Never mix business with pleasure. It’s a mantra that we have heard time and time again. It’s also a mantra that has been broken throughout the course of time. The separation between your personal and professional life can be a fine line, and when this line is overstepped, more often than not chaos erupts. No better example do we see of this cautionary tale, then on the latest VH1 guilty pleasure “Love and Hip Hop”. While I don’t watch this show often, I have enough friends and loved ones who watch it around me to be fully abreast of the plot lines and situations unfolding. Truth is, watching that show faithfully would be too easy, as I am a sucker for ratchetness and drama filled TV! We all have our vices right?
Watching the latest episode this week, it was clear that the lines between friends and business partners, family and friends, confidants and snitches, are crossed repeatedly. In this episode, you have Yandy (who was a manager for Jim Jones), beefing with Chrissy(Jim’s now fiancee). This rift caused Yandy to walk out and quit working with Jim Jones, but watching the show, she seems too invested in Jim’s life for someone who was “affected professionally”. I don’t know about you, but even if I was friends with a boss I worked for, if I quit, I’m not hanging around to meddle in that friends affairs!
All signs in this one episode alone show me that Yandy is in love with Jim, and more than professionally:
- She criticizes Jim for the money he spends on his FIANCEE Chrissy
- She sends that ill-fated email ripping Chrissy apart
- She still hangs out with Mama Jones (Jim’s mother), calling her mom and having quality time
- She even tries to have a “working” relationship with Cam’Ron, who’s close with Jim and just reconciled with his homie after years of silent hate between the two.
Mama Jones pointed out during their massage session (smh) that Yandy pressing this issue wouldn’t be a good look. You can tell her motherly spider sense kicked in and she saw Yandy was trying to get crazy, and gave her that “you MUST chill” tone of talk. She saw what we all saw. Plus any one with any kind of sense would know that trying to work with Cam after you quit working with Jim would make it hot for no reason. Respect to Cam for telling her that he’d have to run it by Jimmy (#guycode), because doing otherwise would bring unnecessary drama.
I have to give a lot of blame to Jim Jones here. Yandy clearly feels comfortable in speaking her mind about her business partners personal life, which is a problem whether you were friends before or not. As the boss, you have to be able to set rules and regulations where situations like this won’t arise. Jim created an atmosphere for Yandy to interfere in his life, and now will have to reap what he sows until that can be squashed (or the women in his life chill, which they won’t). The minute you enter into a working agreement with another person where money is involved, there has to be a time and place boundary established. It’s the best way to prevent emotions from clouding your business judgement. I can see now why many people I know prefer not to work with friends, or significant others.
There also has to be boundaries established between opposite sex friends when they enter into relationships. You have to show your friend’s significant other the proper respect they deserve, as they now occupy a special place in your friend’s life. Of course you can have your opinions and make sure your friend isn’t steered wrong. However, when you take into account that people already think that men and women cannot be platonic friends, you have to tread lightly and even go out of your way at times to show that you respect their union. Yandy in these situations is being blatantly disrespectful (even if she doesn’t think so), and her movements can clearly be interpreted as a side chick scorned.
Women’s intuition is the most powerful force in the universe since Hulkamania. When women get a certain feeling, they investigate and discover that more often than not, their fears were substantiated. How many times have you heard a woman proclaim “Girl, I don’t trust him, it’s just something about him.” Even better, on Twitter the amount of “Yandy clearly is fucking Jim” quotes I saw were astronomical! If I can see it, I know women see it, and Chrissy does too, so where does that leave your friend/business associate Jones? How does that not make you two look suspect? Unless that was your plan all along…
This is why it’s better to keep business and pleasure separate. Build the necessary boundaries and ground rules so that drama is avoided at all cost. When you mix short tempers, ignorant behavior, and reality TV, it is a recipe for nuclear ratchet-like behavior.
So who’s right in this issue? What should Yandy and Chrissy do? Who do you blame in all of this? What rights do friends and business partners who were there before the gf/bf have in their friend’s life?