6. You know everyone in the club, including the bathroom attendant, your favorite server, the bartenders and the sweeper.
Once I get to the point that I’m dapping everyone up in the club or stopping to have a conversation with the bathroom attendant about life, I know it’s time to take a break. If your bartender is making your drink without you ordering it or you have an existing tab, it’s a sign that you need to take a break too.
Great way to close out the week good sir!
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Lol good post; I think after a certain age you should just give up the club and stick to a lounge or bar.
I remember on my 18th birthday me and my girls went to the club to celebrate. It was 18 for women and 21 and up for men. Of course we’re all excited thinking we were going to bump into some sexy 21-25 year olds. I mean they were in attendance but we were surprised to walk in and see so many old heads (30 and up men) posted up at the bar trying to wheel in the fresh meat.
You could tell they were a little too old to be there plus they were a little creepish.
Nothing ever changes. Nothing is ever going to change. The nightlife lifestyle is THAT important and THAT significant it completely traps people in a deadzone. No matter how much you yell or scream no matter how heavy the truth hits, nothing is more important than the deadzone. It's actually physically devestating for your soulmate to consciously….*sigh* It's not even worth it. Someone who's been wasting away for 25, 30, 32 years is worthless. You can't do anything except fail. and hurt. and neglect. and whine. and complain. That's how you look. Dissapointing. Guaranteed to fail. I'm waiting for the day nightlife vs. prioritizing becomes life or death decisions. Fail. Fail. Fail. Not even realizing the consequences and repercussions of your actions.
What you are hinting at is totally different. Your saying they are too old for the club because you want them home and feel they are out just to chase other relationships.
Sadly most of those signs happened to me and I finally took heed. But there is a HUGE drop off of lounge type places for those in the 35 and up category. And when you do find a laidback place, it's populated by the cool young and hip crowd.
No. What I said was people are worthless because their minds are trapped in club mentality. When exactly was the necessary qualities and behaviors for success developed? Most people are a joke coming out of that environment thinking they know something and having the audacity to pass judgement. Really? Come up here. The correct way. You can't. Because you aren't developed enough. You're worthless. a failure. Reaking of pride and ignorance. Now go to your lounge and have a seat. Lie to yourself like it's different. I don't care. A person that weak has no business in my life in the first place. Everything about them is tainted and offensive. That's how men look from a superior viewpoint. Dirty.
I don't care about anything before the point I say 'you are dirty, dead weight and it's killing me' and then observing the subsequent character development or lackthereof. Do what you wanna do I wanna see who you are and most men find every little excuse they can to stay in a deadzone where no requirements are enforcable. and that's okay it's who they are. but you will be hard bodied checked when you approach me like you deserve a semblence of my respect.
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lol….One thing I want to mention is that there are "lounges" that cater to an older crowd over 30. Some clubs also have nites where the crowd is more "grown and sexy." In fact at some you have to be over 25 to get in. If u listen to radio stations that play oleskool R & B and oldies they advertise clubs that cater to an older crowd. As long as your not still trying to party with kids young enough to be your kids then your cool….party on.
I dont think thats a club thing. to me its like a lot of the people who comment here aint that up on new music. lol
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I just assumed they played his music in the club. I guess I wouldn't know because I'm not there. #contentoldman
2,3,4, and 9 was me even when I was in my 20's at prime club age….lol
I've never really been able to hang out all nite all the time. I could never work all day then hit the streets, club all nite and go back to work the next day, which is why I never really went out much during the work week. And my girlfriend is a nurse and so is my neighbor. Both of them would work, go home shower and change, hit the streets and club and have to go home get and dressed to go right back to work in like an hour or 2. I've also many times wanted to leave early before the club closes to avoid the crowd bum-rush, the club hour traffic, and guys trying to talk to me outside that I didn't want to talk to inside.
I've only had a really horrific hangover like once or twice. But just from the partying all nite and the drinks I do have I'm pooped the next day sometimes and sure do sleep as late as I can. I need to show this post to my bff. We're both in our mid 30's, over 32 and this chick is trying to be a NY Sex In The City chick living in South Philly…..ha ha, it's so funny to me.
I've never really been much of a club person though. Even when I was young I would rather be doing a lot of the stuff typical black folks didn't really want to do like go to museums, poetry sets, and live concerts and sometimes see white bands, and just do other stuff besides club, drink, party and bullsh**. I've always felt like there was so much more to life than that.
Good post J. Number 9 happened to me this past weekend while at a friend's bday party. I asked for a shot of patron and the bartender said that will be $16. I said $16?? WTF??? I know drinks in certain spots in DC are high, but I was like, "Where they do this at?"
Nah $16 is ridiculous in any era, trust me
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You was in Stadium lmao.
Naw fam, not to put the spot on blast, but it was one of those K street spots that begins with a L. Good thing I got there early to partake in some open bar deals. I will say I was very surprise at the party clientele though….
I know EXACTLY where you were and yeah..that's why I've taken to going to lounges in PG County.
Lounges in PG County? Those actually exist?
Sassafras is actually pretty cute.
Whoa! I thought they closed Crossroads, be careful.
I think Crossroads opened back up….They open and close a few times a year….lol
I know what you talking about. Why you think there aren't any Black people there after happy hour? We breeze around the corner to Stan's.
Ah yes Stans! The ultimate pre-game spot! Liquor in one glass, chaser in the other!
Ah Sucke Sucke Now!! lol Stans is definitely the spot! The drinks and wings that have been pumped with steroids but are oh so good! lol
Hmm. I fall into many of these categories. So I must be too old for the club. I think I was starting to suspect that, but thank you for confirming it! Good post.
Yea I have never been a club type dude, even bars. I just hate the idea I have to dress a certain way, to go somewhere. I much rather hit a nice food spot or sushi bar or something where I can rock some sandals and a V-neck rather than worrying if my bow tie is on straight or if I am rocking this years most awesome outfit.
What killed it for me is when I witnessed dudes strategically placing their hands a certain way so if a woman walks by they can cop a feel. DISGUSTING. Most of the people there are NOT single, wishing that the grass is greener on the other side..
With the new social media and people posting pics of drinks and "partying" I really thing it's going to change how people treat not only intimate relationships but even friendships. If am not in the lets go out and buy up VIP to be seen SCENE, then I don't get the phone calls from buds anymore..
I would much rather sit back with some bomb food and drinks and be with my people than hanging out with all these people who think they are a celeb on the red carpet. I love networking but why does it have to happen at 1am? Will always be ratchet to me..
Very true! Well put
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I agree with this though. my best days totally arent behind me, they just won't be spent "in the club" !!!
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I had my club moment. Hot. Loud. Ignorant. Touched by strangers. I'll pass, lol.
I'll do a classy lounge on a off night maybe…on an extremely rare occassion. Othen than that, better days shall be had elsewhere!
"I had my club moment. Hot. Loud. Ignorant. Touched by strangers. I'll pass, lol. "
All. Of. THIS.
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I think every one these is me. lol. I am too old for the club… … …in my own city. But out town/out of the country, I'm any age I want to be! lol.
At 35 I approve of this message.
Now all of the people my age say "I don't do clubs but I do DO lounges and you know…jazz clubs."
Don't forget that over the age 25 if you want to set yourself apart from the youngins you have to attend events that have fliers with "Grown N Sexy" in cursive writing on them (with of course the picture of a model who won't be in attendance).
Oh yes, when you get over 30, you're supposed to go to "Theme Parties" and "Day parties" because that's what grown and sexy people do. So go ahead and splurge for that purple and cream outfit that you'll wear once. Just pose for the pictures, wait 3 days and then return it with the tags still on.
so funny and true. I'm the post up queen. if its not a lounge and I can't sit, I'm posting up. IM TOO DAMN OLD to stand in sky high heels for more than 3 hours. I can admit that. lol
Hilarious. Yeah I'm def too old to the club. I'm probably "too old" to do a lot of things but I keep doing them. I just do them differently. I don't go as hard as I used to the few times I do hit the club. And when I get tired, I leave. Whether that's closing time or 11pm. I'm not trying to shut down anyone's club. Also, I've noticed with age that I've moved closer and closer to the bar in my club-travels. I used to be on the dance floor living it up for 8 hours. Now I'll usually just catch a stool and chill…..for 2 – 4 hours. If I see a cute girl, I approach. If I don't, I enjoy my drinks, music, and vibe then I go home and watch HBO OnDemand and stream Pandora, sometimes at the SameDamnTime.
PS… I think the key is to find someone your speed. At this age, I usually prefer to "take sand to the beach" more often than not. Having a good time with one girl (or group of friends) I'm already cool with at the club > trying to impress 1,000 girls I don't know from a hole in the ground at the club. That's just me tho.
nice comment. agreed. I've always lived by this Jay quote "one that loves to party, but goes home early" I do not shut any club/lounge/mixer down. when I'm ready to go I go.
and I enjoy going out with a guy, always have even when I was younger in my dancing hard days. you two can tease each other on the floor all night then go home and have some more fun lol
*eye brows raised*
Sorry Wis….love u like cooked food but everytime u make a wack azz comment about how your your so old like your an old azz man over 40 I gotz ta come at ya! *smile*
I'm older than you, so if anything I'm the "Olehead." lol
In my defense, you being older than me doesn't necessarily make me young it makes you…….
You know what? Never mind. You have yourself a good weekend.
I'm not feeling too good today but I definitely will….*smile*
"Yeah I'm def too old to the club" roflmba @ this one!
whatever Wis….shut yo not even the big 3-0 yet young azz up!
At 29 I know my party hard days are almost done because if I want to last the whole night/be any good in the morning I have to make sure I break out my “old man cocktail” before I go out. 1. Prilosec, 1. 5 hour energy, 2 extra strength Tylenol.
lmbao @ the "old man cocktail" too funny.
I've seen a lot of people do this at "club age" lol.
I think going to a club isnt an issue so long as your level of comfort. If you LOOK like the old man at the club, maybe you should chill or go to a more age appropriate spot. The spots I like to call "Auntie clubs" because you would definitely see your aunts and uncles getting their respective grooves back while two steppin to "good music".
I definitely am not the party hard every weekend dude anymore, but I still enjoy the club/lounge/house party/bbq scene. Once you stop being comfortable and start looking like a lurk, than it's time to stay home lol
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Actually, at this age, "children's parties" / "house parties" (and bbq) are WHERE IT'S AT. Some of the livest parties I've been to lately are "children's parties" where the kids went to sleep at 8pm. You always know it's gonna be a good time when you show up to Shenquisadfkelifatifa's 3rd B-day Party BUT next to the children's cake and gifts is the island bar bubbling over with liquor bottles.
if you don't have kids or godkids wth are u doin at kids parties??????
Ok ok…..I guess u got mad neices and/or nephews….my bad….lol
lol @ "Auntie clubs" man yall are killin me with these little phrases. lol
I'm definitely too old for the club – and even lounges have to be event driven for me or I'm taking someone out who's in town visiting. Also the fact that I don't drink anymore is more of a deterrent. The past couple of times I went to a "spot" I literally stayed for 1 1/2 – 2 hours.
The older I get the more I just go to bars and places that have straight live music. The only time I'll go to a club is if its a mixed crowd. Like it or not, mostly white crowds party somewhat differently. I haven't been out once and NOT seen someone's almost grandparents out enjoying themselves
I dig the bar thing. I actually started going to little neighborhood spots and found the atmosphere as well as the people are more fun to be around than the bougie mixer crowd.
i like to dance. i hate clubs. even when i was younger i had this issue. lol.
i'm def the one that looks at these young girls wearing skittles and twix dresses or dresses with more skin than material and just shake my head. my little sisters are going through the club all weekend and sometimes on thursday phase. glad that's in my past. lol
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I remember when "club time" started on Wednesday. Now my old ass is like "are we going Friday OR Saturday?" …. I'm def not clubbing half the week and all weekend anymore. Old WIM is not about that life.
lmbao again at "Old WIM" please stop Wis….. ha ha
I don't think I'll ever be too old to the club. I've always been too cool for the club though.
I do think you get to a point where you're too old to be in the club just like, for no reason. Like, "let's go clubbing." Yeah. You're too old for that after 25.
Only time I go to the club is if a friend is having a birthday party or something along those lines. Gotta have a section and some seating or else I'm not going.
I can't imagine going to the club for clubs sake though.
Unless I'm in Vegas. Going to the club in Vegas is 100% acceptable.
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why r only Vegas clubs acceptable Most? Because "what happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas" *wink*
The Vegas part >>> * 100000 and overseas too!
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#5 that is ALL. The girls always look EXTRA thirsty nowadays. SMH I can't anymore…
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waht happened to the mixes?
I can't be at the club. I don't even know how I used to go, or why anyone does. It's scary. What you gon do if there's a fire & you're in the middle of the dance floor? Dangerous as sh*t! That many people in a room should be illegal. And then the likelihood of the place you're at getting shot up is 10x normal. It just doesn't make any sense to me now. Rather hang out in open areas & with fewer bodies :
That pretty much sums up my clubbing life *runs to the corner and starts bawling his eyes out*
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This will probably be the 2nd time I will be commenting in over 2 years . I have not read posts for the past 2 days, only comments. I don't know whose idea it was to break up the posts but 11 page clicks is excessive for one article.
I give SBM at least 2 visits daily. If I am put off,others are too.
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Clubbing is fun but there is more to life than clubbing. People should make time for the things that matter more, like time for managing your investments!
Man, I'm bored as f*ck in the club and think everything up in there is stupid. That's how I know I'm "too old" for the club.
Nobody is EVER too old to party. Just party with the crowd your age. I'm a big kid. Quite frankly, when I'm 50 years old, if I still have all my hair I may just grow dreadlocks! And I will still watch cartoons, play video games, go to the beach and check out the ladies, and party all night until I freakin die. Oh, and I am educated with a 6-fig job, but I still like to have fun. And so does my wife. And once our kids are grown out the house, we will party more and more. And after we both retire, we will travel the world with our other married couple retired friends, and we will drink and smoke cigars and party and see the sites of the world. Have fun until you die folks. Don't be thinking "I'm too old for this or that". You only live once!
"You can’t remember nothing from the night the next day."
A double negative, in this day and age, really……………….
"You can't remember anything"
That also applies to us 40 something women and still single… Club is no place to hang no more less people start talking about you as a cougar.