling a dude – its ok you'll be back (when he called I was like took you long enough) LOL!
Nina, these responses are hilarious!
I haven't read all the comments yet but I can see right off the bat that a couple of these relate to me. I'm not going to go all into the details but the manipulative one was the worst of course. I don't know, maybe it's a defect in my character but I could never imagine knowingly manipulating someone and hurting them for my own amusement/benefit/jollies. It's not in me to do that and as I've gotten older, I've had to stop putting my viewpoints on other people and believing the best in them. I've always tried to see the good in someone and give the benefit of the doubt but experience has taught me to that cynicism wins the day. Be cynical today and apologize tomorrow if you're wrong. <—-My new credo.
I agree I am the same!!
Haha you girls are killing me!! After a drunken night during my visit home for the holiday this wknd, I texted the ex so he could take me to breakfast since he was back in town as well. After I ordered the biggest meal I could find on the IHOP menu (don't judge me) I proceeded to laugh in his face when he asked me to spend the day with him and went on telling him about my "upgrade"–dude makes my ex looks like the trash that somebody left on the side of the road. I could tell I hurt his feelings, but one morning of pain can never compare to the 4 years of bull that he put me through. I wasn't mean to him on purpose though, just clearly uninterested in him and his empty "I love you's."
This is so messed up.
Now mad dudes shouldn't feel bad when they call up an ex or old jawn and say, "We should hang out." then smash and then laugh at them when they say, "Does this mean we getting back together?"
+1
Sounds like you're not quite over your break-up yet.
Okay, I know it looks bad, but y'all don't understand. I worshipped the ground this man walked on. It took him getting a new (crazy) girlfriend and me finally finding someone who treats me well for him to come around. I laughed in his face because the idea of us getting close again is ridiculous: he's kicked me out of his life way too many times. After standing by while watching him treat her the way I begged to be treated for years, I finally moved on and I deserve to be happy too.
And I really am over the break-up. We were never meant to last; he knows this. I just thought what we had could have been better if he'd appreciated me when he had the opportunity. I want him to be happy because that's what real love means. Maybe he'll understand that one day.
And for the record, he ASKED me about the new guy. I didn't volunteer this information, but I admit I took pleasure in giving it, especially if he thinks he can win me over with some breakfast and that "I still love you" bull. Even if me and the new guy don't work out, the ex just doesn't have a place in my life anymore.
Girl….
No need to apologize for your original comment, it is what it is.. I had gathered for it to go down like that at IHOP it was something he did wrong that led to yalls demise, which resulted in the laughing in his face after he asked to kick it with you for the day as you proceeded to tell him about your upgraded beau.
Menfolk get all up in their feelings when the tables get turned. #thatisall
This goes just to prove that Yes women can pull reappearing acts just as well.
@GirlSixx
And actually I didn't "re-appear." He's been texting me for months and was trying to see me all weekend, but I always had plans that were more important than him (the way his other plans were always more important than me when we together.)
I just called him that morning because my homegirl was still passed out, I couldn't find her car keys, and I was hungry. And the for the first time in years he did something right. I did get a meal out of it (although I did plan to pay for my food, I accidentally left my purse.)
I'm with Grown Chloe on this one (we're going to have to talk about your long ass name someday Girrl6ChloeRain, lol).
No need for apologies or explanations. It's not like you went to a super expensive restaurant. If he got his comeuppance over an IHOP platter so be it.
(we’re going to have to talk about your long ass name someday Girrl6ChloeRain, lol).
LMAOOOOOOOOOoooo.
I understand… I understand… I like this comment
I would be asking for that IHOP money I paid for… $16.50, IDGAF
That is all…
Everything else is fair game…
I think it is pointless for men to invest financially in any woman these day… Whether you got it or not…
Trust me, I've spent waaaaay more $$ on him than he's ever spent on me. The people on this blog reacted more negatively than he did because he KNOWS he's messed up his (many) opportunities and that my reaction was reasonable (and probably expected). I love that man, but there is no way he's walking back into my life.
Fellas, have you ever popped back into the life of a woman you’d been with previously?
No. Once its done its done. The only reason i would reach back is chex or convenient chex. And convenient chex is one of the most dangerous types of chex. When I get the boot I move on and don't look back.
This has been happening to me lately, reappearing women…but this topic is about men, so I will
stay on course. To the ladies who are reading don't be so quick to dimiss a reappearing guy, it just depends on his motives that you pick on if you pay attention. Some relationship are better the second time he might be legit about it….we men make really stupid mistakes when have a good women there is a difference in a some men when they date at 22 and then at 32…the other side is some guys don't grow up, and they are on some sam salter sh!t , once my sh!t, always my sh!t
women there is a difference in a some men when they date at 22 and then at 32…
I hope thats true cause I think if my ex was 6 years olders and did a 360 change we could be together in the future lol
-____________- 180*
You mean 180, right?
360 and he'd be right back to where he started.
We wouldn't want that,would we?
Some guys are not ready to be what you want them to be sometimes…timing is everything if you invest x amount of years in someone and he/she has changed and you let someone else hit the jackpot…just somethimg to think about
Y'all know what she meant! LOL
Of course I did..and using 360 rather than 180 is a common mistake, that even I've made. But rather make it here amongst e-pals and be corrected, then in the boardroom with the co-workers.
I'd want to be corrected, and I have been. That's how we learn.
Of course I did..and using 360 rather than 180 is a common mistake, that even I've made. But rather make it here amongst e-pals and be corrected, then in the boardroom with the co-workers.
Just like using the non-existent words: irregardless (correct term: regardless or irrespective) and conversate (correct term: converse)! PET PEEVE!
Anyways…
I'd want to be corrected, and I have been. That's how we learn.
When I say 360 I'm talking about a complete turn around (going from good to bad) if he only turns half way (180) then he's doing half the job
This may come off annoying, but the reason why 360 is incorrect is because turning 360 degrees actually lands an object back at where it started, it's when an object is rotated 180 degrees that it is facing the opposite direction to where it started from.
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Great post as usual, TMIMITW!
"Ladies, have you experienced any of the above scenarios, or maybe one I’ve missed?"
I've experienced #1, #3, and I guess #4. I say "I guess" cause I didn't give dude an opportunity to prove any said changes. If we ended on bad terms, Imma need you to keep it moving. If we ended cause I said "we're too different"/"we're not compatible so there's no use working super hard forcing this rela to work", Imma need you to keep it moving. If you haven't become a completely different person…like "I need to change my name cause I'm so different" different…we're going to run into the same problems which will leave us with confused/hurt feelings again. Cause it actually hurt me to be the bad guy…giving you the axe when you weren't ready to let "us" go.
"How do you approach rekindling old flames?"
If the relationship ended on good terms, then we prob keep in touch anyway (fb, text every now and then, something…). So, the rekindling should occur organically. If we used to talk back-in-the-day and it just never evolved into anything…wasn't turned off or anything…then, I'm all for looking the person up and reconnecting. Heck, I've initiated that. Google them. Do a Facebook search. Ask a mutual friend about them. Then strike with an email/FB message…or have the mutual friend give that person your number. If they're interested, they'll use it.
Hmmmmm have i reappeared. Sure i have. And only for the chex. In both scenarios she did me wrong, but since the chex was excellent i got over it and pretty much just used the rekindling to satisfy any sexual desires or inefficiencies. Purely selfish and immature. I was younger (20/21), so i didn't really care much about that. Recently, me and my latest ex are kinda mutually coming back together, but for me idk, I know she's the same and i know i'm the same and i know we ultimately don't work due to incompatibilities, but we're both very attracted to each other and i guess the familiarity is what's wanting us to just hang out (if it's just lunch or dinner). I haven't seen her since we broke up last November and she's coming back in town this weekend for this Kappa Konclave ish (No disrespect). Idk what'll happen, but nonetheless it's always good to see a familiar face.
"i know we ultimately don’t work due to incompatibilities"
But since you already know ^^^, you already know what you should really do this weekend…something else, lol.
I feel you on familiar…been there. But, sometimes, its best not to confuse things.
Not that my opinion matters or anything, lol…ijs…
*Sigh* Mmmmmhhhh
I don't do the pop up thing. Well, unless we're talking about…
Yeah girl. You like that?
LOL! smh
I hear what ppl are saying about second chances and I respect that. It rob even works for some….all i'm sayin is i'm sincerely not w that fooley lol Not on some mean you hurt me so ima hurt you back cause that's petty as hell. I take my happiness seriously so if I believe someone can help bring me more of that i'm down….but I just can't find where I threw those old feelings. Mfs just…gone lol
"dere go my boo!!" @ MIX I missed you! I'm extra good sir, hope you feel the same! I know you wldn't use those two C words….and I wld ask about that other one but *ahem* not in front of company suga! Lol
@ mona*insertmylastname*-lisa81 i'm good love, no complaints…it's always better when you have an audience lol
I have one that always pops up…at the most convenient times,most times right after a breakup (sometimes his, sometimes mine) . I dont broadcast my business on any social networking but somehow this dude shows up via text, gchat, something…asking how i've been doing. Then the same routine goes down-we grab a bite to eat, start back to our regular hanging out sessions and bam! chexin it up on a regular.
I told him 2 months ago we werent going to do this again. Once I said goodbye, that was it. I can't live on an emotional rollercoaster going into my 30's and he doesn't want to commit (see # 3 above).It took a while, but i'm moving past that….baby steps
"I have one that always pops up…at the most convenient times,most times right after a breakup (sometimes his, sometimes mine) . I dont broadcast my business on any social networking but somehow this dude shows up via text, gchat, something…asking how i’ve been doing. Then the same routine goes down-we grab a bite to eat, start back to our regular hanging out sessions and bam! chexin it up on a regular."
This is a clear case of "D*ckmatization"
Have I ever Reappeared? Yes
Why? To be honest, I always felt I was the best she ever had. An ego trip for me. Until she stopped replying my texts, that's when I learned the ultimate lesson in relationships——> "There will always be one dude out there who would be able to lay the pipe on her better than you"
When she's getting Love+Attention+good Wood from another Bruh, No more room for re-appearance.
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*clears throat* let the church say "Amen."
That's how it is sometimes….lol, rest easy knowing that you had her on lock for as long as you did.
lol true, true.
whewww u juss said it all!!!!
Ty TWIsM. I waited for ur reply and everything! Lol @ "yet"
i've never done the reappearing thing. i have too much pride. even if i wanted to my pride wouldn't let me. *shrug*
on another note i wonder if all these reasons hold true as to why women pull the reappearing thing. it's definitely happened to me on a couple of occasions.
You and this proud rhetoric.
So I'm wondering if these come back motives have an age requirement i.e. does it apply to the under 25?
Yep, me and my HS girlfriend went back and forth from the age of 15 until 24/25. So I would say it applies.
damn! I didn't think anyone would have me beat, my HS ex and I went back and forth from 15 till about 22.
A panel of men were asked why they came back, these were the answers…
I came back because my sponsor said that step 2 of AA was to apologize to everyone I've wronged in the past
I came back to save my daughter from that drug dealing new 19 yr old boyfriend she has
I came back because I got tested and had to legally let her know
I came back because the judge cut down on my weekend visitation
I came back because I found some old jewelry reciepts and I could get my cash back for that stuff I bought her
I came back because I had to pick up my new girl, her roommate
I came back because I paid my debt to society and she told me she would wait for me
Good post. This is definitely something that happens alot and I am experiencing it quite a bit lately. I recently moved to a new country and all of a sudden dudes from my past are coming out of the woodwork reminiscing and telling me sad stories trying to get back on my good side when I haven't even spoken to, or seen most of them in years. Common factor… they all ask the same question. "When are you going to be back for a visit." *Raised eyebrow* The only conclusion I could draw from this is that they know I now live somewhere else and would visit on occasion so they're hoping to become my long distance stulla (Long distance FWB).
That's a really nice avatar you got there
#NoThirstIntended
Damn this is hitting home right now, No time to share and I'd be hesistant to because his sisters read this
Great post Most! On point as always
Exes do have a way of trying to re-appear….but they tended to do it right when I was happy with someone else. On some sixth sense type stuff. If we parted on decent terms and I was single, some booty clapping for old times sake was on the table. If you acted an ass while we were together….all calls and texts will be ignored.
Same with the "coulda beens" – I had a guy who would flirt heavily but never tried to get the number, then he popped up one day to tell me that he had broken up with the (previously unmentioned) girlfriend and he was free to really pursue me. Ummm, first of all you're all kinds of wrong to have been up in my face while you had a girl, even if you didn't take the flirting to the cheating stage. Did you really think I'd see you as a "good guy" since you waited? Second of all…I'm seeing someone now. Peace playa. o_O
I feel like you not giving the homey a fair shake. I mean, it's kind of a moot point, since you had someone at the time, but if you were single, I feel like son did it the right way. If he didn't flirt, how was he supposed to know the attraction was really there? I mean… a lil flirting never hurt…
Dr. J,
Is it really the same considering since that gray area of teenaged years and early twenties is just a time to really find out what you want and who you want to be and all that?
Yes, I think so. I think love is all relative. I think love is like the ability to hear music. After so many notes and so many sounds you will become tone deaf. It's harder to fall in love when you're older, but that doesn't mean you can't have serious feelings for someone. It's all about how you approach it and what that particular time in your life was like.
I think the teenage years and early twenties gray area is just a swindle… that doesn't explain HS sweethearts who go on to love each other for their entire lives.
Puts a fist in the air for all the ladies who have to deal with reappearing men. I recently had an FB status, "I'm fina tell these disappearing nigs who come and go from my life, like mama n'em used to yell on a hot summer day as that porch door swung back and forth, "IN OR OUT!" In or out my nig. In or out."
I don't think there's anything wrong with staying in touch with people, especially if there's no bad blood. And I'm a firm believer that if someone falls on your mind, you should reach out – but only if it's genuine concern and consideration. If you just scrolling through your phone and you hit me with a "what's up" cause you think you're lonely now. Boy bye! I'll pass, nygga the dyck was trash…
That Facebook status is classic. You never wanted to get caught "in" when you were planning on being "out." And so it goes for relationships I guess.
"Sometimes, we realize what we’ve lost and are ready to be whatever we need to be to get it back.
Of all of the reasons a man might reappear, this is the most rare. Sometimes, without us really realizing, a woman can carve out a perfectly round little space in our hearts and lives. We leave her, thinking she’ll be the only one who experiences any loss, but, really, we lose too. Try as we may to fill that spot she left with the square pegs of another woman or of other women, there’s always a certain amount of emptiness that remains. And maybe one day we wake up and decide we’re going to give it another go. All we can do is reappear and hope our spot is still reserved."
* sigh *
There is ONE MAN ON THE PLANET who I'd absolutely accept this phone call from. Great relationship…less than ideal circumstances. He's moving away. But, if he gets down there, goes "wth did I just do", and comes back…I'm down. UNLESS, the next guy makes me forget how great this dude is (cause I'm not waiting for what may never happen…I will be moving on). Then, my response would be "you gambled and you lost".
"One man in the planet" in all caps! Must be an unforgettable n*gga.
Unforgettable, indeed.
I've never experienced a better balance of personalities in a relationship. And, he feels the same way. He's told me how much of an impact I/our relationship has had on him…and I can tell by his actions that he's being sincere. He's a bit of a nomad…so I think he believes this will be like every other time he's moved away and left someone behind. But, I believe he's got another thing coming, lol…and deep down, I'm hoping the 4th scenario you described will be a part of our story.
Unless, of course, the next guy is the BEST guy, lol…then forget that n*gga, LOL… jk…kinda…LOL
Im 23, fell in love for the first time at 21, have been with no one since. I LITERALLY dont understand why no one else has come into my life? OF COURSE this niglet has tried, multiple times to reappear.
- "this is _____, this is my new number"…no response
- "MERRY CHRISTMAS (mad emoticons)"…response is "ditto"
- you ran across my mind today…hope all is well"… My response "alls well, thanks"
Plus many more. He was/is an athlete (all i ever get) so I knew what i was getting into. But honestly getting stepped on by a subpar groupie snowbunny with a rich daddy?? Give me a fucking break!
When i say ive been with no one else…i mean not even a hand hold. Wtf?
I feel like all of my exes reappear, maybe its because we have, for the most part, ended on good terms and we end up staying friends and it doesn't really bother me, perhaps because I have never been broken up with. Only one has tried to get me back but I politely declined and pointed out the fact that we now live 3,000 miles away so it would never happen. But I do kinda have this problem where I always want to end things amicably no matter what happened so I try to stay friends with all of my exes. My friend says that's not good for getting new business, but I tend to date people I actually like so I want to stay being friends with them after I break up with them….
Kriola, your exes reappear because you're beautiful. You ain't got to lie.
I feel you on the end of your comment though, i'm about to make my comment and touch on that too.
Awww thanx Dr, J….you made my evening!
We men sometimes have a funny way of dealing with breakups and basically we always playback past relationships. In some cases we play back the good ish, like that bedroom compatibility, how y'all never had a dull moment, how she kept you intellectually on your toes. Then you look around you and analyze what you got presently. So you run back and fall into old habits. Most of us have been there and of course you got Okafor's law, http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Ok…
On top of all that, exes look way better in memory. We totally romantize what we once had, forgetting about all the highly annoying crap she did that made us wanna head for the hills in the first place.
I am on good terms with all my exes. For me, i've never been a fan of burning bridges that I helped build. I may decide to never cross back over it again. I usually don't go back to an ex. I am still friends with exes and girls that i've dated in the past. I've only revisited one, but there was a long history there. That relationship's rap sheet could outdo most four-time felons.
I have to say though as a dude we don't typically get a chick who pops up wanting to get back right with us, it's usually a random text message or email wanting to get clarity on something from our past. And let me tell you, nothing could be more frustrating or annoying. It would be impolite to ignore it, if I consider that person a friend, so I have to. But it's common to get a popup window.
"Why didn't it work out between us?"
"Did you ever cheat on me?"
"Do you ever wonder what could have been?"
"Can I borrow $20?" – just joking…
"Are you seeing anyone right now?"
Seriously, the ex that reappears with the questions is the worst.
When I was 16, I wrote my first love a four page "why aren't we together" letter…in purple and blue ink, LOL. He didn't really explain why but we ended up and item again…only to burn out quickly again for some reason I couldn't articulate. And the fact that it didn't give me the results I desired made me NEVER want to make myself vulnerable like that ever again…my grown self would never write such a letter, lol…too prideful now. Fast forward about 12 years later, we're reconnecting and he hands me the four page "why aren't we together" letter…dude kept it (aaaaawwwww). But, with my grown woman vision, I quickly understood why we had NO BUSINESS EVER being together…and I severed that soul-tie immediately.
For some strange emotional reason, Dr. J, sometimes, a woman needs to know in order to let it go. I'm sure the question is annoying…and I'm sure its especially annoying when the relationship was kinda surface anyway…like "this question is too deep for what we were"…or when the reason should be obvious. But, for the woman who you may have a few years in the hole with…y'all were deep in loveland at one point, sometimes, we need that information to heal…to learn…to move on.
Nah I don't need to know I always assume that they weren't acting right because they didn't notice all of the wonderfulness that is Kriola! When they come crawling back I just assume that they have seen the light…and its been confirmed. Even if this isn't the real reason, its the reason I tell myself, who cares what the real one is! I heal, learn and move on much better that way.
Actually one of my exes did tell me that I was too passive and I didn't always voice my problems, I just dealt with them and moved on…..that was such bullshit to me, you didn't like that I didn't come to you with all of my problems and I let you win some arguments? get the fcuk outta here with that ish! Again, he just didn't realize what he had….
I feel you on this, LOL. I actually faulted an ex for being too passive. But, that was 'cause he'd be agreeable to shut me up and then do what he wanted anyway…which just infuriated me even more! I woulda respected him more if he woulda said, "I don't care what you say, I'm doing me…be mad!" LOL! Don't have me thinking stuff is resolved when its not…that's just mean and childish. I'm sure you didn't do that, lol…
Aside from the pride I mentioned earlier, I'm so analytical that I observe and articulate what the problems are without asking now. So, super grown me would NEVER ask anything like that now. However, as a woman who did feel the need to do it at one point (granted I was 16, lol), I can understand what can drive a woman to ask these questions…though I don't necessarily identify anymore.
I reappear for s*x or for closure…
I always assume that if I hit a woman well, I can hit again… Now I have to adjust for my competition…
I agree with women… In most cases… men don't deserve a second shot mostly because y'all entertain highly attractive, low ethics having men… That's the Game for you…
I can't relate to the whole, oh I had a good woman and I realize it now… because I never had that experience…
I usually am the man holding the bag…
But then I got smart…
Ummm #NoShots Suga but….if he did a 180 he wld be the total opposite of what he was before (which I assume wld equal #TigerBloodWinning ) the 360 wld in fact bring him full circle, back to where he started (prob #Losing if there was a breakup involved.) Again, no shots lol ijs
I was 17 years old working in a Denny's. I'm getting off work for the day; Leave from out the back of the house & am on my way out the front door. This 6'8" "churl" named Brianna tells me to come here, so he can whisper about these dudes that he knows from the hood. I see what I like & say "Hi", the rest is history. That was 14 years, several real stints of seperation-like I haven't seen in you in 4-5 yrs and you pop up at/call my momma house (cuz her contact information been the same FO' EVA)..& 2 kids ago.
I'm entering my third year of being da Missus and I wouldn't have it any other way….
I was 17 years old working in a Denny's. I'm getting off work for the day; Leave from out the back of the house & am on my way out the front door. This 6'8" "churl" named Brianna tells me to come here, so he can whisper about these dudes that he knows from the hood. I see what I like & say "Hi", the rest is history. That was 14 years, several real stints of separation-like I haven't seen in you in 4-5 yrs and you pop up at/call my momma house (cuz her contact information been the same FO' EVA)..& 2 kids ago.
I'm entering my third year of being da Missus and I wouldn't have it any other way….
Man, blogging gold. I'm bummed I missed this convo. Great piece Most. *dips comment in Pause Sauce*
I have revisited few. Most of my relationships end on misunderstandings, miscommunications or simple arguments. Timing is vital.
That's why I try to end every relationship on good terms (no matter who breaks up with who) just in case someone wants to try it again.
just keep on trucking and learn from the past….women dont forget a thing and trust usually becomes a issue in these cases… live and learn…
Wow. Really insightful post. I LOVED IT!!!! Mostly because, as a woman, I've always wondered why damn near every single man I've dated likes to pop back now and then. And I've heard it put differently from a male, claiming that a woman has the power to open and close all doors in relationships. Though that may be true, I feel its better that this post takes male ownership/responsibility instead of constantly throwing the issue back into the power and control of the woman.
Love it!!! speechless… I can relate to the entire spill of it all.
We had it. We did. It was the best in his life and the best in mine. A Romance for 2 years. 100% true. He came to see me after 15 years, crossing thousands miles! He told me he was thinking all those years about me. With tears in his eyes. Then he went back to his country. No promises , no asking to be back together. He is (his words) unhappily married in sexless marriage. WHY? Why he doesnt divorce…?
I have had exes reappear, some angry, some shocked, some climbing thru windows in the middle of the night w/ flashlights…. But, I personally find it difficult/ near impossible to go back. When I'm done its because i have already been patient with you, gave it my all, and already given you the benefit of the doubt plenty of times. Every woman has a limit. Once mines is reached, that's it. Women can only be but so patient. So once I'm done, I'm done…. I'm turned off and offended that u would even try to return, especially if u were dirty. There can be no turning back.
So I'm on FB today and all of a sudden I see a new friend request from an old flame that i havent seen or spoken to in almost two years. i was thinking wtf does he want. I immediately knew… he see's the new sexy hairstyle, yada yada. funny, they always come out of the woodwork when you haven't thought a thing of them in forever and you're finally loving your damn self. I admit i reappeared on him before but really wanted to be with him and make it work. he acted different the 2nd time around; didn't reply to texts, wouldn't answer the phone, kid shit basically. i tried to show him that i made a mistake and was being good to him (before he started acting dumb) so I told him actions speak louder than words, i was done entertaining him, that I'd get over him like I get over anyone else, and to find what he was looking for because he didn't want a sincere woman. now he's back?lol.guess he didn't find what he was looking for; he better keep looking….on his other ex's FB page! #whatgoesaroundcomesbackaround
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What in the hell does this mean?: "1) Never let a man have full control over you unless that man has married you."
I would have control over YOU and dangle you from my pinkie and laugh while I am doing it. Women control everything and it's about time you men figured that out. It's the golden rule: she with the gold; rules. We have what men want most; pussy. And if we want to control you – we damn well will. We're far more complex than you males are, and have thought of every angle. That's why you always get caught cheating and we rarely do.
What? Is the poster and idiot in Islam? Pffft!! JOKE. You're a joke pally-oh! As if you ever had control. ahahah It's the greatest dupe women ever put on men and you fell for it, and have the audacity to pretend to know …..:D
My Name is ANITA.I will love to share my testimony to all the people
in the forum cos i never thought i will have my girlfriend back and
she means so much to me..The girl i want to get marry to left me 4
weeks to our weeding for another man..,When i called her she never
picked my calls,She deleted me on her facebook and she changed her
facebook status from married to Single…when i went to
her place of work she told her boss she never want to see me..i lost
my job as a result of this cos i cant get myself anymore,my life was
upside down and everything did not go smooth with my life…I tried
all i could do to have her back to all did not work out until i met a
Man when i Travel to Africa to execute some business have been
developing some years back..I told him my problem and all have passed
through in getting her back and how i lost my job…he told me he
gonna help me…i don't believe that in the first place.but he swore
he will help me out and he told me the reason why my girlfriend left
me and also told me some hidden secrets.i was amazed when i heard that
from him..he said he will cast a spell for me and i will see the
results in the next couple of days..then i travel back to US the
following day and i called him when i got home and he said he's busy
casting those spells and he has bought all the materials needed for
the spells,he said am gonna see positive results in the next 2 days
that is Thursday…My girlfriend called me at exactly 12:35pm on
Thursday and apologies for all she had done ..she said,she never knew
what she's doing and her sudden behavior was not intentional and she
promised not to do that again.it was like am dreaming when i heard
that from her and when we ended the call,i called the man and told him
my wife called and he said i haven't seen anything yet… he said i
will also get my job back in 3 days time..and when its Sunday,they
called me at my place of work that i should resume working on Monday
and they gonna compensate me for the time limit have spent at home
without working..My life is back into shape,i have my girlfriend back
and we are happily married now with kids and i have my job back
too.This man is really powerful..if we have up to 20 people like him
in the world,the world would have been a better place..he has also
helped many of my friends to solve many problems and they are all
happy now..Am posting this to the forum for anybody that is interested
in meeting the man for help.you can mail him on this e-mail
[email protected] i cant give out his number cos he told me
he don't want to be disturbed by many people across the world..he said
his email is okay and he' will replied to any emails asap..hope he
helped u out too..good luck [email protected]
my x bf told me for 3years the time we separated he could not find anyone like me. I forgot how we broke up but i think it was i felt he wasn't serious about me and all i know is that he never cheated on me but he asked for another chance during those years and this year i said ok and we have been dating for 7months and he told his parents about us and it looks like things are going well and it seems he is serious. but the thing is we both were not really serious with each other in the beginning but now i think we are.
I will love to share my testimony to all the people in the forum cos i never thought i will have my girlfriend back and she means so much to me..The girl i want to get marry to left me 4weeks to our weeding for another man..,When i called her she never picked my calls,She deleted me on her Facebook and she changed her Facebook status from married to Single…when i went to her place of work she told her boss she never want to see me..i lost my job as a result of this cos i cant get myself anymore,my life was upside down and everything did not go smooth with my life…I tried all i could do to have her back to all did not work out until i met a Man when i Travel to Africa to execute some business have been developing some years back..I told him my problem and all have passed through in getting her back and how i lost my job…he told me he gonna help me…i don’t believe that in the first place.but he swore he will help me out and he told me the reason why my girlfriend live me and also told me some hidden secrets.i was amazed when i heard that from him..he said he will cast a spell for me and i will see the results in the next couple of days..then i travel back to US the following day and i called him when i got home and he said he’s busy casting those spells and he has bought all the materials needed for the spells,he said am gonna see positive results in the next 2 days that is Thursday…My girlfriend called me at exactly 12:35pm on Thursday and apologies for all she had done ..she said,she never knew what she’s doing and her sudden behavior was not intentional and she promised not to do that again.it was like am dreaming when i from her and when we ended the call,i called the man and told him my wife called and he said i haven’t seen anything yet… he said i will also get my job back in 3 days time..and when its Sunday,they called me at my place of work that i should resume working on Monday and they gonna compensate me for the time limit have spent at home without working..My life is back into shape,i have my girlfriend back and we are happily married now with kids and i have my job back too.This man is really powerful..if we have up to 20 people like him in the world,the world would have been a better place..he has also helped many of my friends to solve many problems and they are all happy now..Am posting this to the forum for anybody that is interested in meeting the man for help.you can mail him on this e-mail [email protected] i cant give out his number cos he told me he don’t want to be disturbed by many people across the world..he said his email is okay and he’ will replied to any emails asap..hope he helped u out
too..good luck [email protected]
Submitted by SOPHIE (not verified) on Tue, 07/31/2012 – 10:48am.
Hi My name is SOPHIE just want to share my experience with the world on how i got my love back and saved my marriage… I was married for 4 years with 3 kids and we lived happily until things started getting ugly and we had a fights and arguments almost every time… it got worse at a point that he filed for divorce… I tried my best to make him change his mind & stay with me cause i loved him with all my heart and didn’t want to loose him but everything just didn’t work out… he moved out of the house and still went ahead to file for divorce… I pleaded and tried everything but still nothing worked. The breakthrough came when someone introduced me to this wonderful, great spell caster [email protected] who eventually helped me out… I have never been a fan of things like this but just decided to try reluctantly cause I was desperate and left with no choice… He did special prayers and cast a love spell on him. Within 7 days he called me and was sorry for all the emotional trauma he had cost me, moved back to the house and we continue to live happily, the kids are happy too and we are expecting our fourth child… I have introduced him to a lot of couples with problems across the world and they have had good news… Just thought I should share my experience cause I strongly believe someone out there needs it… You can email him [email protected]
Full article: Text Your Ex Back | Trusted.MD Network [email protected]
Thank you thank you DR ABULU for the good work you just did in my life , my name is Priscilla i was married to my husband for two years and we were living together happily and we both love each other for this two year not until one bad evening when i came back from work late due to scares of transportation and he started queering and he said he does not trust me anymore and he can continue with this marriage anymore and he drove me away from his house unknowingly to him that i was carrying his two month old baby inside me i tried informing he but he won,t listen to me anymore i thought i will never get him back again and i loved him so much and i promise not to rest until am able to get him back to my life so i began to look for a solution and help to get him back this was because i do not want to give birth to a fatherless child so one afternoon as i was browsing on my computer i came across a testimony shared by miss Rachael from UK how she got his ex husband back with the help of Dr abulu of ([email protected]) so i decided to give him a try and to my best surprise the spell this man cast on my husband work just within two days i contacted him . and today am happily living with my husband and a bouncing baby boy , with all this help rendered to me through this DR ABULU OF ([email protected] )i will always thank him forever and testify his goodness in my life for other,s to hear an see , once again thank you DR for bringing back my family
i just want to share my experience and testimony here.. i was married for 6 years to my husband and all of a sudden, another woman came into the picture.. he started hailing me and he was abusive..but i still loved him with all my heart and wanted him at all cost?then he filed for divorce..my whole life was turning apart and i didn’t know what to do..he moved out of the house and abandoned the kids.. so someone told me about trying spiritual means to get my husband back and introduced me to a spell caster?so i decided to try it reluctantly..although i didn’t believe in all those things? then when he did the special prayers and spell, after 2days, my husband came back and was pleading..he had realized his mistakes..i just couldn’t believe it.. anyways we are back together now and we are happy..in case anyone needs this man, his email address [email protected], his spells is for a better life. again his email is [email protected]
these last few ppl are creeping me out that is not love ppl how could u go around in life casting spells on ppl? if it dont work out it dont just try and meet someone else its probably a good reason if u dont work out. Love should come naturally pls dont be that desperate as to contact these ppl later it might back fire and u end up being divorced or alone for good. the bible never mentions about any casting cuz its not meant for us its part of evil and whats evil there is always something that will become worse. rather come to know the Lord and ask Him to bring someone that He wants to be with u so that it will be natural and clean
My name is Priscal campbell. my life was so bad after my lover throwing me out of the house
because i could not give birth. i felt so bad because this is the only man i loved with all
my heart and feelings, i tried many spell casters with all the little money had but it was all in vein. but one day as i was searching for trustworthy and honest spell caster that's when i found Dr Atu … i only gave him a very small money to buy what to use for the spell that was all, and he casted a lost love spell for me and i got my lover back in only 2days and he also casted a pregnancy spell where by i fell pregnant in only 14days. now am pregnant again with my second child and am happily married.
Thanks to Almighty GOD who gave me strength to such for good spellcaster… To contact [email protected]
THIS IS BLASPHEMY!!! GOD HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU SATAN!
Hi Am lisa from LA, thi spell lady Priestess Ifaa is a gifted from witch. Everything that she has been telling me for the past few weeks was confirmed 2day go. It blew me away, as I was somewhat skeptical because I did not have a way to confirm. She is the best and I will continue to seek advice from her on a daily basis. She wants nothing but happiness for her clients, even though she blessed with powers, she did a spell that made me got my job back 2days ago. She mentioned that I would be receiving a call from my manager solidarity to resume office today, I just realized everything she told me few minutes after the call, Call and contact this spell lady for i have my eyes open seeing her spell work for me. her email is [email protected], contact her if you want to get off from that problem. She is the best. Luv ya Priestess.
Hi thank you for the article and i learned a lot about it. i was in a relationship where he wanted to be the controlling and trying too hard to change me, even if that meant trying to lower my self esteem. i am young beautiful girl and i get a lot of male attention but unfortunately i fell in love with him. in the end we had a break up as we had many in past but this time it was different. he hurt me very bad by saying that i was only 10% good for him and i asked, ” then why are you even with me,” he said, ” because you have to go with 10% until you get the 100%” to me that was hurtful because i know what i am and i know myself that i can get any man’s attention as long as i desire but i don’t need to because they come to me. anyhow i decided to move on and before he knew i moved on he went with a girl and posted tons of pictures to hurt me and make me jealous. sometimes i don’t understand guys like that. so my question is that 1. it’s been couple months since the break up and i am still not over him. is it too early to move on in a new relationship? 2. if he loved me why he put me down ? 3. if he was trying to change me into a girl he desired why did he go with a girl who is 100% opposite of what he wanted? 4. why is he asking about me from my friend? 5. why did he say it was too quick for me to move on and he was interested to know about the new guy in my life? we don’t communicate directly but i did send him a mail saying i forgive and forget and moving on. your help will be kindly appreciate.
Hey Anna
first of all, i want u to know to that u are not alone, lots and lots of girls go through this problem including myself. To answer ur questions:
1. time heals all…u cant get over someone in a heartbeat, my ex and i broke up 8months ago and i still find myself missing him once in awhile especially during holiday seasons. from my experience, u cant get over him until u meet someone else…now dont use that as a reason to date the first idiot that comes ur way bc u will end up making the same mistake again and again. I will suggest u take this time to better yourself, go back to skool, take classes, start a business, focus on ur hobbies and get to know yourself better. I have been doin that for the past 8months (took some classes and started my own company) and now I notice that the kind of guys am attracting are better than my ex bc my self esteem has improved. sometime we put up crap bc we think we dont deserve better and this has nothin to do with beauty (beautiful girls have low self-esteem..it all about how u see urself).
2. He keep u down bc of HIS low self-esteem. My ex alway taught i was better than him and i was in many ways. I was educated and he wasnt, i am very ambitious and hard-workin and he isnt, i have a very close and loving family and he's family never cared about him and wouldnt even call him on his birthday or holidays whereas my family calls me or txt me EVERYDAY. so all this always made him jealous of me and made him feel inferior (YES u can be jealous of the one u are with). so instead of him bettering himself to be on my level (which will require years and hardwork); he found it easier to bring me down to HIS level. now he cant take away me education, or my families' love and so on but he can reduce my self-esteem so i will think we are on the same level. He never supported me at school and will always make fun of me for going back to school and wanting to start my own fashion company. Telling me i cant and will never do well; also that i am a big baby for talking to my parents everyday and so on and so on. Now while i was in the relationship i believed him cause i luv him and respected his opinion to the point that i stop talking to family members and never spent time on my company. This is why i am never ever dating someone below my level again. that sounds mean and cold but u cant get the right support from someone who hasnt reached where u are. A GUY ON OR ABOVE UR LEVEL WILL NOT PUT U DOWN BC HE WOULDNT BE THREATENED BY U.
3. bc he bit more than he can chew.
4. it could be bc he luv u but hates the way u make him feel OR simply him trying to see u fail with another guy so he can say: "u see i told u it is her that is messed up not me". Whatever reason, tell u friends u are trying to move on and do not want to hear anything about him. even mutual friends should keep their mouth shut if they are truly ur friend. Over the 2 yrs i dated my ex, i became friends with his cousin and even though me and her still talk on FB, she know not to bring him up with me AT ALL.
5. it not his business how quickly u move on or who u are dating now. thts his way of still controling and manipulating u – make U feel like u have no heart or control. There is a reason why there isnt an exact formula for grieving cause everyone deals with lose in their own way.
I hope this helps and pls remember u are not the only one goin through this…i have spent the past 8months improvin my self and i am starting to see a guy now that i always taught was out of my league…buy now tht i am improving my self, i am finding it easier to hang out with him and his friends and family bc i have something to bring to the table to…remember beauty is not enough u need to be well-rounded to date some guys.
My life is back!!! After 8 years of marriage, my husband left me and left me with our three kids. I felt like my life was about to end, and was falling apart. I contacted you and after I explained you my problem, you sent me a Save My Marriage Spell. In just weeks, my husband came back to us. We solved our issues, and we are even happier than before. Thanks to africa voodoo spell temple.”contact the spell caster on [email protected]
I wish to share my testimonies with the general public about what this man called dr ABULU of( [email protected] has just done for me , this man has just brought back my lost family to me with his great spell, i was married to this man called James we were together for a long time and we loved our self’s but when i was unable to give he a child for 2 years he left me and told me he can’t continue anymore then i was now looking for ways to get he back until a friend of mine told me about this man and gave his contact email [email protected]) then you wont believe this when i contacted this man on my problems he prepared this spell cast and bring my lost husband back and after a month i miss my month and go for a test and the result stated am pregnant am happy today am a mother a baby girl, thank you once again the great ABULU for what you have done for me, if you are out there passing through this same kind of problems you can contact he today on his mail ([email protected] )and he will also help you as well
PEOPLE PLEASE DON"T FALL FOR THESE "Testimonies". THIS IS PURELY A CON! and the SNARE OF THE DEVIL!
RIGHT OMG…
THE LEVEL OF SCAM IS RIDICULOUS AND INSANE. EVEN IF THESE SPELLS WORK; THIS AFRICAN VODIST DONT DO ANYTHING FOR FREE…the outcome is far worse than what they will tell u…PLS PLS PLS DONT LISTEN, I KNOW, I AM AN AFRICAN TO AND WE GET OVER HEARTBREAK AND LOSE LIKE THE REST OF THE WORLD…1 DAY AT A TIME.
I GUARANTEE U ITS THE SAME PERSON PUTTING ALL THIS POST UP UNDER DIFFERENT NAME…
This blog really struck my heart and remind me of re vengeance.it reminded me September last year on how i really dealt with my ex. he dumped me for a 28 year old lady which i employed in my company and maltreated i and 7 year old baby. This lady was seriously taken over my completely. it became so worse when they started having sex in our matrimonial home.out of fear, i decided to seek help from a spell caster who made me understand steve is under a spell by the other a lady and he can help me break the spell so i could have my man back and have good times like we use to. But for the pain they have cursed me both . i decided to cast a spell to make my man turn puppet to me and control him anytime i want , love me and no one else ,detest any woman who comes closer to him. i also cast a spell for him to beat the other woman up until she never turns up again.
My name is Marrissa from Netherlands,Often in our busy lives we cant forget just how much we depend or should depend on our helper. Not just for the big things, like bringing a lost love once back home, healing a sick loved one, providing for us in a financial help, but the little things. His gentle casting that awakes us each morning, the brilliant colors of His spell casting, the smile on my child's face. Most of all, I'm thankful to DR. CHECK,which is now my Savior. For His love for me to know that the spell casting really works in my life. For His blessed assurance. And for this site that allowed me to express my thanks. Have a blessed day in Jesus.similar problem should contact DR. CHECK at [email protected]
PLS PLS PLS FEEL FREE TO BELIEVE AND PRATICE ALL THE VODO U WANT BUT PLS DONT INVOLVES GOD/JESUS NAME IN IT…GOD THAT GAVE US FREE-WILL WILL NEVER EVER WANT U TO NOW TURN AROUND AND CONTROL UR HUSBAND/WIFE…LIKE THE IDIOT ABOVE SAID: """i decided to cast a spell to make my man turn puppet to me and control him anytime i want , love me and no one else ,detest any woman who comes closer to him. i also cast a spell for him to beat the other woman up until she never turns up again."""" REALLY, REALLY LOL
Games….to many of them I cannot keep up. I'm so irritated with it all. How to think like a man, act like a woman? How to keep a man happy? How to date? When to marry? Etc…Etc….What ever happened to personal responsibility? What ever happened to personal accountability? What ever happened to treating others how you would like to be treated? What ever happened to being yourselves and not representations of yourselves? I don't have many exes….actually I have two and I am in my 3rd decade of life..and for the most part I've come to learn that my happiness is my own responsibility…and that if I am not happy with myself then how can I expect to be happy conjoined with someone else. You can be sure that your unhappiness will leak onto the other party causing greater misery than one can muster up alone. On to the topic….reappearing acts…I moved away from my first ex, not because of anything he' s done…it was situational, but I RARELY talk to him…he has his life and I have mine. The second ex is fairly fresh…I'm so glad I am content with being in the company of myself, because this separation is not as bad as I had imagined it to be. That brings me back to my original thought….when you learn to be happy and content with yourselves then the separations, break-ups, divorces, etc won't throw you off your square. There is something honorable about a person who can split from someone without angst or animosity…it shows strength in your character, empathy, humbleness….and most important it shows that your ego does not rule you…you can lose without being a sore loser…and in my opinion that makes you a winner! Veered off topic again, but had to make that last point…haha!
I don’t go back with exes, once its done its done. Only one dude I went back and forth with, I took great pleasure in dumping him for good.
All of my exes have tried to get me back with them, but I just shut off all feelings.
Whether is 3yrs or 2months since I’ve left them, they come back and I send them back, I don’t see the point in trying again
I prefer to put effort into a new deserving man, not exes.
Someone asked me if I would go back to an ex once and I believe I said yes. As of now, I don't think I will. I just recently experienced a break up solely because my ex and I could not find time to be with each other during the academic school year. If he tried to come back, I'm not sure I would take him back because I personally felt two things:
1) That he gave up and didn't give us a chance (he basically decided that we should break up and didn't come to me about why he thought this)
2) I am 99.97% sure he already had an idea of what an ideal relationship should look like and ours wasn't it.
So at this point, him and I are done for good because I don't want to be in a situation where he gives up again and walks away.
All Thanks goes to the great Prophet for what he has done for me in my life he brought back happiness that I thought I will never have in my life after my ex left me for 7 long months lonely, I was thinking everything was over and to end my life cause I truly loved Aaron until i came across this Prophet's website (www.prophetofgoddess.com) because i have been scammed by some fake spell caster who where just adding pain to my pain but he just ended the pain for me by bringing back my ex in just 2days after I got to his temple cause I didn't want to take a chance of sending any more people money. Now Aaron is back to me am so grateful to the Prophet you can contact him on ([email protected]) because he is a man i can swear with my life that he is real.
BLASPHEMY!!!!!
BLASPHEMY!!!
Seems its they all appear at the same damn time. When your happy. I’m going with the manipulative all day. No one had good intentions and when they became my ex every time I seen or talked to them I realized EXactly why they got kicked to the curb. I don’t go backwards moving forward has always worked better me. Patricia good for tou but I don’t want anyone bad enough to try anything called a spell.*scary and desperate measures aren’t my tactics*
My name is Selina Jackson I was married to my husband for 9 years before he left me
I was so devastated, until I meet with a great prophet in a forum I contacted him and told him my problem
he asked me not to worry so he asked me for some details and that I will have him back within three days,
I waited for three days and after three days I saw my husband dressed in an black jacket holding a red rose flower
it was so romantic and nice he came to me and said that for the past three days he could not sleep without seeing me in his dream
and that all of a sudden all his friends have been asking him to come see me and he dosnt know why he cant stop thinking about me
he told me he is planning to leave the new wife. to end the long story we are back together now and we are happy now you can contact him
on [email protected] or contact him personnally on [email protected] his temple is actually a place of solution.
I HAVE NEVER BELIEVED IN LOVE SPELLS UNTIL I MET THIS WORLD'S TOP SPELL CASTER. HE IS REALLY POWERFUL AND COULD HELP CAST SPELLS TO BRING BACK ONE'S GONE,LOST,MISBEHAV ING LOVER AND MAGIC MONEY SPELL OR SPELL FOR A GOOD JOB.I'M NOW HAPPY & A LIVING TESTIMONY COS THE WOMAN I HAD WANTED TO MARRY LEFT ME 2 WEEKS BEFORE OUR WEDDING AND MY LIFE WAS UPSIDE DOWN COS OUR RELATIONSHIP HAS BEEN ON FOR 2YEARS… I REALLY LOVED HIM, BUT HIS MOTHER WAS AGAINST US AND HE HAD NO GOOD PAYING JOB. SO WHEN I MET THIS SPELL CASTER, I TOLD HIM WHAT HAPPENED AND EXPLAINED THE SITUATION OF THINGS TO HIM..AT FIRST I WAS UNDECIDED,SKEPTICA L AND DOUBTFUL, BUT I JUST GAVE IT A TRY. AND IN 7 DAYS WHEN I RETURNED TO USA, MY GIRLFRIEND(NOW WIFE) CALLED ME BY HERSELF AND CAME TO ME APOLOGIZING THAT EVERYTHING HAD BEEN SETTLED WITH HIS MOM AND FAMILY AND SHE GOT A NEW JOB INTERVIEW SO WE SHOULD GET MARRIED..I DIDN'T BELIEVE IT COS THE SPELL CASTER ONLY ASKED FOR MY NAME AND MY GIRLFRIENDS NAME AND ALL I WANTED HIM TO DO… WELL WE ARE HAPPILY MARRIED NOW AND WE ARE EXPECTING OUR LITTLE KID,AND MY WIFE ALSO GOT THE NEW JOB AND OUR LIVES BECAME MUCH BETTER. IN CASE ANYONE NEEDS THE SPELL CASTER FOR SOME HELP, HIS EMAIL ADDRESS IS; [email protected] or [email protected]……HOPE HE HELPS YOU OUT DONT MISS OUT YOUR OPPORTUNITY
My ex been trying to reconnect for a while now and honestly, i think its bc he saw i moved on(i dont how since he deleted me of ALL social-network sites); break-up was HORRIBLE, even involved cops since we lived together.
Even though I am not seeing anyone now, its not the same…he is so nice and attentive now and does the nicest things like drive 2hrs to pick me up and drop me at school and wait 4hrs for my class to finish to drop me back home!! but for some reason i cant appreciate it or respect him so we are just friends now.
I feel bad sometimes for using him now, but u know what GUYS, its not healthy to go back…she will either be afraid u will mess up again or she just wouldn't respect u…so learn from ur mistakes and MOVE ON !!
I learned by watching and listening to all of my friends. When it was my turn to get dumped, I did him a favor and abided by his wishes I changed my number, deleted my email accounts, in one instance in came during a time when I was leaving my job, so that helped and he couldn't call me and in another instance I was gonna move a month later, so I sped up the process and moved two weeks after broke up with me and got the hell on. Thats what they wanted to I helped them expedite the process. Then months later I hear from mutual friends that they were wondering about me and wanted to get in contact because they had not contact info and our mutal friends told them that they really didnt see me as much. Then here comes facebook….. i accepted friend requests, looked at pictures, got status info then deleted and blocked them and blocked my info from being found on fb period. Its better to be safe than sorry. I dont believe in living with drama, so if you want to end our friendship, or relationship, I'm going to respect your wishes and speedily help close out the problem. I recently got engaged and what happens, and EX who NEVER calls or calls once a year calls out of the blue. I tell him the news and now I'm getting calls from him twice a month…like really??? cmon dude, I've known you for YEARS and you ended our relationship in a restaurant and used the line, its not you its me…..and you THINK I'm going waste time on you rethinking how you feel about me to give us a try and not to marry the man that WANTS to marry me. GET the hell outta here….straight to vmail everytime. EXes are PATHETIC and I always get the last word.
GOING THRU THIS ISH RIGHT NOW. I WENT THROUGH THE (1) EXCITED pHASE, THEN (2) SKEPTICAL PHASE AND NOW AFTER READING THIS…(3) THE-AWW-HELL-NAW PHASE. I DON'T WANT TO RELIVE HOW HE WALKED OUT ON ME WHEN I WAS PREG WITH HIS CHILDWHOM HE HAS NEVER PROVIDED FOR. I THINK HE IS TRYING TO MANIPULATE ME FOR SOMETHING AND I THINK I AM TRYING TO HARD TO SHOW HIM THAT I AM DIFFERENT NOW AND OVER HIM. WASTE OF TIME
Hello every body, my name is Samantha from new zealand and I just want to
let you all know that having a broken heart is not an
easy thing, but no matter how bad your situation may
be, I want to let you all know that there is a way to get
your ex chasing you around again wanting to be with
you, because this is exactly what I did when my
boyfriend left me for someone else and I am happy
today cause he is back. [email protected]
was were I got the chance to get my boyfriend back
and I will also want you all to give it a try.
RELATIONSHIPS CAN BE VERY DIFFICULT! WHETHER BOYFRIEND AND GIRLFRIEND OR HUSBAND AND WIFE. IT TAKES ALOT OF PRAY, ALOT OF WORK, AND ALOT OF SACRIFICE, AND ALOT OF COMMUNICATION. BUT IF TWO PEOPLE ARE WILLING, YOU'LL MAKE IT THROUGH ANY SITUATION AND GROW OLD TOGETHER!!!
WTF is with all this witchery shit! Fuck outta here with that. The devil is on this blog heavy!
Hi all, This is gonna sound stupid but I need advice about an ex (my first relationship) I am 23 by the way.
Hi!
I need some major advice please!!!!!
Okay long story somewhat short lol. I was with a guy for 2 years I loved him, and I thought he loved me… we spoke about marriage but after a year he back away and said he has a strict family and they will pick his wife and he can’t do anything about it (this is actually true it a culture thing from where he is from) BUT he broke up with me via text out of the blue… we met one day and 2 days later he sent a message… of course I was crushed this was my first relationship. Okay so throughout the breakup I made mistakes and texted him, told him why blah blah… but I stopped later.
After about 2 years later he messaged me on e-mail saying the major reason why he broke if off was he knew it wasn’t going anywhere but refuse to tell me.. and two he wanted a girl to have sex with and I wasn’t giving it to him because I am a virgin (oh I am now 23) and he said I was a girl for a man to marry not to mess with. So he found a new girl and brags that she and him ONLY hang in a parked car and why couldn’t I do that. I just LOL at it. So the past 2 months him and I have been talking just as friends. He would always repond to my texts (which before he would ignore or cuss me out etc, and this is 3 year after the break up). I told him it great hearing from you and I hope our path cross… he replied saying God willing our paths do cross I really hope that. So I just replied saying yeah. we would text throughtout the day mostly the morning, talking about all sort of stuff, TV, our lives, just friends talking. So he keep complimenting me and I just say thanns nothing more to make him feel like I want him back (BUT I DO STILL CARE A LOT FOR HIM). He than proceeds to say he is loving the way I live my life and he is envious and jealous. I moved away from the state I used to live in that he is still in and now in law school… and he always says he is jealous of me, which I don’t like.. always saying I am beautiful, that he misses me, wants to see me, calls me a “G” but I just say don’t be your got it good too… anyways he asked to see me, I said may be when I am back. So I later told him may be if we meet in public NOT A CAR, and just get coffee. He agreed and said he would find time. I said sure. He told me last week that may be this week we would me, well, I text him saying hey did you find a day so I knew bc i would be leaving back soon, he didn’t reply.. so I left it. Hours went by nothing. I told my friend, she took his number and called private without me knowing :/ he picked up!! So I later text saying I don’t know what’s going on, but I will respect that bye friend. The next morning he text saying hey, I replied with hi 2 hours later. He wrote how are you feeling, 2o min later I said pretty good. THAN he proceeded to ignore me again so I wrote if you don;t want to talk to me than don’t text or play games. I don’t want to waste time. I am really sad because I care so much for him, and am his friend and had faith he would be a MAN and just not play this game of hot and cold anymore… we are just friends. I am away and busy so I don’t expect much from him but a polite I can’t meet up but have a safe trip back maybe next time or just if he doesnt want to talk to ne stop talking don’t talk to me than, ignore. The week is over and I am going back to my University I didn’t hear from him….
OH, and he kept saying he would come visit me in the state I am in now bc it is a tourist state, and said we would have fun and just hang… he was saying/asking would it be awkward, i said no but if we meet it would take the awkwardness away….
So will he ever text me? Because I secretly do want to hear from him again??? Why does he do this? is he fooling me? Please help, my heart is broken again. I been hurting for almost 4 year becouse of this guy… this is a long long long story that is very condense. He is kind of a jerk, obivosly a player since he left to find a sex buddy. I feel like he doesn’t care, yet I still do. He says I am a great friend and that he has love for me, but why alway do this?
Do you think he will ever call me or text me? I need you help!!!!! please
I ask because he never lets me move on, like if we somehow get in contact he is super nice makes me feel like we can be the adults we are and bam he disappears.
i am giving this testimony cos l am happy
My name is mrs. Deborah Collins from Houston,taxes.i never believed in love spells or magic until i met this spell caster once. when i went to Africa in December this year on a business summit. i ment a man called dr. Atakpo.He is powerful he could help you cast a spells to bring back my love’s gone,misbehaving lover looking for some one to love you, bring back lost money and magic money spell or spell for a good job.i’m now happy & a living testimony cos the man i had wanted to marry left me 3 weeks before our wedding and my life was upside down cos our relationship has been on for 2 years… i really loved him, but his mother was against me and he had no good paying job. so when i met this spell caster, i told him what happened and explained the situation of things to him..at first i was undecided,skeptical and doubtful, but i just gave it a try. and in 6 days when i returned to taxes, my boyfriend (is now my husband ) he called me by himself and came to me apologizing that everything had been settled with his mom and family and he got a new job interview so we should get married..i didn’t believe it cos the spell caster only asked for my name and my boyfriends name and all i wanted him to do… well we are happily married now and we are expecting our little kid,and my husband also got a new job and our lives became much better. in case anyone needs the spell caster for some help, email address [email protected]
Great Atakpo i thank you very much thank you in 1000000 times.. if not you i would have been losted and wasted thank you.
please make sure you contact him for any financial difficulties okay..
What a powerful man such as Dr Atakpo.. he is so much powerful..\ email him for any difficulties.. [email protected]
my name is wainel i live in Canada when my boyfriend let me because of a little girl that work with him i never knew that the girl was dating my man till i meet than in a hotel center i try to as my man what is happily he told me that is over between us i though it was a joke till my man drove me away from the house i cried and cried but nobody to help me out i went and stay with my friend that introduce me and said i should contact dr odudu that is a great man that he can help me out when i contacted him on [email protected] he said all my problems is over that he will cast a spell on me so that my man can come back to me in just three day it was like joke in my eyes to cute the story short after the casting of the spell my man came to my house and knee down and start begging that he dose not know what came over him that he need me back to his life that is when i know that dr odudu is a real spell caster without any side effect am happily married to my man with two kids,if you are having any problem present it to dr odudu to help you out with it.via [email protected] or call +2348051913076
I can't thank you enough for all that you have done for me. About 2 year ago I my partner had misunderstanding, we had both made BIG mistakes in our relationship. He ended up moving away from me to pursue a new life. I knew in my heart that he would be the only one to make me happy. I was relieved when I found your email: ([email protected]) on a site about what you have done. I requested 1 to 2 day casting of the reunite us love spell and within 3days frank company had relocated him back to our hometown where I still lived. We immediately reconnected and move in with each other I can't really thank you enough Dr Okoja.
I wanted to give you an update on my situation. On January 2th, 2013 I requested a binding love spell be cast on my boyfriend. His eyes roamed to any woman that passed us and it made me feel horrible. I am happy to report that a 2days after I requested the spell he proposed to me. We have been married for months now, we are expecting our first child in January, 9th, 2013 and he no longer has eyes for any other woman. I was greatly impressed with the fast results and the personal attention I was shown during the casting and beyond. Dr. Okoja you are really powerful i will advice you guys to contact him if you need any help.. [email protected]
Doc i appreciate your work thank you so much
I don't just know how to start.i am writing this testimony in tears of joy and happiness,After 2years of heart break by the man i truly love and cherish a man who disvirgined me and took away my pride,He left me and for another lady telling me he is not longer interested i cried and was totally down for 2years never knew who to cry to ,Until i was reading on a news paper few days ago on how Dr Igbodo helped someone in bringing back her ex i saw the lady who broadcasted the news i was like for a lady to broad cast this good job of this great man Dr Igbodo i decided to collect her contact and also the contact of Dr Igbodo and i called the lady who broadcasted it on the news paper if truly Dr Igbodo has helped, she said if he has not would i be broadcasting it,So i said let me give a try i contacted Dr Igbodo and told him my problem how my lover left me for 2years without even calling or texting me,So Dr Igbodo told me that everything would be okay within 48hours that i would be happy with the man i love,Truly before the 48hours i got a call from my lover saying in tears that he was sorry,And he came over to my place and he proved to me that he will never leave me for any other lady,He made me had access to everything and made me is beneficiary to all is will and asset,Am so happy today for what Dr Igbodo has done for me,Please friends dont make mistake but be in the right path here is Dr Igbodo mail {[email protected]} or cell Number +2348058273062
My Name is Thelma, Doc i appreciate your work thank you so much
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My ex husband (45) went back to his ex girlfriend he knew when he was (17-18) and now they are getting married, instead of trying to work out our 16 year marriage and two minor children. There will be NO WAY in hell he can ever come back to us.
after a year and 5 months together, after all the mind games he tried to play, he came back in my life after not talking to me for a month and basically he wanted sex… smh. Told him to move his horny ass cause he aint gettin none
No U-turns. Especially so because I have a daughter. If you came into my life you also came into hers and if you walked out of mine you also walked out of hers. I'm not willing to allow you to come back into the picture for any reason. You will not be manipulative with both my and her feelings and if you weren't mature enough to realize what you had back then, just accept that you missed out on that opportunity or try to find a clone, cuz this one is WAY over it.
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Hello,everyone my name is Favour Frank from Canada i never ever believed in spell until i meet a man called prophet viky who help me cast a spell that bring back my ex-lover who left me for two years before our marriage,His spells works beyond my imaginations and today i am happily married with two kids and me and my [ex-lover] now husband are very happy more than ever before,what more can i say rather than to say thank you Dr saga mudo for been there for me,contact him today and your life will never ever remain the same his email is [email protected]
Letting a guy come back will ONLY work if the two people go very slow just like in the beginning of a relationship. If a women reconnects with an ex who she is comfortable with and allows him to come back without skipping a beat, she will more than likely find a guy that is not ready for a loving, committed relationship. The women will more than likely become emotionally connected while she has become sex and fun without the commitment to him. Check out "How to Find A Good Man: 50 Things to Remember About Relationships, Dating, and Intimacy". This book will spell it out for you with clarity.
Hello readers,
my name is juliet i want to testify about a great spell caster that help me cast a spell that bring my ex boyfriend back to without collecting any money from me. I broke up with my ex with just little misunderstanding hoping we will get back shortly,but things was growing worser until i contacted Dr.Igbodo who help me with his historical powers to bring him back, without charging me any money, i have never believed in a spell caster until i come across Dr.Igbodo. Well it will be of great sin if i should go out from here without dropping the contact of this great spell caster,in case you need the help of this great spell caster you can contact him through his email:[email protected]
once you contact him all your problems will be over,once again i say very big thanks to you sir for helping me to recover my ex back, and please sir keep your good work cause people need your help
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How about coming back because you're lonely and not used to be alone; and your last relationship was a bust. So I was thinking about you and hoping we could get together. Get with me so you can forget that knucklehead you were with after me. Then calls a leaves a message with the knucklehead about how we're going to get together! Can you say Alpha Dog!!! No thanks — red is one of my favorite colors, but
not when it comes in a flag!
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My name is cynthia and my ex-boyfriend dumped me 8 months ago after I caught him of having an affair with someone else and insulting him. I want him back in my life but he refuse to have any contact with me. I was so confuse and don't know what to do, so I visited the INTERNET for help and I saw a testimony on how a spell caster help them to get their ex back so I contact the spell caster and explain my problems to him….. he cast a spell for me and assure me of 3 days that my ex will return to me and to my greatest surprise the third day my peter came knocking on my door and beg for forgiveness. I am so happy that my love is back again and not only that, we are about to get married. Once again thank you Dr Olokum spell caster, you are truly talented and gifted contact his email:[email protected]
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please i will briefly reccomend his great and perfect work if any one who ever seek to bring his husband or ex back to his life to quickly email this powerful spell caster now at : [email protected]. and i promise you that your problems will be forever solved, thanks once again DR MATAMA SACURA
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I know most of you don't believe in anything at all and yeah you have the right so this is mostly for those who want to get their spouse back.I can that all those post you read, like five way to get your ex back doesn't really work or maybe it does works for some of you but for me, it was nonsense rather it complicated my love life problem.My boyfriend who was in love with me as much as i was in love with him broke up with me after the birth of our child.The only help i got was from MUTTON OSUN a spell caster.Only his method of spell casting out of all the other ways on how to get your ex back worked.My boyfriend and i dated for two and during that period i got pregnant and you know he was so happy i was carrying his child it was his idea that we keep the baby though i was going to keep it even when he said he was not ready.But he was most excited about the fact that we were going to have a baby.We went shopping on baby thing together, painted our baby room and did everything other thing about the baby together including being by my side when the doctor confirmed that we were going to have a baby girl.I have never seen him so happy as he was that day.Then the day i gave birth to my girl he came telling me he can't do this any more.He said his too scared to be a dad he does not want to do anything to make his daughter hate him for ever.It was so simple, all he had to do was to love her just as he love himself. Nothing i told him made him stay even when i told him what he was doing was going to create the hatred he didn't want between him and his daughter.Then he said i rather have it that way.I couldn't help it but to cry i mean how was i going to rise this child all alone and the thought of losing my man was i every ugly thing i pictured in my head.For crying out loud i don't need a child support all i needed was for him to be there with me and his daughter to protect us, to be there no her birthdays, and to be there for every holiday.Was that too much to ask from the father of my baby was it too much to ask him to love us just the way he use too? no, i don't think so.It became obvious that he was unfaithful to me with another woman before and when i got pregnant cos he move on so easily and started date a girl i don't even know.And you know he even call to tell me he was seeing someone else.ALL I could think of was how to get my man and my family back.Tried all ideas online and they made thing worse i got arrested for troubling his home.That was when i made up my mind to contact MUTTON OSUN a spell caster.I read a lot about him online all i read were positive comment about him cos i could not find any negative one.Word has it that his words are true and grant you what you desire from him. All this thing i read made me contact.All he asked for was that materials for the spell be provide by me.I rather i sent him the money to purchase the materials than doing it myself so i sent him the money.He didn't charge me for his services like he said for it is against the spirit to ask money for their good work done.And believe with no time my child father was back and this time it was for sure he is never going anywhere.All i could see in his eye was love and nothing more. MUTTON OSUN contact is [email protected] .He solves all problem.
An amazing testimony of a spell caster that help me get my husband back to
me.
My name is Tracy Adam i lived in U S A and i have 4 kids, before i was having problems with my husband which make him hate us so much that
even lead to break up and leave us to another woman, until a friend of mine
directed me to this man called Dr. Okungbor, i contacted him and he start
to cast the spell immediately, then he help me and i get my husband back in
peace and we are now happy family am very much thankful to Dr. Okungbor
that help me,so i must tell the people how good he his. I will advice you
to contact him through this email [email protected] or call his mobile number +2348156784928 for any help.Then your problem will
be solve
i am benita from the
united state, I want to say this explicitly
for its of a surprise that regardless of
the internet fraud, i could still meet
some one this genuine, am not here to
talk on relationship, so don’t be in the
offing to hear that, but its something
supplementary, for i seeked for a
endorsement in my office for the past
one year, but my boss asked me to lay
with him, or no promotion, when i met
dr redlove she cast a spell for me and
ask me to go to work and see what will
happen, i went to work and saw my
letter of endorsement waiting for me
on my desk, just like that, i was so
amazed, but i owe het the thanks….go
to her for she will be of assistance, and
please try to give her the chance she
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errr I would say never let anyone control you, including the man you're married to. Never mind if he respects you, as long as you respect you – you'll be fine
This comment was particularly disturbing. 1) Never let a man have full control over you unless that man has married you.
Why should I be anymore compelled to allow a man to control me simply because we have gotten married?
Hi My name is "john" just want to share my experience with the world on how i got my love back and saved my marriage… I was married for 7years with 2kids and we lived happily until things started getting ugly and we had fights and arguments almost every time… it got worse at a point that she filed for divorce… I tried my best to make her change her mind & stay with me cause i loved her with all my heart and didn't want to loose her but everything just didn't work out… she moved out of the house and still went ahead to file for divorce… I pleaded and tried everything but still nothing worked. The breakthrough came when someone introduced me to this wonderful, great spell caster who eventually helped me out… I have never been a fan of things like this but just decided to try reluctantly cause I was desperate and left with no choice… He did special prayers and used roots and herbs… Within 7 days she called me and was sorry for all the emotional trauma she had cost me, moved back to the house and we continue to live happily, the kids are happy too and we are expecting our third child. I have introduced him to a lot of couples with problems across the world and they have had good news… Just thought I should share my experience cause I strongly believe someone out there need's it… You can email him via [email protected] Don't give up just yet, the different between "Ordinary" & "Extra-Ordinary" is the "Extra" so make extra effort to save your marriage/relationship if it's truly worth it.
my name is Anabella from USA, I want to thank the great ODUDUWA for what he did for me he brought happiness back into my life. My boyfriend left me and told me is over I was devastated as I loved him so much I decided to contact a spellcaster and I met a friend who told me of a great doctor and I decided to contact him and he told me in three days my boyfriend will call me and beg me to acept him I thought he was joking in three days everything happened as he said I am so happy now.
You can also contact him at [email protected] for any kind of help,