Rihanna sat down with Oprah to open up about different aspects of her life, including her relationship with Chris Brown. She spoke on the domestic violence incident, her current feelings towards Chris, and the current status of their relationship. To check the entire Rihanna interview with Oprah, click on the link below:
I didn’t catch the interview at real time, but I saw the commentary on social media in reagrds to her perspective that she articulated to Oprah. Of course everyone has an opinion, and many people expressed disgust, disappointment, and distress at some of her comments. I wanted to highlight a few quotes from the interview that particularly angered some (props to the homie Somya on the quote aggregation).
“We’ve been working on our friendship again. Now we’re very, very close friends. We built a trust again. We love each other and probably always will… I’m single but we’ve maintained a very close friendship”-On her current relationship with Chris.
The reaction I monitored from the social media community was outrage. How can you be friends with a man who beat your ass? Why would you even consider a friendship with him? She has to be damaged in some way right? I don’t think this is the case. Throughout life, we have been wronged by friends, family, and associates. Whether they hurt us physically or emotionally, they betrayed our trust and did us wrong. Think about the dude that bullied kids, and years later bully-er and bully-ee become friends. Think about that ex who cheated on you and embarrassed you in front of friends and family. Some people can consider that a phase in life and can look past it to salvage a previous relationship. This is what Robyn is doing here. She obviously values the friendship they had prior to the altercation, and we don’t know the extent of their relationship, so why judge?
“It’s awkward. It’s awkward because I still love him…My stomach drops and I have to maintain this poker face and not let it get to the outer part of me. I have to maintain that and suppress it”-on having funny feelings when she still sees Chris Brown (as recent as this summer in St. Tropez)
“Absolutely. I think he was the love of my life. He was the first love. I see that he loved me the same way. We were very young and very spontaneous. We ran free; we ran wild. We were falling in love and going at a really rapid pace that we forgot about ourselves”-Rihanna reveals that Chris Brown was a true love of her life.
Some people couldn’t understand how she could still love a man who domestically abused her. They feel that “something is wrong with her” for still loving Chris. I applaud and commend her for keeping it real. How many times do we deny our true feelings in love and in general? We will claim we have 0% love for an ex, but still feel the heart palpitations and uneasiness when we see them on Facebook or at an event with mutual acquaintances. We will have an immediate emotional reaction when we see them with someone new, whether the relationship ended 5 days or 5 years ago. It may be minor or major, but it will be there. It’s normal to feel this way when you were involved in a serious relationship. It’s also normal to carry feelings of bitterness or anger for an ex when you were treated wrong in any way. To me, it’s more therapeutic to acknowledge those feelings, be real, and address them accordingly. It doesn’t make her damaged to me, it makes her human. My dude @RaeHolliday Summed up my feelings on Rihanna’s words perfectly:
We are quick to judge people who do certain things in their relationships or former relationships. We will say what they should do, but fail to remember that we might not have fared any better in similar circumstances. We have beliefs on forgiveness yet chastise others for forgiving. It’s human nature to forgive and to criticize one in the same. I don’t fault anyone for following their feelings, but I do commend them for recognizing how they feel, not fronting, and hopefully addressing them.
What’s your thoughts SBMNation?